Can you tell your therapist too much?

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[@abaddonkarl]

I paused the video and looked around for my cat. My cat is fine, it was your cat.

[@NyxesRealms]

Glad I wasn't the only one.

[@animal_cookie]

Lol it didn't even sound like my cat and I went to check on her 😅

[@ryan._.6417]

dam em headphones

[@kimsmith819]

😅😅😅😅😅🐱🐱🐱

[@Justme733]

My cat went looking for the other cat 😂

[@Chicagocanine]

I can relate, I never know what is part of my depressions vs part of my personality since I've had it most of my life.

[@adrianaavila8853]

Same.

[@Manifesting_Secret_Sketchbook]

Spiritual warfare can be behind this. When what age did this start? Where did u used to go/ whose home did u go to/ which place when these things started to happen?. I don't mind giving tips n putting up a video of different reasons why people have this

[@idk_whyi]

Real

[@Smartkraut]

I had written a paper about just one of the episodes of my abuse and let my therapist read it. I thought he was going to cry but held it in until I left. He said it was the most disturbung thing he had ever read and he could see why I have the attitude that I do toward some people. To a degree you can say or write too much to your therapist. It was a long time before I wrote anything to him again about the abuse. I should say something that specific and detailed. These are things I have never shared with anyone before; it is a very hard thing to share something with someone and then wonder if they are judging you about what was perpetrated against you.

[@namirahdotpdf]

the cat meows bring me joy

[@pepega8286]

i wish i had discovered this channel when i was 12 years old. I hit the lowest low of my life. But i never got help because i was scared of myself and i was scared of what people would think. Im glad to be doing better but i wish i had really talked to someone about it instead of hiding it every day

[@bhuwanshah3215]

Elley Henderson Don’t hide it, one day it will just eat you from inside. Tell your parents and get professional help and save yourself before it’s too late. Better to be saved then be shamed

[@adrianaavila8853]

Mmm, 12 years old is young. Same.

[@longestname817]

I’m 12 and I relate 😫

[@BigDyslexicEnergy]

Volunteering with my church really helped with my depression! I believe it was the fact that I was working beside other people who truly cared about me, while serving other people and I wasn't focused on my self.

[@Louisyed]

R.e. The second question I think it's possible to feel as though you've shared too much but that's natural when you're telling them your inner thoughts and feelings because it makes us feel vulnerable. But as long as you can trust your therapist to be understanding of that delicate information then you can get through it and it should ultimately help therapy.

[@marybethmarlar]

She said we may feel like shit but we are getting better, okay? 😂 I love it. Thanks Kati!

[@IndependentOutsider]

1) It is possible to do something you love TOO much, to the point one gets bored of it, or it even feels like it's another job. When I feel like I'm not enjoying a hobby or something I generally like to do, I step back for a little while. 2) A psychiatrist/therapist is there solely for the patient. Anyone trying to help somebody is only as good is the information given them. Be as honest as possible; remember, you are spending your money and your time for the help.

[@abandonedchanneld8031]

I know this was posted 4 years ago, but with 1, this is so much of a fact. I loved to draw but I burnt out, and where I thought it was depression, in reality it was just I loved it so much as a person that I stopped enjoying it over the years and had to stop for a really long time to find enjoyment in it.

[@Fashionforlife1000]

I just found out about your videos. and you are just amazing! I can see your empathy in your eyes and voice, its extremely comforting. you are SO good at your job!

[@CarlybutreallyBATMANBraverman]

I'm glad you found Kati's videos. She rocks. Welcome to the community! And if you haven't checked out KatiMorton.com you totally should! :)

[@livvybrooks2202]

Agreed! I've only watched two videos but I can tell this will become a regular hangout for me. Hahaha :)

[@lafoxy1909]

Hi just wanted to say i love your videos and i wish you were my therapist lol you always explain things so clearly and without judgement. Always make so much sense and stay on topic very well :)

[@ObamaoZedong]

One of the things that helps me a lot with depression is to find a cause you believe in and fight for it or do some volunteer work. Basically, find something where the happiness of others is dependant on you. This gives a strong sense of purpose and you may find yourself having fun despite the task being grueling because you know it's doing good.

