Bridesmaid Gets Emotional Over Dress Outside Of Her Budget | Say Yes To The Dress: Bridesmaids

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Bride Jenna is looking for the perfect country vintage lace dress for her bridesmaids, but what happens when her dream dress is over their $200 budget?
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[@heula1]

Why didn’t the bride step up and help cough up the money if it was her “dream dress”?

[@wheresbaby7783]

The next dress was way better.i think they scripted it girk

[@jennydrumm7223]

I thought it was really disrespectful and thoughtless of the bride to say, "let's just let them try it on without telling them the price". She KNEW Lisa was tight on a budget; not that Lisa didn't WANT to pay more for a dress, she literally COULDN'T pay more! If you don't have the money you don't have the money; you can't just conjure up more anytime you want!

[@jerriecook6908]

At the very least she should have spoken with her BFF and told her she would pay the difference.

[@jennydrumm7223]

@@jerriecook6908 I was mainly irritated by the flippant and laughing way she said it, like she'd trick them into liking something they couldn't afford and then Lisa would feel even more pressured to come up with the money from... somewhere.

[@Ladythyme]

Good for the Bride’s “best friend” sticking to her budget as much as possible. And the one that wanted the higher priced dress because price didn’t matter to her, should pay the difference for the one who couldn’t or the bride should…. And it wasn’t a matter of “not wanting” to pay that much. It was a matter of “not being able to”. ….SOME people just don’t get it.

[@jennifermassie7227]

Exactly!!❤🇨🇦❤🇨🇦❤

[@mariesmith1616]

💯

[@xxxx-qo9dh]

If that is really her ‘best friend’ she should pay for the dress. This bride is not a ‘friend’.

[@mariesmith1616]

At least, the bride came to her senses and didn’t push for her dream $300+ dress. Ridiculous that she didn’t offer to pay for them on a dress that nobody even notice what the bridesmaids are wearing on the wedding

[@Metonymy1979]

I believe that brides should pay for their brides maids everything. Its your wedding, you pay. Especially if its not the 1st wedding

[@Birdie.922]

That’s what I did

[@jacquelineredstone4487]

I COMPLETELY agree with you!

[@deseraecannon-mcdonald7630]

Did you miss that she said she got married in a courthouse wearing a sweatshirt so technically she did not have an actual wedding.

[@samiestewart6109]

I totally agree with you. Why should the bridesmaids be expected to pay.

[@Birdie.922]

It is conventional for the bridesmaids to buy their dresses. I was different. I’m not condemning anyone

[@Loop12345]

It’s so disrespectful to bridesmaid expecting her to pay for some part of another person wedding!!

[@Nero_Jero]

I hate how it's the norm in the US

[@jenniferscott375]

Agreed. I don't understand the tradition.

[@MsJubjubbird]

I think if the bride picks the dress, especially if it's anything over off the rack non-designer prices, she has to pay- even if it's a substitute for the bride's gift to her maids. Because the bridesmaids may not have any further use for it, especially if they don't like it. If the bridesmaids get to pick their own dresses - either one dress as a group or on their own within a set of parameters, then they can possibly discuss other options because they will pick something affordable and that they will want to wear again.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

I don’t think it is as if you are a friend then you can help the bride out, especially if she is right on budget.

[@MurderOfSuburbia]

@@MsJubjubbird Exactly. I paid for my Bridesmaid dress, but it was my choice of dress. The only parameters were blue and short. I found a gorgeous one at a thrift store for like $80. I have worn it multiple times to different occasions.

[@jessiejoseph1093]

The bride should have been willing to kick in the difference. Why didn't they talk about chipping in to help?

[@duhhuh58]

When my oldest got married she went to the local David's Bridal and chose the color. She told the bridesmaids (they were scattered) that they had to go to David's to get their dress. They could choose what dress they wanted as long as it came from David's, was the color she choose and floor length. That way they could pick out what they thought would look best on them and in the price range they could afford. They all looked great, the dresses were burgundy and the maid of honor work a beige belt on hers

[@leiaclark8388]

The family in the second wedding was so sweet. They didn’t care for the dress the bride picked, but they smiled and wore it to make her day special. Good on them!

