Bros, Quit Telling Women How to Lift

I posted this on Instagram several months ago and wanted to share it here on KZbin. This needs to stop. If women want to only train their glutes, that’s their prerogative. Bros, quit telling women how they should train, quit giving unsolicited advice, quit giving out wrong advice, and quit having double standards. It’s arrogant and annoying.
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[@livashby-tod3425]

Finally!! A man at the gym literally told me "abduction exercises are useless" "just do squats". I asked him what he does for glutes, and he said he doesn't train glutes. In fact, the ONLY leg exercise he does is the occasional squat session once a month. For so long in the gym I've only done band or abduction exercises when it's quiet and when men aren't around, purely out of fear of men judging me. Men want a girl with a big bum, but bash women by saying "women only train legs and glutes". Misogyny at it's finest. What they really mean is "I want a girl who is born perfect", as women are expected to be godly, flawless, maternal beings, disregarding the fact that women are just as human as them. To compliment this, I have seen women ask for upper body exercise advice from men several times, and not ever has the woman then told the man that the exercise they're doing is wrong or useless. Women deserve to take up space in the gym just as much as men do. Add in the fact that women who have given birth typically get the "mum butt", which is a natural part of the pregnancy and postpartum body, but then get called flabby when their body doesn't return to how it was pre-pregnancy within a few months. So "dad bods" are acceptable (even though they didn't even grow the baby) but the body of a woman who has grown an entire human from scratch isn't? Make it make sense.

[@Melisazu]

💯!!!

[@WGAGENCY]

Feel free to do whatever exercises you like but what he told you isn’t wrong. Sounds like you just got offended for him giving you great advice. Brett would agree with him as well. Who makes dad bods acceptable? Women. You should seek discussion with women over that problem.

[@siobhanbonnie]

@@WGAGENCY why are you in these comments harassing women for their opinion MY God you are LITERALLY mansplaining us about how to deal with a very real problem that YOU clearly have never experienced. Why is it so hard for males, ESPEICALLY YT one’s to understand that just bc you didn’t experience it doesn’t make it invalid 🤯🤯🤯

[@WGAGENCY]

@@siobhanbonnie your misandry is showing. She wants bigger glutes, she thought the best way to get there is by doing those exercises she mentioned. The man that gave her simple and most importantly CORRECT advice is saving her time, and potential frustration of wondering why her glutes aren't growing the way she wants them to. On the opposite end of that spectrum, if she takes his advice she will see the results, be happy, and be more likely to be consistent because she is getting that positive reinforcement. If she is being "harassed" by dudes at the gym then obviously that's not right... but what she described, any reasonable person would be appreciative of that information. You taking the former or the latter? You want women to get the results they want right? It's fine to have an opinion.. but don't paint a person in such a light for telling you the correct information that will help you reach your goals. You're a trainer, you should know the amount of bs they feed these women.

[@successandspirit]

Exactly. I was getting a program from a trainer and had him add in abductors and cable kickbacks. Also.....the best butt I have had in my life was pilates. If you look at what Brett talks about in his band workouts that's why. I didn't need growth due to genetics but this dude knows what he is talking about. I am glad I found his videos, as YT is increasingly useless.

[@catalinareszczynski9752]

Oh my god this literally just happened to me today! I was doing bulgarian split squats with a glute focus and a guy approached me and said the exercise was useless for growing the glutes, that I should just squat. I felt very self-conscious and stopped doing the exercise all together…this video encouraged me to react differently next time

[@noik_11]

That’s crazy. Bulgarian split squats are way more effective for glute growth. I do both, but the Bulgarians definitely changed my glutes 👌🏼

[@Gigi-ni1cf]

Whaaat lol … I bet he didn’t even have a booty!

[@ThadieLang]

I wear headphones in the gym, obvious large ones, I can perfectly hear everything around me, but if someone starts giving unsolicited advice I just point at my headphones and say "I can't hear you" and look away. If they continue I hold up my palm and say "I am concentrating, please don't interrupt me" Has worked like a charm so far. Do not engage and they will have no way to progress.

[@mailorlee2]

I'm glad you're speaking up for all the women experiencing this. I, on the other hand, go to the gym with no make up, cap on, headphones, and a "Don't bother me" facial expression. No man has ever bothered me before in the ten plus years I've been at my gym. They're very helpful if you ask for help, but everyone seems to mind their own business. Thank you to all the respectful men out there! The rest of you, listen to Bret.

[@dianadambrosio1]

Ha! That’s me ! Ty for sharing this …

[@letynava1770]

Yup, I mind my business and focus on my goals 😊

[@barbarab8182]

As a 60-something female weight lifter, I think I only get respect and awe, I have noticed that when there are machines in use by men and one woman, the male waiting for the machine will almost always approach the female first to see when they are finished with it before they ask the males.

[@tastyredsauce]

Every time

[@mayrac.603]

Always! I’ve seen it and it has happened to me. Even when I clearly just started using the machine and the male next to me has been on it for a long time. Incredible. But I always say “I just started”, and they let me be. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@classie383]

100% and I always say no.

