Caroline Myss - The Bully (The Power of Archetypes)

[@bizinsky]

There is no amount of trying to make somebody look bad that makes you look good.

[@nyu3492]

It took me a long time to realize my mom was a bully to me when I was young. She’s 40 years older. For the longest time I assumed adults are automatically reasonable and “mature”. Took me a loooooong to accept that such an older person could feel so giddy about outsmarting a little kid. For sure a lot of shame and humiliation that she passed on to me that I am trying to shake off.

[@isabellcaputo954]

"Don't allow yourself to be bullied by anybody. 🙏🙏🙏 Don't ever allow yourself to be bullied. Never. If that's it, move one, get out, free yourself."

[@Christ100]

Myss goes to Hell for eternity, an oppressive bully censor of God's children, a pimp prostitute for Mammon -- Hell forever.

[@lisakiraly5856]

I married a bully.. fortunately after many torturous years .. I did get away … what a waste of not knowing.. thanks Caroline for your incredible insight on this archetype

[@jannie6359]

My Sister isa bully and my last living family member. Had to cut off all contact after my mother passed. She was holding my involvement with my mom hostage. Working on forgiveness for her behavior since 2018. Its so sad.

[@audreyburdelle6557]

My mom was a bully because she felt bad about herself. Bullying is nasty and endemic, at work, at school, at church everywhere. Thank you for this post.

[@patmelton43]

My father was a bully and he screwed up all of his children. Some of my siblings are still trying to heal; some of us just got sicker and went down farther into the pit and some of us went to school, took psychology and tried to understand and heal.

[@miapax1962]

❤❤❤

[@Freeasabirdnow]

❤ I understand, I wish they can heal and all of us too.

[@micheleharris6851]

It's everywhere, you are correct. My experience is such petty nastiness in bullies. I have moved on so many times and when that door closed another higher frequency door appeared. What a teaching moment, too, finding my tribe of well intentioned, kind, collaborative, loving individuals. Took several decades, but am so grateful.❤️☮️

[@lindafrazier8092]

Well said❤

[@kimgardner2281]

This is powerfully insightful. Particularly, the ways in which women bully. I have recently encountered an adult bully in an organization. This person is highly successful and popular. However, this person when opportunity presents will just stare. This person also utilizes what I realize now is a form of bullying. For example, attempting to weaponize exclusion. This person also must be in charge and has a group of people who are obedient.

[@Oscarnodwannabe]

That's how women typically fight, not physically but emotionally and social exclusion is weaponized by female bullies.

[@laurenbatson5918]

Women engage in aggression using "group force" where men use "brute force" (physicality). Women use gossip, slander, subtle forms of devaluing (exclusion) a person to get them somehow hurt seen as damaged by the group. Social damage.

[@kittyj1926]

I recognise this and it's devastating to be on the receiving end of - the gossip, largely fabricated, and the exclusions. Not to mention the gaslighting...

[@m17434]

There is another story about The Bully that is worth mentioning; The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini (in 2003). Brilliant story about a bully that met his match; a little boy with a stone and his sling put the bully out of action just like David and Goliath! I have a request for an archetype analysis. Could you explore the archetype The Teacher? You are a wonderful teacher. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos. Muchas gracias.

[@kchaddah2595]

The arc of history bends toward freedom and holism 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@pcs1120]

I am looking for hope this day. The chaos is getting to me. But I love this perspective. It helps feed my hope.

[@amherst88]

Your perspective is *so* *needed* Caroline -- *thank* *you* ❤

[@jannie6359]

This is really deep and multilayered, Caroline. Thanks for sharing this.

[@balancedsoulcoaching]

I was bullied so much for my choices in 2020… The mob mentality that overtook because of the fear had people treating me how I’ve never been treated before including family… I only pray that we all learned something from this experience… Bullying in politics is at an all-time high right now on both sides… I appreciate this video very much for explaining how this all relates

[@rainbowfeet58]

Powerful words as always a fascinating insight into the relationship world at all levels. I was excluded by a ‘spiritual’ group who claim to be working with unconditional love after I could no longer afford to attend workshops and sessions to clear my past. It was a devastating experience after years of supporting and helping them in ways that were not reciprocated at my lowest time. Some years down the track I realise they helped me understand that I deserve better and their behaviour says more about them than it does about me. Spiritual bullies - scary stuff………

[@pamcollie9063]

I was put on by a spiritual grpup couple who led the group. I left when in meditstion a tiger roamed in front of me as though protecting me.

