Can you transition happily as an adult?

[@bigicky]

Did you know you get emojis with membership 😌

[@kevinnosx9]

I didn't know that.

[@Lucinda666]

Awwwwwwwwwwww 🎉🎉🎉

[@a.IiI.tran5.girl.Iiving.Iif3]

Tank is so cute in that

[@feminization-lab]

Cool!!!

[@Screamqueen42069]

Adorable 🖤

[@tyranitararmaldo]

Tories: "Private sector will take care of everything! People will be free to choose to do what they want without state interference! Please ignore us investing in these exact businesses to make money..." Also Tories: "BANBANBANBANBAN! YOU CAN'T HAVE THAT!"

[@evepreviouslyknownaslenenjoyer]

conservatives when people want the freedom to purchase things over than guns:

[@flaming_ace]

i heard someone say the rights idea of being oppressed is not being agreed with, and they said that about the american right, but clearly its pretty true globally

[@seriphan399]

@ville__why don’t you lead by example?

[@loldebiteloldebite1607]

@ville__ wtf is wrong with you

[@Sofiaaaa-tehe]

​@ville__can you show us how?

[@deeblack9393]

To answer your question YES you can transition happily as an adult! I was 54 when I came out and started hrt almost 2 years later! I am the happiest I have ever been in my life!

[@MrLeadsled69]

Started at 53 years of age. Living in the United States, informed consent made the process simple (MUCH simpler than when I tried to get HRT a bit over 30 years ago). Definitely the BEST decision ever, but sure wish I could’ve done so way back when.

[@deeblack9393]

@MrLeadsled69 30 years ago I didn't even know what trans was!

[@MrLeadsled69]

@@deeblack9393 I’ve known since my earliest of days. Been a rough 50+ years, doing my level best to be the person everyone else expected of me.

[@beckycook7408]

It's a very good video, and lots of good comments here. I transitioned 9 years ago at 56, and it was the most positive thing I had ever done. Like most of us, I've known what I was from an early age, and I would have loved support and blockers back then. It a shame to see this countey moving backwards. Anyway, keep up the positivity - I live your channel 👍💕

[@seriphan399]

@ville__lmao, you’re sad. Nothing better to do today, huh?

[@realryal]

'Pink outfits, thigh highs and How to Overthrow the British Government' sounds like an amazing name for a self-help book

[@glamfishy]

​@ville__ care to give a demonstration?

[@clarissanavarro2762]

Pink Outfits & Thigh Highs, awesome rock band name.

[@clarissanavarro2762]

@@glamfishy They are trolling, we should stop feeding them.

[@marxistvalorie]

sounds like something a trans Karl Marx would've written

[@glamfishy]

@@marxistvalorie trans Karl marx would be iconic 💅

[@akooatic]

I was forced by my parents to go through male puberty and I'm feeling terribly dysphoric about it. Thank you for this you just made me slightly more hopeful for the future

[@CakeV4]

fr

[@TheIrish978]

Don’t worry it never too late to transition. Yes you going tho it but get a job and save up money to move out to start your life

[@IGNEOUS_HOLLOW]

💀​@ville__

[@clownfrown]

@ville__yikes 💀

[@chloe-sunshine7]

🩷🩵🤍🩵🩷

[@shmoo42]

Icky bringing the icky news today :(

[@thisisdottlez]

Yeah :(

[@alice1374]

"Sometimes you have to have the difficult news to have the good news" It is sad though. Things are looking better as time goes on however. Just a slight setback for now.

[@Orincaby]

getting icked up with this one

[@blusau8561]

Can you transition happily as an adult? YES!!! I started HRT three years ago at 59 and discovered that happiness is a real thing.

[@mitcharendt2253]

Good for you! I didn't start hrt until I was 38. I have grown so much in just two years. I hope you are safe and well

[@jimiwills]

🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@TraceyTra-kv1xe]

How did you just get up in the morning with this I'm not that old and I feel so defined I have spent almost 3 years trying to get hrt or anything and I have just thrown time and money in a pit.

[@Jules_Dakota]

What do you mean by "discovered that happiness is a real thing?"

[@blusau8561]

​@@Jules_Dakota Do you know someone that is way too happy? Well I used to think that those overly happy people were just faking it. Now I know not all of them are.

[@LyingTube]

You can see on the ban itself that it was made, debated, and implemented in the span of 62 minutes. That's all it took them, to quash the rights of an entire demographic of children.

[@eren-desu]

aren't politics usually like super slow because they try to be careful and stuff? you couldn't even watch a movie in that amount of time.

[@LyingTube]

@@eren-desu Correct.

