Bridesmaids: Annie and Your Inner Addict

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[@barrymoton1]

This was so brilliant. I have always loved Bridesmaids and felt inexplicably connected to the movie. Watching this movie, the "why" is glaringly obvious. The Take just read me for filth.

[@ms.rstake_1211]

@@barrymoton1 I believe you're a man so your comment is extra moving (to me). Sorry if it seems sexist but that's just how I feel.

[@MorganePoney]

Hey The Take ! Thanks for the videos, they are always so interesting!!! I would love to see an analysis of the characters in Gilmore Girls, especially the family relationships, which I think are extremely toxic and interesting at the same time :)

[@lilliangraham9850]

the power and control of being drunk

[@mollymac4215]

I love how your channel tackles films that are too 'girly' or 'trivial' for other film commentary channels. Big fan.

[@trinaq]

I agree, this channel doesn't judge or look down on those for loving chick films, and points out the incredibly insightful messages that you may have missed at first glance. 😻

[@rishaa682]

its not trivial, its a cult classic!

[@martijnprinzen7124]

Agreed. I don't know whether other channels do that or not, but if they are ignoring them because it's trivial or girly, they are not very good analysts. Bridesmaids is a really funny and well written comedy and I think a good comedy tells more about Western life than an action or suspense movie. Superbad falls in that category as well. Others might think Superbad is stupid, but it captures teenage life perfectly. Would love to see the Take's take on that as well.

[@lochofmceo]

Bridesmaids is a big crossover hit

[@embadge]

Exactly! Hit the nail on the headddd. Love this channel sooo so much 💖

[@btrixlestrange]

"You're your problem Annie, you're also your solution" 😭

[@trinaq]

No truer, more profound words were ever spoken. All Hail Megan, the Queen who tells it as it is, and suffers no fools!👑

[@joey1723]

I was 14 and severely depressed when I saw this film at the cinema (my mother took me to cheer me up, sneaking me in as it was rated 15+ haha) and when Megan spoke that line my mother turned to me. It made such a powerful impression on me.

[@brettkimura]

We NEED a friend like Megan in our lives. AMEN!

[@poohcanplay123]

Joeyta Dutta that’s so sweet 😭🌹

[@judeannethecandorchannel2153]

😪😔😪😥😔😪😔

[@Hallows4]

"When we hit our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change." - Avatar Aang.

[@lesliejuarez1832]

Anyone who can quote avater has respect from me

[@Hallows4]

😊

[@Kareragirl]

Greatest series of all time

[@iankincaid1216]

Uncle Iroh but close enough!!!! Love that show

[@Hallows4]

@@iankincaid1216 I was quoting "Endgame", the last episode of Korra, Book 1. The scene where Aang's spirit appears to Korra and restores her bending.

[@lukas4112]

I never knew I, a teenage boy, had so much in common with a middle age woman

[@JulianneHannes]

Middle age?! Her character is 35

[@samsong24]

@@JulianneHannes That's pretty much middle age for most of us...There's nothing wrong with that .

[@maicajapanmoments]

S M lol true

[@emcgrew2]

@@JulianneHannes you get the average human lifespan is 70something right 🤣

[@SweetJeopardy]

She may be middle aged but it's been made very clear that her eggs are wet. 😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@redortiz5731]

"Her addiction to self punishment will not be satisfied until it swallows up everything good." That part really got me.

[@user36able]

Your analysis of Annie’s reluctance to bake hurt me a lot, because I also have hobbies that I neglect when I’m feeling bad about myself, even though they just - make me feel happy. It’s like I make up all these excuses in my head to avoid them because for some reason I feel undeserving of joy. The biggest one is you’re not even that good at that, why do it? I don’t know if anyone else needs to hear this - and I’m still figuring this out myself - but if it’s something that you’re doing for your own enjoyment then you don’t need to be « good » at the thing to justify doing the thing. Make a scarf full of holes, draw stick figures, write the story that makes you cringe, dance like a penguin having a seizure - whatever. You are worthy of joy and happiness.

[@mikeyjamieson4715]

Very true! Whenever one falls into depression or generally feels down about themselves, one of the coping mechanisms is stimulating your creativity, whether it be writing, dancing, drawing, etc. And in Annie's case, baking. Stimulating ourselves creatively with the thing that we love to do the most reminds us that we do have self-worth, and we are good at what we do. However, because Annie is addicted to feeling bad about herself she doesn't want to admit that she clearly has talent. So when she bakes her carrot cake after her therapy session with Megan, it's clear that she's beginning to remember that she has self worth.

[@alma.libera5254]

Thank you.

[@5ananyaaditya93]

Thank you so much. That's all I can say

[@Sarkamslot]

Man I didn't know how badly I needed to hear this... thank you so very much

[@songbird6414]

I’m going through a bout of depression rn, but it’s the kind of thing that I feel incredibly bored but I have no motivation to do anything else. I got a fantastic concept for a story the other day, and I’ve been struggling with starting it. Thanks for the little kick I needed😜

[@throwawayaccount6130]

Who else is addicted to feeling bad about themselves? 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@trinaq]

Same here, although I'm currently taking the 12 step programme to gradually free myself of my addiction!💗

[@metromobile1236]

Same and main protag and I have same name so it hits a lil too close to home.

