I Ask Strangers Their Financial Dealbreakers | NYC Money Street Interviews

Welcome Back! Does money matter in love? I hit the streets of NYC to ask tough questions about finances and relationships. From splitting expenses to combining finances, watch to find out what New Yorkers had to say!
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► Timestamps
0:00 - Intro
1:01 - How Important Is Your Partner's Financial Stability?
1:49 - Do You Care About Your Partner's Income?
4:16 - Would you date someone with significant debt?
6:23 - How do you split expenses with your partner?
9:06 - Do you combine finances with your partner
10:00 - Prenups & Talking About Finances with Your Partner
12:16 - Outro
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[@Bukola1]

Thanks for watching! Let me know what you think about this series 🫣

[@R.and.R.]

I love this series!

[@naterpotatoers]

Love it. Excellent questions and scope of people. I really liked how you mention their age and occupation since it can give a lot of context about their answers

[@flamingo5961]

It would be fun if you’d interview selfmade millionaires/business people (only the legit ones, not scammy people)

[@aureliomarty3079]

"Love conquer all " doesn't work in big cities, and surely not in NYC.I found the following African saying more realistic: "when poverty enters through the door, love escapes through the window".Money or the lack of it make our break couple!

[@Bukola1]

😂😂

[@orlandog6181]

Well said 👌

[@cliobhabie]

Financial health is just as important as general health

[@Bukola1]

In the US it is so important

[@DavidGivinsnhe]

So wrong physical health is easily superior to so called financial health as a little financial health goes a long way with good health! You all can keep the made up financial health as I'll keep my financial intelligence with My little health and continue to dominate the world's human existence as I'm in NYC but will go back to DC to govern Congress and the FBI!😊

[@AndrewHitti]

this is such an important topic to discuss when dating! thanks for helping normalize this conversation 👏🏼👏🏼

[@Bukola1]

Thanks for commenting! It’s so important to talk about money with your partner

[@JustAGrl007]

After cohabitating for about five years, I don’t think I would ever want to live with the man again. We split almost 50-50 as far as bills, but I did 98% of the house work. That is not an even split and I don’t think it’s talked about enough. And I also paid the bills, making sure they were timely, did all of the grocery shopping, they’re all of the household item shopping, cook dinner. Not 1 bill was in his name bc he moved from his mothers house at 30 something into my established house. I did not think it would bother me as much bc I already did it before living with him, but it really bothered me to be cleaning up after another additional person.

[@GoddessY1968]

You basically had a roommate but worse

[@JackdawWatcher]

Love this! Thank you for including the names and professions of everyone with every question, makes it so easy to evaluate the responses in the context of their jobs!

[@Bukola1]

Thanks for commenting!!

[@ForensicDreamer]

A very thought provoking conversation. Someone with a strong work ethic for sure. At the bare minimum my partner has to be ambitious in some sense and not lazy. 😊

[@Bukola1]

That's an interesting perspective!

[@clem]

Fun video! More of this! 👀

[@Bukola1]

Thanks so much Clem!!

[@Aj-vr7ug]

Bukola you’re a natural with this and the camera/editing quality is very very exceptional. Keep at It

[@michaelwilliams8625]

Your network is your net worth! Encourage your partner to put themselves out there, build healthy business relationships and follow their passions! I absolutely love this amazing new series you're doing Bukola and that your hubby is supporting you too!! Love and Light~!!!*

[@girlanonymous]

Great topic and great responses! I’m a LOT older than the people in this video so what I think is important in a partner/and relationship may be different. For me, emotional stability(and emotional intelligence) is TOP, then… is this person able to support themselves, then if they have kids…are they in their kids lives because you’d be surprised 40+ year olds who have no contact with their kids who are under 18! It’s a huge deal breaker for me (even though I’m not even a parent). Emotional stability is top for me…in my age group there shouldn’t be these severe mommy and daddy issues, aggressiveness, etc and you haven’t even gone to work on those issues at 40+ years old… Talk therapy, whatever therapy should be a thing when you have childhood trauma because when you don’t deal with it, it shows up in ALL of your relationships: personal, parental, work, etc (I’ve seen it all in play out with people unfortunately)…So yes, I can’t be with someone who hasn’t worked on their traumas on a serious level.

[@tsholofelonyeleti6650]

Liked this video. I think perhaps... just maybe finances should be discussed earlier in the relationship rather than later. How someone handles their finances can also reveal some personal traits that that person has. Money is not everything but it should definitely be discussed.

[@Bukola1]

Thanks for sharing your perspective!!

[@tsholofelonyeleti6650]

@@Bukola1 awesome!!😊

[@dannyv2230]

Love this video. I really think more NY KZbinrs should do videos like these. Just interesting to watch and easy to film. Just have to have the confidence to ask people.

[@Bukola1]

Thanks so much!! I enjoy watching street interview videos wish the algorithm did too lol

[@Dojo911]

Just discovered your channel. Thanks for the positive and educational content that is needed. A breath of fresh air discussing topics in a healthy and informative way.

