How Narcissistic Abuse Manipulates Your Brain (& How You Can Reverse it!)

[@amyb837]

Finall someone who is explaining what all this is. I’m so grateful!

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

So pleased it helps my friend 🥰

[@Groundwater24]

@@TouchdownJesusMB what’s going on. Reach out to someone.

[@TouchdownJesusMB]

​@@Groundwater24 Hello! I am sorry about not responding. I ended up in ICU with a large brain tumor & had 2 surgeries to remove it. Somehow my ex- N/P found my new# & began calling me. Gaslighting does cause brain damage & I have mostly healed. I have to undergo laser therapy on my brain. 🩷 Thank you & be safe!! Blessings of Peace!!💞💞💞

[@violetw2653]

This is all so relatable, especially the part about not reading anymore. I used to love to read and spent a lot of my free time doing so, nowadays I'm literally unable to.

[@angelacsmithisoughtforaman8862]

I was diagnosed and treated for ADHD and all along it was narcissistic abuse. Wow!!!

[@JOY-tf7gj]

I'm starting to think this is what happened with me. I don't think like before can't concentrate, forget easily . Things used to know now forgot how to do. I've suffered from mistreatment, gaslighting, financial abuse, future faking, physical,mental,and emotional abuse from exes and very own family for years. Just now cut off.

[@angelacsmithisoughtforaman8862]

@@JOY-tf7gj Could be. The healthcare system is greatly lacking where this issue is concerned. I’m a nurse and I never connected the trauma to my symptoms which began over 12 years ago.

[@AlfUckhamHall]

I've been investigated for Autism and now I wonder if this diagnosis is wrong and acutally narcisisstic behaviour from another person is the reason.

[@arthurlockwood8735]

My heart goes out to you me to❤️😴

[@suzannedaly7132]

ADHD is just a coping mechanism due to trauma

[@battlehymnoftheempath3610]

I have a narcissistic mother. I am still angry that no one ever warned me about her. I love your approach. I find that to the last thing the narcissist wants is for us to be optimistic. To see a better future, to believe that there is a paradise outside of our life with them. I still harbor resentment at how this world is run and how they are allowed to exist among us, but I am definitely not where I used to be.

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

I hear you and let me tell you that it’s never been your fault and so sorry your mother is like this as you didn’t Choose her. Sending love and keeping being you

[@K4KUTE]

Same! 👏🏻

[@InsideOutsideSoul]

Its strange some narcissist want to have you to think and hope for a better future, to just take it away from you whilst its unclear if they are the reason for failure, or not.

[@lo-ul8nq]

Narcissists never loved us at all. Narcissists are liars Narcissists don't care about you at all. Narcissists are pure evil souls. Narcissists are broken people.

[@crusitacorral2821]

Reading for me has become impossible. Now I have a difficult time watching videos. It’s taken me about an hour to watch this one. I can’t even watch a movie all the way through.

[@TouchdownJesusMB]

l hope you are healing & on your way to your new life. I too had similar issues and had a seizure at a park. I was diagnosed with a large brain tumor & had 2 brain surgeries. 😢 Please take care & consider seeing a neurologist & maybe get an MRI of your brain. 💞💞💞 Sending you Love & Healing!! 💞💞💞

[@volvaheidrbores663]

Same, can't focus or absorb anything. I can't think straight.

[@hibiscus1974]

@@volvaheidrbores663me too

[@markh4926]

At an AA meeting a new girl sat next to me. I was explaining how the meeting worked. She thought I was funny and laughed and giggled, very good fun. I had no idea I was angering the whole 30 people at the meeting. "We are not a glum lot" That's not true in this meeting. They like to keep most of the lights off. Anyway, three people spoke up and called me a predator. It's not possible for me to relay the pain, anger and isolation I am experiencing. Today I watched a police video. At the end the Police Captain announced, "The predator is dead." Is that what I deserve according to my judges. This brain fog is very irritating but I go out to my wood shop and make a bowl or something like a goblet on my wood lathe. And I pray.

[@boxelder9147]

AA can be very toxic. Be careful in those rooms

[@marzkilljoy731]

Not dodging trying to get sober, always strive to do so. I have recently stopped attending AA because of the glum atmosphere in a reflective shame game. For me my alcoholism is based largely around shame. I found just going to meetings was undoing my progress. And i wasn't even someone who even shared or talked except to read. Im so sorry that happened to you. I hope you're doing better these days. There are meetings like ALanon or Smart Recovery or NAMI. Some people who go to meetings are looking for the community on a common pretense. I wish you so much luck. You are not a predator. Some AAs are full of bitter individuals that have the choice to embrace the structure and fall in line, or lose control like before. You were empathetic and friendly.

