Bye Fantasy, Build A Realistic Wardrobe You'll Use| luxury minimalist closet jewelry shopping tips

[@dawnnbaby]

Video Content 1. Forget your fantasy self 2. Simplicity first 3. Comfort 4. Don’t buy things you scared/ conscious to use 5. Rationale occasional items 6. Prioritise versatility

[@ColourfulNoir]

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[@Amywithlove148]

Great summary

[@mindbodysoul8214]

*Shop for YOURself, NOT for your Fantasy self*. My favorite quote of yours. Another Wonderful Video Eileen. 💛

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you for always supporting my content xx

[@ggmaag]

Shop for myself and not my fantasy self ! Yes this is me! Lol

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you for sharing, Mia! I'm glad my video was relatable xx

[@Tyronieus]

I am not into luxury bags or jewelry, but I am into luxury fragrances and I can relate to some of your videos. I used to own 50+ fragrances, a good bit of them high end (from $200 to $500). I had intentions on buying 50 to 100+ more when I realized a few things; 1.) I wasn't wearing nor did I have the time or opportunity to wear most of them. 2.) Most of these fragrances just felt too "upscale" and I really don't go to many upscale events. I was buying them for special occasions that may never come around. 3.) I'd only envision my best self or "fantasy self" wearing them. In reality, a lot of the fragrances I had just didn't fit my lifestyle. 4.) I was "shrining" a lot of my fragrances. I saw them as little trophies or things I loved to smell or fawn over, but was too afraid to wear or "use them up". I have now cut my collection down to 10. Even though I still struggle with the idea of owning a ton of fragrances for each and every occasion (even fantasy occasions) it feels good having a collection that makes sense, but is still enjoyable and fits my lifestyle.

[@ColourfulNoir]

Wow, thank you so much for sharing your personal journey! This is really helpful and inspiring :-)

[@marta9649]

Wow, same here 40+ bottles of niche perfumes that I could buy a car for it !!! One day I realised it and some I sold, some gifted to my mum and still have around 13. I had so many that sometimes I spent 20 minutes before work to think which one to choose and end up with none. Now I am happy with my collection and I use it almost everyday. I don’t think of them as collection anymore just perfumes. I have enough for whole decade and I enjoy what I have

[@Maremare680]

Just for curiosity, don’t perfume expire?

[@marta9649]

I have some 13 years and they are good. Store them properly in a box and dry place out of sunlight

[@ArabellaCharm]

Half my closet is "Fantasy self". I have Vasace and Hermès pieces that have tags on them steaming from 2011 that "I'm going to wear". This channel helps me edit so much.

[@ColourfulNoir]

I’m glad you found my video helpful xx

[@izuaa]

I didn’t know how much I needed such channel until I found yours. I watched several videos at one time and I must say it was literally a „slap in the face”-but only in the best meaning! Thank you for being an important part of a change in my life, don’t ever stop creating these videos and motivating people for a better ❤️

[@ColourfulNoir]

This means a lot, thank you so much xx

[@jenniferalbert910]

I completely agree with you on the leather scratching issue. I bought a Celine recently and returned it because I knew that the leather was not going to hold up in the way that I needed it to for my life. I really like a more textured leather like YSL’s caviar and any company’s goat because it means that it will have a greater longevity. I am now in the phase of trying to buy the things that will be forever pieces instead of something trendy that won’t last and so having some thing like goatskin feels like a much better fit for me than box calf.

[@ColourfulNoir]

I hear you! The box leather looks so beautiful but it must be stressful to use xx

[@Looloowa74]

Hi 👋🏽 I wore the same wedding outfit for 5 years to every wedding I attended… I changed my makeup/ hair / jewelry and bag ceteris peribhus. It was awkward at first but I decided I wasn’t gonna spend money on a dress I would only wear 1-2 x a year. Friends were appalled at first then envious because I always had the secret ingredient with me ( comfortable - happy and content).

