Things People With Disabilities Wish You Knew

[@bangtansbae3985]

*"let me earn that word"* yes sis loud out for the world to hear

[@codesparrow4066]

Bangtan's Bae Gotta collect dem words!

[@tjandralukito9393]

Bangtan's Bae i

[@rpetercrockett]

There's more then one of us that thinks that way!

[@ElusiveLion741]

Bangtan's Bae ive seen you everywhere

[@billyalarie929]

R E V O L U T I O N A R Y

[@CuriosityCulture]

I've seen my oldest sister who has spinal bifida cry because people look at her differently. It drives me crazy sometimes :/

[@amyrivers9792]

It's really lovely that you are supportive of your sister.

[@theirishninjasanimations]

Good to see you're supportive of her. I also have spina bifida, and I'm not gonna lie, it gets rough. Not just how others look at me, but even seeing other people walk sometimes gets me emotional, weirdly.

[@mattboselli1099]

Harshil Patel do not let it bother you because that's their problem if they don't understand it again that's their problem they don't need to be around you if they don't understand people with issues disabilities so stay strong bro

[@hopelytle3876]

I also have spina bifida and I also get weird looks and I wish I could walk normally but spina bifida made me who I am

[@notquitelikegurpz]

TheIrishninjas God bless you

[@QueenKaitio]

"If one more person calls me an inspiration after just meeting me....im gonna burn your house down" I love her so much already xD

[@kittycat0876]

QueenKaito I know I’m blind I hate when someone does that

[@Geo76er]

Loved that.

[@Michael-nh1ti]

when i had crutches this doctor asked me if i wanted a boot to help me walk or looke "cool" with my crutches. Me in my mind: BOI IF YOU DON'T-

[@suckatoe8526]

Fyi she has a yt channel!

[@sdrummer123]

Not everyone with a disability feels good about themselves, I have muscular dystrophy and a lot of the time I don't feel good about myself because of it - I think it's natural, and it's okay to not be okay sometimes.

[@titiavandeneertwegh3170]

Same here. When it takes 6 months for a new pair of orthopedic shoes to be made to fit after surgery, it takes up all my patience. Hang in there!

[@kimielemadridejos9090]

Me too friend:

[@sdrummer123]

Titia van den Eertwegh Thank you, I appreciate it! I can imagine it can take its toll, but you hang in there, too!

[@sdrummer123]

Kimiele Madridejos So do I... you’re not alone!

[@sdrummer123]

Buzzy Popman Everyone feels insecure at times, especially when you have a disability, but we have to do our best to overcome it, I guess!

[@chickgonesquirrely]

I don’t think anyone is qualified to say most people love their disabilities. I have several family members with lifelong disabilities that would tell you otherwise.

[@aircourier7805]

yes you are saying the right thing

[@lauras5359]

Yes, no one is. People who have disabilities are on a wide spectrum. Just because one person doesn't care or loves their disability or likes people asking them about it doesn't mean everyone does.

[@schizescribe]

I think the problem is more we passed the Disabilities Act and everyone assumes everything is “accessible” now, but there’s a lot of work everyone needs to do on what it means to be disabled-due to neurodivergence, mental disability, chronic illness, physical illness-and that these things often overlap, so there’s a lot that needs to be done to make the world accessible. A huge chunk of the problem is people being ableist without even realizing it, because it’s so ingrained and systemic, and it’s something people often don’t recognize they’re doing it until they become disabled themselves.

[@jamieisnotokay3298]

Yeah. Honestly I have tics and it sucks sometimes. I don't hate it, though. I just live with it. Maybe it's because I'm younger and still in school, but it can be hard.

[@aryastark6266]

This. I'm one of those who resents my disability because I have continously been defined by it and been patronised. Some people don't see me and my personality they just hear disabled and go into pity mode automatically.

[@Kaalyn_HOW]

I have a severe disability as well (in a wheelchair), as well as OCD. I have absolutely come to accept my disorders and carry ZERO shame with them, but I don't LOOOOVE my disability like she said. And, I wouldn't say that "most of us feel that way". A lot of us have accepted ourselves and love ourselves, but that doesn't mean we love our disabilities. It would be just about impossible for me for to LOVE the thing causing me so much pain and suffering. ...but I'm also not ashamed of it. I found her firmness on that remark really misleading and uber personal to just her.

[@marilynalvarez9951]

Yes, I agree, it did seem a bit over the top, I too need a scooter at times and though I have to live with it, I still get a bit embarrassed when I have to use a scooter cart at big places like Costco or Walmart, people's eyes are looking at me like "why are you using that"....part of life and it's insistent obstacles.

[@avelinn8]

I agree so much, I have a light cerebral paralysis on my left side. I accepted that and it made me stronger I think which I‘m able to appreciate. But the cramps are painful, not being able to do sports I like is frustrating etc. Love is simply the wrong word for me. And I know that many people with disabilities around me would never say they love them. If she feels that way I think it‘s beautiful but to say most of us feel that way was not right.

[@drazenovic9120]

Kaalyn - OPG I Always wondered whats OCD like.I know its not nice of me to ask but mind describing it? If you dont want to thats fine

[@bums009]

So agree with you. When she said she loved her OCD I rolled my eyes so hard. As someone with OCD, depression and anxiety which is all connected to ptsd caused by childhood trauma, I don't love it. And what does embracing a mental illness really mean? Should I just embrace my depression and kill myself? I don't get it.

