Caroline Myss - The Wounded Child (The Power of Archetypes)

[@qualitydag1]

I had a very profound mystical experience in my 20s and even so, the inner child didn't seem to be effected by it, however each morning when I look in the mirror I am starting to say "I love you" and then I say positive things to myself all the while smiling and looking directly into my eyes. It really seems to be working.

[@dianaadams8990]

I do the same thing. I think it really helps a lot.

[@myofasciatherapy8191]

Cool! New studies show that this is the way! It is mind over matter 🎉

[@whitebirchtarot]

Not only is it difficult to heal from childhood wounds, but first you have to realize you have them and are acting from them. My wounds came out in physical symptoms and I thought they were 100% physical. It took me literally decades to discover the depth of my emotional childhood wounds and how they were affecting me. Only until you discover you have them do you actually have a choice. For me, the most difficult part was coming to that realization. Even after years of therapy, I didn’t know that I was sabotaging my own life. And, yes, it’s so difficult dealing with the wounded child within others, especially within your own parents. Thank you, Caroline.

[@AskPiaAkashic]

I understand. Me too. I wish you well. xo

[@whitebirchtarot]

@@AskPiaAkashic Thank you. I wish you well, also. 💕 I’m sorry you understand, if you know what I mean. 😢🦋

[@myofasciatherapy8191]

I wonder though today after studying the field: It is not about who did something - but our own ascension depends on learning why we got that. Everything we get is for us not to us. We do really choose the Life before we come down to Earth. It is true we do not see it - but we only see when we get the keys. We get the keys when we start the journey on our 'development' - isn't it? Once we listen and consider it could be - then if time is right for us it opens up to show....

[@whitebirchtarot]

@@myofasciatherapy8191 I partly agree with you. I do agree that our soul chooses what we’re going to learn in this life, but of course the ego doesn’t and that’s why we don’t consciously know it. But I don’t think there are keys that once you learn, the process just happens and you learn your lessons. Maybe I’m misread what you’re saying. I think it’s a long, drawn-out process that really lasts a whole lifetime. If we work on ourselves and try to figure out the unconscious reasons behind our actions and also process the wounds we were dealt in our younger years, we can overcome a lot, I think. I’m still not sure if we can overcome everything because I don’t know yet. I do know that I’m tired of lessons and would like to have more fun! 😊

[@chriswitkowski5503]

Caroline.....I can't believe the synchronicity of the statement you just made about your father having PTSD after fighting in the Pacific! I said exactly the same thing last night to a friend. I have a sister dying of late stage MS and terminal cancer and I am seeing our upbringing in light of this profound reality. Our father also fought in the Pacific and we were ruled by his moods and anger. We cannot share our grief because we were brought up to never speak of emotional needs or to even speak of their existence. I am also reading The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk and Wounds into WIsdom by TIrzah Firestone both of which confirm the inheritance of the psychic wounds of our parents and ancestors. Thank you so much for this series and your ongoing brilliant work of making the connections you do!

[@bluejay5531]

🙏🏻

[@richardsanderson877]

Great video Caroline....I was born 1950....a sensitive child who somehow made it to a healthy adult...now 72 Love your summaries and perspective hugs Richard

[@lesleyM84]

My mother experienced severe long term orthopedic trauma after breaking her hip as a youngster.. like you mentioned, the idea/concept of seeking mental health for things like “orthopedic trauma” in children following such intense surgery was never even considered or was even a thing, much less, a thing that needed just as much treatment and healing as the broken bones did; that was decades and decades away still… she definitely chose the woundology route.. her limitations defined her forever and made her such a difficult person.. serious “brat attacks”!! she was vicious to me.. always.. this video has helped me understand her tremendously.. she passed on as still a full fledged wounded child with the same dialogue and anger.. thank you for this information.. it has helped me feel some compassion towards her and I learned quite a bit ..

[@moniquebode1655]

I experienced the same problem in my upbringing. My dad was irrational and bouts of anger that was off the scale. He fought in Jakarta

[@heathermcbride3859]

Thank you for sharing these book titles.

[@mayabanawa1404]

This broke my heart into pieces especially when you shared about the woman who starved her child. I sobbed like a baby. Indeed, inner child healing has so much to do with compassion, self-compassion and Divine Mercy. This truly inspired me more to continue my healing and empowering my healing and Healer journey. I am an Inner Child Therapist and Hypnotherapist. Caroline's archetype deck was the first God-given healing tool I received to help heal myself and with God's grace have shared to many as well. I cannot thank you enough Caroline and your divine guidance for all that we are co-creating to help serve ourselves and humanity! Our Wounded Inner Child have so much hidden treasures. They are the most hidden ones. The excruciating pain and the gold in it... They are divinely designed to be hidden... The moment it has been courageously confronted and embraced by our most compassionate hearts, one day at a time, we are ready to become or conquer all the other archetypes. It is bringing so much ancestral healing. It is the beginning of becoming a Lover and a Mother, a parent not just to ourselves but to Mother Nature herself. We are then not just in Her Womb being nurtured by her but also nurturing her back the same way, collectively healing our planet. Many hugs to all of you!

[@RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper]

Oh..... You have the most luminous soul. ❤️🐾

[@julie5668]

I never had children but I feel I healed some of my own pain when I worked as a nanny and in playgroups and gave to those kids what I would have liked to have experienced myself.

