“Platonic Friendships are a Myth!” l EP.150 l The BTS Podcast

[@CarinRenee]

The similar hair..I LOVE 😍 This color combo looks good on all of y’all!

[@evda4919]

Oh my gosh I only noticed now that you said that it was so cute and it was similar lengths as well

[@Stephhhh2595]

Thissss. The blonde highlights on allll are giving 😮‍💨

[@AllThingsLoud_]

The person in the relationship should create the boundaries. A person on the outside is only gonna respect your relationship as much as you do

[@markeyamcpherson3473]

Beatrice's facial expressions when talking about the reimbursement is sending me 😂😂😂

[@journeywithkeren]

I agree with Sharon. If the roles are reversed and I as a woman paid for a trip, pre relationship and my new partner wants me to cancel that trip because he is uncomfortable, someone is going to have to reimburse me. And most likely that’ll be the person asking me to cancel. Also we’re missing context on if the writer was invited to the ski trip. Her being invited or not is important to determine if she’s being unreasonable.

[@arigodut]

I agree. It also isn’t clear if she was able to go whether it be finances or booking arrangements. Like was she unable to go and just expected him to cancel it and “prioritize” her because of the “principle.” If I’ve paid for a trip before I knew you I would go. I definitely would reassure you but if you can’t come I’m not canceling.

[@arashianfromargentina7996]

She saying like 'He didn't try to reassure me. He just asked for the money' makes me think he never offered for her to come along, that would count as reassuring to me.

[@journeywithkeren]

@@arashianfromargentina7996 I’m not going to make assumptions about info not provided. She was detailed about everything else, why not provide the context of an invite or the lack there of?

[@ravenlookalike14]

True and if she doesn’t trust him enough to have the platonic friendship without concern, then there’s no point to being with him whether he’s actually sus or not. And guess what? This man probably still went on the trip and she home all sad.

[@susuthegatto]

I love how Sharon addressed the fact that partners should watch out for each other and how things look, making sure they don’t look “crazy” or something. Because a lot of times, at least as women, I feel like we’re told “why do you care what other people think?” or “don’t worry about others” but sometimes it is a valid concern that the way your partner is moving or behaving will look strange and make other people question your relationship status and that’s a valid concern. That was very nice to hear Sharon address that

[@ArmaniRos3]

Watching this podcast every Monday is actually apart of my weekly routine . I love ittttt

[@vangileseroto-mabitsela6628]

It’s sad the guy isnt reassuring his girl because if the tables were turned, he would be going crazy🤞🏾

[@EBear519]

facts

[@_.Lightly._]

Nah babe. If it was actually a situation where he couldn’t go, he could have said “I’ll try to find someone to take my spot” and THEY can reimburse him. Regardless, i agree with. Asking your partner to reimburse you is crazy. Asking his partner to go, would have been the simplest solution.

[@rachaelf5903]

This is wild, plane tickets are not transferable so that would never be an option. Since she didn’t mention asking to go even though that’s the most obvious solution, we have to assume she can’t for whatever reason.

[@faithdogara9843]

@@rachaelf5903she shouldn’t have to ask to go for a trip that she was never a part of and look like she’s intruding…he should have invited her not her asking to come.

[@kharrbella]

You know what's hilarious? The moment you guys said sking trip, I thought of the Tyler Perry movie " Why did i get married? ". Girl run, too many red flags. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@EBear519]

y'all were definitely on point with that skii trip dilemma🤝. Its important as the person in a romantic relationship to set up a clear boundary with how you spend time with your friends. It's a sign of respect for everyone involved.

[@esmooth919]

I don't believe that friendships cannot be platonic. I never believed in that. I've always had more female friends than male friends. Anybody that thinks they can't be just friends with the gender to whom they are sexually attracted, can't control themselves. Yeah, I said it.