[@moshimode]

that's actually fucking insane

[@lucywucyyy]

thats the fastest the uk government has ever done anything faster than the big stink of the victorian era when the thames dried up i think meanwhile they will argue about fixing a pothole for 20 years before throwing some gravel in it

[@lucywucyyy]

@@eren-desu careful? hahahhahahahhahheheheheee dont be silly! they dont think about the consequences of their decisions at all unless it gets votes or money

[@KensaiProductions]

I'm 58, I recently came out to my Wife of 25 years. She was taken aback but has been supportive. I'm pre-HRT but I've found a wonderful Therapist and I've grown my hair long (again, I've mostly had long hair my adult life) and recently my Wife took me for a Mani-Pedi and my nails are now a dark purple. I'm not yet dressing fem (except for undergarments) and am taking it slow here in the hate filled state of Florida. All that said I am much happier than I was just a few months ago when I was hiding this from everyone. I am super hopeful that I'll be able to start HRT soon and be who I want to be. So yes, I think you can be happy transitioning as an adult, even an older one. 🥰

[@crush3095]

I will never get over the loss of my singing voice as I turned it's not that singing was my identity it was having something that made me so happy taken away from me

[@SafiExists]

I didn’t really understand my gender when I lost my voice but now I can hardly listen to myself without cringing.

[@TheKewlPerson]

I feel that. I used to be a soprano. I still try to hit those high notes but I just can't anymore and I just don't feel comfortable singing lower, so I just gave up on singing 🥲

[@anainbed]

@TheKewlPerson If it's any comfort it could be a thing of when you get further into your transition, and more affirmed and confident in your gender that it might become comfortable again. I had something like this where after transitioning I gave up on singing for a while, but a few years in and I feel good about it again. Obviously your mileage may vary, but hopefully there might some improvement for you in the future.

[@MoonberryJam93]

For real. I used to be able to hit really high notes, had a pretty big range, and excellent pitch control. Puberty fucked all of that up completely. No more range, no more control.

[@anainbed]

@@MoonberryJam93 honestly, that just sounds like you need training, I'm sure you could regain a lot with some lessons if you wanted to

[@carbonation10317]

It's crazy that specifically people with dysphoria and incongruence are the only ones who are being targeted by the bill. That's just straight discrimination. It's ridiculous that something can target a group like that and actually get passed

[@tyranitararmaldo]

Tories had a majority, they could do what they pleased :(

[@Royal.Dolphin]

To make it even worse... if you have admittedly extremely early puberty (like before 8/9) one of the reasons you can get puberty blockers pescribed in the UK is because there is a risk that there will be significant emotional harm. Like that doesn't apply for dysphoria...

[@cool_bug_facts]

If they actually thought puberty blockers were dangerous, they would have banned them for everyone. They don't care about the facts, they just cherry pick trans people because we're the current satanic panic.

[@WhoTookQuwhu]

@ville__ We both know no one loves you so pipe down

[@LilithMoonWater]

Sheesh.. youre something else.

[@willowgillingham666]

Laws like this will cause a lot of unnecessary suffering. Gender affirming healthcare is life=saving. I was a VERY late bloomer. I did not hit puberty until I was 20 yrs old. I never knew that transition was possible, so I lived about 29 years with Testosterone, but HRT is really magic.

[@drewzid3390]

@ville__ Thats mean

[@alice1374]

@@drewzid3390 they keep posting things like that. They're a classic transphobe.

[@kingkramer]

Late bloomer here as well (hit it at 17). Even as a cis guy, it's made me feel incredibly behind when I'm just now experiencing the changes at 24 that my peers experienced, or were done with, in highschool (body hair suddenly appearing in new places, all of a sudden having to shave my face once every three days instead of once every other week etc)

[@kingkramer]

@ville__ I think you need a hug

[@alice1374]

@ville__ you're very wrong

[@RunicPixels]

I started transitioning halfway through being 27, ofc. I'd have loved to started earlier. But every change has been super positive, there's no such thing as being too late.

[@whatisupbois]

@ville__ you're pretty pathetic at being a troll. kindly follow your own advice please and thank you

[@rosenrot6871]

​@ville__Follow your leader

[@RunicPixels]

@ville__ It must be very tiring to live such a cold and spiteful existence. 😅

[@peopleyouforgot]

it feels too late and i’m fourteen

[@Smolyne]

you having transitioned at 23 and yet looking so amazing regardless truly washed away a ton of the anxiety i had about transitioning in my 20s👍

[@AMOKsharp1854]

Woah That's insane I assumed she probably transitioned at 14

[@peopleyouforgot]

I’m 14 and my voice already got deeper 2 years ago but I still fear it will only get worse, ever since I lost my voice every day I’ve practiced for hours and I finally have it back, but if one day I wake up, and my voice is deeper again… I will leave this world one way or another

[@zelrex4657]

Its so annoying because the study it was based on doesn't say puberty blockers are bad. It just says states that some studies don't exist. Vbut those study don't exist because its not possible for it to be done due to the nature of puberty blockers.

[@tusk9687]

yeah and even if those studies could be done how the fuck can they be done when they ban puberty blockers?

[@zoemakesmusic]

The best part is, that the author, Hillary Cass, in a few interviews after the paper was published acted all like pro trans and pro medical transition and actively contradicted the report as if her paper wasn't intended to cause harm to trans people

[@eren-desu]

they're just making stuff up at this point. this is not logical and they probably know it, but play along with it to hurt trans people. because imagine if they banned any other kind of healthcare that many people depend on using an explanation as bad as this one.