[@stickeroonie]

❤

[@Felumittir_009]

I used to think this is a typical Indian man thing. Turns out it's a universal phenomenon 😂

[@krystinrennie7041]

Thank you so much for this. So few men in any industry are speaking out about the misogyny, we all know they see. Thank you for not just staying quiet!

[@FAIRYGIRL911]

@@C-Mack sounds like you feel personally attacked by any woman making a comment agreeing with Brett. you okay?

[@malindaschuck7040]

Thank you! I just had multiple men comment on my Facebook post when I posted hip thrusting 380. And you’re exactly right! Trying to tell me I’m doing legs and glutes ALL wrong even when posting the pubmed research articles you’ve posted. I have a bio degree and have they Have NO CLUE how to perform hip thrusts and want to tell me to just “squat” I do squat and I do frog pumps , hip abduction and adduction, cable kickbacks etc. everything you said is true about what they said and it’s all misogyny and egomaniacal nonsense. I’ve improved SOO much using your methods and your book glute lab all in 12 months went from barely hip thrusting 80 lbs to 400

[@blooooop1]

Even indirectly there's often the assumption that "girly" fitness or women's fitness is not as serious or worthwhile. Men don't take it seriously until men start talking about it (using bands, stretching or yoga, glute focus etc). Part of the reason women can have a hard time getting started, they don't feel like they fit in at the gym or should take themselves seriously

[@SuperCornic]

They like to look at a nice 🍑 How do they think we get one…?

[@Cammi-Cat-XIII]

I’m the only male at my gym who does barbell hip thrusts. I see some guys do seated abductions, squats, and deadlifts. But other than me it’s all women doing the hip thrusts at my gym. Guys need to join the ladies on these exercises!

[@ryguy642]

It's also great for hip health, as well as glute growth.

[@robbiedaw3415]

No please stop. It's not cute when men have big round glutes. It just looks feminine

[@rockon8174]

Hip Thrust are a waste of time. Risking pelvis fracture!

[@Cammi-Cat-XIII]

@@rockon8174 no risk of pelvic fracture and definitely not a waste of time, as anyone can see the results posted on this channel.

[@lue5006]

Same. I’m the only dude doing hip thrusts and glute bridges at my gym lol. Matter of fact, i actually train lower body 3x and upper body 2x per week🫡

[@IHadToMakeThisAccount]

Ima dude and the glutes workout you provided changed a lot for me positively, no more lower back pain, and im way more explosive but more importantly explosive for longer. many gym bros are in it for the aesthetic gains or using 1980’s strategy. Follow the science.

[@jakethehud]

I am an 80 year old male that has gone back to the gym to lose the belly and get back in shape. I also wanted to get the glutes back that I used to have, as well as as some shape to the rest of me. I looked up every type of exercise, picked out the ones that I wanted, and set up a 4 day workout schedule. I don't know how many of your videos that I have watched to know what glute exercises to do and how to do them properly. I watched you with Marie Wold, Lucy Davis, Hanna Oberg, Dannibelle and others on the glute bridge, scoop thrust, hinged thrust, with and without bands and even the American thrust. Yesterday, at my gym, there were two young girls doing the hip thrust, where the bench was too high, they had the middle of their back against the edge, using a heavy weight, had a narrow stance and kept arching their back, all the while looking at their phone on some site, showing them how to do it. Being who I am, I went over to them and asked them if I could give them a couple of pointer, which they agreed to. The first thing I asked them is if they knew who Bret Contreras was, which they said no, so I showed them a google search of you, which showed that you were the inventor of the hip thrust, and told them to look you up to verify what I was suggesting they do, so as not to do any back or muscle strain. Was I wrong?

[@sabrinahebert7885]

No you gave good advice

[@anthonyluisi7096]

No , not wrong , you actually did it the right way …with respect and kindness 👍🏻

[@claudiamarianidamato9499]

Youre awesome . God bless

[@markmurray5659]

Sir , check out the book. GLUTE LAB. by Bret 👍

[@jakethehud]

@@markmurray5659 👍

[@katieyoung7271]

I’m a 63 year old woman who trains 6 days a week and works hard on my glutes. I don’t get many comments from the bros, because I’m old enough to be their mom and I train hard. I do, however, see younger women having to take their crap all of the time. I witnessed it just yesterday from 2 bros who think they own the weight room. The woman they corrected is a certified professional trainer and she gave them an ear full. The fact remains though, is that she should be able to enjoy her time at the gym without having to get pissed off. You’re a gem, Bret and I use your training methods all the time. Thanks for being an ally!

[@purr181]

I recently moved & I went to a personal trainer,described my goals, and he basically dismissed my desire to keep working on my glutes entirely... There's no regular gym in my area, so I guess it's home gym time. 😮‍💨

[@Tina.n.Rigden]

Yeah and if you were a bro who wanted to focus on pecks, delts, and biceps, the trainer would have no problem putting a program together. 🙄

[@VallaMC]

I couldn’t care less about your goals, but doing the same muscle over and over and neglecting the others is idiotic. I don’t care what gender you are.

[@pooka994]

Maybe go to that gym and hire an online coach? My coach and I work remotely

[@WGAGENCY]

Well if you’re working your lower body with the basics your glutes will grow anyway. No need for glute training 5 days a week.

[@siobhanbonnie]

@@WGAGENCY and it appears you missed the whole message of the video as well.