[@dharvell]

"I'm holding it myself, because my kids are watching hockey". Priorities! Love it! :D

[@demianhaki7598]

So many of these topics & questions are such a relief to hear about.

[@lillitmistletoe7770]

Lol the cat in the backround is the story of my life

[@ElisandroDeLeon]

The last time I was really depressed, I looked at my guitar, my pedals, my keyboard and I honestly felt this: " uhhhh whyy do I have these things? it makes no sense to me as I dont feel anything in playing music". I thought about selling them. a year later I felt "ohhhh yeah... playing guitar feels so good" its funny how depression affects who you are

[@renmomtha-renaissancesoul8849]

Can definitely relate!🎹

[@stellafoster4732]

I relate to question #1 completely! I have often asked myself the exact same questions. Like that person mentions I make myself keep going to events or activities I am involved in but completely relate to not feeling enjoyment and watching others be more passionate. Thanks for answering these questions!

[@olav1354]

I just watched requiem of a dream so nice to see Kati Morton now. ❤️ The movie was so heartbreaking.

[@lauragadille3384]

Awwww I love cats especially my baby. She helps me battle my demons of depression and anxiety.

[@bleachisgoodforthesoul4583]

Thank you thank you thank youuuuuuuuu!!!!! I was looking for this 😥

[@stringedassassin]

I feel like I am constantly clarifying that "I don't mean that literally" to my therapist when talking about what I would like to do to my abusers.

[@Jayisafunkydude]

I emailed a therapist for the first time a couple days ago. I don’t know if anything will come of it (or if ill even end up seeing her), but I’m kinda proud that i did it.

[@pastorpresent1]

Big Foot It took me months of therapy to relax and trust the therapist. That was 12 years ago. Now, dozens of sessions later, I’m really making progress. I wish the same for you.

[@umerrno1978]

I listened to this guy a lot a couple of years ago, forgot about him, thanks

[@justdjbitchesdjs8574]

You are helping me so much

[@colleend80]

Thank you Kati. That was super helpful. I feared that I might be TMI with my psychologist.

[@jabberwokky6669]

I had seen a therapist for two years following a diagnosis at first skeptical of it but accepting. I left sessions feeling great and doing everything we talked about but now I don't see him I wonder if I am doing the right thing. Guidance was awesome but treating this afterward alone more scary. I am reflective of the past leaving my therapist I continued to try to feel the way I did and have confidence about my decisions. I was diagnosed with schizophrenia about eight years ago. The worst was when i had combined auditory and seeing things that weren't there. Now I tell myself I know the difference and look at my own world more plainly. Your advice helps Kati. Thank you.

[@stephdevorah3267]

I love your videos, Kati 😊

[@jakescar5128]

i know this video came out three years ago, but for anyone who sees this i have always found that spending time in the nature really helps to calm and relax me.

[@morgxnalise]

#KatiFAQ What can you do when you get so stressed out that you can't concentrate?

[@Estarya]

Very useful answers thank you Kati! I was actually wondering about the first one today, because I was confronted to a subject I've never really appreciated and an other that I used to like. And somehow in my head both were on the same level of enjoyment. I was annoyed but since I wasn't alone I did my best to appear interested at the very least. But at the end I was just so bored and upset at the same time that I couldn't help but withdraw from any conversation hoping to just go Home already... Eh. I will contact my therapist soon. You convinced me to give it a try again ^^" Plus I feel like there's this part of me that I might have to talk about out loud since I've never dared to do so. Even with close friends and family members :)

[@fuscia13]

I often feel I digress and ramble too much, interrupt and talk over. Everything my therapist tells me is of great value to me, so I hate to miss out on that giving tmi and irrelevant info.

[@falloutboyjewls2012]

#KatiFAQ Hey Kati, I was wondering how can I overcome obsessing with food? For example if i ate something healthy, I will think "That was to much food" or "Why did I eat that" ect. Basically, How can I stop being anxious around food. I love your videos. Thanks. :)

[@hollymason259]

I'm still in school and I didn't know what I enjoyed anymore due to depression but I always thought about doing clubs but inner thoughts put me off so I force myself to go and I found out that I love rugby and singing so I go to clubs to make myself happier

[@leonwatkins5072]

Hey Kati can you make a video on ementaphobia (fear of vomiting) and loss of control many thanks hope you had a great New year x

[@hafsasalman5125]

I went to a therapist and i wanted to cry so bad while talking about it. I didn’t say much about the situation because it was hard to explain because i felt like crying. I thought that i would say too much. I felt hesitant even while talking to my therapist. I feel like i have major trust issues.