[@ghostly7139]

I used to do that but therapy helpssss

[@TheLeah2344]

I am

[@LibbyLou123444]

It’s too true. Back when I was sick I couldn’t picture myself healthy or not toxic towards myself. Being any other way scared me.

[@ChrisBrooks34]

I just unapologetically love The Take formerly known as ScreenPrism.

[@verenamarie9210]

I was legit trying to remember there old name, I'd forgotten it lol

[@Vent69420]

screenprism bullshit evolved into this quality chanell?

[@TheGeorgeD13]

@@Vent69420 Screenprism was always good, though. At least on youtube, I don't know where else it's been on the internets.

[@funkyfranx]

@@Vent69420 Their old content is great, what are you talking about? They only changed their name, not anything else

[@TSXIO]

I’m glad Megan got some recognition for being such an amazing character. However I think she still deserves an entire video on why she is the friend we all need. 💛

[@Shadow-zf5uc]

Yes, yes, yes, a million times yes

[@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254]

Or maybe how she manages to succeed in the world that rewards the Helens and sets up the Annies of the world to feel like s***. A woman who doesn't fit the standards for femininity but manages to succeed on her own merits

[@queenemma5823]

Yes please! Megan is such an inspiration

[@SW23252]

@@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254 , yes! Yes, that would be a *perfect* topic to cover for Megan's character.

[@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254]

@@SW23252 Yeah! Maybe even that one doesn't have to be a successful as Megan to be successful but that they managed to achieve a great sense of accomplishment and peace about who they are. We always seem to get a lot of rom-com heroines who seem to consider themselves ugly or fat when they're not, but Meghan McCarthy's characters can manage to look their absolute worst you know but they managed to get the guy and have lots of adventures.

[@jomcueto980]

Never watched Bridesmaids. But reading "The Perks of Rock Bottom" made me click so fast.

[@trinaq]

I'd definitely recommend checking it out, for laughs, female friendships and Melissa McCarthy's scene stealing supporting turn!😆

[@AV-ph1ek]

You should watch, it's one of the best movie ever made. I mean it. It actually is one of the funniest movies ever, though now I see it has a lot of deeper meaning as well.

[@edurittenhouse]

Do watch it.

[@batgurrl]

Jom Cueto there are certain scenes that are literally laugh out loud funny. The rest of it is top notch ‘chick flick’. I recommend it for anyone

[@R0291-l1l]

I feel you

[@caseyw.6550]

PLEASE do not wait to hit "rock bottom" to get help because rock bottom just continuously gets deeper and deeper until you are dead or in jail.

[@happyalways6100]

Casey W. That is true

[@ValerieBleak]

EXACTLY! In the program, people constantly say that you don't have to hit rock bottom in order to change and recover.

[@caseyw.6550]

@@ValerieBleak Exactly....as an addict, I had MANY "rock bottoms". Find your will to live, not your rock bottom.

[@khongmaithikhog5624]

@@caseyw.6550 whitney houston for example

[@swarnangidash9848]

Exactly. One doesn't necessarily have to reach the rock bottom to improve in life. The moment we have the realisation that things need to change, we need to start improving from that point onwards.

[@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254]

I love Annie's Mom and the Helen video got me thinking "Helen probably doesn't have any parents who tell her not to look at 'Failures' as that but as a means to learn from experience and grow." Also Annie mentions Helen being skinnier than her, when they are both really slender women; I think there is some real reading to be had that a grungy, plus-sized woman gives Annie the talk she needed. A woman who isn't the ideal of the perfect woman has made an incredible life for herself.

[@trinaq]

Seconded, Annie and Helen are mirror images of the other, but it takes them almost the entire film to realize this. On the outside, Helen looks pristine, poised and immaculate, but is falling apart on the inside, and doesn't have any real female friends, so latches onto Lillian by overcompenstating. By contrast, Annie looks a total mess to everyone around her, but unbeknownst to her, has the support of Lillian, her mother, Rhodes and her other friends, and the power to change her circumstances. 💖

[@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254]

@@trinaq Also as the end of the video and the previous video put it the other married women in their Bachelorette Party don't have it together (one drinks a lot to get through being a wealthy housewife with rowdy boys and another doesn't experience total sexual satisfaction in her marriage and they end up making out with each other). Like everyone has addictive patterns in their personalities. And Megan: she is going full throttle in her life and enjoying it.

[@Tulpen23]

When I first watched this movie, I was at a very low point, and I didn't see a way out. During the scene Megan tells Annie to fight for her life, I legit cried - hard. Sometime later I heard from my mother that she had cried at that scene when she'd watched it too, thinking of me. No real change happened directly after that, but I think that it had planted a seed that took root and slowly grew up in me. It's now a few years later, and I was able to find a way out of that hole and start my life anew: new city, new prospects, and a much more stable foundation. Thanks "The Take" for making this video. It really deserved to be made.

