"CAN I SPY ON MY WIFES PHONE?" - EP2 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW

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[@redaabobaker6]

عليه أفضل الصلاة والسلام 🤲

[@AlimonyRapist]

@haiderkhattak * *Its her right to be protected by him, not his right to be protected by her (in this context)* There, better wording 😘

[@museaweys8825]

@@haiderkhattak.official it sounds logic

[@oayysz8909]

Ali you made a tafseer mistake of surat yusuf @ 19:35 that he was inclined to zina. This is a false translation please correct it. Many scholars have spoken about this and mentioned that as a major misinterpretation from the translator's as there is an Arabic language element to indicate there was absolutely no inclination from Yusuf and other verses that contradict this notion. Please look into this before mentioning this ayah again as some will take it as justification that we are weak and even yusuf wanted to commit zina etc.

[@abdvlogs5263]

*BAD SOUND*

[@MahsaSara]

A relationship without trust is like a car without gas, you can stay in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere.Collected

[@davgondos6676]

Only trust is not enough. You might waste years of your life this way.

[@kendallkendall825]

I love this is great analogy.

[@C0oli0F0oli0]

Then there's tesla

[@majidkhan89]

Trust is one of the main foundations in marriage. You lose the trust, and slowly the rest of the marriage traits crumble.

[@majidkhan89]

​@@C0oli0F0oli0 a Tesla without electricity 😅

[@abuamel8573]

Imagine messaging your friend, and their wife/husband is also reading your messages. We individually have a trust with all the people we message, if your phone is checked by your spouse, then you should let all your contacts know that, because what if a sister is sending pictures without her hijab to your wife and you’re also seeing those pictures behind everyone’s back. And vice versa, a brother might be sharing something private with your husband and you’re also reading those messages. Draw your own boundaries in how much you share your phone with your spouse but you must adhere to Islamic principles.

[@Ummmaryam714]

This is exactly why I started locking my phone. When people say something to me, they think the message is going to ME, not everyone around me. I feel like I’m breaking their trust by letting others see.

[@saucepan2342]

And they shouldn't marry someone who they fear is disloyal & seem wishy washy with islamic boundaries towards the opposite gender.

[@amila_]

Absolutely. You marry someone and now suddenly all of your friends have to agree to their secrets/issues being exposed to that person? If I found out my friend let her husband go through her phone willy nilly I'd stop sending personal things and just be hi bye we can talk in person lol. I'm totally ok with them having access to my phone and the password, but like don't go through it when I'm not there...? I wouldn't do it to them and I don't want it done to me. People need more trust in their partners.

[@theBakinNoob]

And with that, Ende of discussion.

[@manisha4516]

I was messaging my sister in law and her husband was talking to me and I didn't realise. I was congratulating them on their new baby etc. I didn't realise it was him and he didn't specify and say it was him until much later in the conversation.

[@zubaidaperoo7054]

My brother handled his marriages like Ali Da'wah suggests. When he intended on a 2nd wife he made his first wife a part of it. The wives both passed on about 3 years apart and they had a wonderful relationship and friendship. When the 2nd wife died it left a certain percentage of a vacuum for both husband as well as the first wife. Husband is currently still dealing with his loss of both wives. May Allah SWT grant the wives Jannah and make it easy for my brother Ameen.

[@LunaticStruggler]

Ameen

[@RSADYNAMICS]

Vacuum ! So who did the cleaning up when the first one died

[@zaiyaanesoof8697]

@@RSADYNAMICS *facepalm* - vacuum - here means emptiness of the heart that was previously filled..

[@RR-om3zx]

@@RSADYNAMICS Not funny, kid.

[@RSADYNAMICS]

@@RR-om3zx I aint no KID .

[@MOMOLANDtv]

Why would you feel insecure if your husband or wife checks your phone unless you are hiding something. Me and my husband know each others password (the password is for the outside world and the kids not from eachother). Communication is key. Alhamdolilah

[@MOMOLANDtv]

Also, I don't agree with a woman messaging a married man to ask to be a second wife. In a way the woman would be doing a haram by putting an unseen pressure on a marriage. She could contact the wife of the man or her family could contact the man.

[@DestinyToParadise]

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”-Mignon McLaughli

[@ma_iii]

The prophet PBUH said “Do not spy on one another”

[@zenkahnz3859]

Don't do things behind the backs of one another especially in marriage.

