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[@felicial.5992]

Thank you for addressing this in a way that's not one sided, as a Muslim woman it's exhausting constantly being made to feel (by religious leaders) like my well being (not just materialistic but mental and spiritual as well) are less important to Allah then man's desire to have more than 1 woman. Again, thank you for not giving a selfish response to this topic/situation. It's halal doesn't mean mandatory or good for everyone.

[@kittybegum8486]

I absolutely agree with you. In my case ,he is not giving me any rights so when he remarry it's going to worsen,because the younger and second wife is always the favourite.

[@carljohnson2194]

@@kittybegum8486 he can marry if he wants none of your business

[@goldenxyoon702]

​@@carljohnson2194he can't marry without her permission as saw didn't let Ali r.a marry second wife bcos it upsets Fatima so if he doesn't follow Nabi sunnah he is not Muslim

[@carljohnson2194]

@@goldenxyoon702 no Islam doesn’t require permission from wife Quran allows men to marry 4 wives without first wife’s permission

[@carljohnson2194]

@@goldenxyoon702 idk why Ali RA didn’t marry second wife when she didn’t want but still islam allows husbands to marry up to 4 wives

[@sanamuhammad97]

In my opinion this matter should be discussed before marriage! Because there are women who accept to be in a polygamous marriege and there are woman who do not!

[@mohammedtaha92]

Totally agree!

[@felicial.5992]

100% agree!

[@sanamuhammad97]

@@mukhtaar2355 as a Muslim U should know that I can put "no other wives" on the marriage contract and I have alll the right to do so if I want. If he agree with it then he has to live upon it. If not he can move on and so can I. I never said it's Haram but it's not Haram to not want it either.

[@sanamuhammad97]

@Orient Express people loveee hate What's the problem with you people If you want two wives go ahead. But don't try to impose it on others.

[@hafsa2952]

@@mukhtaar2355 it’s a halal option but is not mandatory so it’s not a right

[@ummzaynul370]

Some men forget the first wife's responsibility as soon as they take a second wife, and do injustice. Also effects Children end messed up.

[@ummzaynul370]

@will de takea second wife and see!

[@ummzaynul370]

@will de responsibility are all the same 1st 2nd 3rd and for 4th. Treat them equally.

[@ummzaynul370]

@will de control? Find a better word.

[@ummzaynul370]

@will de Surah an Nisaa 34. Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.

[@willdei4724]

@@ummzaynul370 if you dont like islam, you are free to choose another way. islam doesnt have to please your fragile ego.

[@Mohamed-uc9mb]

I am all for a Muslim man taking a second or even fourth wife that's Allah ruling, but I saw lots of man with no jobs at all, some even on benefits trying to take a second wife, what kind of deen is that.

[@Zeczam]

Each wife and child comes with their own rizq

[@Mohamed-uc9mb]

​@@Zeczam brother, you missed the point. if your first wife and children are not taking care of, and you are struggling to provide for them and the government is helping you out to care for them, you shouldn't be pursuing a second wife at all. period, once you can take of them by yourself. then, by All means, you should be encouraged to take a second wife.

[@Mohamed-uc9mb]

@life Lesson a real Muslim man doesn't abuse his wife let alone beat her. my parents have married 30+ years and my dad never abuses my mom with words let alone with anything, I am married 3+ years, I never abuse my wife. it's in our religion not to abuse our women, and if any Muslim abuse his wife he should repent to Allah as he clearly goes against our beautiful religion and the teaching of our prophet Mohamed PBUH, and he followed his desire or his culture ( culture doesn't necessarily mean religion, we should separate).

[@rayhanperfumes1490]

@@Zeczam احسنت

[@khadijaabdullah5036]

Asalaam Alaikum Wa Ramutullah Wa Barakatuh at first I did not understand the hikman in this but now I totally agree. Sister made that a condition of your nikah let the brother decide if he wants to abide by it or find another wife. If the brother has any wisdom he would honor your arrangement. If he doesn't agree Ukht you have not lost any but you would have avoided a lot. Allah knows best.

[@nor332]

No women has to agree to anything. Some women may accept polygamy and some may not. A women isnt any less or "bad" because she doesnt except it. Shes human and she has the right to feelings. I personally would never except being a first,second wife etc. So she has the right to divorce and he can find someone who is okay with what he wants. Dont feel bad if u cant accept it ur not bad or a bad muslim theres no such thing and nor do u have to accept it. May Allah bless us with whats best for us.

[@jamdoughnut1873]

Actually she is bad. She should have realised A) There is plenty of scientific and behavioural evidence to show men and women are biologically different and experience sex differently. Hence women should not deprive men of their biologically need for variety which women don’t have. B) Allah has told women men are different, have a weakness for women and so a right to polygyny. Women shouldn’t behave like they know better than Allah. Instead accept it but no.

[@nor332]

@@jamdoughnut1873 😂 ok lmao. No one is responsible to accept anything. You can’t force your heart. Idc about science. Allah himself understands. If a woman isn’t able to accept it she doesn’t have to. So it doesn’t matter if a man thinks it makes a woman bad. You can’t force anyone to be ok with anything, you cannot force your heart nor should she. It’s not haram nor does it make her a bad woman even if u think so, Allah doesn’t. If you want a bunch of wives and have no self control and is able to fulfill your duties with all the wives then find women who are ok with it. And let’s not forget in the Quran Allah tells men it’s better for them to stick with one wife because they aren’t capable of fulfilling their duties to all wives. And I hope to all women who read your comment, please don’t listen to him his opinion is his. It doesn’t change the fact that you aren’t held responsible for the way you feel and you have the right to leave. In the eyes of Allah you are not sinning or a bad woman. Do what’s best for you. And if a man thinks that your a “bad” woman because of it then so be it lmao who cares honestly. And she isn’t acting like she bows better than Allah lmao what does that even mean. Go and have a million wives but Allah never said she’s forced to accept it. Go find wives who are accepting of it lol. And I could say the same to you when Allah warns men of them not being cable to fulfill their duties to all wives and to stick to one. So I can say the same to you about behaving like your better than Allah. Allah never told anyone to accept anything nor is she obligated to.

[@propheticguidance7842]

Wait dont talk nonsense. What can be done and cant be done are decided based on Quran and sunnah, not feelings. A woman has to accept and try to continue the marriage. But if she finds it too burdensome or something (it may even lead to sin) then she can ask for khula and give compensation to the husband for wanting khula (usually a similar amount to the dowry). She cant just “divorce” just because she doesnt like it (sounds weird because women dont give talaq). Its a different case if there is a condition of not marrying another wife in the marriage contract in which case she can ask for khula without giving a compensation if he marries another one.

[@nor332]

@@propheticguidance7842 yes she can. You can’t force anyone to stay. Nothing is nonsense. What’s nonsense is trying to manipulate women into thinking they are bad for not being ok with it. It’s not haram or wrong for her to leave. She doesn’t have to try and work it out because what’s there to work out. She does not accept him having another wife so she leaves the end.

[@propheticguidance7842]

@@nor332 give your evidence from quran or sunnah that she can leave just because she wants to or she thinks it will not work out even though she hasnt tried to see yet if it works out for her. If you dont want polygyny then make the condition before marriage (and it will be his choice if he wants to accept the condition and marry you or look for someone else) just like islam permits. But if you dont make that condition (and as such he marries you instead of looking for someone else and gives you dowry) you cant just suddenly say you will leave if he marries someone else.

[@sarashifu6863]

If a man really love a women he won't search nother one. He won't make her suffer and won't do anything which separate her from him . I know it's halal but reality is this.

[@aladdin_aljaylani]

AlSalaamu Alaikum Sister. Respectfully, your statement is false. A man can marry a second wife and still love his first wife. Think about the prophet and the sahabah, did they not have multiple wives? Did they not still love their first wife? Your idea comes from the negative influences from western culture which portray marriage as a fairytale. Even in the West my sister, men are polygynous, they have extramarital haraam relationships whether with a mistress or a girlfriend. It is in the nature of man to want to be with multiple women and Allah (swt) restricted men to 4 wives. Who are we to put restrictions on what Allah made permissible for men to fulfill their God-given natural desire in a halal way. Think about it, if Muslim women make it impossible for a man to take another wife by having the mindset you have (“he took another wife so he doesn’t love me”), what halal avenues are left? Marriage is the only way. Muslim men should not engage in the evil ways of the West like mistresses, girlfriends, pornography and other evils. This permissibility to have multiple wives for men is from the wisdom of Allah (swt). Do you think Allah (swt) would legislate something that is unjust? Obviously not. Please don’t claim that a man does not love his first wife if he takes a second. This is completely false. If you have a child, then have a second, do you stop loving the first? No, you love them both. I am not claiming women are like children, I’m just giving you an example. Allah (swt) knows best.

[@sarashifu6863]

@@aladdin_aljaylani why men can't lower their gaze. Why he can't control their desire. If first wife don't like taking second then it's hurting first wife can man take second, if he really love her he won't take second that what I meant. Mother's love can't compared to any other love. YOU are telling because of nature of man desire Allah allow it , no.Allah said every one to lower their gaze. If a man can do justice , can support equally then only he can marry multiple wives. If man can't control their desire ,if he marry 10 even he won't be satisfied. What you are saying is just like women are satisfying thing of man . ALLAH allowed marrying 4 not for their desire. Prophet Muhammad( saw) daughter Fathima ra even didn't like Ali ra her husband taking second wife. Why did she stop because she don't like. Wife can stop this if she don't like. Man can only marry if he can effort.