[@BEARTHEWEIGHT920]

Nice video Bret! I remember you being on the Oxygen magazine forum about 15 years ago! I started a post on glute exercises back then. It was quite a heated debate! You gave great info then and still do! I stand behind glute specific exercises. Ill say that the only man (hubby) that matters to me loves my physique and the way i train! Have a nice day Bret!

[@bretcontreras1]

I’m glad you remember that - the years go by quickly haha. Thank you

[@BEARTHEWEIGHT920]

@@bretcontreras1 Lol! They sure do!

[@EmorettaRobinson]

I'm glad that he made a video about this. I hope that it truly educates people.

[@Shamilt3]

Doing Brets glute workouts has abput alleviated my disc/si jouint issues. I train with my girl who is a rookie, and we're beating up those glutes 🎉

[@irvinel]

Thank you for this, Bret! The mansplaining was crazy when I was younger. I experience it less now that I'm in my 60s, but I still get the occasional piece of unsolicited--and unwanted--advice.

[@Maria-wy7um]

Lol my husband is like why do you only have two upper body days and I'm like why you only have one leg day 😂

[@marilynfarmer1302]

Maybe I’m just lucky, but I haven’t experienced this. Maybe because I’m older. I have gotten lots of comments about how hard I work. One beefy guy came up to tell me my weighted chin-ups were impressive. I don’t doubt that unsolicited advice goes on. A woman felt the need to correct my hip thrust stance. Also, my gym isn’t particularly social.

[@catche85]

And stop saying "do more cardio, you need to hit a stairmaster" just because you don't find our body attractive

[@arjay5425]

not that there's anything wrong with cardio , especially for heart health

[@tastyredsauce]

@@C-Mackyou seem a bit hurt in the comments. You doing alright there?

[@nefernailah7447]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I’m an educated/certified trainer of 6 years and just bc I have alpha built clients, men always feel they can Intervene.

[@francescafrancesca9872]

This is 100 percent accurate Bret!! I've been going to a hard core bodybuilding gym now abt 2 years. The bros don't walk away from those cables. They do dozens of sets. Majority of the people in this gym are professional bodybuilders and the guys don't comment. At least u do see men doing some hip thrusts and band work. The unprofessional. Amaturs without bodies smirk when girls use bands. Your prescription is on point bret. I am doing your personalized program now and my body has MASSIVELY shifted..since BbB which was great but this is seriously working fast. The amateurs scoff at the bands and thrusts. All that band work helps prevent injury also. You need to come to newnyork and do a seminar or anywhere in tri state area here..❤

[@Funintherain13]

As a guy I find gyms can be annoyingly close minded paces a lot of the times. I think negative judgements on others seems to be normalised by poking fun at strangers on instagram reels. It is a sad state of affairs to be honest. It is not just women who bashed- there is plenty of bashing of men too by men for performing what men perceive as 'sissy' exercises - normally men who are completely ignorant.

[@siobhanbonnie]

Facts

[@itsbroiled]

You are a treasure Bret ❤

[@JessieStylz]

Awww thanks for sticking up for us!

[@JessicaNHoward]

Thank you for this ❤

[@kalizya]

Most of these people need to reevaluate their habits and focusing on people outside of themselves. Thanks for mentioning this.

[@lesliegivens5325]

Right on! The amount of IG videos I've seen of men making of fun of the fact that women spend less time doing upper body exercises, and I'm like "Because we aren't trying to look like men! How is this so curious to you???"

[@robbiedaw3415]

Yeaah but if it's women who kill upper body the also complain that she looks to masculine and that they like feminine

[@siobhanbonnie]

@@robbiedaw3415 that part

[@siobhanbonnie]

They’re not ok. Lol that’s my answer to most of the Tom foolery. They. Are. Not. Ok.

[@js8224]

I do upper body consistently. Not because I'm trying to look like a man but also because I'm not trying to get a shelf ass or enter some competition like the women this guy works with. If you're bottom heavy then focusing on upper body to balance out your fitness and physique is the way to go. Personally, I like having nice shoulders and good posture.

[@laila11249]

I was on a date with a guy who admitted to using steroids. I said I was working on growing my glutes, and he told me to do more squats. I told him I can’t because they make my thighs too big, and he looked at me like I was crazy 🙄

[@nsiebenmor]

Closed minded. Everyone has different genetics.

[@raquel5401]

This is so damn true! I particularly enjoy the jerks who tell me hip thrusts are worthless, but don't even have enough butt to hold their gym shorts up. Luckily I have perfected my resting bitch face which tends to have them turn around before saying a word. And my gym shirt that says "when I want your opinion I will give it to you" gets my message across. Now there are some guys at my gym that are very respectful, and leave women alone to their business rather than assuming they have the first clue what someone else's training goals are.

[@siberian67]

I’m a EP and when you see anyone training in the gym you are really only seeing the very tip of the program. Making any comment on the program is inappropriate. As you don’t know the other 99%. I agree with you Brett! Just be nice tell them good job. Keep up the hard work and move on. Focus on your program.

