can this situationship become a relationship? | tea for two

[@lovecommanectar]

in what area of ur life do u not trust yourself? let’s get deep. DM me on IG --> lovecommanectar.co/hit-me-up

[@iiisat]

ur mom

[@lovecommanectar]

@@iiisat ooop!

[@cnessence]

spending money

[@thebowmac]

Any chance we can get an update on this pair? It would be wonderful to hear where they are in 6 months…a year…

[@ninatanlaven7154]

Not so sure why people fear so much to be in an official relationship these days. If it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world, but if you like someone enough to be exclusive with them and want to be around them all the time, then why not? It seems that people want to have their cake and eat it too, but that’s not how human relationships work.

[@parkjibuns638]

Tell it to the choir

[@elijah2859]

What does that mean ​@@parkjibuns638

[@aknibas]

fr, i totally agree

[@KoralBelson]

100%

[@invisibleghost7415]

Everyone cares now more than ever before how they are viewed by people. People either don’t want to get “played” and not being in a relationship gives them that out where they can pretend they aren’t hurt, even if they are. Or they want to still have the option to be with other people without being viewed as a bad person, due to selfishness/greed. They want the benefits of a relationship with someone, without the responsibility that comes with being in one.

[@aaronrowe34]

Jordan thinks that protecting her from himself is doing her a favour as he has concerns with his own mental health and confidence. Brother, what she feels for you is some of the most genuine emotion and you won't experience this many times in your life, let it happen and be happy that it did.

[@johngrunwell6101]

Exactly! The love of an amazing, brilliant woman with a deep heart is a very rare thing indeed. Lightning strikes maybe once, maybe twice.

[@_PJW_]

I think the point is that he knows that, and is afraid of pulling her down with him. Also given his statement about family values.

[@6lack5ushi]

Amen

[@Nitidus]

​@@_PJW_ Depending on how unwell he is, that's not exactly unlikely. I did it myself. Luckily we both understood what was happening, so it didn't end in a catastrophe, but it did end a 6-year-long relationship.

[@_PJW_]

@@Nitidus I am truly sorry to hear that. 🤝 Perhaps the future will turn things around still.

[@gabriellec3909]

genuine human connection is so beautiful, I can't.

[@haepoioaejojaef]

This is a classic anxious avoidant pairing. They’re both uncomfortable with being vulnerable in their own ways. They seem to be in a similar place in term of emotional maturity. I don’t think they’ll last but hopefully they’ll learn from this relationship

[@shelbyblonk3377]

My ex was anxious avoidant while I was anxious attachment.. as I said ex- didn’t work out. I can’t see how two anxious avoidants could work out either. Hope they learn a lot from this relationship though!

[@psychnote7970]

Anxious and avoidant are different types of attachment. There is no such thing "anxious avoidant". But i agree on one thing. He seems the one with avoidant attachment and she seems the one with anxious-preoccupied attachment. From the insecure types of attachments, this combination is the one with the possibility of working out for good.

[@sub2pewdslol918]

u dont think they will last? Why? Are u still friends with ur first bf 🤣 emotional maturity is realising that a good friendship like this is Just as strong, meaningful and impactful in ur life, as a relationship they are both too kind and nice for this world

[@bugforest2636]

@@psychnote7970hence "anxious avoidant pairing" meaning one is anxious one is avoidant..

[@-rapha]

Its scary cause i feel like they have something good.. they're trying not to ruin? But at the same time, yolo. College often makes for a perfect storm to explore relationships & they could both grow if they take advantage of the opportunity to be together for real

[@haileyj6902]

the tea for two set is pretty omgggg

[@lovecommanectar]

this is where i live

[@haileyj6902]

@@lovecommanectar lemme move in fr. i can pay half the rent 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@tiz7244]

@@lovecommanectar Legit? I'm a fire roommate no cap

[@nacsar3]

You can tell she's afraid of getting hurt. Fear of being vulnerable and telling the truth might mean the end of what's just ok for now.

[@davidengel8152]

when he confessed his feelings while she was wearing the headphones, i couldnt hold back my tears, it was so cute and heartwarming to see and hear

[@piknick3011]

damnnnnnn they are scary close to each other wow, i so hope they can work it out, they seem perfect for each other!