[@overthehill2023]

Halapecia shaniqua my exact thoughts!!! no one loves having OCD, it's not cute or fun or something to love!! it's a debilitating mental disorder that myself and others fight everyday, it really pissed me off to hear there

[@TheGingerFamily8488]

My daughter is 6. She is nonverbal and in a wheelchair. She can crawl but cannot walk without her walker or our assistance. She has heart issues and has had open heart surgeries and her chromosome deletion causes all of her struggles. I wish people knew all this! This video is really amazing. One thing that hurts the most is parents shushing their kids, parents talking nasty, kids talking nasty and parents allowing it. My daughters disabilities do not define her. Thanks for this amazing video!

[@mehere8038]

3 years on, how's she going now & how are you finding attitudes? Is it getting better or worse as she's getting older?

[@KarmaVA]

As someone with invisible illnesses/disabilities I’m so happy you started doing these videos. Thank you BuzzFeed!

[@Ainiewainy]

Agreed! I just miss the people with the invisible mental problems!

[@tinaandersen3270]

Same

[@MollyKateMcCarthy]

Right!? A platform as big as this can bring so much awareness 🙌🏻

[@selathekobold9832]

Too bad they're still corrupt.

[@laurieberry4814]

My worse problems are my lungs. I don’t go around with oxygen. I have to take care of myself so that I won’t get really sick. I am not proud of it. I worry that people might believe that I am lazy or irresponsible. My Mom tells me that I am doing well, but I have trouble believing that

[@stephaniec7216]

You can’t blame parents for telling their kids to not stare. Maybe not everyone is ok with getting attention for their disabilities. It’s not their fault for thinking that their kids may say something that could hurt that person’s feelings.

[@marilynalvarez9951]

I agree!

[@thehorsesnamewasfriday8695]

Tru

[@kaylag.9459]

I think you can blame the parents. Don't get me wrong, I can understand where the parents are coming from, but pulling a child away from a person with a disability with no word or explanation just teaches the child that people with disabilities are something to be afraid or ashamed of. Let the child look, ask questions, talk to you about it, ask questions. If you don't know the answer to a question, look it up, or better yet, ask the person with the disability. Children learn about the world from their parents and caregivers.

[@Nstone53]

100% agree. My grandfather would start cursing and yelling at people if they even looked at him because he was so paranoid that they were staring at his wheelchair.

[@ianbonnar1801]

Stephanie Castillo do you have any disabilities?

[@lealamorgan5481]

Once my friend asked me to describe this guy friend I had so I described his personality and features. When she met him she took me away and said "Omg, you could have told me he was in a wheel chair" and my only reply was, you asked me to describe *him* , not the chair. Edit: this comment got so much backlash! If y'all must know, we literally went out to eat in the mall and that my friend didn't even have to come, she told us last minute and we where already sat down when.she came so ifshe wanted to be awkward about a chair with wheels that wouldn't effect her day, thats her choice.

[@wllwnwouIse]

👏👏👏👏

[@dlvme2]

ÅÑGÊL bbs I commend you. At the same time, as someone with a disability, I do feel you can describe the person, but mention the so called disability. If taking a person on a date - a wheelchair etc may play into where you take them. It can also prevent any awkwardness, which occurred here. I don't personally feel disabled, but others may feel I am. If someone finds your friend's wheelchair off-putting just in a conversation then they probably are not the right person to set them up with.

[@Entertainment-ev6ob]

ÅÑGÊL bbs describe his broken leg lol

[@gem2148]

Debra Johns EXACTLY

[@gem2148]

ÅÑGÊL bbs Well part of him & his life that he is in a wheelchair! So mentioning that to prevent awkwardness like what happened is important!

[@ronsansone6032]

I am a decent man that has MS. I FREAKIN HATE IT! I am one of the fighters out here too. I am different now than I used to be. I'm pragmatic. I also can still use my hands pretty well to play guitar pretty decently but I am realistic in all the limitations that being disabled can bring. For example, I like to travel. Cobblestone roads are not Mobility scooter friendly. Frustration and anger ensues. I think I'm just human. To say I'm happy with the entire situation would be a bald faced lie. I also like to date and need companionship and love. I think dating is primal whether we admit it or not. A female lioness is not going to go for what appears to be the weakest lion in the pride. So an arduous process has ensued, but I guess that's love for all of us, disabled or not.. Looks can be very deceiving I'm strong. I prevail every day in so many tasks that most people TOTALLY take for granted. I did. Don't assume ANYTHING with a disabled person. Simply ASK. We're all human. Be Human

[@kristinjenkins1596]

I've had MS for over 20 years and am now wheelchair-bound. I totally agree with your statement!! =)

[@ronsansone6032]

Kristin Jenkins, I don't know anyone and have NEVER known anyone else with MS. Hit me up anytime if ya feel like venting, discussing health care issues, dealing with family and friends, equipment types etc. Anything. [e-mail]

[@georgiab5102]

I was just diagnosed with MS and hydrocephalus and I’m only ten! Thank you for making my day! Also random question am I not supposed to tell 5 year olds that my neck brace is a pillow because I am tired.