[@Tina.n.Rigden]

Ive been lifting for 22 years and I still get thrown off my axis when a bro breaks my focus and my rhythm with a lead-in like, “Can I give you some advice?” For weeks, I have to dig deep psychologically to go to the gym-which is normally a sanctuary -because I know the bro will be there. The thing I love about the gym is the freedom I feel when my mind stops because my body is working so hard, and these bros just add another layer I have to push through to get there.

[@curi0usyell0w]

Yes! Yes yes. Similarly, I lost 150 lbs. thru exercise and nutrition, and kept it off, almost 20 years ago. To this day, I am not skinny, I have excess skin, etc. However, I know I am in the extremely small percentage of people who’ve maintained this kind of massive weight loss without drugs or surgery. When I get unsolicited advice in the gym, it always comes from men, it always pertains to my “body fat” (which is mostly loose skin), and always assumes that I am clueless. It happens so often that I stopped even trying to explain myself.

[@tastyredsauce]

@@C-Mackdamn son, you’re actually BIG mad about this lmao

[@Tina.n.Rigden]

@@C-Mack i hope you find peace, and im not being sarcastic 🌾 Take back control of your mind: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mZLVi2aVZZdgjsk

[@WGAGENCY]

@@C-Macksome woman in this comment section got angry because a man suggested she do squats instead of hip abductions for glutes.

[@Saradordali]

​@@C-Mack How many control groups and studies have you personally conducted on glue activation?? 🤡Your POV is like saying you shouldn't do bicep curls and only do overhead presses.

[@siobhanbonnie]

I EFFING LOVE YOU SO MUCH more for this . Men usually don’t tell me how to work out in the gym they just come up and interrupt me and start talking my ear off like if I’m not there seriously trying to lift.. most of the negative feedback I get is online when I do pull ups or when I first started I’d have guys say oh that’s not full range of motion now. Or when I said I can do 20 pull ups before I tap out .. I got sh*t for them, not being unbroken… I posted a short of me doing leg extensions to my legs were practically shaking and a dude came in to tell me I looked pregnant. And another dude told me I should look up what progressive overload means like if I’m not a certified personal trainer with a whole a$$ business. The comments I get on my Fitness page from men are brutal and for no reason.

[@maria_floyd]

Just stop sharing your life on social media... Your workout is your moment, no one needs to see it... Why is it that in this decade it's all about ego and being self-centered ? Why does everybody feel the urge to share their life to unknown people ?

[@siobhanbonnie]

@@maria_floyd I’m a fitness trainer love. I make workouts public for my clients. It’s literally my job. If everyone stopped sharing their lives on social media , who would you have to entertain you? And how is sharing self centered? I make workouts for women to feel comfortable and confident enough to BE in the gym. Why is it ok for Brett to share workouts but not me?

[@bullsh1tguru]

next you should stop speaking breathing and living 😂 there should be more content that will motivate women to go to the gym. female training where i live is a joke and the biggest fear is to get too mascullar. please don’t stop sharing your workouts on social media :)

[@maria_floyd]

@@bullsh1tguru Yes, the whole world spins around you and cares about what you girls do at the gym. Keep posting.

[@Saradordali]

​@@maria_floyd I don't make fitness content, but find it extremely motivating to see fitness content from other women with similar goals. It's about sharing information and having community and I'm glad that they are people out there that share their knowledge. I also think it's important to see women that focus on being strong rather than just shrinking themselves. The discussion here is about why men often feel the need to crap on women who are sharing their fitness programs... kind of like you just did.

[@lilyc5079]

This is one of the best things I've ever heard. Thanks Bret and so true 🙌

[@chrissthompson4173]

And this is why I love my BC Strength complete home gym ❤

[@susanb3192]

well said, Bret! 👏👏👏 thank you!

[@samiraba1]

I follow all what Bret said and definitely see very nice results

[@BeatsAndMeats]

I always ask the women if I’ve got my thrust station setup right… they would know more than I would!

[@May-qb3vx]

This is why I’m 100% on board with one day hopefully we can get more woman only gyms or at least gyms having woman only hours. So many women are actually intimidated by the gym bros. I call the free weight section of my gym “man land” since they usually take over that section

[@kacyandlaura]

I used to be too self conscious to use the weights, I’m like 125 pounds, 5’5. But I just started telling myself that we are just all at the gym to improve ourselves. I am not in competition with anybody, I’m trying to be the best me. I went from hip thrusting 30 pounds ( yes really) to 50 and now 70!!! Of course I see people doing twice that but so far no man has talked down to me. 🎉

[@TamasaMaitra]

Am experiencing the same from my trainer , he just not lemme work my glutes , am tired of arguing with him

[@forest88807]

Interesting that this rage seems to be triggered by a perceived loss of male power/control in a traditionally male-controlled space. So their response is to try to reassert power and dominance in the space (these men probably need to assert power and dominance over women everywhere in their lives). It’s beautiful that you struggle to understand their behaviour, Bret. Not only are you not triggered by women having power and independence, you are facilitating it!

[@Ethereum1789]

Dorkiest comment i have ever read.

[@fab0527]

People really need to learn about "mind your own business"

[@ewelina_luk]

you've just made my day😃👍

[@itsbroiled]

Sooo many man have approached me deadlifting my bodyweighted and they open up with "can I give u a tip?" I answer "No thank you" and GUESS WHAT HAPPENS ... They give me their unsolicited advise thereafter regardless of my lack of consent 👍🏻🫶🏻

[@travis8947]

What was his advice?