[@blumachine]

@@zenkahnz3859 like get a second wife right?

[@zenkahnz3859]

@@blumachine No, like committing adultery with another man or even entering the doorstep of that sin.

[@rereraira4863]

@@zenkahnz3859 sure as hell won't apply to a man now would it?

[@zenkahnz3859]

@@rereraira4863 It does

[@Queen.of.Quotes]

"True love is about growing as a couple, learning about each other, and never giving up on each other."

[@yousafamin3187]

Time tells

[@papin6802]

@@billyjesus5442 why not

[@naveeedd]

@@billyjesus5442 Yes but not mistresses

[@abadran8174]

@@billyjesus5442 absolutely!

[@Zazezoo]

@@billyjesus5442 Life’s short… you are not guaranteed tomorrow. What will you say to the Creator? Who has exposed you to the beautiful religion, yet turned a blind eye

[@RolloRafferty]

“The miserable have no other medicine but only hope.” - William Shakespeare

[@faheedalli-balogun4267]

Mashallah, nice to see brother Halool on this show! I had thought my eyes were playing tricks on me while I watched the intro

[@mohammednasirmiah7715]

I'm enjoying these discussions between brothers and sisters within a calm setting. It's good we discuss relationships and marital issues and questions to get these stigmas out of the way. These are first world problems that should be stamped out quickly so we can focus on those that are struggling within the ummah and continue being good Muslims and being in good relationships

[@Hamza-uh6oy]

Inshallah

[@MrSaifkamal]

I agree with Ali here. Any kind of relationships in your life require a certain level of trust. Yes it may not be 100% like trusting Allah(swt) but to a certain extent, you have to trust people you have relations with(any kind of relation, spousal/sibling/parental/friend ect.). You cannot spy 24/7 in any relationship and maintain it for a long period of time. It's impossible to maintain such kind of toxic relationship.

[@ArsalanMustafakhan]

Not behind each others back but for sure allowing each other to check.. knowingly. If you're afraid of your spouse checking your phone, you're hiding something

[@Zazezoo]

Allowing each other to check what exactly? Everyone has their own phones, otherwise don’t marry someone you don’t trust.

[@theBakinNoob]

What is there to check?! I dont go around checking my siblings or other loved ones phones. I fail to see the reasoning behind doing so.

[@kaytenlte4536]

>>>>>>Something that nobody addressed is why do you give your number to women in the first place. There is no reason for men and women to give their number to the opposite sex. If you need to contact someone of the opposite sex regarding business or some other non social reason then give your spouses number. Simple as that, then you dont even open the door for shaytaan.

[@SOK23]

I really don't care if my wife checks my phone. Because I don't do anything wrong. But, yes if husband or wife check each others phones then this gives a signal of mistrust which i think is not good for marital relationship. Just be loyal and don't act weird if by chance your partner checks or uses your phones.

[@BeautifulAyah]

“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquillity with them. And He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” Ayat 21, Surah Ar-Rum

[@england2023]

If men you being faithful to your wife and you have no female friends. But you wife keeps checking your phone. But she expect you not to have a issue with her having male friends and her messaging them and she doesn't want you to check her phone. She looking for a reason to break up.

[@ArsalanMustafakhan]

Said this in the previous video, these questions need to be way more specific and you'll find they all agree but due to the question being so vague, it goes all over the place

[@redhwanahmed1377]

Salaam Br. Ali, I have to say, I love this show. Very insightful and beneficial. JazakAllah khayr and please keep these style videos coming inshaAllah!

[@blackgown7485]

Dont you think its an issue them chatting openly with sisters ? Is this allowed islamically?

[@redhwanahmed1377]

@@blackgown7485 Are they covered properly? Are they speaking uselessly and just there for fun or is there an underlying purpose and positive outcome in mind? I think you can answer these questions for yourself. If you're not gaining any wisdom from this then why waste your time commenting? Take the good, leave the bad, and stay upon the path of Allah SWT.

[@nadyayousef6886]

I feel like every time brother Ali brings up his friends stories he’s actually talking about himself 😂

[@scottishdollytings]

😂 DEFFO!! Was just thinking same thing about the "friend" who made a mistake (2nd wife)😂

[@aromafromheaven]

Great job Ali

[@TheOrionOracle]

Ideally, couples need three lives; one for him, one for her, and one for them together. Jacqueline Bisset🥰🥰🥰

[@alphauno6614]

Jacqueline Bisset is a woman who never married, had 4 main partners over the course of her life (and an unknown number of short relationships), and ended up childless. Is this your role model?

