Caregivers I Problems Faced & How to overcome Stress I Morning Bytes

[@praseedaa]

Thank you ma'am. it was like you were talking just for me. Going through a very exhausting phase,with both parents fracturing their hips back to back, further falls,tantrums et al.and things are at the challenging best right now,with no time for kids(ofcourse they are grown ups), no time to relax or for a proper sleep..It was a wonderful soothing short session.. Thank you 🙏..Much love from Kerala.

[@GitasKitchen]

Absolutely. It takes a lot to face these challenging times

[@nandiniks2949]

Your words are very affectionate and consoling reassuring as my own mother,

[@radhavenkatakrishnan1748]

Heard your soothing talk. It was Godsend. I was feeling frustrated and irritable after having completed all my daily chores, leaving one last task of changing diapers for my aged mother with dementia. In fact, I have a day time Attender for my mother, besides a 24x7 Attender for my father aged 89 years. I have a Cook too and a maid. Believe me, in spite of all this, it gets very difficult at times as managing all these people is a challenge in itself. Thank you for the encouraging talk which helped me bounce back to normal. 🙏

[@seethanagesh4279]

I understand ur plight as most of us go through these ordeals Take care dear

[@ikp5159]

You will be tremendously blessed..I have gone through this..pray that God blesses you with good health

[@swaminisumatmananda1806]

Many are in exactly the same situation. Despite all the support staff we have , we get overwhelmed, irritable and hyper anxious because of the sense of responsibility/. It’s strong karma and one has to face it and go through it bravely and with detachment. Listening to Gitajis talk was so comforting , just to know someone understands and took the trouble of shooting a beautiful video on this topic - is a gift. Best wishes to all.

[@GitasKitchen]

Be strong and do your best

[@arunaagarwal9668]

Ihavefacedsameproblem

[@amitap2025]

Ma'm , i think the stress gets compunded when you have to be a caregiver for a difficult elderly person ... My MIL has fractured her shoulder and knee due to a fall and is recovering in my home . Relations with her were never very good..She is highly obsessed with her son even till date and was very upset when he married me ( it was a love marriage ). In the initial days she & my fil stayed with us and she tried her best to create problems and a rift. Even now , she constantly badmouths me and my parents for no reason. She is the same way with her extended family too . Constantly fights with her husband too. In fact they never talk unless it is about food or the kids. Now that I am faced with this situation , I try and take it one day at a time , exercise a bit and keep my interaction with her very matter of fact and minimum. I think it is easier when we have to take care of a loved one as compared to when you have to take care of someone with whom u have difficult relations ... the only way to do it properly is to be detached and treat it as a duty ...I just left like leaving this comment ...bcoz i am in this situation for the last couple of months .

[@jayanthiswaminathan6210]

You are strong. Yes it is indeed difficult to handle a person who is not so loving towards you. But all said and done you must be yourself and answer your conscience. If your conscience asks you to do your duty, please do it. You will be peaceful. Take every day afresh. Keep going.

[@renukapatankar2185]

You are a very strong person ❤️ Hats off to your sense of duty & responsibility... It is an un acknowledged fact that caregiving for a person with whom you have no emotional connect is several times more taxing than care giving for a person whom you love.... The entire task drains away much of one's will to live life fully and tests one's faith constantly.... The situation is always seen and judged by the scale of the social interpretation of the relationship (between the caregiver & the sick person) rather than the real relationship.... As a person sailing in the same boat, sending you love, hugs & healing energy ✨🙏 Though I haven't figured out a way to replenish the energy that's drained every single day, I am trying to hold on to my faith 💫

[@srzo22]

Yes true.

[@srzo22]

​@@jayanthiswaminathan6210 Yes. Same situation for me too. All other sons nicely utilized My MIL. That time I am out of family. But now since she aged they washed their hands and shifted her to my house. So don't feel bad. Do not except love from other end. Just do duty and be happy with your loved ones.

[@swatiparekhji]

I have gone through the same situation when my mil got a stroke and was bed ridden for 2 yrs.