[@PassionateFlower]

Make it simple for yourself. If someone makes you a priority in their life and treats you with dignity and respect, then match that energy. If someone de-prioritizes you and treats you with disrespect, disregard, and indifference, then match that energy. Simple😎. Enjoy the rest of your 2023 my friends🥰.

[@Abundance81]

Thank you for the simplicity of this message!

[@moazhassan7650]

A very simple message but as effective as it is

[@PianoForJesus]

Your message misses the love bombing dynamic which is irresistible to those who have massive voids if they let’s say lost a parent in child hood or went the other significant traumatic experiences. Look up Sam Vaknin’s work on narcissism and the dual mothership that happens. It’s not as simple as you say.

[@debbiemckenna5]

My dad is a Narcissist. He thinks he is a god! He did all the games that a narc does to me. I had to go NO contact. Because I have dealt with his games for 53 years and I could not stand it anymore. I need help with recovery from this Severe Trauma that I experienced. I have tried many different medications and therapies but EVERYTHING U said I Definitely still have. My mind body and Spirit are Broken and need to be repaired. I am just existing I am not Living!

[@rachelrose9348]

You have to find the truth to be set free! Truth heals the mind and body. Its the lies and illusion the narc creates that destroys us

[@rachelrose9348]

Seek God to find the truth

[@littleiodine9480]

My goal right now is healing me. The reasons they are like that kept me giving excuses for me to keep being abused. Kept me stuck.

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Yes!!! Self healing is the priority my friend 😘

[@christine96-o1o]

I was emotionally and mentally abused in my first marriage for 22 years. Cheated on multiple times, and couldn’t leave because I was codependent (the narcissist favorite type). It took him not being able to give up the last woman for me to give up. He took so much from me, and still has the audacity to show up at my uncle’s funeral with the woman he cheated with then married. I still have so much to heal from and we divorced 6 years ago.

[@Daddy0257]

Maybe I missed it but how exactly do we rewire/fix ourselves? By reprocessing each thing?

[@middleofnowhere1313]

Looks like the actual answers are locked behind a paywall on her site. I'm so sick of videos that are just an ad for overly expensive services that carry no guarantees.

[@anitavarga5983]

It's very helpful. Now I understand, why can't I write poetries after the abuse. Poetry writening was my life since my childhood, and now I think impossible to wtite poetries. I'm very sad about this. Greatings from Hungary!

[@rl3656]

I believe it will come back. U got this ❤

[@queendivine3044]

You are speaking nothing but the truth. When all this brain fog was going on that was being caused behind this group of Narc monkey's is what I still call them. I use to live watching TV good movies and reading books I couldn't focus I would cry and the worse their abusive words got. It was horrible. I didn't want to wake up because of these people and the on going stuff. I knew then that not only did I have childhood trauma but as an adult these people was laying another track of trauma on top of the vgildh abuse and preteen years that I had PSTD disorder behind. I remember waking up but was sitting up and was thrown into a dark place could not snap out of it. I was in the battlefield in my mind feeling everything as if it was happening to be as it did when I was a kid in the midst of this place these people sent me through hell on top of it. I called out to God and one or two of the safest people I could remember I was safe around that I knew yet everything was dark my vision too. I then was able to pick up a sound of someone in my trailer park playing some music with loud base and I pulled it in as a female friend being their and was able to come out of it. People just don't know how hard it is and it's not a laughing matter. Trauma and survivors of abuse of any kind are not a target got heartless people. Guard yourself from abusers who play with what you been through and add more trauma it throws you backwards taking your mind longer yo heal. The mind never forgets such people and it's a good thing in a way because it reminds you who not to be around.

[@sparkle8602]

Narc is not a short form for narcissist. A “narc” is a narcotics cop.

[@Find_Amelia_Island]

So WHAT EXACTLY do I do to reprogram and resize my hippocampus and amygdala? Massage? Exercise? EmDR? There were so many non-stop words in this video my ears were overstrained and I couldnt tell explanation from encouragement from direction. What now?

