Bridezilla Sil Demanded I Buy Her $3,500 Wedding Dress, Made Fun of Me Mercilessly on Her Big Day...

Bridezilla Sil Demanded I Buy Her $3,500 Wedding Dress, Made Fun of Me Mercilessly on Her Big Day, So I Got Revenge.
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[@salvina299]

I guess it really true that angering a usually nice person will produce undue consequences

[@ibnkhaldoun4319]

yeah watch out for the nice people.

[@s0ular9765]

Trust me a lot of people have yet to realize just how spiteful I truly can become. I'm a nice person and I always try to seek out the more peaceful route to situations if possible, but if people want to mean towards me then I'll let them have it once I've had enough of their poor treatment of me. I've done it before hand when someone decided to hurt me and ended up breaking my trust. I went silent and when I go silent I'm definitely scary since I could very well be seething in anger and would more than likely lash out at them in the worst way possible verbally letting them know what lead up to the point. After that I went to go cool off and later on eventually made up with them. Said person and I are now a lot better off after that one nasty fight and have been much better off since then. Though in this case in revolving around OP's situation that one was more impossible to reconcile since her SIL made the situation worse and when it came to letting her emotions cloud her judgment OP had every right to lash out and speak her mind publically so that everyone can hear and none of them could turn it around when it was what they had coming to them when it was long overdue.

[@_juju_jojo_]

@@ibnkhaldoun4319or just treat people with respect

[@iononcantomascrivo]

It's absolutely true. Someone I once knew who I thought of as a friend, but was the furthest thing from it. She used to spill to me about everyone and anything. Not that I wanted to listen. It later turned out that she was trash talking me, unsurprisingly, to anyone who would listen. There's nothing more dangerous than a friend turned enemy who knows all of your secrets. She wasn't well-liked as she treated friends like they were disposable as long as they had a resource that she coveted. I just exposed her for the unprincipled, backstabbing parasite that she truly is. I later found out that she threw a tantrum that would have embarrassed a toddler upon discovering I had blown the whistle on her. Before she could come at me, I blocked her on everything, changed my number and that was it. My only regret is I sort of wish I could have seen her epic meltdown.

[@s0ular9765]

@@iononcantomascrivo this brought a smile to me as I love it when people can no longer hide behind the facade that they put on for the whole world to see. I live with a narcissistic a hole for a father and brother who is either high or mentally unstable to be around and it get tiring to deal with them. The funny thing is that none of my friends want anything to do with either one of them since they heard all of the bs drama that those 2 specifically cause. I'm glad that I never dated around either one of them because they would cause more problems for me. Plus I would rather not subject anyone to that skeleton in the closet as that would be best to not let them face that nightmare.

[@DarkEinherjar]

OP embodies the saying: "Even the nicest people have their limits. Don’t push them too far and don’t try to reach their limits, because the nicest people can also be the scariest when they've had enough." Christina effed around and found out.

[@yunarukami6161]

Yup the reason why it's so true is because the people who hurt the nice ones never know when those nice people can hurt them back. They also leave so many openings for the nice people to target too so it's on them

[@Olimar92]

Nice people often can't control the vitriol they have for people. And Cristina was that way because her friend was heartbroken over not dating her brother? She was a major bitch.

[@zeekay3205]

💯

[@Martyr_Knight]

Has nothing to do with the comment, but W pfp

[@Trespacd]

“You’re crazy and irrational for defending yourself publicly against someone who publicly badmouthed you to all her guests.” Yeahhhhh buddy that makes sense. Stfu.

[@Gabreya]

NTA. Martin ought to be ashamed of himself for giving OP the silent treatment for a week when OP was justified for calling out Christina. I wouldn’t have trusted him after that. He’s almost as crappy as his sister.

[@Ainiewainy]

Finally a sane comment! Especially his "I was so sad not talking" spiel after OP's apology. Like dude? You TOLD her you wouldn't speak until she apologized? He manipulated her.

[@dumbdragon13]

@@Ainiewainycame to say the same thing! Like the frick bro! “The only person I wanted to talk to was you. But you weren’t talking to me” bruh! It’s a two way street. Get up. And go talk to her. That gaslighting making it “her fault” for not talking. OP needs to divorce this guy. He is trash

[@G.T_666]

​@@dumbdragon13 he's trash? Lol he stood up for his wife in the end. That's not trash.

