Burt Bacharach "It Was Cathartic for Me to revisit Nikki's Birth"

Burt Bacharach sits down with select SiriusXM listeners and moderator Elvis Costello for a SiriusXM Town Hall, and in a somber moment Burt goes into detail about the life of his eldest Daughter Nikki.
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[@broadjumper1]

Whether you love (I do) or hate his music, you have to feel the pain he has over the lose of his daughter...and I love the theme he wrote for her.

[@January.]

*loss

[@aurorealis3249]

Aspergers is a very complex disorder as it is difficult to predict what one may be thinking as to suicidal ideation. Pass no judgement here as this is a lesson for everyone to heed about this moment in time and the irreplaceable lives we connect with. Rest in deep peace Mr. Bacharach - may all the angels in heaven sing for you and your precious daughter. You are deeply missed!

[@krugerfuchs]

Aspergers is gone it's levels now she was classic autism

[@chatman2a]

Did you ever think that his reading the note would be too painful? As a suicide family member survivor, I could not bring myself to read documents related to my sibling's death for more than 20 years. Each time I tried, the pain overtook me. Only one who has been in Burt's shoes would know the feeling.

[@NisseOhlsen]

What if it isn't about you, but about the person who wrote the note? Man up and read the damn note. At least out of respect for the one who wrote you.

[@chatman2a]

@@NisseOhlsen What on earth are you so upset about? I suspect you have anger issues that are more serious than you realize. Please seek therapy ASAP.

[@NisseOhlsen]

@@chatman2a Stop suspecting. Start knowing.

[@chatman2a]

@@NisseOhlsen I’m sorry if I offended you. I’m very sorry. Life is brief. Must enjoy it while we can. Please take care.

[@NisseOhlsen]

@@chatman2a You offended me in no way. I'm just stating the obvious.

[@davidwise3426]

With all the great success Burt Bacharach had, there was of course great pain. May the universe rest her soul.

[@carolbenson6524]

How painful for him to have to live the rest of his life like this. God bless him.

[@Kapplerartbloomingdale]

I met Nikki at the Wilson Center of Faribault, mn. She was my good friend for 19 years. I miss her

[@JoeDoe2]

I found this video after getting to the first page of Ch 16. I hope he reads the note one day just because she wanted him to. Angie might want to read it too. If you're really into his music AND show business, and you decide to read the book, expect it to take far longer to finish than you thought it would. It's not 'one or two' sittings type of book. I take notes as I go along about all the songs and people I want to look up and listen to when I finish it. He wasn't just about records, he did entire movie scores and broadway shows. He talks a lot about the people he worked with, often with much detail so that it's as if you're going back and reliving it. I just wish I had kept up the piano after my mom gave me a choice whether to keep taking lessons. I didn't know I'd want to try and write songs one day, and it's a huge advantage. If nothing else, I would have bought his sheet music, learned it, and studied it, and I'd have had at my disposal every chord I'd ever need to know of and use. It would have made things much easier now. He should also be given much credit for his arranging, not just songwriting. That's a huge, huge part of the final product, the best examples being Sonny Bono's Alfie and Burt's own version of Close to You, which the Carpenters made better. He's not afraid to admit when he messed up, musically and personally. Every Burt/Hal fan has to read the book. I got lucky, my local library had it. :) P.S. Coincidentally, the copyright date is one year after Hal's death.

[@RubyBandUSA]

Thank you for sharing that joe doe. I don't know how old you are, but it's probably never too late to learn piano and songwriting. The key is getting a good piano teacher.

[@claudrebille178]

I love BACHARACH

[@donnanegri3186]

No parent should lose a child❤️

[@alphabeets]

Burt, I love you man. Big hug to you.

[@ChetLindsay]

Watching this interview left me in tears! I hope no one ever has to experience this type of tragedy! When a parent loses a child, it is “out of sync.” From what I've observed when my nephew killed himself after killing his pregnant girlfriend, my sister, his mother was emotionally and spiritually destroyed. She spent many days at the cemetery screaming and crying at my nephew's gravesite, asking "Why did you do this to me? What have I ever done to deserve this?" Her health quickly deteriorated and within four years, she died in front of her youngest son. Upon seeing this, I must say this, people process grieve in an individual manner and when a parent loses a child, especially to suicide, it can destroy a parent and a family. Children are to bury their parents, not the other way around. So, if you don't like Mr. Bacharach, or you think that he is "self-absorbed" and a "horrible father," please keep this in mind--he is suffering in a way that you will never understand, and hopefully never have to!! He is in a “private hell” that has aged him and possibly will shorten his lifespan. Peace and Love to all of you! Chet

[@skygazer6898]

Shorten his life? He is pushing ninety, matey

[@January.]

Wish I could see the whole interview

[@Rosangela2095]

i love bacharach!

[@cmcb09]

Everyone copes with tragedy in different ways, I think he truly did love his daughter maybe he didn't always know how to show it but he did love her. His ex-wife Angie loved her dearly, took her to movies regularly spent as much time with her as she could took her on vacations. Loved her daughter more then life itself I know that Angie never discusses her daughter as it's just to hard for her. I don't think Burt ever fully know how to deal with it.