[@misssujakannan]

Every word is true! Beautiful message. It’s quite exhausting and stressful but equally fulfilling. No one really talks about this and especially the guilt. Sometimes I do feel miserable spending the best part of my years tending to someone while others are enjoying their lives and the guilt is very real and painful. But very true: it’s all Gods will and our choice to care and love our loved ones.

[@pratimanayak163]

Exactly my feelings. Am doing my best, but it has been a long 20 years that I am a caregiver with no support. But accepting as God’s will.

[@shanthisahadevan9746]

I am looking after 3 dogs, including a paralysed one and 2 cats. Feeding strays twice a day too. Sometimes feel overwhelmed .

[@anitaanand9071]

Yes, I too went through the same thing, it was very overwhelming 😢 though I had all the necessary help

[@nikitabaljekar7120]

Dear Geeta aunty , I don't know you personally, but I love your nice videos🎉 This one was also excellent 🎉 Wise, kind, mature , ...like a mother talking to her daughter 🎉 But just a few things: 1. When a mother takes care of her child , she knows that she has to do this for maximum 4 or 5 years and then children soon become independent. They have to because the mom cannot accompany them everywhere: to the school, playground, friends 'house, etc. But while caring for an aging parent , one never knows whether the loved one will be around till they are 80, or 85 or 90 or 95.....😢 Also while handling our children when they are infants our age is generally between 20 to 30 or 35🎉 But while handling aged parents etc, the caregiver son/ daughter are themselves 60 or 65 etc and the dear old sick or ailing or bedridden parent is 85 or 90. Makes a lot of difference 🎉😢😊🙏🙏🙏🎊🎉💜💛♥️💙💕💕

[@anitaanand9071]

You are absolutely 💯 correct 😢😢

[@GitasKitchen]

Very true.

[@bhavanisridhar9971]

Thank you Gita mam. I hv also undergone with all these. My father-in-law was 97 yrs old when he passed away. Before that he was in coma for almost a month. We did our best and the best support i got from my children especially from my daughter -in-law. As you said i was very cool and took care if myself too. Such a nice video it was. Once again thank you. I like all your video.

[@jocyleenfernandes578]

Mrs Geeta, your talks inspires us

[@janakipadma988]

Food for thought Madam! Some years ago, I faced a similar situation.And the caregiver suffers from the trauma when the loved persons succumb to the inevitable! A degree of spiritual detachment is necessary but it comes late.Thank you for articulating my thoughts.

[@GitasKitchen]

Very true

[@meenas4027]

Thank you amma; I needed to hear this today. I was particularly overwhelmed with all the chaos in my life. What you said is correct; one does need to care of one's own health in the midst of caring for others.

[@ShankarNarayanan-in2gq]

Well spoken Mam I was undergoing this for 8 years when my mother was old Very few people understand this difficulty of care giver In that time I used to get irritated with everybody

[@kviswanathan3051]

Such a true message. I too have gone through this since the past so many years. But I have always served everyone with love and care. At 70, I am taking care of my m-in-law, aged 94. We have to do our duty. Very inspiring. Mrs. Viswanathan. 👌👌

[@GitasKitchen]

So inspiring Mrs Viswanathan. even at this age such a great example for all

[@kviswanathan3051]

@@GitasKitchen Thank you, madam.🙏🙏. Mrs Viswanathan

[@geetarichard3362]

Well said Mam !! Thank you

[@gtha630]

Mam, you have talked on behalf of so many people. It’s our moral conscious to take care of them but sometimes they don’t realize it. It’s our karma.

[@Bigbrains1305]

Ma’am you are best , I take great inspirations from you

[@geethanatarajan9426]

u r really Amazing person.. Luv u loads Mam..Food for thought

[@GitasKitchen]

Thanks a ton

[@bharathib2365]

Yes amma it's very true.

[@gitaananthanarayanan9271]

I was feeling down when I heard your talk . Thanks for your talk

[@anjalijoshi6673]

Very informative tips. Thank you madam.

