Carly Incontro talks Vlog Squad, Snark Pages, Relationship Advice & MORE!

[@AdamMcIntyre]

i’m going on TOUR!💜 introducing ‘the chronically online tour’ i will be bringing the pink mic to brooklyn, chicago, seattle, los angeles & dallas!!!!! tickets on sale NOW💜 www.x1entertainment.com/adammcintyre (if i’m not going to your city let me know where i should go!!)

[@rosetiger7268]

Portland, Oregon

[@carlyincontro]

ty for having me!!! ily

[@user-tg4lq2mj6m]

i really appreciate that adam saw her as her own person instead of just a side character of david like a lot of people used to and asked more about her than questions about the vlog squad

[@korena97]

I completely agree.

[@freya1132]

I really respected both Carly and Erin's behaviour during the pandemic. It felt like most creators didnt care about covid or following the rules and these two really did ❤

[@armerls]

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[@emmascottagecorner]

Hot take from a 3-years-married 22-year-old girlie ❤️ it’s okay to set the boundary of not seeing other people from the beginning. It’s okay for you to not get involved from the beginning if you know it’ll hurt more to not be exclusive. If they aren’t willing to set aside a few weeks to get to know you after that initial hangout, it probably isn’t for you.

[@bloom.11.25]

How are ppl at my age already married for a few years 😭😭 You go though, whish u the best ❤❤

[@sarab4241]

Carly has always been my favorite vlog squad member. She's so funny and nice, and have always found her to be a calming presence.

[@aaliyahparker7548]

love you carly such a cutie relatable vibe she has. very much seems like a girls girl, and a good friend to have

[@Tanonymous444]

ADAM THESE GUESTS ARE EVERYTHING

[@starryaqua]

when adam mentioned lovebombing it's actually just a part of new relationship energy!! it's that pull and fixation on someone new and being consumed with learning more about them. NRE is exciting and lends itself to that jolt of dopamine with someone new. ACTUAL lovebombing is a manipulation overloads on love and affection as a means of control. it can also make their partner complacent to abusive or toxic behavior while pulling them into a cycle of reassurance

[@destny444]

this is such a great point. I think another interesting facet that adds a little nuance sometimes is that, (in my opinion) that NRE can possibly be a representation of a persons unintentional cycle of what they learned about love growing up. Such as parents lovebombing their kids and controlling them thru praise/affection, then neglecting when trying to manipulate their behaviour etc, and as that young individual matures and grows and goes into their own first independent relationships, there may be a tendency for those patterns to be repeated simply due to not knowing anything else. We often express love in the ways it was modeled to us, so an individual hypothetically could lovebomb someone without intent to control and manipulate, it just becomes an unfortunate side affect of the type of love their role models projected onto them, and therefor they accidentally repeat the cycle. The most important thing is always being aware of how your own behaviors and actions affect others and trying to break those cycles, but it really is tough if youve never been held accountable and certainly is a lesson those people deserve to learn, for themselves and the sake of their potential relationship partners as well ❤ this is a great topic id love to hear if u have any more opinions abt it as well, i love talking abt the psychology of this kind of stuff

[@tristin6829]

I am a therapist and one of the classes I teach is about power and control games people play. Love bombing is typically when person A does something hurtful or that crosses a boundary for person B, rather than take actually accountability person A “love bomb” person B to stay in the relationship. It’s a form of gas lighting.

[@pupavka2114]

i love that you let your guests talk!!! your podcast is one of the few where i feel like the guest was able to finish a sentence without the host interrupting them constantly. thanks to that you were able to cover a lot of different topics and even go somewhat deep (not with every topic of course, but you were able to ask following questions). i know you said you were studying journalism and it shows ☺♥

[@caitlynml622]

If you’re reading this and think what Carley is telling you about her relationship is crazy , she’s right. Love like that is out there for you. Never waste your time with someone you don’t flow with.

[@druglike]

I really hope Carly gets her time to really shine as an influencer and not a part of a squad or a duo. I love you Carly.