[@hildevanbragt5601]

About 7 years ago, i was like 8 years old, i was in a wheelchair for a year because of my arthritis. Everytime I went for a drink with my mom the waiters would ask my mom what I would like to drink, literally looking at me and ignoring me, thinking i was mentally disabled and couldnt say a word. I think thats a thing that belongs in this list. Being disabled doesnt mean being isolated from the world or anybody and people should be thinking about that more often instead of ignoring it...

[@RomeoBarnes]

Hilde van Bragt this is infuriating.

[@cannonball890]

Yeah my mom is in a wheelchair and I remember one time she asked someone for directions, they looked at me and told me directions. Despite her asking, they turned to me assuming she had a mental impairment. And now that I've lost my tongue I get looks like I'm underdeveloped because my speech is messed up. It is so infuriating.

[@hildevanbragt5601]

Its just the worst....

[@Jaimi_Crystal]

I'm in a wheelchair - the only thing wrong with me is I cannot walk. I can totally relate - I have people either talk to whoever I'm with rather than to me, talk suuuper slow as if i don't understand them, talk an inch from my face like I'm blind or yell at me like I'm deaf. It's so annoying.

[@hildevanbragt5601]

Exactly what i meant, people should get more aware of this and jusk try, its not like its wrong to ask. Even if you are in a wheelchair AND cannot talk their friends will let you know.

[@robertcook2097]

I don’t have anything super serious like these women, but I have a radial club hand, scoliosis, and I’m deaf in my right ear. This video is nice!

[@squichyfourfivesix1134]

Robert Cook I have scoliosis too... It sucks. It made me stronger😄

[@abulak1233]

Robert Cook I'll pray for you too god bless both of you

[@robertcook2097]

Squichy FourFiveSix did you get spinal fusion?! Or a veptr? I’ve had both

[@squichyfourfivesix1134]

Robert Cook No I am lucky enough to have not. I have to wear a brace for it... 23 hours a day.... It has made me a better person I have to wear it till I stop growing😭 But its all goooo

[@Mindcrashed]

Robert Cook same.. I have severe scoliosis which makes me back look messed up and people stare... also it hurts. but I’m not sure if I’d call myself disabled

[@danzbeard]

THANK YOU FOR THIS. Tremendous insight, and very helpful!!! Pamela is awesome!!! as well as the others, but Pamela's freaking hilarious.

[@mysticmarie4903]

I was born with a learning disability and I am an entry level architect im 27-year-old this June.

[@katiewhite7955]

Mystic Marie I was born with a disability myself

[@rebellionemma4778]

Mystic Marie i was born w a learning disability aswell

[@jonathanmollere5355]

Me to I understand you..

[@lavenderclairy]

Not all disabilities are visible. (🦓)

[@karolinajoannastasiak3100]

Claire Elizabeth zebras unite 🦓

[@thetrashiesttrash9120]

Yep. I only have one visible issue(I hate saying disability because it's been used against me to hurt me so much), constant muscle spasms, but I have many issues you can't see usually(Sometimes one is visible bc/ I need help getting around because of it at times).

[@lavenderclairy]

Karolina Joanna Stasiak glad you noticed the zebra :)

[@Darkblaze129]

I'm a zebra and I don't think it is a disability

[@rach_laze]

Darkblaze129 it can be completely disabling though it's a spectrum for a reason

[@anitaboddie1073]

I have "invisible " disabilities. I look fine until you see me walking and it's worse after five minutes. I have Psoriatic Arthritist and Ankolysing Spondylitis. Both are advanced. It's painful and has drastically altered my life physically, but I am still me. Yes I freaking hate it, but I have learned to embrace it. So if you see a seemingly healthy looking person park in the handicap spot with a placard, or use a motorized scooter in a store, stop and think that they may just have a "invisible " disability. It hurts to hear oh look at that lazy woman. When I don't use one, I am in tears and cannot even stand straight as I walk and I get jokes like it's Igor. Please think before judging and if you are curious, just ask me.

[@TheAgeofFabulous]

Yes!! Thank you for putting out this video. Now can you do one on people with invisible disabilities? That would be great because I love getting the question of “But you don’t LOOK disabled!”

[@Ainiewainy]

Thank you! I want to see that too! I'm invisible in my disabillities and having to tell people that the problems are worse than they see can be hard too!

[@ThePeacewave]

The Age of Fabulous RIGHT?! I just want to smack my head sometimes when I get that comment. It’s like really? Seriously? I have to act and PROVE that I have a disability?

[@MollyKateMcCarthy]

Yesss

[@AD-eg9cw]

I had to threaten with legal action on more than one occasion when I was *denied* a wheelchair because I didn't look like my tailbone was dislocated and couldn't walk.

[@mehere8038]

I use a wheelchair, but before I did, I had the same disability, but not as bad & invisible. I frequently correct people when they comment on disabled parking spaces & how it must annoy me when walking people use them. I explain that I used to be one of those people & I actually need the spots less now than I did then, even though people couldn't see I needed it before I was in the wheelchair. Actually horrifies me the amount of abuse of invisible disabilities I see around me now & the number of people who confide in me as to what they've done to people they don't consider disabled, cause the disability was hidden. They actually seem to think they're "helping" people like me to be downright cruel to those with hidden disabilities, it's horrible! I don't get people sometimes!

[@saucytimes9001]

If you have a physical disability, some people treat you like a flower that dies if air touches

[@Goat.Cheese]

This makes it look like having a disability is such a fun time. For me, it's not. I hate being disabled.