[@maryam_4437]

@@alphauno6614 Yes, cry about it

[@alphauno6614]

@@maryam_4437 Yes I’m crying /s

[@faizurrahman2399]

Mashallah, these sisters are another level. The Ummah desperately needs this kind of program.

[@yavuzy7798]

I and my wife can put our phones aside, she perfectly knows my password and i know hers. I can't imagine me having my phone only for myself as I can't imagine her having her phone only for herself. Trust is built through transparency, and not only love. Since love can sometimes be very manipulative. I somehow think it's disgusting that married men and women can hide their phones from each other. This is alarming enough, that there is something going on behind their backs, they just prefer to ignore and dig their heads to the ground. And ultimately, it will lead to them faking their trust and love for each other.

[@ThinkingFreedom]

look it’s sometimes complicated. my parents don’t have this problem and yet one time for something small he asked for my moms phone password and he’s used her phone before and she didn’t give it because my brother was acting problematic about something and she didn’t want him to find out by looking at the text

[@wowAmazingWorld]

MashaAllah I love this talk show

[@subhanallah2890]

do more of these please, It benefits us a lot to see different points of view

[@marufahmad4036]

love the series brother. more controversial topics please... lol...

[@coffeeloverr.a1546]

I love the brother that said his wife replies to comments that females made. And vice,versa. So simple. No drama that way. And most importantly one of the ways to protect yourself from the fitna, temptation.

[@kanei79]

May we all always accept and make peace with all qada and qadar from Allah

[@anonymousman4799]

I enjoy watching these types of video's. Keep it up

[@ashifamohammed5278]

So far I have not read in the comments that going through a spouses phone broke up any marriages. An argument is better than a divorce.

[@falcosalmo3613]

People here need to realise that having several wives, each one sneaking into husband's phone just to prove a point that actually does not exist, all out of jealousy, leading to major problems of mistrust. And they've even promised never to do it. Best would be not to own a phone.

[@TigerzClaw.]

The ones who go on about the trust the most are usually the ones to break it !

[@hecenmo3309]

This series is very very good. This should be lifetime content

[@khaddyja7060]

Masha Allah this is so interesting thank you for helping us

[@younesbettayeb7971]

nice Ep good job brother

[@tarakhan3801]

I used to think this way when I was young (that spouses should know EVERYTHING about each other and share ALL passwords). But after a certain age (and many types of life lessons), I learned that privacy in a relationship is important. Everyone has an innate right to privacy. There might be private conversation between you and someone else (Mahram person) that shouldn’t be read by your hubby. Similarly, he might have the same with others. As long as you both trust each other, there is no need to check each other’s emails and phones. It can also ruin surprises you or they might be planning for one another. And what about notes people might write and save for themselves that they may not want another person to read? There should also be a sense of privacy and respect that is the foundation of the relationship. IF however you have genuine reasons to suspect foul play then it’s within your rights to do the necessary investigation to get the truth.

[@zubaidaperoo7054]

I know of a couple who have an agreement to go through each other's phones. I'm not sure if this is healthy or not. Personally I think it's a good thing at the rate infidelity goes on in the world. In my own marriage I don't feel a need where my husband is concerned. My husband shows interest in going through my phone. He asks questions and sometimes it gets annoying. But this issue is fairly under control.

[@abdalrahman6192]

Thanks to Ali and all brothers and sisters involved, very good content and very benificial. Pls keep more mariage videos up.

[@hopeful._._]

They shouldn't be checking each other's phones, but like one of the sisters said, if there's a doubt, they should be allowed to.

[@TigerzClaw.]

The ones who go on about the trust the most are usually the first to break it

[@TheFaro2011]

Ali dawah, men can't handle women being approached! You think men don't? Vice versa

[@hoomanAdnan]

Assalamu Alaikum brother Ali 🙌🏼 I think you should fix a date or two for these kind of contents 👌🏼 ❤️ From Bangladesh 🇧🇩

[@mahakhurshid48]

Loved this episode ❤❤❤😂😂😂😂

[@somao3813]

We should be able to access eachother’s phones/accounts.. but we shouldn’t go over the top & be checking 24/7 & if something does come up sort it as adults.. A friend of mine went through her husband’s phone as she became suspicious (let’s just say he wasn’t performing in the bedroom) & found that he was addicted to p***.. she is helping him sort it & has all his passwords, so I think sometimes it is better to be able to check.. whether the wife makes a mistake or the husband there should be a level of forgiveness from both sides..