[@Jordan_99]

@@G.T_666dude these redditors just want everyone to be unhappy and break up. Can lever let others be in relationships.

[@dumbdragon13]

@@G.T_666 I’m sorry. 1 good deed does not make up for multiple bad deeds. Judge people by what they do more often and not by “one offs”

[@ladyweasellou3367]

If her husband had been man enough to intervene from the very beginning and put a stop to the meanness/cruelty of his sister and include her husband this could have been very different from the start. I've seen things like this happen after long periods of time only to finally explode and the wrong person ends up being blamed for it all, even by the spouse. It's completely destroyed at least two marriages from what I've seen, all because a spouse didn't intervene resulting in a lot of psychological pain.

[@shuichisaiharasimp]

​@@amoyhongping1987 Hes just straight up stupid, theres no friendship that works with only 1, if his sister doesnt want it, why push his wife to try when she made that very clear?

[@DaChickin-ic7mp]

Your as sharp as a marble

[@KenW418]

I agree completely. He knew they didn't get along and didn't pry even a tiny little bit when his sister asked his wife to be the maid of honor at her wedding? Like c'mon dude, that's super sus. I agree about telling her to go ahead and do it to see if it's a genuine gesture, but don't be so naive to leave it at that and not keep your eyes on the situation or ask the future brother in law if he knows anything about what's going on. Very dumb.

[@MrArielK]

OP is also wrong, ESh

[@shuichisaiharasimp]

@@MrArielK She did what she had to do🤷

[@ibnkhaldoun4319]

maybe i'm just a vengeful person, but i think OP's a badass & was 100% justified. you don't treat someone like this after they bent over backwards to help you. EDIT: thanks for the likes. i'm happy to see i'm not totally crazy.

[@mommyeclipse4373]

i agree. maybe i am petty too but honestly im tired of hearing reddit stories where OP is a doormat and they let stuff slide. i hate when terrible people think they can do anything and not have any consequences.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

Agreed. I have a story for you that would make your hair curl. I knew someone just like the sister-in-law and she treated people like they were disposable. Of course, this was as long as they had a resource that she coveted. I just happened to, at the time, be her latest victim. I knew too much about her. That's what happens when someone who once was a friend is turned into an enemy. I exposed her for the lying, backstabbing parasite that she is. She readily admitted that she had cheated on her husband, was only with him because she had a roof over her head, spent his money like it was an endless supply, chased after other men all the time and neglected her children. When I was done with her, everyone hated her. Karma is indeed a bitch.

[@lilsstrunks]

People really care too much about weddings "oohh you did this on her biggest day" blah blah blah, just goes to show people only care about the optics of wedding, more than they do about the marriage in itself. Anyway her husband(martin) handled it how a man should.

[@santinosalamanca4378]

​@@waves2378 one question: why are you putting this thing here instead of making a separate comment?

[@sakthithanigai5036]

A wedding is not just the marriage of 2 ppl but the bringing together of 2 families, so it’s not about optics, but it’s about the families sharing their happiness with their closest friends and family. So OP going off like that was completely unacceptable. She could’ve dealt with the situation without embarrassing everyone. It’s also not just her parents, her husband, the bride, and in laws she embarrassed, she embarrassed herself too. Also ofc ppl care about big weddings if ppl didn’t they’d just go to a registrars office and get married there.

[@connormclernon26]

@@waves2378frosting?

[@Arcane_Route_66]

And let's be real; most people go to weddings for the same reason they go to any event. Free food and networking/hooking up. Or a free vacation if it's a destination wedding that's paid for.

[@KenW418]

Nah, Martin sounds like a sissy too afraid to dig into the "why's" of a situation. Didn't suspect a single thing when his sister, whom he knows doesn't get along with his wife, asked his wife to be a maid of honor at her wedding. Just left it at "yeah, do it, maybe it's a kind gesture," and didn't pry any further at all. Very poor intuition. When all was said and done, all he cared about was his image instead of actually resolving the issue. He handled it by giving his wife the silent treatment until she apologized. All of that was not very "manly" bro.

[@Rj-ij6ko]

Soo...Op is NTA, never WAS TA and her in laws are all trashy people. I'm glad her husband eventually came to his senses

[@ledrash6079]

I am surprised she actually paid back the money.