[@tatertot6212]

My cat currently has FIP! On day 35 of treatments and doing amazing, so sorry you lost your babies Adam : ( it’s a really rough condition but thankfully there’s a lot more research for it now

[@nicolepriestap8160]

Awwww the thing is, the right person will match that energy and feel the same way! My spouse and I met 8 years ago and a couple months after hanging out etc etc we moved in together. It worked! Obviously not always is that the outcome but I’m firm on the stance of if it’s the right person, it’ll work. ❤️

[@Mariefest]

I’m so proud of you Adam. You’ve found your space in the world. ❤

[@laurentoren]

carly saying she was gonna follow ur snark reddits 😭😭😂

[@generallyclaire]

Similar to Carly, my bf and I fell madly in love off the bat and by circumstance moved in together after 4 months of dating. A year later is when quarantine happened and it has only brought us closer. We just like being around one another and it works well!

[@aannnniiikkaa]

i never truly got into the vlog squad (just all the drama) but i love her already!! like all i knew was she was in it then was distant or left before or around the start of covid? don't quote me on that lol but i will definitely be checking her out. need more youtubers/podcasts now that i've dropped H3 and other people i no longer wanna support. loved this and keen for more 💓

[@korena97]

Carly was always my fav. I wish her the very best. 💝

[@CocoLake]

This is the 4th episode I’ve watched today. Just finished midterms and these videos are my reward! Thank you Adam for the daily drops! 💜

[@GrnGirl77]

happy to see Carly 🥹

[@zj5052]

Adam, don’t worry about being too much too early! The right person will love it! My partner and I moved super fast but it was just because we are perfect together

[@lilaclullaby]

the fact that no one these days knows what love bombing is really bothers me. the evolution of language is all about an agreed usage and when the literal definition of stuff like this changes it really bothers me. it's a constant cycle of making up new words or phrases to mean something that we once had words for but those words get butchered with time. if things continue on this path we'll end up with the same issues as the word triggered. these words losing their meaning to to constant misuse and overuse does real damage. I dont normally comment but this specific topic is extremely important to me. love bombing is smashing your partners face into the ground and then going bby im so sorry i luv frfr look ill do all these things to make u belive me pls bby dont giv me consequences 4 my actions QQ and the next week its all trying to do as many things that signify that someone loves you as possible. love bombing by definition is toxic. Wanting to spend time with someone isnt love bombing. love bombing isnt motivated by wanting to express love, its motivated by wanting to get away with shit/wanting to make you agree to shit you wouldn't otherwise.

[@bloom.11.25]

Thank you! I was so surprised by Adams definition of love bombing, of what he thought it was and that he thought he is a person that does that, which Adams definition is very tame

[@meykav]

yeah it’s part of the cycle of abuse in relationships. Instead of them taking accountability for their horrible actions and how they treated you they instead treat you like a queen for a little bit until you forgive and forget and then the cycle begins again 😔

[@sandrae2398]

Thank you!!!!!

[@hihii3902]

That is not love bombing thats gaslighting

[@stephaniegunnison5908]

@@hihii3902no, gaslighting is trying to make you believe something that happened either never happened or you’re remembering it wrong and try to convince you that what actually happened isn’t in fact what happened. They try to make you feel crazy and try to make you believe whatever bullshit they’re trying to tell you is actual facts and that the truth is a lie and you are wrong.

[@mikaylamarshall7605]

Why have I never noticed how fair carly's skin is hah both of you are stunninggg

[@ccrowley2837]

Lol I always thought Adam was fairly pale/fair skinned and next to Carly I’m like WOAH lol

[@mangojuulpod111]

these guests r so iconic i love carly ahh this podcast is everything 🩷🎀💘💝💓💞💖💋

[@leslieknope3394]

Omg these two have the best friend chemistry ever!!! Perfect for podcast 😭😭🥺🩷

[@bloom.11.25]