[@patmelton43]

Ministering to others in any capacity brings healing.

[@cyndeetaylor]

The beginning had me laughing and crying. In my early 20s, my mom reflected that it seemed I was always going somewhere else looking for a family, somewhere else to hang around. I told her honestly that it was because it had always felt like we were play-acting some TV scene at home, like we couldn't just be ourselves, be real. After some reflection, she told me that that was the only example she had of what a real family was supposed to be like. It was some years later that I found out about the absolute hell she had been raised in. My introduction to the Wounded Child.

[@beckywood3]

I can relate to this❤️

[@joanneb3935]

I used to live vicariously through the old TV shows like Donna Reed, Father Knows Best, etc. It was the only way I had a chance to feel peace within a family system. Thank you, Caroline, for talking about the wounded child. I was one, raised by two incredibly wounded parents. It's taken many decades to heal, and I'm not done yet. Thank goodness for all the healing techniques available today to help us move through.

[@patmelton43]

Joanne - I relate. My sister and I discuss our difficult childhoods a lot, trying to figure out how to heal. She is ten years my junior so we had different experiences but still the underlying illness of our parents is there.

[@cyndeetaylor]

Yes,,,,,,,,,, I get your drift. I'm not done yet either, but a little more seeps through every week or so. I just think of it as my work to complete (even thought it pisses me off that it's up to me!).

[@cindysmith1700]

Leave it to beaver, Brady bunch. Partridge family.

[@jacquelinevogt606]

Every day is a struggle not to be my own abuser and definitely winning, knowing your books and words.learned today, our parents wanting us to know their pain by giving pain that’s a Wow,another,jewel,of understanding

[@ellyalovis640]

Agree!! That is very powerful part of this video.

[@moreagarcia3421]

I loved those shows and I didn't hear my parents argue but twice in 16 years. My Mom did have a clean house with 10 people living there. Very family based. I loved it. And, I think positive programming was a steering wheel to happy living. For us it worked.

[@flath207]

Thank you for the story about the woman you encountered at the workshop who starved her child. That went a long way to help me understand my mother's treatment of me. I really believe that healed me instantaneously. A jewel for my pouch!

[@isadoracruz3675]

Thank you so much for all those videos on archetypes. They are priceless.I've been in relationships with people who weaponized their wounds in order to suck the life out of others. How much finesse is needed to live properly 😮.

[@aspasiaholley]

I was intrigued when you said that pain had authority. There’s something deeply curious. As you brought it around to woundology and currency it really came together for me. I truly hope you can do a video on this. These are so profoundly inspiring and healing. Thank you so much Caroline. You are such a blessing 🙏🏽💞 Infinite love and gratitude

[@lesleyhoey1669]

Thank you! 🙏 Back in the mid 90’s a co-worker named Sage gave me several cassette tapes of lectures you did on why people don’t heal and what they can do about it. She was a wise woman, indeed. Those tapes had a profound impact helping me get started on the journey to heal my wounded child. Listening to this video today, I realize just how far I have come. Yes, it has been a deeply painful journey at times, yet, it has all been worth it. I have discovered for myself that what you say about the discovering the magical child is true. She is alive, well and has come out to play! 💖✨🤸‍♀️

[@SofiNme365]

“ I just sat there like a piece of modern Art” 😂🤣 I love your sense of humor! 😘💕

[@bolaursen1]

That's why in the Scandinavian culture we have realism where the bad and good of life gets included which is viewed by UK and US cultures as we cultivate being miserable. World Famous Danish fairytale poet Hans Christian Andersen cultivated this kind of realism in his stories for children. Especially in "A Little Match Girl" and "The Emperor's New Clothes".

[@carmelgibbons2949]

This is also true of eastern cultures that recognise the good and bad in all of yin and the yang

[@Elsie144k]

It’s true in Judaism as well. They always remember the sadness even as they remember the sweetness of life

[@myofasciatherapy8191]

So very true. Grown up in Austria in a modern family and healthy confident grandparents, they knew what to do and less talking about others. I don't know - and I would like to know if you had time - about in Scandinavia if you had things there which could be traumatizing (others than comparison) like in old Austria/Germany in certain areas (funny I just contemplated I and realize that I did not have that in my schools (upper Austria) - but then my son in Bavaria had it - there were gruel teachers and teachings and religion classes made you feel bad about things - and if you had Dyslexia nobody knew but they told you you are stupid. Happened still to my son (born 1984) and that was a part the US was more ahead. Here he became an Mechanical and Aerospace Engeneer! Funny how evolution plays out, somethingI am introspecting as a Somatic practitioner right now...

[@stevenlafleur8474]

Good to know.