[@brendadickson9583]

Me too I laughed at her saying she paid😂

[@SynthwaveCrusader]

First mistake was agreeing to be the maid of honor. Always go with your gut feeling.

[@LadyZubat]

Okay wait wait wait... So Op's not allowed to destroy the wedding of somebody who's been treating them like shit for years and then only use them to get an exceedingly stupidly expensive dress? Nah fucking bradzilla had it coming!

[@smorphous8928]

I can’t believe the husband chooses his reputation over his wife (Op) getting teased and belittled.

[@zayanmehdi1747]

I think in that moment, her husband only talked about that only bc he was overwhelmed by all the other family members bombarding him with comments and questions, and he felt humiliated at that point. Eventually, he came to his senses and realized that these people were all about gossip and being involved in the drama

[@user-zi8wq2tq6m]

He really handled it pretty well so if OP was angry and decides to destroy martins sisters wedding in anger its right But when martin gets humiliated bcz of fight between sister and his wife and chooses to remain silent to collect his thoughts its wrong

[@magnoliamagpie1151]

The fact that Martin gave her the silent treatment for a WEEK STRAIGHT is a huge red flag and not at all okay. Thank goodness he eventually came to his senses, but this couple needs to work on their communication skills. The silent treatment is never the solution and makes things way worse. The breakdown of communication can kill a relationship.

[@emiliagolden4441]

Nta screw Christina, she's an ahol. You're correct the only difference is you had the mic, the whole family and her friends were ok making fun of you. But when you call her out on her actions all of a sudden you're the bad guy?? Nope she owes you an apology and do not apologize to Christina she deserved it, and if anything she owes you an apology

[@dillanharris6654]

😂

[@santinosalamanca4378]

​@@dillanharris6654 😒

[@itz_kim.]

Yes I can agree with this

[@DaChickin-ic7mp]

They both are the aholes

[@fonandoozmando5961]

It being your special day does not make you entitled to disrespect and humiliate others

[@yunarukami6161]

If the bridezilla best friend wanted Martin she should've grown a spine and talk to them instead on hiding under a rock. Op did good job even if she ruined the wedding it goes to show that making fun of the nice people will be your enemy faster.

[@rogueshark23]

She missed her chance and they wouldn't have been a couple anyways since Martin never saw her that way and Christina was mad over something this stupid.

[@leohochman370]

Ya know what kind of ladies I can’t stand? It’s the ones who act like “If a you doesn’t have a college degree, don’t make bank, don’t have your life figured out and do not have a successful job or business, then you are undesirable”. Meanwhile she’s either unemployed or working a part-time job and still living with her parents mooching of them and expecting to never pay rent or nothing

[@muhammadyoonusafridi639]

yeah but what does that have to do with this video

[@brendadickson9583]

​​@@muhammadyoonusafridi639I wonder too what it is have to do with this video😂

[@MrDucktastic]

Problem with people pleasing - when you finally snap it's already shocking to those taking advantage. What she did wasn't mature but totally understandable in context. But most people would have walked when asked to be Maid of Honour. Thats a role for best friends, she knew it felt wrong from the start.

[@ibnkhaldoun4319]

yeah i've noticed maybe the biggest two-faces are ALWAYS the nicest people, and everyone's appalled & shocked when they snap. (not saying that this is the usual bad kind of two-faced where they keep their bad side hidden out of deceit.)

[@cris4ever70]

Well, Christina definitely paid a high price for that dress. Hopefully she learned not to treat people like sht over stupid reasons. OP has social anxiety but still went on stage? She must have had steam coming out of her head lol She could have handle it a lot better. Even if you want revenge, you want to make sure you make the other person the psycho of the story, not burn with them. OP and husband are okay, money was paid back, and people need time and space to get over this embarrassing af wedding.

[@chessieray1465]

Either sis had terrible timing, or she didn't consider the fact that he may find someone like OP. Otherwise, holding a grudge against a random person for no good reason is just tacky.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Honestly, if my husband took his sister's side over mine (you know, his *IMMEDITE FAMILY*) I would have left. People here are not understanding that OP's husband did NOT have her back, when he should have. I hope OP can take his sister to court so she can get her money back. Edit: I'm glad the husband finally got his head out of his a$$, but they both do need to communicate better. Doing the silent treatment on eachother is a form of emotional abuse.