[@mojaboski]

All I have to say is Haloo is hilarious masha’allah

[@Noneofyourbeeznis_]

Anyone else notice the extensive ads now on his channel and before Ali used to say how he doesn’t care about money because of his i penniless channel smh

[@caucasianeagle8231]

Salam aleykum brother Ali. Are you able to do another show on how to solve marriage problems when dealing with issues like catching on drugs, weed or watching p*rnography etc as there is so much fitnah today and sadly many good people fall for it

[@Shuayb_Muhammad]

Ali we still waiting on that wedding documentary 😢

[@worldlyviewer]

hehe the ladies are well spoken, Ali don't like it when he's out spoken

[@k58472]

I appreciate going through these topics in a more modest way. There was no need to laughter , casual interactions only for : حتى لا يطمع الذي بقلبه مرض

[@asharabalamgir2980]

Yea I’m confused, are these women related to them? What with the casual laughter in between?

[@sheikhgoogle6202]

Me and my wife have access to each others phones, however I do not believe there should 'checking' of phones and messages. There is some privacy required. My wife regularly chats to her mum and her friends and there would be personal discussions which I do not need to see or hear. Similarly I would chat to my friends which sometimes will contain personal jokes (lads talk) which she does not need to see or hear. There have been a few occasions where she has read my messagesremain

[@raya9283]

If you have nothing to hide what's the problem with checking each other's phones? My husband can check my phone whenever he wants bc he won't find a damn thing.

[@Darklion2077]

Great point from the sister that maybe their are hijabi unveil pics in her phone Never thought of it

[@yusufzaeem4048]

Will done guys

[@CatGuy969]

I completely disagree with sharing or letting your wife go through your phone. Why should a woman even bring this up? There should be enough trust in the relatinship. People can be hiding things OTHER than bad and sinful deeds you know.

[@RRad21]

May Allah reward you in this life and the next.

[@syedzafarahmed5782]

In marriage most important we fail to do is to inspire each other spiritually .. and exercising love and affection always .. not necessarily has to be come inside you but for the sake of deen and Allah loving each other and having mercy..

[@ilyaaspetersen9074]

I've seen a video where women say they would divorce their husband if he ever asked for a paternity test to the newborn baby. So we have men pushing for mandatory paternity tests at the hospital when the baby is born, but women are against it. That would be an interesting discussion between the brothers and sisters inshallah. When females seek validation and security, we just have to give it to them no problem. But when men want it, we get thrown away.

[@came.k.5880]

Good initiative masha Allah. Some suggested topics are: the different needs of men and women and how to meet them in the marriage, how to preserve love and attraction in the marriage, how to raise children with healthy self esteem and nurture their emaan in today's world. Being realistic and not idealistic is very important. Having people on the panel with different perspectives and equal opportunity to express it will increase the impact as well. May Allah put barakah in this project.

[@asharabalamgir2980]

Yea I’m confused, are these women related to them? What with the casual laughter and smiling in between? This whole show feels wrong

[@BanglaBhalobashi]

Relationships are like birds, if you hold tightly they die. If you hold loosely, they fly but if you hold with care, they remain with you forever. unknown

[@humairahusein6953]

Mashallah Mashallah 💯

[@coffeeloverr.a1546]

I wouldn't mind. If you have nothing to hide...I don't see what the problem is. The only exception though is my friends privacy. The conversations, texts between them.

[@R_AB_99]

Ali dawah seems to most protective abt his statement unlike others....even ends the conversation saying on what he believes shud be done.....

[@marian8910]

I'd like to add that don't go through their messages with their friends and family. And definitely don't look at old messages and conversations from before you were in a relationship. Facebook messenger archives your old conversations. My friend decided to pick up her husbands phone and look at his old conversations with his friends and girls from before they even met. She got so upset and jealous even though it was before he met her. Rationally she shouldn't be upset but it took her months to get over. She told me, but never her husband that she did that because she knew she was in the wrong. I think if she was curious about his past she should have asked him directly before they got married rather than snoop through his old messages after they've already been married for years.