[@technicolorbarf6734]

It's the same way people somehow turned "There are not enough long-term studies on testosterones affect on fertility in those assigned female at birth, and those planning to become pregnant should cease use" into "testosterone WILL make you completely barren INSTANTLY"

[@lucywucyyy]

@@zoemakesmusic many such cases

[@Shiggedy]

I started HRT at 35, and yesterday, at age 38, I had GRS. I'm very happy with where I am in life right now

[@TheWrendre]

Icky, this stuff is always important to talk about!, political or not, positive or not. information is key to fighting ignorance

[@TheWrendre]

Omg.. please video on pink and thigh highs! we'll get to insurrections eventually... but maybe not today XD

[@blueberryshortcake8478]

i love her accent and mannerisms. she’s so elegant

[@SanityVideo]

I was raised super conservative in the US with no way to transition or express my gender safely. I'm not living the life I would have if I grew up safe and supported but I'm happy. No one can promise you will pass (I don't) or have exactly the body you hope for (even cis people don't) but you can change more than you would ever expect. You can get to where the people around you see you for who you are. For everyone, life is finding the right way to live with the situation you got and it's no different if you're trans.

[@ffjj.8fzz8fz8f5]

I think its very important for ppl, especially those who dont have a way of getting hrt to know about diy hrt. I am currently transitioning at 16 with it and it has helped me immensely!

[@alice1374]

Stay safe out there, it's scary and dangerous times for those who are under 18 currently!

[@ryanhall5360]

Uh, so don't do this? Even if you think it's your only way out, do not self-prescribe unverified medications to yourself, especially without consulting a doctor beforehand. You could have any number of medical issues that could negatively affect your hormone levels and you could do irreversible harm to your body as a result.

[@alice1374]

@@ryanhall5360 So what are they supposed to do, die whilst undergoing the wrong puberty? that doesn't sound like the way forward to me. It's the only way of doing so unless you have the finances because the NHS system is so broken. Increased wait time of 3 years since the Cass review dropped.

[@ryanhall5360]

@@alice1374 You won't die undergoing the wrong puberty. It'll suck, but like Ashley said, you can absolutely transition as an adult and be happy with it. What can kill you, though, is DIY HRT. This video you're commenting on right now is literally the "hey there's another way guys".

[@alice1374]

@@ryanhall5360 I meant in the sense, like, there's certain features that people cannot change once the wrong puberty has happened. That's why people DIY, and people DIY because they can't get friggin access to the real and safe thing. Not enough resources equals problems that could have been avoided, but I digress.

[@Skywohka]

Happening everywhere. Here in Florida they just banned FFS at many hospitals which I was supposed to get this summer/fall. Been transitioning a year already now, basically.

[@Andieelizabeth73]

i'm 51 and transitioned 4 years ago and just got my meow so yes adults can in the uk :) xx, so you are a very lucky girl being able to transition so young :)... 26 is not old lol

[@cuddlequeen3225]

What you mean meow

[@Andieelizabeth73]

⁠vagina lol...Come on

[@Silly-goose-Canadian]

@@cuddlequeen3225she means her taco 🌮 😅

[@cuddlequeen3225]

Tacos yummy. I went and had some Carne asada tacos earlier

[@LunarWind99]

Just got your meow, love that 😁 also congratulations! I'm happy for you ❤️

[@riverw4721]

Started medical transition at 26 and I'm happier than ever. HRT changes even things they tell you won't change. You'll be surprised how much you change, inside and out.

[@SomeGalNamedEve]

"Can you transition happily as an adult?" Short answer, yes. Long answer, absolutely

[@dreflox]

long answer: yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees

[@lexidarling]

I began social transition in 2004 at age 15 and my mom did not allow me to pursue medical transition until I was 18. After a number of roadblocks and false starts I didn't get onto HRT permanently until age 31. Maybe not the absolutely perfect ideal life path for a dysphoric trans woman such as myself, but in the four years since then my life has improved immeasurably. My overall mood is better, I don't have the depression or brain fog anymore, I married the love of my life and I have a community who loves and respects me as the woman I am. My heart is with all my UK trans family. Don't let the bastards grind you down.

[@Frownlandia]

Trans rights are human rights. I can't think of a more meaningful expression of agency than taking responsibility for becoming who you are, whatever that means for you. Standing against that is standing against humanity, and it's obscene. No matter who you are, your needs matter.

[@yumenozen]

I transitioned in my early 20s as well, and know plenty of people who transitioned way older too, and results are always worth it. For everyone out there despairing, there is hope, and even if it takes longer than we all want, there's so much cool stuff once you get to be yourself. All of us are worthy of love and affection and community. For everyone with regret, some of these difficult life experiences make us better able to take care of ourselves and others. Life is amazing and I look forward to seeing how amazing all of us can be.

