Entitled Daughter Calls Single Dad "Broke Loser" and Insults Dad Online for Not Paying $150k...

Entitled Daughter Calls Single Dad "Broke Loser" and Insults Dad Online for Not Paying $150k Wedding, He Simply Cancels Support.
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[@Rj-ij6ko]

I’ll be honest, Op’s daughter DOES sound like a complete brat, but Op isnt a saint either. Tbh the only person in this story who ISNT an asshole is the sister. Classic story of what happens when entitled kids grow up to be entitled adults.

[@benlasky9414]

Thank you! I was just going “yeesh your no prize either man the entire time”

[@Maninawig]

The saying "like father like daughter" did come to mind a few times.

[@elistewart3435]

But at least, they got together and started to work things out. To me, that is all that matters.

[@janapavlikova4553]

True

[@yeyosilver7067]

Who is saint?

[@hienho15]

Kids... If you decide to get married, you made an adult decision. Start paying like an adult. Your parents are done paying for your entitlement.

[@Maninawig]

I would add the caveat of expectation. Some parents actually want to pay towards the wedding, as they see it as the last time they get to support their child before emotionally accepting that they are an adult. I have actually heard from fathers what a mindf*ck it is to see their daughter in their wedding dress as it breaks their mind's perspective of that 6 year old daddy's girl.

[@hienho15]

@@Maninawig that's fine. That's the parent decision. But kids need to come into adulthood needing to understand that parents are not expected to pay everything they wants.

[@dominicw4723]

@@Maninawig yea i agree, parents paying for a wedding is kinda normal... or at least recieving help of any kind, like getting the venue paid for, or even suggestions on using the family house for the venue etc etc... Expecting a WHOLE LAVISH wedding to be paid for is... well.... you better check your silver spoon. That or if you are well off and are in an arranged marriage then maybe?

[@internetshortscomp5810]

parents.. raise your kids not to be spoiled

[@DemonLucifer875]

​@Maninawig no one here is stopping parents to pay for wedding but don't you think children should also know the financial condition of parents being little practical never hurts😅

[@Only1199]

Sister has her head screwed on correctly, she warned him about spoiling his daughter but like every parent who raises an entitled brat, he didn't listen.

[@becauselifts9913]

Sister is the only decent person in the story. OP is dense, OP's kid is spoiled.

[@erusdearest]

That was my aunt for my father. And thankfully, he heeded her warnings. We were never well off, but we were alright. And I know getting everything I wanted would have done damage.

[@vexxama]

And was correct in pointing out his double standard of only taking action when she was entitled against him. He even stormed off. They’re both self centred in their own ways, she’s spoiled and he gave her a pass since she wasn’t directing her actions at him.

[@Londubh]

Not listening is a common characteristic of someone who raises an entitled brat, and how the brat comes to be entitled in the first place: the parent doesn't listen to the people who raise concerns

[@fonandoozmando5961]

Both father and daughter sound like real pieces of work.

[@greasybumpkin1661]

Yeah he's an awful dad, going from a pushover to petty asshole demanding debts he never even wanted back, saying it purely just to hurt her. That's not a father who's teaching a person how to be an adult, he should never have had kids. I expect dead wife did all the child rearing before

[@Rhoen13]

I was really for the dad at first, apart of me still is but holy shit-like father like daughter I suppose...

[@fl-ri-]

75k is already a batshit insane amount to spend on a wedding, let alone 150k. Once again OP is a petulant child.

[@the_seeker.entity9206]

Depends if they're Indian Indian weddings are crazy. But you are right 40k is already a shit ton

[@tunasteak8396]

i stopped watching after seeing the 75k. Im like... 30k is steep for a lot of people, its what most make in a year after all. Let alone 75k, which is a salary of someone with a decent job. 150k is something someone doing well for themselves would make in a year am i measuring wedding expense off of salary? HELL YEAH I AM why the fuck are people trying to spend 5 years worth of pay on a day when signing the damn paper is at most 50$

[@BrianSmith-jx7td]

I'll bet my parents didn't spend 10000 on their wedding. And from what I've heard it was incredibly beautiful and so much fun. I remember them telling me my Grandma and all of my aunts did the cooking so the food was beyond awesome.