[@Rayan-id3gk]

Relationships are like a fart: if you have to force it, it’s probably crap

[@helloiamwendy6641]

I'M SO DEAD

[@nabihaislam4251]

this is gold

[@jimjones3173]

This true

[@simonesimone1101]

😂😂😂

[@AbirAhmed-zd6ct]

I am not married but I feel like we shouldn't do it because she can have pictures of her friend who is non mahram to us to watch or she can get text from her friend which might not be appropriate for me to read. But let's say I can read the text if she bought something and now message came that it got delivered, or maybe checking photos of something she took and want me to look at when she is washing dish in the kitchen or doing something else. But I should be self accountable to not go beyond bound. This is my own opinion so you may have different views.

[@alik7182]

Mashallah some people want to spend the rest of their lives with someone they don’t want to access their phone 😂😂 you’d give him/her access to your body but not to a phone ya allah 😂

[@Moesie]

I think its more the message sending to it.

[@SairaSabir1443AH]

@14:46 So Needed and So Effective, especially Separation comes

[@coachdebruyns]

Yeah, I don't check my wives phones and they don't check mine.

[@leenmattar3983]

Thank goodness I don't own a modern phone. I have an old second-hand Nokia cell phone and believe it to be better than all my peers' phones.

[@boitumelobontsi9182]

I wouldn't ask for his phone unless he seems secretive and I'll check when I'm ready to face whatever it is. But advice that phone should be off limits unless the need rises

[@AbdikaNi2]

Mashallah i like this episode 😍

[@uknown_system]

There's no point of hiding secrets in relationships

[@Hackbot142]

i feel it isnt nessesary but i give it to her myself so that she knows she can trust me i have nothing to hide

[@ch9il]

I like this open talks pod cast sort of thing

[@ch9il]

Salaam start another channel with guest talks like this. I think it’s the sort of thing everyone is watching now.

[@ma_iii]

No way checking a spouses phone is 100% wrong!! Don’t touch my phone and I’m not touching yours. Trust.

[@AlimonyRapist]

@haiderkhattak * *Its her right to be protected by him, not his right to be protected by her (in this context)* There, better wording 😘

[@ma_iii]

@@haiderkhattak.official is spying on someone halal or haram? Can i stand behind the door and listen to what my husband says to his sister or friends? No. And checking a wifes/husbands phone is exactly the same thing.

[@ma_iii]

@@rumi2474 there’s no double standards, no one is allowed to spy on their spouses.

[@ma_iii]

@@haiderkhattak.official firstly he shouldn’t and he wouldn’t. unlimited access to my phone is unlimited access to my privacy which is spying. If you’re gonna sit and make your own rulings atleast get an evidence to prove your claim. Edit : m.kzbin.info/www/bejne/nWivlqKeiqiJiqc Hope you learn something today

[@jasmineflowers3583]

There should be no secrets between husband and wife, and having access to each others phones is normal and essential. However you shouldn’t abuse this trust and privilege, by constantly checking their phone and obsessing about what they are doing. You should open yourself up to your partner completely, which means letting them having access to your phone. But you should also trust your partner and have confidence in their commitment to you, and not check their phone , spying on their phone etc.

[@sweettea1193]

Of course there's secrets, IE, the secrets of your friends and family. Why should your spouse learn private information about your friend that was only meant for you??

[@Cardboardbox224]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nWivlqKeiqiJiqc This explains the rulling clearly according to the Quran and the Sunnah

[@nuskyahmad6375]

in that case everyone close to u should have your password, your parents and whole family included and your friends too

[@jasmineflowers3583]

@@sweettea1193 I don’t see the issue

[@jasmineflowers3583]

@@nuskyahmad6375 husband is closer and has more rights than family and friends

[@bigmo7388]

What everyone is forgetting to remember is nowadays, phones are almost extension of your thoughts. For example You might be searching something and without any background it might look like this guys is being unfaithful. Or even think of this, a lot of ppl are not lucky enough to live a righteous life from the get go but with these phone’s you data could be going back 5 to 10 years easy. Very few ppl will take the time to clean their phones going back to 5 to 10 years but some one snooping through your phone will go back 5 to 10 years no issues. Believe me phones are one of those things if you want to find something you will. Why do you think lawyers tell you not to share your phone with a law even if you are innocent because if they want to find something they will.