[@itsgaylebitxh]

This is depression. You feel you dont deserve good/love. The worst is that you aren't truly yourself. You make people hate you and treat you badly. I hated me like this

[@yemio1005]

I was going to say I wish the narrator would have actually made the point that Annie was suffering from depression. It’s not just hitting rock bottom she is genuinely depressed. I remember watching some of Annie’s terrible behaviour and it was really difficult to watch because it’s something people do when they are in a very dark place. I definitely hit a point where I was engaged in really self destructive behaviour and it’s not till I had therapy that I understand I was depressed

[@allanapaoli1503]

I never watched this movie but OMG I CRIED in this video! I definitely didn’t reach rock bottom (yet) but I’m just like Annie, addicted to feeling sorry for myself and sabotaging me to fulfill my addiction! I’m glad I watched this

[@Kimmyluvsbooks]

I've watched the movie, and it's wonderful, but this video made me see it so much more deeply and also brought me to tears

[@FiddlebirdBlue]

So ... I'm exhausted, and therefore copypasted this reply from originally writing it on another person's comment, but I really mean it for you, too. Obvs I'm just a random internet stranger, so grain of salt, free to disregard - but I've had similar problems and I've finally been starting to get better lately and I want to share what;s worked for me because I feel for your suffering. It's great you've had this realization, but for I long time, I had it without really 'improving' because I didn't know the way or have the tools. Here's what's been working for me: I've been working really hard the last few years on 1. radical acceptance (acknowledging my frustration/grief/etc without digging into the cause and raging at it and resenting it, but accepting that even that is a part of life, that Life/God/etc isn't attacking me personally), 2. cognitive behavioral therapy (challenge and replace damaging thoughts, alter behaviors), and 3. psychodynamic therapy (talking about what events affected how I think and feel about the world/new events, patterns in my life). (2 and 3 in the same session). What's REALLY, FINALLY starting to make a biiig difference in my day-to-day mood is taking a good, hard look at what I blame myself for and hate myself for - not just that I DO, but the specifics. Mistakes I made, traits or predispositions I have, things I "let" happen to myself ... It's SO painful and SO hard, but by acknowledging them and thinking, "Would I hate my best friend for this? Would I hate my hypothetical child for this? My mother?" I have been forced to acknowledge that I judge myself too harshly and in so doing, I not only hurt myself, but the people who love me. Only by treating myself as kindly as I treat them, by forcing myself to see that self-loathing is a form of arrogance (I deserve more judgment than anyone else, I have more power over myself than anyone else, my mistakes are more impactful than anyone else's) and a pattern which allows me to continue in misery instead of trying to rise up because I'm afraid to fail - only in this have I started to really get my s**t together, to feel happier, and to therefore be more able to help other people and redeem myself for whatever I feel I still need redemption for once I have forgiven myself. It's a work in progress and always will be, but it's SOincomparably better to how I lived before that I can't see myself going back no matter what untold horror life might throw at me. I feel optimistic and empowered even when I'm staving off a panic attack or crying because I hate something about myself so much. Sometimes I still have that kneejerk response of "oh this sounds dumb" or "oh this hokey pseudo-religious language" ... but it works so well I have to accept that my opinion is wrong, not the material, lol. I highly recommend viewing the self-loathing as an illness or an enemy, not "right" or "what you deserve" or "how you've always been and therefore will be". It's not about what we deserve; it's about what's best for everyone. All humans are capable of transformational change - think of reformed Nazis or Klansmen! (Arrogance: Am I really so special in my badness, in my illness or predisposition, that I am less able to change than a Nazi??) I highly recommend therapy - studies have shown all mainstream forms are comparably effective if the therapist and client are both committed and have a good bond. (So if it takes nine shrinks to find a good fit, it's normal and worth it and that's a 100% a 'good enough' reason to change therapists!) If you can't afford it or the idea of a human is too scary, try Woebot! It's a free, artificially intelligent cognitive behavioral therapy app which lets you do "sessions" in 5-10 minutes! Books that really help me include "In the Body of the World" by Eve Ensler, "You are a Bad*ss" by Jen Sincero, "A Long Way Gone" by Ishmael Beah, "Hunger" by Roxane Gay, and "A House in the Sky" by Amanda Lindhout. All are scary, painfully real, humorous, powerful, inspiring (hokey word!) true stories of people overcoming some rill serious s**t and choosing to think and live differently, to forgive and be happy. Good luck with your realization, wherever it takes you. :)

[@Kc24piv]

FiddlebirdBlue that was a really kind thing that u did. Going Out if your way to write all that and explain so thoroughly. Thank you times a million. That was so thoughtful of you. I have no doubt many people will benefit from that.

[@allanapaoli1503]

@@FiddlebirdBlue this is the sweetest thing ever

[@hatruong5219]

"Why can't you be happy for me and then go home and talk about me behind my back later?!"