[@sarashifu6863]

@@aladdin_aljaylani man want multiple wives. Woman only permissible one. Men don't Like his wife loving nother one but women can't thing the same. This is women nature she don't like her husband loving nother women. All have desire men and women even woman have multiple men. Men can take nother if he can effort but first can't be hurt. If first want to stop this she can stipulate in marriage contract.

[@aladdin_aljaylani]

@@sarashifu6863 Yes I agree with you, a man must be able to financially support any wives he marries. But I disagree that a woman can stop a man from marrying a second wife. Do you think men marry to also satisfy their desires? Obviously a man marries for many reasons, one important one is to have halal intimacy with a woman, to fulfill his desire. There is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about this fact. Allah (swt) placed this desire in the man and he gave him a halal way to satisfy the desire. Should the man just lower his gaze and stay with one wife and fight the desire if he is capable financially of supporting another? Is it wrong for a good, practicing Muslim man who is capable of financially supporting multiple households to marry a second wife and continue loving and supporting his first wife and their children? I see nothing wrong with this. If you see something that I'm missing please let me know. May Allah (swt) preserve our Muslim families and make them stronger through Imaan and allow them to get rid of false Western influence and ideologies. Ameen.

[@sarashifu6863]

@@aladdin_aljaylani marry woman you like if you can do justice👈this mention in quran. If first wife mentally suffering because of your marriage it is not fair. Women have right she can choose husband for her if she want a husband who don't like poligym ,she can choose him. Poligym is sunnah. Man agreed not to take second then he should follow. Allah didn't said woman to bear and live .No need to bear this if she don't want she can tell and refused,it's her right that is men's right. That's it.

[@ProudArabz]

Most men take a women and put her through so much struggle/babies etc when they have nothing but when she stays with him until he has money he suddenly wants a new wife

[@priscillacruz2947]

before marrying, specify that you want your husband to be exclusive just for you, and you disapprove plural marriage-NO other wives ! Put it in writing, have the groom sign it--- I want to be your "only" wife *

[@TheOrganics01]

Wallah so true. They take her while she's a fragile ,warm,soft ,calm person,sensual ,feminjne ,sext . They turn her into a slave ,worse than a whipped horse then they want another

[@ammadasif1771]

So what is wrong with that?

[@assiaa7395]

​@@ammadasif1771 imao you really have a twisted moral compass if you're asking what is wrong with a man callously tossing his loyal wife's feeling asides for a new woman when he gets wealthier.

[@ammadasif1771]

@@assiaa7395 you misunderstood. If he treats both of them fairly then what’s wrong?

[@QuranicRemembrance]

People have been conditioned to dislike Polygamy. I feel like the overwhelming majority women don’t want it and they can’t stand it. If you really want to have multiple wives, it’s gonna be hard to find someone who will be satisfied.

[@potato0269]

thats true.

[@faithieflame4976]

Women hate polygamy.it destroys family.its selfish act.

[@elissaaminam5943]

I do not dislike it there is 1 particular personal reason why my hubby having a 2nd wife may actually preserve our marriage, w that said, I will remain married to him ONLY IF she is a pious Muslima & hijabi. If she is a revert she must also be hijabi and have been a muslima for several years, keep her salats and know some surrahs and know the basics of Quran and what is a halal life style. Sure around the time of the prophet when Christians behaved as Christians and Jews behaved as Jews it was OK at that time for a Muslim man to marry a lady from either one of those faiths if there was no available Muslimas around, but in these times, everyone knows that an overwhelming majority of Jews and particularly Christians, are that in name only. Basically, if he brings home a kafur I’m out.

[@Jahannam...Hellfire.]

Polygamy marriages destroying families!!!

[@ranazaman6121]

Yes it's true that people can be conditioned to dislike polygyny by both Western and non-western culture , or by their families and friends etc. But the fact of the matter is that a person doesn't necessarily have to be conditioned to dislike it. Even if people haven't been conditioned to dislike it, they can still dislike it because it's just their nature, i.e, they just naturally dislike it even without any external influence. I dislike it not because I've been conditioned, manipulated and brainwashed into disliking it, but because that's just the way I naturally am - it's just my nature.

[@Senny_sen]

She has the right to divorce him if she doesn't want to be married to him anymore.

[@Hellfire...]

Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.

[@KadershaN-ou2sj]

If she loves him then how can she think about divorcing him...

[@btb554]

​@@KadershaN-ou2sj if he loved her, how could he think of marrying someone else?

[@KadershaN-ou2sj]

@@btb554 She may denied him sex? That's why men make affairs with another women...

[@amazingamx1255]

any woman who divorces her husband for no reason will never smell the fragrance of paradise

[@sadyadey782]

I did qul divorce on my husband because he was less caring for me and my children and we had issues for almost 10 years and I lhe wanted to torture me for a second wife while he knows he can’t afford and it was affecting me mentally financially and emotionally and even affecting my faithfulness to him .

[@sadyadey782]

And most men in America are doing this a lot subhanAllah

[@TheOrganics01]

U did well

[@usermqlwkejrhr]

I hope u're doing ok now

[@abc-kn6ex]

@@sadyadey782 maybe you deserved it, alhamdullilah

[@addisachannel169]

that good for but you're to let

[@subreensultana5425]

Jajakallah khaer. Praying from the bottom of my heart that, may Allah ( SWT) reward you for describe this issue. Most of the muslim scholars describe this issue so harshly, so that we Muslim women often get puzzled.

[@ranazaman6121]

I agree.

[@propheticguidance7842]

This is how scholars describe though.

[@mjay8263]

Most Muslim scholars are men. Thank Allah this scholar is not bias

[@farhanaafroz5539]

Not true

[@mst2212]

For a man looking for a second wife just think if it was your daughter who is someone's first wife would you like it if the guy gets a second wife?

[@Hell...FireIsReal]

They don't like it if their fathers, sisters husbands or daughter's husband do polygamy marriages!

[@youtubeuser3182]

or imagine your daughter is in her late 30s and still unmarried and has fallen/or is at risk for falling into zina.... would you prefer she continues falling/risking falling into zina dating relationships?? or would you prefer a man marry her as his second wife and follow Allah's laws in treating them both justly??

[@Hell...FireIsReal]

Better to be single then in polygamy marriages with a narcissist husband!

[@youtubeuser3182]

@@Hell...FireIsReal a monogamous relationship with a narcissist would be pretty awful too

[@Hell...FireIsReal]

Best be single!

[@marybaroudi8443]

Allah he doesn’t put more on a person than they can bare. There is no force in the religion.

[@katben1625]

Where did you get this info from? Can you state the shyookh? Assim Al Hakeem has a completely different take on this and he makes it clear it’s ok to ask for divorce and it’s ok to stipulate it in your marriage contract. He’s quite knowledgeable msA it’s unlikely he just disregarded reputable scholarly opinions

[@saninakakana6931]

You didn't listen to him properly. Him and Assim AlHakeem are in harmony on this issue.

[@Muslimah-1985]

I personally think women do not need to wait patiently and see how they will deal with their husbands second marriage to decide on khula, mainly because especially in the west and the society we live in, things which are not the norm can lead to severe mental and emotional pain leading to physical ailments. Men shouldn't take women frm cultures where it js not the norm of second marriages and subject a woman to that reality.

[@inaaranur1611]

This is true but foe all women. Women do not accept as their natural state. This has meaning These men constantly tell men that they can have more than one wife without the restrictions upon it by Allah ? These are restrictions that will have weight They ignore it and act as if it is just a man’s right Men are not ‘allowed’ to marry more than one woman in Islam. After war when Muslims were outnumbered and men were killed women were left as widows with orphaned children. It was allowed that a man could take up to 4 women in THESE circumstances. Only if he could treat them JUST. That doesn’t mean give merely food and shelter. Being ‘just ‘ covers everything including emotions. If the woman does not fit these specifications it is adultery zina. It was a CONCESSION to widows and orphaned children only. Not a RIGHT for men. Believing Men Marry only Once by Default From Quranic point, believing men should marry only once as normal practice. We know this due to few reasons. One of them is that Allah states: "Marry those who are single among you including the righteous ones from your male and female servants." (Qur'an 24:32) Polygamy involves marriage to a man who is not single, therefore it is an exception only in the interest of taking care of orphans (marrying their mothers) - an exception, not a norm.

[@enigmaticalmystery4647]

@@inaaranur1611 Sister can you please reference sources for your exegesis. Islam is based on Quran and Sunnah according to the understanding of the early Sahaabah and Scholars. What classical Tafsir literature proves your claim? Have you ever read a book of Islamic history/civilization? Were all the men marrying widowed women with orphans? Who preceded you in this subjective opinion of yours? Please don't be spreading misinformation about Islam. Men have been given the right from Allah to, marry multiple wives so long as they're equal in providing/provisioning for them all. To restrict polygyny to only widowed women with orphans needs proof(Tafseer) from the Salaf(classical exegesis).