[@iloilee]

Yes!!! I’m not gonna celebrate being disabled. I don’t love my disabilities. Wtf are they talking about

[@Alicia-wq2fs]

Delilah Phillips they are talking about the fact that some people are fine with being disabled. I am. It doesn't mean it's everyone's experience. But the point of sharing that they're accepting of themselves as disabled people and that their lives are happy is because it shouldnt be the automatically assumption of non disabled people that we hate ourselves and our lives.

[@iloilee]

Accepting your disability is fine. Enjoying life despite your disability is fine. Loving yourself is fine. Being positive is fine. But that person downright “loves” her disability? It obviously doesn’t affect her that much then. Loving your disability is completely different than accepting it. And you can love yourself but still hate your disability. Loving the very thing that makes you suffer is just weird. I hate my disabilities and I would kill to get rid of them. I wish I can be healthy. I wish I can go places and do fun things. There’s nothing good about disabilities. Nothing.

[@Alicia-wq2fs]

Delilah Phillips your experience with your disabilities are valid, and it's wrong to say that someone else's experience with their isn't valid. Not all disabled people feel they are suffering. It's not weird to love something that in part makes up who you are. You also don't get to decide that because someone views their disability differently than you that it means they aren't as strongly impacted. Disability is vastly diverse. We all experience it differently. There is no wrong way to feel about it.

[@tsunderechild2777]

I guess what they mean when they love their disabilities is that they love the strengths they’re gained from living with them rather than the experience of the disability itself. That’s what I feel too.

[@elanabrooke7348]

I met Pam when she spoke at program about discussing disability and no joke she is the funniest person I have ever talked to. I literally got so excited when I saw her in this video!

[@amykrueger-smith5461]

I would love her named so I could google her

[@sean.4881]

This video is so close to home my 5 year old brother has cerebral palsy and everyday I worry that he will pass earlier than the normal age. Too see how well these people are with their disabled lives reassures me that my brother will grow up strong and healthy just like them.

[@rach_laze]

Sean Norton there is no reason to worry, in general unless there are other conditions going along with it the life expectancy is roughly the same, I have 2 cousins a best friend and my boyfriend all with cp some with other issues and all are expected to live no more than 5 years shorter than average and even then it's only because the risk of seizures in epileptics increases with old age

[@samanthacranford58]

OH MY GOD I LOVE YOU GUYS!!! mainstream/abled bodied people are NOT educated enough on how to interact with persons living with disabilities! My mother was an RN for et years and i grew up going to the nursing homes and eventually the homes of the choldren she cared for and became family to so many of her patients (not encouraged behavior by the bosses) but she believe she treats the WHOLE FAMILY as well as the patient. I have also dedicated my life to working in many fields: blind, wheelchair bound, CP, amputees, deaf, victims of child abuse, polio, scholiosis and spina bifida and other vertebral issues, mentally challenged. I also love being a Hugger at Special Olympics. I LOVE SN adults and children alike and I am THRILLED to have things like facebook where the "layman" can learn how to better the lives of themselves, their families and all those around them! WAY TO GO BUZZ FEED!!

[@ammberhoyos7390]

This is a good video buzzfeed. Keep up the good work!

[@indiawoods7320]

I wish people knew that disabilities aren't always a thing you can see. You don't need to PROVE that you are disabled if it's not a visible disability

[@happy.hybrid1675]

I have mild Cerebral Palsy, and I am not in a wheelchair, but I am in a gym class where students in mainstream classes get to help the kids in Special Ed classes. It makes me upset when kids in my classes make fun of the noises that the SE kids make when they try to speak; I've become accustomed to those and I know the exact sound they make when trying to express happiness. But then on the other side of the spectrum there was a girl in my school who knew me and didn't even know I was disabled until my best friend told her. You never know how people will react.

[@ollythewolf.7491]

I don’t like it when people look at people with disabilities and act disgusted.

[@derekschmitz3488]

OllytheWolf.74 yeah me too, they look at me like I am an alien, when I just want to be a regular person. I have CP

[@ollythewolf.7491]

Derek's Epic Life Video Blog Well that sucks...I hope when people see this video they’ll stop looking at you like that

[@drazenovic9120]

OllytheWolf.74 For some reason every time i see a disabled person Like no leg or something , i really feel bad and in most cases i start to cry. I cant help it

[@chacha1392]

I think this video is really good because lots of people can’t understand how to properly react to people with disabilities.

[@LissiSunshine91]

To the woman with Tourettes-Syndrom: You are right. Genetics doesn't make you an inspiration. But the way you see yourself and talk about your disability does make you an inspiration. I loved, loved, loved the part when you said you decided to not just love parts of your brain. This is such an important message for basically anybody!You can't have light without darkness and in the end it is the combination of both that makes life even possible. If only we could all manage to see ourselves that way...

[@ashleyt545]

“I’m gunna burn your house down” hahaha I love her

[@ivrysixkiller2756]

You should do a video with service dog handlers. I think there needs to be more info on them open to the public. As a service dog handler myself there a different pet peeves that I have. Most are pretty common among other service dog handlers

[@Ainiewainy]

Ivrysixkiller Yes!

[@MollyKateMcCarthy]

Good idea!

[@chickennuggets1990]

And dont disturb teh doggos.