[@its.your.joyce.2024]

so i have a thing called puberphonia, basically my voice didn't become male during puberty while the rest of my body did. i socially transitioned at 32 because of this and at 34 i was helped in a gender hospital and i found out i'm Agender. It's never to late to transition, and please don't lose hope.

[@ButtCheekFilms]

Just made coffee. Opened my phone. An ICKY video? My morning has been made.

[@RobertoCastán-u7e]

Fr🎉

[@Phoenixfisch]

Time zones are funny, for me it's evening ^^

[@pollycooper8905]

Well done Icky …..couldn’t have said it better myself !!👏❤ I’m 56 ….went through hell…..but over 20 years on the ‘otherside’….you will get there ….be you …never give up please …everybody’s journey is special and different. Just remember to concentrate on you …be natural and you will be a happy 🐰 bunny ! Remember….. ‘Those that mind , don’t matter and those that matter don’t mind.’😊 Love ❤️ and blessings to you all 🙏

[@Not_Dane_Heart]

this gov doesn't care about the EHRC

[@aprilruledearth]

This is why EVERYONE MUST pressure their local governments to oppose the anti - trans legislature.

[@Yellow_Lola]

They are about to lose an election, parliament is already shut down so they cannot be held accountable. This is a hail-Mary bill in order to protect themselves from Reform UK in the election. (And besides the party hasn't cared about ECHR for ages, but this also also goes agaisnt the 2010 equality act that was brought in by the CONSERVATIVES!!!!)

[@Edward_Hodges]

This government doesn't care...

[@alice1374]

the current government controls the EHRC, they deny it but they do.

[@rorbee]

The whole government should be tried for human rights violations for denying CHILDREN potentially life saving medication and revoking their rights to bodily autonomy. Inhumane, despicable. EDIT: i'm sorry i have to stop watching midway through, this is making me way too angry

[@StalwartPikeman]

You should finish the video. You stopped right before she got to the positives.

[@shnave7071]

I live in russia and I'm just jealous that you can legally transition at all😭😭

[@alice1374]

I'm honestly surprised it hasn't gone further than that yet, I expect it though.

[@prazza-vas-normandy]

OMFG SAME Ruzzia essentially is a dystopia now.......

[@asterix7912]

that sounds awful 😭

[@lechienquivole5469]

Hello from France, our country also passed some really transphobic bullshit bill against trans children. Ty for talking about such subject, it may not be much but it's still important. I discovered you post CO but still, you inspire me through this journey and i'd like to ty for that. I'm just turned 30 this year and currently starting my 2nd year on HRT, and I'm the happiest i could be rn, because it's never about age or maturity, but about being yourself, and that just feels so right, there is no age minimum/required to want to be happy, or to want to love yourself, to be accepted as who you are. THERE IS NO AGE LIMIT TO BE YOURSELF You know, as unfunny that kind of subject may be, if you just want to talk about it because you feel like you want to, just do it sis, it's your content. Much love from baguette.

[@akooatic]

French government is trying to ban blockers too rn. Being trans: Human rights challenge (impossible)

[@ellanaellana]

Yess i hope eelv and lfi (the leftists) will convice renaissance to not do it...

[@loldebiteloldebite1607]

Senators being conservative fucks shouldn't have been a surprise. I'm still hopeful it won't pass at assembly. Even though I should definitely know better... But yeah, I guess Moutot & Stern have had the effect they hoped for, uh.

[@loldebiteloldebite1607]

@@ellanaellana The only intervention I've seen from a renaissance dude was against the law, which is why I got hopeful about the verdict in the first place. That bloke might not have been representative of his party as a whole, tho...

[@DamagedPotential]

I love hearing your voice for these serious matters. It shows you're not pretending the bs is not happening. It's hard to see the good side of things, especially these days, but I love that you're able to and willing to show all of us what beautiful things you see in these dark times. I don't live in the UK but I wish the best of luck to all of you who do.

[@NataliePine]

I'm in my mid 30s, started transitioning this year. HRT is indeed magic and at least once a day I tear up with joy because I get to be me. It gets better, kids, I promise! (And if you're old enough, register to vote - the deadline is 18th June!)

[@my_life_in_minnie_ears]

Multiple States in the US have passed similar laws for under 18 including where I live in Florida. The difference is that here these were not 4 month blocks, they are full blocks.

[@qtpaulie]

yeah... :((( and they are introduced in the most loopholey ways possible. same thing happening in european countres

[@laraheli1054]

Even as an 18 year old on hrt for 1 year its nice to know that it's gonna get better and that I haven't started transitioning too late to be happy. :)

[@matoiiveyy2005]

Most places i know dont even provide medical care to children outside of therapy and social transitioning, say Greece persay. But me and all of people just kinda make do with what we can, hit 18 and do fine, we suffer the individual struggles of agab puberty, which isnt ideal and in the long run expensive, but my point is for many of us puberty blockers were never an option and we are still thriving... besides starting at 18 and 19 is still considered a teen transition and its a massive clutch play against the system

[@Kari_Jane]

I started transition at 49.. and have just hit my 2 years on HRT... while not optimal YES you can transition happily as an adult.. My life is better than it has ever been.. my mind is clear, my thoughts are clear... and well.. I am going through 2nd puberty at 50.. which is wild. But it is NEVER too late .. NEVER.