[@user-dj7nu4ik6t]

You can feel the chemistry the second they see each other @2:12

[@Jewgotclout]

hey buddy

[@juneee.]

@@Jewgotcloutthat made me cringe so bad..

[@randymarsh9488]

Not really

[@fbspin]

aww I'm so happy for them. It's never easy at the start so I'm glad they had the chance to really talk things through here

[@becca53444]

This reminds me so much of the last guy I liked. We flirted all the time, he seemed to reciprocate, but then backed off at the last minute saying he wasn’t ready for a relationship. Looking back, I think he realized he wasn’t mature and emotionally available enough to be what I wanted. And he was totally correct. At the time I was devastated about it, but now I’m grateful. I hope these two work out, but if they don’t they’ll have learned a lot of important things about themselves and relationships.

[@dericmederos1514]

what' does emotionally available mean? I'm scared my last relationship didn't work because that was said to me

[@anyadarlingg]

​@dericmederos1514 I would look up psychology videos about the topic. Emotional availability tends to overlap with having high Emotional Intelligence (EQ). Being aware of what you are feeling yourself, and being aware of how others feel, and how you make others feel. This is step one to being emotionally available. Acting on it is when you meet the emotional needs of the other person. It can be with platonic friends and family as well. But it also includes being emotionally vulnerable yourself, not being afraid to express how you feel, or cry, or comfort the other person (instead of caring about your own feelings/ego, or being "right"). Being a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen to- but also if you are having issues with someone, being able to voice it in a healthy manner and work the conflict with someone, rather than letting it build up. You need a good outlet for your emotions so you don't project them on people around you. Been with the same person since middle school and now in our mid twenties. This I think it a key factor to why we have worked out for so long. Hope this helps. Wish you the best ♡

[@dericmederos1514]

@@anyadarlingg "But it also includes being emotionally vulnerable yourself, not being afraid to express how you feel I normally don't like saying if something is making me sad because i want to deal with it alone. My dog died 3 weeks ago (RIP good boy) and i didn't tell anyone because i like to handle these hard things on my own

[@tweakin1531]

@@dericmederos1514then that’s what you need to fix, coming from another emotionally unavailable person.

[@alialyale]

they both just need to watch ONE DAY

[@eden1075]

cure for commitment issues am i right

[@yamir8704]

No lieeee 😭

[@elitemidrange]

The movie or the series? That movie is amazing (I mean it’s Anne Hathaway of course it is). I still haven’t watched the series though. 😂😂

[@chrisjohnson3268]

@@elitemidrangethe series is next level awesome. Starts off slow but my oh my does it pick up🥲🔥❤️

[@lpycb42]

@@elitemidrangeWatch the series. It’s so much better. More grounded. The movie is great but Anne’s character is a little overacted, in my opinion.

[@xodanny2955]

She was so strong and looked emotionally mature when it was the solo interview and then she immediately folded when they interacted . She seems like she needs a restart . She’s scared of losing him

[@ImaginaryNate]

These two will work out. Give it time.

[@briannamendoza7405]

If they’re willing to grow together and address the issues that may come up. I can tell where they may struggle in the relationship, but if they truly want to make it work and willing to compromise, I can see this relationship being successful

[@abnormaltexan]

They are already a dating they just don’t realize it. Everything they are going through and the fact they talk out and work through what they’re feeling is far beyond the level of friendship. 6 hours in a car in tears expressing your fear of not being able to get relationship expectations and telling you that her life is better with you in it. Take the leap already! It’s not even a leap of faith at this point you’ve done all the work to shrink that scary leap of faith with all that fear of the unknown down to you two holding hand while you step off a curb! WHENS THE WEDDING! We better all get an invite! ❤

[@wildflowerone]

I can't stop thinking about this episode. This one made me emotional for so many different reasons. They seem like they're passionate about each other. I knew as soon as she walked on that she wanted something more, but that she was trying to suppress her feelings. From what I can tell, which is a miniscule amount, they seem to be together. I think they'll always love each other and have a special place in the others' lives and hearts... I don't, however, think they are the others "person" so to say. Soulmates perhaps, but in a way that they'll both move on and move forward in their lives at some point... perhaps even a similar 500 days of summer type scenario. That's what I gather. Not that it matters, I'm just a passersby! I wish them both the best. These are some wonderful individuals.

