Q & A Francis Chan - I'm Single Wanting To Be Married

With Permission from Crazy Love Ministries (crazylove.org/s...)
Francis Chan is asked "what advice would you give to a woman who is single and wanting to get married." Francis shares that we focus on the family more than the gospel second, and put often the marriage and family first. Marriage is temporary!
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[@naomielizabeth5471]

The answer to loneliness lies not in intimacy with another human being, but in Intimacy and Holy Communion with the Uncreated God.

[@pointbee9084]

Oh man - I am stuck between really agreeing with you and sensing that I need to appreciate community and other human beings around me as a single guy. Marriage is not the only form of community. On the other other hand people like the Apostle Paul lived a very lonely existence humanly speaking.

[@naomielizabeth5471]

I agree with you that it is important to appreciate the fellowship of others within a Christian community. The Christian community is a place where we can grow together in our walks with the Lord. When I mentioned loneliness in the previous post what I was referring to is a very persistent feeling of not having another person with which you can share your deepest affections, deepest thoughts, feelings, and secrets with. I struggled with loneliness for the longest time and thought that the only answer for me was to find a Godly person to marry. I realize now that this is not the case. I have found the greatest joy in fellowshipping with God through His Holy Spirit. Unlike any other person in the Universe He knows exactly what you are thinking and feeling and is able to understand exactly the kinds of trials you are enduring better than any other person out there. Ultimately God created mankind for friendship with Himself and there is not a more suitable person out there for the believer than the the Uncreated God who chose to send His Holy Spirit to come and dwell inside of the hearts of his people.

[@daniel100592]

Great explanation, Naomi. Screenshot worthy. Keep seeking God, sister :-)

[@aaroncorley3635]

Naomi Elizabeth lie

[@The4Tifier]

Actually it’s both. We were meant to have relationships with God and with people.

[@glassslippers]

This is the best marriage/singleness advice I’ve ever heard. It all boils down to being Christ centered. And the Lakers.

[@pointbee9084]

Francis Chan is like the only married person I would listen to about singleness...lol. :) I love the guy!

[@user-tb7iz1vf7p]

Yes...we cannot idolize marriage.

[@PeaceFan1]

The Kingdom, The Kingdom, The Kingdom!!!!!

[@calebwyatt1686]

That's really what's it's all about

[@christopherepperson3328]

Approaching 9 years as a young man from being in a relationship I realize that it isn't about the time your waiting. It is about the sovereign hand of God that has kept me for this long; whatever my lot, thou has taught me to say it is well.

[@veydap1379]

Wow, this is a mature answer....

[@Mhej908]

"Our life is a mission trip."

[@jeeolsen9993]

Amen for this.. Family and marriage is important. But gospel is so important

[@joseguilarte87]

Wow that was a lot better than I expected

[@TonyMiyamoto]

best advice i've heard

[@RachelMaegrace]

I've been praying and believing for a husband for so long and I pray that God will finally answer my prayers this year.

[@Lili-Benovent]

And when you find a husband you'll be praying for a divorce.

[@audriemelyn2034]

Did He give you a husband? Just curious!

[@yvonne1784]

Never be inward looking when relationships fail too. We find breakthrough in communion with Christ, he is the only truth and the way to life. There is bigger mission how God will use each person to save souls. Especially as his children, it is so important to understand our calling and never take any relationship for granted. Live in the spirit of God with clarity.

[@selahbrubacher9220]

Amen! This is what God tells me about relationships. I am taken by Jesus and when He wants me to enter a relationship with a man, I trust that He will make that happen. (Matthew 6:33) I want nothing but what His plan is for my life, and that starts today, not whenever I get into a romantic relationship.

[@jameswaterson3883]

Amen, those are exactly my thoughts!!!

[@Miss_Dani_DWhit]

True!!!

[@JH-qy8no]

It's interesting because I remember a time in the late 90s when there was a government program called "focus on the family." It was a TV block designed to promote the family. I remember thinking it was a good idea at the time.

[@JH-qy8no]

" focus on the family" was not a government program, sorry. It was a ministry that began in 1977. Even more interesting!

[@tamihenning5765]

I'm a 58 yr. Old widow wanting to be married again.🙏

[@mariahconklin4150]

I’m 36 almost 37 and God has it on my heart to be married when I’ve never wanted that in the past.