[@HaileighTaylor294]

I won’t never see a therapist again. Out of protection for myself. Because I’ve been “dumped” by 4 therapists now. One, I opened up completely to, I ended up in the hospital (for mental health reasons) came out and she was so cold towards me.. She wouldn’t tell me what the problem was . So I finally stopped seeing her.

[@kimsmith819]

Im honestly blaming my husband for my depression. He was emotionally and mentally abusive for 6 years out of our 15 years of marriage. I had thought that him seeing 2 different therapist, would help him and he claimed they did. After moving back into our home, i realized he definitely didn't get enough help. He was able to hide it for a couple weeks and BAM!, his abusive ways came right. Im stuck between a rock and a hard place. Being disabled, I know that I need to leave him again but it was hard packaging everything super fast last time. Just a damn mess

[@perdidoatlantic]

Professional diagnosis: the cat’s crazy. 😳 Advice: Ignore him. I just flashed on my whole childhood. 😂😂😂

[@motherandson4402]

I try to change up my looks to cope. Once I cut my hair really short a style that I have never worn before. I love seeing a different face when I am depressed

[@taz13]

i found talk to friends on Facebook and long walks , look at funny videos love your videos

[@laurabeth8531]

+KatiMorton This may sound crazy, but I feel like when you speak I have a voice. You talk about all the stuff I want to, but can't find the courage to do so... Thank you for a helping hand and being that voice in a world of silence.

[@bee42Sad]

I totally relate to question 1- I know I should like something (like going on a holiday or going out with friends) so I keep doing it but its not that I am enjoying them; I'm just occupying my time. Could this be depression or just who I am?

[@benedixtify]

I’ve had therapists whose attitude changed after I told them certain things. The kinds of thoughts that I don’t express but hang around in the back somewhere

[@JmO-ee1bi]

I grew up near Tampa and I always thought it odd that we had an ice hockey team when it literally never freezes here (well, occasionally for like 30-60 minutes before sunrise at 31-32 degrees Fahrenheit every decade or so lol).

[@norasagharian5596]

Hey Kati! Hope you had a great holiday. I was just wondering, is it normal to put yourself down and feel ashamed because of having a mental illness? I find myself doing this a lot lately and was wondering if this is normal. Thanks!

[@courtneyking7853]

#katifaq do I have to share details? I've talked a lot about my past sexual abuse with my therapist but I feel like I'm holding some things back. Is the awkward uncomfortable stuff essential for full recovery?!! Helppp!!

[@mylifejen6372]

Courtney King I don’t know if it’s necessary for recovery, but i am sharing everything with my therapist. Especially the awkward and uncomfortable stuff. I have held all this stuff in for so long and i want it out. As i share the super hard to say stuff i feel the weight of the pain i have been carrying around for so long falling away.

[@annarehbinder7540]

You might want to decide if you trust and like, vibe with your therapist if you don’t change. Since being able to trust your your therapist enough is crucial and it’s perfectly fine to change. You don’t need to give any reason but it’s polite to say or let them know that you are changing. ( example Thank you for this time, I’ll be changing therapist for personal reasons. Be well .) Also if you want in most countries you can have your dossier closed so that no one apart from yourself and your therapist can access it.

[@hninoowai1431]

@@mylifejen6372 would it be helpful when you share all to your therapist?

[@axd0045]

LOL the cat

[@deerodriques5504]

#katiFAQ . Hi kati . Ive always wondered what therapist write in their notes when we re having a session . Can you please explain???

[@Fae595]

Yes I'm curious too!

[@keeram4363]

For some reason, my therapist doesn't use notes. I actually think they are distracting, I am surprised people use them lol

[@nikkipenwell3062]

Hi! I feel like I can answer your question, as a therapist in training and having to document. Normally what I put in notes is what we did, from a clinical level like processed trauma, then clients response to the interaction as well as a plan for next time.