Hey Adam 💜 about the roomate/not living alone situation, idk if I can give you any advise or inside, but in my case it’s like this: I (f/22) live in an apartment together with my best friend (f/21) and we have known each other for a few years beforehand from being classmates where we got to know each other. I know there are ppl that say to NOT move in with friends but for us it was a positive outcome. Since we know each other from before we knew how we tick and we talked before moving in what we think about how certain things work for us, like what we think about cleaning, privacy, having friends over, etc. and we found out that we tick around 95% the same. We respect the “rules” we have set up together and if one of us does smth differently we talk about it and see whether we wanna change that certain “rule” or better ourselves to keep up with that “rule”. I know that doesn’t work for everyone, but I am surprised how ppl don’t set out rules together and don’t at least know how the other person ticks before moving in together, and then when the other person does smth a different way to n the household or not respecting privacy, they either don’t say anything and are just frustrated in silence or it boils over and they start to fight or ignore each other, which is sad, because I believe a healthy home relationship has a lot to do with one’s mental health, and it’s not nice coming home and dreading crossing paths with the other person when you are in a disagreement. Whether it’s a person you know, a friend, best friend or your partner, there should always be household rules that are set up together and that everyone to 100% agrees on. Hope it helps! ❤

[@m.arce1ines]

watching instead of studying for my bio MIDTERM💜

[@mags8212]

OMG I love Carly you are absolutely killing the guest game!

[@lizcorp4317]

Genuinely loved this podcast and the dynamic!!💜

[@JOvalle135]

On the talk about Taylor Swift and parasocial relationships, you can tell how no one can (or wants to) reeeally talk about it, especially when Adam is trying to carry conversations with people subjected to it AND/OR participate in it. I THINK society and entertainment started and continued with no/little boundaries, so when the internet hit, the issues with parasocial relationships exploded. Sometimes, the only way to recognize and realize issues are when they become too big to ignore. I believe we have already entered an era where everyone is learning what boundaries are with themselves and others, good or bad.

[@iffyleftknee1817]

When my fiancé and I started dating ( I’m quick to fall in love) we decided to see each other once a week for the first month. That way our schedules were not completely obliterated and we look forward to that day. After a month, we started seeing each other three times a week. Before she moved in, we went to my therapist and discussed living together, and what each person needs in a home. It’s so hard to move slow, but it also helps you keep who you are, and not get lost in someone else’s world ❤

[@madisonfreddie]

I’ve never heard of Carly and I’m OBSESSED. Loved the episode and the adhd moments haha

[@surayzsas7042]

So happy to see Carly here! I watched her on vine and vaguely kept up with her but love her everytime❤

[@lauramadrid9485]

I enjoyed this listen. Just hearing her story seems like everything she has, was an opportunity for her, and she just followed. From starting Vine, vlogsquad, to meeting her bf. She is a definition of someone who timing just placed in front her.

[@ARedHeadedVegan]

Wow, I absolutely loved this. She is such a doll! Great podcast chemistry! 💛

[@myplaylists6310]

CARLY IS AN ICON (haven’t watched the ep yet but I clicked SO fast)

[@kellybelle98]

Adam talking about his rag doll cat had me cry laughing. Sarrr funny, so true

[@AmblingSoulCC]

On the topic of people snarking about you and misogynistic takes, I think people forget how young you are and how your real world work experience is working mostly by yourself in the youtube space. I love your conversations with Rosanna and how you were able to listen, learn, and evolve your thought process when a women had honest discussions with you about their experiences working in a professional setting over the years. The only way we can learn is from actual experience or truly listening to the experiences of others.

[@Liz-su3cb]

yesss Carly my queen! great episode!

[@marcyanne8910]

Snark also increased when comments became more regulated and censored and influencers would delete negative comments

[@hoodys]

10:11 yahoo answers !! and also quora yahoo answers was a wild wild place

[@Kenzi24]

Adam, what you need is to find someone LIKE YOU who wants to dive in and be obsessed with each other. They are out there. I went from chasing my ex for 5 years, never feeling good enough or fully loved, to finding a guy who is equally as loving and loyal as me and we're going on our 8th year together now.

[@LynnzeNao]

Love carls soooooo much! So happy to see her here 💓

[@Kase1313]

Oh I love Carl so much ❤

[@Sammiegurl42]

So glad uou had carly on your podcast

[@marycarroll1525]

Love this and how well yall vibe! PSA Be careful adam(and anyone reading this) in the dating pool! Its insane how out of nowhere people get stds and arent open with their status. Im a big proponent for HIV and non detected but always ask for screens and to screen yourself regularly. It's literally so important for your health. So random but so important with safe dating which you probably already know! ❤❤❤ Love you

[@marycarroll1525]

Multiple friends of mine have gotten STDs and HIV and were so confused and sick until going to hospital before learning what happened. Some people are consciously deceitful and we need to be smart approaching the dating scene.