[@mysticat7652]

A Bully. What is that about? One word- POWER. They don't have authentic power, so they seek POWER-OVER others.

[@lovernotfighter]

As a Kid I was bullied by teachers and bigger kids. I had to learn to fight. I'm 72 now and one thing I have noticed is that there are always Bullies right around the corner. It doesn't go away it just gets passed on.

[@agnestenorio1092]

Thank You for sharing your wisdom and blessings!🌹

[@rosavecilla4186]

Thank you so much. Really crucial information for this era ❤

[@kayla-bs2ft]

Caroline.....may you be blessed for your wisdom ❤ Love you❤

[@geg3758]

I’m loving listening to these pearls of Wisdom & learning so much along the way Thank you 🙏

[@catejames6453]

Thank you for this message Caroline!

[@tonybenson8303]

Bless you as Caroline for your wisdom, your generous heart and for the power of love in truth. The only way to live.

[@kiskakuznetsova503]

Thank you, I come from a family of bullies and it’s so sad. They don’t see what I do with their lies and scapegoating. What kind of adult bullies a child? Who lies about a child’s behavior to cover their own? A very damaged person.

[@mariafrancescamasia2288]

...as usual..every time more...you are extraordinary The understanding of the humans and the cosmo that you share is a new key ...couse it's a new world❤

[@ambergraef538]

I would be incredibly fascinated to hear a video of a combination of The Bully Archetype + The Angel (or The Martyr, The Victim, etc) I’ve had that bizarre combination one time too many in my life and I’m desperate for the kind of nuanced insight that could be gleaned from hearing an expert break down the alchemy between those two seemingly dichotomous energies. To put a more modern western label on it - something like the self-righteous or communal narcissist….

[@oselkhandro4416]

Excellent and so timely. Thank you.

[@lizrohme2232]

Thank you for grounding us in ourselves and with each other. I am grieving this process /bullying. I hope to live long enough to see the shift. In special Ed, when we put a behavior plan in place for a student, the behavior always gets worse before it gets better. I hope to see these behaviors beginning to diminish. ❤

[@isa.8888]

Awesome...🎯concise wisdom of navigating through the many aspects in a practical way❤❤❤

[@lindaraereneau484]

What about doing a session on the sycophant? To me, it seems they are afraid of responsibility. They want to use someone else as a shield, to have a go between. They actually control the bully. And the bully can be blamed if there's a bad outcome. The sycophant ous afraid to have power him/herself and pushes it onto someone they control from behind.

[@mshill2406]

Very interesting!

[@artemiselias1462]

Masters of impression management - friends never believe you live with a bully. it's also a narcissistic trait.

[@Ladybirdpaint]

Such fabulous teachings..thank you so much

[@monicaalvarado1166]

It is the case of the one who feels brave being a coward. Thank you Carolyne!

[@mariaperezcejuelacoca5464]

Don't allow yourself to be bullied by anybody✊ thank you for making these videos. We truly need more individuals like you, who inspire and share knowledge generously.🌸

[@lisitribble]

Caroline, thanks for your overview. You really see so many aspects of the social dilemma.

[@shipratrika2586]

Those two kids in the classroom turn bigger bullies at work and more refined in their bullying.

[@Ecemd1]

I love these videos and you're such a good story teller

[@MovingWithTheCosmos]

Life always wins. ❤

[@anyahippert8846]

Thank you so much for this video and other teachings, Carolyn! Today I stood up to a bully( it was challenging) but I feel EMPOWERED now. 🙏

[@katrussell6819]

This explains why some folks WANT authoritarian government. It is from FEAR.

[@timmywitty1432]

False Evidence Appearing Real / FEAR.

[@graveallure]

You truly care, and I appreciate that. Sadly it isn't common, can't speak for all of the population, but it certainly has been rare in my life.

[@Dreamaster2012]

Feeling that you are special and have a great task to perform is Great! As long as you keep your ego in place and use any power you akrew for rhe good of the world.

[@ginalibrizzi5204]

I think the idea of having a special purpose can be interpreted as creating your own path, defining a new role rather than just assuming an existing job description. And that’s very good, indeed.

