Casual Sex: Let's Talk About It

"Casual sex" and "hookup culture" are terms we hear a lot these days, but what are the emotional and mental health implications of engaging in casual relationships? In this video, we explore the psychology of casual sex, its benefits, risks, and how it might impact emotional well-being. Whether you’re navigating "friends with benefits" situations or simply curious about the effects of casual sex on mental health, this video aims to provide insight and guidance.
Our team at Psych2Go has put in a lot of research to bring you accurate and balanced information on this topic. We want to emphasize the importance of understanding boundaries, emotional attachment, and the mental health risks that can arise from casual relationships. Be sure to check out our disclaimers at the end for more context.
This video is not meant to judge anyone’s choices but to help you make informed decisions that prioritize your mental and emotional health. Thank you for watching and supporting our work!
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Writer: Brie Cerniglia
Script Editor: Isadora Ho & Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Suu
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
Disclaimer: The following content is based solely on personal opinions. It reflects individual perspectives and experiences and is not intended to provide professional advice or to be taken as factual information. Viewers should consider this as a subjective viewpoint and not as an authoritative or comprehensive source on the topic.
Sources for further readings:
1. Coutu, D. (2014, August 1). The anxiety of learning. Harvard Business Review.
2. National Health Service UK. (n.d.). Casual sex linked to depression and anxiety.
3. Stulpin, C., & DiBerardino, C. L. (2023, December 23). US’s STD epidemic worsened again in 2023. Healio.
4. WebMD Editorial Contributors & Khatri, M. (2023, May 14). Anxious attachment: How to know if you have it and what to do about it. Learn more on WebMD.

[@Psych2go]

PSA #1: Hey Srpouts! 😊We just wanted to take a moment to address some of the feedback we’ve been receiving about our video on casual sex. We understand that this is a sensitive and complex topic, and our goal is always to foster open, balanced discussions around mental health and human behavior. This video was created with the intention of exploring how casual relationships can impact mental and emotional well-being-not to push a specific viewpoint or make judgments. We value all perspectives, and your feedback helps us grow. If you felt the video leaned too much in one direction or missed an important side of the conversation, we hear you. We’ll be working on more content that dives into all aspects of topics like this, so stay tuned for follow-up videos that provide a fuller picture. As always, thank you for your continued support and for being a part of this community. 💖 Let’s keep the conversation going! PSA #2: We are working extremely hard behind the scenes with new members of psych2go to produce topics that are less talked about, we would really appreciate your help to share these videos if you find them helpful. Especially the last video we posted about in regards to toxic online behaviours (KZbin don't really provide much exposure for topics that don't really get a lot of views but may be important. Your help in sharing will help override some of that). Here is the link to the video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5OsmHerdqeJrtksi=z8U-fal4pkStJHQV

[@josealfredfernandes]

Short answer: casual sex is bad. I can proudly say I have 0 body count. 😂masturbation rules😛 till we find someone date to marry

[@uanime1]

Only presenting one side of a topic means your videos are nothing but propaganda. Try presenting both the positive and negatives of an action, rather than just the negatives.

[@Psych2go]

@@josealfredfernandes Ah yes, the ol' "waiting till marriage" strategy with a side of *masturbation supremacy*. 😄 Who needs casual sex when you've got yourself, right? 😛 #SelfCareMastery

[@Psych2go]

@@uanime1 Thanks for your feedback! We always aim to provide balanced content, and we hear you on this. We’ll definitely consider covering both the positives and negatives more thoroughly in a follow-up video to give a more complete perspective. Stay tuned! 😊

[@ashm676]

@@Psych2go there are no positives to hookup culture in my experience, only lies.

[@Sonicfalcon16]

The dark side of causal sex is implied that there's ranked competitive sex

[@Psych2go]

That's an interesting thought! Could you elaborate on what you mean by "ranked competitive sex"? Would love to hear more of your perspective on that! 😊

[@Idoexist._.]

Porn industry lol

[@blakodesu3769]

​@@Psych2go It's a joke, in some videogames there's a casual mode where people can play chill, and there's a ranked mode which is more competitive and sweaty. In sex it would be like if they make it an Olympic sport.