[@aidilfawzy1665]

This is why Bridesmaids is one of the well-written & sharpest comedy film ever. Besides the jokes & slapsticks, there is something valuable and a message behind it. The Oscar nomination for the screenplay was well deserved.

[@bubblegumpeach5662]

I'm 22 not thirty but i had that moment some month ago i didn't know what to do, i wasn't working nor trying to go to uni cause I couldn't believe in my self. But after an holiday in my country I came back and decided to change. Now I'm working and doing a course to prepare for the Ielts and finally go to University. I hit the lowest of the low, but I found my energy again.

[@JJ-bp2kk]

I am currently going through this, I'm working but not in uni. I don't believe that I am smart enough for uni. I tried for two semesters and ended up failing cause I wasn't even trying. How did you come to the realisation? Was it like an immediate thought? Or did it slowly come all together?

[@rootsm3]

This an easy mental trap for us women. The pressure to be perfect can easily make you feel inadequate and if you’re not a strong person you might just get into a cycle of relating with the pain and that’s all you can understand.

[@samiaimran6738]

I think it's a mental trap for every human

[@lumen8341]

actually had a lump in my throat for most of that 20 minutes. this is. .. really helpful.

[@MagicalPotPie]

Me too! This video is a great reminder for why I started therapy. Let’s do our best to become better. I’m rooting for you. 👍

[@littlefatbuddha]

Annie invested all of the life savings and emotional energy into opening a bakery shop with her boyfriend. The boyfriend dumped her and she went bankrupt - emotionally and financially. This channel often contains good movie analysis but I feel that this one couldn’t be more off. Annie is doing her best to get out of a horrible situation (trying to connect to her only friend and slowly opening up to new men and friends), but recovering from traumatic events takes time. Baking reminds her of her crushed dreams and that’s the reason she avoids it - not because she’s “addicted” to misery. She’s exercising and mingling and investing herself into building something new. If she was “addicted” to misery, she would have never even left her room. The movie is entertaining because we see her struggle against her own insecurities and because she continues to swim against the tide. She’s constantly defeated but she does not stop fighting for her seat at the table.

[@drebugsita]

Yes when they made that point I thought of CPTSD. Seems to me like a good example of it, albeit not from childhood. As someone diagnosed it looks very relatable and I’m eager to watch it. Your interpretation is more compassionate. But from what I can tell the video was just summarizing what the people in her life were saying. I didn’t feel like the video itself was harsh toward her character

[@karrihart1]

A lot of Annie's problems are completely beyond her control (economy crash/recession which led to her bakery going under, boyfriend leaving, best friend getting engaged, kicked out of her apartment, etc). She's doing the best she can and yet continues to get shat on throughout the movie. And Lillian isn't exactly kind or conscious about her best friend's budget when it comes to planning her wedding. Would her and Dougie even be getting married if they weren't financialy privileged to do so?

[@swarnangidash9848]

Granted her situations were bad and she was in a recovery state. The video should have said that. But sometimes this process leads to self-destructive habits that she had inculcated. She realised and she was made realised which is why she eventually recovered.

[@Nobody-wo5mb]

It's crazy how therapeutic these videos are.

[@lidette711]

Thanks so much for this. I am approaching my 30s at my rock bottom. Thanks for making me realize that I can get stuck in very destructive thought patterns. They just play so much in my head that they become the norm, and it's so much harder to build myself up than it is to tear myself down. Thanks, The Take. This video is a gift, truly. :)

[@monicaleon2601]

Yep, and watch this movie =)

[@batgurrl]

lidette711 I hate to get all preachy but I’d you have your health you must be great full and move in with your life and make something of it. No self pity please if you are healthy

[@dogwalk3]

damn. didn't realize i was freakin annie

[@ritaaura3505]

Annies experiences could also be looked at as the feminine journey. If you think about it she's actually the hero in this movie. We see journey into herself she started off by living this average mediocre lifestyle that shes not happy with but is able to conquer this and ends up happy and everyone else is happy as well even Helen seems happy. It's like she died, rebirthed and now she's living.

[@xylemnguyen223]

I don't know where else to vent to I guess the KZbin comment section might be a nice place, my depression is on a relapse and I feel like it's never going to get better, plus the most recent breakup still haunts me and peer pressure from my friends. There are so many times a day I thought I cannot go on at all, but somehow this KZbin channel keeps me alive. Cheers to all the depressed out there.

[@ushasingh3088]

I feel you. I was there. You will come out. I know that. I am on my way out. Not completely out of depression, but on my snail small steps out of depression.

[@IsabelleGraff94]

I feel exactly the same way right now. I have an apointment with my doctor next week to ask for a referal to a therapist cuz things are just not looking good right now... The past is haunting me and the future is scaring me, more than ever. I hope things work out for you

[@leejay2418]

Hang in there. What you are going through is very common. You are not alone. Please take care. :)

[@MagicalPotPie]

Cheers to you too! Hang in there and remember your self-worth. No one can take that from you-not exes, not friends or acquaintances, and not even your family.