[@MsJubjubbird]

Yup. Those sleeves were ugly, as were the riffles on the neckline of her dress, but the people were so nice

[@Mrs.WyldRice]

Hahaha!! “Yup. Those sleeves were ugly” 😂

[@joane5777]

I've been in many 1980's and 90's weddings and those dresses weren't my taste. But the brides chose them and it was an honor just to stand beside her on her day...

[@gnomecrusher8124]

Nobody could cough up $100 to cover the difference and help the best friend out? The wedding party could even do $20 each as a group. This whole dilemma is just silly

[@4legs4paws55]

Yeah they seemed pretty trashy to me … just pay the price difference it the bride loves the dress so much this should have been a no brainer …

[@dawnboyd1784]

If she knows how hard it is to stay on a budget then she should just pay for it.

[@xxxx-qo9dh]

She should pay for all of them, period!

[@nancysmith4529]

I’m so happy they put friendship over getting the more expensive dress. The chiffon dress in navy was just as beautiful.❤

[@ShelKim1991]

It is my belief that if you are asking people to stand up with you at your wedding, you should be paying for their dress/tuxedo rental. If you can't afford it, then reduce the number of people in your wedding party.

[@ColleenJoudrey]

My bridesmaids were comfortable spending $75 on their dress exluding alteration costs so we agreed that if the dresses were going to be over that cost, I'd cover the remainder. I have also stood for 3 other weddings where I ended up having to spend $350+ on a dress and choking back tears while leaving the store because my fridge and gas tank were going to be empty for awhile.

[@JodiLeaSnakeQueen]

There's no way I'd ask for my bridesmaids to pay that much for a dang dress; and on the other hand, I'd rather decline being in the wedding (or somehow ask for a cheaper dress) than go broke and without. Sorry but I'm poverty poor and have kids now, but even before I had them there's no way I was gonna be going without to pay for a dress I'm only going to wear that once, especially if it was over say $150. When I got married I did find a dress that was $99, and all my girls was fine with that. We spoke about a budget and even if they wanted to pay more, I wouldn't of made them. Bc that's disrespectful af. And one of my girls wasn't able to pay all at once so I helped. It was the least I could do.

[@xxxx-qo9dh]

Kf you want bridesmaids, YOU should pay for their dresses! It’s not very friendly to have them pay for a dress you force them to wear.

[@joywebster2678]

I stepped out of my younger sisters wedding party at the bridal shoppe. We had no selection to chance to pick. She had chosen from a fashion magazine and took us to a shoppe that had these ugly black stewardess suits, with a white neck ruffle . Anything over a size 10 was plus sized and cost 100.00 extra. So I was thinking ok I can swing 200 for this ugly thing. Nooooo, base price without the extra fee and alterations was 500.00 bucks. Crappy fabric, and looked like an old fashioned steward3ss pencil skirt and jacket. Then she announced everyone needed to buy mstching designer shoes. I asked any room to negotiate? Nope! All her still in university friends had zero problems spending that much, so I excused myself. Tons of laughing at the outfits at the wedding, quietly of course, comments about offering cups of coffee for your flight etc. So my older sisters had roles doing readings etc. They sat at a special table, I was put for punishment with everyone's grandparents at a table. Final fact, in my wedding years before she refused my choice of dress colors, and my mother paid for the dress. So i had a colour not of my choice, and she made sure to tell evryonexat my wedding she'd never wear the dress again. SO why not wear the colourci chose for my wedding since it was free to her! Ugh.

[@glancycorner7425]

I’m glad that bride (and her sister!) took the bestie’s budget into concern . 🥰

[@michellemeyer1649]

I’m so on the fence with this. I have been a bridesmaid and by the time your done with shower gifts, bachelorette parties, engagement parties and the actual wedding……it’s a lot of money. I’m actually getting married soon and the only person I’m having stand up is my sister. In the end it’s just so much money.