[@MMateo_official]

Listen guys if you stay in the state that you are right now you're gonna lose it at the end. I was in the same situationship or whatever and the other person is now with someone else and that is killing me inside. I want to keep the friendship that we've build thru the years and I definitely will, but it is really hard. So my advice is to just give it a try, if it work out you both win. If it doesn't at least you've tried. Don't let the "What if" ruin what you've already build.

[@elijahpierre1696]

Very happy for them. The love there was present. Very evident

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

These two have great chemistry! They could absolutely become end game!

[@watermelonlover745]

He's leading her on plus she could do better

[@vincew4297]

@@watermelonlover745 how? He said he wanted to be with her but I can understand his hesitancy considering he’s about to graduate and move and I’m sure that was something he was wrestling with. But it looks like they’re exclusive now. Also the guy is Stanford grad with a promising future and seems like a nice guy, in what way could she “do better.” Also that’s the problem everything thinks they can do better when they have a great thing already in front of them. This is why many people struggle to find meaningful relationships. When you have that person in your life there’s no need to look for anyone else.

[@ommanipadmehum4975]

@@vincew4297 This is absolutely wisdom Very glad to have be witness of your comment Thank you 🙏 Blessings

[@strxwberriella]

they are legit soulmates

[@happywings15]

“If you cared about him you’d be his friend” oh the most unfortunate 20 year old advice . I really wish the best for her and him

[@legendofsociety796]

He’s getting free blowJ’s and he doesn’t have to buy flowers for it. Lucky guy

[@jimin8006]

She is getting hurt more than him by end of whatever this is definitely

[@elitemidrange]

@@jimin8006How can you be so sure? 🤔

[@Ghosty716]

@@jimin8006 terrible assumption

[@kaitlyncraun8122]

they're actually married now so bold assumption

[@edenparmer7432]

Wow their relationship is so beautiful and organic it’s magical in a way. Like a movie, I can tell they truly bring color into each others lives and that they will probably always love each other even if they aren’t together. So beautiful

[@beccalove8791]

The thoughts in our heads that destroy us

[@emmaforti4672]

Beautiful couple, Rana has so much strenght navigating life in foreign countries and STEM, and this guy's personalityyyy he should be an actor! The face he made and then said "that's not tomatoes!" was absolutely cinematic

[@ronbeaubien]

These are the best videos where two people sit down, ask questions, and reveal their true feelings. I don't like most of Nectar's other videos, but I've watched, and rewatched, these numerous times.

[@piknick3011]

yayyyyyy tea for two, you don't know how much i've missed these 😍😍😍

[@lovecommanectar]

me too!!

[@RaeLynn62]

@@lovecommanectar I LOVE TEA FOR TWO!

[@ju999X]

Not a fan tbh, the 50 singles and dating by bank account were my favs

[@charlenecampbell4231]

i’m crying you guys absolutely deserve each other ❤

[@rebyrina]

11:01 To answer his question : the saying "what goes up must go down" is a saying about the ancient belief of the Wheel of Fortuna (Roya Fortunae). The Wheel of Fortuna symbolize the fact that destiny is a tricky thing. When you're up on the wheel, there's always a time where you go back down (just like a real wheel) and then you go up again but you never know when it'll happen. That's why they say it.

[@Alina-zx6nn]

yeah and usually it is true. there‘s also beauty and another type of growth going down

[@briangarcia8384]

They are absolutely glowing and vibrant around each other. It's adorable, honestly.

[@robinhoodieradio3394]

For most of this I was thinking of the quote from It's a Wonderful Life "Youth is wasted on the wrong people," but it seems they ended up together in the end.

[@ma.melinegarcia5639]

These 2 are so cute together..This is real true love

[@Jennifer.212]

Aw she really loves and admires him wow :(.