[@abdullahmertozdemir9437]

@@enigmaticalmystery4647 but it is true. Sahabas mainly married women without a helping hand because their husbands had passed away in battles. Polygamy's purpose wasn't to entertain men more, it was to take care of helpless women. There was a significant change in gender ratio due to wars so number of women was more than the number of men, nowadays in almost all the muslim countries there are more men than women

[@enigmaticalmystery4647]

@@abdullahmertozdemir9437 That's your personal subjective opinion brother, men have been marrying widowed or virgins from the beginning. The Sahaabah took on multiple wives they were of various backgrounds they may have been predominantly widows in times of war but, during times of peace and comfort they married virgins no doubt.

[@abdullahmertozdemir9437]

@@enigmaticalmystery4647 during times of peace scholars suggested to marry only one, as there was no need to get in polygamy and there was no need to take the risk of being unjust. Plus, a virgin might have a troublesome background too. What exactly do you think polygamy is for? To entertain husband's lust more and leave the wife heartbroken when there's literally no need to? There are more men than women, this will eventually cause problems

[@mariar3933]

Brother tim is a real man..Allah bless him.. Allah is merciful. He has mentioned one marriage for reason as preference even in times of polygamy.

[@Hellfire...]

Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.

[@St705]

Doesn't anyone discuss all things related beforehand, so there are no surprises? How many children you want, where you will live, how you provide etc.

[@Amynity]

whenever i ask, he will give vague answers like if ALLAH permits it. or just trust ALLAH. it is so frustrating trying to ask what his goals are, or maybe he doesn't have a goal. just trying to survive like most humans do.

[@St705]

@@Amynity Surviving like most people do is planning. People don't plan to fail, they fail to plan. Discussing with your future partner choices for life is a very serious and necessary endeavor that will strengthen a marriage. God bless you sister.

[@BKAYS]

جزآك الله خيرا

[@Ihavemadeit999]

Its not a threat when a woman doesnt want to have poly.its not her fearing she cannot be truthful to Allah.it doesnt mean she is afraid of sinnig,it just meant she doesnt want to have poly.its a normal thing.stop putting words in womens mouth and making them feel guilty when they dont was a poly by saying ”its bc she fears on sinning/not being able to be a great muslimah” .That’s guilt tripping women who dont want it.Even the pious ones.we are allowed to dislike it,nothing haram or sinning about it istaghfaullah.

[@unknownpersonality123]

I come from monogamous society....i will stipulate this condition inshallah for my own security...in my society men at time of marriage demads dowry from bride father ...couldnot even pray 5 times a day so how could women bear a co wife....if i love my husband so much and if he takes another wife and if i have to remain with him i will definetely loses loving him..i can not be able to pass smile when he sees me, when he demands intamcy i will be just a body for him because i can not ignore that he has another wife...i will do my duties but not loving him and maybe after sometime i start hating him....because i can provide for my self so i do not need gifts or money from him that can console me

[@nazmunnahar9184]

Well said

[@mammushameera]

Often people forget the second woman who comes into the marriage, once the man realizes the stress and problems that crop up after he takes a second wife he cannot withstand it and promptly finds a fault in the second woman and divorces her. The woman who agrees to be a second wife is abandoned and kicked to the curb in a lot of cases.

[@TheOrganics01]

Was she aware the man was married?

[@hafsa1698]

@@TheOrganics01 even if she knew she has as much rights as the 1st wife

[@mammushameera]

@@TheOrganics01 yes, despite conditions when a man buckles under first family pressure the second lady suffers.. she gets sacrificed especially if a mistake was to happen on her part men find it extremely difficult to resist and withstand such emotional pressure. Except the rare few who Allah has bestowed his mercy upon.. and this affair is very much dependent on taqwa of Allah too.

[@mammushameera]

@@hafsa1698 yes which is why this matter of justice is very serious in the eyes of Allah. Shaytaan does not leave a couple, then think of a man that has two. Except whom Allah bestows the taufiq upon.. intention and ability is paramount, it is a matter of great responsibility.

[@rumeysa4686]

That is why in the Quran Allah says it is better to have one wife because it is very hard to do justice between the two. A man has to be equal and fulfill both their emotinal and physical and other needs but this is almost impossible

[@Rosemary-tz4dm]

I dont understand why man likes to juggle between two three or four wives.why cant they be satisfied with one partner.

[@JahannamHellfire]

Muslim brothers cant even take care of one wife, forget 2 wives!

[@JahannamHellfire]

as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.

[@JahannamHellfire]

Never ever believe these Muslim brothers because they lie. I still get single men asking me for marriage and I wouldn't marry another sisters husband because shes going to get hurt in her heart. I wouldn't hurt or upset a sister for a husband!

[@riseforrisingindia7716]

@@JahannamHellfire Keep hadith a side and talk from Quran. Quran is the criteria which Allah will put on the table to judge on the final day. He will not put books of sahih Bukhari and etc.... The references you posted from Quran are correct but you need to put at verses at right context. The ref which says you can't justify between wives is pointing to the person who is already married with more than a wife. Allah is consoling men that you can't satisfy them equally but then Allah suggests don't be that much inclined to one wife and leave other hanging a side and try every effort and you will be rewarded for it. Balancing two wives equally is not possible because one is pregnant then you might spend more time with her and less with other but every day is not same. The other wife should understand this despite of jealousy. Tomorrow husband may spend more time with second wife when she needs him more due to sickness or health reasons. So overall Allah says you can't satisfy both equally so it doesn't mean you stop polygamy when Allah has given enought money and knowledge of the deen. If both men and women are following the Quranic commands and leading life then polygamy is easy. But if they are following as per desires then it is not possible for them..

[@JahannamHellfire]

Allah said: And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so].} [Quran 4:129]

[@ummabdulrahmaan]

Al hamdulillah the marriage contract :>

[@indiemagnetic2996]

I believe it's his right and i will not stand in his way but i know i couldn't cope so i would prefer to move on keeping it as civil as possible

[@qamarfarhana4911]

Alhamdulillah for the right given to women to mention it in their marriage contract ❤❤❤ now that’s just, this shows Allah gave the right of choice to women to stay or not stay with a man who wants more wives.

[@justaquariums4095]

Simple really... the men who have loads of money and are generally kind of arrogant will marry many times regardless of any impact on women or kids... so women please stop looking at money and marry a guy with a good character and good heart. I can honestly tell you there are more good men in this world than good women. I'm saying this as a woman. If you can be your husband's best friend and you chose him for companionship over money these matters won't even come anywhere near you. Not only does my husband have respect for me but also whatever he makes he gives me and he trusts me. I don't splash out money on makeup or waste it on expensive clothes. I don't disrespect him and we can laugh and joke. I honestly love him so much that if I couldn't fulfill his needs I would actually wish for him to have another wife and I would never want him to feel sad or upset. I honestly don't think I know many couples around me who even care about each other. Women place this comment of you can't get a second wife yet I ask as his wife what level is your relationship on? Ppl are in relationships just because they have to be, it's like the women just felt she was getting a bit old so she just got married or the guy feels like his mum wanted him to marry so he just married. These marriages are based on what if I could have married someone better. This is shaytaans way of making problems. In all honesty the men who I know of who have second wife's have a certain character- they are not close to any woman. They tend to lie easily or be very secretive. Or they are loaded with money and have very little respect for even their own parents. They tend to be distanced from their kids. Or they tend to be looking for something missing like wanting a baby boy and first wife only had all girls. Sadly these guys are deep down broken... I'm sure there are guys out there with 2 wives who they love both exactly equally and are able to divide their time and money and companionship with both exactly equally. Please let us know if you are that guy because I haven't ever met known such a guy.

[@hazelmint6671]

It's extremely rare to find a man who can treat his wives equally and lovingly in this day and age. I haven't seen it too.

[@wazzabanzook5028]

listen, a wife can not stop her husband from a second marriage but she doesnt have to stay in the marriage either, it is her right to choose to stay or not once there is a potential second wife, now if she stays and is patient then she is rewarded but she doesnt have to. also she can not threaten her husband with their kids if he chooses to marry another woman. and Allahu aalam

[@bradjekarso2006]

Women dont have the right of divorce. Divorce is only allowed with a valid reason

[@aphihrsi8453]

@@bradjekarso2006 Not being able to fulfill rights because of his marriage to a second wife is a valid reason. Allah doesn't grant rights to just men you know. Also not loving a man and not being able to fulfil rights is also a valid reason. This is proven by the hadith the sheikh quoted. Trust me, any decent man who has no interest in a woman who doesn't love him or want him, would be only too happy to be rid of her. It is indecent men who are vengeful and petty would try to hold on to a woman who doesn't want him and he doesn't want.

[@bradjekarso2006]

@@aphihrsi8453 and how do you know he wont fullfill her rights? Or did just assume stuff to fit your stupid logic

[@theunknown-uv5ck]

Then all a polygamous man have to do is Keep marrying If the former wives stay for supporting kids, its upto them to suffer If they don't, well good for him, he can live with his new wives.