[@Shadow-zf5uc]

Same, dude, same. Cheers

[@rickycampos3215]

I feel immensely lonely so often. Days off work/school should be nice, relaxing and productive but in stead I’m depressed because without work and school there’s no one to talk to and I end up binge eating to fill the sadness and feel ok but it’s only temporary. Worse thing is I often feel ignored and left out at work and school. I might be addicted to feeling like a freak outcast that nobody likes. Growing up with the my family and public school were 13 horribly isolating years. It’s all I’ve known my whole life. At least now I realize loneliness is a major trigger for my binge eating addiction.

[@binah7744]

Watches this video while at rock bottom: Oh... Edit: also, the take is amazing and I hope you guys are always on KZbin. It’s legit made me realize some things. I’m scared I’m about to hit bottom but maybe not. Maybe there’s time to start moving before it does.

[@marioricomeza2839]

Good luck, hope you feel better

[@Sonnera]

I actually hated that scene where the cop boyfriend tries to get her to bake after she had told him like 3 times at that point she didnt want to. He was explicitly ignoring her wishes and without regard for her feelings. Maybe its traumatizing for her to think about it, or maybe she should just be believed when she says she isnt interested in it anymore. I thought the film tried to frame this as romantic behavior, when it seemed pretty disrespectful and creepy to me. He was pushing his concept of who she really was and what she really wanted, and I agree with her being pissed off about it, even if she has real emotional work to do around it.

[@citizen2364]

👀

[@aerinapatra]

I totally agree!

[@ferrivera7159]

Completely agree.

[@arun-it9gr]

It was a bit too fast, agreed. On the whole, a lot of things that happen in the movie in which Annie feels the right things. But I think the whole movie is about how Annie _reacts_ to things.

[@rewer]

She told him b4 she has passion in baking, that’s why he did that.

[@casy6203]

I can definitely related to feeling panicky when several old high school friends got married. And it took a friend to remind me that those weren't goals that I had for myself and my measure of successes was different from theirs

[@dantilion7915]

Megan was always my favourite character, do a video on her next

[@trinaq]

Agreed, I'd love if they focused on how Megan isn't the most conventionally skinny woman in the movie, yet she's unabashedly herself, refuses to care what anyone else thinks, and lives her life to the full. We could ALL use a Megan in our lives!😻

[@augustharper15]

Megan was more of a friend to Annie than her “best friend” Lillian, who basically ended up ditching her for Helen, and then when Lillian started feeling bad about herself for her father not being able to pay for the wedding, etc. then Annie is allowed to come back in her life and come to the wedding (essentially for Lillian to feel better about herself). When people start hanging out with more elite people (rich and good looking), then they stop hanging out and caring as much about their other friends (like Annie). That’s what I believe Lillian did to Annie, and then let her back into her life so Lillian can feel better about her life.

[@augustharper15]

MK912 I agree that Annie should have been happy and it was Lillian’s big day, but at the same time I think she started ditching her childhood friend whose always been good to her for Helen which definitely led Annie to eventually having a breakdown. I think Annie was trying to be happy for Lillian but freaked over Helen pretending to not like her wedding shower idea and then stealing it, then overshadow Annie with extravagant gifts and gestures though she knows Annie (THE maid of honor) can not afford it (which of course Helen was doing on purpose to make Annie look bad). I think Lillian realized this after the breakdown Annie had at her shower and then Lillian told Helen to shut up when she said she was proud of her for telling Annie off. I mean if i was in Annie’s shoes, I’d be pissed too. It leaves a feeling of betrayal of your best friend and that you’re not good enough. Lillian wasn’t an awful friend but like I said Megan was there when Lillian (her “bestie”) wasn’t when Annie needed someone the most. Just because you’re getting married doesn’t mean the entire earth and all your friends have to revolve around you for that period of time. People still have their own lives and problems and for Annie, money was a huge problem which she shouldnt have to pay for over the top presents and bridesmaids dresses when it’s not even her wedding. Megan was the one that made Annie well enough again to try to salvage her relationship with that nice guy cop and finally get her car fixed, which she should have done anyways but Megan woke her up with that speech she made to Annie at her house that you can’t feel sorry for yourself, which is what Annie needed to hear and everyone else was too afraid to tell her. I think that’s what makes the greatest friend, someone who can give you the harsh reality, not pretty “comforting” lies which are not not helpful in any way.

[@iamchinny3]

omg, I feel personally attacked by this video lol. I've never even thought about bridesmaids this way, but everything you said makes sense. This is one of my fav films. Now I'm having a slight breakdown lol I see so much of myself in Annie this video is honestly kind of painful, but exactly what I need to hear right now.

[@terig8974]

Oh my God I literally have to change the tail light on my car... which I'm living out of. And I'm going to a non-substance based 12 step meeting tonight. It's creepy how relatable this is right now. Thank you for making this.♥

[@salamander8301]

How did it go?

[@terig8974]

Sala Mander Pretty good. Thank you for asking. It's a slow process and I'm just getting started. Still haven't changed that damn light though...

