C Section RECOVERY - Everything you need to know!! (SHE HAS HAD 6!!)

PART 2. ❤️ My friend Jenny Barber will have her 6th Cesarian Section in a couple months so I invited her onto my channel to tell all.
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Jenny shares her experience with her first emergency C section and then pro tips based on the 5 consecutive planned C sections that followed her first. Consider this "C section 101". This video is part 2 of a 2 part conversation we had. If you have not watched the first one please do, it is all about the preparation and process of the C section. In that video she covers everything imaginable from whether or not to eat before it, allergies to latex, pain meds, how you might be feeling, nausea, whether or not to shave your vagina, scarring, and a lot lot more. In this video she talks about the hospital stay, NICU, pooping, belly bands, whether or not to be active, infection, sex after birth and more. If there is anything we missed leave it in the comments below!
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[@baileyb4305]

This is not how all c-sections go. People watching this and reading comments, don’t get scared. I just had an unexpected c-section and only stayed for 2 nights. I was fed right away and didn’t have to pass gas or a stool. I didn’t have staples. Just the stare strips. I was awake for the baby but they knocked me out to stitch me up. I was given a belly band and that felt wonderful. The scar is tiny and very low. I had an absolutely wonderful and pleasant experience.

[@Amandahugginkizz]

I stay the entire 5 days, so much can happen in those days and I'm 45 min from the hospital if I have a blood clots or a major surgery I want to be in the hospital

[@laurasara7132]

I can't imagine being turned out a day after major surgery 😳 that sounds frustrating to me. Fresh out of a major surgery, and you're sent back home with a newborn to care for along with any other kids and daily life. If nothing else, it's necessary to have a nurse or Dr available to answer questions...a day after surgery no one has asked all the questions they're going to have in beginning of recovery. 😬

[@StitchetyDoodah]

Did you just call a c-section a wonderful experience? I don’t think so… sorry. I’ve had two and both were no where near wonderful.

[@gwendolyntalolo684]

I also had a amazing experience tbh so greatful❤

[@shawnawallace4582]

Thank you for this!

[@sisterfleur7523]

Had an emergency c section last year. Had an episiotomy right before and I feel that was waaaay worst than the cs! I stayed monday, tuesday and went home Wednesday! GOLDEN ADVICE: WALK AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! It reallyyyy helps with recovery! Salam from an orthodox muslim who loooves your channel (and loves Jesus too, not the same but muslims believe in Jesus too❤️)

[@mails2Saranyan]

I m glad that you had a good recovery. Jesus is not only the God for Christian as he is the Lord for humans because of his blood sacrifice for the redemption of all humans from their sins and forgiveness. He is resurrected and alive to offer forgiveness to those who repent for their sins. To go to God in our life after death Jesus is the only way and the truth. The wages of sin is death and the gift of God is eternal life. Jesus loves you dear sister.

[@SarahRichardsGraba]

Thank you for this video (and the informational comments!). My friend just had an unplanned belly birth and I am learning more about it to help support her recovery ❤️ so incredibly helpful! Thank you!

[@allthingshealthy2314]

I love your videos so much, Jessica. I even let the ads play all the way through instead of clicking “skip ad” in case that helps extra with ad revenue: thanks so much for making helpful videos. I haven’t had a baby yet but this info is just great to know

[@marymercado4840]

I had an emergent c section with my second child. I was shocked at how long it takes your core to recover but it is possible - 6 of these just WOW

[@MulataLinda8]

How long does it take? I just had one last weekt

[@marymercado4840]

@@MulataLinda8 3 months before I could do exercises for my ab separation- another 3 before my core came back together. My doctor said internally you are still only at 60% 6 months postpartum and it heals to full strength in about a year.

[@CBullman163]

Such a good one! Thank you!!! Love the idea of having guest moms on your channel 😘😘😘🥰❤️👏🏻

[@msmary126]

I’ve had 6 c sections! Do not be afraid of c sections!