[@mariaaziz7442]

@@bradjekarso2006 if the husband did it without caring about the other wife's feelings then she has the right to divorce it's a valid reason

[@itaz6276]

Yes she can as a right given by his. She can put it in her nikkah contract too … if he wants more then one wife then he should make that clear before the first nikkah

[@BintAbdulKader]

Question: what about the men, who don't do other sunnah like fasts sunnah mondays and thursdays, making tahajjuds etc. Even don't do Fard salah and making haram, does he have any rights to marry a second wife? Barakallahu feekum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu

[@adityachandranugraha9308]

The rights is still there, but what in universe Muslimah want accept married by Muslim men that dont do salah? He should never get pious woman. Also, the wife has rights to divorced if the Husband don't do salah. It is also strong reason by religion law. Why still obey fasik men (that dont do salah)? Even if the polygyny never happened. We should work by the rights and responsibilities of every party based on Islamic law, and not interferring others rights...

[@themanwithnoname3145]

if he doesnt pray fard salah then he is not a muslim, there is a consensus among the sahaba that if a muslim leaves one fard prayer he has left islam and therefore any marriage with him is nullfied and void and having sexual relations with him would be fornication, divorce would be obligatory upon the woman, she would have to inform her husband about this, if he accepts the advice and starts praying, alhamdulilah he can have 4 wives if he wants, if doesnt, then the wife must leave him

[@uzzy_787]

A man who doesn't pray isn't a muslim

[@NightJourney829]

Beautifully explained. Jajakallah khairan❤❤

[@kareemsvlog5590]

Sheikh has given Shubha for women honestly and they love it!!

[@nasraqaali7050]

I'm OK with it as long as the man fears Allah and he tries his best to do justice between the wives. The problem is brothers abuse it. May Allah protect us. I love Allah more than any man and I would never disobey Allah just to keep some guy to myself. Allah comes first.

[@nasraqaali7050]

Are you saying that injustice does not happen?

[@nasraqaali7050]

@will de So you are not aware that some men don't follow what Allah commanded them?

[@nasraqaali7050]

@will de OK

[@willdei4724]

"The problem is brothers abuse it" how do they abuse it lol? if you dont know, dont make statements you cant defend. stay silent, and know your place.

[@willdei4724]

it is not the role of islam to protect your fragile ego, lol nor is it the role of the husband. if you cant accept polygamy , then you are not a muslim. you can either be a feminist or a muslim, dont embarrass your trying to mix the 2 ideologies. lol

[@AbuYahya-sc2ne]

marry a widow, divorced women, women who are aged and single if u r looking for polygamy. they will allow the men to have multiple Wifes .

[@user73nsnskAjd]

This is very true, from experience

[@hafsaabdirisaaq4368]

Yeah but you want your cake and eat it. It doesn't work like that. Just keep marrying divorced women you can't marry young fresh women and expect that she accepts you to marry another one

[@janabmodan7955]

Ladies..just love Allah alone and be kind to everyone else.Nothing belongs to us....Nothing..not our parents kids,siblings, partners etc.Everything in this world is a test Alghamdullilah

[@wazzabanzook5028]

well these days unless you are rich , how can you afford more than one anyway. some people cant even afford one

[@yadhilopez8929]

God create men. And when God saw Adam sad and lonley, he create the woman from his ribs. ONE woman he gave him. God did Not create 4 woman for the men. God give Adam ONE woman. Men has taken the so call "right" to marriage 4 wifes. It is not God who give that right. Men had put that right on woman. It s Not fear, it is impossible! Share the same men sexually, economically, attention , love.. it's NOT easy. I admire those woman who does it. They are Brave!

[@lr43abdulmajidkhan92]

Respected sister with all due respect, what you're speaking in no way shape or form does it sound islamic, no man has the right to make things permissible or impersmissible by himself, Allah himself made it permissible for a man to marry either 1,2,3 or 4 wives, cus it's mentioned in the Quran, and there's not a single thing that can be mentioned in the which Allah hasn't allowed, in fact it is Allah who has allowed it, and concerning the part that it's hard so yea that's there, but at the same time it's not haram for a man to do so, hope that answers the question

[@lr43abdulmajidkhan92]

Sister, the Islamic law isn't based upon what country we live in, tho i understand it's hard for a person who wants to have more than one wife, can't do it in christian countries, but the I'm trying to make is, that's not what we look at, we obey the rules of the land but we do not compromise our religion in any way shape or form, nor do we consider Polygny to be disgraceful as christians believe, but what a person can rather do is move to a muslim country where he is allowed to marry more than one wife, & Allah knows best

[@أبوشغل]

"It is not God who give that right." Fear الله and refrain from speaking without knowledge. It is mentioned in the Qur'an itself. [[If you fear that you will not do justice to the orphans, then, marry the women you like, in twos, in threes and in fours. But, if you fear that you will not maintain equity, then (keep to) one woman, or bondwomen you own. It will be closer to abstaining from injustice.]] (4:3)

[@Hell...FireIsReal]

Narcissist men love polygamy marriages!

[@ibnnader8373]

astagfirullah al azeem you are saying that the rule of marrying max 4 women came from men, not from Allah. audhibillah. this statement can be a statement of kufr

[@bbutterfly1021]

What if he was looking to marry a second wife who is already married, whilst planning to divorce the first wife for no real reason, all whilst being unable to financially support the first wife 🤔

[@xenaboo]

😂

[@themanwithnoname3145]

marrying a woman who is already married? unable to finanically support the first wife? if he cant support his first wife then she has the right to divorce him, and he cant marry a woman who is already married lol

[@TheOrganics01]

Hahanahha

[@Laikanawangah-jp2mt]

The first step before getting a wife wether one more is intaku llaha.fear Allah in every matter

[@sarashifu6863]

Marrying 4 wives is man right. Men never bother his first wife will be suffer from this , he did it because his desire and call it his right. When married women see other men that's call sin but men get love and marry it's his right. While putting some one in pain giving life for other one won't be fair. Your doing it only for your desire by using islam .

[@priscillacruz2947]

exactly--

[@NATURLIST]

Jahil you are: Allah stated that he should do it out of his choice(his desire) and if he got the ability to do justice between them!

[@bushra02khan]

Polygamy at the time of the prophet was a major part of their culture not only in Arab but also in other parts of the world. But polygamy today is way too different and difficult to accept for any woman or society. Allah allowed polygamy for the welfare of the widow. But now people gas just sexualized this concept. Nouman Ali khan has explained polygamy in the following video, just a bit- kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGi8c5uehrWXmNE Men can never imagine how difficult it is for a woman to see his husband taking a second wife. It can cause her heart to bleed out of pain but they just care about their selves. It is better that a woman put this condition in the marriage contract and discuss it before marriage to avoid any problems after marriage.

[@SunShine-sp8zw]

Polygamy is driven by greed.

[@shadowstorm5261]

Are you Muslim? Why are you putting down what Allah has allowed? get help

[@afraas7176]

Not always. This type of generalization should be avoided and polygyny is a legitimate part of shariah

[@kareemsvlog5590]

This reckless comment can take you to kufr

[@piqueny8872]

Some men need to lower there gaze even more! Stop watching filth stop going to free mix gyms, stop with the second wife threats Stop getting the wife pregnant cuz your selfish not to use protection! This nonsense is getting out of hand you can not handle the first wife and give her Islamic rights so you want to Marry again to a barren or virgin women?!

[@salcianelanda4073]

I get why men would want second wives. But what I don’t get is why do some women want to become second wives, when there are many single men. Why be apart of a marriage, knowing you most likely will cause pain, heartbreak and emotional distress to another women (and possibly her kids), and potentially to them too.

[@liby254]

many single men would prefer to marry younger women, with no childen, unmarried etc. What about all the older women who are divorved with children, or widowed... What do we do with them? Should they just die single even though they also have desires which Allah created them with? Polygamy benefits the Ummah at large, as men whom Allah has bestowed wealth and the ability could take care of these women, by marrying them as an additional wife

[@JustMe54328]

Bcz those women r losers n cannot put a decent roof on their head without a man OR they r just interested in more wealth.

[@madinaanathalee4936]

Am agree get divorce then go ahead with your nika

[@user73nsnskAjd]

I see here lot's of comments but not comments from men who faces these problems so I'll give you my problem I face. I have 2 females who love me, one is older, been divorce and the other is young. The older female has much more understanding that I too want a 2nd wife and she has given me permission (Before marriage) The first woman (young) doesn't like the idea but she doesn't know about the other female. Although the older female knows about her. Yet I find myself loving both of them and I will treat them equally in my capacity that Allah has provided. I fear I may go do things out of my marriage hence I'd rather keep it within my marriages and that's why I want to love 2 females. Is it lust? No... Intimacy is rampant in today's world. Every man out there cheats silently and it's difficult to avoid but they'll never tell their wives so why cheat when you can legally have 2 wives?

[@hafsaabdirisaaq4368]

There's a reason why you're hiding the young wife from the old wife. I suggest you either be faithful with the old one who wants your faults (lust) and or just stay with the young one because lust is the reason why you first even went to her when you have a wonderful understanding older wife. In my opinion if the young one finds out about the older wife then you have put yourself in a very bad situation. You should've been honest with the new young wife and if she accept being a second then you could keep both wives and fulfill their rights. But even me as a lady I find it hard to love two thing the same forget two different people. I won't judge you but did you ask the young one if she's okay with third wife? Or her being second? Because I think the moment you took a second wife, you're going to fall for a third one whether young, beautiful or have a good Deen and character. After all both the wives you have are not perfect enough for you in their own ways that you have both of them

[@MK-oi3yk]

"Simply"??? What the hell is that? Then what if the woman wants another man then she is a bad woman

[@shadowstorm5261]

she is an adulteress

[@taimurahmad]

Cause its haraam. Diff between halal and haraam

[@bakersfieldroofing4479]

"Divorce women were likely to be remarried before" solution is polygamy brother.