[@ApoorvaPachori15OCT]

Its been a year. Hope you are well.

[@jits8767]

"You are a product of the lessons that you’ve learned. You are wiser because you went through something terrible. And you are the person who survived a bunch of rainstorms and kept walking. I now believe that pain makes you stronger, and I now believe that walking through a lot of rainstorms gets you clean." ~Taylor Swift, Clean speech May 5th 2015 in Tokyo

[@ren09rn]

Weird that this video could not have come at a better timing. I am currently transitioning from my rock bottom to a fresh start at life. Thank you so much for inspiring me to work even harder!

[@Simpsfan300]

This was a really touching analysis of a movie I already love so much. I was getting teary eyed because of how much of what was said I could apply in my own life while at the same time laughing because every line is this movie is gold.

[@itsybitsy999]

At rock bottom now. Am worse off than Annie for reasons I can't type here. I know I'm the only one who can change my life, I acknowledge that, but it's so hard to know what to do now, in a practical way, after the recognition phase. Overwhelming anxiety doesn't help either.

[@salamander8301]

Me too. It's time to start over

[@tke8981]

Same. We can do it though. We're not starting over, we're starting from experience :)

[@songbird6414]

I feel like the first step is recognizing the problem, and thus the solution, and finding confidence in yourself to then solve it. Often, the complex problem that has been haunting you is way simpler, and that makes the solution way easier to determine. Please know that you’re loved, and that there’s always sunrise after night.

[@mes4792]

This video has now made me realize my own obsessive need to feel unhappy too. I honestly don't really know where to go from this revelation, but thank you.

[@jonnylawrence7766]

"Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around" - Vanilla Sky

[@CoreIdeas]

Excuse me, I do not enjoy this public call out. I demand an apology for all the truthful things you've just pointed out.

[@TwelvetreeZ]

I remember being disappointed when I first saw this film, because I thought it was "too serious" for a comedy. But since rewatching it a couple of times, it's amazing to see a film honestly depict total failure, and how to get out of it ❤️ love this video!

[@panicqueen4295]

This video showed me a problem that I never even knew I had. The human brain is insanely complicated and fascinating.

[@pamelam4]

This gave me a new appreciation for Bridesmaids.

[@cwytchsparks]

Like Annie, I need to take responsibility and accountability for my actions. From leaving an amazing and challenging job that I enjoyed just cuz I had a bad day to leaving an amazing church, I blamed everything and everyone but myself. Yes, life gave me shit my almost my entire life but I wallowed in my self-pity and depression and let it define me for so long but I like Annie, I can take small steps to improve my situation

[@jolievargas9204]

God its amazing how much the SNL cast has pierced my soul. I'm over here laughing until I'm aching, crying, and just loving how this movie was set up. Annie was too comfortable in her pessimism and inadequacy. She doesn't realize how much power she really has.

[@loki_l_1380]

The best part of this movie is we have all known someone like her. And we have also had times when we have been like her.

[@hambone4984]

Jesus...this video hit way too close to home for me. My husband has been talking to me about this a lot lately and wow, this really hit me. I hit bottom a long time ago but never got out of the personal hate and wallowing no matter how much better things got. Life wise I left rock bottom a long time ago, but I think mentally/internally I've been too scared to leave it and get my hopes up. This is a really good breakdown of the movie. This channel is really good.

[@Algimantaz]

This was an absolute revelation on Bridesmaids. Like wow. I had no idea this movie had so many messages about addiction

[@michellecrocker2485]

Exactly! Annie seems to be imposing on herself this penance because she seems to think she deserves it for her business failure

[@mirofarrakis]

I just came from watching the other video about Helen and why she has no friends, and now I'm here 😁 I always felt more aligned with Annie than Helen, and this just reaffirmed that I am much more of an Annie. Like, instead of trying to seem perfectly put together and make everyone like you, it's more being self-defeating and almost trying to play up how big of a mess you are so people don't expect much from you, while still being desperate for that approval :( self-sabotage, depression loves doing that to you

[@Bropapi]

I watch this every time I go into a downward spiral in my life

[@honestytheory7529]

Really appreciate y'all giving this movie the analysis it deserves 🙌🏾

[@julesk2629]

This genuinely changed my view of the movie a lot! Tons of points i hadn’t thought about

[@caseyw.6550]

This is not a criticism of this video at all. But as a recovering addict, I LOATHE the idea that "you have to hit rock bottom before you can get better". Trust me, I hit rock bottom more times than I can even count. It just kept getting lower and lower each time. When I finally got sober, it wasn't because I hit rock bottom. It was because I found a glimmer of a reason to live. I could finally imagine my life a different way AND I was blessed with the resources to help me. All this to say, do not wait to hit rock bottom or you will end up in jail or dead. Get help NOW.