[@yerintaem]

Horrible to make your bridesmaids pay for their bridesmaids dresses for the purpose of YOUR wedding. Horrible

[@mintamilvain2266]

That is the norm in the U.S. The lack of respect for the bridesmaid's budget is a real issue, however.

[@SomewhereInTheMaidenverse]

Bride should at least pay half.

[@samiestewart6109]

If it’s the brides perfect dress then let her pay for them.

[@4legs4paws55]

At least for the price difference if she wanted that dress pay the price difference - minimum

[@janetdepiazzi1833]

Many bridesmaids now wear different styles of dresses with a theme / colour scheme in common so they can have something that suits them and is affordable.

[@elizabethkoltun7354]

Yes, why not at least help pay some of the price of the dress

[@jessicahites871]

Love the comment "the dress seems insignificant compared to having my best friend there beside me"

[@AngelElovesJakeE]

Not just the difference in paying rent, but paying for her baby to eat smh I think the bride and her sister should pay for it since that's how they feel. That poor young lady needs better friends smh ❤

[@robertameredith1190]

FYI - in many countries the parents of the bride purchase the bridesmaid dresses. My daughter has been a bridesmaid in both Scotland and Australia. These were not destination weddings but the home of each bride. In both of these weddings not only was the dress purchased but also shoes and hair. When my sister was married my mother paid for the bridesmaid dresses. (We live in the US.) I believe part of being a bride is to respect those you have invited to be a part of the wedding party. When I god. Arrived I asked each of my bridesmaid to wear a short teal dress. Though I did not pay for it, each of the friends could pick something that they loved and could wear again. My maid-of-honor was a single mom that financially struggled. I did pay for her dress.

[@rivertam7827]

In my country the couple pays for the bridesmaid's dresses (and hair and makeup) and groomsmen's suits, it seems so rude to demand people spend hundreds of dollars to be in your wedding.

[@karenrubenmoss9307]

Is this an actual "thing" in America where the bridesmaids are expected to pay for their own dresses?! That's just taking the piss!

[@eleanorwilliams7771]

It's nice to see a bride willing to put her friend over dress rather than pushing her friend to purchase a dress she couldn't afford.

[@callananddahlia]

Why brides don’t pay for their bridesmaid dresses? I did that! How could you expect your bridesmaid to pay for themselves when they are “helping” you?!

[@xxxx-qo9dh]

Why do they have to pay for their own dress? That’s ridiculous and if I had to pay for my own dress when they know I’m already struggling to make ends meet, I would NOT buy a new dress but wear something I already have or go to a thrift shop.

[@jerrykeenan1848]

Watch the movie "28 DRESSES" LOL Some people can't afford to spend ALL that money on ONE day for less than 8 hours. Glad it ALL worked out.

[@SharonHF]

When I was a bridemaid for my BFF I was thankful she didn’t even think of asking me to pay, I was living 7 zones away in Israel from the NYC area. My plane ticket alone was nearly $1,500 roundtrip. The dress ended up too big despite me having a friend measure me, but the shop had one they were able to size down (turned out it was the shop’s error, my measurements were correct and we’d given more body parts then needed 😅) but the bust had to be sewn up so my chest wasn’t on display for the ceremony (I’m wearing it in my KZbin pic)

[@sooticablue1664]

Wow… second wedding and you want a single mom to pay for her own dress? That’s outrageous! I was a student working part time when I got married and I saved up and paid for my bridesmaids dresses… they were MY bridesmaids. Can’t believe ANYONE would expect a single mother of a 2 year old who is struggling for cash to pay for her own dress. Ridiculous!

[@ddwro1]

its not a best friend if she expects her to spend money she doesn't have

[@jerrykeenan1848]

WHAT actually makes those dresses very expensive for one day. I get expensive for dresses that you are going to wear over and over.

[@mcrchickenluvr]

If you’re on a tight budget, hit the clearance racks. Seriously. I found the dress that I wore as a bridesmaid at Dillard’s. I paid $45 for it. Also, if a bride isn’t willing to take into consideration what her bridesmaids can do financially, then maybe she needs to check herself. At least with my friend Shannon she told us maids what the colors were. She said to get what’s comfortable to wear and purchase.