[@roseg1333]

I think we know which clothing and jewelry pieces make our hearts sing 💗 I hardly ever follow other’s tastes.I find listening to my own heart really let’s me enjoy my items much much more. Years later I am still very excited about my wardrobe this way 🥰💕

[@ColourfulNoir]

That's fantastic! xx

[@m.h.t1286]

I share the same sentiment as you Rose. I don’t follow trends & other’s tastes or ideas, but my own. We should know what works best for us, what enhances our features, what goes with our personalities (sporty, casual, formal, business or just a girly girl). Dress for the right occasions is important too…

[@roseg1333]

@@m.h.t1286 i totally agree! 🥰

[@cristinafrancisco6773]

Thank you Eileen for this useful video. I recognized myself in many of the points you brought up. My closet is overflowing and yet I seem to have nothing to wear. How is this possible when I buy so many items. I’ve come to realize that I really need to reassess my closet and choose items that are comfortable, easy to combine and make me feel good.

[@ColourfulNoir]

Rooting for you!xx

[@danielymbong1770]

Love your content! As someone with a luxury fashion and art gallery/curatorial background, I passed Maslow’s Heirarchy of Human Needs and sometimes feel like I became a prizoner of materialism. I learned the hard way with debt and health, that runway, the musuem, and social media are not real life. My feet would hurt and get blisters after wearing high heels and that no amount of Prada bags could fill the void towards healing my inner child lol! I binged watched your videos! I do love the catwalk outwear and handbag! You can be basic with foundational clothes but the shoe or the jacket or the bag can make the statement lol!

[@missmegs37]

saying bye to my fantasy self is so key! i now work from home, so I don't need a lot of dressy pieces. i need to balance comfort with looking and feeling still put together though

[@ColourfulNoir]

So true, a working-from-home wardrobe will look quite different from a going-in-the -office one xx

[@karenrowley1548]

I just found your channel and love your content! You so perfectly strike a balance between luxury and not over buying, over spending or having things that aren't practical. Such a refreshing perspective!

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you so much!!xx

[@nisatrinidad5750]

Thank you for this realistic way of living. I was in the process of designing a closet. Now I'm going to downsize to something smaller. Simplicity is the key. I feel lighter 💖💖💖

[@ColourfulNoir]

It’s always a nice feeling to have a closet we actually enjoy and make use of xx

[@maijam6709]

Christian Louboutin So Kate pumps are without a doubt the most uncomfortable shoes I have ever tried on 😄 I love high heels but I can't understand who can actually walk in those shoes. I've got two pairs of Louboutin heels. My beige Louboutin wedges are the perfect pair for almost any summer outfit but I haven't been wearing the other pair in years. I'm thinking of selling them because they just don't suit my lifestyle anymore. It's so liberating to let go of things you don't need anymore ❤

[@ColourfulNoir]

I heard people referring to the So Kate as sit-down-and-have-your-pictures-taken kind of shoes 😆

[@maijam6709]

@@ColourfulNoir That's a perfect definition of that shoe 😅

[@tamiewert808]

I agree with you on the durability of pebbled leather! Also, if the bag has a lot of hardware, I am concerned about scratching! I am really picky, and if my jewelry or bags have scratches, I will avoid wearing them!

[@MissVenom90]

I've stopped buying gold hardware pieces, as even on designer brands like YSL or Chanel, the gold rubs off. Just going with silver from the start now. Very disappointing.

[@ColourfulNoir]

Somehow I don't mind having scratches on my jewelry pieces as much xx

[@jerseyjulia]

100% agree on textured leathers. I don’t want to feel ‘scared’ to use something.

[@ColourfulNoir]

I also personally prefer the looks of textured leather too xx

[@nicklawless3836]

This is so insightful yet so simple! You've highlighted many common occurrences which you've exposed so eloquently and intelligently. It's easy to forget where the focus should be and thank you for sharing your perspective. You're totally correct on each point. Just what I needed to hear before I reevaluated my closet.

[@ColourfulNoir]

Hey Nick, thank you! I’m glad the video as helpful 😊

[@FatPiggyBank]

I’m so glad to have videos like these available before I start investing in luxury pieces

[@ColourfulNoir]

I'm so glad! Thank you for your support xx

[@ivettepagador7126]

I am completely agree to you my dear, the comfort is first 😊Love the selection and simplicity of your pieces.

