Why Is It So Hard To Be Kind? | Ajahn Brahm | 05 March 2010

Ajahn Brahm discusses how developing the mind with meditation can encourage and support the practice of kindness and understanding towards others.

[@suzanneolivar1]

I wish that schools would allow this type of lectures at the high schools, maybe there would be less bullying.

[@Beautifulcoil]

There wouldn't. Kids don't understand or care about that stuff.

[@nguoithichhoasim1233]

@@Beautifulcoil : kids can bé taught the karma and consequence , and the kindness in the simple way suitable to their understanding . But the other religions will protest . In USA , mindfulness meditation were taught at few school , to help them concentrate in studying more , because they were distracted by internet . And a couple of years ago, Christians in a district , signed a letter to protest , said that propagates Buddhism . In the ideal situation , the kids and students at high school , universities , also the parents are taught the kindness and compassion too.

[@joycemansfield1108]

And just good people

[@yaiyasmin]

Inspiring video, everyone needs to be reminded of kindness. I talk to myself first. "Kindness is a mark of faith, and whoever is not kind has no faith"

[@lordbyron3603]

4 years later and I still have difficulty with being kind to others! In fact, I’ve gotten worse.!! I’m applying several techniques AB talks about ie, look at the bigger picture and focus on all the positive things , good qualities in the person instead of the negative things about them. It works but the hateful ill-will feeling doesn’t go away completely. But the duration doesn’t last as long either . So I’m doing something right !

[@kevinng1702]

Every morning, look into the mirror, say to yourself…I love myself…I am still alive…be grateful with what you have…keep saying that daily…you will see the difference within 3 months…Good Luck….

[@FallouFitness_NattyEdition]

I hope someday to meet this man. His talks have made a huge impact on my life.

[@nichole7965]

AVET87 me too!

[@sachinthaherath4902]

Me three😂

[@5755mettateoh]

It is difficult to show kindness when one is surrounded by difficult people who think they are always right.......have to keep telling oneself to be patient

[@freddylim310]

Brilliant Dharma teachings ❤️Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏🙏🙏 Thanks Ajahn❤️

[@mobiusloop339]

I have an insane need to be right. I never thought I did, but seeing this video made me realize my mistake. I learn an immense amount from Ajahn Brahm's lectures. He is a brilliant teacher.

[@ip9117]

Blessed are you!

[@sachinthaherath4902]

@Mobius Loop I can relate to this too, I also often have this insane desire to be right😔 (it's almost like an 'all knowing' sense of ego). This talk reminds me of the need for humility in life😌👌

[@Elegance191]

Aww...Ajahn Brahm is a good actor with the duck and chicken story 😂 He makes me think of it when I go 'berserk' and grounds me 😁

[@lordbyron3603]

I thought I was kind, forgiving and generous. I am not! I lose it every time I'm tested.

[@sachinthaherath4902]

10:20 really hits the spot for me😌 Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu🙏🙏🙏

[@thudo5587]

I think you gave this talk just for me. Thank you so much for your wisdom,compassion,and personal humor 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Elegance191]

And for me ! 😁

[@Windhorse_Mcghee]

Jewels and pearls of wisdom in every talk, thanks

[@winnbrad]

Thank you for posting these wonderful videos.

[@Ourladyrosaries]

I watch every day x

[@ODDthoughts3]

this makes so much more sense then fighting all the time I really needed this:)

[@lordbyron3603]

2 years later ... and I’m still losing it. But, the unkindness doesn’t linger like it used to. I was only unkind and filled with anger for maybe 3-5 minutes. That’s damn good. What I did was immediately focus on something that gave me a lot of pleasure. ... and it worked. Woohoooo!

[@lollipop9139]

One of the reasons why people won't let a person, who has made a huge mistake, off the hook is because people nowadays are very abusive. And, that is why people become traumatized and start to protect themselves so as not to be hurt again.

[@thudo5587]

🙏🏻🙇🙏🏻🙇🙏🏻🙇Ajahn Brahm

[@jdelafuente04]

thank you so much for posting this. You did wonderful job. I like listening to Ajahn Brahm

[@joakimdernebo8400]

Buddhas teaching is the true wisdom

[@clearskymind]

Great talk as always. It starts with forgiving and loving self, and everything else in the past and future forever without expectation. Deep but hard to practice. Since outside world is competitive, fault finding and dishonest a lot of time... And rewards that negativity... But it still is worth being kind and forgiving than otherwise for ones own peace of mind...

[@sachinthaherath4902]

@Kat Y 😌

[@evemerda2583]

Ajahn Brahm at his best. Wonderful lecture.

[@ashantasetiadi]

love every second i watch this. a very good talk. thank you very much. Buddha Bless Us All.

[@howardcohen6817]

Love after 8 years. And your blessing lingers in the air. Thank you. May I join you in this holy blessing on Us All?