[@mitulshivyogi380]

Pranam Amma,🙏you explained so well........this comes in our lives we have to do our duties.......gone thru this for many people in my lives.........My parents ,My aunts ,and my uncles .....all in 1 family itself MANY have gone and this still ,it's there.........

[@GitasKitchen]

Yes, correct. Its really admirable that you have done so much for so many .. God bless you

[@annesomasundaram261]

Thank you for your words of wisdom.. I wish I heard this 19 years ago when I looked after my m-i-l. I struggled with 3 children and a full-time job. I was exasperated at times by her sturboness as she had Alzheimers, but I wish I could have done more.. she was a good person. Thank you for your encouraging words and for helping people to cope. Watching from Australia.

[@GitasKitchen]

You have done better than your best Im sure

[@venivelu4547]

Madam, thankyou🙏🙏

[@vanitk5078]

Excellent video Mam.Vazthukkal .

[@swatiparekhji]

5I have been taking care of my mom for the past 15 yrs. She is 97 now, a psychiatric patient and very difficult to handle of late.I myself suffered from depression few yrs ago but managed to come out of it after great effort. But I have got IBS for the past 6yrs due to high stress level as my mil was also bed ridden for 2 yrs due to a stroke and i had to care for both of them. Fortunately the hired help was good and took care of my mil.

[@GitasKitchen]

You must have found it very difficult . Its great that you have come out of it Do take care of yourself too

[@udeettachopra5203]

A very important topic... A truth... A Fact..discussed by you... Great solutions.. Sp the last line... Its a nesessity not luxury👍..besides this maam ur saree is beautiful ❤️...

[@chandrashekharjakhalekar1746]

Very Nice information/ Guidelines.

[@GitasKitchen]

Many many thanks

[@lalithaviswanadha4765]

हhello Gita ji u explain such a wonderful way u always motivates us thank you so much stay blessed n support us

[@ambikakumari530]

Nice subject 👍

[@GitasKitchen]

Thanks 🙂

[@preeetiaiyar]

Dear aunty, your words are so comforting and full of wisdom. Thank you for making these videos.

[@gowrirao9285]

Very good suggestions and advice madam,it is so soothing and reassuring for many, thank you so much😊

[@sunitaeaswar6879]

This is your best and most useful video till date Gitaji...

[@nkashketchum]

Ma'am, thank you so much for sharing 🙏. You are awesome, you are very inspiring 👍

[@GitasKitchen]

My pleasure 😊

[@pushpaanand2736]

Very nice words as always!!! Made me to recall My post pregnancy!!! 1st child my grandmother …. Along taking care of my baby Partially my father in law …. He had a peaceful end… 2nd baby Post pregnancy My mother almost for 6 years Ufffff!!!!! Last my mother in law…. She passed away 4 months back . Reading below comments I salute every human who have crossed this phase And many thanks to You for choosing this topic👍🏻 Failed in taking care of myself 😫 Now to add… taking care of my dad… feel very proud of myself!!!

[@sharonjohn9430]

Going through PP is really hard enough but you’ve done much more. Pat yourself on the back dear🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@pushpaanand2736]

@@sharonjohn9430 True But Suffering like hell now health wise Thanks It’s all written and our service n gratitude to our people 🙏🏻

[@GitasKitchen]

hats off !

[@pallavigokhale5536]

Real problem real solutions. Thanks

[@swatibiwalkar2219]

Thank you soooo much Amma... me in tears...

[@misssujakannan]

God bless him!

[@swatibiwalkar2219]

@@misssujakannan Thank you so much!!

[@sandhyabalakrishnan867]

Thank you Geeta Ma'am for your thoughtful,soothing & encouraging words. We are so stressed that we forget there is a world beyond us where many are like us .❤❤

[@GitasKitchen]

Yes, you are right

[@jayanthiswaminathan6210]

A wonderful video posted by you Gita madam. Each one of us will face such situations in our lives at some time or the other where we have to be caregivers. That is God's way of telling us to show our love and empathy to others. Though it comes with a lot of mental, physical and financial stress, we need to accept such situations also as part of life and do our duties to the best of abilities. Your talks are truly inspiring madam and the background looks lovely too.

