Can You Choose To Be Gay?

[@sunboyjim693]

I believe I was born this way, since I remember admiring guys bodies even before I knew what I was at a young age. Didn't have my first experience till around 17 years old and that was because the other guy came onto me during a sleepover. It just seemed natural.

[@keithblevins5093]

Same here. I had my first experience also at a sleepover at age 14. It did just feel natural🥰

[@sunboyjim693]

@@keithblevins5093 That's cool😄

[@JaiJaiTheAries]

Aww I realized I liked guys when I was like 11, but really until I was 13

[@renatobregu]

@@keithblevins5093you lost your virginity at 14?

[@nomebear]

This incarnation has been one wild and crazy adventure. I make the joke that in the delivery room, when my pediatrician slapped me on my behind, I was off to the races... Harder, Daddy! Seriously, there was never an overt choice for me. The option of being straight wasn't on the checklist. I knew what I liked, and my path was definitely flowing against the grain. My life's experience has been one, great big, action packed blessing, mainly because I see life from a totally different perspective, one that's been unencumbered with a female companion and my own children. It's my opinion that as a group of people, we are overtly underutilized. We bring gifts to the table that if channeled correctly can change the world for the better.

[@alanweber6805]

Jaks love your honesty thanks

[@jellyrollnorton]

I love your last paragraph.

[@BA-ic9uh]

Too funny re the comment when you were born …. I luv it. Lol

[@akirahimurakinakiyama99]

I can’t change my homosexuality better than I could try to change your eye color

[@MarkovianMan]

Point well taken. But apparently it's now possible to permanently change one's eye color with the keratopigmentation procedure. 😳 Although technically speaking, it's a pigment that is injected into the cornea (located in front of the iris) that masks one's natural eye color, so in a way, it's only putting the person's natural eye color permanently "in the closet."

[@akirahimurakinakiyama99]

@@MarkovianMan I don’t believe in that nonsense besides they could damage their eyes that way forever even if that’s true and I know it’s true but even so yeah that was pretty dumb decision by their part

[@ovkae1559]

I realized I was attracted to guys when I was 14, I just didn't know the word for it. As a kid, I thought I would have a wife, but I thought it was like a friendship as I didn't know how kids were made. I thought all guys had the same feelings as me. If I had a choice, I would be anything but a homosexual.

[@KeithWilson-ch3cf]

Young man, I truly enjoy your videos. So much wisdom. I also feel it's not a choice but we're the chosen ones.

[@richardackley1823]

It is NOT a choice!

[@BillHanson-wu4nh]

Born this way and I rarely think about it being of a certain age. I have lived worked and traveled all over and haven't been excluded for who I am. So it's not an issue in my life. Then again people emerging to their own identity have diverse routes, some easy some very difficult. Appreciate your talks Jake, and videos and the exploration you do in them. A thoughtful young man!

[@excalibur2024guy]

When it comes to your sexual orientation, there is a choice. But it's not about whether you are something or are not something. The choice is about how you respond to that something.

Great outlook on this topic. 💯

[@jelsner5077]

People who say you can choose are admitting they are bi.

[@gordon-n6s]

Once again you are spot on! Many watching/listening would probably NEVER KNOW. And there are some of us who aren't but are sympathetic to what you are saying especially since you are so obviously a stable predictable person.

[@jag9872]

I knew since I was 9 and I knew because I was ashamed of it and it became something that I threw into a box so no one could see it.

[@Teckno72]

You can choose to be: celibate, go against your innate attraction, be miserable, etc. most people choose who they are attracted to innately Religion affects this choice in many cases. Masculine guys tend to Prefer guys who are into exercise, etc.

[@LameBoyLee]

You can choose your actions, you can't choose your attractions.

[@ezelldaniels6064]

Such a dope message brother.

[@gerardoalvarado8425]

There's a weird movement going on within the community that keep saying that everyone's sexuality is fluid. Yeah I tried so many years to be attracted to women apparently never met the "one" exception that the sexually fluid people like to shout about. It just sounds like the homophobes when they say oh you just havent found the right one yet only the bi version of it.

[@SterlingFogg]

Why would anyone choose it? It's a diffucult life!

[@garywilliams4672]

Up your game and content. We want to see you working around the farm and other activities. You willl do great.

[@gordonabishop]

Hey Jaks! I think this was an interesting analysis. Sometimes it's worth taking a step back with these arguments and going "why are we even debating this?" -- like you said, it's not a choice, but would it really matter if it *were* a choice? I like that you came at it from a different angle. Looking forward to your masc4masc video. It's a hot topic and something I'm planning to make a video on as well (eventually).