[@estelaperosio3491]

Thank you Caroline!!

[@foreverjavan]

Thank you ❤

[@desiderata56]

I am so grateful for all the information and wisdom you impart to me and others. Thank you for reaching my inner wounding with this archetype and verifying all that I previously thought and felt. You made me feel not alone.

[@1HorseOpenSlay]

I remember some boys like that in catholic grade school. They were terrible. They were from derelict abusive homes. It's not an excuse, but it is a reason. I knew, even at 6 years old, that the sisters and adults didn't notice or protect from the bullies. They may have, had they known.

[@traceyyeoman8391]

Really ate enjoying these archetype lessons

[@andersstromberg6025]

Loved it, thank you Caroline❤

[@gr8hndz4u]

Thank you!

[@Alextangents]

You know it’s Wednesday when a new archetype is being studied :)

[@ralferez36]

🌹🌹🌹💕💕💕Thanks very insightful! I love your honesty!

[@alexandiejames3625]

Can you please do the archetypes of maiden, mother and crone?

[@vivianm.varela2602]

Thank you🙏🏽

[@mahkal1357]

Wow this is something thank ypu Carolinexx

[@marianmarshall7026]

Big help! Big thank you, Carolyn!!

[@angelagholson4988]

great hair cut.

[@sharaswitala6296]

I love this woman

[@beamgoals]

Wow, so powerful! Thank you! STRONG PEOPLE HAVE THE POWER TO EMPOWER OTHERS! THEIR POWER RUNNETH OVER :D

[@valerieayla4687]

I really love this series and frequently reflect on it. Today it came to me that maybe one of the newer Archetypes could be the Loser. I wonder what you think about this, and if you would morph it into a previous one or it holds its own??

[@ariencox4579]

I’d love more information on how bullying through gossip works. That seems to be the main issue in my life.

[@SBDE16]

I would love to hear about the archetype of the invisible child

[@pamcollie9063]

Hi Caroline i did get out of a marriage where drip by drip i was changed. It took me nearly as long as my marriage to regain who i was again a free spirit. I was put on an assertive training course as i was told i was too assertive, apparently, there is a fine line between being assertive and aggressive yet my pyschological profile test came out loving and kind, peaceful. Since then i had the courage to stand up for a pregnant mother over a consultant and i got suspended and lost my job as noone stands up to consultants they are the NHS. My finances, my home i got a mortgage for, my health were all affected. At my appeal the outside Chairman was removed from the meeting because he thought i was innocent. I have changed but attracted two further incidents becaise i wont stand down to a bully , i stand up to them. However, you made me realise my passion to look our food industry, soil, air, watee etc and pass on this information can come across as bullying. I was accused of bullying by a 17 year old with ADHD and PTS and after a few months he informed me the girl he was dating , her mother, always talked negatively about me although i met her once at work. This girl, also 17, went on to stesl from my till at the same time as the bullying complaimt against me. Somehow i was accused and pushed into a corner. Now i know the truth it took awhile to forgive and let go and do the same agsim. However, because i have changed i am told i am feisty, sure i am i wont let this cowardly, lies bring me down. It changed me but the Course of Miracles saved me. Forgivenes. This unity towatds all men and women and uniting to support eacjother as people, countries etc is what i really feel is the heaven on earth. I see the macrocosm of the lies in Gogernment and fear factor dominating, preventing the majority of humanity to be who they really are supportive and loving towards nature and eachother. My feist, peaceful and loving character are both me which i accept. My feistiness is don't mess with me or this is my passion preventing dangerous chemicals killing our insects and then my loving side os for the future this is is where i hope for a better future. I am not an activist that throws pink or orange paint around but i would strap myself to any ancient tree being cut down and meanwhile anyone imterested in nature or asks me i explain this may work better to stop ants, look up this butterfly and plant it feeds on and keep going with your enthusiasm for life. Take care for our way of life but i'm no Mandela or Ghandi i am just Pam.

[@DZ-rf9fh]

The work of Gabor Mate in the "Myth of Normal" covers why several archetypes occur due to various cultural/community/family power dynamics.

