Capitalism Hits Home: Patriarchy, A crippling Legacy for Men and Women

[@itzenormous]

Dr. Fraad's analysis is right on point. As a man, I've experienced many of these feelings and symptoms of alienation myself. Feelings of inadequacy and not feeling 'good enough' are direct results of the alienation that workers experience after losing a good job, or in not being able to procure adequate income. Then, the childhood trauma that many men have experienced, at the hands of their fathers or other family members, have fed a level of dysfunction that is only exacerbated by the current economic conditions. This all stems from the misery inflicted on all of us by Capitalism.

[@MrDXRamirez]

Mmmm -- I can only imagine. Boys in America do lack good role models. So many fell subject to the predators of the institutions society praised as the answer to millions of displaced children. A boy with a home and a boy without a home were victimized the same by predators in different clothing. 2.3 million boys in the Boy Scouts, roughly the same number of boys serve as altar boys in the Catholic Church. The number of children transported by train from Ellis Island by orhanages placed several thousand boys and girls with Mid West Farmers. Abuse and neglect was not illegal in Ohio until 1974 with the passage of the Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA). A entire generation mostly dead now never saw the light of day of such a law. Their lives as victims of institutional and family abuse/neglect from the day they were placed into foster and residential placement waiting for adoption, is one big traumatizing nightmare, a night of the hunter. The well adjusted are in the minority. The same abuses and neglect at the hands of the State occur and reoccur in new form, i.e., containment camps of migrant children in the custody of ICE that died. Boys are victims and to be masculine in American society is to be a victimizer and re-victimize in a recurring cycle the same patterns of abuse and neglect learned from a society that abstains from nurturance and guidance.

[@1LaOriental]

Big G Haywood Well said. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I just found out yesterday that my brother lost his job... He is 64. My heart aches for him..

[@stormthrush37]

6:44 - Yes, you're so right on target with how we as men are trained from such a young age not to feeling basically anything except pride and rage, and how in a supposedly free country we are trapped in gender roles.

[@Spiral.Dynamics]

BLAIR M Schirmer This is known as “The Mother wound” and this wound is what began the suppression of the divine feminine. It’s the narcissism of all children who are learning their mothers aren’t perfect and begin to resent it. Once we heal this wound we can integrate the masculine and feminine. kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZW4o2SOba2lgdU

[@zachandsavvy]

All these butthurt comments are basically confirmation that she's right on

[@itzenormous]

That's what reactionaries do. Instead of taking any time to reconsider any of their ingrained positions, or learning the context and the proper background information, they just REACT!! This illustrates a level of impulsiveness, self-righteousness and stupidity. An inability to rethink your worldview, and to accept that you have been lied to and manipulated all along is a symptom of pride, which usually goes hand-in-hand with stupidity.

[@jabestur]

I mean holy shit what a dumpster fire this comment section.

[@bumblebee9337]

@@jabestur This is KZbin comments. Did you expect a tea party?

[@stevenpadilla4294]

I can tell you never worked a hard day in your life or else you would defend that fact that men sacrifice everything to provide for their families. Just because you dont hear them bitchin , you think they are enjoying themselves?

[@zachandsavvy]

@@stevenpadilla4294 women work just as hard as men do, plus they have to deal with man-babies like you insisting you're the end-all-be-all and that they should give you respect you haven't earned. Check your male privilege, chum-o.

[@GoodStarfish]

Male here, I thought you nailed it. Great job and enjoyable listening. Solidarity, y'all.

[@TaiwanLife2024]

You shouldn't associate your appreciation for her with gender.

[@GoodStarfish]

@@TaiwanLife2024 I just wanted to illustrate, from my perspective, that her analysis was spot on. I agree with you, ultimately. For context, I am a man oftem mistaken for gay and trans, and have been subject to toxic masculinity in unique ways that make me forever grateful for an excellent critique and analysis, especially from women. If I were to say all of these things, I think my audiance would be largely male, and unfairly critical of me.