[@nareshvasishth4034]

This is the most interesting discussion. Reminds me of Galileo. He was quarantined when he said that earth moves around the word. That is religion for you? Quran has it's rule and Bible has it's own.

[@poonum737]

What if you go into a marriage knowing if he ever does get a second wife you can’t fulfil his rights rather than waiting for it to happen and then getting a divorce

[@Aa-dc2xu]

You could just stipulate in the marriage contract (nikkah) that he's not allowed to have more than one wife so long as you're alive.

[@poonum737]

@@Aa-dc2xu the sheikh says this isn’t the best thing to do and there’s a difference of opinion on the matter

[@Aa-dc2xu]

@@poonum737 I'm pretty sure the sheikh here said it's fine for a women to do it. Whether a man wants to marry a women who stipulates it in the marriage contract is a different story and depends on the man. Most muslim men only marry one wife so it shouldn't be a problem. Watch from around 6:30 in the video and he talks about it.

[@sitthyrizowna9172]

@@Aa-dc2xu jazakallahi khairan ..I am confused on this.. whether it's against islam or something..now it's clear.. 💖

[@sarauniyaGH]

@@Aa-dc2xu while we are allowed to make stipulations to not be involved with polygamy, I would be careful with that wording... it can become sinful for us. We cannot make something haram that is halal. If he is capable, Allah allows him to have more than one wife.. so we can never "disallow" him. All we can do is stipulate that we don't want a polygamous marriage. If he agrees and signs on that, it becomes a major sin for him and the marriage would be dissolved if he breaks that clause. Allah knows best.

[@RAGEHXARAGO]

Sisters watching, by Allah, if your husband is a good man, a man upon his deen, who is good to you, and who fears Allah, who is a good father, pls don’t make it difficult for him to marry again, this is coming from a man my beloved sisters, if he seems like a man who will abuse his rights, then I understand, but if he is a just man, a man of truth, Wallahi it is better for you to be patient, and your reward is from Allah. JazakuAllah khairan.

[@Hellfire...]

Sorry, Allah swt who gave us women rights in Islam, to be happy and free from polygamy oppression. Allah said: you can't be just between wives from Quran, so I divorced my husband because of polygamy marriages and now very happy.

[@fatimafarah2786]

He can go and marry whoever he wants but i won't be part of it and I think that's faiir.

[@originalwaleed4819]

Freedom is more important to me then staying with this wife and family I’ve been a slave long enough

[@Mevmotto]

Lol

[@abdelkarim8376]

Jazak Allahoe ghair

[@alexs983]

From my experience a man wants a another women due to wife not making him happy and acts like he don't exist some women put everyone before husband don't support husband emotionally l talking a a righteous man

[@oulangkous718]

Happiness must come from inside yourself by being greatful for what you have. Men and women who blame their spouse for their misery will always end up having the same problems with different people cos they don't look at what they r doing to make themselves happy and if they are demanding more than they r giving to their spouse

[@Zeczam]

Alhamdulillah it looks like polygyny is making a comeback

[@purplerain2205]

Highly unlikely, not these days

[@Zeczam]

@@purplerain2205 it has to. A lot of sisters are marrying so late now, and some never. Coz it's so hard for them to find single men of substance.

[@purplerain2205]

@@Zeczam that's nonsense, you're clueless

[@Zeczam]

@@purplerain2205 if it makes you happy...

[@fbi8345]

@@Zeczam im not marrying older sisters i will marry girls who are young in their prime. age of consent varies but in some european countires it's 14

[@basoomsmile75]

Jazaka Allah khair

[@saral9817]

4:3 وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَـٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَـٰثَ وَرُبَـٰعَ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـٰنُكُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟ ٣ If you fear you might fail to give orphan women their ˹due˺ rights ˹if you were to marry them˺, then marry other women of your choice-two, three, or four. But if you are afraid you will fail to maintain justice, then ˹content yourselves with˺ one or those ˹bondwomen˺ in your possession. This way you are less likely to commit injustice. - Dr. Mustafa Khattab, the Clear Quran

[@amuthi1]

Yes she can!

[@handsomesquidward2130]

wait did it say she can't?

[@ummabdulrahmaan4876]

I really can't be able to manage mentally because I work so hard for our marriage. Plus th3 fact that some time their put us so much down but we keep trying to be pleasing to our husband.

[@fbi8345]

that's crazy tbh if she threatened divorce

[@wouldyounot7971]

You dont know the situation. So u dont know

[@JahannamHellfire]

She can leave!

[@rose-rv5yz]

If she wants to, she has the right to leave.

[@JahannamHellfire]

@@rose-rv5yz they call it crazy because it's her who wants to divorce!

[@bloxyedits]

She actually doesn't have the right to ask for a divorce if her husband remarries unless she stipulates it in their nikkah. Marrying a second wife who is halal and lawful for you is not grounds for divorce.

[@touseefrehman6725]

Its so hypocrate on the side of the women when on one side she claim by loosing some how her husband shatter their life(which in reality still stay with her) and on the other hand she is ok to loose him completely and destroy family life as well. I believe its only selfishness and shaitan play with their minds. Where is your submission to one God. La ilaha illa Allah is the only way forward.

[@Averysadprincess]

Sub'haanAllaah. I'm reading the comments and I'm very disappointed at the state of most of our sisters. What happened to hearing and obeying as soon as ALLAAHU sub'haanahu wa ta'ala legislates something?! All this back and forth arguing and fighting over something Allaah has made lawful for men. Sub'haanAllaah. Fear Allaah all of you. Who are you to come and object to the legislations of Allaah after He has allowed it?! Fear Allaah and keep your emotions aside. Ultimately what matters is who has attained Allaah's love and is admitted to al-Firdous al-a'laa

[@deadpoolstrikesagain3914]

Allah has allowed multiple marriages ..no woman disagrees ..and let's not compare men of today to the best and most favoured by Allah. As of now , society is deteriorating and homes are breaking because couples cope with every day life and struggle to meet their required marriage duties. Most married people are usually unhappy due to either partner not being fully committed. Hence the constant divorces and infidelities. Yes men are ALLOWED or GIVEN A CHOICE, but it does not mean he ll go to hell if he stays with his one wife and children. Most women want to build their own nests and it's natural to feel abandoned if her husband has little time for her and wants more wives. Saying its Sunnah or Allah has given permission is correct and very few men can ever have a normal polygamous relationship today. Please regard the safety of women and their families. And there a thousands of older widowed or divorced men who might and can get married and proted divorced and widowed women they should marry..and help protect women

[@shadowstorm5261]

@@deadpoolstrikesagain3914 and the women of today aren't good to compared to back then. what's your point?

[@Marwadear512]

Nobody has objected to it from what I’ve seen so far. Men can do it. But women don’t have to.

[@oulangkous718]

Brother u r short sighted. The world has become dangerous and people don't live in villages anymore. It becomes unsafe to leave a woman alone at home and to leave children without a father's daily discipline and guidance. Many brothers think women get to have a day off when they go to second wife but they don't think of the kids. She still has to cook and clean for the kids and she must also help them with homework while he is enjoying himself.

[@janabmodan7955]

Treat the servants of Allah swt well..

[@zahrao1266]

Marrying is permissible, but match wisely, don't infringe on people who can't stand such arrangements. I personally can't stand that three/foursome lifestyle.

[@ram47863]

Its not threaten She will choose to divorce her husband and then married to other man If he can marry a second wife She can too, of course a woman can't have 2 husband So they need to divorce first

[@jamjams2740]

Watch from @6:40

[@mariaaziz7442]

If she wrote it in the nikkah then yes

[@AbdirahmanMAli-gc4jp]

Barakillah

[@darklyhealthy1328]

A woman should always be alone at home while husband and kids are out.She cannot work and go anywhere without her husband's permission.So easy to say that she should manage to be alone and keep herself busy. 2.She cannot divorce a man for being polygamous. 3.She can't attempt suicide. What should she do? How long should she be patient.

[@addisachannel169]

You're incorrect you don't understand the Islam teaching

[@rumanfurqan1097]

@@addisachannel169 and then what Islamic teachings are..A man can have wives up to his choice but if woman divorce him she wont be able to smell the jannah and she is sinful(according to hadih)she cant get out of that shitty marriage and cant even commit suicide.what can she do.and even after death in Hannah she will get same husband and have to bear 72 hoors

[@zara-he3jh]

​@@KadershaN-ou2sjlmao just because someone cannot bear this absolutely devastating pain and want to escape from it doesn't mean she doesn't love him. If anything, the fact that it's so hurtful to her shows her love. If she had no love for him she wouldn't have felt hurt. It is very much possible to divorce someone but still love them, which is what we see in most divirce cases. So this is a very faulty logic.