[@Blullaby]

Dilemma: I was seeing someone and they had planned a caravan trip with a girlfriend of theirs to go attend a concert before we met. I obviously asked who she was, and as mentioned in the podcast, he made SURE there was no ambiguity and no cause for worry as they had known each other for years and years and she was a lesbian, and during the trip he still included me by texting me and sending me videos... There are ways to create a trusting base for your relationship, which OP's boyfriend absolutely failed to do. And some comments seem to think trust isn't earned and boyfriend had no responsibility whatsoever in the way his actions and words impacted their relationship... On top of that, this holiday was around Valentine's day. So you'd have your person feel lonely while you're having fun with another girl for the one celebration meant for couples and to celebrate love ?... It is icky however you look at it, but even more so when you don't pretend you're sorry, and you do nothing to try and make it seem like you're regretting not spending that time with your girlfriend instead, but if you're going to miss her like crazy, you can't cancel it for monetary reasons, but you'll make it up to her with a romantic getaway when you come back, or something. Anything really. To show that you care at all ! As for the age old question: do strictly platonic friendships between men and women exist? I don't believe they do. If there are exceptions, it doesn't change the rule. I guarantee you that in the right settings/ circumstances, at the right moment, at least one of the parties involved will see the other one in a segsual or romantic way. It doesn't have to last long. It can be because of alcohol. Because they got their heart broken. Because you're wearing something more revealing and they realize you're not just fun to be around but also very segsy, or you lose weight/ your appearance changes one way or another, or some other person hits on you and they start feeling possessive/ jealous (or vice versa)... And it has nothing to do with having self control 🤦🏾‍♀️. You not acting on your impulses / desires doesn't mean they don't exist ! And we can only know what we feel. In my 31 years of life, I have never had one male friend that wasn't gay with whom there was never some type of ambiguity at some point. From them or from me. Even my one exception told his brother (who I loved with all my soul as I'd advertise to anyone who'd listen) that he could have anyone but me (which his girlfriend was a bit salty about). Sooo yeah... 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Blullaby]

@@dontbedelusional I'm so sorry to read that love... If you should keep in mind that not everyone is a lying and cheating scumbag, it's still understandable that you'd rather stay away from the situation altogether from now on... And I think the right person will know not to put you in such a triggering situation again... I hope the right person finds you when you're ready for them 🤍.

[@itolajide2740]

The guy wasn't pissed because he's probably getting the same emotional and physical affection from his "platonic" female friend

[@nellie695]

i’m with Sharon with this one, asking for the reimbursement is not that crazy 😅

[@Mimi-j4o4r]

If she wasn’t invited but asked for reimbursement it would definitely change the outlook. Like the girls said the reimbursement money would be her portion to pay if she was invited. Yes, the trip was booked before he started dating her, but he could have given her some reassurance about the relationship with the female friend. Are they sharing a room?Have they ever “dated” etc etc

[@Hettie1993]

I agree with Beatrice and Tammy on this! He is moving mad! Reimburse!!!!

[@CarinRenee]

New follower here 🙋🏾‍♀️ I love how early this episode is! (East coast of America) 😊

[@gloryabatai]

twin

[@cme4743]

Me too! I’m always excited that I can listen to it when I start work.

[@vanessam2393]

That man wanted to end the relationship and couldn't man up to do it so he did this nonsense hoping she would and I'm glad she did. Ain't no way 'friends' are booking trips around Valentine's Day and don't see the problem with it if one of them is in a relationship. Also the other friends going are a couple? That man is a coward. Good for you for leaving him. You've saved yourself a lot of future heartache.

[@rachaelf5903]

To think someone would cancel their expensive holiday for literally no other reason that their girlfriend (of maybe 6 months) said so? She’s crazy. My guess is that he tried to reassure her, she wouldn’t accept and they got into an argument where he said fine pay me back. There is no way they just had one conversation about it and then broke up.

[@TheAlkebulanTrust]

🤣🤣🤣 episode One Hundred Ninety Fifty 🤣🤣🤣...either way that's a lot of episodes...facts or undeniable facts?

[@NorahVyste]

LMAOOOO THE INTENSE WOMANSPLAINING DEBATE WAS TOO FUNNY 💀😭 ONE OF MY FAV EPISODES

[@pimpscooby]

People had found Legion on Tik Tok and he was on there lying. He was saying that he was at Netflix touring the studio and talking to them about a series, meanwhile he just stole a video from Netflix Singapore. The man is clearly mental.

[@michelekelly1862]

Don't believe in platonic friendships. Been in situations with male friends and it become awkward. The only time friends with a guy if I'm friends with both him and his girlfriend.