[@hzuzh]

I know so much about this movie even though I've never seen it

[@zerjiozerjio]

It's so worth a watch. Incredibly fun and heartfelt

[@judeannethecandorchannel2153]

0:25 "we are all addicts in one way or another," Wonderful insight! Very **humanizing** 🥰💃🎶⭐💫🎶🌺💐⭐💫

[@judeannethecandorchannel2153]

6:49 I get the self sabotage, addiction to unhappiness & wallowing analysis What I see more is **fear** Fear of failing again Fear of getting hurt again...

[@judeannethecandorchannel2153]

By destroying the shower she's probably testing her best to she if she, like the lost boyfriend, would abandon her if she failed, If the Bff's love is truly UNCONDITIONAL

[@AnaAzarathM]

I used to be a makeup artist "Just because you didn't make any money out of it doesn't mean you failed at it." And shortly quit after doing it for a year. I've become a quitter and yet when I tell people the stories behind these experiences, I embellish them. Wow, I needed to hear that.

[@owlnemo]

Thank you so much! This made me realise I have an addiction myself (escapism). It made me want to read up a bit on addictive behaviours and how to get rid of it and I had sort of a breakthrough! Can't thank you enough for this wake-up call!

[@deborasiino]

I'm literally shocked! I've seen this movies for the first time yesterday, and then here you are with this video. What a coincidence! Amazing video though.

[@trinaq]

Coolness, that's a good omen, if anything, now that the movie is fresh in your mind, it resonates with you all the more!❤

[@veggiesarefruits]

I really needed this. I'm at my bottom right now. I thought I'd hit my rock bottom before, but no...this is by FAR the worst I've been, and it truly is all my fault. I just don't know how to get back up.

[@tfh5575]

I hit bottom this year and now I’m well on on my way to becoming the best I’ve ever been, in all aspects of my life. All the problems I knew I needed to change but put off for years, I’ve finally felt obligated to address. I didn’t think I’d be grateful for what I had to go through this year, but this was the most transformative year of my life BECAUSE it was so painful.

[@noam___]

I don't know why I'm sobbing but this hits too close to home. Thank you for this approach to one of my most favorite feel-good flicks. This is such an important channel.

[@redfullmoon]

As someone who had a food business that saw some trouble and also a breakup that happened not long after that, this video hits home so fucking much.

[@apdronite6202]

Can we not forget how she played the role so perfectly aside from being a natural comedienne ? She actually deserved an Oscar for it. She's so f*ck*ng versatile!

[@rhythmoriented]

So true. Your profiles are just great. Special request: because of the Dolemite is My Name release, please consider doing a “take” on Blaxploitation cinema history.

[@trinaq]

I agree, that's what I love the most about The Take- their spot on analysis of our favourite shows and movies always hits the mark, and makes you think more deeply about it!😍

[@reeldeal3227]

Love that idea. Dolemite is My Name was awesome. Also, that era brought us the first generation of female badasses.

[@lizd.2343]

I love learning about "girly" movie messages!

[@trinaq]

Likewise, this channel is perfect for chick flick lovers, since it doesn't judge their viewers for daring to like "girly" movies, and outlines the insightful messages that they teach us at their core. 😊💝

[@Hollywoohorse]

1st: i feel very attacked, because im basically annie 2nd: this has been my favorite movie since i first saw it, and im glad people are finally noticing the genius behind it! Keep up the good work 😊😊

[@_rmel]

I can't believe I'm finding this video right now. I've been in my own rock bottom for a little while now and I've never been able to so succinctly describe what my problem is. But this video hit the nail on the head, I'm addicted to feeling bad about myself. I can't believe how much I identified with everything they're saying about Annie.

[@roaminrecluse2088]

I didn't come here to be personally attacked like this. This shit got too real.

[@CarlDillynson]

The title of this video is like a Panic at the Disco song

[@mamaweallgotohellp2009]

*panic!. Sorry

[@fam6883]

Megan gives the best advice ive ever heard in a film. So raw and real

[@sircharlesmormont9300]

I've never seen this film, and I am now afraid to see it and become a pile of tear-stained goo on my couch. I see so much of myself in Annie. I have a lost, black hole of a decade after the recession hit, and I'm finally making progress in picking up the pieces again with a new career, but... damn, I feel this so hard. Thanks for your astute analysis.

[@WillIngram08]

At first blush, it's just a funny movie. But if you rewatch it, you'll notice multiple layers, that point out common flaws within the human condition! Beautiful film

[@mich4348]

i recently watched bridesmaids for the first time and related to Annie’s characters so much: it was a reality for me pushing people out of my life so easily i needed this video

[@unorthodoxblackgirl8112]

When you mentioned the part about giving your friends away feels like a loss… looking back on a situation with one of my good friends…. That’s exactly how it feels. I remember my life was in shambles, and she had just had a baby and was getting married. We spent pretty much every day together and did everything together. And then it changed when she had a baby got engaged. I was jealous but couldn’t even admit it because I didn’t realize it until the day before I left. I went to her apartment, we sat down and we talked. It was like I was the supporting character in the movie of her life. So bridesmaids was really relatable for me!