[@afiy9959]

well.. sometimes, i feel quite good with polygamy being said or put as something men can do, cuz from it i can recognize the way this men behave or how their mind work on this topic for myself personally, from their point of view on it, i see how some has a bit care abt someone feeling and some just keep saying its halal and dismiss the feeling that is there directly and doesnt seem to a bit considering in their speech on how the women said, its hurting her (i know its halal and who am i to judge God rules) so i just pinpoint the behavior and the act on some humans. As example, a prophet himself marrying another of his wives after mother Khadija has passed away showed how much he truly love her and we can feel it in his story that makes me think and feel, with the prophet personality, i wouldn't mind him marrying up to 10 tbh, we can feel his pure and sincere intention. This also helps me looking at who is the best of their women as its mentioned, the best of u is the best to their women. Another is, so if u dont even show a bit emotional side on why it hurt women so much rather than telling its halal, so... hurm nvm, yes its halal but its matter of phycological approach which is u showed me, u cared abt my feeling enough to make me think that u actlly qualified to hv more than one wife (example). I also sees this rule abt letting men to hv more wife is as part of a test and its just like telling u, lets see, what will u do if its halal lol (this just my joke haha). Overall, im ok with polygamy and i dont blame other if they dont want it cuz its sunnah, not a must.

[@sundasnadeem6277]

Reference, please about the divorced wife took from husband

[@aishahtouray9794]

What if the husband wants to marry a ex girlfriend from another country while his wife and 3 children are in a different country?

[@JahannamHellfire]

Find your own husband

[@sophiesumleen7872]

why does he need to choose the ex?

[@gracehaddad3638]

Assalamu'alaikum Syech ... I have a question how the law is if the first wife forces a husband to divorce her husband's second wife without the second wife doing anything wrong just because she excessive jealousy and she threatened the second wife if she did not step aside away immediately then she promised to make the second wife's life like in the hell even though they live in different countries ...whereas in the past her husband married a second wife because the first wife often neglected her duties and obligations as a wife and always underestimated her husband, thank you syech I hope this question can get a useful answer from syech soon.🙏🙏

[@handsomesquidward2130]

lol just divorce his ass

[@adityachandranugraha9308]

@@gracehaddad3638 wa'alaikumussalam... I want to try and help, The wife can't forced Husband to divorce second wife, that is dzolim action.

[@motherofdragon4637]

Did you just insult FATIME AS ?)

[@hmsaleem86]

If a woman can write in the contract something that strips the man of his rights, granted it's his decision to agree or not, and that this is something Islamically valid, then on that same note, can the man do the same thing to a woman? Let's say he wants to marry a working woman who at the time doesn't realize the benefit of taking her right to be financially provided for by her husband, so her husband to be puts in the contract that he will not be paying for her, and she signs it...this is okay? Please clarify ustadh Tim Humble. JazakAllah khair

[@cupcake3215]

Im not sure about other stipulation but I do know that man must provide for the family. It’s an obligation so you can’t stipulate that you won’t provide for her. Because it’s a sin to neglect your wives & not provide. It’s like a wife stipulating that she doesn’t have to obey her husband. However the stipulation may have to be specific in the terms that it’s only valid while she is working as in if she isn’t working the term doesn’t applied. Since the reason men can marry multiple wives, inherit more than women, the leaders of women, don’t have a wali all comes done to being a provider. “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means” [an-Nisa’ 4:34]

[@Strawberry-ii4le]

You are comparing a fard (man providing for his wife) to a sunnah that does not need to be followed (multiple wives). If the man stipulates that he will not provide for his wife then essentially there is no point in the marriage. What does the wife gain from being married and providing for herself vs being single and providing for herself? The man doesn’t need more wives but the woman needs the man to provide even if she is working.

[@Marwadear512]

Yes it’s ok but she can always go back on it later just as he can still marry a second wife. But in each case, the other spouse can divorce.

[@hakunamatata3935]

Any condition agreed upon before marriage must be fulfilled by the spouses. As far as I know, the husband would not need to provide for her in this case

[@Marwadear512]

@@hakunamatata3935 He would still need to unless they specify in the contract that he won’t. Or doesn’t have to.

[@Idysalim]

I need help here my brothers and sisters in islam, I got married to a convert and after 2months of our marriage he wants to marry another wife. My problem is not even that, he will never perform his salah nor even trying to get knowledge about his deen, only after helping him learn suratul Fatia, salah and the main dhikr after salah and sometimes he will pray when am at home with him but he gets upset quickly then he will never pray go out drink alcohol pick women and bring in our house and ask me to live. I fill betrayed and deceived that he only married me bcz he needed permit to stay in my country since hes not a citizen here but he wants to live here permanently. He is narcistic and every friday if I do a mistake of asking him to drive me to Jumaa prayers that day he will ask me to live his house. I told him if its Allahs kadr he will marry another wife the only things i adviced him to do is learn his deen first and be steadfast in his prayers and that ill even help him in finding a good woman to be the second wife but he told me am controlling him and he knows what hes doing, he said his happiness is having 2 women living under the same roof no matter how much I tried to tell him happiness and tranquility is only found in Allah. I need some advice and your duas plz, I believe Allah will never burden a soul with more than it can bear

[@mrsasifiqbal1227]

You sound like me in correcting your husband in deen. Sis leave their deen its not our concern khalas. Focus on Yourself but just keep making dua that may ALLAH guide him to be just and fair with you

[@addisachannel169]

devorce him

[@oulangkous718]

Think of your future children. Do u want such a man to be their father? Seek advice from your Wali.

[@namra7957]

Divorce him,your life is precious that any useless man who doesn't even think about you.i have seen women in poly marriages and they are miserable as hell,they spent each second of their life resenting their and their husband's existence.Children are often victims of their parents quarrel and become depressed,.lonliess is better that such misery.

[@kellykelly9521]

What about a man that marries a western American muslims, but marrying other women in hopes she will give him a usa visa so he and the real wife he wanted can live and work in usa while he wanted to ship American wife to his country of Egypt? The other wives which have been several and ended in khula except the American wife?

[@namra7957]

Stay away from such men.These men don't marry women they marry opportunities.

[@mohamedredouanbenomar3156]

👍

[@danie6045]

So pretty much what she’s saying is that is something or something cause you not be able to fulfill your duties to Allah you can just leaven ignore everything Allah said. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@Aisha-wu3qz]

my question is that should we be giving a timeline for or amount of effort that is put into trying to make the marriage work in polygyny before there’s a final decision of “i can’t mentally handle this and it’s affecting my deen and my ability to fulfill his rights” because i have seen women who right away were not even willing to make it work at all and were immediately set on leaving as soon as it happened and took no effort to see if they could or could not handle it over time instead did everything in their power to leave using this reasoning that they could not handle it. but it may be that at the moment the situation makes us feel like “i can’t do this” and act on impulse demanding a khula and even if it takes time the very fact that we would already have this mindset only makes us not willing or open minded to make it work at all before making a big decision like that. i feel like we should atleast enourage us as woman to sit for a bit take a breath and atleast test the waters and see for a few months with an open heart amd mind because it may be that we are capable of handling more than we think and actually are able to make the situation work but after all the efforts, counseling, trying to make it work and trying our best to fulfill each others rights and work on being a loving couple and working to create a healthy relationship sincerely and it still doesn’t work and it’s still creating issues that are ruining your sense of deen, mental health, emotional well-being after months or years of trying to make it work then i think that calls for talking to eachother and sheikhs to mediate what the situation calls for. i just know that as a woman i can act on impulse based on what i’m feeling at that moment and a lot of the times i don’t even feel the same way later or i forget what i was even upset about OR i ruin an entire situation or night knowing that i didn’t even try to reason or make it work. so if we can try to atleast wait a bit before making huge situations and using this,i won’t call it an excuse but perhaps reasoning for leaving as a way to not even consider trying to make it work with your husband. after all i’m sure he doesn’t want to lose you and you guys must have loved eachother at some point

[@namra7957]

there is no need to drag a matter,if someone doesn't want to do certain thing,then it shouldn't be delayed.often family members force a women to do sabar and she comes under pressure and accept the situation but in reality she is suffocating and a mental case in making.i have seen a lot of these things.sugarcoat it all you want but reality is different.

[@Aisha-wu3qz]

@@namra7957 my question is for someone who can provide me islamic proof. not for opinions and feelings.

[@Aisha-wu3qz]

A woman I knew tried taking her life because her husband took another wife and the other wife had gotten pregnant but she couldn't so she felt like she had to end her life and wanted to leave. That was 2 years ago. Today both wives have children now. The wife is no longer wanting to take her life and the husband is now living peacefully with both his wives. Immediately the first wife was upset and was ready to do something irrational. With sabr eventually she was rewarded with a child from Allah and they were able to overcome that struggle and continue their marriage.

[@dathrakki4892]

I recently told my wife that I had s desire to marry in future in sha Allah. This led to a huge argument. Basically, she said that she would want a divorce as I cant bear it. Plus my mum even put a lot emotional pressure on me not to. Due to our indo pak culture, this will lead to a massive fall out between relatives. There would be a lot of consequences. This had left me confused. Nevertheless, I know its halal. Any advice?