[@DarkEinherjar]

Well, if you're willing to divorce over one fight, that's your prerogative. So, do you think OP can get away with everything she does in anger, but the husband isn't allowed to have his own moment of anger, especially after OP's outburst had repercussions for him? Martin did take OP's side in full after he calmed down, and OP acknowledged she should've handled the situation better.

[@gotenblack2542]

family comes first always

[@PinkMarshmallows]

@@gotenblack2542 Yes, immediate family comes first. i.e. Wife and kids.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

@@DarkEinherjar So do you think that she should have just taken the abuse from Christina? Why do should she have done instead?

[@MrArielK]

@@PinkMarshmallowsI bet you don’t have/are in a relationship

[@brianarnold8666]

8:50 reputation doesn't mean anything

[@Ninguin]

Ehhhhhhh, I'll be honest, as an "investment banker", she probably should be far more worried about her reputation. It matters more than you think. With in-laws? Not so much. Stories spread though and people are going to be hesitant to work with someone who comes across as unhinged. We don't know the husband's career but it could matter significantly there.

[@ibnkhaldoun4319]

​@@Ninguinmaybe it ends up following her. but OP sounds like she probably would shrug at that and say "whatever, it was worth it"

[@SayanOfRagnarok]

Reputation means a lot in almost any professional level job. People talk about you way more than you think, and it has an effect on your promotion potential or ability to work on certain teams or projects. Wondering why you haven't gotten that promotion you wanted even though you're qualified on paper? Or why they chose someone with less experience than you? Usualky has a lot to do with your reputation. People will do their homework on you and ask around. No one wants to work with someone who has a very negative reputation. I know people who had to switch fields because they were unofficially black listed because of poor reputation and one of them was a teacher which isnt a career path where youd think reputation matters as long as youre good at your job but it does.

[@Freelancer837]

None of them deserve an apology. Christina deserved it for acting that way, and the others only care about themselves and their own image.

[@RagnarokAvatar]

You mean THAT'S what this was all about??? Her friend not getting with her brother???

[@holyek7892]

Christina ruined her wedding. I would divorce Martin. I would salt the Earth and scotched just as a final departure gift.

[@kossettereaditte7552]

What did Martin do?

[@TheeTreyForbes]

I agree that what happened was a result of Christina’s poor treatment of OP, but Martin didn’t do anything wrong. When all that anger you’re talking about subsides you’d see that Martin had an opinion, but was ultimately on his wife’s side.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

@@kossettereaditte7552 He didn't have her back. He chose his sister over his wife. That is a big no-no.

[@kossettereaditte7552]

@@PinkMarshmallows That isn't what happened, did you not finish the story?

[@DarkEinherjar]

@@PinkMarshmallows He initially did that in anger because of the backlash he got from the rest of the family. But he handled it perfectly and sided with OP afterwards.

[@Antsaboy94]

NTA - Christina had all the opportunities in the world **_not_** to deceive OP.

[@kmosterbergLolbit]

Only one * on each side

[@Antsaboy94]

@@kmosterbergLolbitYes, I get those mixed up often, 'cause Discord requires two... I think.

[@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115]

NTA. This Christina person had it coming. Even the kindest of people have their limits.

[@RadFoxDude]

Play stupid games win stupid prizes. Christina played OP and got what she got.

[@CG-yb6zj]

... The husband said OPs actions reflected poorly on him and his family in the eyes of the outside guests, but NOT the fact his sister went around bad mouthingthe women she made MOH (and only so she could get a dress she or her fam could afford) the whole morning whilst neither he, her HUSBAND, and the fam did nothing to stop simply cuz "It's her day", then kept up a WEEK of silent treatment, he later blamed her for, too, are you serious??? He's trash, too

[@terriebtsOT7]

Why didn't op husband stop his sister during her speech

[@MeyaRoseGirl]