[@faithrutledge2786]

That’s the farthest thing from the truth my guy bestfriend has been my friend since I was 7 he used to date my girl bestfriend me an him have never looked at each other as anything but brother an sister 😅

[@olivia.3232]

people say athleisure is so popular in America that we stand out when go to different countries but i did not believe them until i heard Beatrice's gym shark outfit explanation

[@TashTembo]

Beatrice’s facial expressions when that reimbursement issue came up😭😭😭.

[@LoloRene_23]

5:04 if you can ask to be reimbursed, she can pay for her own way to join the trip

[@kenkenreviews]

we need to be bolder and speak the truth with our chest "i cant go on holiday with an opp sex friend because to some degree i dont trust myself" n thats ok. we appreciate ppl that know their limits/boundaries

[@andrejones7671]

This is just my opinion. I don't think there is anything wrong with asking your partner for reimbursement because planning trips like skiing can be expensive. It will just feel like all of his money has been wasted to not go. Let's flip the scenario the other way, it would be pretentious for her to not ask the guy for a refund and not consider the money and time it took to plan the trip. Also, you can argue that he could have offered to bring her along which may sound reasonable, but he might not be able to afford to bring her along, he and his friend might have put two or more things together to save for this trip that she is insisting not to go. In conclusion, I just feel like she might have not considered the time, money, and effort that had gone into planning a trip like that. I also feel like breaking up with an individual because of a trip on Valentine's Day is a bit harsh and selfish. It seems like in that relationship it's one-sided and everything revolves around what you want. If it's not your way the hit the highway type vibe. Again, this is just my thoughts and my opinion that i'd like to share.

[@Yazmeanb]

Sharon threw me for a loop with the reimbursement chat 😂😂

[@dott8348]

I think the Ski trip one is a bit sticky, since he booked the trip before he met his girlfriend he wont just cancel the trip because she doesn’t trust him, plus it could of been short notice to bring his girlfriend

[@raitumis6207]

It couldn’t have been short notice enough for him to bring her into it .. But I digress

[@adedayobadero9542]

The beautiful Tammy, make up and hair always on point 🥰😘

[@jessjim4553]

I found out about the podcast two days ago can’t stop watching. 🎉🎉

[@borgelins]

He loves that friend and is unapologetic about it

[@amenzerga6371]

y'all make my Mondays fr

[@roset8098]

I love this podcast so much 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@Wicked1xX]

Ladies don't take it upon yourself to bring your partner on a pre-planned girls/friends trip. It was not meant to be a couples trip. I personally would have a problem with it. It being close to Valentine's Day kind of makes it different, but if a friend's trip has been planned & paid for, don't then decide that you are bringing your girlfriend or boyfriend.... 😐

[@sbella44]

34:56 Sharon's belly laugh!❤

[@madalisomwale7564]

Couples tea , couples lunch , rose man 😂😂😂😂😂

[@nichellerush701]

I would love to hear followups to some of these scenarios. I need to know if ol girl took her man back after the ski trip 😅

[@foreverbored2009]

love how yall turned the dilemma into a dilemma. i feel like we could have cut the whole confusion segment 😭

[@janelle6331]

Yess a KZbin playlist

[@destinye]

I'm proud of the gf for breaking up and, not settling for his bs. Next time he should get travel insurance or some sort of cancellation thing. 🤷🏾‍♀😂😂 Btw I enjoyed speaking with you guys during the live ❤.

[@DorisFerreira12]

I've been adding the songs to my own playlist on youtube every week 🤣

[@limepothos2641]

"Don't let it fool you; RUB YOUR EYES," you guys make me laugh so hard.!