[@angelicpastrana]

@@C-MackHow do you know? Just because you and your buddies don’t do this doesn’t mean every guy is the same. Can’t judge from just your experience and the experience of those in your circle. That’s a small group compared to all of society.

[@luxeyjames5283]

I was harassed in the gym by powerlifters for being attractive & caring about my appearance- I’m a figure competitor , they were very mean , spiteful

[@TunnelVisionAthletic]

bit sad

[@patriciajohnson1894]

🤔oh please

[@trainingxtrish]

@@patriciajohnson1894are dismissing her experience?

[@chingonbass]

Go to a womans gym if you don't want to deal with men, leave them alone

[@Saradordali]

Maybe the dudes should find a males only gym if they can't stfu.

[@stickeroonie]

I used to be a personal trainer at powerhouse gym in Venice back in the 1990s. Occasionally Id see a guy doing a movement that was clearly wrong and it looks like hes going to injure himself. I went and got one of the guys on the floor to show him a better way cause you know....Im a girl.

[@vladcraioveanu233]

Honestly, I think men would benefit from training more like women (from accent on legs to mobility, flexibility) and women would benefit from upper body strength, especially forearms and grip power... Eliminate your weakness, not overemphasize your strength... "Booty" is extremely important for men, too...

[@TititoDeBologay]

Spot On! I never understood the gendered dichotomy. It's so counterproductive, frankly idiotic. The human body is a whole unit and moves as such. Even athletes who are specific in their conditioning, do not neglect the other muscles, they still train the whole body.

[@vladcraioveanu233]

@@TititoDeBologay "Every muscle matters." Just try being sexy or tough with forearm or shin splints, plantar fascitis or something worse 😁.

[@TititoDeBologay]

@@vladcraioveanu233 Ouch. Hope You're recovered

[@niccic.]

At my gym, men have been reported by other men for watching women workout. Several glute exercises do put women in various positions and one shouldn't have to feel self-conscious when working out. I know you're talking about something different here, I just think this aspect also needs a conversation. Thanks Bret for supporting the effort! Side note * My husband commented the other day that he can't believe that my butt looks the way it does now, he thought that it was not something that could ever happen. He thought I was crazy. It's a work in progress, but cheers to you Bret for all the great exercises!

[@alisiaalcala5785]

Thank-you 🙏

[@paulaalmeidareastephens3317]

BAM! What a slam Bret! Absolutely great 😄💚

[@Itsme-gt2zz]

Off topic: Why are you doing leg work in jeans??

[@olive5890]

Well explained! 👍 My main issue at the gym is that some men act as if my workout is less important than there's...even when I am more dedicated, knowledgeable and fitter than them 😂😂 I love being, at times, the only woman in the free weights area of my gym #RoleModel

[@Martin46154]

@@C-Mack you literally don't know her, how would you know that she acts as someone she's not....?

[@artoftheathlete9274]

Female lifter here and BC longtime follower, also a certified fitness professional for 10+ years (and a PhD and CSCS*D like Bret!) I've been fortunate not to have experienced too much outright "mansplaining" in my life (even way back in my younger years when I was the only teenage girl on the free weight side at Bally Total Fitness, lol). But one thing that has irked me in the past is if I'm in a casual group conversation about fitness - someone might ask me a question about training form, progression, etc., and sometimes a male will hijack the conversation and steamroll my answer, even when they know I do this FOR A LIVING and have dedicated much of my life to studying exercise science. However, on a positive note with the topic of males/females, I get such great joy out of introducing the men I coach & train to hip thrusts, band work, etc. I've been fortunate that every male client I've ever had has been respectful and reasonably open-minded. They always underestimate bands and it always blows their mind 😅 My gym is loving your methods, Bret, and I've got some men reporting their wives are giving their glutes a double take 🍑 Thank you for all you do in sharing your knowledge! 👊

[@paulaliberty2082]

The Mac Daddy of Glutes has spoken✨️💜💜💜💜

[@anonimai]

A guy I know has told me that as a man he feels like hip thrusts are weird...? I didnt know how to respond

[@nicothenatural]

Seems like it should be natural 😂

[@elettramia6380]

Would a single leg Romanian dead lift using a kettlebell still qualify as a vertical extension exercise? I’m new to the science behind these exercises and trying to make sure I’m doing things right.

[@nephersisa5447]

When i ditched the bands my hamstrings got bigger and my glutes less pronounced lol am going to my bands

[@dr.m6152]

How do you use them?

[@5wheels178]

Good stuff man. It's good to see more stuff like this and less idiots like Joey Swoll

[@Kaikaina_jo]

Why do men keep thinking they can make any decisions for women’s bodies?!? 🤯🤔Thanks for this Bret❤

[@MojoMoneyMajor]

All athletes should train the posterior chain with similar emphasis to "booty fitness models" imo

[@Melisazu]

THANK YOU for speaking up for women!❤ 💯

[@stickeroonie]

A lot of guys at the gym helped me tremendously. They often saw my training potential and allowed me to work out with them. Made me a whole lot better !