[@juliaorpheus]

The Little Match Girl was one of my favorites growing up, but I think part of that was I liked knowing there were kids who had worse childhoods than mine. 😅

[@SitaFarley]

Amazing! Thank you for explaining this. To even “know” we have the choice to heal is a gift in itself. “Taking responsibility and not clinging to our attachment and identification to BEING a “wounded child”🙏🏽❣️🙏🏽

[@riube28]

God, the timing on this one is perfect beyond my capacity to comprehend 🤯🥺😭😍😍❤🎉🔥 🙏🏻

[@Dolphin369]

I can say today with joy that my magical child and innocent child have come out and it’s wonderful. I truly cherish my life. I look back on the last 3 years heavy healing work and see in hindsight that it can all connect back to the wounded child. Every step was worth it. Thank you for another riveting talk

[@gretchenrobinson825]

Thank you. When I would go 'home' for Christmas and my siblings would revert to childish behaviors and I was trying not to get triggered, I would get my car keys out of my purse and hold them. It was telling my inner child that I was an adult now and would protect her. That I could leave at any time if I chose to do so Whereas as a child, I couldn't leave, where would I go? I had a great therapist that I learned so much from.

[@cyndeetaylor]

Just today a friend told me that her husband who had a stroke about 2 months ago was getting way too caught up in avoiding the therapy and all the help she's been supporting him in. He was trying to avoid healing by blaming her. She said to him "You have a choice whether you want this therapy or not - but remember I have choices too." I let that settle for awhile, and realized this was the smartest thing she could have said directly to his soul.

[@cindysmith1700]

My family was such a nightmare. I still am not over it ad I am 62. I wondered what other families were like. Am pretty sure mine was the worst. And they would always dress us up and take us to church and then make us sit properly at lunch afterward so everyone could see how great THEY were

[@ChristineJGold]

Yes projecting our wounds to receive the healing and acknowledgement from others is narcissistic. I did it, so I innerstand. 🙌💗 Thanks for this powerful archetype series, so blessed 🙌

[@Lalallalu]

STELLAR analytical work, dear Caroline!!! Every example, every piece of self-revelation, every reflection resonates deeply within me - as a human being as well as a therapist. I cannot thank you enough for shining the light of reason and warmth of compassion to this difficult topic. 🌟

[@sandraspidle5972]

This is so on spot of the 50's and 60's. Too funny but true to the fact of being sad. I remember these shows. I also recollect going to the Circle theatre to see the Sound of Music with my mother. My poor mother had an inferiority complex and tried to medicate with alcohol and mill town sedatives. Talk about dysfunction, oh my goodness. As I got older, I tried finding associations, hospitals, anybody to help her. My father was a Lt Col in the Air Force, gone a lot, to Turkey, Greece etc., for long periods of time. Well, needless to say, I went around throughout my life trying to help fix people, situations, and always trying to do the right thing myself. Only later in life did I understand that I needed to feel my self worth, that I deserved to live a responsible worthwhile life and to stop always doing the giving all the time. I don't know if this actually hurt me, or ended up helping me become a better person than I would have been. I knew I had guardian angels protecting me, always, always, always. My intuition is always on and I have finally begun helping myself along with others who do not abuse or use me, and now, I instinctively know when someone begins to manipulate me. I have never been able to completely trust, and that I blame on the wounded child who's mother never knew how to love her, who simply could not, in fact she admitted she was jealous of me. 2 years before she died, she found God, and apologized to me about her life and how she treated my brothers and myself. She actually admitted she wasted her life. It shocked me. I accepted it and felt happy for her for admitting it to me. Yes, the wounded child is real, but when you take this and help others through their hurt, it somehow helps ease the pain. I'm still working on it in the right way.

[@carolciviletti9044]

I listened to you tonight because I immediately knew the subject. My father too was in WWII I was born After he came home. Yes he suffered from PTSD the rest of his life. I’d say that right from my beginning I was deeply affected by his inability to have a father-daughter relationship with me. I didn’t even know who he was or what he was to me. He never said I love you or hugged me. When I got older all I knew for sure was that I had absolutely no desire to marry or have children. Yes I was in therapy beginning at age 21 for many years but here I am at 77 and can say that I realize that I could never have been a good mother. I married much later in life to a man who had 2 small children. I picked him because he, like my father, was quiet, aloof, couldn’t hug me, etc. I guess I could not marry a loving man. I would have felt that I was “in the wrong house”. Thank you for discussing this topic but I suppose I am still the “wounded child” 😢

[@wordswithyoda6360]

I’ve watched hours and hours of your incredible work, and I can’t get enough!! You are SUCH a brilliant woman. I’m so incredibly grateful for this insight. Absolutely interested in more discovery about woundology.

[@elisabethannwexler4728]

Thank you, Caroline for sharing your thoughts with us about The Wounded Child Archetype. I am glad that you mentioned the influence of WWII. So many people grew up in homes where their fathers & sometimes mothers bore PTSD wounds from this war. Children & spouses were affected by these war traumas to different degrees. The Second Wave of Feminism helped to open doors for womyn in the 1960's, 1970's & 1980's to begin to share their about their lives in consciousness raising groups. Many began to reveal their childhood wounds to others within these settings. I believe that there are collective ways that childhood wounds can be shared through the arts - music, poetry, writing of various kinds and theater which are healing & expressive in cathartic & important ways. This also bears witness to what different people & groups have experienced often with social-political-economic influences such a poverty, racism, misogyny, homophobia, etc. The power of knowing/hearing/seeing/reading other's stories who have faced, healed & "overcome" can be a transformational experience.

[@kareng8797]

Thank you Caroline. It's my time to choose to heal after 7 years of discovering and exposing my child wounds to myself. Now to find someone, someplace to do this work.

[@katella]

Good luck with this. There are an amazing number of inept therapists. This sector should have regulation.