[@Casual_Goof]

Sending love and support from the U.S! I’m not super familiar with U.K politics, but I hope this can be overturned/rolled back come September!

[@Edward_Hodges]

I could be but it won't be. Both major parties don't care about trans people. That is without sufficient public outcry.

[@AUDHDlucy]

I am hoping to bring in Hugh jackman to start a revolution.

[@Casual_Goof]

@@AUDHDlucy I can only speak from an American perspective, but I think that’s the only feasible course of action here. We’re stuck between a wannabe dictator whose plan is to strip the rights of millions of Americans and destroy our democratic process; and an incompetent buffoon who’s funding a genocide. Ain’t politics lovely? 🙃🙃🙃

[@alice1374]

It's not looking entirely likely, given the current opposition party who's expected to win a "thumping majority" after the election on july 4th, although they have said they wouldn't leave the european court on human rights nor amend the equality act too, so there's at least some knowledge they don't want to directly attack trans people that way. I'm glad. The future looks "somewhat" better even if it doesn't seem like it

[@foxftracks]

thanks for this video icky. when i heard that this stupid law took place i thought that there's no hope for me anymore, hearing this video has made me think otherwise

[@kittyvlekkie]

stick in there, started at 25, am 27 now. i am very happy where i am and so can you be

[@foxftracks]

thank you@@kittyvlekkie

[@stellamarie32]

Hey all, I started my medical transition a few months after my 29th birthday last October and I am in the middle of the happiest years of my life, and loving all my changes. ❤ Don't let your life be defined by dysphoria, pursue as much euphoria as possible every day! Right now you can start researching hairstyles and affirming fashion suited to your body, and when you do start your prep work will have done tons to help you in your first year! Love you all! We're in this together. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[@kthx_bai]

i’m 29 and turn 30 in October. i started my transition in February of this year 🎉

[@ellavescent]

I transitioned as an adult, and the last 8 years have repeatedly shown that to be the best decision of my life. But I also continually dissociated my way through life between puberty and the age of 36, because my body did not feel like me. So yes, you absolutely can transition as an adult and be happy. But preventing kids who know who they are from accessing trans healthcare is pure evil.

[@naomi_mori_music]

Being someone who only started transitioning around 30, yeah, it sucks, but it's still a possibility and it doesn't mean you can never pass, post puberty transition also make beautiful women on the other side and don't let current stress and fear convince you otherwise. The only moment where it's to late to transition is once you're not alive anymore.

[@naomi_mori_music]

@ville__ Knowing that just being alive pisses you off that much gives me strength, please continue your meltdown.

[@wonderowl530]

This is soooo lovely! I started transation as I turned 23 and hearing how happy you are really gives me hope. Ashly, You words are so kind and you are such a wonderful person, thank you!

[@paulinparadise2034]

I understand, that you don’t like talking about all negative stuff going on. On the other hand, it’s not always fun and easy and I really appreciate that you made this video, because it is important to talk about. Under no circumstances should this just be tolerated and accepted without at least discussing it. Greetings from Germany❤️

[@nebula8851]

HRT saved my life. And no, I don't mean in the "I was gonna yeet without", I was already planning to on my 30th anyway. It stopped a self-destructive spiral before it hit the point of being irrecoverable, enough that I was able to salvage something of value from it all. After a turbulent few years of trying to find myself, I'm now the happiest I ever have been, and I'm looking forward to the future.

[@katifontana9179]

transitioned at 19. its the best, hormones literally are magic. taking the steps to love and embrace yourself is the best investment you could make.

[@diablominero]

There's a decent ethical argument to be made that you should give all the kids (both cis and trans) puberty blockers as long as it's medically safe. If you accept the standard arguments about how children aren't mature enough to consent to irreversible hormone effects, but you don't fall for the naturalistic fallacy, you have to realize that natural puberty is just as much irreversible as artificial puberty from HRT.

[@andromidius]

I subscribe to this concept. If everyone actively chooses what direction their development is going to go people will in general grow up MUCH happier, even the ones who turn out to be 'cis' (or equivalent in this new system).

[@C0mfyest]

As someone finding out a lot of things about myself as of late I've been scared of a lot of things, and found this video to be recomforting and reassuring! It's not a scientific report or a statistical study, but it's anecdotal and personal which I really connect with! I'd say throw in a more serious one like this every once in a while, never know when someone'll stumble upon it and need it as much as I did tonight!

[@TommiGunmetal]

I transitioned at 36, and not only am I blown away by how much hormones have DONE in 3 years, but I want people to know that I'm literally the happiest I've ever been in life. Don't be afraid if you think you're too old. You're not. Transition is such a wonderful journey.