[@GoodStarfish]

@Goldie OThere's so many factors that play into our perception of movements, history and societal trauma. I would certainly not throw a whole generation under the bus, as they grew up pressured by their forebears to have simular conclusions and without collaborative education and real expirience, some tend to draw their own simple, Reactionary conclusions. Institutional power is the manipulative force that refuses a more thoughtful, critical approach to recognizing oppression in its multiple forms. From my perspective, people have become more susceptible to others conditions when confronted in person, but our world has become so alienated and overwhelming that to approach your neighborhood about the institutional mistruths immediately frustrates them, but the mere act of approach brings them a sort of respect for your audacity.

[@bernardheathaway9146]

Thank you!

[@floro7687]

You must remember that money used to be solidified male sweat!

[@MichaeldeSousaCruz]

There’s a reason why men haven’t had a movement, and it’s simple. Women, especially “mothers”, have an ideology of “I can have it all, work and be a mom”. To celebrate “stay-at-home dads”, or fathers who do more child care than mothers, would then belittle these mothers who work. And these dads want to stay with their partners, correct? Otherwise the children suffer.

[@ganondorfdragmire7886]

The concept of patriarchy frustrates me because it implies a superior value in men, and yet oligarchy is really far more accurate for describing our system in the US. I won't suggest that women are treated equally here. They aren't. But sexism in the US is an issue embedded in classism, and just as with racism, there are plenty of rich evil people of a variety of backgrounds. I admittedly am biased, since I'm a guy who's had to sit through being told that my penis, coupled with my skin color and sexuality, makes me an inherently bad person.

[@_tarrvis758]

Don't be biased. You know that last argument, in earnest, is ridiculous. However, it is important to recognize that being a white male, you have privilege. It's important to be cognizant of that so you can use it to help others who do not have it. Just because black people talk about entrenched white power and women talk about entrenched male power, does not mean they're talking about you specifically. But it would enable to structures of power to persist if you get defensive and therefore ignore, or downplay, the severity of their oppression.

[@CodeKyoko]

I agree. While her example of the increase of women in american politics since the 1980's is a step in the right direction these women didn't achieve their respective positions in power solely because of an increase in the social worth of womanly qualities. Most of them achieve this status from the starting point of a certain economic class. While they are voted in, at least partly due to their marketability as women (evidence of an increase in the social value of women, or at least the image of women), they are also there due to their willingness to play the game. Which is rigged.

[@jabestur]

I am an "inherently bad person" is never the right takeaway from theorizing about patriarchy or white supremacy. These are structures just like capitalism. Nowhere in this video does the author claim that you should feel guilty for being a man. Moreover, she emphasizes how our particular form of patriarchy is linked with capitalism. I mean think about why men might often feel soley responsible for a decent wage while being unable to express their suffering with others. Would it have anything to do with the individualistic morality embedded in capitalist ideology that blames each person for their failures to receive high wages?

[@jabestur]

@@scottysbottom5769 jesus nobody knows how to read Haha. Where did I deny the existence of white priviledge? Thomas Sowell is trash. So too is the bootstrap aspect of capitalist ideology. White privilege is real. Black people's oppression is not the same as white peoples. Oppression is intersectional and unique. I believe all of this and its consistent with my post. Nice homophobia there bud

[@ganondorfdragmire7886]

@@_tarrvis758 I'm not being disingenuous, and I don't think it's a divisive claim to suggest that racism and sexism, in the US, are issues embedded within classism. That isn't meant to undermine their significance either, but rather to add modern context. I'd go as far as to say that Trump's old school racist/sexist brand of fascism was intentionally used to make the new neoliberal brand of fascism, where racial and sexual equality are touted while classist divides are pushed to their extremes, more desirable by comparison. "Just because black people talk about entrenched white power and women talk about entrenched male power, does not mean they're talking about you specifically." "I am an "inherently bad person" is never the right takeaway" Hold on fellas. You're putting words in my mouth. I was citing an example where I was specifically told in person that, "You are a bad person inherently because you're white, male, and straight." This is something that happened to me personally, not something from the video, and I acknowledge that it's anecdotal and doesn't capture the norm. I also acknowledge the bias that this causes. I don't disagree with the video. On average, minorities and women in the US are worse off, often grossly. But classism isn't embedded in those things (rather, it's the other way around). There are rich people who sell their own kind just for wealth. A female governor just banned abortion in Alabama. A black president deported more immigrants and bombed more civilians that any other in US history while expanding poverty. Take it easy Scotty. I don't think your helping to make your case.