[@rickw1100]

Always been a fan of both he and Angie Dickinson, sorry this happened to their daughter and them.

[@diademglow3429]

These syndromes create a living hell for parent and child, they are indescribably painful.

[@davegunner49]

I have Asperger's and though the condition has its upsides in the form of high intelligence, excellent logical thinking and cognitive capabilities, talents and perception the torment it has caused me during my whole life is just undescribable. Those who have it and do not suffer should happily live with it. Those have been suffering for years or decades should have the possibility of a medically assisted suicide. Same for schizophrenia. The sucide rates are shockingly high and there are always innocent bystanders who get involved when suicides happen in public places. It takes decades for society to initiate long overdue measures.

[@themiddlekid1966]

I know he's afraid to open the note because he's afraid it says something to the effect of I told you so. But maybe it doesn't maybe it says I love you Dad. It's just such a sad story all around.

[@mingmeimingmei3542]

Burt has a very very successful career and I love his songs. Sad he has an unhappy private family life with Angie and their daughter. Ugly things happen in life .

[@V6Y2j5]

Millions of us have this symptoms called Aspergers. I was emotionally surprised that my Doctor told me as an adult that I have it. My Aspergers is only mild. But it's difficult for me to accept it that I've been struggling with this type of Autism since birth. Now , I already know the facts. What am I'm going to do next ?

[@fam.petersrit7690]

❤go on and do the right thing,believe in your self❤

[@stevenburger7158]

MY ERA GROWING UP - AS AN ADULT IN THE HOLLYWOOD MPI - I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF WORKING WITH BOTH "BURT" & "DIONE WARWICK" TOGETHER & SEPARATELY! (RECORDS & MOVIE SCORING)THANK YOU LORD !

[@hxycdsa576]

U ever worked with Ralph Armstrong bass player from detroit.

[@juliano66]

moving.

[@BellaDucati888]

courage....leaves a note

[@rosagarcialitran6841]

Sólo entiendo un poquito 😢. Saludos desde España 🇪🇸 💐

[@A1VANTguard]

this guy talked for one and half minute before letting Burt Bacharach speak.... what a "........" !!

[@Nosferatu88]

That boy is not a typical interviewer. Not only share the same job are also friends and they called elvis costello.

[@MaryCummins]

I didn't think the interviewer would ever let Burt speak.

[@johnlewinski6359]

To be fair, he was setting Burt up with what was written in the book.

[@billhosko7723]

Bingo. 100%.

[@GigiCorrado1]

So Sad...:-(((( Burt IS A BEAUTIFUL Soul. God Bless Him and His Daughter Nikki who is in Heaven.

[@PaulRobert474]

A father who loved his daughter...

[@rosagarcialitran6841]

I love his Music 💐

[@stevenburger7158]

"EVERGREEN" RECORDING STUDIOS (1979-1983) - WE WORKED 1 CREW - DAY / NIGHT WITH THE BEST IN THE INDUSTRY (FILM/TV SCORING DAYTIME) & RECORDING ARTISTS AT NIGHT! STUDIO "A" THE BIG FILM ROOM & "B" THE TV ROOM! THANK YOU LORD! BEST MUSICIANS & SCREEN ARTISTS IN THE WORLD! THANK GOD

[@italiangal56]

So what he wrote a song for her-what a guy! He wasn't there for her at all, Angie was.

[@digger65uk]

Amoungst

[@MrRoberLuiz]

We are all subject to having a family's member with special needs. We must never say "I will not drink of this water". What I can say in comfort for to this great musician and father and the brilliant mother is that THERE IS THE HOPE FOR A RESURRECTION in a better world under the Kingdom of God. Matthew 6: 9,10 ,. Acts 24:15, And according to Titus 1: 2, the true God WILL NOT LIE ABOUT THIS PROMISE.

[@debbiemartin2026]

I am a Jewish believer and sadly Jewish people are the hardest to reach with the gospel. They have been trained to have a true aversion just hearing the name “Jesus”. God has put blinders on them until the fullness of the Gentiles. So how would they really believe? Always baffled me.

[@whitneyeskew]

I hope Burt will honor his daughter by reading her last letter.

[@eastcoasttips955]

He is dismissive. He does not know what it says and he knows it. He does not want to read it. He should just say that. This is the kind of Dad she had.

[@debbiemartin2026]

@@eastcoasttips955 you are right. It is narcissism. Whatever he feels from that letter (I suspect about being an absent father), he needs to feel, for her sake. I grew up with his music and many times a man who is successful in his field, neglects his wife and family. I am sure it was hard to juggle both when he was a genius and perfectionist. And she must have been more needy bc of the Asperger’s. I am sure he never read the letter before he died. He was adamant here. Just a sign of how he was as a father.

[@eastcoasttips955]

@@debbiemartin2026 I might be wrong but I think he thinks he says something pertaining to "You never thought I would do it".

