Can Contraception Hurt my Marriage? | Catholic Teaching on Contraception

[@mancipiachristi9032]

After 4 kids I'm struggling with this atm.

[@catandmouse14]

G-d cares more about your health than He does about “multiplying.”

[@Alicia_W413]

@@catandmouse14did she mention anything about her health?

[@catandmouse14]

@@Alicia_W413 Hi. This was so long ago, and I do not remember why I posted it. I might have meant to put this comment elsewhere and put it here mistakenly. I am sure I did not mean to post an erroneous comment - I try hard to post meaningful and respectful comments, although I might have failed here. If I did, I apologize to the person who made the post I commented on.

[@Grokford]

@@Alicia_W413 Raising a child is always a relevant factor for health, more so the more you have.

[@xoxobabyimbackxoxo]

I love this series, thank you for all you do! I also have a question, how do you heal from past sexual abuse in order to give yourself fully and freely (sexually) in your marriage? I'm not married yet but Thinking about any sex with a husband gives me anxiety to no end.

[@pauldowner1]

Answer for a man and woman please! As i suffered abuse as well..

[@xoxobabyimbackxoxo]

@@pauldowner1 yes! Man and woman please!

[@dylanw6303]

@@xoxobabyimbackxoxo I don’t know where you’re at with this today, hopefully healed and whole. I have some resources that have worked for me that I can offer, aside from any short advice I’d be able to give here, as someone who’s free from porn and has been celibate for 2 years. I’m no authority or saint on this matter, but I might be able to help.

[@xoxobabyimbackxoxo]

@@dylanw6303 what resources have you used?

[@dylanw6303]

@@xoxobabyimbackxoxo There’s a couple books. The first one is “Two hours to freedom.” By Charles H Kraft. It’s an outline for inviting the healing power of Jesus into any hurt or broken places inside of us. The second is more for the nurturing of one’s femininity but touches on this issue as well. Either way, I think it’d help: Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge Mainly what has helped so many woman I know become whole and holy is something called “inner healing ministry”. The first book talks about it, and should help you get started with Jesus on that journey if you haven’t already. Let me know if you have questions, sister!

[@franciscojuan4551]

I'm preparing for marriage soon so I'll be sharing this with my fiance!

[@jettec9411]

What if you can't afford to raise another child? Then the only way to avoid pregnancy is abstinence, the tension that will arise will cause more harm to the marriage and often lead divorce.

[@thatcatholiclawyer]

If you’re marriage is based on sex then there’s a problem there. Need some counseling maybe 🤔

[@jettec9411]

@@thatcatholiclawyersex is a part of a healthy marriage, that doesn't mean that that the marriage is based on sex, maybe you need counseling to understand that?

[@dylanw6303]

⁠@@thatcatholiclawyer Paul said to not deprive one another except for the purposes of prayer and fasting. A marriage without regular sex seems to be a marriage that lacks intimacy. Maybe not, but then there is still Paul’s teaching to consider.

[@haighton]

@jettec9411, Just make love (have sex) outside the window of your fertility. You can only make a baby during 4-5 days during the female's ovulation cycle. Or use birth control/contraception.

[@marinagonzales4203]

Also not every time you have sex you will have kids if God wants you to have kids he will allow it to happen if he does not want you to you won’t have a kid

[@josecontreras2997]

We are all going to hell just for not wanting kids.

[@Alicia_W413]

Who is we? There are plenty of people who want kids and see them as a blessing written about in the Holy Scriptures.

[@JoeyG-o8r]

Well if you are the type of person who doesn't want kids, then hopefully you are pursuing some sort of vocation that serves the community in a similar fashion. Because if you simply don't want children because they get in the way of your "free time" or hobbies or whatever then it sounds like you are aiming downwards.

[@GubGubgubgub]

​@@JoeyG-o8r well I know of a couple who are married and don't have kids. I'd say that God doesn't want them to have kids. Put it in God's hands. If he wants you to be child free then he'll allow it if not you're children will end up being blessing. I didn't want to be single because I really wanted to be married but I was called to single vocation and I'm very happy. Trusting God is best.

[@Grokford]

@@JoeyG-o8r Okay you puritan, people are not obligated to have children.

[@JamesUlliane]

This is freaking amazing

[@Grokford]

We blaspheme when we refuse to "admit" sin in our lives. Which means that according to this guy if you disagree with him then you've committed an unforgivable sin. I can't decide if it's worse that he might actually believe it or if it's worse for him to push people away from the grace of God until they agree with him on his pet issues.

[@coldforgedcowboy]

Nice job Chris!

[@Grokford]

"Whether they know it or not" great, classic cult talk, you know that telling people that they're incapable of knowing their experiences is a form of gaslighting right

[@DaninaPetroskova]

The problem is when only one use contraception for example the man. What we can do?

[@ZiraRisasi]

I'm late here but good vid Christopher

[@henrymccarty5059]

Non-Catholics are certainly capable of admitting sin in their own lives and repenting and asking God for forgiveness. Will they be denied because they didn't confess their sins to a priest?

[@dontewithdragons]

Nope. The whole "only confess to a priest" is a Myth, however the Priest is usually in a state of Grace. Only God can forgive our Sins after repentance. About over 90% of the time however people do not know how to repent and live Sinful lifestyles without admitting to themselves the errors in their disordered ways. Check what Father Mike said about the Sacrament of Confession.

[@JoeyG-o8r]

Possibly. How do you know your sins are forgiven if you don't speak to a man officially consecrated and given authority to forgive sins on behalf of Christ? Authority that can be traced back all the way to Peter. I probably have some of the terminology wrong but you get the idea.

[@Naomi-bw5qs]

Yes.

[@ourladyqueenofvictorys6]

First

[@Iosve]

Can contraception hurt your marriage ? Sure! Can NFP hurt your marriage? Also yes. I’m stuck. It’s likely better to get a snip and then go to confession then ruin my marriage to NFP sexual frustration.

[@sarahhammond5693]

Go to a priest? Jesus is our High Priest! We do not need anyone else. We pray through Jesus to ask forgiveness from God! It is not up to man to judge whether someone is forgiven!

[@JoeyG-o8r]

There's always that one protestant in every Catholic video lol.

[@ekatrinya]

And it's always a Protestant who has no understanding of Catholicism whatsoever

[@Grokford]

@@ekatrinya Not really, usually it's that Protestants use blunt terms to describe complex problems. They're usually not completely right but they're not wrong eihter. If you're depending on a priest more than God, that's a problem, if you're seeking the approval of a priest or the magisterium then that's a problem.