[@FlamingEmberSeal]

You are entitled to ask to read the notes if it makes you feel uneasy. They are making notes of things that struck them as important to help you in further sessions. A lot of Counsellors write notes down in the ten minutes between sessions. But that also means remembering things over a 50 minute conversation. Its a practitioners preference as to what they do. They may be also be writing down process notes about how they feel about the interaction you are having to work on in Supervision. Yet again its all to help the client.

[@lyrariddle4067]

I suffer from depression but working has helped me so much yet I still cry sometimes. I had a suicide attempt last year and I feel really bad.

[@freethegays]

Hey Kati! This is for your #katifaq and I was wondering how we can talk about past sexual abuse without totally freaking out! When my therapist brings up sexual abuse even without asking me what happened my heart starts racing and I get super nervous!? Is this normal and how can I finally open up about what happened. Thanks so much Kati!

[@laneypokenerd2358]

Hey Kati, I have a question I really need answered asap. What's the difference between being depressed and being lazy? I always feel like I have depression but some people think I'm just trying to be someone I'm not because I knew people who have self-harmed before I did it. I did self-harm for my own reasons. I never got help for this and it's been going on for years. Thanks.

[@annesocool123]

#katiFAQ Hi Kati! I was wondering if you have any tips for overcoming emetophobia (ie the fear of vomiting). I suffer from it really badly to the point where I can't be in the same room as a sick person, I'm afraid to eat so I just don't and if I get a belly ache, I start panicking until I literally can't breathe... This has a huge impact on my social life. I can't even explain why I'm so scared of it, I know it's partly to do with the fear of vomiting in front of someone. I used to see a counsellor but I had a bad experience so now I'm afraid to go back, especially to discuss such an icky subject matter. I know that a lot of people suffer with it and face this problem every day, and it would be so useful if you could please include this question in one of your videos! Thank you. Ps I love your videos, they are really helpful and you are a very thoughtful, kind person :) love from, Emily xx

[@anastasiakovaliovadavies5612]

Colouring book, reading, reading uplifting quotes also listen happy music :-)

[@judymay217]

If you feel like you dont know who you are what do you do? Thank you

[@laurafeder8839]

What do you feel about PTSD

[@michiganabigail]

I love the cat! And that’s saying something, I’m allergic!

[@lanamay1836]

Hi, when would my therapist need to send me to the hospital? How serious would it have to be?

[@lalabeauty8121]

i am a bit suicidal but i am too shy to speak to any therapist

[@pIacebo]

Lol told my therapist about my nanny who had to have her finger cut off to escape the marriage and she made this vulnerable face Months later I had sexual fantasies bout my therapist and I'd consciously remember that face she made I decided to tell her about it and now we're bffs!

[@pIacebo]

Jk, I'm about to tell her about it tmr, ooh lord have mercy on this woman

[@Ronjon86]

It depends on the therapist.

[@laurabeth8531]

I have struggled with depression since I was 5. I am now 25. When asked any question about me, ect what I want to do or go, my answer is I don't know. How do you begin to find who you are when at such a young age your innocence and self was taken?

[@steinman1746]

Maybe if you got the cat a beer we would have won that game. I'm not sure that it would have helped the series though. I really appreciate your videos, very informative. You are answering a lot of my questions. Thank You

[@RippleDrop.]

I did struggle with the depression questionnaire when getting psychological help. I found it humiliating that I had no "previous" great times... (And it's all connected to abuse by a narcissist, the professionals were clueless about.)

[@miranda8034]

Any advice on how to knock down the wall I've built without feeling regret after session? I'm having trouble trusting my therapist.

[@Jani1998b]

#KatiFAQ what are ur thoughts on onlinescholling when you have social anxiety? school has become too hard for me but as i am only 16 years old i need to keep on studying. i don't do got at school atm because i can't focus and i am wondering if online school would be a good idea

[@maggie0285]

Sometimes I talk to my therapist and I feel like I'm going to start cry so I hold back a little so the tears will go away. I have only seen her two times. Not to the point where I could cry like that yet.