[@purplespark8]

Good point

[@Cardboardbox224]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nWivlqKeiqiJiqc This explains the rulling

[@samihakhondoker2456]

Smart

[@YuNgHaSaN]

Thanks for having me on your show! I’ll look forward to more potential visits in the future inshaAllah

[@YuNgHaSaN]

@Dhi Mancini Akhi with all do respect what kind of question is this

[@YuNgHaSaN]

@King Sultan Left

[@Hamza-uh6oy]

@Dhi Mancini 🤔

[@Nope991]

Husband should be able to check wife's phone but the wife shouldn't be able to check husband's phone unless she has a valid reason.

[@Hamza-uh6oy]

@@Nope991 Both should have a valid reason. Phone has sensitive information, how is that not spying (التجسس) or mistrust (سوء الظن)?

[@bananaappel6557]

I mean, if he doesn't give me the reason to think that he might look at chats that are not halal for his eyes (e.g. chats with my friends who sent me selfies with no hijab on) then he can have my password. Here's a new point: My sister and I are inseperable but we still don't randomly go through eachother's phone without asking for what we are doing it. If somebody, doesn't matter who, insists to use stuff that solely belongs to you, and you say you don't want that, that's legitimate and the other person would be in the wrong for insisting. If a man or woman says that having the password is a must and not an acceptable boundary, then they should clarify this in the marriage talks.

[@rosiec809]

Those are questions you ask when you’re looking for a perfect match. It’s not general rules.

[@ruhelmiah10]

What the hell is all this free mixing bruv

[@highesteem2778]

Spying is haram both for wife and husband

[@_bananashake5124]

the subject depends on individuals differently in a different way. it's not women or men, you can not take a certain rule for everybody.

[@faatihahk]

Petition to get longer videos

[@DjalalZt]

Is it right to think that you're not suitable for marriage because you're too jealous and there's something about you that you can't change?

[@boobzy5411]

It's not only about self confidence but it's a lack of confidence in Allah subhana wa ta3la

[@mohamedyayahjalloh1560]

am learning.

[@sugar-daddykhayreddin1115]

After 4:00 to 4:45 they shouldve ended the podcast there and then. The sister pretty much answered the topic of the title.

[@Alina-hi8jd]

“Why is it the bitter truth?” “Cuz the truth is bitter” idk why I w found this so funny 😂😂

[@themandarin9539]

I respected the fact when the sister on the left mentioned Shaitaan being a cause of the insecurity, and I automatically was reminded of the following Hadith; Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Satan says: You have done nothing. Another one says: I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife. Satan embraces him and he says: You have done well.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2813

[@mohammadazmi5102]

In a nut shell, give access of phone to our partner but do not entertain syaitan by doubting on each other all the time. Whenever there is a need for it, just let them see it. And it's quite good for our partner to have acces to our phone so we have the fear of partner seeing something that they might not like.

[@1batteryleft20]

I agree we all need to learn to do this

[@namelesswriter3892]

The thing is, the truth always comes out. If you do have any concerns about your partner potentially cheating on you, it's better to find out then and there rather than find out later on when you've already devoted your life to them and it can potentially harm you a lot worse than it would have before.

[@limaan8118]

I couldn't agree more as this happened to me. 4 months into the marriage I found out my now ex husband was on Muzmatch and texting a sister on WhatsApp. I had previously seen a Muzmatch pop up and was naive enough to think he hadn't had a chance to uninstall the app and never checked his phone to spy on him. Just by chance I found out about his wrongdoings. Alhamdulillah that I found out early enough before we had any children together. A very similar thing happened to my mother only that she did have my sister already with my stepdad. Imo it's better to be safe than sorry in these times of fitnah. My new husband thankfully has never had a problem with me using his phone as he knows that I am a little bit scarred from the previous marriage and he has nothing to hide. A person not wanting his spouse to use his phone would be a huge red flag to me.