[@AbdullahKhan-hp2or]

​@@the_seeker.entity9206nah we indians do crazy weddings at low budget comparatively. 1crore wedding is absurd for an average upper middleclass family

[@michaell.3556]

75 is a price for a not so bad 1br flat where I live, lol. 150 buys you either a reeaally huge one or something nice in a new building with a terrace. Flushing it all down the drain in 1 day is just some alien language incomprehensible to humans

[@IMHip2]

150k for a wedding?! That is ridiculous.

[@thatsleepyman]

even the 75k wedding fund... who the fuck even needs 75k??

[@michellesantiago06]

Especially for a wedding she knew that was canceled smh

[@lordcirrhosisofliver]

Yeah, you could get 3 softcore hazbin hotel animations for that.

[@prophetofthemightysquirrel5434]

@@lordcirrhosisofliverImagine spending 50k only to become known as the king of gooners.

[@thatsleepyman]

@@lordcirrhosisofliver 💀

[@devydev3112]

"I didn't teach her to act like this, I just didn't teach her not to." 🙃

[@Vash_Carrison]

Me, who definitely needs therapy: "All these people need therapy."

[@KageKobushi]

Operah up here shouting to the crowd: "you get a therapy session and you get a therapy session and you! Therapy for everyone!"

[@rogerhurtubise2150]

Agreed, it's like my life might be a cluster fuck, but atleast I'm not that bad

[@chadisnotachad]

Two flawed people being able to admit their faults and work through it? Happy ending.

[@DipreG]

This. Lots of people crapping on OP. But he held himself accountable and is working to better himself. Isn't that the point?

[@PurpleAce227]

While op isn’t wrong for not paying for the wedding he’s definitely at fault for raising her that way. I’m glad he could admit it but after hearing full thing it sounds like his daughter is exactly like him 😂

[@bruuh0_0]

Right? He acted just like her, even copying her words like a teenager I'm suprised at the amount of people suporting him, he created this whole situation by raising the brat like that

[@notmyrealname8445]

Exactly, they are both equally petty, immature, and not good people

[@notsoanonymous5786]

75K for a wedding is already huge omg did they springkle diamond on top of the cake or something

[@Maninawig]

I dunno if there is edible diamond... there is edible gold though. As for the price, I have seen some excuses for very expensive wedding dresses.

[@Olimar92]

Probably got the most expensive venue they could, with the most expensive catering, as well as expensive everything else as she wanted the whole thing funded by him including all the dresses for her and her bridesmaids.

[@1999moniz]

​@@Maninawigi mean diamonds are 100% carbon so i'd assume all of the are edible (assuming there arent sharp edges)

[@Maninawig]

@@1999moniz "Diamonds cannot be digested as they are impervious to acid. Acid is used to clean diamonds. Swallowing a diamond is dangerous as it could tear through the digestive track. If you don't have any issues, it will come out in the exact same condition as it was when it went in!"

[@1999moniz]

@@Maninawig I mean the same happens to gold, you dont digest it, it just goes out the same.

[@ninjastorm540]

It's sad how the daughter treated her ex who cheated on her multiple times better than her father who did everything for her. OP couldn't afford her entitled wedding so she blasted him online. Yet her ex cheated on her and she initially decided to protect him from the backlash smdh

[@Syrin23]

"That was just $75,000". Wow, that's till $50,000 too much. She expects him to basically buy a HOUSE for a one day party.

[@nikolicpavle5055]

The sister is an absolute goat! She has every good opinion, didn't take sides, all the best to her!

[@lg2m480]

At first I felt bad for him, but as he kept speaking all I can think is that it was well deserved. He created a monster and now it bit him in the butt. They deserve each other and it's incredible how he admits to his faults but can't give an apology or discuss things like an adult, in that sense he seems even worse than the daughter.

[@austenbaber7397]

If my dad was still here and I talked to him like this spoiled brat did her own dad, I wouldn't be here to comment. Heck my very existence would be erased and no one would be able find me because I would be 6 feet under 😂

[@Izzy-]

My Asian dad would have made sure to leave no signs of my presence. Well, I was NEVER raised as "daddy's little princess", seeing everyone being praised often made me jealous and this post makes me sad. Even tho I just want a little feeling that my parents are proud of me but nevertheless I've never heard them praising me. Life sucks man...