[@StJane]

I thought you handled that topic very well. It's an aspect of who I am, it's not who I AM. I dedicated this year to healing this aspect of my self. My focus, energy, and finances. I always kept her buried, I didn't flaunt her as a weapon. And as you were saying, my dad came home from WW2 pretty messed up and never got help. I am determined not to pass this hell on to the next generation. Thank YOU for this program.❤

[@kwatness]

You hope this "helped a little", and I can declare it helped a lot! Your ability to express complexities simply and directly is extra-ordinary and much appreciated. Thanks!

[@gretchenhowspiritworks]

the pain has authority- wow, I beat on myself constantly, I treat myself the way my mother treated me, I knew I didn't want a child in this lifetime because I could not trust myself not to repeat this cycle, it had to end with me

[@slwright555]

So good to understand hurtful behaviors from loved ones ❤

[@Michelle0920]

Outstanding talk. Thank you for taking the time to share more about this archetype. It is a difficult journey to embark on and own up to, yet each small step forward in healing is empowering.

[@kavyabose6571]

That was tough to sit through especially towards the end cause it talks directly to the exiled parts. Thank you for sharing this. It's not easy but it's possible- I'll take that with me . Thank you Caroline. ❤

[@create2liberate]

This video is amazing!! I think I've been using my wounded child to avoid the fullness of an adult, mature, emotional life. I have been hiding in my relationships (romantic, friendship and parent) and letting the wounded child run the show.

[@Followthesuntarot]

Thank you for understanding the wounded heal so well and yes, this journey is not for the weak. Rasied by wounded parents, married a narcissist for 30 years, 22 years of therapy, reiki healing and heales ancestral karma and became a master of transmuting pain in power. Surrendered to the path the Lord intended as a psychic medium and started a practice. You truly understand the pain I have been through but i will not let that define me and created a new life of service and healing.

[@mariaroqueta3135]

Please also make a video on WOUNDOLOGY💜🙏🏼💜

[@amyrosenold-music-healing-yoga]

Thank you for this presentation, Carolyn! I was so struck ny your compassion for this archtype. Typically you're pretty tough on BS, so when you got to the part of calling out the "currency" of someone' using Woundology as a manipulative tool, I understood your capacity for seeing the bigger picture. Today I was dealing with a client - actually I'm a music teacher, and she loves to sing and said "music is her saviour", so i agreed to work with her. But after many months of doing my best and going way above and beyond what I do with anyone else, today I reached my point of exhaustion with her tactics and put a stop to the dymanic by stating my truth and asking her to leave. It was very difficult but as you said, it's exhausting trying to deal with someone using their wound as currency. I feel like this presentation gives me more clarity on what was happening and why I felt manipulated.

[@hijones2968]

Wowie! I'm 57 and this is the first time I have heard of Woundology. How incredibly insightful. You are wonderful for sharing this! I had thought about the temptation to not heal so I could always blame the other person, but life has become better if i can manage to do and attract better stuff in my life in spite of it.

[@fienxxchi]

Thank you for being so profound and not beating around the bush. every example resonates so deeply. thank you

[@carlanegri1102]

Once again, I am so affected by your story, Findhorn and Elizabeth Kubler Ross are both enormous connections, as is a wounded father . Today is the 24th anniversary of the passing of my mother who was SUCH a wounded child as well....My beloved teacher of memory, Marcia Pudewa, was an early follower of yours and so I honor your work and quote from your videos often for my own work. Much love

[@4lynneterry]

I disagreed with many things here, but I cannot say how thankful I am that there is another warrior out there, who will reach people that I don’t with the idea of, “foundation.”

[@myofasciatherapy8191]

Would you share at least one point you disagree so we 'introspectives' can indulge on it? I am deep diving discerning evolution: why did we get the TV is it for waking our inner wounds they were there long before? - or we get them only form that? I think it is both. I strongly believe that Everything happening happens for a reason. Aquarius times is the evolution into our spirit soul - things has to come up to then learn that we can let everything go. And now we stuck in 'NOT' be able to let it go ?!

[@krisshensley9388]

I appreciated most of your talk. What I have to offer is that healing wounds from childhood is not necessarily a black/white - on/off switch. Some wounds are never 'healed' but that can be well managed. I am in full agreement that wounds are never an acceptable reason to hold others hostage.

[@lpatner]

Dear Caroline, I was Donna Reed when I got married and had children. She was my role model. I thought all families were like that except for mine. I wore pearls, put on lipstick to take my children to school everyday, and we had dinner every night as a family. When my children were older I went back to school getting my Masters in Social Work. My first job was at Children and Family Services. and I have been working with abused individuals since that time. It was at this part of my life through my curosity that I entered a journey of awakening. Through my many experiences I was told by a guide ,(I didn't even know I had) to heal first and then assist others on their journey of healing .All the adventures I proceeded to have were through experiences. I have been working with the wounded child since that time. I am a Transformational Life Coach with an emphasis on healing the wounds were all carry. I have a soul assignment... I am Midwife of Awakening Souls. In 2021 I wrote a book called , "The Awakened Soul, Finding The Light Within" You have been a fantastic teacher and I always learn something from all of your classes. Thank you so much for your gifts. With much love and gratitude. Lynn

[@SINC8FOR8V8R]