[@manbha6817]

why is she offering sex with no strings then

[@watermelonlover745]

She should drop him IMHO she's lowering herself being with this man

[@jwright7713]

​@@watermelonlover745huh?!?!

[@Linksballs]

​@@jwright7713settling for a situationship as a woman is always disrespecting yourself

[@Sukinero]

@@Linksballswhat about AS A MAN

[@ZuerstJesus]

I'm so crying - this was a heartwarming episode and I love that they both can be so vulnerable with each other.

[@andy_paul]

This is profoundly beautiful. I struggle from mental health issues, and I've tried to push away my girlfriend so many times, and hurt her innumerable times. But she has understood me, forgiven me, and been patient. These folks remind me of her. Very aware of each other's boundaries, and ambitions, and very very tender. I hope they get over this minor hump in their lives.

[@Amagaisie]

this is my favourite episode. They are both so lovely and you can just feel the love they have for eachother

[@domenicamrv]

This just hit me in my feels, I wish them the best. They're so cute together!!

[@DonOpto327]

That's the most 20 year old thing ever. I'm at a 4 for relationships. 5 mins later... I don't think you know how much i want you in my life for now and the future lmao

[@elitemidrange]

Lmao facts. I was hella angsty at this age though so I get it 😂😂

[@cj.visions_az]

Sad that people are scared to love and be loved these days…they make a great couple and its noticeable how much they care for eachother

[@flightofmydreams5559]

This was so pure, seeing them be so vulnerable to each other

[@angusmcdonaldboydetective]

So glad the Tea for Two format is back!!!

[@lovecommanectar]

me too!!

[@olac1804]

i dont blame her cause he fine. like he got that matt damon smile. also everyones talking about how obvious it is that she really likes him but to me it was also obvious from the beginning that he likes her sooo much (if not even more obvious than her liking him)

[@StephanieMoka]

i am BAWLING my eyes out this was TOO CUTEEEEE😭

[@naisyaantoine2418]

Literally same

[@spandana5432]

Get out before it’s too late, he is not ready and she wants more of him

[@trevor4530]

you should do tea for two with people that have matched on the vs 1 episodes!

[@tfkdandsvkc]

Nectar bring back the 50 singles or you should have done a follow up date like this for the 50 singles.

[@ju999X]

Yeah i’d much rather prefer that

[@lovecommanectar]

i got u

[@degrotekoningwouter]

@@lovecommanectarPlease also do a 50 exes date each other 😂

[@genesismedina7]

Aw I’m rooting for them! I hope they are able to let go of the fear and try to take the next step in their relationship (however that looks like for them)💗

[@MrBard80]

You could see their chemistry, instantly. These two are meant to be. And they both know it, but independent of each other, due to lack of truly honest communication with each other, I mean it took noise cancelling headphones for her to be honest with him and herself. I think when they watch this video together, they'll know. I wish them all the best ❤️

[@rossiecheeksandfreckles1568]

I’ve been missing this type of videos soooo much.

[@nereus246]

One of the last sincere thinks the internet has to offer.

[@tebandekemaryam2646]

“ i definitely want you in my life, in the way you are comfortable “ 😢😢 awww

[@YazBeee]

This was beautiful. As someone who hasn't been lucky in love, it sure gives me hope. Please keep these videos coming!

[@jonasfurrer8429]

I believe in these two, they are gonna make it work

[@BeatingHeartland]

"I think you saw a lot." "You think I saw more than I did." A friend who reminds you to be more vulnerable is such a gift.

[@elosmile900]

They seemed to have a very nice chemistry, their vibes matched perfectly and it's totally understandable the doubts and fears they have relationship wise. But I'm sure that, like Rana says, with time and being present for each other everything will be just fine. I hope they will sort everything out, they're too cute! Btw, I was half-way through the video when, as soon as he says "rana stock", I suddenly realized her name in Italian means frog 💀 the tattoo and the name, it can't be a coincidence 🥹 Lots of love 🫶🏻

[@kynnedysimone133]