[@Alexander44665]

I am bisexual. I knew I liked both since I was 10. In all likelihood, a multitude of factors probably go into making one's sexuality.

[@kylewambot2664]

😐 "orientationvschoice" jaks

[@franciscoviana8068]

Be yourself and be happy, this is what really worth!

[@richardsrj64]

It is a combination of both genetics and environment, not one or the other. Your genetic makeup is what it is. It is your environment that determines how those genetics manifest through your life. This concept of the synergy of genetics and environment is called epigenetics.

[@michaelm5601]

You always have balanced advice… everyone has a different journey…

[@davidburzminski7704]

Knew I was "different" before I went to school. Finally figured it out a few years later. By the way, this made me feel so old. When you said, "masc for masc", I was confused and Googled mask for mask😂😂😂. Thanks for the usually insightful video! ps...hi from Edmonton.

[@kylewambot2664]

😂😂😂 quote: before school

[@Aydan131]

If I had a choice, I would definitely choose to be straight... For one simple reason: Straight life is easier...🤷‍♂️

[@harshavardhanc4275]

You're right. I agree. I wish I could establish contact with you. Send you an email.

[@stevebrooks4189]

Firstly, there’s no such thing as perfect. Life is a journey with multiple paths with which to learn from - which then decides how you discover yourself moving forward

[@williamevans9426]

A very thoughtful episode, as always, Jaks. Without seeming to have been distracted during your conversation, I'm curious as to the subjects of the two old photographs on the wall behind you! With best wishes from Oxford, UK.

[@jamessorrel]

Loving the deep voice haha ❤️

[@Puzzybear-qb1sr]

I'm running away again on the Greyhound 👱 I don't know where I'm going only one large gym bag I'm scared 😮

[@JNO_JNO]

You can only choose the best yourself …..and that takes bravery

[@iankeeley1854]

It's the way I am anyone who doesn't like to can say what they like

[@Bandido894]

People, who doesn't understand think it's a choice.

[@kylewambot2664]

"Orientationvschoice" jaks

[@Tsalagi978]

I'm right there with you. We have similar experiences and views.

[@stevebrooks4189]

Easy answer… NO!

[@nicko_is_dank]

but you did

[@jm7804]

It's a little more complicated than an easy answer.

[@EricT3769]

It might be more complicated, but geez…that guy is so verbose. We get it already. We don’t need so much repetition.

[@shawngrinter2747]

Especially given the number of Evangelical Pastors caught sniffing meth off rent boy butts…..

[@Puzzybear-qb1sr]

I'm running away again on the Greyhound I don't know where I'm going I'm scared

[@its_eli]

Not a choice. I tried being straight 😅.

[@mikemm40]

I wouldn't have chosen this

[@kylewambot2664]

"Orientationvschoice" jaks

[@gofccdontgomef]

If you feel happy for that, respirar es lo mejor que te puede pasar.

[@fumarate1]

I don't think it is a choice it is what it is and its as simple as that.

[@kylewambot2664]

"Orientationvschoice" jaks

[@Sam-zu5mr]

You cant choose attraction...bit you can choose to act on it or NOT. Theres always a choice to make!

[@williamevans9426]

I couldn't agree more. Additionally, if one does decide to act on one's sexuality, there are many ways and extents by which to express it!

[@barrymoore4470]

@@williamevans9426 Very much in agreement. We can't choose what we are, but we are always choosing what we do.

[@kylewambot2664]

​@@williamevans9426there is?

[@purplesin91]

The thing I've never really liked about that statement, true as it may be, If you chose to not act on your attraction due to religion or whatever, that can very easily lead to a life of loneliness. Life without any kind of romantic love, that just doesn't seem like a life worth living.

[@kylewambot2664]

@purplesin91 romantic? Life without romance? Is there no supplement?

[@kitt2000car]

i think my older brothers had me figured out when I was 11 years old. And took advantage of the situation. I was definitely clueless at that age.

[@stevebrooks4189]

Do you suffer considerable stress? Only asking as I note the golf clubs!

[@Andrewmilne32]

He cute with the cowboy hat 😍

[@Puzzybear-qb1sr]

I'm running away again on the Greyhound 👱

[@Mike-p4p5s]

We born this way

[@martyncole537]

It’s been scientifically proven that our sexual orientation is chosen for us half way through pregnancy.

[@Beebaboobee]

No bullsh*t spoilers: NO

[@davidmcclellan9959]

HI JAKS HOW YOU DOING AND HOPE YOUR DOING GREAT I LOVE YOU JAKS LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@Argelius1]

Yeah, no. Not a choice. On a side note,I’d never change it. I grew up in a very.