[@stephdevorah3267]

#KatiFAQ Hi Kati! So I think everyone is addicted to something in life, whether it is healthy like music or not healthy like self harm. But is it bad to be addicted to anything at all? If you're addicted to a coping skill that isn't detrimental, is it still bad because you're not working on the underlying issue? Thanks!

[@noaccount5371]

Hey Kati, how can I deal with a cluttered house? Most of my family members have hoarding-like tendencies, and it puts a lot of stress on me physically and especially mentally. I always get the urge to clean everything but it's so overwhelming! What should I do? X

[@Fae595]

I'm hearing ya girl! I need help here too!

[@debbiewilder5664]

Watch Jordan Peterson clean your room it's kind of like eating an elephant one bite at a time and start with your own environment like your personal room and at least if that's clean you will have a place to think. Watch Jordan Peterson ;)

[@Sarah91086]

I’m doing the KonMarie method- it’s helping me a lot mentally. When you are ready to let go of your past and make room for new things in life, then you are ready to declutter (at least in my case). :)

[@413fame]

One question. Other than statements about harm to self or others, is there ANY other thing someone could say to a therapist that could possibly jeopardize their freedom?

[@courtneyking7853]

#KatiFAQ me and my therapist were talking last week about me possibly going into the mental health field myself. She said something about not actually sharing my story, but taking my past to help other people. She told me that most professionals struggled themselves with something it's just not something they are allowed talk about. So my point is... I know it wouldn't be right to bring your story up with a client. Because in therapy it's about them not you. But I don't see a problem with it in other situations. So my question is...if you become a therapist can you still discuss your past outside of being with patients? For example...could you write a book about your experience with sexual abuse? Or is there any type of laws pertaining to this?

[@platinumlawnservice]

I know this is old but my therap[ist told me I couldnt talk about my violent intrusive thoughts or he had to report it to whoever. Kind of limits how much healing can happen IMO. My previous therapist(i had to move states unfortunately) never told me that and he was the absolute best therpaist Ive had. Whats the deal with that?

[@SvenjingsAutism]

#katifaq I always found it hard to talk to therapists. I really have huge trust issues even towards my closest friends or family, so how should I talk about my problems to a complete stranger who doesn't know me at all? Thanks for everything that you do you are amazing, have a nice day ❤

[@moirosalina]

Hi Sebbies, I know i'm not you, but I have found it to be very helpful that my therapist is a woman from a different city who was a total stranger. Even thought we moved slow in the beginning, because I was also hesitant. I picked her myself, so that gave me some sense of control. Now I talk to her more easily then to my family or friends, because her sole perpose in that hour is to help me. I wish you luck

[@anniehinman8957]

#KatiFAQ What advice would you have for a counselor facilitating their first group? How would you handle clients that challenge you and/or ask for self-disclosure? Love your videos and would like your perspective! :) Thanks!!

[@lozparky]

Hey kati, I currently struggle with depression and self harm but I also have (undiagnosed) problems with my eating which I think could be an eating disorder. I am struggling a lot with my depression/self harm and I'm considering going back to my GP and asking for more support. My question is; would I be able to get help and possibly see a therapist for my depression/self harm but not have to get help for my eating problems? I just don't feel bad enough to ask for help with my eating but I want to for my depression if that makes sense?

[@ll7868]

#GoHabsGo!

[@andreac7a]

What happens if you tell your therapist you committed a serious crime, like a murder? Are therapists bound by confidentiality to the same degree that priests are during a confession, or will they just go and tell the police?

[@Dancergirl1409]

#KatiFaq it's hard enough to get treatment based on the stigma of society so why do we put that stigma on ourselves also? I've noticed myself saying all the usual things, I would never say them to anyone else but for some reason I feel they apply to me. It's things like "it's not depression you're just lonely and weak" or "if I just try harder I wouldn't be struggling" or "I'm crazy because I struggle with mental illness". I hate hearing these things from other people yet I keep telling them to myself. Why can't I seem to apply the same standards to myself as I do to others? I would never call someone with depression weak other than myself because I know depression isn't a sign of weakness and it takes strength to deal with it. In my mind it makes me weak though.