[@labradorableretriever4490]

Definitely. I hate entitled business owners who think the law does not apply to them. That one really needs to be taken care of in countries that have existing civil rights act.s. You move to the UK or the states or wherever and you come from China or Mexico. You can’t bring your discrimination with you. You need to educate yourself on where you were living. These people don’t get it. You’re not in China you’re not in Mexico anymore you can’t kick me out because of my dog. You will get in trouble and your restaurant could be shut down and I don’t think you want to lose your business. These things really do need to be heard because it happens nonstop.

[@the_5th_night]

Pet peeves about pets... sorry I couldn't help it!🤣😄🦮🐕‍🦺

[@JustinY.]

#1: Having a disability sucks

[@0Honey_Nut_Cheetos0]

true

[@TPJN777]

It's not the greatest huh

[@kiwirawi]

Wait until kids come saying that they saw a shut in.

[@nicholasnguyen4564]

so I see you comment on every buzzfeed video

[@putincatboy]

No unless your bendy

[@jennamartin5913]

I LOVED when she said she’s 4”7…… I gave spina bifida and I’m 4”7 too!

[@dominiqueroman6657]

Never treat people with disable different cause put yourself in there place n feel what they feel. Love you guys

[@Darkskymadian]

I have Fibromyalgia and Asperger's and dealing with all of them made me a stronger person I am not broken because I need a walking stick I am not unhealthy or fat i am 8st and 5 ' 3 i am a sassy witty person, I love making friends and gaining new skills or experiencing new things.

[@ceseak1571]

I have multiple disabilities non of which are visible. Leveing the house is a daily struggle and it hurts me so much when people say things like you are to young/ old to have that condition. You do not look ill. You are only doing this for attention. Its go to the point that I refused to use disability aids that cold help me as I am worried that I will get called out on buy strangers. More understanding would go a long way.for example if more people realise that disability is often not visible and that any condition can affect people of any age and most conditions are life long and do not go away. I would not find life so hard as I would be able to acess the support I need with out worrying.

[@fonkelster]

Things People With Disabilities Wish You Knew = Not all disablilities are visible.

[@SassyWitch666]

“If one more person calls me an inspiration after just meeting me....I'm gonna burn their house down!” Lol that's hysterical! I think she’d be awesome to hang out with. I agree. I'm not an inspiration just because I'm disabled.

[@kjdnyhmghfvb]

"IF one more person calls me an inspiration after just meeting me, I'm going to burn their house down."

[@franceskoz]

It's also true that lots of people with disabilities think they're just awful, and romanticizing disability by just talking about celebrating them is harmful to some of us too. I have a disability that means I can't even work, and there's no romanticizing that. Allowing disabled people to just say "Yeah, this is awful" is also part of disability welcoming.

[@celtichound9889]

Frances Skylar. With my disability (Neurofibromatosis type 1) I was 3 almot 4 before I could walk, I'm in constant physical pain, I have an increased risk of developing several different types of cancer, I have countless tumors popping up all over my body (thankfully they are benign) and spent a large part of my childhood in and out of hospital. But yeah I should celebrate having it. I'm also ableist for not wanting to have kids because there's a 50/50 chance of me passing it on to them.

[@username8448]

it really annoys me when people talk about disabilities as a good thing, sure you may be fine and happy with your disability but as a disabled person i would not wish it upon anyone because as the name says it disables you from doing many things and generally makes life much harder

[@IAmNotYourProblem]

I have fibromyalgia, which is a chronic widespread pain disorder. It causes me to be depressed, fatigues, have brain fog, confusion, migraines, IBS, along with many other issues. It’s hard for me to walk stand or sit for long periods of time, hard for me to focus at times. I am constantly in pain, sometimes it feels like I slept on my back wrong, and sometimes it feels like I got hit my a cement truck. Not all disabilities are visible. You cannot see how much pain I’m in, and might judge me when I ask for a disability scooter at the store, and I’m sorry when I seem cold or rude, I’m just in pain and sometimes I forget to be patient with others. I’m glad you ladies are talking about your disabilities, it’s honestly so great to see people be more open and inviting if questions.

[@vanikhanna3790]

This video is so mature and needs to circulate everywhere. Thank you for this wonderful insight and being so strong 💘

[@ktcat8500]

I have a disability no one can see it's nice in the fact I can pass if I want to not pass No one believes that hurts more to me. I have incontractable migraines and Trigeminal neuralgia I hardly go out. I've been sick for 18 years I really can't take this anymore. I don't have any friends. The pain is worth it to hang out with my husband, Mom and niece. Thank you letting letting rambal on

[@beebop1402]

i mean my disability definitely makes me feel different. i’m 16 and have CRMO (chronic reoccurring multi focal osteomyelitis) and i wish i could feel as accepting as the women in the video. It’s hard to love my disability when it prevents me from going to school and being a normal teenager

[@spieterman3065]

BeccaBear whish I wasnt this cliche, but like, it gets better. It really does. Hang in there.

[@Alicia-wq2fs]

It's totally valid to feel that way. It's definitely a process to get to the point the people in this video are at, and some people never do and that's fine too. I grew up disabled and didn't begin to have pride in and appreciation for my disability until a few years ago. I am 25. My journey still continues, but my perspective definitely has continued to shift.

[@beebop1402]

Alicia Rowley thank you so much. this comment really moved me

[@issariver]

PAMMMMM I DIDN'T EXPECT THAT! I love your comedy stuff!