[@Karkhash]

The time that I find a woman doing glute excercises, just recommend peolple who knows, like uncle Bret 💗

[@samsilverwood7814]

Oh my so true Thank you Bret. And yes you do see so many men with serious differences with upper body muscle compared to their lower body And I will say it skinny legs and no ass it doesn’t balance. Thank you for supporting women. I thank you 🙏

[@FAIRYGIRL911]

@@C-Mack show us on the doll where the mean lady's comments touched you

[@rachelh888]

👏👏👏👏👏 Great video Bret!

[@kenfuller2737]

Throwback to years of dedicated workouts, followed by a 12-year hiatus, and here I am, back in the game over the past month! 🏋‍♂ A humorous yet poignant comment from years ago made me realize that despite my overall fitness, I had overlooked one crucial area - my glutes. Back then, even the tightest belt couldn’t prevent my pants from sagging. 🙈 Fast forward to today, I’ve incorporated a variety of glute exercises into my routine. This morning’s session included hip thrusts, and I couldn’t help but notice a few glances coming my way. Initially, I chalked it up to my tall and slender frame, but now I’m wondering if I might just be breaking some gym stereotypes by being one of the few men openly focusing on glute development. 🤔 Regardless of whether it’s curiosity about my routine or scrutiny of my technique, I’m all in. After all, strong glutes are not just for show - they’re key to overall strength, stability, and, let’s be honest, holding up those pants without relying on a belt. Here’s to building strength, defying stereotypes, and embracing the journey! 💪

[@cristalherrera4864]

i am dealing with this at my gym and i dont know what other language i need to use to get them off my back and stop worrying about what i am working out that day or if i want to hit legs everyday! i dont do a full circuit of legs everyday, but i do like to do one set of legs when i am at the gym! they need to mind their business! lol sorry i got heated!

[@razhosh2492]

I need to know if I can do the butt program in the morning before breakfast or does it always have to be after a meal in order to build up the muscles?

[@Nah-ah]

The glute exercises honestly for me who doesn’t compete but am an avid gym girl, has alleviated back pain I’ve had for 10+ yrs from doing gymnastics for almost 15 yrs (yrs ago) I had no idea there was a culture of gym training “experts” or “gym bros” who had a problem with women training their glutes WTF!!! These guys need stick to flexing their chest/shoulders/arms and especially egos in the mirror and we’ll stick to our glute exercises and the health and maintenance of our bodies! Mmkay!

[@purpledove7008]

I must say it is kind of funny sometimes that men with flat butts and stick legs try to help women train the lower body. The majority of men that I know who lift, do not spend a quarter of the time on the lower body that they do on the upper. If they even train the lower body at all. They focus on upper body moves. So I am not going to take advice from men with chicken legs and an unbutt. Stay in your lane 😂

[@Laserchickens]

Thank you, Bret. I replaced one of my two hip thrust sessions a week with a2g sumo squats for 4 weeks recently, and while I felt my glutes doing some work, my core, back, hips and heart exhausted before my glutes had a chance to approach failure. And my glutes lost some fullness an strength. Squats are similar to deadlifts for women. They have too fatiguing relative to the stimulus to the glutes for women trying to grow their glutes disproportionately, kind of like how chinups won't grow biceps disproportionately. I personally have great biceps, and all I do is weighted chinups and other compound pulls (flexing the elbow and shoulder). I think curls and disproportionately growing biceps is stupid and bad-looking, but bikini judges and society valie disproportionately large glutes and delts on women. Also, I don't understand why everyone hates on the fact that hip thrusts are easier at the bottom. Rows are easier at the lengthened position, too, so we make them harder in that position by making them heavier.

[@Laserchickens]

Plus, aren't hip thrusts lengthened partials? A full backbend wheel pose is the fully contracted position. The angle of my hip is probably about 45 degrees at the bottom.

[@MT_Turkey_Girl]

AMEN! I'm a woman who's been using these methods. I'm so sick of hearing from guys about how I should train! What I should be doing shouldn't be doing accompanied by unsolicited advice. It drives me nuts. I hear it constantly. ESPECIALLY when this "advice" is coming from someone who doesn't even work out! I've made some pretty significant changes to my physique with using these exercises, and I'm going to continue despite the naysayers and armchair "coaches" opinions. Thank you so much for addressing this, Bret!

[@yomama3926]

I think the main reason why men dont like those workouts is because theyre seen as too girly. They look funny too and can look awkward. Men like to look strong all the time, showing off how much kg of weights theyre working on and dont want to bend their ass in weird positions lol. It would make them embarrassed. Thats why they like the hypermasculinity stuff and wanting to look super cool to the point where they risk injuries doing deadlifts and squats with too much weight

[@erikacook7323]

Okay but women have to stop recording men and bashing them from here into next week for glancing in their direction. Both sides have issues and I think the solution is LEAVE PEOPLE THE FRICK ALOOONE.

[@angelicpastrana]

Absolutely women need to stop pointing out men who are not doing anything wrong. That is without a doubt. That however is a different topic. Would a video calling women out on it respectfully be just as necessary? Definitely. But calling one group out for their behavior is not denying the behavior of another group.