[@hansuri401]

​@@blakodesu3769why does it look like psych2go is joking around too 😂

[@LordShonji]

​@@blakodesu3769 also implies that there are sweaty tryhards lol

[@Booklover-coffeelover]

I've never been able to have casual sex as a woman and I'm 25. If I don't have a special connection with the other person, I can't even imagine being turned on enough to have sex. That's why I've only been with my boyfriend of 5 years and had no other sexual experience. People keep telling me I'm missing out but I couldn't care less. Better to do it with one person you love than with 20 people you don't give a shit about.

[@oorzuis1419]

do not feel left out my last casual sex was 20 years ago and I am free. sorry did not want to sound weird. its me.

[@Friendly_Neigborhood_Astolfo]

Neither casual sex (so long as it is established and consentual) nor abstinence should be shamed for. If you have people around you telling you you are missing out on one or the other, they are not worth being around

[@ingrid5944]

I feel exactly like you. I want QUALITY not QUANTITY

[@ashtoncasedy3237]

You're precious, don't give into people pressuring you

[@TheLastLivinGameCube]

To be honest, you are not really missing out on anything.

[@Jaeger_Bishop]

Casual hookups basically train your mind to not be able to form long term attachments. But if you're not someone who's into serious relationships in the first place, just be sure to tell whoever you're dating what you're looking for.

[@Psych2go]

You bring up a great point! Casual hookups can sometimes shift how we approach relationships, especially when it comes to forming long-term attachments. But the most important thing, as you said, is clear communication. Being upfront about your intentions and what you're looking for helps ensure both people are on the same page, which is key to respecting each other's feelings. Whether you're into serious relationships or casual connections, honesty is always the best foundation. 😊

[@ashm676]

​​@@Psych2goyes respecting the other person's life time is ticking away, honesty straight away is best, please do a video on basic respect , communication , transparency and trustworthiness but most importantly how repeated dishonesty affects women's chance of family building and life later on.

[@dawae6754]

​@@Psych2go Sex is gay

[@viridiscri9713]

Absolutly no, if you tell a woman you only want sex She Will be turn off. Better wait until hitting her and then leave, if the nature didn't make you actractive, then you have all the rights to use your character or personality to take women

[@Sanguinarius9999]

​@@ashm676ability to pair bond / connect / get bonded to a partner to raise kids is detrimentally impactful for men as well, just perhaps not to the same extent as women.

[@freddieanderson182]

I feel like as a man there is a lot of pressure to sleep with as many women as possible without "catching feelings", but I honestly just feel gross after a one night stand and would much prefer to have a partner who I care about and who cares about me

[@divyas1114]

Don't follow any trends. Do what you feel is right for you.

[@kayskreed]

I'm a guy. The idea of sex with strangers irks me. You don't know who they are, where they've been, who they've been with, their personal state of hygiene, whether they're trustworthy or not, sane or not, what their intentions are, etc. It's like having sex with some random person on the bus. I don't know how people can convince themselves to do it.

[@raringrph1560]

This is my exact train of thought, but I’m guessing this whole idea of “casual sex” happens when people get caught up in the moment, and easily give way to the desires of their body, losing all sense of reason. But then when the ramifications proceed afterwards, they finally come back to their senses and realise what they’ve done.

[@jads_so_enigmatic7941]

It's because they have no respect or care or either they have selfish wants to fulfill or either they're very toxic and all the above...I can't fathom it either, those kinds of people are insane

[@Psych2go]

I totally get where you're coming from. It makes sense to feel uncomfortable with the idea of being intimate with someone you don't know well, especially when there are so many unknowns involved. Trust and connection play such a huge role in feeling safe and comfortable, and not everyone is wired the same way when it comes to casual encounters. Your perspective is completely valid, and it's important to stick to what feels right for you.

[@Psych2go]

@@raringrph1560 That's probably usually the case. A heat of the moment.

[@Pimp-Master]

There's two fantasy points here: one is that there's a person we're supposed to be created to do, and that there's a person who's made just for us out there. Both of these are fantasies

[@Redberd36]

Casual sex is the worst. Never letting another woman touch me if we’re not in a long term emotionally enriching relationship. Broke my mental state for a long time that I was “used” for sex and then forgotten. Never thought a woman could be so cold and heinous before. I still love women - but it’s a lesson that not everyone has the emotional capacity to love you as a person…

[@ImperialKnight86]

I don’t agree with those types of people. I am upfront before we have sex.

[@exo5614]

Agreed, they made it an insult to be virgin nowadays. Just wait for the right person and save yourself.