[@mrmarz1184]

“Lash by Jayy” got me though 😂

[@adaobiodinye6456]

I'm with Sharon... Going on a holiday with a "friend" is way too intimate for me

[@aminawhy7303]

Guys we’re forgetting in the dilemma there was no mention of the girlfriend joining them on the trip which even adds more fuel to the fire of the couples trip; the timing and all the couply things that would be happening - it’s so easy to get caught in the moment

[@maymay4114]

I think we have different definitions of old school R&B 😂 that’s definitely like 90s. 2000s is still pretty new

[@corsicawoods7395]

I'm with Sharon. Because the trip really isn't about my friend(s) atp, especially now that i have a boyfriend. But i'm definitely going because of the hard earned money I spent. Can you reimburse me babe? Lol

[@ayoitsbami]

i'm not done with the dilemma part so i'm not sure whether this is brought up but the premise of the trip is even fishy. a ski trip before valentine's day, it's with ur boy & his girl and ur bringing ur female bestie that was made before he got with the sender? to me it's like what was the purpose of the trip initially before he got into the relationship? cos to me it seems it was brought up as a couple's retreat

[@eliz9853]

25:18 I’m with Shannon, what is the reason for the 1 on 1 man😭😭 a group trip is fairs, we have to be at least 3 ppl

[@AsiaTr3asur3]

Okayyyy loving all the blonde hair shades

[@naledisefantsi]

lovers' soup is outrageous😭

[@ugwokepatrick3484]

It's the shouting for me from Beatrice 😂😂😂😂

[@Itsisss]

47:56 when I tell u the amount of gaslighting that was going on 😂😂😂

[@petalnoir]

ah, was lowkey shocked sharon didn't see anything wrong with the reimbursement question but glad she came around and saw the lighttttt

[@michellesmith5395]

Girl Sharon no🤣🤣Because if it was a money thing, why did he not just say “Well will you go with me instead”? 🤣bc no😂

[@Rippedwing]

That ski trip raises eyebrows for many reasons. Forget the reimbursement. So you decided to book a trip with a Couple close to valentines and you just decided to do this trip with somebody that you just hehe haha with only? Yeah right. And it’s an expensive trip. Yea right.

[@uniquemosdef]

“Sometimes I can’t even recognize her” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@hera_clothing]

WE GOT YOU GIRLS 💁‍♀❤‍🔥

[@TheUncutpodcast_]

We need the whole line! 😂❤️

[@janelle6331]

I lowkey understand Sharon tho but I mean if you want me to cancel the trip then send me the💲💲It’s the word “reimbursement” 🤣that sound disrespectful Lmaoo

[@ak6ill]

That makes absolutely no sense if you can ask your girl to reimburse you.. why wouldn’t you ask her to use that same money to come on the trip:/ clearly he wants to go alone on some double date couple shit, susssss

[@thegabriella9293]

Girlllssss u are making my days, love from sweden😘

[@olartiife]

Love Love the similar hair thingy going on ❤

[@blessingghanson]

i love tammy 😭😭

[@product_of_grace24]

Taaaamyy!!!! loooking goooood!!!!!

[@fresh_lumpia1696]

Heart shaped snow sent me 😂😂😂

[@delva299]

Graduate oooo😂😂‼️ Love u gurls

[@sbella44]

1:08:14 Sharon is my fave! 😊😂❤😂😊

[@dionisiapinto164]

Couldn´t the boyfriend, suggest changing the trip dates, even if by a couple of days after Valentines. Would show that he cares and still get to have the trip. Less of a gas lighting suggestion and reassuring her as a priority at the same time. Just curious wouldn´t trips be more expensive if booked during valentines season? sounds a bit on the hopeful side from one of the parties. (even if before the relationship). Dunno. I think you need a second segment on the week with dilema´s follow up, be that with comments as advice or possible turns people took after your advices. As for the decision sounds right, today is a trip tomorrow something else, she would be teaching him that she is okay being treated that way. However, depends how long they have dated for, perhaps if early there was still time to suggest change and evaluate.

[@oluwamurewafagun4386]

She didn’t give enough information. Because there are many ways this could have gone, we need more details to give judgements.

[@icyymarieetv8222]

is there a way for you all to link her story time video about her now ex husband? It was interesting

[@abrahamsankey7353]

yall supporting her for breaking up for a trip he planned before both of them got together is crazy!

[@faithdogara9843]

Would you be fine with your girl going on a trip with a male friend and a couple just before Valentine’s Day just because it was planned before you started dating? Be honest.

[@ruthodu9952]

off topic i need the hair detail of the blond highlights hair please! Wow!!!

[@Shorlaah]

Did you guys see the update on the "Who tf did i marry" story? Apparently he was diagnosed of schizophrenia, and the parent actually tried to get him help. But at one point he stopped taking his meds.