[@sihlempungose1578]

I'm so happy that you are doing a closet/clothes video...a lot of overspending happens there 😊😄

[@ColourfulNoir]

I used to buy a lot of clothes too, it can be such a rabbit hole xx

[@ElegantPaws01]

An exquisite formal black dress, silky shifts are timeless a few in jewel tones never are amiss and can be dressed up or down.

[@carriepalar5137]

Ouch!!! This is so true! A reality check for me hahaha thanks for sharing this video! 👍👍👍

[@ColourfulNoir]

Glad it was helpful! Thank you Carrie xx

[@EdmundEaton]

The variety of textures in the KKUWAN pack is impressive. From smooth leather to textured suede, there's something for everyone.

[@conniepleasantnails]

❤❤❤ Really great tips. I haven’t quite finished clearing out some jewelry items 🙄 I am still holding on to a few things I never wear and I constantly reach for the same items. I prefer textured bags as well and bags that have “safe” closures. I find they just look nicer longer. 😊

[@kadd4415]

Thank you for the vid, Eileen! Yes, we are being sold the invisible cache of the brand and its advertising. Like the advert of a young woman jet-setting for the weekend carrying her designer bag- but that's far from my reality. :)

[@olgag9901]

comfort is king for me. if I don't feel comfortable in something, either physically or mentally (as in being very self conscious about how I look), I'll stop wearing it very quickly. I often get back from work and throw something straight in the "declutter" box if I feel like I didn't enjoy wearing it. it's also one of the main reasons I don't wear heels, at all. perhaps that's the reason I'm also a very casual person, I like simple clothes because they're "easy". you have a beautiful style Eileen. I wish I was living in a cooler climate, I would "adopt" some of the things you wear.

[@ColourfulNoir]

You're too sweet, Olga. Thank you for sharing xx

[@Kbydfrsghusy]

Just Discovered your channel and can’t have enough of your videos. So well done and full of smart tips

[@sally3570]

Another exceptional video! Love every bit of advice and appreciate your personal experiences. ❤

[@ColourfulNoir]

This means a lot, thank you sally xx

[@karlaschmid8757]

Loved the shirt you wore with the pop of orange, it was very becoming.

[@glow1815]

I love everything you say makes sense. I always look for ideas that fit my style not copying someone else. Something might look good on them but certainly not for me.

[@DaniOchannel]

Hi Eileen, finding the balance is key. I've previously preferenced lowering cost per wear, but then just destroyed all my items and had to retire them. Have you found the balance enough to minimise wear and tear on your items?

[@ColourfulNoir]

Hey Dani, it's definitely a balance to achieve for sure. I personally lean toward having what I use, rather than owning a much bigger collection for just-in-case or standby. So far, I've not have luxury items that wear out completely, but maybe because I avoid delicate pieces generally xx

[@cup_o_TMarie]

You’re getting better & better all the time 👏👏

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you so much xx

[@nyeemajohnson7924]

Hi Eileen. Up until a few years ago, I was guilty of buying predominantly clothes for fantasy self (too casual to wear both for work and the evenings or clothes for late night clubbing or dates)

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you for sharing. I think this really isn't uncommon but I'm glad you decided to shop for your true self now xx

[@pxl4689]

As always your thoughts are very logical and sound. Totally agree… however the urge to buy and look good is always there due to social pressure… not great….

[@ColourfulNoir]

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[@idyljewelry]

We love your videos and tips so much, and we love your sparkles as well ✨

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you so much! xx

[@janet8182]

Thanks for the tips! I agree buying separates are good for mixing and matching. Particularly love your black and white floral skirt that you paired with a three quarter black sleeve top and a Chanel brooch. Very classy. Do you mind sharing the brand of that skirt?