I went through something really similar. Me and this other person really liked each other but they were hesitant at the beginning bc of their mental health issues. He said the same thing “I’m not good enough, I don’t want to hurt you, you’re really important to me, I want you in my life, etc. etc.” We ended up pushing through and dating and I helped him through some of his issues he had. Eventually it got so bad they’d disappear for 3-7 days at a time and I just got my heart crushed so bad because I loved them but they couldn’t love me the way I deserved. The heartbreak was horrible but I don’t regret the time we spent together. I hope their story goes better than mine did ❤️

[@xd9050]

lets go nectar back with another banger video

[@kentrader2489]

Rana stock going to the sky yall

[@degrotekoningwouter]

$Rana hodl to the moon

[@jillsarah7356]

It might just be on screen nerves but they both come off as having some more maturing to do. Whether it’s with each other or on their own depends on them

[@BenjiSelby]

Soooo glad y'all made another video for this series! Love these! It's tough letting people in especially if it's something that may come across as a red flag. No one likes to feel judged of rejected, but that's kind of the gamble we take when wanting to pursue a relationship with someone we are close to. Shouldn't be that hard but it's easier said than done hahah

[@giciaribeiro6245]

she saying anyone but you while he is listening to unwritten is amazing

[@Addypro99]

They both seem such nice people wow 😭 I need more maturing to do for sure seeing this

[@mikebuchanan9522]

I think she is very curious and caring when it comes to him. She is trying to dance around the fact that she loves him. But he is way immature and doesn’t know how to comfort and protect her emotionally!

[@cmooreHD]

This was and is the best Tea for Two episode on any channel period.. I swear I smiled the whole time! I hope they got together and last forever! 🎉

[@Dauerglotzer123]

It's crazy how people can watxh the same thing and have crazy different takes on it

[@98Patrobas]

Can we have this for those couples who match on the other dating videos as their first date? Like a "Tea for Two" for them?

[@rosa_stars349]

yess like Yosef and keelyn

[@98Patrobas]

@@rosa_stars349 Oh, that would be so fire.

[@onixtheone]

Kinda crazy how the most intelligent people in our society have been conditioned to believe that they’re only enough when they’re constantly climbing the societal ladder, or be who you think others expect you to be. The point of life is to play and have fun. Work so you can stop working and enjoy the rides in between work. Play is the goal.

[@98Patrobas]

I've just been smiling through this episode. Love is beautiful.

[@lovecommanectar]

:)

[@maxgronros6728]

Sad to see people be so scared of love, i totally understand it though. Hope they are alright

[@Brdrswrld]

I think they are a good match. Their response and reactions are in sync.

[@polaramondi5305]

They both said 'I want you in my life"

[@scottdvorak5606]

What a touching situation. They are pretty cute together. I’m rooting for them.

[@strxwberriella]

definition of right person, wrong time.

[@aliahm.6726]

they actually look good together

[@rainmwhop]

I cannot imagine them not together wow. And she seems so ride or die, goals

[@ily-im-sorry]

This was the best nectar episode I have ever seen. I really it hope it works out between them loved this sm.❤

[@ocary15]

Why am I crying hearing them do the noise canceling portion?!?!?

[@user-rl5hh2rh9o]

Aww thank you so much for creating a new one of this series. I literally LOVE this!

[@6ngelic]

literally zero reason they can’t be together. they both want a relationship without calling it one. just date already ffs 🙄

[@elitemidrange]

Facts. Them staying like this is actually worse. Eventually one or both will find someone else, and the other will be crushed.

[@edpetrea2454]

Truly hope you two are still together. Rand, you are truly a very beautiful person with a sweet sweet personality that shines through and you come off as a totally genuine person. We all understand the fear of getting our emotions crushed but sometimes ya just have to take that chance. Wish the best for you all 😁

[@alpelkey]

I have a great ability to read people and these two are in love but won't admit it yet. They are scared of the future just like all of us was at that time ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@abigaildavidson3093]

They’re so in love it’s CRAZYY

[@dhairyaagarwal5652]

Brb just gonna go hug a tree at 150 mph

[@degrotekoningwouter]

nooooooo dont leave us life to beautiful

[@Lizzyjohnny]

I don’t want to be in a relationship but I was thinking about being exclusive…. Really sums up our dating culture right now… I mean come on?!