[@btzega]

main reasons for divorce 1. Religion 2. Finances 3. Children 4. Extended Family Income and debt is a huge deal, it reveals a lot about people.

[@Investingcoachw]

Great video! I’m definitely pro prenup. Because let’s face it, when you get married either you can define the terms of your prenup or you’re opting into the state’s prenup.

[@ludens1526]

I hope you can do more of these financial questions

[@htmuu8714]

Loving this new series & video style from you!

[@Bukola1]

Yay! Thank you! Just one more video in this series left

[@TripSoul10]

This video is what got me to subscribe to your instagram. The financial ideas I would share with my ideal partner, short term & long term goals.

[@MrLakers92]

This was great, really level headed responses

[@WildBoyLiv]

Student loans is the worst type of debt to have 1. You can’t get it discharged in bankruptcy 2. It’s much harder to pay off student loans versus credit card debt, the fact that student loan debt is normalized in this country is crazy.

[@WhizQueen]

This is a very interesting conversation. I love the variety of people that answered the questions. Money talks are very important early on into the relationship

[@Bukola1]

Very important topic for couples to discuss!!

[@mariamabiyou7611]

Love the series!

[@Bukola1]

Thanks just one more video left in this series!

[@yannced]

Amazing video. Love what you’re doing with your channel

[@Bukola1]

Thank you! I appreciate it!

[@johnnash9523]

Good videos, kind of nostalgic for the old neighborhood..

[@CWalthallBrand]

Sprinkle sprinkle!✨

[@Bukola1]

Lol

[@holamissmusica]

There didn't seem to be any couple that ascribes to Sprinkle Sprinkle here, so many 50 50s 😢

[@melaniebrown2613]

Why was there almost no outright acknowledgement that living in abundance a) isn’t a reality for everyone or that b) there is no guarantee of continued financial stability? There seems to be a prevailing assumption that there won’t ever be financial adversity or that your partner’s finances could negativity affect you down the line? People seem out of touch with reality and only want to sound positive/cute.

[@MrSaeedted]

Production quality 📈📈📈

[@Bukola1]

Thanks too bad the algorithm hates it lol

[@AshleyashAshey]

@@Bukola1 We dont hate it🥹

[@asmrfactory9056]

The couple that are speaking are speaking the truth. My parents went through a divorce and the process is horrible from all assets and money it’s crazy.

[@jaquii77]

That’s so interesting I do believe it can be a problem in the future in terms of lifestyle but if yourself make enough to supplement their income, like one woman said, then I guess it’s fine(if you are willing to do so). It’s probably down to what are your values 😊

[@Bukola1]

thanks for commenting!

[@johnnash9523]

Do prenups actually work? I think now..

[@ludens1526]

If you’re in debt other than a house. 50/50 it makes the most sense but a lot of people don’t have sense 😂

[@josephtejero7317]

Its one thing if we are dating thats fine but, When we get married and vow our life’s to each other we are together for better or for worst. Your debt is my debt, our money is combined . Money conversations are hard but needed

[@Bukola1]

Also debt can affect your ability to make certain joint decisions in the future so its definitely something to consider before marriage.

[@LsUNIVERSE]

I think this is a great video idea. However, I would approach people who are older than the group you're targeting. They'll be able to offer more experienced advice.

[@23jgiro]

Dual income is nice..make sure he has two jobs. Winning comment.

[@sibymiller]

If a man expects something from you after paying for dates, tell him this: Oh! Are you expecting? Is it a girl or a boy?? And then do not speak to him ever again👌🏻

[@melvayaredaguilar]

4:10 tragic

[@JudithJG]

Please ask high earners also .. lets see if there are other perspectives

[@Bukola1]

Alot of these people are high earners!

[@hejiranyc]

My rule of thumb: if you are a 10/10, you get to be a broke a** n***** with a mountain of credit card debt. If you are a 3/10, you'd better be a multi-millionaire with everything paid off.

[@yougetaspear7799]

Where's the fish

[@zucchinigreen]

I think it's important to note that debt is part of life. Having a partner with debt isn't a red flag. Having a partner who's avoiding managing said debt is. Money hygiene reflects a lot and can affect the relationship beyond just the financial. It's definitely healthy to have these talks upfront and be honest with your partner vs making assumptions. I was once with a guy who wanted to spoil me and buy everything for me. He insisted he wanted to do things the "traditional way", but secretly he was resentful and took it out on me in other ways. Looking back that could have been avoided with more realistic vs romantic discussions.

[@Bukola1]

Thanks for sharing your perspective

[@Bukola1]

In the US it’s really difficult to find people that are debt free! I think the type of debt matters alot and like you said the willingness to have a plan to pay it off

[@VTang]

off topic but that poor dog is suffering in that bag - overheating especially in the sunlight with its black fur.

[@sadfasde3108]

People never take responsibility for their student loans. Tho I do blame their parents because you are so young when you take them out.

[@samuelosagie-aruya923]

First

[@Bukola1]

Aye 🙌🏿

[@itspoppinky8289]

Is that dog in Cherry's bag okay? The dog looked really thirsty!