31:39 Love that "Hidden Treasure" filled Epilogue!❤ thank you for your own continued exploration behind the wizards curtain and the Veils behind that curtain!! :)

[@SusanJohnsonsuzvj]

I took notes! I might have to listen to this several times. It's like listening to a kind patient wise parent or teacher who explains clearly, how to be a responsible adult. She's given me a lot to think about as I reflect on my parents and my upbringing. My parents were wounded children. I could see that and sympathize as they told me about their hurts and upbringing. But watching their wounded child taught me and my wounded child how to behave, pouting, complaining, getting upset and blowing up, blaming. These were all things I observed my parents doing. So I became a combination of the two of them. I'm an only child and they were distant from their family, so I never learned how to act like a reasonable, responsible adult. I didn't have children for the reason that I didn't want to pass these tendencies on to my children, and I wasn't sure I could be a responsible parent. There's a choice and awareness I have to make now, because I can't continue living this way. I feel very isolated and alone. I've pushed everyone away since my parents both passed recently. It's like a trigger. Poor me, an orphan, alone, no one cares about me, and comparing myself to others who have families and parents. Yes, this victimhood has been social currency, an excuse for my bad behavior. "Oh, I'm grieving." It's been over a year now. Yes, I'm grieving, but I can't push everyone away because they said or did something I didn't like. "Oh, you don't know how I feel or what I'm going through!" My grief and victimhood, my wounds are how I get sympathy and make excuses for my behavior. "Oh, she's just hurt." I have to deal with this hurt. I can't hurt others because I am hurt.

[@edsbrickler3477]

Thank you Caroline! I have found this series so profound, but the Wounded Child spoke to me. It wasn’t easy but after a life time, I can say I Amy healed and not I understand.

[@5757Beth]

Thank you Carolyn...you have helped me understand why 2 children who are now grown adults have handled the wounded child so differently...Blessings to you!!!

[@aplik881]

This practice of woundology is so true!!! Thank you Carolyn 💫

[@robinriebsomer4607]

I thank God that in the 80's, therapists started identifying the wounds of adult children of alcoholics. I learned so much about myself and started going to Al-Anon which helped me understand the child within and how best to heal from the wounds of growing up with an alcoholic father.

[@carriechapman2365]

Thank you for your lifelong quest to free those from trauma

[@5DNRG]

The Wounded Child shows in my chart with Chiron in my First House so I understand this concept deeply. I now use my past pain to heal others via Reiki.

[@solayamireault7880]

Thank you so much Caroline. You are an outstanding wonderful teacher. Thank you so so much.

[@jacquelinenewcombe3865]

This rings so true, my mother was very damaged, she had post Natal depression, never diagnosed, but there was no help other than drugs. Her mother born in the Victorian era would not contemplate mental illness. We Iived in a very tense situation, walked on eggshells. My father very much in the background. I have spent many years healing an abandoned child, but have now managed The situation certainly much more complex than that, but at least I have received help from many healers and therapists. I have seeked to heal and I am on a good path. Greetings from the UK.❤

[@richardmenard6564]

Thanks for your help and support I read some of your books 20plus years ago . Born in 63 the tv shows were for sure way nicer than the way our house was! 🙏

[@tbm_mx]

My mother born in the 30’s , as a wounded child and NO therapy at all ,because mental and emotional issues were for crazy (mental hospitals) people ONLY. She made clear in her behavior she had plenty unsolved issues, and me her 3 child was specially the origin of all her upside down world. I did went to therapy ( being adult) myself which I always be thankful for, and promised me since I was a girl that if I become a mom one day I would give the love I would like to had as a child. I have a son I adore and hug, and kiss And I tell him I love you!! In words and in actions!! ❤ In spite of what I feel inside sometimes as a healing in process wounded girl I can give love to him and to me. I honestly believe that new generations should break the chain of hurt and suffering. Some parents think they honor the elders doing exactly the same and that is a BIG mistake. I know I broke a chain of 4 generation of women who were mistreating their children. Thank you for your videos , you words of wisdom and correct perspective 👏👏👏👏🙏

[@catherineprosper2703]

You my blessed one are magical. Spken from the heart of a wounded child that healed and grew strong and magical❤

[@lesleyM84]

“How could traumatized adults raise healthy children?” That sums the entire thing up.. Woundology is a completely intriguing concept.. this series is really interesting … my “mother”, her mother and her father, were all wounded but especially my “mother”… and she, in concert with the other 2, made my life starting in the womb, an excruciatingly difficult imprisonment.. and, the extra rub for me was these people who were my “parents” were all absolutely textbook examples of malignant narcissism, fleshed out… research this exhaustively specific to them.. they checked all the boxes.. they 100% knew what they were doing; 100% were not sorry about any of it; took me down in the eyes of others ohh and just on and on.. so wounded children? absolutely.. wounded mentally but deep down spiritually they were an evil, cohesive, unredeemable pack of sinisterness 👹😠.. they all dead now so i am safe

[@cyndeetaylor]

Isn't it crazy trying to learn all this? I grew up in the most "normal" household anyone around us knew of. Found out in my 20s that my mother attempted suicide when I was year old (about10 feet from my crib.)