[@إيماني-ط3ه]

Brother I see that you've commented this matter on several videos. This video had explained the situation well in my opinion. It is up to you to make that decision brother. Talk to your wife, explain to her your reason and ask her for her reason in preventing you from doing so. If you both failed to get an agreement on the matter, then I'm afraid it is better for divorce and let her find her own happiness with another guy as at the end of the day God forbid if she might fail to fulfill your right as a husband sincerely then it is definitely detrimental towards her deen. Hope that helps and may Allah make it easy for both of you.

[@Ihavemadeit999]

Watch the video,the answer is here.If she doesnt want to be one of your wives she has the right to divorce.

[@NavyLady82]

If it's in the contract you signed upon marriage then its a no go. Be of your word if not just get a divorce because this will not work.

[@umma6988]

Weigh the pros and cons. Do isthikharah and be firm in your decision.

[@daisyrose-kp4rb]

Would you mind if your wife is in bed with another guy? A woman's heart has the same feelings. Its so very hurting.

[@adamdilem941]

Can a man put condition that she doesn't have the right to shelter, food, clothing ect before marriage? No. Making a condition to take away a man's right given to him by Allah is invalid.

[@-glitch-8195]

@@rimab5894 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@adamdilem941]

@@rimab5894 Why is that his responsibility?

[@hazelmint6671]

What a silly comparison. Caring for the wife is the husbands duty, it is fard that must be done and can be a reason for divorce if not fulfilled. Marrying a 2nd wife is not fard on the other hand, and it is not encouraged in the Quran.

[@adamdilem941]

@@hazelmint6671 1- A lot of things can be a reason for divorce in Islam. Including (I am not happy anymore) kinda reason. 2- Marrying more than one wife is not discouraged in the Quran either. 3-Revelation is both the Quran and Hadith. And the Hadith encourage us to multiply and have many kids. Having multiple wives could multiply your kids. So it's kinda encouraged in the Hadith. 4- being encouraged, fardh, or not is not the point. A right given by Allah to men is a fardh/Obligation for every Muslim to abide by other people's rights and not try to find a way around them.

[@hazelmint6671]

@@adamdilem941 First, I'm happy you are decent with your words, as most people I debate about this can't debate without the personal insults. This is good muslim behaviour :) Anyway, your 1 point, my answer stays the same, taking care of the wife is the husbands main duty in a marriage, without that why marry? People can marry for many reasons, but this undoubtedly is the main reason and base for majority of marriages. 2. 3. It is kind of discouraged according to the quran, which has the verse 'marry 2,3,4 wives if you can treat them equally. You can strive to do so, but you can't so it is better to take 1 wife' (not exact word for word, but it is along those lines) According to the last sentence, Allah knows most men can't justly treat multiple wives, so he encourages for a single wife over multiple, thus discouraging polygamy generally. 4. It is also the right of the wife to write whatever she wants in the contract, as long as it isn't haram. Most scholars agree that it is permissable for the wife to put the clause of monogamy in her contract. Whether the husband agrees to it is a different story. If he plans on having a bigger family, he can just not marry her. Btw she can't stop him from marrying a 2nd wife (according to some scholars), she can only say if he marries another, she has a right to divorce him. It is a deal breaker for her. It is very difficult to manage even 1 wife, yet talking about multiple wives is a hot topic lol. It is very hard in this day and age where everything is expensive and most women don't agree to it. Why force something on someone who hates it? It is a big risk which may break a perfectly good marriage. We should be thankful with what we have. :)

[@devbachu7072]

They all so holy an can takw wives upon wife an treat u like adog why marry other why

[@mujeresmusulmanas2104]

Shaytan must be very pleased with those first wives who make the man divorce the second wife. Just think about it.

[@CloverAugustus]

7:27 "Whether I would recommend...", Haha, yeah pretty much said it all. I don't want a second wife but if I find a woman adding something like that in the contract, it would ring my alert bells for sure. For all I know I could be getting married into these new breed of "progressive feminist liberal" woman.

[@hafsaabdirisaaq4368]

Divorce is always a way out for both men and women. Who tells you that a second wife is better with a passive aggressive women even if she refrains from writing that in the marriage contract? If you end up in abusive relationship you can always divorce that one. I don't understand why you need to marry a second wife other than LUST

[@CloverAugustus]

@@hafsaabdirisaaq4368 I understand where you're coming from. I do, really. I wouldn't wanna share my husband either if I were a girl. I will answer you but first of all, I have to advise you against making statements like, "I don't understand why you'd need to marry a second wife other than lust" Because our prophet had 11 wives. I know your intention wasn't to mean that but please choose your words carefully because Shaitaan is both of our enemy. Now to answer, read with compassion and an open mind. Having a high sexual desire is not a bad thing. Allah designed men to have a higher libido than women, IN GENERAL. And Islam does excellently well to solve GENERAL problems. Allah prevented men from even looking at other women. So if a high libido man marries a low libido woman, they're sexually incompatible, which both of them couldn't have known without marrying first since we can only have intimacy after marriage. Now, when a couple is incompatible in intimacy , it will carry on into other aspects of life, there will be fights etc. So what will a man do? Divorce JUST BECAUSE his woman has low sex drive? Prophet Muhammad said divorce is the most disliked HALAL thing near Allah. So you're not supposed to just "throw away" the woman only because she has a low sex drive, through no fault of her own. And because men have higher sex drive than women in GENERAL, Islam does excellent to combat it. Salaam.

[@proudtobe9932]

You are stating the problem aki bit the solution is ? Living in the west , and how is it in the west ? The situation today is that monogamous is 72 percent in the west ! Im not sure which country you live in but in america. We must also look to 4 matters People of knowledge differ with this contract we must mention this as well. People who live in america things are very different in marriage ,as what happens overseas cant be applied here ! Americans have and are mostly not virgins when they marry etc... Sex is rampant bit you never mentioned that it could haram for him not to take second as well People should speak with knowlege about where they live only

[@dubai9933]

Never consult a woman on Islamic ruling the same way a woman can't be a judge or ruler of an ummah. This is the reality and women prove this reality by living in denial and emotionally perceiving the world rather than logically. To most women, a husband committing zina (may Allah protect our ummah) is better than him taking a wife after her.

[@hafsaabdirisaaq4368]

And I should ask you? Do you even understand the reason why Islam deny women to be in a judge position? You're just talking without any knowledge. I, a woman, am more logical than around half you men

[@dubai9933]

@@hafsaabdirisaaq4368 it's the way nature is. Women are not logical.

[@oldsoulmillenial1134]

You seem like a nice man, may Jesus reveal his true self to you in a dream. God bless.

[@bleaktripod3266]

Two of my neighbours are women who are 2nd secret wives of two rich men. Theyre very young and beautiful and the men are old are not that attractive. Old enough to be their fathers. Their first wives are in different countries. The women are often sad. And live alone most of the time. I dont know but from what they tell us neither of the men treats them properly. Thats how many men are these days. They wont even pray will drink alcohol but when it comes to wives they become islamic and say that its a sunnah... they need to be good muslims first.

[@namra7957]

So true,all the women in polygamous marriage are miserable and i have seen it by myself.Everything else is just sugarcoating,only women who can be happy in poly marriages are those who are there just for money and doesn't expect emotional aspect of the company.

[@taimurahmad]

@@namra7957 were prophet's mohammed's wkife miserable?

[@FZ-bk9kh]

​@@taimurahmadpure arrogance is comparing most modern Muslim men with no morals to our Prophet. If they are able to reach even half of his Sunnah, then by all means let them take 4 wives

[@manalmorsi6527]

People in this comment section Wallahi you are missing the point. Allah will never force a women to bear more than she can handle...mental health issues. Depression and just sadness anger and resentful are all things many women deal with because of polygamy I know a few who left the deen all together. Women now can provide for themselves and if she cant agree to this lifestyle then let the man practice this halal life and she can move on...simple very simple people no need to call names in the comment section it's all about choices

[@bashbash8279]

I also know sisters who left Islam with mental illness. Polygamy is only a sunnah not even a fard. The only part of Islam Muslims following is polygamy marriages. No time for Salah, no Qur'an, no fasting ect.

[@manalmorsi6527]

@@bashbash8279 wallahi you are so right...how about asking about our elderly or disabled neighbor...smh or just leaving other people to practice and be muslim minding their own business and work on themselves

[@bashbash8279]

@@manalmorsi6527 even drag dealers do polygamy sister, I'm not joking because I know lots of Muslim men. I know this one Muslim man who got second wife and the first wife had no food in the house, no coat for winter ect, he was drinking alcohol, taking cacina and making weed, going night clubs behind the wife's back! No Salah, no Qur'an, no fasting, no tahajjad, no jummah Salah on Fridays. They only following polygamy marriages and so many Muslim men do this because I've seen.

[@manalmorsi6527]

@@bashbash8279 maybe motivated by money because I heard they claim the second wife and any wife after as a family member to get benefits

[@bashbash8279]

@@manalmorsi6527 Yes, they do that too. More wives, more children to claim more benefits and more money!

[@shakila5674]

100% every women has the right so NO to this nonsense

[@srkb001]

~ The Second Wife ~ A second wife is not a mistress That you hide under your mattress She is not a concubine that her rights is lesser than mine. She is not your playmate that you use only in bed Not a trial course that you plan to divorce If the first wife was made in heaven A second wife was not made from hell If the first shall be your childrens' mother The second is not just their babysitter You protect your first wife like a diamond And think the other was just another stone When you wake up and realize you can't afford the two She has to work and spend on her own. Remember that to be fair is your duty With her comes a greater responsibility Think carefully before your try cause the Second Wife could ruin your life.