[@roevhaal578]

If what you're saying is genuine then your father was a terrible person and father.

[@thousandyardgavri2785]

Wait so your dad is capable of doing that to his child? Or is that a figure of speech

[@Maninawig]

Sorry for your loss.

[@Izzy-]

@@thousandyardgavri2785 I'll tell you mine. I'm 18 and my parents have a very significant presence in making my life choices, since they're paying for everything. I'm nobody to speak against them until I'm independent, and If I ever did something wrong like making some significant choices my parents will surely cut me off. And make sure I don't see them ever again, I'm currently living with my parents so if I misbehaved badly or didn't listened to them I'll surely get beated with broom or something. I'll be emotionally exhausted from all their taunts and fight that they'll be blaming each other for raising a ungrateful brat like me. So from a early age (yeah, when I was you my mom use to beat me for scoring low or misbehaving) I learnt to zip my mouth especially in front of my father. I don't talk with him much since he's never home, he never hitted me but it's emotionally exhausting to have a convo with him. And in the end I just end up guilt tripping because my father works so hard and I can't even do what he said. So yeah, I avoid talking to him but heyy I've my lil bro, and I do love my parents tho. And growing up almost every parent I knew were almost like this I guess? Except few. Idk I'll soon move out for college and will grind hard to secure a good job to move to another country where I can use my independence hehe.

[@reillycurran8508]

JUST 75k he says as if that isn't a giant amount

[@gwenrichard7507]

🙄Its an apology. Not a hostage negotiation. If your apologies are dependent on if you know they will be accepted or if they are sorry first, you are disingenuous. "I'm sorry for what I've said and done. I would like to maintain space for awhile." Put it this way, I would rather spend a hundred dollars to know that my friends are genuine rather then find out later when they cheat me out of a dollar. Same energy, I would rather apologize when I don't think I'm entirely in the wrong to see if the relationship is worth keeping.

[@essienbaruti1388]

Normally I would say the "give me back everything I paid for" would have been too much but since she said "his wife probably died cuz he neglected her" all bets were off

[@Fiercetits]

GOOD LORD!! OP failed as a parent is an understatement, glad he never had any other children.

[@davidnash8208]

Parents are not solely responsible for raiaing bad children. It's ridiculous to beleive otherwise.

[@alext9320]

@@davidnash8208 You are absolutely correct. However, in this story, his treatment of his daughter directly correlates to the issues that she has now. Her entitlement is a result of him spoiling her. It's ridiculous to look at the kind of person she is, look at the upbringing he gave her, and say that those two things are unrelated. And the person you're responding to never said he was solely responsible, they said he failed as a parent. You straw-manned what they said.

[@davidnash8208]

@@alext9320 I said "Parents are not solely responsible.." The key word being 'solely'.

[@alext9320]

@@davidnash8208 Yea I know. I pointed out that the person you're responding to never made the claim that parents are solely responsible. What you said was just kind of irrelevant, you were debating an argument that no sane person would make.

[@davidnash8208]

@@alext9320 At least I wasn't rude about it. Perhaps you could make your points without being rude.

[@susanrand512]

You created a monster, she's an adult now, let it figure it out.

[@neeee.21]

Crazy how people are so dependant on social media for such personal ordeals.

[@heyyitsjanea]

“just $75k” man get out my face 😒

[@ihsekihsir0453]

But he needs a loan 😅

[@user-qf1bb7nm8s]

1:46 “Just $75,000”? Jesus Christ. Does this kid know how extravagant a $75,000 can be? Jesus.

[@phionella7]

Two narrcasists, op's sister must be a saint to be able to deal with those two.

[@adrianaespanarecio1687]

Even 75k is too much for a wedding!!!

[@89wolfcub]

Op sister is a walking W. I wish everyone is blessed with a sister like op’s sister. Also, why didn’t she get her boyfriend/fiancé family to help pay for the wedding if she wanted it so bad.

[@Gaia-Chosen]

I can imagine how bratty your daughter acted growing up and your sister really tried to warn u.

[@funakfunak2740]

Gotta love that his last lesson for her was "You don't need to keep your promises, because other people don't keep their promises"

[@ayceinquisitor190]

That's not really what OP said, and I wont disagree with exposing a cheater. I get the worry though about that lesson since he hasn't done a good job setting examples for her.