[@Imranomer2221]

I think Caroline is describing the spectrum from grandiose to malignant narcissist

[@kathyadair8552]

Seems correct, to me. Even the late, Blue Inverted one. Used to "throw her Wt. around," being the oldest. Inverted* Narc (per, Professor Sam Vaknin, Ph D.).

[@janepilkington9293]

I'm not a physically strong person, but I learned that if you look them in the eye, they know you mean business, and back down. Our nuns never allowed bullying.

[@Silvermoonscorpion]

The nuns at my school were the bullies. Seriously. They'd call you out and get the whole class to laugh at you. Pre-K and kindergarten. Our desks were in a circle.. they'd walk inside and outside of the circle of desks. Rulers were used to smack our hands and lower backs. Luckily by 1st grade I was pulled out of that school but after school parochial school still happened for years and you learned to not ask questions. I left the church spiritually by 4th grade.

[@Godfree1212]

You represent the bully perfectly. ❤

[@angelacrossley7374]

Mind blowing🤯thankyou🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@laravladimir493]

She's very extreme when describing the archetypes. She's quite fierce and making out the bully as a bad person. They're not. They're hurt. I try my best best to be a good loving kind supportive mum , but at the end of the day when it's all on me as I'm single , aching , and still have dishes etc to do. I have found myself being a bully about things that aren't done around the house, or having to ask more than 3 X for something to get done. I get exhausted and overwhelmed and can't take the load anymore. I am aware tho and always say sorry and explain its cause I'm not feeling well

[@lcaldwell2142]

Seems like a bully just has very little experience with true connection to their self or others. Never feeling fully received or valued.

[@lisitribble]

Carolyn, true true true. Thanks for your insight.

[@alexandradana5055]

Will you please consider another in-person event with Robert Ohotto this year? I wasn’t able to attend last year, and I would like to very much. Thank you so much for your consideration. ❤

[@Freeasabirdnow]

Thank you for sharing your knowledges with us ❤ (always have been bullied but because they hate the force in the vulnerable person ? Or make them stronger ?)

[@siennabrowne5725]

I’ve received the bully card twice and I do not understand why. I left a narcissistically abusive relationship and am trying to see how this card pertains to me…all I can resonate with is that I feel anger, resentment, and grief. I don’t see how I am reflecting this card from myself.

[@lindascull6327]

Can we just take a moment on how beautiful you look? Love love love everything you teach AND YOU--but I have to comment on how I love your hair and glasses❤

[@christinamaytham3062]

I was bullied throughout my primary school. Dismissed from my previous job by a bully. I dont know why its so prevailent in my life but im really struggling and not in a good place

[@Jacqueoldfield]

❤thank you

[@brendasmart553]

Thankyou!☯😘🌏

[@josettesheets8327]

Parents who “smash the hell” out of their children create bullies. I can understand being born with the archetypal pattern of bully but aren’t they usually created by parents or sibling abuse?

[@d.aletadrawdy7584]

As a redhead, I am Not a stranger to bulling, but females are more viperous to me. Thank You for Sharing ❣️🌹

[@celeste8652]

oooh --this is a juicy one!

[@carolynkennedy9582]

My mother went to Catholic school where the nuns bullied her and hit her hands with a ruler because she was left-handed. When my Irish-Catholic husband was a child, he repeatedly snuck out of Catholic school because the nuns were so horrible. Finally, his family gave in and allowed him to attend secular school. I'd like to see some of these themes addressed rather than such obvious stories.

[@rootsgrl]

How do you deal with a bully neighbour who won't let you sleep more than 3 hours a night every night from banging on the wall and follows u around day and night banging on ceiling in bathroom on balcony...everywhere. How do u stand up to this type of character. I've been ignoring hoping they get bored and stop. Then because so sleep deprived lost it one day and banged on their door to which they wouldn't answer. Now they're loving that they got a response knowing their incessant torture is working. What do you do besides move in this situation?

[@greenhornet5186]

I appreciate the story about the bully and the nun; that nun was brilliant. Unfortunately, it would not fly today. The bully would have won. The principal and his parents would have seen the nun as "abusive", and the nun would have been shown the door. Sad, but true.

[@cristinanunes4243]

The idea of the world as a collective is wonderful. I 'm scared of a small group of of billionaires crushing the individual, ruling the world from their privileged point of view, which has nothing to do with the real people.

[@timmywitty1432]

It’s happening now!