[@lordbyron3603]

" it was me!" .... He's so funny.

[@symphony1045]

Seelavantham Gunawantham Punyakkettham Anuttharam Dullabena Mayaladdam Buddha Putthan Namamaham 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 I Pay my homage to your respectful Swaminwahansa May my mother A.K.M.Gunawardhana be blessed with Great Health. Please give her your blessings Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu

[@claribelsefira3573]

thank you so much for making me a better person hopefully! still trying to be a better person ! this video inspire me so much !

[@gonibilla532]

another wonderful talk . thank you!

[@michellepeterson5241]

Such a sweet, funny teacher. 🙏

[@JAKEAWAKEOFFICIAL]

Got me started. That's all that matters.

[@Sumazndoode]

its nice to be nice!

[@adth123ify]

Sending you so much 💗.

[@mipatataquierido]

thank you so much.

[@mauriced.turner-brown6703]

Its hard to be kind and have good self control to these people these days

[@dk4past2now87]

It's not hard to be kind but people do not handle loyalty. The world disposes of each other for such small things. It's easier to push people out of our lives. I don't mind admitting when I'm wrong, but find even that act of kindness, is ignored. People assume they will find better or someone they feel fits their standards. This makes it hard to keep showing kindness or even encouraging others when it isn't appreciated.

[@kritisrivastava9393]

12/1/22. Thankyou Guruji 🙏🏽

[@clearskymind]

Never helpful to be self-righteous or angry even when we were unfairly hurt.. Need to constantly reinforce this idea otherwise the mind does start to feel angry and fearful.. Buddha is so wise- desire and anger keeps this unending destructive cycle going. Only way is to realize this and change ones attitude without pride, let things be. Dharma is practical- unless one applies and practices, the mind can never change. Without internal peace, it's hard to be happy with any amount of wealth or ach

[@karunabro6061]

beautiful talk

[@Frlvonundzu]

Sehenswert!

[@AhLeBatard]

Great tolk thanks 😊

[@kadenprowse4609]

Ha! Loved it

[@larryprimeau7738]

another good talk

[@bocabill1907]

So true.

[@vegetariankitchenmagicaljo4948]

Please press the like button if you enjoy the talk to support BSWA.

[@clearskymind]

There's no perfection but it is kinder to all beings and environment to live contently and simply. But being defensive, having a strong ego to protect and manipulate others through fear, anger, and rating makes this place so hard to live for all beings... not considering how that actions affect everyone... wars, using up resources, unequal distribution, .. it's real, but nevertheless it's more helpful to be forgiving, see the good in everything and get through life. Never helpful to be self-rig

[@ip9117]

So true... whatever, a duck or a chicken :)

[@omnimatty]

8 people weren't kind to this video. thumbs down :(. it is great. :)

[@TonyPrower]

Ajahn Brahm, is there any knowledge, wisdom or experience you could conceive of which would make you give up Buddhism?

[@clearskymind]

achievement. Kind of need to look at the big picture. lower the expectation, and start with forgiving and being kind to self first.

[@lollipop9139]

And, I was wondering if Ajahn Brahm would give a talk about sth on being abusive and stuff...

[@Andrew_-yo1jh]

Deep done in my head my head say there ugly I say shut it shut it shut it stop being rude now I am kind

[@lordbyron3603]

Hahahaha.....LOL. “Can I be honest with the person I live with?” ...... oh hell no! I’d be kicked to the curb.

[@jasonsha6844]

conpanuan planting helps teehee just jokes and thank you mate

[@bktarch]

He cussed :O monks are not allowed to cuss.

[@remedyke1]

+bktarch I've seen him cuss a lot...he's a comedian ;-)

[@killertaquito27]

35:00 enemy list story

[@songswithlove2204]

my kindness persent is 83

[@composerdoh]

Actually, Jesus's point about a camel passing thru the eye of a needle has to do with attachment to wealth/materialism. The Buddha said similar things, and it seems to me the very fact that one must be able to give away all of one's possessions and take a vow of poverty in order to be ordained says that they're not all that far off on the issue. That being said I do understand Ajahn Brahm was just being a goofball.

[@jasonsha6844]

phalosifey is wot it is I did not know Buddism was a religion I know some think of it as such but the budda in ones self is wot it is not religion dosent matter what we call it is wot it ………………….peace

[@lordbyron3603]

Why couldn’t the woman be the one to relent ??

[@jasonsha6844]

India for Indians China for Chinese Africa of Africans Germany for Germans and so on Quote Darlolama funny how trees from all over the world live together Rododengrum lives side by side with gum tree

[@roymarshall_]

I doubt that would work - you have to be in an accepting state of mind to actually care about what he says. If you're not interested in being more peaceful and kind, nothing Ajahn Brahm (or anybody) says will change you.