[@namelesswriter3892]

​@@limaan8118 Wow, your story is honestly so touching to me, here's why. This common belief in the culture is that re-wedding is looked down upon, which is ridiculous in my opinion. I know many young women that are stuck in unhappy marriages because they're afraid that finding a second husband, or being treated right in the next relationship won't work. Your finding out about your ex-husband on muzmatch was such a blessing from Allah because this allowed you to be with your real soulmate, and in a much more trusting and loving relationship. My point is, *being in a marriage where you're too scared to see if they're cheating on you, isn't a relationship.* I'm so done with seeing women living miserable lives with men that are undeserving because they're taught to "go through it for Allah", But Allah SBWT would never want you to be with a dishonest partner. Everybody should learn the value of a partner and how important they are. People believe that a woman is easy to control and put through whatever but it's not true. Thank you for sharing your story with me sister, I hope that Allah blesses you and your family and keeps you away from all negativity.

[@ambou811]

If you have a Type of man WHO do dis Like a Sport with Ego and No doubt allah Existent IT destroy s you. I keine a marriage Like this and He ist blaming her Like . I so what a want. If you knew or dont Like it

[@blackgown7485]

There is laughing and giggling and everyone looking into each others eyes...this is haram subhanallah.

[@notme9262]

Islam is strict 😬

[@blackgown7485]

@@notme9262 islam can be but things sometimes we hate are good for us. People find not mixing with the opposite sex hard because they are out going and bubbly...but sometimes the greater harm over takes the good. Look at society nowadays...marriages are breaking up cus they find out their spouse has had an affair etc...islam prevents all of this....

[@checkm8_47]

from the amount of times ali mentioned it i think he wants a 2nd wife 🤣🤣🤣

[@e.k874]

thats all he ever talks about or wanting sex everytime he asks lmao

[@user-yh3pn1he2w]

@A well yes a man is allowed to marry 4 wives as long as he is financially strong to support all 4 of them , and Ali can handle 2 wives though 😂 but a man should also be ready to handle the stress that comes with 3 wives or even 2 wives , there was a study conducted where it said men are likely to die early when they marry more than 1 woman so mental health is also important for men.

[@user-yh3pn1he2w]

@ahmad hanbal Ali isn't wrong though polygamy is allowed in Islam

[@ij4674]

@@aishax01 Most of those who talks like that don't have more than one wf and are not even planning to get, just because they talk about it, doesn't mean they want it. Well, wmn too can talk about x too. There was one ruling which says wmn can go to a Qadhi and Qadhi can rule the husband to slp with his wf, of she is not getting it as low as once in 4 days. Our deen had given importance to that aspect of both gndrs, within marriage just as much it has condemned outside marriage.

[@infernoo365]

Would sisters allow their husband/future husband to have female friends, if he tells her about them before marriage?

[@noueruz-zaman7894]

My wife is always on my phone ànd checking messages casually😊

[@sanahgdcvh]

My ex husband would never let me see his phone and was like why don't you trust me blah blah and once he gave me his phone for like 2 minutes to make a call and his girlfriends message came so as per my personal experience you try to hide only if you are doing something wrong...if you aren't doing anything wrong you won't mind your spouse checking your phone coz he would check my phone anytime and i had no problem with that

[@infernoo365]

Would you allow your husband/future husband to have female friends, if he tells you about them before marriage?

[@sanahgdcvh]

@@infernoo365 nope i won't be comfortable with him having female friends...also i always believed that men and women can never be friends there has to be a reason for that friendship or attraction... And before anyone call me backward etc i m saying this with my own experience back in school and college i tried being just friends with guys and in almost all cases the guy became possessive or started acting weird like expecting me to give him more importance than other friends hence i can never have a guy friend except a couple of guys who were my friend's boyfriends...still i never stopped my first husband From being friends with girls but having the kind of experience i have now I will want my husband to not be friends with girls

[@sanahgdcvh]

@@civildiscourse7626 you care about the personal things of other people or you care about your marriage and the trust of your wife.... I would say it's wrong to check your spouse phone without them knowing but if your spouse is asking for your phone in your presence then if your are saying no then there has to be something wrong also whatever it is you can say it to your spouse that don't see that chat my friend has discussed some really personal stuff in it which is not appropriate for you

[@Nope991]

Husband should be able to check wife's phone but the wife shouldn't be able to check husband's phone unless she has a valid reason.

[@sanahgdcvh]

@@civildiscourse7626 you didn't read my whole reply...you can say that to your wife don't see that particular chat we have discussed private medical issues... that's it... secondly trust needs to be developed it's something that you earn...it's not an obligation on your partner coz there are lots of people who cheat and if someone is secretive with their spous then there are high chances that they are cheating