[@kintokisa]

I have trust issues after getting cheated on in my relationship It's been a little bit more than half a year, but after that, each time I'm burdened by something heavily, I tend to shut myself. Be out of reach etc. Fully understanding it can hurt people I'm seeing cause I still try to be a functional adult at work. So I understand when the guy said he is not ready. I just don't want to hurt people. I have hurt people in how I shut off for a week. I have not hurt people regarding my trust issues, but one day, I might project it to other person. And I don't want that. I was seeing a therapist for a while... Heard some advices. Actually, because of that, a girl managed to opened me up a bit, or rather, I tried to tell her how I'm doing mentally, and why. She "pried" me open and understood me. I even told her about some details about my past relationship and wants me to trust her slowly bit by bit. But, yeah...

[@suhaniisshy]

the cute lil kiss in the end omg

[@whoisthis345]

She’s in love with him but he’s in denial and doesn’t like her enough to be in a relationship with her. Men would drop anything & everything if he thinks you’re the love of his life & his perfect pair. He’s keeping her till he finds someone more. Sad but true.

[@broncs-]

صادقه

[@Linksballs]

Agree. Don't get the comments calling this "cute" maybe naive people. Men almost always hold the key to relationships and her saying she didn't want a label is probably cope.

[@becca53444]

More like he’s insecure and doesn’t think he’s good enough for a relationship or deserves it. And yeah he can’t commit to anyone until he fixes his deep personal issues and self esteem. It’s a classic case of avoidant attachment

[@Disnotz]

You have zero experience with men. That's not how men work. You are just projecting your own hurt feelings onto him. She literally rated 2 two points lower in willingness to be in relationship but somehow he is stringing her along?

[@Disnotz]

​@@becca53444 that's not what insecurity means. Knowing you have personal issues and dealing with them is the most secure thing you can do. Self improvement isn't insecurity. I don't even know if he has low self esteem. To me it seems he just has some problems he needs to solve before getting into relationship. Stop diagnosing people over social media and few minutes of interaction. It's weird.

[@jonathangarza1656]

Damn. She loves him on such a deep level! And he loves her just as much. Seeing them two I can honestly say I've never experienced this. I've come close but nothing like this wow. Maybe one day.

[@MelissaHarris-vq3yu]

you're meant to be together. the chemistry and connection is there

[@ryry3944]

This got me. I felt like I was watching a rom-com. Thank you Nectar 😭❤️

[@Alinasinging]

This guy really loves her, you can see that in his eyes. He also seems like a guy I’d really get along with. She, on the other hand, you can see she’s very stressed and scared to be hurt, which it’s really understandable. She used a lot of “like”, which is annoying 😅 really nice to see them get closer on the video. Also, this title should be “how to say you love someone without saying you love someone”

[@sergiocouto4742]

Very well done nectar. I love how you guys guided this couple into the vulnerability point. Very well thought every part of this game.

[@hellcat7009]

When a real one comes into your life. You have to take the chance and go for it

[@jonlemmoryaba5782]

Can you also please make an episode about situationship of two people that didn't work. That would also be hella interesting, to see the "What ifs", and "What could have been?", and see if the feelings for one other will rekindle and if closure works for them. It would be cute :))

[@billi.krochuk]

Where's their Netflix mini-series?! Good lord this was so wholesome

[@DaMatth79]

22:29 holy mother of good god. i wish i could hear these exact words in my lifetime.

[@Alfonso_111]

Let go Jordan! Vulnerability will help you heal.

[@TheOGShelbyLee]

Seriously, who furnishes this set? I'm in love. 😍

[@yusonghu-rp3nj]

This couple gives me faith in humanity,, again!❤

[@cerencankurt3332]

I want both of them to be my dolls so that I can force them into a relationship without complicating things.

[@elitemidrange]

🤔

[@May-om7ck]

I dont know men..respecfully in my opinion it takes two to tango and sometimes is better wait a little for an authentic fuck yes

[@christine.1668]

first comment lol this is the earliest I've been. I'm glad you brought back tea for two!