[@gamerz-brother1945]

I watch this and only feel that how much that father felt after hearing those words from his own daughter Hope he is alright

[@manwithnoname691]

$75k should be plenty.

[@cherilynlarsen8104]

Who thinks spending $150000 on a wedding? The wedding fund is $75000 and that's not good enough??? Good grief, this girl needs a reality check. On the other hand Dad is also very immature.

[@low-keydrama1260]

I’m sorry but finding your partner cheated on you and a dirt bag isn’t an excuse for snapping at your parent for not being able to pay for your wedding

[@chugughchctr]

Isnt even connected at all

[@f687sNFM]

imagine thinking your parents should pay for your wedding and college

[@meryemsaryar7726]

welcome to türkiye. there is also tea and dessert service enjoy :)

[@woodside4life]

Considering how the OP raised her, it’s not unimaginable.

[@dashiyamonique2983]

Eh, most people pay for their children’s colleges and that’s the best thing to do to set your child up for a good life without debt, maybe you’re just an American looking at this though.

[@dudeorduuude5211]

​@@dashiyamonique2983Americans are the worst for debt from student loans from their overrated, overunflated schools. They are no role models for healthy finances.

[@shaunfox1391]

75K wedding fund is underfunded? All these people suck!

[@charliegone1652]

I just don't get spending so much money on a wedding, why not use it for a house down payment or something...but for a wedding. To me it's just dumb.

[@African_Blade]

as i get older (i m 20) i have been appreciating my dad although he doesn't talk much or we really didn't spend much time together as i have gotten older i m seeing that his working hard my only hope is to repay him some day in future 🙏🙌

[@MissLeigh232]

He screamed at his daughter to pay him back for the things he's bought her since she was 18, then hung up the phone when he was done screaming. She sends him a check, and he's upset about it. "I didn't want her to pay me back, I wanted an apology!" What did OP expect? She was literally doing what he screamed at her to do. She's an obnoxious brat, but her father sounds just as insufferable.

[@HauntedGalMars]

She was willing to throw her father under the bus for something. He didn't do... neglect her.. but she wasn't willing to out her cheating boyfriend until he told her to?

[@Dashin15]

"Only $75,000" That is a lavish wedding already! And that wasnt enough? What a brat.

[@thevexprojecthd7620]

That's a good way to be written out of the will...that kid is inheriting air.

[@Onthebluffs]

Even 75k is a ridiculous amount of money for a wedding. What a waste of money.

[@bigrivtodagled8210]

Yep, this is all OP’s doing, he did not teach her and this is the result. OP is the AH because his daughter apologized and realized what the root of her problem was: him. He didn’t apologize to her for screwing up her upbringing, he is proud and not in a nice way, the daughter is so much better than him.

[@HellstreamGames]

Notice how the first thing they do together after patching up, is to immediately hurt someone else, albeit someone who deserved it, but still 😅 She grew up to be exactly like her dad

[@dudeorduuude5211]

That is exactly what I thought. He raised her to be entitled, but he doesn't even have the necessary good traits to pass on to her.

[@LittleWerewolfPlushie]

Wow, she's actually gonna try and better herself. Was not expecting that.

[@alzhencs]

Entitled daughter ffed around around, and faced the consequences Great job dad, but he was still wrong as well!

[@daffawaffa]

He very clearly did not do a great job as a dad

[@Maninawig]

Just noticed you said around twice as I was going to repost what you said but replace 'daughter'with 'father'. He could use some family counciling to learn how to be a better dad.

[@alzhencs]

@@ManinawigI agree with you too, but the daughter was also in the wrong by taking advantage of the dad.

[@Maninawig]

@@alzhencs yeah, both were in the wrong.

[@alzhencs]

@@ManinawigI agree

[@ladyweasellou3367]

I will never understand these people who just assume/believe both college and wedding are the financial responsibility of their parents. That's just selfish, makes little to no sense and they clearly need to work on their entitlement issues.

[@heyyitsjanea]

well…at least we can see exactly how trisha turned out the way she did

[@vexxama]

Op types: allegedly “spoiling” Should type: “allegedly” spoiling He 100% did did spoil her and that allegedly had no place in the sentence. He makes it seem like the implication of him spoiling her is ridiculous, but by his own words he never punished her for her actions in the past and funded her adult life more than he should have

[@TheShadowSentinel]

I just hope that OP's daughter learned a valuable lesson in this whole mess - don't trust cheaters.