[@whirledpeas5717]

Maybe I'm snarky today - i dont see this marriage of hers lasting either. She's OK putting her bestfriend on the spot about a known too expensive dress and THEN relents and backs off. The bride is ok with emotionally messing with people for her pleasure. Not a good trait for a good marriage.

[@Emdee1234]

Ppl getting married should understand that others are taking time out- that has a cost too , helping you with chores, being there for emotional support, paying for surprises parties , paying for their transport and stays ( sometimes ) and then they give gifts too ....Come on now you want them to pay for your dress of choice too ?? Too much expectation for a ceremony ? Do the guests get back the money and gifts if the marriage doesn't work ?

[@barbaracook7142]

Thought ALL of how this was dealt with was Awful. Why on Earth did the assistant take it upon himself to go wayy over budget and laugh about it ? NOT Nice, and NOT professional. Also, for such an important friendship,and delicate situation the bride should have discreetly spoken to her best friend on their own and promised that if the dress went over what she could manage,whether £100/150 or £200 SHE would discreetly make up the difference! Not nice either how the other bridesmaid said she could afford to pay in a way that showed up the friend that couldnt afford to. NOT nice traits in the women ,enabled by the assistant. Thank goodness the bride saw sense😮

[@maryolmstead3183]

If I didn't have the budget to pay for my dress, I'd respectfully decline to be in the wedding.

[@mariesmith1616]

The bridesmaid was doing an effort to be with her best friend within an agreed budget of $150 to $200 Max….if the bride or the other girl want to go over $300, either one should pay the difference

[@MsJubjubbird]

she had a budget for a dress, and a reasonable one at that. Just that her friend decided she wanted them all to buy a dress at an upper end boutique where the prices are already high, which is not necessary. Better to have your friend with you than a lace dress that will be worn once.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

My former friend paid for my bridesmaids dress along with the 3 other dresses for the other bridesmaids dresses too. But each only cost $55 as she got it for wholesale price. The dresses were beautiful too. My former friend choose it and I loved it.

[@Ladythyme]

Why not have each one get a similar style dress in the same color in their price range….why do they have to match? I’m thinking having those in your wedding who have positively impacted your life is more important than a special kind of dress…and if someone is important to you, you shouldn’t put them in an awkward financial position…after all it’s a couple of hours in one day in a lifetime they will be wearing it…. A day later no one will remember even what they had on…except MAYBE you

[@debrazawlocki3975]

That bride needs to buy her friend's gown for her.

[@wendyh2708]

If the first dress was what she wanted, the bride could have offered to pay the difference.

[@beccac6451]

When I got married, I bought my sisters Maid of honor dress and when she got married, she bought my maid of honor dress. I am glad the 1st bride took her bf's situation to heart and settled on a cheaper dress. That was a good friend. I would never expect someone to pay more for a dress then they could afford. Especially a single mom. Because then I would feel like I was taking food away from that baby's mouth.

[@nancymckinley3068]

Bridesmaid’s dresses are a waste of money. There, I said it.

[@seriliaykilel]

OMG! So freaking pleasantly surprised by a bride who GETS IT! Priorities are making memories with your families and friends, NOT blowing the budget and forcing horrible decisions on people you love. HURRAY!

[@debrazawlocki3975]

Those blue bridesmaids dresses are lovely!

[@tammymcceig6518]

Bride needs to cover the difference in the cost.

[@bjcollins7871]

Absolutely love Brandon!

[@Peaceloveandvanda]

You're asking them to be in your wedding... you pay for them... what is this?

[@ginny3219]

Why couldn't everyone else chip in $25 ?

[@dking1362]

Not to be rude, but the reason her first wedding was not "ideal" was due to her own choices. It doesn't "entitle" the bride to have everything she ever wanted or "perfection" at a second wedding - none of us are entitled to everything we want! People matter more...