[@cindyfleischer6710]

I left my narcissistic husband after 21 years of misery. At the point when each of my 3 children then aged 8, 14 & 16 came to me and said they no longer wanted to live with their father! It’s been 12 years and I need help. I have PTSD and feel like a stranger to myself. I sometimes feel completely disassociated with my body. I was bullied as a child and then went straight into a narcissistic marriage. Is there anyone that does what you do, that you can recommend in Johannesburg, South Africa ?

[@Groundwater24]

Cindy. I would strongly advise you to order the book, Waking The Tiger by, Peter Levine. Read it & read it again. It could be life changing for you. It is hard to grasp that these demonic things are everywhere but make no mistake, the tide is turning. All the best.

[@CameronJohnston-pf5gy]

I will say this: when you verbally/physically/emotionally abuse your child then you’re storing up problems for the future. The reason for this is because when your child gets to adulthood they’re emotionally damaged by your actions regardless of how long ago it took place. Even if you suddenly have an epiphany, realise in horror what you’ve done to your child and then offer them a genuine apology, it’s too late. The damage has already been done. It’s then up to the child to do the therapy needed in order to recover. Once you’ve reached that point that’s it. Nothing you say or do will reverse the damage so please, be careful

[@annaa6259]

Best explanation I heard on trauma, emotional response. HG Tudor speaks about how empaths are hijacked by emotional thinking and now I understand why after this brilliant video. Epic broadcast 👏👏👏

[@truthjunkie63]

The reading thing. I used to read constantly before meeting my husband.

[@laurad1487]

Would you Pease explain in more detail how to do this, how itcworks,, getting in to your body, in small pieces, how to reintegrate? Also, for a lot of people, including me, the narcissistic trauma is layered over C- PTSD, or other relationship trauma.

[@tanislichti578]

I stopped reading(and writing) too! My favorite things to do ever. And the brain fog and forgetfulness was so bad. The memory gaps I have of things that I should remember but I don't. My own graduation for example (no substance abuse). That should have been a bell but the fog was so strong. I felt so stupid.

[@jamestutanekai5060]

Wow that was magic , my ex partner was a covert narcissist IMO , I was so broken , knowing the mechanics really helps .

[@meandme7798]

Bless you Caroline.Been watching many videos about narcissist but the thing I really liked from you is that you teach and you genuinely likes to help. With free classes and very cheap consultation fee.You are doing charity because you know that most of the victims are not just drained mentally and emotionally but also financially.

[@helendodwell800]

Wow! Does the brain go back? Or are the changes for life until you have overcome all the trauma?

[@DidiyogasalsastudioTM]

how to heal, they are everywhere !!!

[@8888-9]

Came across this channel randomly. With genuine respect for gained knowledge and desire to inform and benefit others , I personally require calm videos with gentle calming voice. This video for me is jam packed excited intense fast talking - certainly bound to assist many - I need to bow out-

[@virginiaharvey]

Safe,support,grief flight effect

[@nikahisrael308]

You have a jewel here, it makes all sense now!!

[@mongoose59]

This is the first time of having this explained like this. It all fits so well with what has and keeps happening to me. It explains learning difficulties I had and have and the film and book references spot on. With books I can actually read the first page and then I’m gone elsewhere but the strange thing is I seem to still be reading as I have got to the end of a page and yet I can not remember a thing. I can watch a film and not know what has happened. I wish I had known about this 40 years ago. I now realise the effect of the trauma I suffered as a youngster and hadn’t associated it with how I react when I feel threatened. This really is an eye opener thanks so much for posting this.

[@WoodenFeather-xm3vl]

You do such a great job explaining this in layman's terms. I started the journey two years ago however; this is a refresher to the work that still needs to continue. It is not nearly as intimidating today as it was then. Thanks for your video.

[@donnaparks1919]

Thanks to these videos and baby sises texts bout n sis I survived n sis. Mom didn't no contact saves lives and sanity.

[@Groundwater24]

Half the “therapists” in the UK are revolting narcissists. You only have to say the word and [the ones I’ve dealt with] they almost fall out of their chair. Isn’t that right JH?

[@volvaheidrbores663]

Same here in America. The therapists damaged me. They r sick psychos

[@teacup1703]

✨ I’m subscribed now. Watched your session with Dr C. Processing through all of this and working through anger and shock at how long it took ME to figure this out. Now the escaped (blessedly) life-long scapegoat rebuilding a life without NPR abuse. Reassured that doing the work to redirect my neurons will get me to the Green Light. Much better now, with all of this available education. Thank you!!