[@parkchimmy881]

For me I don’t care how people look from outside, the matter is what inside of them and their personality

[@deannang455]

Sometimes people with disabilities are faced with a lot of hate, rejection and discrimination in all areas of society, and face poverty, hunger and loneliness. Often people are ashamed to be with them. It is good people are speaking up and showing our common humanity. from a PWD.

[@ElizabethCox-z9o]

I know my sister and I are both disabled our own Dad and my extended family are ableist, and ashamed of us.

[@mansee7361]

I absolutely love Pamela❤️( the woman wearing black top) OMG she’s hilarious😂

[@strxberrygacha4437]

Mansee 02 they're all wearing a black top 😂

[@ThePeacewave]

FINALLY! REPRESENT! I have been waiting for videos about disabilities! There’s a wide range from visible and invisible disabilities! Please do more! There’s so much yall can do with this. I know yall have only touched in with the physical/visible disabilities but there is so much more.

[@nanaaraj]

I can relate to this. I have mild learning difficulties and when people see me act negatively they see it as a disability rather than my personality which is so annoying because I am a human being and have personal traits. I may be behind with my social skills by making conversation and controlling my emotions. I do overanalyse things and can be sensitive. The reason why they say it is because I sometimes don’t understand. I do usually understand. Not every thing I do wrong has to relate to my needs. Just because I behave positively, social service won’t label that as a disability. If they see a normal person do something naughty, it’s not a problem but people with disabilities it’s a problem. Every human has their negative and positive traits about them. Nobody’s perfect! Why do you think that a person with disability is expected to have all positive traits about them and not negative? By way, this is from my personal experience.

[@lauren489219]

With my disabilities I WANT the people in my life to look at me different (not less than) because I cannot do the things they expect me to do. I wish they understood my disabilities make some things very hard or impossible for me to do.

[@ellabergstrom4200]

I guess the good thing about having 2 prosthetic feet is that u will never grow out of ur cute shoes!! Love this vid so much💕

[@double_slime]

as a disabled person in 2022, this feels very plastic and a lot like hugboxing. it gets relevant and less like toxic positivity at 2:31

[@pause-_9044]

I have a cousin that has a disability everyone deserves to be treated equal

[@bermuthos_sea]

I have invisible disabilites such as generalized anxiety disorder and severe depression and possibly have ptsd from the extreme bullying from the students and teachers and the principals from many schools. And with that I have a hard time trusting people and is sensitive to things that I shouldn't be. But it doesn't make me weak. Everyday is a new challenge for me.

[@marilynalvarez9951]

What a great video, thank you for stating what most people just don't understand, some common sense just eludes some people. We all need help as some point disabled or not, just simple common courtesy is needed at all times.

[@piaaadah]

Culture teaches us the best thing to do is look away, don't stare, etc.. but people end up dehumanizing them by treating them differently than you would a "normal" person. At the end of the day they just want to be treated respectfully like all of us do. Nobody wants to feel outcasted and invisible. So here's some things to remember: 1. There's a big difference between not staring (more than you respectfully would for anyone) and treating them as if they're not there and avoiding meeting their gaze at all costs. It's OK to look, it's OK if your child is curious. Take it as a learning experience. 2. Treat them as equals despite what you think you know. If they need help or need changes made they will let you know so don't worry about that. 3. Don't pity me. Me opening up to you about my disease doesn't mean I'm looking for pity or want you to say sorry to me. If anything, feel humbled that they were willing to trust you with this. (You don't see me saying sorry for noticing you're right-handed or have a big mole on your face. It's not my place to be sorry or judge.) 4. When it comes to helping them ONLY do so when they ask. Remember.. most disabled people have adapted to living that way and don't need an aid. 5. Don't EVER assume or deny one's disability. Disabled doesn't just mean in a wheelchair or visibly disabled or defined by age. I've been treated rudely simply because I'm young, disability affects everyone equally of all ages. There's a differnce between embraciny a disability and shaming

[@flatroundhere]

invisible disabilities exist, and they're just as much of a struggle as visible ones.

[@jjjww975]

I adopted my son who has CP when he was 8 months old --- out of all of my ups and downs in life and wondering why I couldn't achieve, when I failed - set my life on a course to intersect with his -- and GOD blessed me -- he makes me a good father -- we laugh - and joke - and play - and travel -- we experience joy - fear - hardships, but we do this together --- he makes my life and I love him so much -- My whole life was meant to be part of his... & that is a great thing!

[@HighTen_Melanie]

Don’t ever touch my wheelchair!!!! 😖

[@pattyronco4217]

I feel that the best way to put it truly is that no one is greater or less than another, we are all truly one. Yes, no one wants to be disabled or unable to do things in any way. Some people have better, more able bodies than others, but again, no one is truly greater than the other. If you say that you want to be disabled, that is unhealthy, if you say you don’t love yourself, that is also unhealthy. Love yourself, ALWAYS. And tell the truth. It isn’t ok to have a disability and that is exactly why you are perfect for your true self is limitless and free. It is not ok to settle for anything other than getting better and hanging on to a disability and inability to do things is not ok. If someone is unable to walk and in a wheel chair, their goal should be to get up and walk. If someone is able to walk but not able to run, there goal should be to run. If i am only able to run 3 miles rn, my goal should be to run 4. To accept any disability as it is and to not continue to get better is an absolute crime against who we truly are.