[@andreamills3675]

Aw I pray God's will be done and satisfies you with comfort, nearness, makes your heart whole. P.S. You are so young! My Mom is in her upper 50's and almost 60 and she feels so young to me... 60 is so young.. my Grandma just turned 80 and she is still kicking. You are young. You will be living forever for all eternity in Christ. Our bodies are temporary but you're going to live forever. You are so young. =)

[@marytitus88]

1 Thessalonians 4:11-12: Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before. Then people who are not believers will respect the way you live, and you will not need to depend on others.

[@tamihenning5765]

I'm a 58yr. Old widow wanting to be married again 🙏

[@ProductGrower]

Matthew 16:25: For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.

[@danishhald]

That was encouraging? Wow at 39 I feel like I’m maybe doing all of this wrong. My desires feel pretty small and insignificant in the light of what he talked about. They are though in light of working for the kingdom here on earth. Who cares about your desire to be with a woman and have a wife, just serve. Work for the kingdom and maybe it will happen. I don’t know. I do know that life is short. Hope the Lord doesn’t turn me away when we meet.

[@georgeklassen6937]

"When you focus on yourself and focus on the family your gonna destroy it", no more focus on the family ministries for me XD lol

[@by159w]

Lol I was thinking the same thing 🙊

[@jesusisalive8478]

Awesome teaching God bless u. Glory be to LORD JESUS CHRIST.

[@adishawoch5297]

A very different perspective...thanks Pastor !

[@leighholland5453]

Beautiful advice! Focus on the kingdom ~

[@harrihaffi2713]

matt 6:33

[@straightyours2752]

People “nasty people” made such fun of me, always telling me...”just stay single you’re a 35 year old it’s too late.” What do I do God!? Then Satan tells me, “Paul never had a wife!!” My name is not Paul, it’s Matthew!!! Regardless of the extreme negativity, GOD already answered my faithful plea. No one else but GOD. It doesn’t matter, my age isn’t the factor...GOD IS OUR FACTOR not people. My name is not Paul devils in disguise, my name is not Paul....!!!!

[@jonathancrawford3372]

Fire 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@downbntout]

God be praised. Yes.

[@lollic307]

I'm 39y old. Single and isolated. I'm OK. but I'd like to know how to get out there. I've never had good experience

[@crispwhite9068]

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[@lollic307]

@@crispwhite9068 thank you

[@crispwhite9068]

@@lollic307 you're welcome, I believe theirs a related video on it called more tips something something lol

[@mwakie]

Search Mountain of Fire Ministries or Dr Olukoya. You will find help.

[@okaygee4132]

@@gahbriel5303 Sadly, there are few serious God-fearing men online.

[@hlatkyo]

I understand this and yes, this is so important, but what about these verses: 1 Timothy 2:14-15 14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression. 15 Nevertheless she will be saved in childbearing if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control.

[@yeseniayanez9127]

I am a 32 year old woman. I was ok with my singleness until my 29th birthday, Now I am wanting to be married. I am praying and trusting GOD for my husband. Unfortunately I fell in love with an unbeliever.

[@Dreammovieofficial]

I get the desire. God will provide. But more importantly there are people that are dying and going to hell all around us and God desires that they would know Him and be saved. That’s why we are here. When his desires become more important to us than our own, you will have the desires of your heart

[@yeseniayanez9127]

@@Dreammovieofficial Thanks! thats so encouraging. I was actually praying yesterday about this. Pastor Chan had me thinking all day, I felt selfish and self-centered. I do pray and beg God to help me humble myself and just follow him. I have a lot of unbelievers around me, everyday (co-workers, family and friends) I would love to see them saved by God's grace.

[@straightyours2752]

Yesenia Yanez not a good idea! The kingdom isn’t based on “non belief......”

[@calebwyatt1686]

@@Dreammovieofficial Amen this the reality, and we must keep a kingdom mindset because of it

[@onceinawhile7]

You say unfortunately like it is what it is and your hands are tied ..