[@susancarolan153]

This, gets a bit close to the bone, and freaks me out. I'll try to listen to something with more laughter. Is the comic, the clown an archetype? Xxx🙏🏻

[@ryanzink3238]

Mrs. Myss, big thought, but do you suppose universes multiple universes maybe bully one another that this could be greater than just our cosmic issue, that maybe the universe itself gets flack such as this from other universes and vise versa ? @ryanczink

[@artemiselias1462]

Can we see the books on your bookshelf please?

[@lauriewright7464]

What is the difference between a bully and a narcissist.

[@misskaistar]

What to do if thr bullies were social workers？

[@mannie2075]

Our Collective organ is a great message to Oneness 🙏✨🙏✨🙏 is so beautiful described👌💪🏼🇸🇪🌍✨♥️🙏🦋☘️🌸💕👍🐋☘️🐣 No more bullied 💪🏼👍

[@Donna-vb5rr]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@ellengarcia4041]

My mother was a bully and laid it on from day one. She screwed up all my siblings. I planned my escape and left the country with her threats ringing in my ears from all directions. What can I say except geez! 😂😂😂

[@latifa1020]

I think the tendency and need to see oneself as "special" came in dramatically with the Boomer generation. You can speak w Lynn about the configurations of that era; the stellium of Mars, Saturn, and Pluto in Leo.

[@MysticWisdomTarot]

Isn’t a bully a covert narcissist? Seems like my ex boyfriend! Just finished this toxic relationship of control and manipulation! No self asteem and yet always saying how great he is at everything?.

[@lynnbartrim4232]

What about the bullying that the governments around the world have put us through for the past three years.

[@ariengabriella]

Could you speak a bit on internet bullying? I think this is a strange phenomenon and a different take on the power dynamics between groups and individuals

[@67oldcoach]

The balance of power of America is shifting. We watch slightly horrified knowing we follow you. Australia here.

[@pueoakua4858]

If underlying the bully’s behavior is shame and fear of humiliation, then how does the shaming and humiliation of the boy in front of the class by the nun help him? Feels to me that she was bullying him and adding to his low self-esteem. Humiliation is a very easy way to control children though.

[@carolynkennedy9582]

My mother was bullied by Catholic nuns who repeatedly hit her hands with a ruler because she was left-handed. My Irish Catholic husband repeatedly snuck out of Catholic grade school because the nuns were so horrible.

[@thethingofitis]

Dominators usually are not backed by much it's fascia if you test it with your logic. Crappy domination parents are the cause. It's like pack animal mentality that respects age or size but not wits or bring correct or serving the group etc. It's a selfish defense but if you believe you're endangered by groups for whatever reason and visualize your massacre it can have a certain sick validity. Not excusable but the madness has a method. Sometimes if you are in a psychopathic group you may actually need to step into that type of position and philosophically kick asses so you don't get erased. That happens. If you're displaced in another culture and are outnumbered you can appreciate it. My history teacher in h s. Told us a story about growing up on a reservation and there was this new kid who was getting bullied. His father told him to pick the biggest scariest kid and kick his ass so he did it and nobody ever bothered him again. Problem solved. It's got to be animalistic cave man residue. Individualistic dominator ideation doesn't accept the collective exists. It's a demonic conceptualization. We used to kill psychopathic individuals who were really excellent at killing animals and got power that way because it's detrimental. Then instead of that we somehow switched to benefitting and tolerance so everyone ends up exploiting the psychos actually to keep it up. They are encouraged to do that and have tiny little specializations but lack brains in other areas. To survive they are on that. Not supporting it but that's how it operates mechanically. We do need certain psychos because they don't get sick physically from certain ideas so they really do have a special power that's necessary in certain conditions for the group. Think about it. They just don't have access to higher mental spaces by doing that.

[@BIGPVSSY33]

I couldn’t listen past the start because the innocent child being framed as a “bully” in contrast to the nun and nuclear family and principle using shaming and humiliation and coercion to force him to comply with their abusive education system and saying the kid is the bully :( been listening to these videos and finding them interesting but this one’s flicked a switch for me about the perspective of truth being promoted. The narcissist archetype also started to unravel things because it’s so at odds with what healing narcissism needs to be dehumanising the narc and labelling them as senselessly malicious and incapable of growth.