[@annasophiedame6344]

This was sooo interesting to watch! Thank you for sharing xx

[@paiges9362]

Jess- I don’t know if anyone has ever pointed this out, but you are such an attentive listener. I’ve noticed it so much in your videos. I can tell you listen to hear and not to respond like so many people do. I bet your friends feel so heard and cared for. Kind of random but just thought I should let you know that I admire that about you and your videos.

[@breeglasbergen1982]

Well said!! I found this helpful and spot on. Thank you thank you thank you.

[@anso12342]

I am sooo so in love with Jennifers voice and the way you guys are talking - making us comfortable about really uncomfortable, scary things in life ❤️ thank you guys!

[@kinseyjohnson4341]

Thank you for talking about the process of the grief of getting a c-section! I've had a lot of people say well at least your baby was healthy when expressing my disappoinment (of course I was glad that he could be birthed that way, which I express).I had failure to progress as well and then they found out when they were inside that my tailbone blocked him from coming out. My doctor does not suggest me trying to birth naturally again because the tailbone blocks the birth canal. It was the complete opposite of my plan which was a completely unmedicated and natural birth and not being able to birth naturally can really be hard to accept. Thank you for speaking on that

[@juthikamallick]

I know i can feel the same

[@megankoutroubas7341]

My c sections were very different! I always ask to be sewn and not stapled, it makes a difference! I have never had to poop to leave either

[@whitney3258]

Thank you so much for your honesty. When you said that about ptsd it really hit home. I can't even talk about my daughter's birth without crying. We are 5 months in and with the help of my therapist I'm improving but I definitely have some ptsd from her birth experience. Again thanks for sharing.

[@nicuta2254]

Stay strong girl ❤❤

[@StitchetyDoodah]

True so true…

[@itsMissyCutie]

This is great Jess thanks for sharing I just gave birth 10 weeks ago and it’s my first baby and first surgery ever. This was so spot on the recovery part and mental health. Thank you both for sharing ❤️❤️❤️ I’m still going through recovery it’s now almost 3 months and it’s getting easier everyday🙏🏼 but it’s taking longer than I imagined and that’s okay

[@zaraschronicles2718]

Great video 👍👍👍I needed to watch this ♥️🔥 subscribed♥️🥰

[@annarocha3254]

I have barely started the video but I can already firmly say that Jenny is one tough woman. I could barely recover from my third degree tear with a newborn, let alone six c-sections.

[@Innate-mama]

Love Jenny!! I’d love to see her in more videos 😊

[@munchkinm6929]

Use a pad to keep stitch dry, coconut oil prevents trush. Use on nipple after nursing, use for pumping.

[@piggiegurl9828]

Omg i really hope this reaches people but one big things that she forgot is HUG A PILLOW when you have to cough or sneeze or even laugh for the first couple of days to a week even!! Nobody told me this the first time and i felt like i was going to DIEEE. 😩

[@samanthab5006]

This! It hurt to get up from a laying down or reclined position but at least if you took your time you could manage without too much discomfort... Coughing, sneezing and laughing were the worst

[@elisaryde1688]

I vote sneezing the worst as it can come out of the blue so fast and totally unprepared lol pillows help amazingly if you have one at that point. 😂🤦

[@loveobviously]

6 c-section omg one was enough for me. Thought I was going to die

[@brookemathis9275]

Im having my 6th c section in December. Thankyou for sharing. I am planning on having my husbands mom stay with us for a few weeks to have an extra set of hands to help my husband with our other 5.

[@OyeSpanglish]

How did your c section went? I just found out I’m pregnant and this will be my 6th section and I’m so scared I don’t know what to do.