[@erikacook7323]

@angelicpastrana While you are correct, what women are doing in the gym is way worse and more prevalent. It could damage a man's whole life to have his face out on the internet with some woman accusing him of basically being a predator, but some dumb gym bro trying to tell you not to hip thrust is just a mild annoyance.

[@angelicpastrana]

@@erikacook7323 It can be harmful. No one is taking away from that. As far as the unsolicited advice, as mentioned in other comments this is not something that only happens in the gym and is not a mild annoyance. However, this video is not in competition with which is worse. It’s about what one group experiences. I’m certain there are videos about what you are describing as well. At the end of the day they are separate.

[@angelicpastrana]

@@C-Mack In this case which problem are we placing blame on men that they shouldn’t be? If this is something you haven’t witnessed that’s fine, good for you, but it is something that happens a lot. I understand that a lot of men are really angry at the women who are making accusations when there are none to make, they have every reason to be angry about that- but that doesn’t mean nothing women say is true, or not a big deal. Instead of commenting angrily on everyone’s comments, go make a video yourself talking about the issues that are bothering you. I see you in all of these comments spewing anger and it’s honestly making you come across as immature. Just because this video is talking about something that’s bothering women doesn’t mean all women are innocent and don’t do anything to men.

[@angelicpastrana]

@@C-Mack that’s a long response to someone whose opinion doesn’t matter. And if you notice, I’m being very neutral. I have acknowledged women’s behavior. And again if you or your friends don’t do this kind of disgusting behavior that’s great, it doesn’t mean all men are like you.

[@user3657]

I've never approached anyone at the gym. I don't judge or criticize and just mind my business as a man. I think we all want nice glutes, as I do glute training myself. We all have opinions and to be blunt it does trigger me when I see women coming in and only training glutes. Is that so wrong? What about the rest of your body? The woman I speak of only come in and do glutes. I don't just train upper body, I don't just brush my lower teeth, I don't just clean the left side of my car...

[@othersbyuri]

Thank you!!

[@gnarlantlers70]

Who's the absolute savage maniac walking up to a woman training glutes and telling her she's doing it wrong. Or are these just comments online? Who are these bros because I need to personally take his bro card. I have never heard a guy complaining about all those gosh darn women folk targeting glutes but if i ever did i would ask him if its his or his husband's turn to cook dinner tonight.

[@nicothenatural]

I don't usually engage with it, but I see it online. All. The. Time. I have to skip comments often bc of how awful people are to each other.

[@Marisaaaaaxtina]

1000000000% it’s ridiculous! And the same people who say thrusts don’t work are the ones who don’t do them consistently 😂 let alone legs at all LOL

[@kariusbaktus165]

haha as if 40 sets per week for a muscle group is a good thing

[@tastyredsauce]

Ikke drit deg ut nå da

[@vanessanorthrop9647]

I love this, but I'd love to see a video on glute imbalance. My right leg is just slightly shorter than the left leg. I've noticed the right glute has a lot more muscle. How do I build up the muscle in my left leg without sacrificing the muscle on the right glute?

[@nsiebenmor]

Everything can be done with one leg. Bulgarian split squats, one leg glute bridge. Even machines that have a pad or platform for both legs can be done with one leg such as the leg curl machine, the leg extension machine, and leg press machine. This is the best way to take care of imbalances.

[@maria_floyd]

I agree with what you said but on the other hand I need no share my experience at the gym as a French : been to 3 different fitness gyms and I have NEVER been bothered or told what I should do so maybe this is an American problem, dunno. Here is France everybody minds their own business and is friendly.

[@Chris-xc1tm]

YES

[@charlesdexterward7781]

I've worked out in a variety of 50/50 male/female gyms for many years and have never observed a man critiquing a woman's glute workout. Frankly I don't know I've ever seen a man critiquing another man's workout either. The worst I've seen are a couple of awkward attempts at advice. This sounds like an almost exclusively online issue. The same online world where men are constantly telling men how to train. How to always prioritize deadlifts über alles, how to always use free weights over machines even when it doesn't suit your goals, how to never ever do the deadly upright row, etc. I'd say the majority of unsolicited advice is from bros to bros. Now if we're talking about who's guilty of treating the gym like a personal TikTok video studio, well, that's a different story.

[@VallaMC]

Exactly

[@TititoDeBologay]

So Because You haven't personally experienced It. It must not have happened nor does it exist at all. Fascinating. So the Women relating their lived experiences, on this very here video are lying? En masse at that?

[@angelicpastrana]

This is a fair comment, however, it’s also fair to remember that you are one person, and therefore basing on solely your experience and POV. There are thousands of pages you don’t follow and so are not aware of what is happening on them. Same goes for the gym. You haven’t been to every gym and therefore haven’t seen what goes on in each one.

[@WGAGENCY]

@@angelicpastranathere are observable truths. Giving gym advice ESPECIALLY in this day and age is not something you see often. Just like women camera baiting men isn’t a common issue, although online it would seem that it is.

[@ME.-lj1mw]

Yes. Misogynist indeed. Thank you kindly Bret for this significant content 🙏.