[@Zaddyslove09]

I was my best friends maid of honor at her wedding 16 years ago. She had 5 girls standing for her. Her colors were blue and purple. I told her i was honored to be her maid of honor, and since i was more financially stable back then, i told her i had a budget of 500.00 to spend on a bridesmaids dress. It was super easy finding dresses for the other girls. They were on the tall side and here i was, 5ft 3 in and chubby. Lol. The other girls found their dresses at the store Debs in the prom section. The dresses are extremely pretty. Sorta like a plum color. However it was harder for me because with being the maid of honor she wanted my dress to be lavender. So with only 5 months before her wedding, i lucked out. We ended up at a second hand store in our hometown. I found a dress there. It was a lavender floor length tube style dress. And it was only 86.00. I actually loved that dress, which is funny became i hate the color purple. Lol.

[@MsLilacLover1]

Totally uncool for the Shop worker to pull out a dress thats too pricey. Plus, its not the brides dream dress. Im sure she has that already

[@SayYestotheDress]

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[@leahclo4857]

Time to head to the mall. Let's be real.

[@absatwell8163]

My daughter is not from a big Italian family and she’s been in 7 weddings this summer at 23. Blood doesn’t necessarily mean family. 🤗

[@queensheem3337]

I feel that everyone should’ve discussed this before the episode. Everyone could’ve gave 20 dollars to help her it’s more than 5 people there. Don’t put Lisa on the spot

[@lefty72486]

I think the bridesmaid dresses at the end look better on them instead of the hanger. My sisters were the same way

[@specialsasha6506]

Is it even necessary to have bridesmaid ?? I mean let them dress in whatever they want to … comfortable.

[@StefWriter]

Second wedding at only 25. Wow.

[@nicamanika10]

It should be the bride paying for the dress, we asked our bridemaids to be in our wedding as a favor so we should be the one taking care of everything, unless we give them an exact color of the motiff, and they buy on their own dress, under their budget but their style.

[@ratsandbats]

idk man, ik it’s a whole other conversation whether brides should pay for bridesmaids outfits but for me, IF my bridesmaids were expected to pay themselves, but my childhood best friend couldn’t afford the commonly loved dress, i’d just buy it for her or pay the extra. To make it simple, I do feel like the bride should pay for the dresses, especially when they typically choose the style / colour etc. I couldn’t imagine spending £200+ on a dress I absolutely hated & that I’d never wear again just because my friend asked me to be a bridesmaid, im not sorry.

[@joywebster2678]

25, 2 kids already divorced and ready to remarry with a big wedding!

[@janrossetti3571]

What a super nice bride and super bridesmaids

[@resi3794]

Great bride who takes her frendship more worth then a dress

[@kwest5171]

Shame on her for asking someone to be a maid and not be respectful of the budget.

[@KTKaute]

I don't understand theses brides who don't want price to be an issue. If it isn't for them, then why can't they pay the difference? The other thing I don't get is bridesmaids paying for their own dresses. I thought that was apart of wedding costs? That's why you don't have a million bridesmaids....

[@rosallumetta2864]

This is old video….she’s probably already divorced!

[@mariesmith1616]

Most likely if by 25 she was already divorced with 2 kids 😮

[@mariesmith1616]

Yes and with more kids.

[@ddwro1]

I think its selfish of anyone to expect a bride made to have to choose between taking care of her kid and a dress. selfis

[@Mrs.Frankenstein]

Its selfish for the bride to be that way

[@korallynnchinn8679]

Thank God for Azazie that's what I used for dresses

[@BelieverofChrist-d1b]

BRIDES SHOULD PAY FOR THEIR DRESSES.

[@jb6712]

Bridesmaids dresses are ugly as a standard. As such, they should be as cheap as Walmart clothes. Haven't seen one single "special" dress worth more than $80, ever. I paid for the dresses my two bridesmaids wore, and they were only $25 each (1973), and the girls were able to wear them for a few years after. The ugly stuff on the market now means a lot of wasted money on flimsly fabric and "styles" that aren't able to be worn past the wedding.

[@s.s2510.]