[@Myob08]

Deep from within in the womb is where both my parents began. I am with you here and yes these wounds lead to others hence a nightmare to deal with and grow stronger from

[@SofiNme365]

@lesleyM84 your words describe my mother and the life she gave us “difficult imprisonment”. Just to let you know that I am constantly healing thanks to ACIM and the classes with Nouk Sanchez and Coreen - KZbin videos. Highly recommend them.

[@sheronlyn2693]

Suzanne Giesmann who works in the spiritual realm says it simply - Hurt people hurt people. This is so true on so many levels and even in my 70s I'm only just starting to fully understand as a wounded child myself in these more enlightened times. A few years ago I went to an spiritual energy healer as my husband and I were dealing with alot with his serious health problems. When talking to me prior to the healing I was telling her about the lack of connection I had always had with my mother resulting in unrealized anger from my lack of protection as a child from my father( I realized later in life) I said my mother told me before she died while living with me as her caregiver that she shouldn't have had children which I reacted to with silence. The healer replied you know that says more about her than it ever said about you. I was gobsmacked with the realization that all my life I thought it was me who made her not love me when it was actually coming from her. As Caroline said with that story she told about the wounded mother not feeding her child, my mother was also the wounded child(which I get as her young life too was difficult) and couldn't love me (and my siblings)the way she wanted and her reason for saying she shouldn't have had children I now realize. There is spiritual work done now that I've been reading about on my own awakening path that works with ancestral healing that ties in with all this which helps alot with shifting our perspectives of our life experiences to break the cycles which is so enlightening. I'm just so grateful to all these wonderful teachers we have access to in our more enlightened world now.

[@ritagordon9859]

This is profound and reiterates what I realised in my own healing

[@Diva369]

Hi Caroline 🙂 Thank you for spotlighting this particular archetype. Btw the theme of Marry Poppins is not about the perfect family. Quite the opposite. Right off, we see the neglected children, the patriarchal detached father, and the preoccupied mother. The parents project all onus onto the nannies, selfishly preserving their own freedom, and keeping their denial at bay. Their lack of self-awareness emotionally starves their children and leaves them bereft of healthy boundaries. Deprived of love, attention, and guidance, the children begin to act out. We clearly see a family in crisis. Mary Poppins is the intermediary. She's the children's fairy godmother and the father's redeemer. Through a series of events, she accelerates the ego death of the father, while simultaneously providing the tools needed for recovery. Her job is done. She is the harsh mirror of reality reflecting our naked vulnerability. Without a blink, we peer directly into the eyes of the only person who can make or break us, love or hate us.

[@Diva369]

Oh yeah, At the end, the father realizes he misplaced his values. His magical child emerges. He allows himself to be pure and innocent and playful. He surrenders to living in the moment & eagerly skips to the park with his children, ebulliently singing " Let's Go Fly A Kite" 😃🪁 He's stopped overthinking and let go of his illusion of control. And once he lets go and sheds his pretenses and expectations, he attracts respect and admiration, from his children and his former employer, who hires him back and grants him a promotion 😊

[@infiniLor]

That was an excellent, well thought out breakdown! I'm guessing this was the subject of a paper you might have done in a course? It was good to read, thank you for that 🙂

[@vn12672]

Won't be the same watching Ms Popins again

[@updosystem]

We lived/worked on a residential recovery farm "rehab" for 7 years. Hubby was director of counseling and I ran the inner healing group for the women. The stories were unimaginable! It was the best hardest years of our lives. Eventually we moved on to CT and started our own mental health practice. I shared this on my FB as we have a large community that can learn and relate. thank you so much 😘

[@ginawhoever9734]

Caroline! Thank you! for years i have had recurring nightmares(terrors) of a very large mushroom cloud nuclear explosion that would be coming straight at me and i could feel the heat and like friction in the air and i knew i was about to be atomized... with different scenery most of the time but always the same ending ... i was talking to a friend one night about it and he said "I wonder if that is more about the "Nuclear Family" and feeling erased by it", as i have a *very very* dysfunctional family (i was the black sheep and still am), rather than the actual bomb itself. i thought that was brilliant and i only get the dreams maybe once every few months, but it used to be more than once a week. i almost fell off of my chair when you said that about it being "our" nuclear age too. i *Love* your insight and wisdom so much. thank you again, the whole video and this whole archetype series is absolutely amazing! P.S. : forgive my grammar please, i have a medical condition that makes it very difficult to type, so i just try to get my thoughts out as best as i can which makes for a lack of any grammar. i hope it doesn't drive you up a wall, with you being an actual writer!

[@ayenohaj]

Wow! Was not expecting the truth serum at end, using wound as currency, seeing myself do it and seeing friends do it. Feeling more open to alchemize these wounds into coal that can light up my full time empowered identity. That is what is more apparent, letting go of the victim identity and stepping into fierce empowered survivor full time. Believing I can change and step into my greatness as a healed healer 🐺 Thank you Caroline!!!!! 🫶🏽💓☺️🌈🌞❤️‍🔥🤗

[@HelenLange-up1pz]

I love that...FIERCE, EMPOWERED SURVIVOR. YES, AND AMEN!

[@Houseitch]

@@HelenLange-up1pz -“THRIVER”

[@FarmDiggs]

I’m 45 years old. I connected with my Inner Child recently. And before this I had the same impression of “What are you talking about, “inner child”. With a snarky tone. WOW! This connection has deepened my personal healing and I feel more importantly a genuine compassion for others. A true, deep compassion. ❤ Thank you Caroline. Sending so much love to you.