[@jads_so_enigmatic7941]

I agree, I can't understand why people go out there and do all that, I would feel worthless...but there are people who are just doing all that because they got a few screws loose or either toxic as hell

[@stretopovermind9680]

- Broke my mental state for a long time Sounds like "you" problem, not _casual sex_ problem.

[@reverseflash7095]

Both It can make you happy cause you release dopamine but also depressed if you can't find a partner with whom you want to go further in the future

[@Psych2go]

Great point! Dopamine can definitely make casual connections feel rewarding in the moment, but it can also bring challenges when there’s a deeper desire for long-term connection. How does the rest of the community feel about balancing those feelings? Would love to hear more thoughts! 😊💬

[@multiversecatastrophe]

I literally just checked your channel because I tried looking for your videos since it suddenly stopped getting recommended to me, now I’m very *very* early, it feels nice. *is nice*

[@Psych2go]

So glad you found your way back to us! 😊 It’s awesome to have you here early, and your support really means a lot! If you’re not seeing our videos as much, feel free to turn on notifications 🔔 and share our content with others who might find it helpful too! Every share helps us reach more people who need it. 💖 Thanks for sticking with us! KZbin has probably been limiting some of our content as well as we have been tackling more matured and sensitive content.

[@Rafsanul_Haq_96]

Whether or not any sexual activity is harmful, the most crucial aspect is how that activity affects the partner. Only lusting after the partner to satisfy one's own sexual desires, without considering their feelings and simply focusing on physical appearance, cannot contribute to a healthy relationship. Sexual activity should involve a commitment to respecting the partner's boundaries and comfort zone, as well as fostering an emotional connection between both individuals. *Remember that love is a complex and multifaceted emotion. Love involves both experiencing lust and respecting boundaries.* *EDIT : There are individuals who objectify their romantic partners, valuing them primarily for their physical appearance. This tendency often stems from exposure to pornography and adult content. It’s important to recognize that porn is not a realistic representation of sex; it is scripted, edited, and shot under various lighting and camera conditions for effect. In contrast, real intimacy is unscripted and genuine. The performers in porn typically lack emotional connections, as they may not know each other well. Ultimately, pornography emphasizes idealized beauty standards rather than authentic relationships.*

[@Psych2go]

Absolutely! You’ve articulated something so important-sexual activity in a healthy relationship goes beyond physical attraction. It’s about mutual respect, understanding, and honoring each other’s boundaries and emotional needs. Lust without care for the partner's feelings can create an imbalance, but when love and respect are involved, it creates a much deeper connection. Love is indeed complex, and combining respect with passion is key to nurturing that connection. Your perspective really highlights the importance of a healthy balance in relationships. 💖

[@geemail369]

You've missed the point - this video was about casual sex, not "healthy relationships".

[@ashm676]

Why are there so many that don't build an emotional connection?

[@Psych2go]

@@ashm676 That’s a great question! Sometimes, people prioritize physical connection or avoid emotional ties for various reasons, like past experiences, fear of vulnerability, or simply wanting to keep things casual. What do you think leads people to avoid emotional connections in these situations? Would love to hear others' thoughts too! 😊

[@ashm676]

@@Psych2go dishonesty with themselves and the situation of life, and in turn known dishonesty or manipulation towards others.

[@khadijahc3961]

It never ends well with me. I end up getting ghosted and I’m back hurt all over again. So I just lay off and not involve until I’m with the right man.

[@Redberd36]

Same here - but with women.

[@divyas1114]

I once saw a video on youtube about the effects of "hookup culture", in which the people were sharing their own experiences with this culture. And all of them, both men and women, ended up with regrets and depression, unable to form any meaningful relationships with anyone. So, please don't follow these trends blindly. Don't do something if it doesn't feel right to you. In the end, you are the one who will have to live with the consequences of your decisions. So, be smart and think about the long term effects, instead of just the instant gratification.

[@Psych2go]

You bring up a really important point. It’s true that hookup culture isn’t for everyone, and hearing about people’s regrets and struggles after engaging in it can be a real eye-opener. It’s so important to be true to yourself and not just follow trends for the sake of it. Like you said, in the end, we each have to live with the choices we make, so thinking long-term and prioritizing what truly feels right is always the smarter path. Thank you for sharing this thoughtful reminder!