[@StrongerThanYouThink1015]

I have never heard the Term post traumatic growth until this video.

[@crusitacorral2821]

I’m in a relationship with someone who has a lot of narcissistic behaviors. Looking I’m hindsight, I can now see where this isn’t the first time. However; I feel that I’m just as bad as she is, if not worse. Either or… Where do I get some REAL HELP?!

[@revheimliliam1305]

Got it that in the lbov system the hippocampus shrink and you have problems with recent memory, and learning, a BB d in the amigdala fear in invited 😊

[@estherporat8678]

Thanks for wonderful, helpful video and for the conpassionate message! Side note- loved the cheerful nail colors

[@jenmessier2195]

I feel i am the opposite... i numb out watching a million KZbin videos and netflix... i also cant seem to cope with work stress... i feel like running away from all stress...

[@TanyaKatherine]

WOW THANK YOU SO MUCH! 5:50 especially! Just golden information! That shook me up.

[@okeyyyy2191]

Great video this is what I’m going through how do I heal from this I’m all over the place

[@Martin-wb9oy]

Anyone else misunderstood and fals diagnosed with bipolar disorder, because of narcissistic abuse?

[@princessisha5205]

OMG! Yaa that was me too😮

[@Martin-wb9oy]

@@princessisha5205 so grateful to meet other people, who experienced something similar

[@Martin-wb9oy]

@@princessisha5205 would love to chat with you about that topic

[@brittneyruben4668]

Oh my goodness!!!! Yessss

[@Matriarch57]

Yes!

[@princessmorningstar7666]

I love your videos and thank you so much for making these videos and helping so many of us! I would like to know however if you still offer a trauma coach certification program? If you do could you please direct me as to how I would get more information, cost etc.? I’m very interested in becoming a coach for this particular issue that so many lives have been affected by. Thank you for all your help ✨✨✨✨

[@averagebodybuilder]

What happens to the narcissist when he/she falls victim to an even bigger narcissist?

[@hempyeverafter]

I appreciate you.

[@roreetinkerbell6893]

Amazing explanation but could you expand on the solutions you listed to reverse the brain damage such as trauma capsules, somatics.. I don't know what these are. Thank you for a great video.

[@jendaly9910]

Can you please recommend a good therapist who’s expertise is trauma (like yourself) in the Fresno/ Clovis, CA area?

[@annastone5624]

Good info.. But to ‘not respond like a 5yo’ can take several years, if there is serious trauma. I was led to believe that some yoga, massage, tapping and a bit of therapy would do the trick. There really is a very large spectrum of trauma that should be referred to a bit more often. If you’ve had serious trauma, don’t expect the healing to be quick, but you will get there.

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Healing is a lifelong journey

[@laurenlawson81]

So eye opening!

[@natanyajohns1444]

Man you are right I need help

[@Lilkfc3500]

Exercise and take Fish Oil every day people.

[@Vixinaful]

Ive been living this way since I was born. How do I heal? Therapy isnt helping.

[@katejones2172]

.. Me too & getting worse

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Hi Guys, I would love to help! please reach out to me on Instagram - instagram.com/carolinestrawson ❤️

[@Vixinaful]

@@CarolineStrawsonHealing I had to close my instagram bc of the stalking.

[@valeriezack44]

@@Vixinafulopen a new one with a new email

[@Dreamazium]

I've ended up thinking that everyone around my is a narcissist.

[@jenchristianrn1]

Awesome thanks for the info. Much appreciated

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Glad it resonates 😘

[@greek_latina]

I love this explanation and I LOVE your nails 💅🏽 🙏🏽😍 Thank you Caroline!!

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Ah thank you and glad it helps 😘

[@dbiedler]

Hello and thank you. I am having difficulty following the second link you added. Is the link still valid?

[@interactive1178]

I like the way you explain things so I can understand them... thank you ❣️

[@erikalarsson]

Thank you so much 🙏🙏❤️ exacly how i feel its extrem .

[@gerhardgroenewald]

Absolutely an AMAZING video on the topic 👏👌🔥Can you make a video relating to the impact that NPD / trauma has on Vegal nervous system and gut health please? (Aka the “2 brains” ) 🙏

[@Randall-b2t]

I just got out of an narcissistic relationship. Im left with nothing. I need counseling but i no way to pay for it. Do you know anywhere i get free counseling??