[@JSG-YT]

Lots of love and support to everyone dealing with this, also you ICKY ❤

[@ninjakingcola]

Icky you are such a delight, thank you for talking about the hard stuff as it's necessary to signal boost but also I love how you get when you talk about the little delights of transition. You really do get the "little things matter" across along with the big stuff.

[@christine_penn]

Would have loved to have transitioned as a child...but circumstances did not allow it. Would have loved to have transitioned in my twenties...but I attempted to believe others and attempted to live the life I was told to. I attempted to transition in my thirties and started too...but others talked me out of it. So had a another go at meeting my obligations as a male. I finally started transition in my later forties (47), after reaching the point of suicide. (I could not live another male day.) That was now coming up on 10 years ago. (I'm about to turn 57 now.) So yes, it is very possible to successfully transition later. Hormones still work...and you can still live the life you were always destined to. And if people believe that its a phase and things will go away...I am living proof that it never does. I knew who I was at 4 years old...and it never changed. What changed, was my ability to force it on those who influenced me incorrectly over the years....

[@andreja9425]

You can 1,000% transition as an adult and be happy and even pass if that’s something you care about. I started hormones at 23 and i never thought i would pass but after 2+ years of hormones i haven’t gotten clocked (to my knowledge) in so long. Most people see me as just a really tall girl. Beyond that tho even before passing, transitioning was such an indescribably liberating experience. Presentation can be quite frustrating at first but experimenting can become really fun. You get to like redesign your character with all the best options and the world is your oyster. Not to mention how your relationships can blossom now that you aren’t hiding so much of yourself anymore . Sure I wish I’d gotten to be myself earlier and sometimes that can be really upsetting, but at least i get to be myself now and every single day for the rest of my life. Nothing will ever take that away from me. Good luck to you all, we’re gonna make it through these waves of hate. You are strong, you are beautiful and there’s a whole army of us who have your back 💗

[@jessebertschy3687]

I love the back and forth with your editor. It's nice and makes me smile every time.

[@hannahroedder936]

Transitioned late; starting HRT at 57. I'm now 60, rarely get misgendered, and finally I think I understand this whole happiness thing some people claimed to experience. Worth it no matter how old you are! I could never go back.

[@ThingsareLikeable]

I started my transition at 30! I am now 33. The changes have been fantastic. Literally never thought I'd get to where i am now. I'm more in touch with myself and my self image. My mental health has been better than it has ever been. I've been more conscious and mindful of my emotions and impact to others. All the while I'm living just a regular life. I'm married, I have a lot of friends. I wake up, go to work, come home and sleep. yes you can most certainly transition as an adult and live a happy life a better world is possible

[@aspidoscelis]

I'm 42 and started transitioning about 3.5 months ago. I'm already happier! I wish I'd started earlier, but I'm also glad I'm not starting later.

[@aspidoscelis]

I'm also feeling lucky to be in the US-the "informed consent" model for getting HRT is a wonderful thing.

[@jahudka]

I'm 35 now, my egg has been steadily cracking for the past couple of months, and this - both the video and the flood of affirming comments from people transitioning at all kinds of ages - it really helps. And while I love the fluffy and fun content, I genuinely appreciate the serious stuff too, and I wouldn't mind seeing more. Especially as trans rights are being attacked left and right all around the world these days. I don't want to look back a couple years down the road only to find out too late that this was the time to speak out and act.

[@cameronpratte3018]

Thanks for talking about this. As a NB thinking about HRT, it’s really nice to hear someone talking about the good of their experience. It’s also good your talking about the Cass Reptor and the flaws in its process. It really is a poorly written report.

[@kuuh]

I'm not from UK but this video helped me so much! I already knew you'd transitioned later in life, and it is very reassuring to me if I ever decide to go trough it that it'd work pretty much :3. Thanks for it all icky, from the silliest to the most serious videos

[@luzora4128]

honestly you talking about icky news is nice You say the news rellay well and i love how its kinda bittersweet end like its okay its not going to be the end of the world and yeah I love that and i really like the idea of you talking more about heavy topic but i like that you are the postitve channel SOOO I HOPE NEXT VIDEDO IS CUTEEEEEE

[@InfiniteExplorer]

Merican here: Didn't find out about hrt til I was 32, spent 3 years in "what if" land, began transitioning at 35. The people who inspired me transitioned in their 50s and 60s. It's never too late! Be yerself and if you don't like the choices of your government: Get Involved! Don't let the crazies in, take it from me!

[@TheSunnyOne]

I started HRT at 34, I am now almost 38. Hormones, HRT, transition, all the biological stuff, has been excellent, and has made me so much happier than I ever used to be. Any issues I've experienced have come from society at large. Medical issues, social issues, legal issues, etc. Whenever the world sorts itself out and stops sliding its way into the DMs of every fascist, I'm pretty sure I'll be all good and so will most of us. I've made some excellent friends in the community, I have a loving girlfriend now, seeking ever more partners so I can start my little trans commune, etc, etc. It is possible to transition happily, for now, and even if things get worse I will still never regret doing so.