[@kk6aw]

Who in their right mind pays that type of money for a wedding that may not last 6 months in todays world. My marriage has lasted 55 years but today probably not 6 months. Todays world is insane.

[@chessieray1465]

I hope that they can reflect, repair and improve. But my God, the ball was dropped so many times.

[@marthajackson1388]

Horrible father and a horrible daughter.

[@taetannim3581]

So, OP gave his daughter money instead of attention or a sense of family and he was fine with that, until she got made when he plainly stated that her wedding is not as important as a business deal? Yeah, ESH. OP sounds like an enormous baby, not a parent. Way to absolutely wreck the shambles of your relationship with your daughter.

[@NigraeLegiones]

A business deal has a return, a wedding is a straight loss. Idk whats complicated about that and its a very stupid comparison. Plus he seemed to have an issue when she called him a broke looser and implied her mothers death was his fault. Not defending the father, but you seemed to have missed some details. Hell even after her initial blow up he still was willing to giver her 75k, it wasn't until her fb post she lost everything.

[@chandrarice9000]

$150,000 for a wedding??? Hell that's a house!!!!!

[@GamingWithAlex21]

2:02 They’ve only been together for a year that marriage is not gonna last long, especially with her being a spoiled brat

[@Bijecarli]

This sounds like it was written by a 10th grader.

[@lizlemonline2951]

Op isn’t 100% blameless. But the moment she said he caused his wife’s death, I’m sure he wasn’t trying to be nice.

[@tableslayergaming]

Being a sucker runs in the family it seems, atleast the dad has a reason for it. What amazes me is that the daughter treated her cheating boyfriend better than her father.

[@Sam-ql4ze]

Didn’t have much time to save and only 75k in wedding fund? Math ain’t mathin

[@Cyberwaddles]

😅 still crazy there's dad's like this. If I ever talked to my dad that way I wouldn't be here 😂

[@Yue_Jin]

Even 70k is crazy for a wedding.

[@dawnyakathem5374]

so, he raised a monster and now that she's targeting him he's mad. There is no undoing 20 something years of enabling.

[@liciewhiteley7376]

My mom and sister used to fight all the time. They were the two that were most alike. Every relationship goes through ups and downs. They'll get through it

[@RealSarasLife]

75k my dad didn't give $1 on my wedding

[@drifter139]

the hero of this story is sister. she told OP exactly what would happen if he kept spoiling his daughter and he acted as though he knew better and ignored her. now he has an entitled adult to deal with and no one to blame except himself

[@Yamyatos]

I "only" saved 75k for her wedding. Man this family is really well off. I couldnt even imagine *wanting* to spend that kind of money on a wedding. But maybe that's just me. Cant imagine getting wed in the first place and if i did it'd be a small gathering, as public events are as close to modern torture as it gets. But 75k? Even a car would be a more practical use of that money, and i fucking hate cars or driving lmfao

[@jsb1585]

What is it with people and expecting their parents to cover the cost of their extravagant weddings? You're making an adult decision, pay for it like an adult. A wedding is a privilege, not a right. You have the wedding within your means and deal with it.

[@nicolewilliams8671]

For a lot of people, religions, and cultures a wedding is giving your child away to their partner and the pay for it (if they can). Nowadays it’s more shared but they’re given money during the wedding parties/wedding

[@reshawshid]

9:33 "I don't owe her an apology." Yeah you do, you owe an apology for failing to raise her. 14:29 "I haven't replied to that message yet because I don't know what to say." Uh, how about, "I love you and I'm grateful that you've sincerely apologized, but all this has been so much that I just need time. Maybe we can have lunch together some time next week?" You know, like a mature adult? Good grief this guy isn't mature enough to have had children.

[@thabihotboy9376]

A father is a daughter's one true love

[@itamealves4382]

Tutorial.. how to SUCK as a father!

[@LocksAndChains]

I’m not gonna drag a dude who lost his wife right off the bat and clearly never got proper counselling for it. But what do I know? I’ll never be a dad because I know I’d suck.

