Your Sobriety Will Make Me Happy-The Work of Byron Katie®

A therapist at the Wisdom 2.0 event does The Work with Byron Katie on her belief “She won’t stop drinking.”
"'She won’t stop drinking'--can you absolutely know that it’s true?" Katie asks. "The answer is a simple yes or no. The ego will want to defend and justify-it can really scream. So just thank it for sharing and go back to the question. Can you absolutely know that it’s true that she won’t stop drinking?"
When she believed this thought about her friend Kathy, the woman felt responsible, angry, and afraid, and she acted in a way that she calls passive-aggressive. In one of the turnarounds, she replaces "drinking" with "rescuing"--"I won't stop rescuing"--and she sees how she too is addicted: to rescuing people who may not even want to be rescued.
“If she stops drinking, then you’ll be happy-so it’s all about you,” Katie says. “You really don’t care if she drinks; you just want to be happy. And you don’t want anything to happen to her because you would be sad. So, if you're unhappy, it’s her fault. When we're unkind and passive-aggressive, we give them no reason to get sober. She’s drunk with her drinking, and you’re drunk with your thinking. Both of you are addicted.”
“Yes,” says the woman, “my drugs are people. I’m mainlining Kathy, and if she’s not around I’ll replace her with someone else.”
I’ve never met anyone who wasn’t my teacher. -Byron Katie
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[@judithpfeiffer9154]

Such a beautiful session!!! So many gems in it. Thank you for uploading this! I'm so grateful for the Work!

[@ahakangard]

Truly sweet

[@iw9338]

Wow, how freaking amazing

[@LNdolls]

Thanks so much for this, as I did my work with this I uncovered where I was going off the rails with the love of my life.

[@drjman2356]

She is brilliant - "stillness" to "see" - WOW

[@11susu11]

thank you ! watching some of those work helped me to resurface from my head, it feels pretty good to live without drama

[@lauramariawaugh5719]

This is exceptional, thank you for such an enlightening video ❤️🐞

[@switcheezy]

Katie is the best

[@Creativehealing444]

Beautiful, just beautiful. Thank you dear Katie. Love 💕 Love 💕 Love 💕 You are such an inspiration to us therapists. Big respect to you both this video really resonated with me 💚

[@jodywatson6673]

Thank you.

[@minam4791]

Amazing work!

[@hybrydsyn7314]

These are all extremely insightful to watch, but then I get a bit concerned. It seemed like the lady was coming from a place of concern for her friend at the start, but then it turns out it was born of a self-need to save people. How can a person truly be genuinely caring without any agenda or need? Couldn't most of the reasons why we do the things we do be turned on their heads like this? Especially when it comes to people you care about, I guess you just need to observe and be present, and help if needed. The woman was trying to change her friend when she wasn't ready. When it comes to yourself, do what you can to achieve what you want, but with other people, trying to change them just doesn't seem to work, and I guess its nobody's business but that person's.

[@annacannon6638]

Very close to home