[@stretopovermind9680]

Do not trust such videos. Their creators are guilty of cherry-picking. It is highly unlikely that they will invite someone who "have done X" and went away perfectly fine, because videos "doing X is okay" are all but guaranteed to attract less views than "doing X is dangerous and horrible and you'll totally die doing it".

[@thebadgerstick9492]

For me casual sex is an absolute stress relief. It’s just raw and unpretentious and that makes it so much more uncomplicated for me. I don’t have to worry about catching feelings and always communicate that it’s either a one time thing or like now a F+ but I only see them for sex. People say that it’s emotionally crippling, but you know what’s really emotionally crippling? Being cheated on, being abused, being manipulated by a narcissistic partner you love with all your heart. It’s just the saver option for me. Yes I’m in therapy and yes I can form long term relationships, but right now I just don’t fucking want to. I’ve been in relationships since I was 16 (now 22) and this rn is the longest time I’ve been single (7 months) and I’ve never been better.

[@breadnyan4930]

If it's what works for you, then that's good. Glad you're doing better

[@kmk2746]

I have the same idea. But I can't decide if I should only have casual sex

[@stretopovermind9680]

@@kmk2746 There is no "should" in this arrangement. Do whatever you feel like in the moment.

[@Complex5458]

I was playing geometry dash, and I paused the level to watch this peak

[@Psych2go]

Now that’s dedication! 😄 Hope you beat the level after getting some Psych2Go wisdom! 🧠🎮 Thanks for pausing for us!

[@sayoriigd]

gl on acheron

[@AM_-wg1hj]

Which level

[@Complex5458]

@@AM_-wg1hj Deadlocked

[@Complex5458]

@@Psych2go And I did beat the level

[@davidthomspson9771]

I gave up casual hook ups 15 years ago,best thing I ever did.if I don't love the gal and she doesn't love me I could care less,not talking about being in love I mean someone who truly cares about you and you truly care for them.

[@Psych2go]

That sounds like a really thoughtful decision. Building a connection based on mutual care and respect can definitely make all the difference. It’s great that you’ve found what works best for you!

[@Bingsoc]

0:06 not a lizard? Nah

[@Psych2go]

Haha, you caught that! 😄

[@akamered4483]

Like with everything, it depends on how you do it. If both of you simply feel it and know what it means/doesn't mean for your relationship, fine, whatever. But if you value yourself through casual sex or excessively seek it out with strangers, a talk with a therapist is in order.

[@AM_-wg1hj]

Casual sex completely destroys pair-bonding, especially if the person that you're intimate with constantly changes. Eventually, it reaches a point where you can't even make love anymore, it won't be anything more than a temporary gratification.

[@RobotDCLXVI]

I pity those people. They are just masturbating with somebody else's body. Casual sex destroys societies as well. Enough people buy into the myth that there is no harm and it's just harmless fun, but it removes just enough people from the relationship market that sustaining healthy relationships and raising families suffers. The skyrocketing rates of absentee/neglectful parenting in my generation onward is all the proof necessary. Some scientist can do a study to confirm what we already know, again.

[@fictionlover695]

​@@RobotDCLXVI casual sex really is masturbation with a human body...but I don't understand why people just don't use toys...it is safer and nobody has to go outside the comfort of their home...why is a human needed for something that an object can do if there is no feelings involved?

[@jnbovee]

The internet says two things: 1. People are having less sex than they used to 2. People are hooking up. Which is it?

[@josealfredfernandes]

Both. People fall into different categories. Some of us literally have 0 body count and want to date to marry only. While some has huge body count. Eg: there is good side of life at same time there is bad side of life too

[@SpecShadow]

both depends

[@Raebrained]

The first one 😂

[@ChocoParfaitFra]

SAME thank you, someone finally said it It’s the same thing I keep reading too Two contrasting things

[@Ктоя-ь1м]

Hm, perhaps they might indirectly mean that there's less people striving to form long term relationships? There's definitely more people hooking up nowadays, but less people getting into serious relationships, which might then lead to marriages in the future. And I don't know if that's either a bad thing or a good thing. Do what you will with this information. I personally wouldn't want any types of relationships for myself, outside of platonic ones

[@hailqueenspider1]

Watching this before my date arrives >_>;

[@Psych2go]

Getting some last-minute Psych2Go wisdom in before the date? Nice move! 😎 Hope it goes well-you're totally prepared now! 😄

[@brizertbriserk]

lmao i love this comment

[@hmhm4546]

You don't have to worry . No girl is ever hooking up with me. 😊

[@Psych2go]

Hey, consider it a superpower! 😄 You're just saving all that energy for the right one, no rush! 😊💪

[@Kim.Ju-ae]

Then try it with the same sex?