[@shebagabow58]

My life this far has probably amounted to roughly that amount. NTA that’s a lot of money for a wedding, one day. Being accused of k!lling your wife was awful.

[@iononcantomascrivo]

It is absolutely not unusual for parents to overcompensate when they end up becoming a single parent due to their spouse passing away. Unfortunately, OP went overboard, spoiled his daughter and now she's an insufferable nightmare. He's not totally clean in all of this. They sound like they're both equally toxic individuals who have immature reactionary behavior to the most innocuous or inane things. The worst part, it doesn't sound like either of them are sorry for their gross lack of respect for boundaries and have nothing even in the same ballpark as a sense of accountability.

[@GeordieGunner96]

You don't let people like that back in to your life.

[@normallydistributed5474]

Dude thinks the grown up/parental thing to do is to play stand-off with his daughter instead of reaching across the bridge. smh.

[@alexanderbrandeis9400]

This story reminds me of my own life. I only had my mom though. She spoiled me rotten and I had the freedom of an adult and could use her money like I wanted to from a very young age. Now I'm 21 and trying to learn myself how to be a normal person and have discpline but it feels impossible sometimes. If you ever get kids remember that having rules is really for their own benefit.

[@artemislove2941]

it’s the fact she thinks that 4k is all the money he spent on her is so incredibly spoiled like what

[@PrismCasillica]

Emotionally stunted OP flies into rage easily and refuses to own up to his mistakes wonders why his daughter turned out like him. 🙄 Edit: He probably sent the money back so he can have a "reason" to be mad at her. What a tool.

[@creflot]

Yeah the girl should have been raised a better but it still baffles me that anyone can grow up to be so naive as to bite the hand that feeds her.

[@ashleymoore6665]

Omg. This is my sister and her husband’s future with their daughter! This is how she has been since elementary school and is still like this now.

[@MeteorSmash]

It's good that op and his daughter are getting therapy because they both need it. However I must glad op convinced his daughter to expose her cheating fiancee because he should not be allowed walk away without repercussions.

[@jonghwabiased8671]

Both OP and the daughter sound like nightmares. This is why some people shouldn't be parents.

[@dominonine]

Thankfully for OPs daughter she got some self-awareness from somewhere because god knows that wasn't a value system instilled by her father. OP is a horrendous parent and it's kind of sad that his sister wasn't able to more involved because none of this would have happened otherwise. OP and his daughter need to do an AA apology tour because they've undoubtedly wronged a lot of people, OPs sister first and foremost.

[@thomastheawesome4822]

Both Dad and Daughter need to go to therapy. Dad is dealing with some serious shit in his head and so does the daughter.

[@billyduffany3387]

First of all, $75000 is a lot for a wedding. Kids are only kids once and every parent wants their kid to have a better life than they did, and kids don't come out with directions.

[@ondank]

OP is such a bad dad that I actually struggle to feel negatively about the kid. OP literally says he wanted her to believe she could have everything ... Then is surprised that she blows uo when told no. He then says awful things to her. Truly despicable things to her and doesnt think he has anything to apologise for. And to make it all worse. His sister warned him. He ignored all the red flags and warnings and only got mad when the monster bit him. The daughter even tried to do as he asked. And he still was incapable of putting his pride and communicating. His phone call with her was rancid

[@ChimObiajulu]

OP is a terrible father. His sister is 100% right, he is crying about being on the receiving end of his daughter's vitriol. And even after reconciling, he isn't entirely holding her accountable.

[@lucintamirzani4332]

OP get angry at daughter because she apologies just because of the backlash and not because actually reflecting. also OP literally on the first update: " i apologies to my sister because i cant have her turn her back on me". that guy really deserves everything that came to him.

[@KatVWine]

The dad yelling at his daughter is literally justified. Yes, he spoiled her and created this monster but this girl went out of her way to confidently talk trash about her dad being the 'cause' of her mothers death. Im just glad in this case, spoiled child finally opened her eyes after her dad yelled at her, and dad opening his eyes to how he has been taking and handling her. Glad they now doing better and getting therapy.

[@davidnash8208]

He did not create a monster. If parents are responsible for how their children turn out bad, the parents of criminals should slo be sent to prison.