It probably was unhinged to trash talk a bride over a mic on her wedding day, but everyone has their limits and Christina pushed them. She had plenty of warnings to stop and didn't. If it wasn't that big dramatic display, it needed to be something else because Christina was going to continue treating her like a doormat if she didn't shake her off. As for her original reason for not liking OP, I get being hurt for her friend, and I get that it hurts when you've placed all your hopes on a guy that barely even knows you exist, but seriously, have some pride. Pining after him is only going to make you miserable. It's not going to change how he feels. So move on and don't go blaming the girl he did choose. Martin probably came around because he realized his family was more concerned about optics than the fact that his sister had been abusing his wife, and now he has his priorities in order. So really this whole debacle is a blessing because Christina knows now not to cross OP. Martin has stepped up as a husband. And the people who chose Christina over OP without even hearing OP's side of the story have shown their true colors, so they know they're not true friends/family. On a side note, if someone chooses a stranger or loose acquaintance to be her maid of honor, it's a serious red flag. Either that person is a terrible person that can't hold on to friends, or she has an ulterior motive for wanting her to be the MOH or both. Was this friend that was in love with Martin in the wedding party? If she wasn't, that's a clue that Christina's problem with OP is more about herself than anything else. (I think it's more likely that she doesn't like that with Martin being married, it lowers her as a priority to him.) By the way, where is Christina's husband in all this drama? Does he know what a two-faced psycho mean girl his wife is? What are HIS opinions on OP, or has he just not spent enough time with her to have an opinion and just hates her now because of the drama at his wedding?

[@altijdmarley3383]

Finally something other than a cheating story

[@arhael3594]

NTA. You are not entitled to proportional reaction. Don't F around, if you don't want to find out. OP should feel zero guilt for what she did, MIL can enjoy the consequences of her actions.

[@MikeyCh09]

Dumbest response I’ve read. Proportionality is key to every conflict otherwise everything would end with nukes and divorce, every minor argument would result in shootings in the street.

[@d-1381]

Unpopular opinion: OP shouldn't have fallen for the very obvious money trap and at least she SHOULD have discussed it with her husband before buying the dress.

[@cavey001]

That minecraft was making me dizzy. Is that the only way to capture a GenZ's attention? 😂

[@KenW418]

All the noise in the background makes me dizzy. Does anybody actually listen to the story. I just mute it and watch minecraft.

[@cavey001]

@@KenW418 Ha! Touche'.

[@itz_kim.]

I loved this hats off to the OP

[@penguinpingu3807]

Bruh, that's the dumbest reason to be mad at someone. Even Christina's BFF understands.

[@FlipTheBard]

Wow...Martin saying that what OP did was "too much" and basically blaming her for what happened at his sister's wedding, COMPLETELY ignoring the fact that his sister could just not have been a big asshole and nothing would've happened!Or even HE could've done something to shut his sister up before it reached that point. Guess to him it was fine for OP to get humilliated but it wasn't fine for her to SPEAK FACTS IN PUBLIC, huh?! What an eunuch, clearly not husband material if he's so blind to the truth.

[@issnake1109]

Yeah mistakes were made but Husband figured it out in the end, I don’t think he deserves that much backlash. Maybe a bit selfish but he still chose his wife

[@slayerwytch2032]

I guess that Christina was the type of person that peaked in high school… Christina could dish it and not take it… grow up Christina

[@fluffyqueenbee6579]

I get it now this Christina person made her maid of honor because she knew that Op made more money then her and just using her to buy a very expensive dress

[@ibnkhaldoun4319]

i actually think that would have not been so bad if she were just decent about the whole thing.

[@MistressOP]

I doubt Christina is all around a evil human being shes just petty and dumb sometimes. But what shocked me is her getting the money for the dress out of her and then being rude. It's like you been awful to this woman from the jump and now your doing this? makes no sense.

[@ibnkhaldoun4319]

maybe not evil, but she was stuck up & mean spirited, and needed to be taught a lesson.

[@kennycai8695]

Not evil, just extremely entitled. She only buttered up OP cause she did not have the money, and once she did, OP was no longer of any use or value to her, hence she switched back to her true self. I think this is also narcissism in a sense, cause she is projecting on behalf of her friend, the one who had a crush on her brother (OP's husband).

[@AvazBr4celets]

Stopping the kids from saying first 💪 💪🔥🔥🗣️🗣️

[@asnalem4391]

This comment is as stupid and useless as saying first you basically said first in a different way...

[@julielikesunicorns348]

She stayed with her husband which i guess is up to her buy holy shit when she said this one bad thing was not enough for her to leave him because overall he was a good partner like he prioritised how others looked at him over the fact that his wife was being berated by his own family. He was too busy being mad to actually be a husband. Massive L. Wouldve divorced him on the spot because that shows where his priorities lie and its not you.