[@anaortiz756]

My C-section got an internal infection. I was In so much pain for months. I was constantly running high fevers and would go into zombie like stage. They gave me antibiotics for 6 weeks. But the swelling had still not gone down completely. For months it was hard and swollen. My lower abdominal was in so much pain I could only wear dresses. My wonderful caring husband took care of me and our baby for 6 weeks. After that he had to return to work. My mom and sister would come by to help. The first two months are mostly a blur . My beautiful baby is 10 months now. I still cannot wear tight jeans or lay my belly without pain. Excessive exercise will result in sharp pains. I talked to my doctor she informed me that every woman's recovery is different. But in some cases some women take two years before they feel like they're back to normal.

[@theingridaria]

2nights in the hospital after unexpected csection. I actually wanted to stay longer bc they took such good care of me, brought food, i didnt have to worry about anything, but it was height of pandemic so they wanted everyone out asap. It’s serious core surgery so allow yourself help. Sitting, lying down, getting up = slowly! Belly band is super supportive!

[@msmuniz23]

Wow I couldn’t imagine going thru 6. I went through one and it was painful 😊

[@anikotakacs1228]

I didn't have to poop or fart at the hospital :D .. also because of covid I was sent home 2 days after my c-section. My recovery was very long and unexpectedly painful.

[@sabine46]

I had a C Section 4 weeks ago in the UK (Twelve days overdue, waters broke first, 35 hours of severe back labour and dilation simply not progressing!). My first baby. I guess due to Covid they didn't want us to stay any longer unless really necessary! Because I was already send home the next day! The first week was really pain full. And the emotions!!!! I had never expected to end up with a C Section! :( Took me a few days to accept! And now I'm proud of my scar!

[@tegangrindlay2613]

Just Jenny have a channel, I’d love to know how her 6th goes I had an elective for my first baby and I accepted that that meant a 3 baby maximum, I’m so amazed by her having 6 and would love to know more 🥺

[@nevermindmyparentsimthepunk]

I had 1 c section my 1st hoping for a vbac next time, but I never know what will happen

[@minniemouseeful]

im having planned C section in june :)

[@user-ky4us2bz5z]

I was in my recovery room for over 9HOURS BECAUSE I COULDNT KEEP MY OXYGEN UP my husband was complaining about the chair and his comfort and I started crying 😭

[@klorraineb9818]

Okay so is there anyway u could do a video on c section as a single mom. Now ill be with family during recovery but ill basically be on night duty so i am pretty scared with healing. Now being a little high risk i will get a few extra days in the hospital which will help with nurses but obvi not like the whole recovery and i wanna be able to care for my baby and shes breached and i had an ecv but wasnt successful so if anyone has any tips of products or anything please do share.

[@samanthab5006]

I had an emergency c section with my son. I had my 38 week appointment the day before I went into labor and based on feel they said he was head down (that's what they had been saying since 32 weeks). I felt my first contraction when my water broke at home I got to the hospital an hour after that and I was 1cm at check in then 4cm 45 minutes later when the OB came in. My contractions were about 2 minutes apart and super painful. I asked for IV pain meds and when the OB checked position before ordering meds and found he was breech. The OB thought I was in rapid labor so they took me straight to the OR. The spinal didn't take so they put me under general anesthesia because they didn't have time to try again. When I woke up I was in OR recovery and had to wait 45 minutes before going to the postpartum recovery room. I thought I was coping with it all until discharge day where I had to watch this 15 minute long video about the golden hour as part of the discharge process. It hit me that I missed his first cry and immediate skin to skin. I still carry some guilt that his reflux is tied to a suboptimal microbiome because of the c section. He was my first and I'm 34 so I'm not sure if we'll have another but I've had to come to terms with the fact that I do carry some trauma from my birth experience... Still have a hard time talking about it without getting a little emotional two months later. Edit: first contraction plus water breaking @ 730 pm, 1cm dilated @ 9, 4cm @ 9:45, baby born at 11:15 pm

[@taydi8022]

Just a note I had c-section but not ptosin given or any pain with uterus contractions.