[@East16]

i love how we have had the evidence and studies supporting and proving gender identity being quite solidified by age 4, and yet people still like to argue that anyone under the magical number of 18 isnt sure. Because children arent allowed to make decisions about themselves and they are the property of their parents until adulthood in many cases.

[@alek4ever646]

Well, I am 33, pre HRT, and I didn't know what to expect about this video. Especially when the UK laws started to be talked about. But I very much agree that puberty blockers are amazing. I didn't really start to pay much attention to the "wanna be girl" side of me until I was well into my puberty (didn't help I was a very early bloomer). But I had some signs from before puberty, such as playing with the girls in kindergarden and school, and being facinated by my sister's body that one time we shared a shower at 7. Yet due to a lack of knowledge I did put it all off as "well too bad, I want to be girl, but since you can't magically get the whole way, too bad. It was learning the magic of HRT for my trans friend that the cracks started to show. Then she just gently pushed me off the countertop so my egg shattered violently as it impacted the floor.

[@blackrosed8068]

It's one of those things where it's so much easier to ban than it is to unban.

[@fl00fydragon]

NGL, so many trans people have had to siletly suffer, seeing our bodies morph into something we cannot stand as the institutiuons around us failed us and the lack of proper education to parents to support, resulting in lives filled with regret and unfilfilled longing for what could be. I have experienced this firsthand as only now in my 30's am I in a position to start planning to transition and as things are going I'll be lucky if I get to transition by 40. I won't lie and say I don't wake up every day wishing I could have had a different past or some way to turn my biological clock back, wishing I could tear off my prison body and replace it. And I will not lie, there's days where the only thing keeping me going is the hope of having something resembling as a few fragments fo the life I feel I should have lived and the extreme gamble/pathological adherance to hope that regenerative medicine or some other medical technology could give me a second chance at life within my lifespan and I have finally taken action to try everything I think I can to push for the public medical megaprojects needed to make it possible.

[@Keysieofficial]

That is legit straight up discrimination. This shit is hard as it is without this happening. I am in Australia and it is still super hard here too. They are just banning random medications and everything is super hard to get.

[@Tiger47962]

If you're reading this, just know you're not alone. We are all in this together. You matter and you have to ability to be happy.

[@kastandlee]

Thank you for talking about this. I know it's difficult, but it's wonderful for you to show people that there is hope.

[@EmberIslandPlayer]

Love and hugs to everyone out there who wants to transition but can't. I can't imagine knowingly going through the wrong puberty, it's truly horrific. HOWEVER, it's not over for you. My egg cracked when I was 30 and I was lucky enough to pursue HRT fairly quickly (I'm in a left-leaning state in the USA). Even though I like to imagine what it would have been like to not have gone through T puberty, I'm still so so so happy with how my body has changed so far. You can do it. You're strong. You're beautiful

[@nobby145]

the black market is gonna react on it, there are all ways thoose who wanna make money no matter how

[@hammerth1421]

As a chemistry student, I love to semi-seriously shitpost about cooking illicit trans medicine like meth, but I wouldn't recommend buying GnRH stuff that isn't official. That really is something I wouldn't be confident in preparing on my own without the means of a university lab at my disposal. Estrogen and testosterone are almost trivial in comparison to making and purifying a protein hormone.

[@nobby145]

@@hammerth1421and i hope the goverment of britain have counter for stuff like the black market but let's face it it all ready happening with other crap ¨drugs¨ just hope they know that this can back fire hard on them

[@ЕваБа]

@@hammerth1421 the thing is - when money gets involved people will find means of production. It happened in Russia - basically you can still buy pills officially but most people prefer unofficial injections cause they are... better even then western injections lol

[@widget3672]

I only cracked my egg when I was about to turn 26 and after pursuing private HRT, I've now been on feminising HRT for about 4 months and yeah - it's true. You can have a good transition in your mid 20s. The last 4 months of changes have been incredible and I know I've got more than a year of rapid stuff happening. My voice does annoy me, but not so much since I've been training it. It'll get better, as much of it does. That said, if the government takes just one more step I suspect there'll be real trouble.

[@IllusiveChristie]

Short answer yes you can. When i started weighed almost 325lbs at 40. I just gave jp at that point until a lot of people helped. F1nns followers, groups on reddit, etc. 42 now, and suprised at the change i have achieved. I now finally feel like me. One thing that scares me about having no intervention help for youth, what will that outcome be? Illegal making of pharmaceutical? I know what i went through, and attempted 3 times 15,17, and 21. I really hope this is temporary.

[@emmygold280]

38y - 8 months HRT and despite having to overcome the effects of male puberty, I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life.

[@kuposamurai6045]

Thank you for making this. It's really important to talk about, even if it's not fun.

[@rogerwilson-ec7vj]

I started my MTF transition aged 68 and am now 76 and have loved the person I am slowly becoming , thank you for your helpful advice.

[@jimothywright1621]

Definitely normally happy fun videos. I watch almost every one of them. Makes my day when you put out something new.