[@ayceinquisitor190]

​@@davidnash8208 you are making very binary comments with no middle nuance. You are making contradictory/antagonistic comments but adding nothing of value to any discussion, yet call other people rude for challenging your claims. 1. Criminals are most often criminals because of environment problems (not enough money to survive, cannot meet basic needs) so blaming parents for crimes makes very little sense (unless the parents are also criminals, teaching their kids to do crimes, your comparison adds nothing substantial to conversation. It comes off as a throwaway "nuh-uh, you're wrong!!") 2. Parents can and often do perpetuate cycles of abuse. At some point a child grows into an adult who either fights that cycle or has given into it. The people and environment surrounding a kid as they grow can really impact how that kid is as an adult. It's not 100% the parents or the kids fault, but at some point they [as individuals] cross from victim to full perpetrator. 3. Parents might not be "solely" responsible but you cannot say it's either all or none. Parents set examples, teach values, and has some level of control over who is an acceptable peer or adult role model to a child. OP wasted seemingly every opportunity to correct misbehavior and raise his kid right. But he raised his kid by feeding her materialism even though she mistreated other people. So she became entitled to money, low emotional maturity and weakened social skills. She was never forced to face consequences and got anything she wanted. That's a literal direct consequence of OP's poor parenting.

[@davidnash8208]

@@ayceinquisitor190 Good lord, you're going to blow a gasket. I have no inention of reading such dribble, yes, I am being rude, but I am trying to be and you can't help it (acknowledgement to F.E. Smith)

[@Kevin7557]

Only has 75k..........75k would radically change my life. Owe I'm so sure the narcasist daughter was the one cheated on and the ex will give the exact same story.

[@crossanddream2]

My stepdad is someone who doesn't like saying no to me and my older brother since he knows that we have shitty bio dads and he genuinely loves us as his kids. On the very rare occasion we would ask something from him that we wanted since we knew he would get it, but we never abused his kindness. We didn't need him to buy stuff for us or spoil us for us to love him. He made us feel better about having shitty bio dads by just simply being there, it didn't involve spoiling us since he didn't want us to be raised as spoiled brats. The few occasional spoiling, which were small things. He succeeded where our bio dad and op had failed to as a parent

[@thedarknessofnana]

I’m a single mom who co-parents with my daughter. I’m trying to raise her in a balanced way and make sure I don’t just teach her right and wrong, but _why_ these things are right and wrong. My parents spoil her enough for all three of us anyways, so she’s not short of privilege there. 😂 They actually make it hard to discipline her sometimes cause then I have to explain why Papa and Nana are treating you like so when I say “You have to be fair and give others a turn sometimes.” 😅 But she’s well adjusted when she leaves the house, so I think she’ll be alright.

[@serenitea2435]

Well. At least they both come to realize they were both the problem here.

[@spellmongerpettibone4324]

OP is 100% at fault.for not checking that attitude when she was growing up. The reap what you sow, fool.

[@babablacksheep506]

75K would be better spent on a downpayment for a house. OP’s daughter is dumb to expect 150K for one…. single…. day.

[@sanddagger36]

People who spoil others expect them to be grateful and even if they treat others poorly they can't imagine it happening to them, but then it always does. I wonder if it just something mental. If a person receives too much, then what they receive loses its value. If it looks like it is easy on the provider to spend money, then no amount will ever be enough. If it is hard on the provider to spend money, and the spoiled person has to pick and choose what they can afford, they learn value and appreciation. How can you appreciate something if 10 seconds later you already have something else to replace it.

[@Crazy49er]

Remember kids, the wedding industry, these bridezillas, and entitled brats with rich parents have cause this inflation in the wedding market. You can get married at the court house and spend money on a really nice honeymoon. Even a nice wedding can be had for 10-15k or less and frugal spending. Don't bankrupt the marriage before it even starts.

[@missmariu8574]

Op is so unbelievably immature. Its actually infuriating!!! Your supposed to set the example and your acting like a spoilt brat too???!!!, The sister is the back bone in this cause without her, he would NEVER have a relationship with his daughter ever again!!!!!,

[@southendsunxdsep]

People acting like the dad is bad doesnt understand how hard it can be for single parent even more if the other parent died You all forgot that raising a child is made by 2 people, not 1 He tried his best

[@FroggyGirlDreams]

I cant imagine breaking my fathers heart like that