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

I have an unbelievably incredible low offer on just now for my Narcissistic Trauma Recovery programme if you'd like to have a look at that? you will work both somatically & cognitively so many people who work through it say how much more effective they have found it compared with counselling. We can then support you in our community whilst you start on your healing journey. Here's the link to take a look carolinestrawson.com/black-friday

[@micheleleigh3338]

Can this eventually cause pituitary tumors?

[@LEM19284]

I need cliff notes 📝 😩

[@hannahsinnerhealingforum6395]

Thank you Carol this info is really helpful and much needed

[@donnaparks1919]

My situation is dangerous if sis could have her way I would be dead like she did mom only safe zone is in my apt ? Safer. GOD know the tournament sis put MOM through before she finished her 😥

[@jenchristianrn1]

Much appreciated thank you

[@greermcnab6345]

This all resonates, but where do I find somebody face-to-face that I can go see helped me realize I’m not crazy? Do you have a specific site to reference an in person coach?

[@beautifulspirit2973]

I keep feeling weirdly depressed following narcissistic abuse and very edgy despite now being with a good man. I had a horrible headache all day. They truly screw you up. He raged because I met a decent man and I wasn’t even in a relationship with him. He acted like he owned me. Suggestions welcome. I feel frazzled 😢

[@fainitesbarley2245]

They tap into your childhood wounds. I would suggest therapy with someone who understands narcissism

[@lawrencedavis5459]

what bodywork modality do you use?

[@crystalguidefaith4041]

You have said everything u mentioned on the title but the ( how to reverse it )

[@Richard-vq7ud]

I came here because i was tricked in my mother's will. I know for sure i have brain damage. I have a panic attack if i have to fill out a form. Dirty dishes sit for 2 days, my usually clean house is a mess.

[@katejones2172]

Same here

[@Richard-vq7ud]

@@katejones2172 i hope you get better Kate. Isnt this some incredible messed up s#i+? I am getting a little bit better. I read that it can take 1 1/2 to 3 years to heal from trauma. We are not alone, and we will get our lives back.

[@Joy-sm7iz]

🌟❤ Caroline, This is a great video and doing a beautiful job, but would you all be able to please stop with the childhood experiences, or phrase it differently. I agree that some have had these, it is sad, and have maybe led to what they have experienced as an adult, but not everyone has had negative childhood experiences. They just trusted someone , an adult, who won them over or were good looking and was attracted to them ❤😊

[@eigelgregossweisse9563]

Any fix for the narcissists themselves? Or the ones who become narcissists?

[@Groundwater24]

Not a chance. Their sorry “souls” are doomed for eternity.

[@mothersruin9058]

Thank you for this wonderful explanation.

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Most welcome ❤️

[@michaelgarrow3239]

My brain shutdown. I didn’t understand. I thought I was weak. Now everything is ruined. FTW

[@TanyaKatherine]

Brainspotting...time capsules.. wow.....Thank you.

[@lo-ul8nq]

My mother is a Narcissist. I got C-Ptsd from the abuse. My friend from high school bought me to church since he said that Jesus is calling me. I been a Christian for over 10 years . I know my worth and my values . Jesus is our hope.

[@unowen7416]

I'm not finding how to fix my brain anywhere on this video.

[@darcie528]

This video is explains how you are affected physically. You can find many videos that go to next phase, healing. But understanding how the brain and body is affected so you can find effective courses of healing.

[@TheWickkit]