[@bearfare]

I personally think OP didn't go far enough NTA

[@ladylily]

Thank you! Legally, that bridal gown belongs to OP. She could have done anything she wanted to it ... just saying.

[@chetlajackson9060]

Sil got every drop of what she deserved. It's time to move on from that family. Martin didn't protect or defend you from his sis or his family. Instead he chose to gaslight and ignore you. NTA

[@TaoT-T]

Nta. It wasn't the best way to go about it but at the time for OP it probably was the only thing she could think of that could get that witch to stop. Not to mention, this entire thing was started because of Christina being a dumbass with no good reason to hate OP.

[@Raaslen]

We have to start normalizing calling out people's bad behavior

[@ladylily]

"They've always been great to me" after all this time of letting the B treat you like garbage and expecting you to be the one to continue extending the olive branch. Sure. I want to say she should divorce him and leave that family, but she's already settled into being their whipping boy.

[@christopherbull7856]

Op should of been suspicious of the sudden change of behavior when it was she just creeping around to use her for money

[@chaitraa2529]

Just curious, was Christina's friend at the wedding and she started treating OP bad again to show her friend that her loyalty lies with her still? Wierd to hold grudge on behalf of someone else

[@gabrielapetrilli9852]

First rule of shopping for a wedding dress. If it’s not in your budget then don’t get it, even if it’s your fantasy dress. That’s why they always ask about your price range. Also OP actions were definitely justified.

[@Jermbot15]

Yeah, I dunno. If she's the only one who thinks what Christina said about her was a big deal, she might be the problem. Especially given how thoroughly she went on to say how great the rest of her in-laws were.

[@valenmejia2135]

Really? He hear her being publically humiliated and when she reacts he goes "what about meeeeeeee?"

[@Mohammedaslam-pz6bf]

Karma for the sil 💀😂😂

[@alzhencs]

OP embodies the saying: "Even the nicest people have their limits. Don’t push them too far and don’t try to reach their limits, because the nicest people can also be the scariest when they've had enough." Christina effed around and found out. I guess it really true that angering a usually nice person will produce undue consequences

[@RadFoxDude]

Wow nice job copying

[@Nefferduat]

How is it that even in these obviously fake stories where the OP is supposed to be the kind, rich, beautiful heroine with the patience of a saint they can never manage to not make the OP sound fucking unbearable?

[@samanthadetgen5041]

And theres the snap...

[@Unicornlover12895]

Martin is definitely in love with the sister. You deserve better. You honestly did nothing wrong you just put her in her place

[@Someloser3232]

Thank god that Martin is a level headed person. He’s not excusing her actions and understands that his sister is just as awful and most likely the instigator. And I’m sorry but your best friend having a crush on your brother being the basis of your hate is so stereotype mean girl bs

[@itremore]

Martin is NOT a level headed person. A level headed person would not treat their spouse like crap like that for what OP did at the wedding. That was an abusive move and shows that he either has issues or is an issue.

[@ezonplays2260]

​@@itremore finish the video first then come back. Bitxh

[@KenW418]

He gave his wife the silent treatment for a week until she apologized only then to tell her that he doesn't think she needs to. All he cared about was how his image and reputation with the family was affected. That's childish behavior, definitely not level headed.

[@Gabreya]

@Someloser3232 Are kidding me?! Martin is far from level headed. Dude didn’t speak to his wife for a week and blamed her for his sister’s horrible behavior towards her.

[@ladylily]

Martin is a "level headed person" when he gets his way after manipulating his wife.

[@1Scimetar]

If any players of Minecraft are jealous of the player in the background of the ending, with the water freezing into ice for you to walk/climb on, then listen up. That's the effect of the frostwalker enchantment. Just think hard when you're going for it, since I think frostwalker and featherfall, which will make you fall like a chicken if you walk off of something tall.