[@davidsthomson]

I think when saw a problem, any problem he wanted to fix it. Sometimes, a problem can't be fixed and the the whole package, including the package, including the other's "problem" must be brought closer. This isn't meant as a critism, just an observation.

[@realmaletearsaspatriarchys1351]

where was her Mother??

[@stevenburger7158]

MAY THEY REUNITE WITH "NIKKI" IN "HEAVEN" - WHERE THERE IS NO EVIL & THUS NO DISEASE - NO DEATH! IT IS "HEAVEN" BEYOND BELIEF!

[@valve6642]

Tragic genius

[@krugerfuchs]

She needed understanding Bert not therepy

[@traceycannon3789]

what says everything is that his daughter left a note and he didn't read it - that's the ultimate disrespect to this persons life

[@realmaletearsaspatriarchys1351]

you are a judgmental bitch! You don't know that perhaps he's trying to protect himself from more pain dumbass! Perhaps her very narcissistic mother who enjoyed being a sex symbol has something to do with her untimely death??

[@billhosko7723]

Awful thing to say. truly awful.

[@debbiemartin2026]

It is true. A child wrote a note at the most vulnerable (and he says brave), lowest point int their lives, and he will not even acknowledge it by reading it. That is not acknowledging HER. I have heard Carole Bayer Sager and Angie speak of him and his narcissism. It is displayed by the rejection of his daughter by not reading her emotions right before her death. I grew up with his music, and respect him as a brilliant musician, but his defiance on this subject speaks volumes of who the man really was as a person.

[@patwhite7970]

Burt had many regrets. That happens.

[@tnecklover]

Nikki was not helped. This is why she took her own life.

[@realmaletearsaspatriarchys1351]

Her Mother might be a narcissist? Did you ever think of that??

[@julesoftheNW]

@@realmaletearsaspatriarchys1351 Angie was a great Mom to Nikki.

[@krugerfuchs]

Nikki's troubles had nothing to do with her delivery but with the ignorance with which she me and people like us are treated with because we're autistic

[@michelebergman4336]

He was a selfish narcissist…His daughter probably Hated him for being an asshole to her & Angie!

[@kingoftheseamusic]

Love his music, but he can't even pronounce Aspergers correctly.

[@MaleInfantIntegrity]

And all he's trying to do is sell a couple more copies of the book, using his daughter's tragic death to make literally perhaps a couple hundred bucks; that's how incredibly despicable this scumbag is. I fantasized once of going to his house on Amalfi in Brentwood, but then stopped myself, realizing there can be no greater punishment than simply being Burt Bacharach.

[@robertamitchum]

Bacharach - great composer, but absolutely no "husband material". If he could become younger, he would have divorced each wife once again. He visited Nikki so seldom and forced her to stay for 10 years in a wrongly chosen clinic. And now..."it was so hard for me.." while telling Nikkis birth-data by heart in each interview.. and showing off : "I wrote a theme for her..". Mr. B, I appreciate your music a lot but I am not sure if you are such a good soul as someone named you recently...

[@wjcj1566]

You have no idea what this man went through......So Easy to judge someone! How do you know their lives are a living hell going through the hardships of dealing with mental disorder daily?? Have respect! Hope this tragedy does not befall you or anybody you know.

[@opticscolossalandepicvideo4879]

He was an awful dad but a great composer. His child was screaming for help.

[@johnlewinski6359]

Remember it was the '70s and they had no clue how to deal with Asbergers back then.

[@MaleInfantIntegrity]

That's B.S. He read the note and it blames him and his inability to care for anyone other than himself for the suicide. I don't believe in evil, but if I did, Burt Bacharach would be the embodiment of it.

[@opticscolossalandepicvideo4879]

Very sad about his daughter. Bacharach is a terrible narcissist and it must be difficult to be his child

[@debbiemartin2026]

When he split with Carol Bayer Sager, he said to her “what do you expect from me. I’m selfish”

[@31Alden]

A malignant narcissist who abandoned his daughter who was “different” (“How could I, the great Burt Bacharach, have a ‘not-normal’ child?”) and treated Angie Dickinson and Carole Bayer Sager like shit. Consummate womanizer, as well. The only person he was faithful to was himself and his narcissistic needs. His ‘Poor Poor Pitiful Me’ line is just that: Pitiful. Great composer but that’s it.

[@billhosko7723]

Oh gettahgarip... Such a shame so many on here trolling around.

[@debbiemartin2026]

When he married his last wife he was already in his 60’s. Im sure his relationship with her up to his death in his mid 90s was different. No desire to run around in his 70’s and 80’s ad even 90’s lol. Probably when womanizers come to their senses bc of no choice.

[@NudePostingConspiracyTheories]

I feel for Nikki- when dad said that she would say: “If that helicopter keeps flying around I’m gonna kill my self!” . Well of course mum and dad didn’t know the sheer torture that a person with severe autism can experience with noise, Even traffic goes through you like a machine gun