[@tonchev88]

I guess patriarchy means something different in America. Also, I think patriarchy precedes capitalism and is destroyed by capitalism (just as it was destroyed by socialism in the Eastern block). Both capitalism and socialism look the same to me - they both agree money is everything and the only argument is who should hold it. I don't think traditional patriarchal societies put money in the center of human existence as much as you folks in the west do.

[@SlackKeyPaddy]

Sounds like a bunch of feminist stereotypical b.s. to me, but Ms Harriet only sees the disfunction of relationships in her 'therapeutic' world view , I guess.

[@zozmachine]

Two TRILLION dollars

[@mpress469]

Patriarchy is a natural extension of a matriarchy. One can not exist without the other as they follow one another throughout the course of all eternity. Spiritually speaking (gender and race aside), matriarchy begins with a fundamental understanding of the cyclical nature of reality (God). Represented by the snake in many creation myths, the living cycle has a trinity of a beginning (head), a middle and end (tail). As above so below, the sexes were created in the image of God's cyclical nature where Mother is the head and opening to all beginnings and Father holds the tail to all endings (through which the sowing of seeds allow for the next great matriarchal rebirth).The joining of the two (symbolized by the Ouroborus or the marriage ring) is the sacred union needed in assuring the creation and continuation of new life cycles. To speak of the present day God as "Our Father" is simply an admission to our collective positioning within the bigger cycle. As all mothers have direct experience with the creator quality of birthing, so is the direct experience of rebirthing the divinity within (baptism) belong to that which is spiritually matriarchal. (John 3, verse 3-8). Sekhmet (ancient Egyptian) statues carry most of their weight in symbolic memory of what was a mother culture dedicated to the direct experience of baptism. As the leg shaped hairlocks extend from maternal breasts to the womb of rebirth, the lioness's head proportions are such that they highlight the bust of a second animal figure. The Lioness's ears as eyes and eyes as nose (nostrils) brings to life the figure of a reptile. 'Neath the halo headress of the solar egg, the lioness's egg fertilization process being internal (Set) and the reptile's egg fertilization process being external (Setting), such being key components to the safety of entering the trans-egoic or "born again" state. The life-threatening fear associated with the predatory nature of a lion and/or crocodile encounter is reflective of the intense ego death experiences associated with the trans-personal awakening process. In spiritually matriarchal times, illumination could be seen as wearing the false beard (ancient funerary ego death mask) as the high state of cyclical self knowing; high awareness of both our upper matriarchal half and our lower (later) patriarchal half (compared with a mini lower body replica, an "as above so below" tail end beard extension); in full recognition of her civilizational Underworld - her inevitable cyclical destiny. The male pharaoh wears his beard tapered in reverse, indicating a pointing upwards towards the patriarchal head, divine representative of God's tail end cycle. Mary's anointing and wiping of Jesus's feet with her hair can then be seen as "head to tail" (toe) imagery as she descends her matriarchal head to his patriarchal feet, thus reenacting the high understanding of the divine cyclical process. (John 12, Verse 3) To carry the Ankh (now the female symbol ♀️) was perhaps to symbolically carry that upper and lower understanding. As the upper matriarchal womb symbolised the fertile birthing of civilization, below, the now Christian cross is carried to place emphasis on the lower (later) "End Times" Father principle of the great cycle. Ganesh, the elephant headed Hindu diety, displays a cyclical head to trunk symbolism and points to the Mother head of his matriarchal elephant society. Ganesh (like the elephant) wears God's cyclical nature on his face. A whole temple was dedicated to Hathor (ancient Egyptian diety) who is the matriarchal "Uterus" personified. kzbin.info/www/bejne/gGHQYa2AiKp5gZI "See all women as mothers, serve them as your mother. When you see the entire world as the mother, the ego falls away. See everything as Mother and you will know God" - Neem Karoli Baba "My son, keep thy father's commandment and forsake not the law of thy mother" - Proverbs 6 : 20

[@zndxn]

My female coworker said next to me after overhearing this video, "So go to school and get a better job. I'm not about that feminine crap." What should I tell her?