[@c_mahepath]

Best answer

[@HeatherDMorris]

Jesus said if at all possible , to be like Him ! Single

[@ericbreaux6124]

In Luke 20:36 Jesus states one of the reasons for not marrying and being given in marriage is because the righteous resurrected can’t die anymore but will be like the angels in heaven. The contrast to angels is not about sexual desire, he's contrasting mortality with immortality. Marry meant the male proposing for the woman to be his wife and being given in marriage meant the father giving her to the proposer, because she didn’t get a choice. It is actions done to be married, not marriage itself. Adam and Eve were married without marrying or being given in marriage. The reason for the sadducees question was that the levirate law required a person to marry someone if another died without children, so they thought if the woman hadn’t fulfilled the purpose of that law, she would still need to be married to them or they’d be sinning. If she did that, she and the men would commit polygamy which is also a sin so God wouldn’t resurrect anyone for eternity. They assumed that all of Gods laws would still be applicable in a renewed world, not understanding that the entire reason for recreating is to restore the conditions before those laws were needed, which included sexual passion. Marriage remaining does not contradict Jesus answer to the sadducees, because the woman they asked about is only required to marry any of those men with the levirate law. The law ending does not forbid her from being married to a different man, It's a false dilema. Jesus mention of not being able to die would make no sense unless he only meant legal customs to marry, because death is not a reason for marriage itself. It says in Revelation 20:6 that those who are awakened in the first resurrection won’t suffer for eternity. These are the same people worthy to attain that age in the prophecy in Isaiah 65:17-25. If Jesus said that those worthy to attain the age of the resurrection won’t marry or be given in marriage and those same people are said elsewhere to continue being married and reproducing, that’s proof that Jesus only meant legal marriage customs would no longer apply. Remarriage is allowed after a spouse's death, what Paul even describes as being free from the law, to compare it to being free from the mosaic law because of Jesus resurrection. The only way that analogy works is if marriage can continue, just with someone else, or it would be teaching that being free from the law eliminates sacrifice for sin too, but there remains a sacrifice for sin, just by a different method. That means the law is not needed to be married or else Adam and Eve would have to have sinned for a law to be needed for marriage. Paul wrote that the law was only necessary because of sin. Would any of the people who heard Jesus answer been amazed at it if he meant sexual feelings and relationships would be eliminated? I’m pretty sure Jews had as much sexual desire as most other people, so would have felt despair if that was the context. At the beginning God said for us to be fruitful and multiply with no indication it was to ever stop. It is stated nowhere in the bible that there would eventually be no more room to fill. There would need to be a bigger earth to fit all people and animals, including insects, that have ever lived by the time of the resurrection. God expands the entire universe, doing the same to any planet shouldn't conflict with his plans. Marriage was the only thing God said during the original creation that is not good to be without before creating it. He made Eve to complete humanity, brought her to Adam, and after that, it says for this reason shall people be united with a spouse to become one flesh, not for this reason shall people reproduce a specific number of people. Jesus repeats this in Matthew 19:4-5 and Mark 10:6-7 and Paul does in Ephesians 5:31. If gender remains, the reason for marriage does. The purpose of the marriage relationship is itself: it has to exist to be fulfilled. A marriage partner was made to eliminate loneliness, so simply being without friends of the same race isn’t the loneliness God meant, that’s an assumption. If Jesus answer to the sadducees meant no one will be married, then us being male and female is not the reason for marriage, and contradicts those texts, as well as the promise to restore all creation. If God is the same forever and said it's not good to be alone, then the opposite can't also be true. God did not declare everything very good until he made marriage, because there was no longer anything missing needed to make anything better. The conditions of the original creation don't need improving. Many Christians have claimed that something unspecified would be needed to make life better forever and also make sexuality useless, ignoring the fact that marriage was something needed for creation to not be missing anything good. It's contradictory and more akin to Buddhism than Christianity. If having something better is a reason to eliminate sex, it's a reason to eliminate everything God made, and we should all just feel Gods presence, getting joy from that and never being with anyone else or doing anything else for eternity. If simply having a sinless relationship with God makes marriage unnecessary, then God would have had no reason to create gender and sex, because God and Adam already had the kind of relationship people will have with him in the renewed creation, before Eve was made. If God eliminated sexuality then the features that distinguish the genders faces and body shapes for sexual attraction, and parts used for sexual pleasure and reproduction would all be wasted. Gender having other functions is no reason to get rid of any of them. They're all part of what makes us the genders we are and God doesn’t create anything expendable. The human female figure is shaped the way it is to fit babies during birth, and sperm, egg cells and wombs are used only for reproduction. keeping a libido is justified. If people interpret Jesus answer to the sadducees as claiming no one will be married anymore, then they can't consistently claim we'll be married to Jesus as a replacement. God is described as a husband to his people in parts of Hosea, Jeremiah and Ezekiel and that wasn't meant to replace marriage, because they are used as analogies, just as the wife of the lamb is in Revelation. They are different types of relationships that fulfill different desires. If marriage is a representation of Jesus redemption, then sin would have been necessary, so Jesus would have a reason to found church. God is not going to create something that requires what he hates. If you are made unable to care about something you're passionate about, regardless if you want to keep that drsire, it's manipulation of free will. There being people who dont care for it does not make it free will for those who want to keep it to have no choice but to not care. That's a false equivalency. They think that because they don't think of the consequences of losing that passion for eternity, that wanting to keep something God said wasn't good to be without is the problem. They're obsessed simply with being eternally satisfied that they don't understand that it's only hopefull because it's by restoration of all God made for our joy, not a replacement to change our will for any of it. That would make anything God made for us irrelevant. There's a whole book devoted to the joy of sexual passion: Song of Songs, and has no indication that marriage is useless without reproduction. There isn't a bible book entirely about the joy of any other creation. Heaven isn’t the final destination, it’s the renewed earth. The only thing that needs elimination is what sin did. www.crossway.org/articles/10-things-you-should-know-about-the-new-heaven-and-the-new-earth/ www.google.com/amp/s/relevantmagazine.com/god/what-does-it-mean-that-god-will-restore-everything/amp/