[@GitasKitchen]

Well said

[@maithreyeeshanmugam3868]

தமிழில் பேசலாமே

[@mrunalinigadgil1962]

Very much coorrect

[@mrunalinigadgil1962]

ITS ABSOLUTELY CORRECT

[@mrunalinigadgil1962]

ESHWARECHCHA BALIYASI... SOCHKEHI CHALNA PADEGA ASYOU SAID IT IN VERY CORRECT AND SIMPLE WAY

[@vidyarajkumar9274]

Excellent motivational talk mam ❤

[@padmaravindran2005]

Your conclusion is marvellous❤

[@sreepadmanekkanti994]

Nice, reality, love you volg

[@savithrisekhar5976]

Dear Geeta madam, just now I watched your latest video about how to overcome stress. As you said Acceptance is very correct, relaxing ourselves by watching tv, listening to music is very true.i myself is undergoing the same situation, i do my duty, pray to God to give me good health to take care both, & doing service thinking she is a goddess in my house.it was very soothing to listen to your suggestions. God is great.May God bless you. Om Sairam Om Sairam Om Sairam.🙏🙏🙏

[@GitasKitchen]

Sairam . You are doing the best way

[@padmaravindran2005]

For those of us who are being taken care of by others, your video is an eye opener.

[@deecee9548]

Thank you for your comment! It's something that is rarely heard by the ones who are caretakers

[@padmaravindran2005]

@@deecee9548 for many, Life flows one way only!

[@hemalathavasanth268]

After long time Amma

[@chandraviswanthan1011]

Very soothing words

[@ramalakshmiramasamy151]

Of course Mam we had also undergone this situation..... Anyways I managed when my Mom met with an accident and now she is good. But when we hired a caregiver as I was working and preparing for an exam which was a crucial time to look after my family... Those caregivers don't know anything . instead there was utterly no use of hiring them even for the support and of course we had done the same job... Total waste of money and they are not qualified caregivers where they don't understand the physical and psychological well-being of the patient. And this is absolutely a business which is certainly commercialised where most of the caregivers are irresponsible and out of their limits to use the house as if it was their own when we are not in the house. That was embarrassing. Then we stopped all those caregivers and continued our job. I mean to say many people are doing this business for elderly care in a commercialised way and is utterly benefit for them and not for the patients.This is obviously wrong to play with elderly care by making it as a business.

[@GitasKitchen]

Very unfortunate situation indeed

[@JayashreeBadrinath]

So beautifully put together. I come back and hear this again and again when I lose motivation

[@GitasKitchen]

Happy to hear that!

[@jaihanumanjiful]

I have been caregiver for 6 family members one by one till last year my husband and pet dog died within 4 months gap. My late father was Alzheimer patient. I used to be like head nurse. Anyways, I have taken care of myself by chanting naam smaran and sometime for stitching as my passion. It gave me for Relaxation.

[@GitasKitchen]

You are such a beautiful soul. So inspiring Thank you

[@noopur143]

❤

[@KhwabonKiAwaz]

👌

[@santhoshiroopa3520]

👌👍

[@saisbookshelf2688]

Thank you mam

[@manjushajoshi4637]

My mother in law was totally bedriden for fifteen years, unable to unfoldhed legs while removing orwearing adult diperor eating, like her I have cared for seven old people, for somebody adviced me while leaving the world soul needs assured helping hand that might be yours so i have overcame safely with God and persons blessings

[@GitasKitchen]

You are truly blessed so much to learn from you

[@atmajabeaumont2479]

Aum namah sivaya Dear Gitaji, Thank you for another sincere and helpful video. Though not easy, we benefit from being caregivers. We also need care and encouragement and this video provides that. I watch your videos from the US because I'm inspired by the sacrifice and contribution you make for us. Of all things to watch on KZbin, I know that Gita's Kitchen will be wholesome and I will learn something. Thank you. 🙏🏼🩷

[@seethalakshmi87]

Soooooper message was given by u mam. Thank u verymuch for yr motivational speech🙌🏻👌👌👌👌👌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😀😀😀

[@srzo22]

Thank you mam. Very nice msg. Please do the video of senior citizen homes/ old age homes . When kids were in abroad. How we can enjoy after 60+ years.