[@evelynvaldes8864]

Bret ur so AMAZING

[@pooppopist]

I wonder if there is any way to prove these arguments using statistical methods. I'm sure using just a comment section as proof to these arguments would be just setting yourself up for failure for the true nature of the problem. Many people don't respond to surveys and if we only count the people responding to surveys wouldn't that be biased to a small subset of the population in the first place? I'm thinking what you could do is try to set up microphones in gyms around colleges and analyze what is being said between men and women, and see how many times a man explained an exercise incorrectly to a woman and vice versa. In order to determine if the exercise is being done correctly you could put together a small board of certifies exercise physiologists from different colleges across the country to make a hard determination , yes or no, this was a time when an explanation was incorrectly given for an exercise. It may also be interesting to do these same exact experiments in public gyms across the country. Some issues you may run into are gyms not accepting these microphones in gyms because of privacy issues. Another issue determining how to find this entire experiment. Probably more issues but I'll let the comment section hash those out. Anyways I gave some rough outlines on trying to get an answer closer to the truth other than the opinion of one person, hopefully this methodology can be further hashed out so the experiment can be run. Thanks for reading until the end :)

[@jeannekerstiens5350]

If you're an older woman, it's even worse.

[@pannonianfit1582]

will your respond to the mike israetel hip thrust video?

[@bretcontreras1]

Yes…it’s coming

[@claudiamarianidamato9499]

@@bretcontreras1please!!! He to this day keeps hating on the hip thrust . I saw his recent “glute video” and was so unimpressed!! Literally not one exercise was used to isolate the glutes .

[@pininabailarina]

😂 Go Bret!!

[@WGAGENCY]

In one comment section Bret is a hero of women, in a different comment section he is a misogynist, creep, assaulter, and abuser. Crazy. It’s like 2 different worlds lmao

[@kated2195]

Really?!😳

[@sindilacion]

Facts😂

[@sindilacion]

@@kated2195yes. At the very least he made some awfully strange comments about women working out. Like one of those weird things you say in your head but it accidentally slips out kind of thing. I’m Surprised he actually published that stuff and thought to himself “hmmmmm this should go well”.😂😂 if you’re interested you could look it up and form your own opinion but from my pov it can’t be anything less than flat out weird and creepy. I’ll let the women be the judge of the rest of it.

[@andreitapavlovic8525]

I looove this, Thank you soo much Bret for standing up❣❣❣

[@Gerberous]

I guess I train like a girl

[@taylorbarrett384]

Guys need to work on being less misogynistic, but at the same time, we *all* need to work on being more charitable in how we interpret the behavior of others. It's really easy to assume everyone is always motivated by sexism, racism, bigotry, etc, but in reality, often times that isn't what's going on at all. Sometimes is it, for sure. But related to this video, and the fact guys are always criticizing and offering corrections to women, one key piece of information to remember: guys are always criticizing and offering corrections to other guys as well. Some of it is sexism, but a lot of it is the way people interact with everyone regardless of who they are, and not some sort of special treatment.

[@bebop504]

Well said! 💯

[@Moonprincessaaawe]

Why do you assume you know what women’s experiences are with receiving corrections from men? What makes you believe women cannot observe the different treatment we get regarding constant corrections? You literally just mansplained the entire phenomena while assuming the intentions of other men. Even your assumption that women don’t understand this is sexist lmao it’s absurd.

[@taylorbarrett384]

@@Moonprincessaaawe don't gaslight me queen

[@nocturnal03]

It's not uncharitable to call out men's behavior for what it is, since in this case it is what is going on. Maybe men could be held accountable for once.

[@taylorbarrett384]

@@nocturnal03 you didn't read my comment or you are just intentionally responding to a caricature of it

[@travis8947]

Think this is off to some degree. Most guys I know appreciate that women are doing glute work and don’t want them crushing bench and deadlift pr’s (unless that’s their thing). Who are all these bros bashing all these babes?

[@nrjetik1]

it has been the case for the end of time! ., I am now 63 and have been lifting for over 30 years. I do, however, have different goals than the figure competitor or female who only wants a developed butt. I competed in bodybuilding 1992-94 when there was no high heel, bikini, figure, etc class so I trained everything and men always wanted to advise me until they saw me squatting 100kg 20 times. ( and I was only 52 kg) I still strength train and as a menopausal woman in my 60s who is super active, the need for muscle mass and bone density overrides a perky butt. Obviously, it is up to the woman to decide her goals, but my words of wisdom, if they want to keep GOOD quality of life and independence, is not to skip the upper body. Can your grandma do pushups and pull ups? :) BTW I use bands etc and love Hip thrusters.

[@manu89bike]

Mic drop 🎤 ‘Cause PERIODT

[@lindseybishop1213]

Thank you for this.

[@SYSALadyTigers-ez5gp]

SOME men have been mansplaining strength training since gyms were invented. It's almost always guys who have no clue what they are talking about, and they are generally NOT the best physiques in the gym. So they are posers, and you just learn to ignore them. On the other hand, there are also really nice guys who know what they're doing, who just admire other lifters for their mutual dedication, and just give you a nod and a friendly greeting. Sometimes you just have to find a new gym.

[@mygymjournal]

Can we get an AMEN 👏👏

[@11nica5]

Snowflakes everywhere. Someone says something you don’t like or agree with, move on! Simple