[@marlaf2712]

her new hair is givinggggg

[@jennalofsness9897]

I love this podcast so much!

[@lennawhite9397]

I AM SO READY

[@yeahdude6358]

my rag doll cat hearing adam say never to get a rag doll… i’m covering his ears… my sweet boy never does anything wrong

[@PinkSilkSuit]

Wow I loved this so much!

[@TheChelseaHanna]

Wild seeing my middle school locker neighbor on here lol

[@novaalunosis]

10:52 the timing of this happening right after i trip on something walking to the living room is crazy

[@icedoatm1lklatte]

love these two divas so bad 💜

[@allysonjovarela5245]

The nepomucker comment is too funny. My son is one too

[@jennifercoetzee1628]

34:23 Adam it sounds like you want more of a “traditional” dating like where you and the other person are only seeing each other and there’s nothing wrong with that at all if you lay out that boundary from the beginning in a clear conversation before even starting a situationship/relationship like “ you’re asking me on a date but this is my boundary to dating or else I don’t date” there’s nothing wrong with that and anyone who prefers the “hook-up culture” then will know it’s not going to work and you “thank you next” them lol😂 I think in our “single” times we learn what we really want from our potential partner in that healing process of the “relationships” sometimes it’s takes the bad ones to appreciate the “one” when they come along ❤

[@EH-uq9rz]

i love carly

[@TheChristianna321]

I think the vault tracks are based on what she wrote at the time - maybe only one or two lines are the same as when she was writing the album

[@acisme6442]

Tumblr [blank] "gossip" / "critical" / "confession" blog mentioneddddd my favorite snarking girlies before snarking reddits were a thing (that i know of, at least fkfjdkks)

[@BunnieWasHere]

tuned in !

[@dezloutay]

i, too, have been personally victimized by a ragdoll cat

[@-chantelle-]

Adam saying to never get a ragdoll, meanwhile I have one and he's the most lovely, friendly, sweet little guy who just wants to love all my other pets and everyone in the house lol

[@PrincessPeyten]

Hey Adam hey I’m gonna be seeing you in Dallas I’m so excited😁😁😁

[@chuu099]

STOP omg Adam you talking about Creepshow Art took me baaack. I remember watching a live of their follower count dropping and having such nice conversations with the other people in the comments😭

[@gracemiller6649]

GOOD EPISODE AFTER GOOD EPISODE TY MOTHER

[@Idontwant1]

Trisha and Moses met right before the pandemic. And Moses had been just staying at her condo when everything shut down. And they are still together too. And Trisha mellowed out enough to have Malibu get married and have Elvis. And they are still together. I never thought she would have found a dude who would be able to handle her big emotions and temper tantrums. But she found a man who finds her interesting and beautiful and sexy.

[@Sophieizzy1016]

Currently watching from Omaha, Nebraska. It’s not that bad; I really enjoy it however, some would disagree completely.😅❤

[@Sophieizzy1016]

Also work at Target😂🎉

[@yaminogame7805]

Never heard fo the person you've got on here for this one, but she's a good interview.

[@giannagcg5317]

Notifs are turned on 🎉

[@maddieramsey_]

Adam in the future can you place time stamps?

[@amandahartman541]

My Ragdoll is a sweet angel baby!! I think it may have been the dynamic causing his Ragdoll to not use the litter box anymore, especially if there was drama with the other cat and there was only two one litter box

[@cassieondra]

Thank you for feeding us mother

[@morganrocha]

OMAHA GANG 🔥🔥💥💥✨

[@brynnleighw]

Can’t believe I am just now, after all these years, finding out that Carly and I are from the same hometown

[@vivyli]

UNEXPECTED OMG

[@angelickiwi493]

oh my gosh, ragdoll cats and tortoise shell cats are the two i ALWAYS tell people "if youve never had a cat and dont have patience, please dont get these two breeds" We had a ragdoll growing up and the same shit happened with us, my roommate currently has a tortoise shell and she hates EVERYONE but her owner and we've all known her since she was a kitten, we give her a ton of space and play with her when she wants to but she will just full blown attack people and reseaching i found out were not the only ones who deal with their temperament

[@hihii3902]

Yesss!