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you! I bought it years ago from a brand called Coast xx

[@ElegantPaws01]

I too love Idol jewellery. Love this blouse on you. Bravissima.😘

[@yache643]

When I tried it on at the store, Hermes bracelet was more comfortable than Love or Anclaw. I'm trying to buy Hermes cdc, and people around me are stopping me. Cartier is a brand specializing in jewelry. Everyone buys love for a reason, and so on. But I like it and I think it's the best when I wear it comfortably

[@ColourfulNoir]

I get what you mean! it's hard to be the odd one out sometimes xx

[@ajohonly3721]

Very helpful video 🙏🏾. I have had my eyes on lady Dior since 2019 it might be a birthday present 🎁 to myself next month ,plus I just had my 3rd baby 10 days ago I feel like I deserve a gift 😀 . I’m very mindful with my shopping 🛍 since I’m also getting help so I feel in control 😆

[@ColourfulNoir]

Wow congratulations! Xx

[@ajohonly3721]

@@ColourfulNoir Thanks girl. I’m thinking of getting my lady Dior new is it worth it ? I’m not so good with pre love market so I’m nervous to try it. I’m crazy about this bag .

[@tweendee]

I really love your style especially in clothing. Do you wear luxury bags for work? What bag do you usually use for smart casual outfits?

[@sofiamorales9586]

This is really useful. Thanks for sharing!

[@asq4867]

I think the Hermes CDC is a perfect alternative to the Cartier Love. The Love would be so annoying to have to take on and off for your job.

[@ColourfulNoir]

Oh yes, it works so much better for me than the Love xx

[@Ophelianne]

I agree so much about the heels! When I was in my twenties, I used to wear high heel boots and platform shoes. But one day, I sprained my ankle so bad that I had to have crutches for a month! Heels are beautiful but so awful for real life!🤷‍♀

[@katlegoratshidi5070]

These are great tips. Thank you for this video

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you for being here xx

[@Debbiesdilemmas]

I’m unhappy with my entire wardrobe right now as I’ve gained close to 25 lbs. since last year. I was on some medication that has a side effect of weight gain. It hasn’t made me too happy.😩😩😩 There are many things that are a little tight on me but enough that they’re uncomfortable. I have decluttered some clothing but am not prepared to get rid of everything. So everyday it’s frustrating trying to find something to wear. Luckily I have a very casual lifestyle and don’t work outside the home. Right now I’m basically living in leggings and t-shirts. My fantasy life would have me in beautiful dresses but in reality I wouldn’t have anywhere to wear them.😂😂😂

[@ColourfulNoir]

It must be frustrating to have to start from scratch, but maybe it's a good opportunity to build a closet that is truly curated xx

[@celestesalas417]

Everything you said was true. I enjoy watching unboxing luxury items but not everything suits my taste and when it comes to choosing what I wear, be it clothing, jewelries or bags and shoes. I always go with what is functional, comfortable and what best suits me even if they are not that popular. I do not need everything I want and afford no matter how beautiful and popular it is . ( My personal opinion, no offense intended ✌️)

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thanks for sharing!! xx

[@YellowSparksJoy]

Wonderful tips as usual 💛

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thanks so much! xx

[@athena3865]

“Luxury must be comfortable. Otherwise it's not luxury.” - Coco Chanel

[@ColourfulNoir]

Words of wisdom indeed!xx

[@bloomsatnight8731]

always useful and very wise tips. I always looking forward to your upcoming wise thoughts! really love this type of content. ps: i didnt know that you're a dentist! stay healthy and inspiring!

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you! This means a lot xx

[@adrianalopeztaylor1421]

Love this and so true thank you!

[@jucaja]

Love this video! Totally agree with you! 💜

[@ColourfulNoir]

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[@crystallewis5902]

I absolutely love fine jewelry but I've had to think more practically about my purchases since I tend to wear my jewelry all day, every day. For example, I think chandelier earrings are pretty, but I've never bought the style, because I know that I sleep in my jewelry and wouldn't be able to sleep comfortably in that type of earring, so I probably wouldn't get much use out of them. I also wanted a moonstone necklace, but moonstone isn't a great stone to wear every day or to expose to perfume or hair products.

[@pennylanemitchell3170]

Thank you for this video very helpful!