[@benitomartinez2106]

I'm not saying she shouldn't of been mad at her sister in-law but blowing up a weeding for everyone else is wild AF

[@christianthrasher8677]

I hope op showed that text to the rest of her husbands family

[@Rains215]

The reason for SIL hating OP is the most childish thing I've ever heard.🙄

[@dariusandrews5148]

Martin is a fool choosing his family or his wife

[@indnwkybrd]

IMHO, OP's nuanced feelings about her own behavior (i.e. that she probably could've handled it more maturely, but Christina also took advantage of her & cynically manipulated her just to get that $3500 dress, so she had it coming) were more or less on point. But a sorry-I'm-not-sorry non-apology reflecting OP's authentic feelings - or an inauthentic apology offered for motives other than genuine remorse, such as social pressure from third parties - would've both most likely been seen for what they were, and only aggravated the situation anyway. If you're not _really_ sorry, then saying "I'm sorry" is basically just lying - and that's true _regardless_ of whether you're actually TA.

[@zeekay3205]

People don't realize that in almost all situations, nice people are presented with range of choices and they are very concious of these choices. They just act with more discrimination restraint. They have reactions but choose responses. It's how they are able to ascertain particularly what more likely would be nice in a specific context. They are not on autopilot like regular, normcore, mediocre people tend to be who can act on every very narrow and idiosyncratic impulse, emotion or whim, with little understanding of or consideration for their casualities. Nice people are hyperaware of others' feelings, situations etc in addition to their own, and thus are also acutely sensitive to when they are being wronged or even just slighted. It's that very niceness (acute awareness, understanding and empathy) that makes them dangerous because just as how they can choose one extreme (niceness), they can choose the other that may be beyond the conception of the instigator and catch them completely off guard as they sit confident and comfortable in their false sense of security. They also have the self control to calculate the worst course of act even if it requires delayed gratification. Lies hit like pistols, but truth goes off like a bomb - they can weaponize the truth of your own corruptions by merely acknowledging them. And the instigator won't get much sympathy from other fair or nice people because while the actions may be wrong, the results would be completely justified. Nos there are simple, naive, overly optimistic etc people out there- bit when they crack they have the same potential to make things really ugly if you break them at their limit. People are resilient but ther aren't infinitely indestructible. People who fight to preserve peace and harmony often can make the most vicious and calculated war lords because they have indepth understanding of dynamics explicity and consciously. Don't start no stuff - won't be no stuff 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Mystearicia]

Shameless and thick-faced of Christina to even ask the SIL she hated to pay for her wedding dress when she couldn't even afford it herself, what the actual fuck. And the reason she disliked the SIL is so damn immature

[@LunaDeaminac]

I feel sorry for Christina’s husband. His wedding was ruined to and he didn’t do anything to deserve that.

[@tiffanychill8219]

She used you to get a free dress from the get go !!!! I wouldn't ever !!! When you're married you are #1 to your husband and wife first and foremost !!!! I would never stay with someone who puts me 2 ever !!! They will be divorced after they have kids 😂😆😂😆

[@TheOneWhoSimps]

I'm telling ya, it's a coin toss if a woman matures past 16 or not....

[@iamhector24]

Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

[@Marleyskye]

Martin is such a loser he should’ve had his wife’s back

[@odywsmitt2375]

Unpopular opinion: a HUGE TA. Why in the world would someone think that doing that was justified? Yeah, Christina is a huge bitch and manipulated OP into buying her the completely unnecessary expensive dress, but what exactly has she done? Been a bitch to OP, commented on her appearance while introducing OP to the guests, but practically everything was done directly to OP. Then OP does this stunt of hers, making uncomfortable all of the people on the wedding. Had Christina's fiancee deserved this? Had her parents deserved this? I don't really think so. What she did ruined the wedding for so many people. On top of that, she gave her husband the silent treatment and focused on the fact that Christina was a b to her first. Well, yeah, but OP became an unforgettable b for everyone on the wedding. With this logic, if she'd beaten Christina to death right then and there, she would be in the right - cause Christina was a b first. What a childish logic. I also think her husbands reaction was completely justified. She did this and hasn't so much as spoken to her husband, just left and didn't call him or do explained herself in any way to him. He was completely right when he told her that there are literally infinite ways that she could've dealt with Christina. And still she argued "she wronged me first". Though his argument with "reputation" is worthless, he could've said that she just made the wedding uncomfortable for everyone, while literally nobody deserved this, except for Christina. Conclusion. OP's inability to control her emotions caused her husband being cut off from family, his family hates OP's guts. And the whole family supports Christina. Who has won in this situation? In this beef, you OP miserably. Congratulations to OP.

[@edenfieldjason]

Woooooow husband is a lil spineless baby

[@Kaziglu1]

The rich investment banker who... has to take a bus home...