[@jeseniarochez6685]

😍😍😍 CARLY!!!!

[@gaines_gal]

The most scatter brained podcast episode ever 😂 but I LOVE IT! Granted I have ADHD sooooooooo 😂

[@Shutterbuggs1991]

I think Taylor realized early on that people were going to talk and theorize about her, now she has a bit of “control” on those conversations, which must be a bit relieving.

[@capric0rpse]

Natalie is on Jeff’s for sure 😂

[@Sugikai]

The reason why creepshow art got cancled was because she stalked a smaller creator by the name of emily artul

[@AdrienEarley]

as someone from south dakota,, we used to vacation to omaha as the big city haha

[@kristinehagerthey5685]

Is your podcast available to listen to on Spotify? I found one but it doesn’t look like it’s by you

[@baileematthews9092]

What is the time stamp for the vlog squad talk?

[@maypush]

1:01:36 - 1:06:56 but they hardly say anything interesting/ important

[@ashisburning7786]

Oh we're eating GOOD

[@ccc52595]

Yahoo Answers was my jammmm

[@giannagcg5317]

JUST IN TIME I JUST GOT MY MCDONALD'S

[@420topspeed]

Free Palestine 🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸

[@jwgaia]

@@420topspeed McDonald's is not supporting Israel, some of its franchisees are. The McDonalds owners IN Israel fed the Israeli soldiers. McDonalds owners in Egypt, Kuwait, Saudi Arabia and Turkey donate hundreds of millions to Palestine.

[@woadxqueen666]

Don't get e.coli 😭

[@m.arce1ines]

boycott🇵🇸

[@Psykells]

MAC-Donald’s if Adam is pronouncing it

[@SapphireSeahorse494]

as someone from lincoln nebraska, omaha is NOT boring. lincoln is definitely more boring even though it's the capital. it's also smaller than omaha.

[@JocelynManislovich]

QUORA!!

[@iffyleftknee1817]

Not the mucker family channel 😂😂

[@angelickiwi493]

Adam based on the context we got i truly dont believe by your definition that you're a love bomber.....wanting to get to know a lot about them before hooking up is a boundary that you wanna set for yourself, the person who was making out with someone youve had beef with was tacky af, not your fault. I know you guys weren't "dating" but i genuinely suggest the next person you're talking to flat out ask them "are you looking for a relationship or something more casual" and if its an answer that you dont like then you dont have to be with them

[@mrsawesomesause6265]

I would say love bombing is a manipulation tactic. Its about intention. Being intense at the beginning of a relationship isn't love bombing, I guess that would just be intense get-to-know-you. Which thats not a horrible thing

[@peepeepoopoomimimoomoo]

37:13 the big thing w roommates is 2 things: cleanliness and wh*rishness now promiscuity is perfectly fine, but what becomes a problem is when they dont act like they live with other ppl. Like #1 horror stories is roommates having no boundaries in regards to keeping their private part business PRIVATE. & being absolute dirty little trash goblins, ofc. like i live w my bff and her bf, and in my world they are wearing chastity rings and waiting till marriage. We split chores evenly, im never caught in the middle of their shit; the big thing is consideration & boundaries- and if the person whose living in ur home cant be considerate of you, or doesn’t care about ur comfortability; they can NOT be loitering about in ur home ✨🦅 if u cant do business w/ them for a lifetime, u cant do it for the duration of a lease.

[@PawsitivelyQuestionable]

Today marks the day "NepoMuckers" is born 😂

[@blueskies2]

The Omaha Nebraska mention is crazy. It’s honestly a nice city to live in! I’ve lived here since I was 6. And I prefer Omaha over Lincoln (the state’s capitol)

[@capric0rpse]

I love being alone but I also am not social as Carly 😂 so then I completely isolate myself and people stop talking or checking in and suddenly I am online chronically and yapping into a comment section about it. 🤔 meh

[@addisonolivia6120]

So this wasn't a fever dream..