[@vernardm.9630]

2:43 "burn their house" I just love this quote

[@laurie329808]

So happy I came across this video (if not just for disabilities awareness sake). I myself am one of those with various medical conditions (which cause varying levels of disability). I was born with the rare genetic birth defect conditions called Schizencephaly & Porencephaly. The Schizencephaly & Porencephaly resulted in my developing both Hydrocephalus & Epilepsy...in addition to this, my Mom said that I was unable to walk until the age of 2 (due to some form of Cerebral Palsy, although we aren't sure which type). I was also (during childhood) subsequently diagnosed with Scoliosis (which still affects me and causes lower back pain spasms)... Additionally, I also have problems with my knees, legs (mostly my ankles), and hips. I was also subsequently diagnosed with the chronic pain condition called Fibromyalgia (in December 2017). All of this (in addition to other issues) has also resulted in my being diagnosed with moderate depression...although (as it seems) that in spite of there being times when I'm in enough pain that I am unable to sit, stand, or much less even walk short distances without being in a high amount of pain, my doctors (& even the Social Security Administration) don't believe that I'm "disabled enough" to qualify for benefits. I've dealt with the bullying and torment all my life (as has my fiancé, who he himself is also disabled). My fiancé was (like me) born with Hydrocephalus (& subsequently diagnosed with Epilepsy at age 3), plus he too also has CP (left hemiplasia) where only his left arm is affected (not amputated, but he has little to no feeling/use of his left arm), plus he's also legally blind. He & I both had gone through hell (when we were in between relationships) where I heard things like, "I want to be with you, but I can't handle it if you're going to be sick all the time. Goodbye." & my fiancé had heard things like, "You're better off looking for someone else like you (meaning: disabled)". or "You'd just be another responsibility for me to take care of, so I'm sorry, it WON'T work out." It's to those types of people that I say, "Well, it's their loss...not ours", cause in spite of our disabilities & limitations, my fiancé & I are a "team" and are each others support system...where one of us is "weaker" the other might find as a "strength" & vice versa. We've been together for 3 years now (but been friends for what will be 8 years come January 2022) & will finally be getting married next summer (planning for an August 2022 wedding, since our original plan to marry this year got scrapped due to COVID-19 & we're long distance). I currently reside in Hawaii while my fiancé is in Pennsylvania (but I'm moving to Pennsylvania after we're married). 😁💕

[@DistressedAndImpressed]

Ooh! I have an even better one! Stop asking me if I wear diapers or have a poop bag. I don't, but..That's none of your business! 🙄

[@Bulletcore]

Ask them if they had their period yet, it is even funnier if they are male :D

[@DistressedAndImpressed]

Bulletcore Good one! 😂

[@hannahshackelford5806]

I’ve heard that asking their favorite sex position works well, too. 😉

[@DistressedAndImpressed]

Hannah Shackelford 💀

[@tonys6861]

I bet you do =)

[@stephaniedemeyer4961]

I wish Buzzfeed would put captioning on their app and on their website....especially for stuff regarding disabilities.

[@FaithlynZoe]

Love these videos!

[@lodgewood02]

I loved this video. I'm diagnosed with CP and also in a wheelchair and most of what the ladies were saying happens to me on a daily basis. I especially enjoy when kids are curious enough to ask why I'm in a wheelchair. But I do dislike when the parent scolds the child for asking a question. Children are intuitively curious. Just again I LOVE this video.

[@Psychthecolourwhite]

This really helps understanding their perspectives, keep it up buzzfeed!! Sending love from India ❤️🇮🇳✌️

[@frankthemousepie]

Honest question here, I really don't interact much with people with disabilities, they're just not in my circle- but when I see disabled people I don't want to stare or bother them, it's genuinely not because I'm sorry for them or anything, but because I don't want to treat them differently or make them uncomfortable. I wouldn't want to be stared at or asked a bunch of questions all day by kids, but at the same time I would like to help if I can. I have a family member with cerebral palsy and there's no issues because I personally know her, but with strangers I don't want to assume they need my help or bother them... What's the line? How can I be helpful without being awkward or condescending? :/

[@haleymae1694]

Thank you!! I have spina bifida so I think this video is awesome and brings awareness!

[@PatricianaAsdfghjkl]

I love how they speak up for themselves, and lady, you earned that word from how you spoke to all the people in this world about how we all think and treat you.

[@rjsteinke104]

2:45 love her so inspirational

[@sharonjensen3016]

Normal, able-bodied people should never ever say: "Thank God that's not me" about those with disabilities. They shouldn't even think it. Christopher Reeve did and look what happened to him. Everyone needs to remember that about disability. It could happen to them.

[@samadams196]

about dating i have rejected many times because im disable

[@trippytiana3651]

Okay, it’s not that people with disabilities are less than. It’s that no one who has said that has never been in a situation where they can say, “I am proud of being a person with a disability”. Yes, people were not born with a disability, some are. We all like a bit of difference! No matter how hard it is to see or handle.

[@evipepers1432]

this needs to go viral

[@Jayjoy94]

These women are so strong and bold. Not because of their disability but just from the strength of their character. I do agree that we should stop to say disabled and better use the term person with a disability. Because in the end what makes them special is their own character and not „how they deal with their ‚situation‘“ as some refer to. Big thanks to buzzfeed and these gorgeous women ❤️

[@melanivega9827]

For someone who has a disability and who has a family member with a disability thank you so much! Very inspirational video!