[@stevekirschman354]

Think about it , it’s different in Canada vs USA vs EUROPE , a possible different new post for you

[@DonLaPierre-ho8ng]

19 or 20 is when you gave into reality

[@enricochestri]

Do you choose to be heterosexual???!!!!!

[@enricochestri]

Sexual orientation and sexual culture are 2 different concepts

[@arlosmith2784]

He's right. I embraced nondiscrimination against LGBTQ people long before I became self-aware of my own gayness. I even married two women first. Kinsey is right about sexual orientation being a spectrum, so most people have some same sex attractions. However to the extent there is a choice, sexual orientation should be treated like religious belief: A choice every adult should be free to make. 🌈

[@stormkeeper1741]

how do you agree with him and then say its a choice lol, make it make sense.

[@arlosmith2784]

@@stormkeeper1741 Even if it were a simple matter of choice, I think adult choices about consensual sex are private affairs in which the law should not interfere. 🌈⚖️

[@WestTNGuy31]

Be aware you are fantastic... be you, and Never strive to "fit in". I'd show you sometime. From tractor to stage... in know from my 45 years across the South. Shame on the gays that shun you. Chat me up, West Tennessee here.

[@stevekirschman354]

♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@stephenp208]

what is " mask for mask""? Seriously...I'm a boomer. never heard of that. LOL

[@notyourdoggo7540]

Basically saying that you’re a masculine man who only wants to date another masculine man. So in other words it’s having a specific type.

[@Puzzybear-qb1sr]

I have bussy ✔️

[@stevekirschman354]

I just was

[@damianleah6744]

No

[@kylewambot2664]

"orientationvschoice"

[@laneo]

As more gays marry and have children things should move forward.

[@peterkartuba1779]

I'm back webmasters Jesse Lord Tumblr DVDS

[@Hai_Nocts]

As far i know its not a choice and there's few aspects that can affect it, most peoples (almost all) can't change sexuality after puberty and finding a role model likes real person or fic char, based on sigmund freud study about it, were purely bisexual untill society and enviromental affect our perceptions Edit : welp maybe we can't

[@kylewambot2664]

"Orientationvschoice" jaks

[@greggoreo6738]

Please watch your "Ahs".; respectfully submitted for your consideration Gregg Oreo Long Beach CA États Unis

[@MarkovianMan]

Orientation is not chosen, only behaviors/actions are. Many if not most gays & lesbians have had heterosexual sex (many resulting in children), that didn't make their *orientation* heterosexual. A surprising number of heterosexual men have had encounters with men of varying degrees, that doesn't necessarily make their *orientation* homosexual (or even bisexual).

[@RMF-w6t]

you are too cute...enjoy your videos. ever tried dating older men?....like much older lol

[@valy_2925]

[@eawillis]

Your hands do not look like what I normally expect to see on a farmer. Your hands look soft and smooth instead of rough and calloused.

[@nomebear]

Raised on farms and ranches, my hands definitely show that I never bothered with gloves, whereas other workers were never without them.

[@kylewambot2664]

😂😂😂😂 smfh

[@notyourdoggo7540]

I mean, gloves and cream exist.

[@absolutelypitiful3837]

No one forces you to sleep with guys. It is a choice.

[@stevendaniel8126]

Really, who cares?? Is it important??

[@MadMusician]

Come for me if you want, but homosexual tendencies (not gayness, which is being proudly homosexual, there's a difference) are intense and tempting beyond belief and are also not anyone's destiny if they choose to pursue a heterosexual relationship instead. And I say this as an asexual, straight, Christian guy who struggles a bit with homosexual tendencies myself, so you now know who's won this argument if you insult me for any reason. And if I'm not mistaken, same-sex attraction often happens because of emotional needs that were unmet as a child (or some other psychological reason). To learn more, read A Young Man's Journey by Floyd Godfrey chapters 1-4 AT LEAST if you don't want to read the whole thing. And same-sex attraction is just one response to those unmet needs (which quite frankly happens all the time within families). Another example could be turning to drugs or alcohol. Finally, if you're too offended to either take what I commented respectfully or flat-out deny my claim without looking into it yourself, just know you're the one with a problem, not me.

[@MrOmgenius]

There are people who are exclusively homosexual, with no heterosexual tendencies whatsoever. Therefore, it doesn’t make sense for people to think it’s a choice or preference when there is only one type of attraction. Also, even if someone is bi, they don’t/can’t choose the sex/gender of the individual they happen to fall in love with. Of course people are going to have unmet needs if they are not with the person they want to be with and instead force themselves to be with someone they aren’t attracted to.

[@JayWalker-tk2pr]

I'm calling BS on this

[@kylewambot2664]

"orientationvschoice"

[@xadam2dudex]

No except when you get paid 😁

[@kylewambot2664]

😮