You realize that all the BS the narcissist has told you is about them, not about you, you start to find your self worth again because you no longer allow yourself to feel like the person they're trying to turn you into by telling you things that cause you all the negative feelings that damage the brain. By retraining your brain to deflect the abuse by the narcissist (I also suggest learning as much as you can about their tactics, their mannerisms and their intentions so you can easily pin point when they're manipulating you) you can reverse the damage that's been done, even if it's been years. Think of it like this: if your relationship was a sci fi movie, your brain is your spaceship and the enemy spaceship is the narcissist's brain. They're chasing you through space, their primary objective is to disable your defenses, take over your vessel, enslave your crew (your brain functions) and ultimately rule the galaxy (their own little world and everyone in it) through fear and intimidation because they feel entitled. So after awhile your ship is damaged from all the hits it's taken, your crew is running out of motivation to keep going because it seems like the outcome is inevitable, you're weapons systems have been disabled, your hull is breached, there are fires everywhere, it seems hopeless, a few more hits and you're all done for, facing death or a life of slavery to the dark side. But then suddenly, the captain of the ship (you, your consciousness, your soul) who has been pouring over the ship's manual looking for any possible way to survive and escape, suddenly discovers that your ship has force shields. You begin to revive the crew who have been sitting around, dejected by telling them about this life saving defense you have. Now whenever you detect that the enemy is getting ready to fire at your ship, you raise your shields and deflect it. This gives your crew time to put out the fires, to repair the ship, and if necessary, engage the hyper drive and GTFO there! When you start to be unaffected by their attempts to make you feel worthless, you take away their power over you. Now this can be dangerous in some situations, it can cause them to stumble at first, unnerved by their lack of ability to reduce you to a sobbing mess. That small victory is exhilarating but if they have one or more of their hooks in you, which is anything that they can legally do to cause you grief or difficulties, then you'll need to be stealthy about how you go about displaying your newly discovered defenses. You might have to turn it around and begin playing them instead of showing your cards right away because they will double down once they know you've begun to resist them. Joint bank accounts, custody of children, cell phone plans in their name instead of yours, car title holders, insurance policies, computer logins, all these things are things that they can potentially take away or use to pull the rug out from underneath of you if you're not thinking about them and slowly but surely, taking action to get out from under their control, while they're none the wiser.

[@LEM19284]

Do you like using nootropics?

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

I haven’t used them personally

[@gaiapampaquantumhealing9732]

9.

[@Naturenewway]

Thank you for this! HEY Gang what's up with likes?? Hit that thumbs up. I know I'm not the only one that had a BIG ahah. Well Aha's!

[@GloriaWatkins-uk4or]

Oh honey your brinin teats I am a mess now trauma lifetime acting like it's normal. You fall apart after 60 it's all exercise hygiene upkeep fighting the flesh .. I agree it does a lot gaslit crap yes yes intimidation for no darn reason out of there insececuritie hrs of mind games before day begins sleep lack of it's all part manipulations

[@PEARL712scott]

I wish you would pause.you are goin to fast for us to obsorb .Almost like an octioneer..Most important information I have seen so far.

[@GloriaWatkins-uk4or]

Yes the day is much tried you clean care for yourself In the mids fighting for basic hygiene and eat clean ....exhausted. think something wrong with ...no there's not these people skilled at manipulating enabliling is culprit ..I soughthelp. On chan nel taken by thunderstruck how this person manuovered. It's took 7 months do what I did .. he made me fill it's been goin on since whatever.. he's game changer constant doover highly always in spite horrible things happen made to feel . Allmanipulation out comes for game. Military mother left very young great profound effect he loves people truly plethor of knowledge. I'm wondering now hope pray the best .. but smear grudges is not Christlike... Top much personal pedestal crap lovem worms any day sorry. You cannot fake what imact this person can do million dollars next gum on shoe always care. Never seen your show yes issues here

[@boxelder9147]

I suspect a lot of females were threatened/jealous of this woman

[@janiced.hatcher1272]

You something is wrong and you learned it's always your fault. 1. You run to a therapist who doesn't understand narcassit abuse or 2. You run to church where they lack narcassist abuse knowledge, also making things worse. You have to find someone who knows about narcassistic abuse, trauma, physiological implications, and healing. Thus this channel...

[@LelandTuttle5756]

You're blaming the victim... and clearing the narcissist of all blame... what happened to me was literally not my fault... by this logic, if i have abandonment issues.. and I were raped... it was my fault... The hippocampus defines narcs, the amygdala defines victims... the reactions are opposite, because narcs are basically antimatter... not a literal posit, but it is what it is...

[@darcie528]

She is not blaming…she is explaining what happens to the brain that you are NOT able to control so you know it is your brain, not you! You may want to listen again.

[@TheWickkit]

She's not blaming anyone, she's explaining cause and effect and giving people who are stuck in a relationship with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic personality traits how to think differently to grab the control back of their own view of the world. This is much better than than just telling them to escape it, to get out and never look back which just isn't possible, at least right away, for some people. This could be the first step for people who don't know how to get unstuck, the step that helps them finally be able to figure out how to escape the relationship, how to survive without the narcissist.