[@kusumas.r.1307]

Thanks for this paati.i had taken care of my fil very well when he was bedridden

[@GitasKitchen]

So nice of you

[@renukapatankar2185]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic amma... This is something which needs to be spoken about more so that some support (in any form) can be extended to the caregivers to lighten their burden in some way.... 🙏💫

[@srinivasannarayanan1113]

Namaste mam.Thanks for choosing the need of the topic caregivers stress. I am sure your soothing words provide a great comfort and best tonic for the caregivers inspite of the challenges they have undergone.Wonderful vlog.

[@geethasundaram5496]

Beautifully said and very practical. Especially the last words. I too faced a similar situation when my mother had a hip fracture. I took the help of an attendant since I was working. But even today I still feel I could hv taken better care of her or my father both of whom are no m😞

[@shruthi_narasimhan2008]

Namaste maam today's video was soothing. You told about the care for your MIL, even I felt the same .

[@rajams.r4487]

Gitamma, it's true that your words are applicable for caregivers that too home makers(Ladies) at each and every home.

[@thirumagalr3194]

Excellent Madam. Every word is true. Thank you.

[@akilasriraman4852]

Beautiful message. Thanks for stressing on the important fact that caregiver has to take care of his physical and mental health also which is often forgotten. Timely reminder. Many thanks

[@seethanagesh4279]

Thanks Geeta ma. Always ur morning bytes comes in roght time n gives lot of solace.👍🙏

[@vq2vx]

Love that you covered the range of emotions, especially the negative, that are possible & often happen on most people's part. You are truly wise 🙏

[@Praveen-kh3zw]

Gita ji, I wish I could bow down to you and take your blessings. You told the Golden words. Many a times I also felt the question"why me" with no answers coming in. You helped me improve my perspective. I am taking care of my mother who is 80 years. I have no one to support as I am not married. I need to go out and work as well as take care of my mother. It is very challenging. Thank you so much.

[@GitasKitchen]

You are most welcome. We all go through this at some time in our lives. It is very challenging indeed. But remember we are also human and we can do the best we can. Prayers can work wonders

[@chandrikavijayan4504]

Good message.I liked the video very much.I myself have gone through this many times.

[@ramanair5779]

Thank you Gita akka for your wise advice.

[@GitasKitchen]

You're most welcome

[@sandhyatambe1429]

Lovely vlog Inspiring 😊

[@GitasKitchen]

Thank you so much 😊

[@nehameher2040]

You are always amazing Gitaji

[@GitasKitchen]

Thank you so much 😀

[@aryapr8788]

👌👌 pls do some more video s like this amma

[@GitasKitchen]

Sure 😊

[@aryapr8788]

@@GitasKitchen thankyou

[@namratanavalkar3796]

Thank you so much ma'am. I was really feeling very low and probably that's why God brought this video before me. It really is so frustrating not being able to do anything to improve their condition and seeing them deteriorating in front of your eyes. Listening to you felt as though God only was reassuring me. Thanks a lot l will definitely follow what you said ❤

[@GitasKitchen]

Have Faith . It gives a lot of strength

[@vijayalakshmithulasidasan9108]

Super video mam. Thank you

[@GitasKitchen]

Welcome 😊

[@jayachitti]

Thank you so much, nice words

[@anitaprakash1279]

Well explained 👏👏,thank you mam

[@varshavaran2558]

Amma, my mom has become bedridden due to fall last week. I am alone with my 9 year old son. No support. I am working also. No maid or cook. Totally exhausted mentally and physically. But just doing my dharma trusting in Lord Narayana. Just Trusting him. Please pray for my mother's speedy recovery

[@GitasKitchen]

Ww all pray for your mother's speedy recovery Varsha. I know it can be very exhausting managing on your own. Try to reduce your personal workload by making only simple meals . May Guruvayurappa bless you and family

[@varshavaran2558]

@@GitasKitchen Thanks a lot for your advice amma. I am learning to manage everything myself and praying. Thanks for your reply

[@evoz4489]

You look so beautiful in this sari

[@sujananittur6655]

Very true ....thanq so...much for your guiding and soothing words ! Excellent video!!