[@ColourfulNoir]

Glad it was helpful! Thank you xx

[@viktoriiatemchenko5478]

You're amazing, love your videos ❤️

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you so much!! xx

[@XPac-lj7jk]

Please do a video once you buy a Stutterheim raincoat as per your previous video!

[@mdrng8383]

thank you for the video!🎀

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you for being here xx

[@genieiii]

Is your solo diamond necklace from idyl solo 1 or 2? Thank you!

[@ColourfulNoir]

Mine is the solo 3 diamond pendant xx

[@pishi1990]

To many people waste time and resources buying clothing that is not made for them (bad design or color) - save your $$$ you will feel better and stay away from living in a fantasy

[@ColourfulNoir]

So true!xx

[@ginkat1318]

Very well said

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you xx

[@vannaeldwijk7075]

I am more into jewellery, I love statement pieces and I wear them daily. I don't mind if they get attention ...in fact, they don't. I guess it is due to the fact that many women where I live wear costume jewelry or Swarovski.

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you for sharing! Where are you based just out of interest xx

[@LLhypno]

Have you considered hiring dresses for special occasions?

[@dapperlygrungy3189]

The reality of what I wear on a daily basis are 99.9% athleisure and gym clothing. I've purchased quite a few slim/skinny fit jeans and graphic slim fit t-shirts (club / out-to-dinner tees), which I have yet to wear. Some of the jeans and t-shirts are over 2 years old with tags attached. I often feel I will need these items in case I decide to spontaneously go out for the night with friends. Truth of the matter is when I do get invited to go out to dinner or out to a club, I decline, because I just don't want to get dressed up - not that wearing jeans is getting dressed up. I've decided to keep true to myself and STOP buying weekend/night out on the town clothing and stick to gym wear. On a positive note, the jeans and tees I have yet to wear are timeless.

[@ColourfulNoir]

I can relate! I used to have quite a collection of high heels-- not sure what I was thinking seeing I could hardly walk in them xx

[@kaylheecarroll3186]

Nice tips

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you ❤️

[@kateanette9398]

I would never invest in anything that makes me feel scared to use the item, because of the value. That's probably why I only have one (vintage) LV, and the rest of my bags are just Ralph Lauren or Minkoff. Also, the Chanels and Hermeses gives an impression of show- off. Even if I could save and buy one, my income is low, and wearing a Chanel while driving an old inherited car would be cringy :D . I totally agree with buying what you'll actually wear, versus buying what you would want to look like/ wear. That's my problem, so half of my closet includes things I just don't wear, because they don't suit my lifestyle and needs.

[@Maremare680]

Totally agreed. I don’t understand the concept of wearing a super expensive bag while the rest of the outfit, car and house is totally the opposite, but hey! That is just me😂

[@raapyna8544]

This reminds me of a Moomin comic. Ms. Mumble got a ring from her admirer, that had a huge diamond on it. People kept telling her, 'A lady with a ring like that doesn't dress like that / live like that', and she ended up having to buy new everything, including a huge mansion and a maid, to match her ring. She couldn't go anywhere to not 'ruin her clothes' and she couldn't do anything around the house because 'that's the maid's job'. In the end, she said, 'this is not me', and got rid of the ring and everything she had changed to match it.

[@TheShikha12]

I went overboard with makeup and then realized, I cant use them all before they get expired.

[@ChatsWithChris]

My husband and I threw away 5 trash bags of clothing today. Feels so good to get rid of it.

[@ColourfulNoir]

Excess definitely can be both distracting and stressful xx

[@ChatsWithChris]

@@ColourfulNoir the truth is we both lost siblings during the pandemic and inherited their junk. We were holding onto items instead of memories. It’s okay to save a few things but we realized we didn’t need to save everything.

[@DeniseMckosky]

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[@mydailysilence]

First 🥰

[@ColourfulNoir]

Thank you for always showing up xx

[@ChrisCanomi]

High heels are not good for health at tall, good for her to stop wearing them! My grandma used em all her life and she has now problems

[@ToddGate-s1w]

Honestly, I went to YSL to buy a wallet and the quality was so bad that I thought why pay hundreds when I can get the same quality as a dupe.I Like the seller: #hidups