[@rodneydaub3812]

I"m too far gone. Cannabis is the only thing that helps me. That and isolation

[@jeschkla]

#KatiFAQ Hey kati, Love your Videos Tanks for all The Time that you spend for us every day. FAQ: While the holidays and meals with the family I tried to put my hunger and fullness on a scale, but when I reached a 8-9 my family kept telling me that I ate like a bird! So how could I know if my way to eat is healthy?

[@ems7623]

I suppose the only exception to the "not possible to tell a therapist too much" might be for sociopathic or psychopathic (ASPD) patients who are planning something violent or illegal. Say, child abuse, rape plots, designs on murder (not just fantasies of them.) But that's probably a special case and I'm sure therapists would still rather hear that to try to steer them away from dangerous behavior.

[@setty61]

thats why therapy is so misleading and so is kati becuz how can u tell a therapist everything if there r limits to privacy. sound u need to censor or be careful what u say in therapy.

[@cloudyxcl]

#KatiFAQ Hey, good morning (or whatever it is for you). Do you have any tips on how to deal with anxiety at concerts? Really wanna go to some but I don't want anxiety to ruin such experiences. thanks in advance.

[@ashcash4416]

Little correction his name is Shane Koyczan. Sad the habs lost :(

[@tusalm]

On the subject of telling your therapist too much, aren't there also times where going into the specific details will be telling the therapist too much? Like, are there not times when you are giving them irrelevant information? For instance, if you are telling them about your sex life, does it have value to explain exactly what you have done? Or how about when you feel the need to explain what you do in games as you feel like that might give insight into your psyche? And finally, how about your opinions and views on societal and philosophical matters?

[@Sillilesshells]

I find it so hard to be myself at work :/.I just feel like I can't connect to people and it's so hard to get around..I've always found it incredibly hard to develop casual friendships.I tend to only want to be friends with people if there is a goal that we both feel to get to know each other inside out.I have never understood how you can be able to tell your "drinking" friend one thing and your "drawing " friend another. I then feel like an absolute freak because I tend to want to have more intense relationships than what is typically expected.Thos means I tend to is isolate myself and really worry about making new friends.Im 24 and I very very seldom get invited anywhere. I spent this New Years hiding in my closet on my phone and under my covers. :/.I just never know what to say to people sometimes. I mean.. I'm better at talking to people who are older because I'm less scared that they'll judge me. I love doll making ,trapeze ,writing and studying Russian andd I don't think these are boring things but why is it so hard to socialize.apart from being on the autistic spectrum which sucks and makes me feel like such a freak.not only that but I have ADHD and all I've EVER heard about it are bad things and since my diagnosis I've become even MORE reluctant to go out. Urgh and then the most frustrating thing is , by saying that you hate yourself , you're demonstrating that you're not mature enough. My problem is I know exactly what to do most of the time , I just choose not to as self punishment.And I have a really big problem with self worth so I put everyone before me. Also it's so normal for it to be me making all the effort and feeling like my friends don't that it's just normal to me. Urgh! "Mentally throws imaginary plate".

[@northline5670]

Palesa Can't be easy! I was so shy and humble as a child and rarely talked. Thought that I was beneath everyone. Got better as I aged. My daughter is on the autistic spectrum, she's tested now, but I know she is. Feel sorry for her, you and people that struggle with self worth and relations. People have to show interest and ask you things with real interest and do things with you. That's how I felt, I opened up more and more when someone showed interest, but I couldn't talk if I felt I had to get others attention. Because my voise wasn't high and it was un natural. I grew out of it, tho! My daughter rejects others and seams rude. She doesn't mean to be, but class mates thinks she is. Very hard for her. She have become scared of rooms with many people. She misunderstands body language and face expressions. And interrupts and changes subjects when others talk. Breaks my heart that others gets irritated and avoid her. I try to explain, but she thinks I critique her, instead of advising her. Hope we get help so her life gets easier. If she was diagnosed, my hope is to explain to her class and they will understand her better and be nicer. Sounds like you are opposite in being too humble or submissive, like I was. People took me for granted. I had a friend, a naigbour. We were inseparable. I was lucky. Life is hard. There are people that would love to be your friends, but if they don't know about you or get to know you first... and the cemestry clicks when you talk to the right people. Just don't let anyone take advantage of your cindnes and vonrebility. Maby try to get to know someone in a group or try to find a best friend /friends.. A new girl started in my daughters class, and she gets her and they have now finally became best friends. Two years, she was alone at school and tried to get friends, then this girl came along. So never stop trying ❤I m sure you're amazing! There are good, cool, nice people out there, but so many that the cemestry doesn't fit or that isn't worth it, anyways. alot of people would be honored to have you in their lives. You are articulate, have feelings, that's already a lot! Please don't be alone with your depression or hurt. You shouldn't hide in your closet or covers 😢 Hope you can get help... but you have to ask for it 😘 Maby a young therapist? You just need some encouragement and start help and get your confidence up and self-esteem. People see, and are drawn to it. Wish you the best of luck! Big hug🤗💕From a stranger, that wants you to feel much better! We would get along 😉