[@spoonikle]

Zane D - no need to mansplain lel. KEK. if she wants to believe that this is a just world, she can.

[@willia3r]

Tell that stoopid broad that women like her are the reason why the western world is experiencing a negative birthrate and are about to be overtaken by China & Russia. And if her idiotic female brain cant recognize the bigger picture just walk around and let her drown in her own fallacious reasoning.

[@itzenormous]

She's a victim blamer. It's your fault, and so on and so forth.

[@bluewater454]

Tell her she is smarter than any feminist you have ever met. Then congratulate her for not playing a victim in a society where women have more opportunities than at any time in history(in western society, at least).

[@bluewater454]

@@itzenormous She isnt a "victim blamer". She is someone who simply knows she _isnt_ a victim. Good for her. Smarter than anyone in this comment thread.

[@miaa7097]

Plz make your video with no comments. You are attracting trolls hun

[@sacredheartalumni4741]

HORSE CRAP! I wish the person in the video visited Asia or middle east. Women rights are the best in western countries. I believe personal responsibility and bad decisions are the reasons why people fail in life.

[@CodeKyoko]

I missed the part where she said anything about Asia or the Middle East having better women's rights.

[@willia3r]

women are emotional and not logical and they teach that illogical thinking to the kids who grow up to be just as emotional and not logical. _Feminism = _*_FAILURE_* That is why the western world is experiencing negative birthrates and negative reproduction rates. Women are not held accountable and not held responsible in this system, not in the slightest. The Family courts will give a crackhead mother dominant paternity rights over a sober responsible father. And that's just one example of this messed up system. That's also why no one is reproducing anymore. Once again: _Feminism = _*_FAILURE_*

[@jabestur]

@@willia3r I wonder if theres a word to describe a society where men are often not viewed as sufficiently competent caretakers while women are viewed as nurturing. A word which also describes how these gendered characteristics serve to oppress one gender but which actually harm both. And if only somebody would make a video making exactly that case. Its almost like maybe then we might get closer to understanding bias in family court. Oh well

[@CodeKyoko]

@@willia3r So declining birthrates are due solely to women being "illogical"? Wouldn't a women acting strictly through emotion have more children? I would think that the fact that 78% of americans live paycheck to paycheck and can't afford to pursue the family model that they grew up with and that is expected of them comes in to play at least a little bit. That coupled with the fact that it's not necessary for people in developed nations to have as many offspring because they aren't relying on them as a source of labour like you see in rural american families a few generations back. Families would also have more babies because they were more likely to die of various diseases (Smallpox, Measles, Influenza). Not to mention that Birthrates in the US are HIGHER than in China and the annual number of children born in the US has INCREASED since 1950. Honestly, I don't see why so many people are hung up on fertility rates as a metric of social health seeing as it leaves out factors such as child mortality and life expectancy. While it is true that women's education is at least correlated to if not indicative of a decrease in the amount of children they birth it also leads to a decrease in both child mortality and adolescent pregnancy.

[@CodeKyoko]

@@willia3r Also, given that your example of the crackhead mother winning dominant paternity over a sober responsible father is true, it can easily be read as an example of Patriarchy not Feminism. If it were deemed more socially acceptable for a man to take on the traditionally feminine role of caregiver (i.e. a dismantling and revaluation of gender roles) then more sober fathers would win paternity rights.

[@happygilmore8534]

Learned victimhood. Don't listen to these psychopaths!

[@itzenormous]

Actually buddy, your lack of understanding and analysis, and your hotheaded reaction illustrates that it's YOU who is probably the psychopath … or other Cluster B personality.

[@0MVR_0]

If a victim has been slighted, there is no shame in acknowledging so.