[@roxanafranco8959]

Yesss👏👏👏 love this video. I think it’s very important to destigmatize disabilities.

[@celestehollands2360]

Well done to everyone in this video, I LOVE how amazing you all are!

[@mehere8038]

that's a troll based on what they said about burning your house down if another person says that to them right?

[@azurew7039]

I think this video is a good start when it comes to representation and giving us disabled people/people with disabilities a spotlight, but, just like "not every disabled person is the same", I think it is incredibly important to talk about how not every person with a disability/disabled person likes person first language. Some of us prefer saying we are disabled. And no one has a right to tell you how to identify. If you want to say disabled, person with a disability, or even differently abled, that's okay. However you want to define yourself. Just as long as you don't try to tell anyone else how to identify.

[@AngelQuintanilla]

I really liked this video because I have Cerebral Palsy as well and I really appreciate that buzzfeed found people with different types of disabilities and different opinions and different points some people (including myself) may not agree with everything that was said but I'm glad this video was made there is room for improvement for people who have disabilities and for people who don't have disabilities as far as learning about each other and understanding each other (because we are all different in many different ways as humans are, everyone is an individual) overall this video in my opinion made me personally feel good and I think it's a step in a good direction some people may have other opinions and that's great hey to each their own I love reading the comments on this video and I hope that there are more mature and respectful conversations like I see here in the comments in the future Thanks for taking the time to read my comment I hope you have a wonderful day ❤

[@mdickson3821]

"If one more person calls me an inspiration after just meeting me, I'm going to burn your house down." LOL

[@cody5967]

love you bro keep it up

[@amyellen3845]

And please never ever ask anyone when they are going to have children, even if you don't see any sign of illness or disability. Infertility is extremely common for a variety of reasons. You don't know how many miscarriages a person may have had. Other people's fertility is never any of your business and it's cruel to bring it up.

[@MackNcD]

I disagree, you can ask people. You mean just don’t ask you, and you’d recommend sensitivity because of others in your position being out there as well - that’s good and compassionate too

[@MackNcD]

I think saying “when are you going to” is just a rude way of stating it - because it assumes a number of things in the question itself. Asking “would you ever have a baby?” is innocent enough, and a simple “no, it’s not for me” can suffice if the conversation is on the lighter, or more formal side.

[@urdadtm5854]

I think every single person in this video is very beautiful, Mentally and physically

[@tbugmurphy]

I have rheumatoid arthritis and severe scoliosis, and nobody even notices unless I’m wearing my knee brace or if I’m limping and it’s frustrating because I don’t look like I have anything wrong.

[@damien950]

I have ADHD and people in my high school always say "Why don't you justt focus" 😤

[@drazenovic9120]

MineLord Well i cant really relate cuz i dont have ADHD but once in elementary school i was beaten up by a girl with ADHD ;-;. On the Bright side you would be excellent at some sports with ADHD

[@capt_toad7890]

Buzzfeed: “I hate when people ask what’s wrong with me.” Also Buzzfeed: “I hate when people *don’t* ask what’s wrong with me.”

[@samanthaslagh9356]

Amazing women. Amazing messages. Sending love from the PT world ✌🏼

[@wynpyt]

Thank you for this video!!! It has opened my eyes!!!!

[@amym5062]

Thank you for being willing to open your eyes!

[@argyropoeia]

As someone with right Hemiplegia; I agree with everything these women say! Disabilities aren’t something to be ashamed or afraid of, and people should be way more conscientious about this stuff.

[@becksmurphy8311]

Niflheim me too

[@derekschmitz3488]

I too have right hemiplegic CP and me too.

[@samanthageier6032]

Good job Buzzfeed! As someone with spina bifida, these videos are extremely important for creating dialogue. Also Pamela is fricking awesome :)

[@elliottsaint]

Love the lady with terrets 😂❤️ she’s like the narrator of the video

[@ashtheemo7854]

Elliott Nicholls Yeah, she is the best 😂 I also have Tourette’s and I wish I had her confidence! We need to see more of her on BuzzFeed!

[@boredjerboa]

I have severe Tourette Syndrome that effects me 24/7 and in a million different ways and if it wasn't for my medication, which happens to be medicinal cannabis and horrendously expensive in my country, I wouldn't be able to leave my house let alone work. I would have so many injuries and so much more pain than I already do. I dont love Tourettes and I never will. It's a cruel disorder that ruins lives in many ways. I only laugh about it because if I don't I'd cry and I can't spend anymore time crippled with depression. I dont love my Tourettes, I co-exist with it. I wish you guys would make videos showing that not everybody loves their disabilities but that it's okay! You dont have too. You dont have to love being disabled because it sucks. You have to learn to deal with it and not let it bring you down. That is a far better lesson than telling people to just love the thing that hurts them.

[@iloilee]

Exactly. I don’t love any of my disabilities. I hate them

[@mikaela1897]

MORE VIDEOS ON DISABILITIES PLEASE 👏

[@dyllan8774]

I hate when you treat someone with a disability like you would anyone else and someone trys to call you disrespectful for treating them like you would anyone else

[@InvincibleStarGirl]

Pamela has so many great points aaa I think I love her

[@huthmeister3953]

I actually know hannah as my mother works with a company called Acting Without Boundaries for people who want to act with disabilities. And she is one of the actors who is heavily involved. Such a great person and has a beautiful singing voice.