[@sadiqdelil5189]

MashAllah, well said sister

[@gracehaddad3638]

agree

[@zrugzrug1888]

If a man treats one woman better than the other, Allah will resurrect him with a crooked face. Allah is the most just

[@jmate5138]

@@zrugzrug1888 what? Most just ? Why would a woman accept a guy being with another girl ? You men are lucky to find one girl with this disgusting attitude. Any girl with these men will need counselling .

[@limelight4798]

Maa shaa Allaah.

[@ummjunayd1511]

It’s better to just stipulate monogamy in the marriage contract in the beginning not to be controlling but so you have the choice of walking away if you know something like that would cause you to be unhappy and suffer for the rest of your life. If a man is being very argumentative about it just leave it and marry someone else. Many men don’t mind in real life despite what the minority say on social media lol but they’ll try to convince you all men are combatant just to force you to give up. Just move on if it’s not for you. Also ask Allāh for a monogamous partner often if that’s what you really want and seek refuge with Him (often) from ending up in a polygynous situation. It’s not compulsory at the end of the day. Also I end with this Hadith where a woman sought khula when she was just very unhappy in her marriage despite no fault in he husband so what of when a man does something he knows will traumatize her over and over again for the rest of her life ? the wife of Thabit ibn Qays ibn Shammaas (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I do not find any fault with Thabit ibn Qays in his character or his religious commitment, but I do not want to commit any act of kufr after becoming a Muslim.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to her, “Will you give back his garden?” Because he had given her a garden as her mahr. She said, “Yes.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to Thabit: “Take back your garden, and divorce her.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 5273).

[@abc-kn6ex]

Women would rather share a successful man than settle down with a loser. I have seen it myself. Cope

[@faiyazabdullah9485]

​@@abc-kn6ex any women from a financially well off family? Wrong bruv.

[@purplerain2205]

Keep dreaming brothers, women these days don't need to be a 2nd wife and marry a married man.... aint gonna happen brothers, exceptions in very rare circumstances... women these days dont need to reply on men....

[@purplerain2205]

@Mr. Anderson idiot .. a women can get married to a single man...no need to be a 2nd wife to a married man these days.. Keep dreaming

[@purplerain2205]

@Zwarte gatwhat an idiotic comment... pray you are not consumed in the fire lunatic

[@JahannamHellfire]

You take about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on mondays and Thursdays, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 Rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjud is a sunnah. The only sunnah they remember is to marry 4 wives... as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.

[@jannahonlyforgoodpeople1444]

Allhumdillah I divorce my husband because of polygamy marriages. I don't understand why men do polygamy marriages when they don't respect Allah SWT Frist, men don't do Salah, read Quran, fasting, tahajjad at night, these men don't even care about their own children, wives at home and his looking for wife number 5 outside. No respect for other people's mother's sisters and daughters nomore! No respect

[@traveler8010]

InshAllah I do polygamy

[@Kareena1988]

If someone is not gonna want to be in a relationship anymore, he or she can decide to go..no need for permission of anyone. End of the story. I wont be depressed all my life just because my husband wants to fulfill his lust...what about me wanting more money? Can a guy give me that? he cant..so i go..this is crap of lying to your wife also..

[@bradjekarso2006]

Are you a scholar? If no your opinion doesnt count

[@Kareena1988]

@@bradjekarso2006 are you a sheep and follow anyone blinly? Get out of here haram.

[@bradjekarso2006]

@@Kareena1988 all the scholars say its haram, and you come here as if you studied islam for 40 years. You just follow your desires you moron

[@Ihavemadeit999]

@@Kareena1988 exactly

[@Ihavemadeit999]

@@bradjekarso2006 scholars say its sunnah and the best to have 1 and only get more if u need to help needy women.poly isnt about your desires .

[@simsimx723]

This man in the video is very biased, to be frank. Muhammad ﷺ also married only Khadijah ra. until her last day. Only her. She was divirced (twice) und also much older than Muhammad ﷺ. And he ﷺ still loved her so much, even after her death. Nobody remembers this Sunnah. And this kind of love. I have the feeling that people nowadays don’t know what love is or relationship between husband and wife actually means anymore. Nobody wants to take their rights away, audhubillah. Nobody dares to do that. But is one woman not enough? Is this kind of love nonexistent? Subhanallah. Muhammad ﷺ never married many women because of lust or something like that - but because because of Islamic, political and social reason. He ﷺ could’ve been married to the most beautiful young woman who is also a virgin who was alive at his age of 25, but he ﷺ did not. He ﷺ got married to multiple women when he ﷺ got much older and he did so for the reasons that I’ve already mentioned.

[@taimurahmad]

Qur'an

[@TheOrganics01]

She can and if she's on the brink of self harm she must do khula. Polygamy is not for every women,as is not for every man

[@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh]

Unless the husband doesn't fulfill her rights nor does what he Is Instructed to provide as a husband, I am certain that she cannot leave the marriage just because of an act that Is made permissible.

[@btb554]

​@@MohamedAhmed-vk1nhwhat if it's affecting her mental health?

[@MeherNP]

​@@MohamedAhmed-vk1nhyou want her to die being unhappy and depressed?

[@MarwaAhmed-ni3tw]

@@MohamedAhmed-vk1nhthat’s funny actually if she is not happy with it she has every right to leave she is not Slave😂😂

[@taimurahmad]

@@MarwaAhmed-ni3tw no she deosnt. orophet kuhmmad sasd women dont smell fragrance of jannh if they seek diovrce withiut ajy freason

[@coumba5527]

Men should focus first on improving their character rather than looking for a 2nd wife. Many dont deserve one let alone 2 SMH.

[@ranazaman6121]

This is a really good video Alhamdulillah. I think the scholar was very level-headed and down-to-earth in his explanation of the matter. Made me very happy after watching this video and listening to what he said.

[@Hellfire...]

Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is." The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said: "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means." In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female Islam raised the status of women, and made them equal with men in most rulings. So women, like men, are commanded to believe in Allah and to worship Him. And women are made equal to men in terms of reward in the Hereafter. Women have the right to express themselves, to give sincere advice, to enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and to call people to Allah. Women have the right to own property, to buy and sell, to inherit, to give charity and to give gifts. It is not permissible for anyone to take a woman’s wealth without her consent. For more about the rights of women in Islam, see the detailed answer.Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.

[@safinabegum4681]

Well I think women should divorce there husband straight away if they want a second wife no pointing wasting your life for such a men go live your life n be happy

[@AbuSafiyyahRH]

'such a men' do you accuse men who want a second wife to be an evil man to be using that language towards them?

[@AbuSafiyyahRH]

@@ldrago6031 Really depends on the context but in most cases this is unjust. Yet, I do not understand your comparison as polygyny is arguably rewardable and increasing the mahr greatly is in opposition to the Sunnah. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of marriage is that which is made easiest.” Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3300. And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of mahrs is the simplest (or most affordable).” Narrated by al-Haakim and al-Bayhaqi, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3279. Ibn Maajah (1887) narrated that ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: “Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honour and dignity in this world or a sign of piety before Allaah, then Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, more than twelve uqiyah. A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her and says, ‘You cost me everything I own, and caused me a great deal of hardship’.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Ibn Maajah, 1532.

[@AbuSafiyyahRH]

@@ldrago6031 I am pleased to see different sides of the argument. May Allāh increase us in knowledge. However my original point stands. Why did the commenter feel the need to say 'wasting your life with such a men', antagonising the a man who partakes in polygyny.

[@wildbeast1016]

You women have been modernised and fell for this feminist ideology it's a shame.

[@bz.t2742]

Yeah because such men who partake in polygamy nowadays are horrible and inconsiderate.

[@ZOHEBKHAN91]

If we read tafsir of aayat 3 surah nisa, Allah prohibiting the selfish men to marry orphan girl and giving them advice to marry girl of your choice whether two or three or four only if you are just among them or marry slave girl (without Meher) ( as they don't want to give Meher) or contained with one. It's Highly demotivating not to practise polygamy. Polygamy is highly discouraged in Islam just like slavery, you're allowed to have slaves but not encouraged. As it's mentioned in Hadith prophet ordered men who have multiples wives like 10 give talaq to 6 and have one but they disliked so prophet told them max you can have four by doing justice only. Sheikh here are all promoting Arab Culture not Islam.

[@dss3362]

Jazakallah khair shiekh for addressing this issue. Islam came to protect people from injustice and exploitation. Only few scholars speak up on this with clarity and address practical reality of the issue, others all speak only theory

[@Jahannam...Hellfire.]

Men talk about sunnah, start with your fard also Muslim brothers ignore the sunnah of fasting on Monday and Thursday, they ignore the sunnah of praying 2 rakats before fair, they forget that Tahajjad is a sunnah. The only sunnah brothers remember is polygamy.

[@lateefahdaramola157]

I believe I heard exploitation in this lecture. He insisted you can’t leave a man because he is marrying again.

[@Catsworld708]

@@Jahannam...Hellfire. Exactly 💯