[@ae1103]

Christina sounds so insufferable to be around

[@canineatnight6026]

Tbf. Op should have at least talk to martin befote shouting her lungs and head off. Nta for standing up to herslef. Just TA for doing it without thinking

[@victoriamiranda-stotelmyre4382]

🎼 Don’t push me 🎵 cause I’m close to the edge.🎶

[@wcheavyarms]

What about the $3500? That was the whole point of this post? Lol.

[@ConfettiPanda]

Anyone else think she should have just tried to rip the dress off of her like Cinderella’s stepsisters?

[@l0rdapophis]

Divorce him girl. He made his choice. Dee-vorse.

[@nunya3812]

I would stand behind my woman on whatever she says she is the one i married,carried my children and was there when my family was not if she makes a scene i will make a bigger scene igy6

[@katherinenelson7221]

If that how that family is red flag git you're $ and git out of that family

[@Mohammedaslam-pz6bf]

Also that husband behavior is a red flag Edit that husband is still good and good thing op apologised husband learned well

[@yeyosilver7067]

YTA literally did the same thing you say you hate about her

[@user-bn4cs6zu6r]

Honestly, OP was wrong in throwing a temper tantrum on Christina's wedding. Yes, Christina was acting like a bitch but OP didn't just ruin the things to Christina, she ruined it to EVERYONE ELSE at the wedding. Christina'd parents, her friends, her entire family. Up until op got cursed at by Martin's family she owed them an apology except for SIL. Now she just owes an apology to Martin and fuck the rest.

[@all_ar]

whats the song playing in background please

[@MikeyCh09]

ESH. Wouldn’t apologise to Christina but that reaction was disproportionate. Having a MOH just disappear from the wedding is already scandalous enough. This could’ve been handled more privately. And no, the reason for that is not for Christina’s sake but to avoid embarrassment to Martin and the in-laws. Fuck Christina but there’s no need for all the friendly fire.

[@tisrhino]

I think martin had a point I get that christina was being horrible but really? Screaming to all her relatives at her wedding, definitely too far and a bit childish

[@meknowcool8730]

Bro OP is such a jerk

[@teamoantony4507]

ok said all this and that about apologising to mark or park idk his name but i didn't hear nun of that js her justifying her actiobs

[@carolynneforlenza9743]

You should not have bought the dress...you got used by a user who never liked you...what did you think was going to happen?

[@uroosakhan2514]

NTA

[@mad4manga435]

U should semd the money back to her. U enjoyed that money.🤣

[@silv3784]

Honesty, OP chose the worst way to handle the situation and OP should have confronted Martin before going on a such a childish tirade. People in the comments seem to not realize that Martin had thought things were going great because he wasn't informed until OP went screaming on stage without a second care in the world. I would say that Martin's reaction is actually justified since he thought that everything was fine until the childish outburst that could have been handled behind the scenes, and then could have been taken to social media if things didn't go OP's way still. Christina might be the A-hole but OP sits right up next to them for the most bipolar reaction ever.

[@NoanIsVeryEpic]

Not really the worst way since she could've slapped Christina

[@Nepter8248]

As Sun Tzu's iconic Art of War teaches us, "Talk shit, get hit."

[@MrArielK]

@@Nepter8248in a newer update they got divorce

[@user-fz3us1fw4u]

Nta

[@DarkEinherjar]

Martin is an absolute keeper. As soon as his anger subsided, he couldn't have handled this situation more perfectly.

[@LadyZubat]

Except for the part where he's demanding OP apologize to his piece of shit sister who treats Op like garbage

[@ladylily]

He's a master manipulator and you're easily manipulated like OP.

[@gotenblack2542]

am on what others say ops actions dont make her a hero

[@Sorreltail768]

i dont really thinkg she was trying to be a hero

[@ibnkhaldoun4319]

she's definitely no angel. i concur

[@MrArielK]

She stoop down to SIL level, maybe even lower

[@Milky-kz8rr]

Op isn't a hero and Christina is kinda dumb for using Op. Idk what she was expecting to happen after doing a 180. It could have been handled better. If Op needed to apologize it should be for the disruption of the wedding not to Christina. At least she paid Op back.

[@LordChipmunk-sq8mz]

even though your SIL made fun of you, you cant just ruin her wedding and humiliate her in front of tons of people. your are the a hole