[@jessicazou711]

This is so far my favorite session of the Archetypes series by Caroline Myss. Thank you! ❤

[@margaretcoan1643]

Carolyn thank you so very much for these videos and most especially for your transparency and honesty. I have come to understand and experience the deep Truth of what you are sharing in this video of The Wounded Child. God and Her Love are helping me heal the very deep wounds of my childhood; that I now understand hurt so many innocent people, most especially my children. I am so grateful our Creator is so Loving and merciful; so full of understanding and compassion, otherwise I would never have any hope of experiencing a now healthy and wonderful thriving and blooming life; for my childhood wounds were literally killing me and hurting others. I have experienced the amazing gift of forgiveness and have learned God forgives first. My soul is going through redemption and it is a beautiful experience and gut wrenching and skin pealing at the same time. I have learned the absolute necisity of being honest with myself and learning to feel how I feel no matter how challenging it may be. I am learning God is the only Being on planet Earth that knows how to Love Perfectly and will teach me how if I ask. I have learned I had no idea what True Love was; only codependent addiction; which is a very toxic and poisonous relationship; which sadly seems to be the way most people on Earth relate to each other. Carolyn I want to apologize to you because I now understand that my reaction to you in Sedona a couple of years ago at the Retreat you led was a result of my unhealed wounds. I realize now you were speaking Truth to a participant and it felt so unloving and unkind how you did so; and I then judged you and in fact left the Retreat early. I want to Thank You for all that you do to help us all wake up and heal. Wake up and learn how to Love Truly Love. You are an inspiration to me and I am deeply grateful. I wish you Abundant Blessins to shower you Every where and Always!!!!!! Peace My Sister Peace.

[@אנירוצה-ו7ח]

HELLO CAROLINE' THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO. I FELT STUCK IN MY OWN STORY AND HAD A FEELING I WAS MISSING SOMETHING, HEARING THAT MY STORY BECAME MY POWER POINT IS WHAT I NEEDED THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR WORK. GOD BLESS YOU. 🌺

[@wandapriest1850]

I'm very grateful to have stumbled across you, Caroline. I have been trying to come to terms with my childhood, telling my abusive story to 3 or 4 therapists, but I never get resolution. Maybe because I never stick with therapy. I yearn to reraise my grown children, but I'm still not certain I could do it well. I was emotionally absent. I see some of their struggles today and realize it's because of their raising, so I try to cut my mother some slack by thinking she is a product of her raising or she was an angry narcissist. Then there goes the loop of perpetual thinking with no real solutions. Your simple concise explanations make it so very clear. I hope to conquer the emotions and perpetual fight or flight.

[@marciasinger]

Appreciated your shares about your own history and wounding, and the flashbacks to the 50s 'perfection' ideals, displayed on tv: the Nelsons, Leave it to Beaver, Father Knows Best --and to this day, the impossible images persist. Yet, as a therapist/healer myself with decades of exploring "original pain," and the wounded inner child -- I value and embrace it all, for the Mirrors they offer, for our transforming and loving more deeply, and compassionately. Yes, there is a 'gift' in anything, if we just look within. Peace, Blessing.

[@jameswright6169]

This was the most helpful thing I have ever heard I my entire life! I see myself so differently and the reason why my relationship struggles are so difficult.

[@franciskane2521]

Thank you. First time viewing you. I have been a " wounded child" since the age of 5, when my dad died. I developed an eating disorder, had malnutrition, and developed a personality disorder - Avoidant Personality, which I still have. ( I'm a Boomer). Our mother was abused by her mother ( had coal in her Christmas stocking/ had her favorite dress torn up, etc.was punished.) She - in her wounded way, was verbally & physically abusive to my siblings and I. At a meditation group, we did à meditation on our parent's inner child. ( Dad's mom was a cold narcissist) Others said " That was wonderful," etc. I was crying ,I'm also an empath & knew their pain

[@francesb7515]

Carolyne, First of all, thank you for sharing your insights and research on archetypes. I connected to your interest in learning more about people because of people close to me having symptoms but not having a way to heal. When you were talking about the woman who inappropriately brought up abuse like a sort of badge it has me thinking about how we communicate identity and issues we care about. On the one hand, surface chatter about issues on social media can degrade the conversation because there are so many anonymous strangers replying reactively. On the other hand, there have been breakthroughs where issues were not demonized because they were normalized. In addition, when people suffer PTSD from trauma they reenact it. So the people who can't stop communicating may be on that loop, never having learned mind body tools or they may not have had opportunity to grow out of that. You also mentioned growing past trauma. I think mentors should be accessible and they can change people to grow into who they uniquely are. I will be forever thankful for my Women in Transition class led by a compassionate spiritual woman who helped me see that I am not my mom who was a business woman. I have my own unique skills in art and human service so I could stop trying to be someone else. I was also amazed that other people struggled, but were also becoming people learning to live authentically, not some made up ideal society created. I look forward to contemplating archetypes more by listening to your series. Thank you again.