Thank God in my tradition there is no such thing as bridesmaid, just wear your best dress is all the requirement but unfortunately this concept is entering slowly on a low low, still nothing major

[@Peaceloveandvanda]

Why doesn't the bride pay for the dresses? I don't understand, they're cheap, right?

[@pawprintz7166]

Can't you rent dresses there?

[@dking1362]

I have seen it online, but actually never in a bridal/formalwear shop. (I don't know why - sure makes sense!)

[@wintersanctuary]

If I were a bridesmaid…I’d be out. So disrespectful and mean😮

[@MarlaJMatney]

2nd marriage; just go to the court house and get married

[@deathqueen2619]

Amazon people, amazon 😂

[@christinagermaine6261]

At least help out those who can't afford it.

[@Rubylove48]

I thought the brides paid for the bridesmaids dresses? I’m not American so I’m confused...

[@dking1362]

In America, it is standard for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses. I do think it is changing, though, as more brides are open to other options.

[@Rubylove48]

Okay thanks for replying. After I made the comment I read the other comments and see it’s diverse even in America, but I didn’t realise the tradition was to pay for your own dress as a bridesmaid. Thx@@dking1362

[@tdelphia1]

Boy

[@jimrebr]

I think the tradition of Bridesmaids paying for their own dresses is tacky and old fashioned. Brides should pay or help pay for those dresses. I remember that I paid for my bridesmaids dresses and for dresses for my mom & sisters and that was back in the 70’s.

[@dsanchez0913]

If you agree to be in a wedding, you agree to pay for the dress.

[@mammymountain2057]

Don't be a bridesmaids 😊 clearly you can't afford any of it and the bride friendship to you clearly has a budget you can't afford and she refused to pay. 😂😂😂😂 fake friends.

[@kakashisensei-q4r]

Exactly 💯

[@judith3344]

Or, don‘t be a bridesmaid if the bride is so selfish and doesn‘t think about the ‚friend‘ who she knows hasn‘t much money. If the bride would be a good friend she should pay if she want a expensive dress for her bridesmaid…

[@nikitatrisha1616]

Or don't be a bridesmaid to someone who calls themselves your friend but doesn't understand and empathize with your budget. Not everyone can afford an expensive dress.

[@sariahrivera1253]

The bride deliberately said don’t tell them the price of it knowing one of them was not able to. If she truly wanted her friend to be apart of the day knowing her financial situation she should either figure out a way around for her dream wedding or just own up to being a shitty friend and ask her to step down😊

[@willenedsouza7474]

It's very weird dat u guys tk ur inlaws along too for d bridal gown shopin n it's also weird whn ul mk d bridesmaids pay for their own dresses...in our wedins...v pay for d bridesmaid dresses no matter how mny dey r

[@dking1362]

Including in-laws is a nice way to help give everyone the sense of being part of the same family.

[@girlfriday1608]

8-months pregnant before you got married at the first marriage. Sounds like nothing is sacred anymore

[@sariahrivera1253]

Why? Because she got pregnant out of wedlock? Who cares🤷🏼‍♀️

[@jessiejoseph1093]

judgy much? I am more offended she did not offer to pay the difference for her bridesmaid.

[@mariesmith1616]

The worst is that she was ashamed of getting married in a sweater and kakis 😮

[@irishphilly]

Well, Holy Tamoly, Batgirl. How many judges you fit in your britches today? Lest ye be judged alone, I'll join you, 'k?: a) 8 months pregnant = She kept the baby. Does that score 1 point?; b) Pregnancy is not spontaneous combustion = takes 2 to make 1 sacred. Not sure the sacred score. 3) I'm more aware so few lessons learned in 2 altar trips. Hiding a dress price tag, no intention to help pay = pre-meditated on purpose entrapment? Mmm, pitiful. I'll skip on, hop to: Bridesmaids dresses are the devil's workshop. Would anyone choose, wear, +/or pay $300 for that same frock if it wasn't a wedding shoppe til ya drop? Does it spark joy? Or is it destined for a future Halloween?

[@mcrchickenluvr]

Does it affect you in any way? Not likely. So what’s with the shit judgement?

[@Legittoquit1]

Vote for the blue candidate