[@GitasKitchen]

You're most welcome

[@NPPREMA]

Thank you so much for this lovely video Gita ma'am. I was doing this caregiving for my parents from time to time when they were alive. Now when I think back, I feel grateful for the opportunity to shower my love and care when they needed it most. As you correctly said, I too wonder if I could have done more. Now, my 95 year old MIL will be coming to live with us. She is in good health and does her self care independently but this video has given me a good reminder if at all a situation comes up in future (though I pray that she remains well ) ❤

[@GitasKitchen]

Wonderful to know that you have taken good care of your parents ,Our prayers that your mothering law stays healthy

[@amrutavelankar5879]

Similarly can you cover topic for parenting specially on 5-8 years age group. Now days kids don't want to listen parents and don't want to do self study . how to manage everything . Please create video on same

[@GitasKitchen]

I have alreadybdonea couple of videos on parenting and good manners in children Please see my channel playlist for search on vitas kitchen yt

[@swatiparekhji]

Mam when u say ask for help its not that easy, in a city like Mumbai. Hired help is available but the rates for trained and good quality people are astronomical( I have one of late but she too is leaving.)

[@GitasKitchen]

I agree . Prices are high. what I meant was, asking help from immediate family if possible

[@sowmyalifeisbeautiful6128]

Hi mam I am married for 14 years. I take care of my in laws and my husband well. My in laws stay in hometown. We stay in city. Every time whenever my mother in law visits us she wants what ever we have at home. Example electric kettle. She does not us it in home town but she wants.. My husband never gives emotional support and financial support to me. My mother in law wants to upper hand in my home.. How can I make my husband understand my need

[@GitasKitchen]

Next time buy something and gift it to her before she asks also. Love is the best way to win over people

[@sandhyaiyer1055]

Absolutely right. I am taking care of all these points in taking care of my husband who is not well for the past 5 months.❤

[@GitasKitchen]

All the best Our prayers for his speedy recovery

[@leelaramanathan838]

Excellent!

[@swatipatekar9833]

Thanks Gita Mam I am taking care of my mother and I am working woman something I get tired but again I pushed myself , remember that she also took care of my sons in their childhood now my sons also help me in granny s work

[@GitasKitchen]

So nice of you

[@meghnamehta7694]

Thank you Aunty for sharing these tips.. Very valuable wisdom

[@meghnamehta7694]

Aunty can you also share some tips on how to age well please.. Like how to do your best to manage mental and physical health

[@saraswathisunku3401]

Thank you for your talk on caregivers. Really helped me look at myself differently. 🙏

[@GitasKitchen]

I'm so glad!

[@komalalakkappa1541]

Which place is this it's calm and beautiful environment...

[@GitasKitchen]

Near our temple

[@deecee9548]

Thank you! This video really hit me. Reading the comments is also like I am not alone. Thank you for this video 🙏

[@GitasKitchen]

Absolutely you said it right there are so many others who are sailing in the same boat

[@suganthakirtivasan6271]

I loved the way you put forward. It was like talking to me personally

[@GitasKitchen]

How are you Suganthi

[@rajashreeprasanna2811]

Thank you very much Ma I am going through this now. Life is not easy

[@GitasKitchen]

Have faith . Things will become better soon

[@MrSrikanthraja]

Unga Hindi cooking channel onnu irundhadhe what happened to it ?

[@GitasKitchen]

Difficult to manage two channels

[@sangeetasamanta3586]

Very nice Mam.God bless.🙏

[@GitasKitchen]

Thank you

[@MrSrikanthraja]

Very useful episode 🎉

[@GitasKitchen]

Glad you think so!

[@vasumathiarvind4182]

A wonderful session, Gita. Highly beneficial for a lot of us. Thank you dear 🙏