[@brendadavidson7987]

God bless you Caroline - you have escorted me across the Rubicon of healing myself and now, you have helped me see/understand how the exhaustion of witnessing someone else's wounded child in action does too, have the possibility for healing. Purely & Truly, Namaste from Brenda in Toronto CANADA

[@gerlindechristina238]

The history review of this Archetype is so valuable, dear Caroline - thank you so much for putting this clarifying work out in addition to your cards.

[@louiselawson7285]

Thankyou Caroline. You might just have saved my life today. Bless you for your honesty. Your gift to us all.

[@cyndeetaylor]

I felt exactly the same as I came across it today.

[@lisademers9581]

Absolutely brilliant Caroline. So much is now crystal clear.

[@4lynneterry]

If it were not for the shows in the 50’s, I never would have reached out, to find out what was, “normal” and run away, to find the happiness I found.

[@kittyj1926]

Thank you Caroline for this teaching. I needed to hear this today, as I've been struggling to have compassion - instead of anger - for a drama-addicted adult sibling who practices woundology, along with other self/other destructive behaviours. I think it can be used as a more subtle form of coercive control. And thank you for acknowledging what a difficult endeavour healing deep childhood wounds actually is.

[@MaryLopez-kb7xp]

This is one of the greatest talks I've ever listened to.

[@TishArtMa]

So Beautiful thank you Very much 💞💝

[@desertboots4666]

I wish I could give this one two thumbs up - thank you, Caroline.

[@GingerStone]

Thank you! I sometimes have to wait to listen to your work as it is quite thought-provoking! Gratitude for your messages and divine timing.

[@gee4947]

Thank you Caroline, so much! Your mix of knowledge, authenticity and compassion cut through to hit my guarded woundedness, that for the last few years, have caused me to become manipulative. Something I've only recently become aware of and don't like about myself , yet has come about because I haven't healed or been able to grow up. Something I'm aware of and embarrassed about. It is time I took responsibility for my healing. Thank you 👍

[@donnavallee8023]

Thank you for this. Hoping it is never too late. I saw this and backed away...now I will come forward to someone I love with some understanding of where to begin.

[@moreagarcia3421]

I watched the programs you mentioned and loved them. Was brought up in mostly that kind lifestyle. And all of my 6 siblings and myself still benefit from it. I since have had many occasions to be with traumatized people. As adult I had traumatizing dynamic. It gave me deep, emotional felt compassion for others going forward, and, an ongoing Gratefulness to my Mom and Dad for our upbringing. It informs me daily.

[@bluejay5531]

Dear dear Caroline thank you 🙏🏻 divine timing …I have heard you say versions of this before but I am finally ready to take this full on board…I really needed to hear this 🙏🏻

[@wakeup_withAshley]

So fascinating. Makes so much sense👏thank you as always extremely enlightening !🙏

[@MaritzaLord]

Divine timing! Thank you for sharing this profound wisdom.

[@lindavanrooyen2323]

🙏🏻 Thank you. I so appreciate the no-nonsense, yet empathetic delivery! ❤

[@patmelton43]

I love the information you share. I'm trying to heal from a traumatic childhood and this is so helpful. Thank you.

[@susanfronk6632]

I've read many of your books over the years and listened to many of your lectures and this one resonated with me deeply. Thank you!

[@kimberlyamatullah7560]

Thank you so much, this was so profound and compassionate, I will definitely be sponging up your other materials. 🙏

[@palma9835]

Thanks for your honesty and clarity on this subject.

[@beckywood3]

This is gold, this series is gold

[@enough1494]

I have been attacked verbally for saying what you are presenting. Thank you so very very much. I am 66, I begged for help in my teens and early 20’s. Then came Sara at 26, and five babies later and then widowed. I am now healing at last! However, I carry the Scarlett letter after my brake down after the storms Irma and Maria, I was home ( also have a home in Louisiana). And, my own family still rejects me after almost 7 years! God Blesses us all, soon we shall all be free and live in joyful bliss!

[@tanyagarlitz7326]

Thank you for being you and paving the way. Thank you for showing up 🫶🏻

[@lindafrazier8092]

Caroline heartfelt thanks for this and other videos... truly lifechanging❤

[@sandraspidle5972]

Jeffrey Wolf Green, the great astrologer, counselor, tells how his mother held him under scalding water when he was a child, so he ended up being raised by, I think maybe his grandmother? I foget, but he ended up helping thousands upon thousands of people with their trauma, just like you do Caroline, and he taught astrology along with the therapists healing program to other professionals and put them on you tube. This was of great help just as your you tube podcasts help us. Namaste'

[@lindahawkins5205]

I have always loved your teachings. 🙏 Thank you.

[@lesleyM84]

absolutely extraordinarily helpful.. so enlightening and validating and hopeful💕💕🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊.. thank YOU 🙏🏻

[@heathermcbride3859]

Thank you Caroline!🙏 I gain SUCH insight learning from you. This archetype talk resonates so well with respect to my relationship with my mom.

[@tristenbuchanan5262]

Thank You Carolyn. I will be taking time to heal my wounded child and my mum will be healing her wounded child too. I have read through all the archetypes and created a wheel of knowledge about myself and how I think and function. It’s honestly the best insight that I’ve ever had. You’re fantastic 😊❤❤😊

[@cyndeetaylor]

My mother came clearly to me in a dream last night and I instantly told her to "stop faking it." The way she addressed me was so off-balance. I knew by the time I was making coffee, that it was all she knew to do back then.