[@Amandahugginkizz]

I always ask for dissolveable stitches I can't stand the staples they infect me. I've had 4 about to have 5 soon.

[@ssam3826]

Walking after a stomach surgery supposedly fastens the healing. Never heard of someone with six C sections 😮😮. Know someone with four. Typically doctors in my country discourage after two babies.

[@brendabarajas8256]

I have had staples, and the stiches that dissolve on there own the staples were horrible especially when they are removing them. The second time around i enjoyed my 4 day stay in the hospital plus I feel safe and the extra help from the nurses and the chore free and cooking free environment. The bowel movements are harsh my second time was miserable an older lady told me take two doses of milk of magnesia I know not good to overdose but i was desperate I have never experienced constipation on that level within 20 minutes i was good did not have any issues after that. A support system is key especially if you have other kids. My last two c section my husband took paid family leave and did all the house work, watched our other children until my post partum period ended. I wish i could have bribde my OB for an extra 2 wks of bed rest😂

[@FJHFAH-ui4ml]

To any new c section mom watching this video, this woman seems super sweet but just keep in mind that a lot of this varies hospital to hospital and provider to provider. I just had my second c section and they don’t do things this way. My hospital doesn’t have rules about farting or not going home until you poop. They also didn’t have me come back to get stitches removed and they didn’t help me at all with going to the bathroom or showering. I didn’t find a band helpful at all. I think everyone is so different it’s hard to find a one size fits all approach

[@skedaddlebaker]

I don't think the poop rule before going home is applied much anymore, I also could eat and drink before passing gas. Don't drink carbonated drinks and don't use a straw because you'll have gas trapped all over your body which is so painful! Congrats on your bonus baby!

[@jenniferbarber614]

That is so interesting. Both of the hospitals I delivered in were adamant. I wonder if it differs between hospitals or states.

[@Scroggs2017]

Momma of 3 c-sections babies, going on # 4 and when asked ,”Does the vagina itself feel as if you didn’t have a baby?” The answer is that it depends. For myself, mine swelled up with all three. I had to have an ice pack. As for discharge, I never had to wait until my first stool. This may depend on the hospitals policy. Definitely move around when you can. I was always active and moving around so I think that is what helped me recover faster. Also not all Drs do staples. I think with one of mine they used strips. The worst for me is when they press down on your tummy to make sure your uterus is going back down. It can be very painful. In fact, nurses always tell me it’s the least favorite part of their job too bc they know how painful it is. I did not eat right away. In fact, I lived off of ice chips and very little water for an hour or two post op. Hope this helps anyone who reads it. 😊

[@emalowe7465]

Hi I’m from Trinidad an they don’t like to cut after 3 sections but I want to try one more time did u have any complications

[@FJHFAH-ui4ml]

I needed pelvic floor therapy after my first c section. They said because I labored prior, that area was still affected. So it was like a double whammy

[@capslovesit]

Hi Jess is there any way you can ask Jenny about the band sitting over her incision? My doctor said she doesn't want me to wear one for the first 4 weeks because of risk of infection..

[@jenniferbarber614]

Hi Capri! First, I would definitely keep communication open and ask your doctor detailed questions. I was able to use the band only when I was up. And I had to make sure not to wear it when I was down. I also had to make sure to not sweat and keep it dry. Sweating, not letting the wound breathe, and keeping it too covered can increase risk of infection.

[@ninabardadin1590]

They usually give u a band in the hospital, I always ask them for one. I would put it on before moving. I wouldn’t leave it on.

[@capslovesit]

@@jenniferbarber614 thanks so much for replying! I will speak to my doctor again

[@capslovesit]

@@ninabardadin1590 I'm in the UK, I don't think they do that here

[@capslovesit]

Hi Jenny I hope you see this! What's the closest gap between C sections that you've had? We really want two kids close in age but my OB told me to wait a year.. I recovered quickly and I'm 37 now so don't want to wait! Currently 7 months PP

[@emalowe7465]

Is their any complications with 6 c sections

[@jennakrehbiel3562]

I had a very rough birth last time and my doctor said "csections from now on" and now I'm pregnant again and so so scared. I cry about it daily. Surgery is so scary to me and I almost died last time I had a baby. I have had surgery but it is still so scary to me. I feel like a bad mom, but I dont want to be awake for it.