[@ItsYurGirlMzPayne]

I get Sharon point but he could still invite his girl too since his guy is bring his girl too And plus it’s before Valentine . Secondly if the girlfriend come and the female friend be alone she can bring someone for herself too. He wasn’t mature in this situation. But my question is idk how she handle the situation when she finds out

[@ore34455]

What’s the hoodie brand being spoken about around 40:13

[@TheUncutpodcast_]

HERA

[@YoutubeNameHere]

Why wouldn’t he take the girlfriend instead of canceling since others are bringing their girlfriends

[@aucksun]

55:38 killlllllled me 😂😂😂

[@vanessaaliganyira4608]

Not college football oooo it was arena football

[@gayleg6096]

I love yall but please let each other finish your thoughts

[@margaretgarret164]

I thing i have noticed overtime, Tammy takes her " signs from God" very serious. No trying after that sign pops 😅

[@all_things_busishozi1721]

I love these girls so much❤😍🥰

[@naturreal1705]

I liked watching it on normal speed cuz you get the emotion better. Shit is crazy all he put her through. Ppl keep saying she dodged a bullet, but she go grazed by that bullet. She's definitely effected by that shit fr.

[@konatola17]

Am happy you all were friends before I came in the picture, the moment I came in your life. I should be your number one priority. In high school, my ex took his friend to prom. I went on a date with someone else. We f$cked am sure he did with his friend too

[@TirzahLecky]

The girlfriend is insecure, the trip was planned BEFORE was he committed to her. BEFORE, not after. If she can attend as a plus one then fine, but to ask him to cancel is hella selfish. If you don't trust him just leave. To ask for a reimbursement in reponse to you asking me to cancel is very appropriate. And I can't reassure you if you don't trust me when I planned a trip BEFORE I met you. It's either you trust me or you don't. No amount of reassurance will change that.

[@MrsECUduma]

I think the guy has feelings for his female friend and probably trying to purse her because if he intentions were pure he could’ve included his girlfriend to the trip

[@akilahglasgow3900]

If she doesn't trust her man, the relationship is already over...she shouldn't be in the relationship. He goes on his trip, she broke up with him. Story done 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@roset8098]

Asking the gf to reimburse is crazy! It’s as if he knows she can’t afford, why not validate her feelings and maybe make it up to her with another trip? Hmm

[@jewellecharles2269]

I love their podcast but it’s so hard to listen to. They’re not letting each other finished speaking. Especially with the dilemmas.

[@ayomidedareabel5525]

They've addressed it before and that is how they talk to each other. Plus it's entertaining 🤷‍♀️

[@hillaryadeleke3323]

friend this ain’t the podcast for you i fear cause their banter and friendship is the best part

[@vangileseroto-mabitsela6628]

It’s so realistic though because that’s how me and my girls would literally talk over each other if we were having a similar conversation. I love it 😂😂

[@raitumis6207]

@@vangileseroto-mabitsela6628Exactly.. she should go find a quieter podcast elsewhere there are plenty of them😂😂

[@arigodut]

I think that is part of their “thing.” It’s weird to hate what also makes them stand out. I think a more structured flow would actually take away from this.

[@itolajide2740]

WHY ARE MEN LIKE THIS ????

[@YoutubeNameHere]

I would tell him yes cancel it and I’ll reimburse you and then dump him and give him any money

[@user-nq8yv5jc6o]

44:00

[@evda4919]

23:08 that’s why I can’t do friends with guys that aren’t platonic threw them all in the bin brothers in Christ or nothing sorry 😂

[@bigpynk]

Why couldn’t he just invite her? You don’t find that suspicious?? 🤨

[@user-nq8yv5jc6o]

54:40

[@nellie695]

Is Beatrice still with her man??

[@teesans6507]

stop cutting sharon up!!!!!!!!!

[@ayanna2620]

It's unfortunate that's she had a miscarriage but now she isn't tied to that man in that way because he would have worn her down.

[@melissa122ful]

Is it just me that doesn’t like this genre thing for song of the week😬🙈 just add the song sha😂

[@bphd42]

Trip should’ve been canceled as soon as they made it official out of respect for the girlfriend