[@13essentials77]

Cant express how much your videos mean to me and bring me joi and hope for whats to come. Loves < 3

[@grape3964]

My largest hope is that Labour is just being quiet on trans issues to maintain their strong majority and then they will start being more pro-trans when elected. I HOPE

[@Okapifan]

I'm so sorry that is happening in the UK right now. I mostly feel for the kids that are already on Puberty blockers... Like that's literally taking away something they worked all so hard to get. That made them make their first steps... Honestly... If someone would have taken that from me as a child, especially after experiencing the effects... I'm not sure I would be on this planet today. This is gonna cost lives

[@Sunni-Art]

I have absolutely no problem with you talking about serious stuff. I'm older myself and only just starting to grapple with my gender identity. I wish I had had access to all the information and community that people do today when I was much younger, but here we are.

[@alinaisyou]

I am transitioning in my 40s. This wasn't my first choice. Or my second, third, or fourth, really. But sometimes life conspires and stymies in ways which are out of our control. Like a ban on puberty blockers for example. But my little jokey mantra is "it's never too late for titties" and I stand by that. Whenever you can transition, you should. And you should fight for the people around you and the people who will come after to not have to wait at the same time.

[@Caghoule]

Came out last year, but due to other life events happening, ive not been able to do much about it yet. Going to be 30 in 2 months though, so it really drags me down to think about how ill probably be halfway through my 30s before i can even start hrt thanks for making your videos icky, you and fin are two of the few things keeping me positive about it all

[@cuddlequeen3225]

I didn't realize how trash it is to have to go through multiple extreme hormone reactions to be happy in one's body.

[@bloorpgodoffrogs2695]

i was born in the uk, i moved to australia around a year ago. i have so many trans friends who are looking for ways to move here because of the way things seem to be going. its terrifying that things are going backwards this fast. i am hoping that things improve soon, maybe lord bin head will save us. since i moved ive started to become more comfortable and have started to come out to people. its slow going, but it is very nice here.

[@CaptainSword_Lady]

I started out in my early 20's and life only got better for me both internally and out in public. Everyone deserves to be happy in their own form. Do what you think makes you the happiest, embrace that joy and your love of life. Happiness is attainable, just keep putting a little work in at a time, and before you know it, life will be a lot better and your pursuit of happiness will feel more like a path you can continue walking every day. There are great people, your age who are out there waiting to meet your joyous and happy self. Rock it!

[@feminization-lab]

Yes! You can totally transition happily as an adult! I transitioned as an adult and I have been very happy! Shout out from Feminization Lab!

[@moshimode]

Thank you so much for this video. the bits on text on the screen at the end and what you've said is very comforting in these times. I'm above 18 (only just) so this specific change doesn't apply to me but I feel so terrible for all the younger trans people out there now. It's truly devastating. but you can't just ignore it and pretend it's all fine. So thank you for talking about this.

[@Gingerprince521]

The worst thing about transitioning as an adult is the NHS wait times. I was 44 when I got referred to a GIC in 2019. It was July 22 before I got my first appointment with a second to follow after six months. That second appointment was sept 23. Then was told should be ok to go on to HRT following a blood test. That happened Jan 24. It took until 25/4 for them to be processed and to be told I now need to have an appointment with a nurse to discuss the results. To date I'm still waiting for that appointment. I will say this video and the comments his still giving me hope in a time of frustration.

[@slewtz]

I started at 32 and it is the reason why I am still here. I have never been happier!

[@darthdov]

I rarely comment on videos, but I felt like I had to on this one. You might not like talking about the negative things that are going on with regards to trans issues in the UK, but I feel like videos like this are important, if only to remind people that they are not alone, and that there is hope that they can be happy even if things like HRT treatments are delayed. For various reasons I didn't come out as Trans until my late 30's (although apparently my friends know me to well, the general reaction was one of "finally") and now at nearly 42 I've been on hormones for 3 months, and the last 5 years or so since coming out and starting to socially transition I have been happy for what feels like the first time in my life (there have also been negatives, my dad no longer speaks to me, I had to change job, but I'm lucky that I have very supportive friends, and my knew workplace has been amazing,) so its never too late and everyone deserves to be happy being themselves.

[@its_hawk]

Hey young cisn’t person here times are really scary right now and thank you for this video. Really gives me hope

[@DarkPriestessLucee]

I find it hard to believe that kids were getting on blockers with the 15 year waiting lists.

[@hammerth1421]

83 people, apparently. Eighty-fucking-three people.

[@alice1374]

@@hammerth1421 Conservatives for you. I despise the lot of them!

[@Olivia-zh1sj]

Thank you so much for this video icky, I didn’t know I needed to hear this as an adult 🥺

[@AJ-em2rb]

this stuff's important. i'm not in the UK but still want to say thank you for discussing it and spreading awareness!

[@Lauren.j.m]

The conservative party here in Canada have started talking about this now with a federal election coming up next year. My child is 15 and gender fluid and has talked about wanting to speak to our GP about puberty blockers. My partner and I are okay with them starting if the GP says okay. They want to evaluate their gender for themselves. I'm very tired of gender politics.