[@TheSuperNats]

Reminds me of the Jk Rowling Harvard speech “rock bottom became the foundation on which I rebuilt my life”

[@lars1296]

Great point about the recession. Even 11 years later, some of us still feel it or at least have some leftover recession-era thinking.

[@AnnieC2495]

Y’all!! You know what I just realized?? She’s cries about Wilson in Cast Away and their favorite band is Wilson Phillips 🤯

[@valerieyoder]

Oh, Wilson!

[@lurategh]

I’ve always been able to sympathize with Annie bc I identify with her a lottt. Depending on my mood, I sometimes don’t even wanna think too hard about the movie bc it hits too close to home. So with all her outbursts and all that, I totally understood where she was coming from. It was the kind of stuff I think we all imagine ourselves doing from time to time if decorum wasn’t a thing. :P

[@continuousself-improvement1879]

Hits you right in the feels when right now you're an Annie who doesn't have a mother, doesn't have a Megan, and doesn't have a guy who cares about you. 😭

[@jeriekae]

I need The Take to analize my life, my decisions, my behavior, etc so I can change without hitting rock bottom first. Seriously, you guys. You are all amazing. This is a much needed video from one of my fave movies.

[@Rainiers]

This channel is such a godsend! I feel like you just gave me the answer to all my problems. It's ME! Lmao no but seriously, I really needed this.

[@nalalog]

Thank you so much for this video. Bridesmaids is my favorite comfort film and you said every reason why I love this movie

[@jesuschristthesecond]

Bridesmaids is an excellent movie and only has such a low rating on IMDB because of misogyny

[@jrdn48]

And what the hell does it have to do with men? I'm sick to death of men being punish for nothing, grow up

[@generalhorse493]

It’s because as the take pointed out, it’s about a group of female friends, and focuses on actual issues rather then simply pander to male fantasies, in contrast to most movies.

[@CreoTan]

@@jrdn48 The system of misogyny is one that tells EVERYONE that things made for women are less respectable, less important, and silly. Misogyny is more than just "men bad"--it is a social system embedded in our culture that BOTH men AND women internalize and perpetuate. The movie has low ratings because the people who watched it--whether theyre men OR women--think that a movie about women and women-specific issues, is vapid, shallow, and lacks complexity or interesting things to say. Internalized misogyny between women is WHY toxic femininity, and the vindictive, catty, back-stabbing competition between women that comes with it (like with Helen and Annie), exists in the first place.

[@valkyrie9646]

Ruben, ffs. Not everything or everyone that doesn't agree with your particular opinion is misogynist, racist, --phobic or whatever else you need to label it as. Grow tf up. At least stop publicly embarrassing yourself.

[@UIAL570]

Bridesmaids is way more in depth than I ever thought

[@morticiasunshine1402]

I think it is amazing to see the 12 steps applied to something that many people, even non addicts can relate to!! Thank you so much. I shared this all over Facebook. I am in recovery from actual drug addiction but I know that addiction was preceded by an addiction to self-punishment for sure!! I love your channel

[@Anonymous888-w6b]

I did not realise that I am an addict until you analysed this film. You guys are worth more than any other therapist out there.

[@jonathansmith7219]

The fact this was posted 2 years ago and randomly showed up on my suggested is amazing as how this time in my life I really needed this remindeder and do some self reflection

[@natalieking2780]

I had no idea how much I needed this video. I’d love to see one about Megan and how she actually has it all and is the definition of resilience 😊

[@TheLeah2344]

I’m at my lowest point right now in life so this is very relatable. I do have a supportive family but I no longer have any real friends and my boyfriend thinks I’m too dependent on him.

[@erinleigh4363]

I love how insightful your videos are. This one actually hit pretty close to home and made me realize I have a lot of the same attributes that Annie has and I love to live in self deprecation. What a wake up call! It's time to start being responsible for myself and take accountability for the decisions I make. Thank you for making these videos you guys are truly one of my favorite channels!

[@carlosrobbins9178]

Thank you for justifying my fidelity to chick flicks. This video essay was better for me than months of talk therapy. I never understood why chick flicks make me cry. Your videos explain the underlying dynamics at work in these movies. My strong emotional response makes perfect sense to me now.

[@lesliemonster92]

I feel like there's at least *something* in this video that we all needed to hear. Thank you 💜

[@kempiskindofabigdeal]

I’m a long time fan and I would love to see you guys take a crack at Gotham’s themes and villains-their backstories are almost shakespearian tragedies and I would love to see them broken down. Keep up the great content!

[@lars1296]

Take responsibility for your life. It’s that simple

[@rebeccanascimento8234]

My favorite movie,my favorite channel ❤️💕 it feels like a wake up call

[@thebolter.]

ok, therapy or video essay? this was literally exactly what I needed thank you so much

[@nigelasipa4150]

A groundbreaking comedy and surely one of the best of the 2010’s. This is one of my favourite videos from The Take as much of Annie’s trajectory feels alarmingly similar to mine. I totally endorse the morals here about hitting your lowest point can give you renewed appreciation of your sentiments and relationships