[@jenniferbarber614]

I’m so sorry that you are in this wrestle right now. I totally get the emotions there. Being afraid doesn’t make you a bad mom, and even wanting to be put to sleep doesn’t make you a bad mom! You are doing hard work physically and emotionally right now. Being scared of the unknown is so normal. Processing before hand and being vocal about these fears is really important. Also, know what your options are and talk through the process with your doctor. Sometimes knowing what to expect can ease nerves. Good job carrying your baby and getting them into this world safely. You’re doing so great!

[@skedaddlebaker]

I had an unplanned c section with my first 6mo ago, I was so scared before hand. My doctors were amazing and the surgery was so fast, painless, and recovery was much easier and faster than I had anticipated. I am really happy it turned out that way and I will have c sections for the rest of my children. I hope you can find a good hospital and doctors that make you feel safe!

[@jeanne_guitton]

I am so sorry you have to go through this. I was sure I'd never have a C-section (no clue why). But I did, an emergency one. It was totally fine, recovery was much quicker than expected and I felt happy and at peace. It was not at all worse than my other, equally positive (natural) birth. It helps to read medical info beforehand, and maybe talk to regular mums who had positive C-section experiences (which are in the majority, as studies show!) if that helps, or get help from a councellor if you are very scared. There's no shame in that, on the contrary: that's you taking care of yourself and your babes. You are not a bad mum for being scared, you are not wrong (or alone) in feeling that way. And you are pregnant! Give yourself grace, mama, you are doing awesome. Rooting for you!

[@katelinabercrombie491]

My c was on Saturday night, they assisted me to the bathroom twice on Sunday, my husband helped me shower Sunday night, I was discharged on Monday, and I didn't poop until Thursday. I can't imagine the bill if I'd had to stay until then. 😳 My hospital also uses the glue rather than stitches or staples on the outside. I was able to shower normally.

[@user-ky4us2bz5z]

I want to recommend to EVERY c sectional laborers GET A RECLINER YOULL THANK ME LATER

[@lashaniaholmes8286]

Gas in the back hurt but I have my baby tomorrow it’s my 4th baby

[@anovemberstar]

Asa healrh professional who works in maternity, the title scares me.. Obviously all worked out, and I'm happy for the mumma...

[@AshleyDR75]

I did not have staples on the outside. They can do it all internally now! So my scar looked just like a red cut. No stitches or staples were showing. That helped me with seeing it and now being scared of seeing it. Lol. I didn’t poop for 2 weeks. So they didn’t wait for me to poop. Lol. Showering was scary. I hated seeing my scar. I’m not good with injuries on myself :P

[@user-ky4us2bz5z]

And the first period you get after birth literally HURTS SO BAD! Like you’re giving birth!

[@khadijasesay9143]

Hello is it ok for me to get pregnant after having c-section in three month

[@inoumey]

I had a c-section too and my doctor asked me to wait 12 to 18 months before getting pregnant again , but talk to you doctor for more clarification

[@winfieldblue4944]

Now why would you do that to your body. It needs to fully heal. Or you’ll have complications. That’s why they say to have a child every 2 years apart 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@KiyokoSa]

A slight faux pas on your end, your vagina does not "stay normal" depending on what type of c section you had there are many things that can affect your vagina and that region. Also the weight of your baby throughout pregnancy and the pressure of it bearing down as it gets bigger means you still have a weakened pelvic floor muscle. I think it's important to note that.

[@tracy3418]

They never helped me shower or made me poop before being discharged

[@ellenbertke]

I hated every minute of it.