[@BlessingsfromBridget]

What if what you want to tell the therapist is how much you don’t like the therapist? Isn’t it polite not to put people down?

[@aliasalias9910]

Why can't I stand touch? My family is super touchy and it really hurts them that I won't hug them or be physically affectionate. They try anyways which makes me want to hit them (which is weird because I'm never violent or aggressive) or I triggers my sh. How can I get over my intolerance to touch so I can hold my mom's hand and hug her?? Thanks!(:

[@reynapaterson5777]

Im the exact same way. I hate it when my mom touches me and it sucks because shes like the best person ever

[@Wisdomseeker5]

I had a bad experience to tell to much. She looks at me really judgment and I use strong words. Like if I get angry, anxiety in front my kids, it's against the law. I explained to her my ptsd complex and there isn't intentional. This why I need help.

[@setty61]

well definatelu dont tell ur therapist u get mad and agry that u yell at ur kids or slap them then u get in trouble so dont tell ur therapist everything

[@blueeyebandit]

Years ago i had sessions with a therapist because of anxiety . But while going through my past i was very careful how i answer because i have an extensive criminal background committed crimes i wasn't caught for . I always wondered could have i honestly told my therapist everything ? Because i was paranoid if i say something my therapist would notify authorities of me confessing crime activity, for instance lets say i did an armed robbery and i wasnt caught for it . Can someone elaborate on my question ?

[@danielelam5513]

How much is too much?

[@kostheraven]

I am scared that if i go into therapy andtalk in my first session, that he/she is going to think I make it all up. Still I know it is real but my anxiety wont let it go and I start overthinking. I start second guessing, wheter or not I should go or not. Please help

[@haleycarter6152]

#KatiFAQ I have a question. I am diagnosed with PTSD, BIpolar 1 w/ psychotic feat. And my psychiatrist just added ADHD to this diagnosis. My question is, how do you know if you've been miss diagnosed, BIpolar does not run in my family, ADHD does and so does major depression and schizophrenia, also some learning disabilities. I'm curious about this subject because I had been diagnosed with scizoeffective disorder when I was 13, and then when I was 21 they said it was social anxiety, and now they say what I put up at the top. I'm very tired of dealing with these lables. I have had trouble with school all my school years, and my self-esteem is pretty much gone, also I have a hard time socially, and I blank out a lot when there is a ton of stimulation (lights ,noise, and to much going on at once). I'm also forgetful, I misplaced my meds this week and I forget to take them, i hyperfocus on certain tasks then the "important" stuff I don't get done on time, anyway, I'm super overwhelmed by the fact I "underachieve" even though I know I can do better, if I could just stick to things and not forget important stuff, it's like I'm lazy but, I'm really not it's like I'm held back by something I can't control. No matter how hard I try to do better. anyway, I went off topic, so, question was,... oh, how do you know if you are misdiagnosed?

[@sarofan]

#katifaq Hi Kati :) i went to my doctor on Monday and he said that im really stable and our next apt is for the first time in a month (it was every two weeks up to now). My mood swings are not daily anymore and it seems that most of my symptoms are gone. Is it possible a full recovery for BPD? or my symptoms have decreased due to meds and they are going to come back eventually? Thank You!!