[@Jellybeanisme]

It's not about that fact It's about whether you'd do it even if millions girls were to flock around you If no girls come to you and you don't seen to get any, then you just don't have any choice The real power is having the choice to do something but resisting the temptations

[@hmhm4546]

@@Kim.Ju-ae I don't think I have chance there too . I'm pretty safe 😌

[@Kim.Ju-ae]

@@hmhm4546 Alright then 👍

[@MegaB1tez]

Im not even sexually active and im watching this

[@Psych2go]

Hey, no harm in being *extra* prepared, right? 😄 Future you will thank you for the knowledge!

[@MegaB1tez]

@@Psych2go I don't even think I'd get to use it lmao

[@MegaB1tez]

@@Psych2go but thanks in advance if it does happen though:)

[@spookybones12]

I’d like to add that in my opinion, introducing sex into a relationship very early on can lead to problems if it becomes a constant thing, rather than a real bond forming, if both parties continue to have constant sex, either one or the other will feel like that’s all it is.

[@haroonp8842]

How tf do people have casual sex. I cant even get a single date and im past mid 20s

[@johnnykend5728]

You're still young, stop rushing. What's wrong with u all ppl nowadays? You ppl should stop rushing into these kinds of things. You still have a hella long life to live, so you'll eventualy get a opposite partner someday, even if it's after 10 or 20 years.

[@haroonp8842]

@@johnnykend5728 how is 26 that young. Ill be 30 in no time, there has currently been no one interested in me for my whole life, how can i expect that to change, ive been working on myself my whole life. Im not rushing, im more patient than most people but being alone and having no one to talk to or be affectionate with is painful and my feelings aren't invalid just because "im still young". Ive been coping with writing down my thoughts and video recording conversations with myself but not having a single person to talk to is maddening. I can't take much more of it

[@stretopovermind9680]

Go out and show yourself available, for starters.

[@DTPro615]

0:41 Tadano and Komi?!?!?!?! Awesome reference! ❤

[@Psych2go]

Haha, you caught that! 😄 Tadano and Komi vibes are strong! Glad you enjoyed the reference! 👀💖

[@coolepic519]

my face lit up lmao 😂

[@Grashima]

The people who engage in casual sx, lose their ability to remain faithful in long term committed relationships. They have become addicted to casual sx, so staying faithful to only One person becomes boring for them. I have not been in any relationship yet and I would never accept someone who has a history of casual sx with multiple people. And the ironic part is that such people brag about their "body count", as if it's some kind of achievement. Even animals have multiple partners. So, how are they any better than animals? As Humans, we are supposed to act more civilized and Not treat other Humans as objects.

[@Psych2go]

I can understand where you're coming from, and it sounds like you're really clear about your values when it comes to relationships. It's true that for some people, casual experiences might affect their approach to long-term commitment, but everyone’s experience and capacity for change can be different. It’s also important to find a partner who aligns with your beliefs and desires for a relationship, which is completely valid. Regarding your point about bragging-it can definitely feel disheartening when people reduce something as intimate as sex to a "count." It's worth remembering that not everyone shares that perspective, and many people are also looking for deep, meaningful connections. Staying true to your own values and being with someone who respects them is what matters most.

[@Grashima]

@@Psych2go Thank you 😊

[@ChocolateAutizzy]

I just made a video about this lol

[@Psych2go]

Nice! We will take a look.

[@Kim.Ju-ae]

Why would you do that?

[@riveevatera9263]

​@@Kim.Ju-aeto educate people.

[@cameronf3343]

@@Kim.Ju-ae …because?

[@ChocolateAutizzy]

​@cameronf3343 Because I recently had my first hookup .

[@Avalonkenton]

Bumble as the sponsor 😂

[@caymuscairns6845]

I know this girl who’s slept with over +100 guys. She’s one of the most broken people I know. It’s tragic.