[@trpimirkarlovic838]

He should have acknowledged that sexual satisfaction is in fact important. This sounds like our needs do not matter at all. Yes, seek Kingdom of God first, but ignoring sexual desire God has put in you won't do you any good. Also, I disagree that everyone should do mission trips, that is so unnecessary when you can preach to the people in your own village, town or city. Stop making Christianity about one thing, when there is so much more to it.

[@lasttime761]

How can I serve the Lord as an older person who doesn't get out because no car limited ability to get out so little interaction with others Living alone. In my solitude can I serve the Lord????

[@ericmusgrave7263]

@last time -In times of loneliness, I find that one awesome way to serve the Lord is through prayer. We have access to the Creator, and that access remains no matter what situation we r in.

[@calebwyatt1686]

The internet is a great place to get out and reach people! Praying that you are able to find purpose no matter your situation or phase of life! God bless

[@B10401]

You can be a great listener and source of wisdom. God might be preparing you in this season, your wisdom etc., for people he will miraculously put in your life to minister to. Pray for it to be so if it is his will.

[@philipmois]

Is that man that posed the question named Mr. Gluck?

[@milkandhoney7879]

people need a better understanding of scripture. there actually is an eternal marriage. read the sealed portion of the final testament of YAHUSHA. it speaks about how marriage IS actually a big deal and it’s long lasting effects in the spirit.

[@byborg4798]

Just tell me marriage is of god , marriage is beautiful. We want to be married.

[@lisamgonzales73]

High 5 to your answer to question#1...😁

[@VaradiAttila]

First definition of woman in the Bible is "help meet". Interestingly God didn't create a "single woman" she was immediately a "wife". More interestingly the man had a name "Adam" by God but the woman didn't have any name only when the man named her (authority and property). All main story in the old testament teaches us that it's not the man looking after a wife and courting or pleasing her. But the help meet comes to the man sometimes even from a long distance unknowing the look and character of the to-be husband. If women realised they are HELP and that "My help comes from the Lord" the ladies won't just sit waiting for the Prince riding on a white horse but they prepared themselves how to be help and meet (suit to the man) and after repentance their first prayer should be "Lord which your son you send me to help him doing your calling?" No such thing designed as a "single woman". This is a long study but let it be enough for making you think.

[@dblessedprincessofgod7137]

Thanks!

[@angelaechon4083]

This make sense. Thank you!

[@okaygee4132]

How does Paul's admonition that he wished we could all remain single connect with that?

[@kaleipham6006]

@@okaygee4132 haha, I had that same thought

[@victoriadupte2277]

OKay Gee That is exactly what I was about to ask!

[@androv2749]

Yes and almost everyone will be doomed :) nice message

[@TheJust22az]

Can you do a video on "I am married wanting to be single'?

[@tabletmaster291]

20s and worrying about Marriage lol

[@Sbannmarie]

He’s a trip.

[@emyvivier2598]

Christ return. God's Kingdom. What is it? Before the 1st human pair sinned and WE HUMANS LOST PARADISE. God ruled earth! Now Jesus will bring God's Kingdom to renew earth to its Biological Paradise it was! TO BENEFIT ALL LIVING ENTITIES! FOR INFO? ASK JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES

[@Sbannmarie]

He’s a trip.