[@estherstephen6639]

BPD is seen as a incurable personality disorder in the mental health world with the leading treats being treatments like DBT, which can teach you/help you to manage your symptoms. So far there is no actual cure, just ways to cure/cope with the symptoms. If you're taking meds to help with the symptoms, they're likely to come back if you stop taking them. I'd advise you to, instead of trying to make the symptoms go away, learn to fight them so you have a permanent solution. Though that's just my opinion. Just my 2 cents🤷‍♀️ - Someone who's done A LOT of research because she believes she has BPD and will be going to my first psychologist appointment in 2 weeks.

[@thebullwhisperer916]

Am looking for the poem........

[@LilithsOwn303]

I thought you were going to share that poem by Shane Koyczan, but I don't see it anywhere...??

[@AnnaLeyland]

I'm coming to the end of a (shortened) DBT programme and haven't found it helpful at all. I told my therapist this and she said it's because I'm not stable enough for therapy. I see what she means because I'm frequently a danger to myself etc and we always have to spend each individual session planning how to keep me safe for the next week. How am I meant to become stable enough for therapy to be beneficial?

[@AnnaLeyland]

***** thank you so much! I'll look into it xx

[@emilydanziger]

I mean I loved you already but finding out that you wanted the Canadiens to win makes me love you that much more :p

[@cassie4386]

#KatiFAQ How much is too much when we are talking about traumas? I don't want my traumas to become anyone else's.

[@JamieLeeEvans10]

#KatiFaQ - I have my first session with a counsellor next week to try and help with SH and childhood sexual abuse and I was just wondering what should I expect from the first session? I'm really nervous about it and wanted my teacher to be there with me (but she's not allowed) and I'm not good at talking to people I don't know/trust. Is there anything I can do to make it easier for me and are the sessions driven by the counsellor or will she stay quiet until I lead the conversation? Also do you know what a intermediary is? Thank you for all your videos!

[@Dancergirl1409]

Kati has some videos on first sessions and what it's like. I think it might come up if you search Kati Morton first session on KZbin or Kati Morton therapy session demonstration on KZbin as well. On her website she has a list of her videos and what she talks about in each one if that does not work. I hope your session goes well. I know it's scary but you can do it!

[@Dancergirl1409]

Here's a video that may help. Im trying to find the other one. kzbin.info/www/bejne/oKG9c6ibl9Z7psk

[@stellafoster4732]

I know I am not Kati, but I wanted to let you know that Kati has done a collaboration video with "Idranktheseawater" where they demonstrate what a first therapy session is usually like. If you search "kati morton therapy" on youtube it should come up. Also from my own experiences the therapist will ask you something along the lines of why you have decided to come to therapy and what you are looking to work on. It might help to think about what you would like to say. You don't have to day a bunch at once if you dont want to. Also in my experiences, in the first session the therapist asked a lot of background questions and led the session much more than other sessions to try to get a general overview. The collab video I mentioned earlier is definitely worth checking out.

[@stephdevorah3267]

Look up her video with Idranktheseawater on what a typical first therapy appointment is like

[@JamieLeeEvans10]

Steph Devorah I'll have a look, thank you

[@jackiecummings]

Yep!! But they took me off my meds

[@livvybrooks2202]

Hey, I've struggled with depression for most of my life. Here's a couple of things that REALLY help me when I'm in a dark or plateaued state. - IISUPERWOMANII Seriously, ^ that is the name of her channel, she's a Canadian comedian but she's been through a lot as well and some of her videos I actually watch on a daily basis. (I could literally recite them. Lol) my favourites are: 10 Reasons to smile. (Sounds corny but it's great), 10 MORE reasons to smile, 5 minutes of epic motivation, Get Back Up, and lastly, Your Wake Up Call. -WRITING. When Kati talks about the importance of journals, she's not just being an annoying therapist. Lol she's being serious. Writing is one of the few escapes we as humans have from our world. Use that as you will. - READING I read 25/8. It's relaxing, it's fun, and it's not too difficult. It can take your mind on an adventure without leaving your room. Try it! -And finally, MUSIC! Self explanatory. Lol good luck!

[@rocsirreal5392]

Livvy Brooks what do u do when your only passion were writing and music and due to anhedonia, that's now a distant memory.....who am I now??????!!!