[@michaelbateson8636]

When you don't care about learned anxiety in this topic, life becomes significantly easier

[@sugabud]

I hate how much society normalises casual sex. I don’t care what people say, it is just not healthy to objectify each other and just give parts of ourselves away so easily. Sex is whatever your perception of it is, sure, but it shouldn’t be just physical. It is cultural norms that are pushing that perception and not a lot of people can think for themselves anymore…

[@you_know_cat801]

We don't give anyone any of our parts, they stay with us during intercourse or whatever🤣 it's okay to have different preferences and not commit/prefer something casual for life. I am ace and definitely am afraid of commitment due to my attachment style, but personally I find romantic relationships too much drama and too much effort to establish. So, I don't think everyone needs emotional connection to have something physical, as long as people are all comfortable and it's consensual, I don't understand why can't they have casual sex.

[@seedbutu9605]

Welcome to 20th century my friend

[@Katarovi]

The spicy thumbnails are improving 🗣️🗣️🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@Psych2go]

That's awesome to hear! It sounds like the new approach to the thumbnails is making a great impact. Keep up the momentum!

[@ShawnRavenfire]

It seems that everything said about "putting fate on hold" and "codependency" can be true about any type relationship or social interaction, not just casual sex.

[@1000OtherFoxes]

Most women don’t typically engage in casual s*x because we function differently, we crave emotional connection. Women who often have multiple partners are sometimes seeking validation, dealing with past traumas, or the effects of an absent father. Unlike men, when we engage in sx, our bodies release oxytocin, known as the bonding hormone. edit: (yes men release it but testosterone in men moderates the bonding effects of oxytocin, so the emotional connection will be less pronounced compared to women.) This high oxytocin makes it especially painful when we give ourselves to someone who doesn’t reciprocate or never reaches out again. Repeated experiences like this can cause deep emotional traumas, leading to fears of abandonment, avoidance of attachment, and ultimately, leaving us unable to form healthy, fulfilling relationships. Ladies, protect yourself, promiscuity is not freedom, it is not empowerment. Don't listen to modern culture telling you otherwise.

[@Izzy-cp8yt]

@@1000OtherFoxes men and women aren't different species, ffs. Bioessentialism isn't a good look, nor is it factual.

[@indigogalaxy6341]

No I'm pretty sure it's at least pretty shity for women when dudes lie to them constantly just to sleep with them and then leave because they don't bond with them LOL despite the females greatest efforts after their deceived

[@Dredge22]

Men's brains also release oxytocin during sex... and at least in America I know far more women that participate in hookup culture than men. In my experience the sex of the person doesn't matter. Repeated failed relationships and/or having or witnessing traumatic experiences is why many check out of relationships altogether and resorting to casual sex is a common coping mechanism.

[@1000OtherFoxes]

@@indigogalaxy6341 Yes exactly, that's why you have to take the time to know people and their intentions as much as you can, especially because nobody ever comited to a relationship because of s*x...

[@1000OtherFoxes]

​@@indigogalaxy6341 It’s also about the hookup culture and what is presented to young people today, wen celebrities dress provocatively, and selling your body on platforms like onlyFans becomes normalized, it sends a confusing message for women and men. Some modern feminist movements encourage women to feel “strong” by asserting independence from men, while constant exposure on social media often leads to superficiality. There are many young women getting fillers, big lips, and large buttocks, effectively sexualizing themselves... These behaviors and mindsets ultimately work against us. There’s a saying: “Dress how you want to be addressed.” If we want to be taken seriously, it starts with how we present ourselves and our behavior.

[@dougclem7711]

When doing the thing, you are sharing the same bacteria, germs, sweat, viruses, of all your previous sex partners, and his too! All 32! That's a lot of Goo and salvia to wade through. We are such silly animals!

[@Psych2go]

Haha, it’s true-we humans are quite the complex creatures! 😅 It’s wild when you think about all the "sharing" that happens during intimate moments, but it just goes to show why communication and safety are so important in any relationship. Silly animals, indeed! 😄

[@Lambyleg1340]

Every animal does it so it’s completely normal, we just decided to make it weird in our society but everything in life does it.

[@TheIGITnBLUE]

I find it strange that we also just...brag about body counts along with it. Like, it's something to be proud of that you are harboring all of that in and on you from before? Gross...

[@REMspEEDfreaxx]

I don’t mean to sound insensitive to anything that was discussed in the video- because of course, there IS a LOT of danger and risk that comes with the casual dating/hookup scene- there’s a lot of awful people out there who will use your desire and lust to take advantage and potentially harm you. But with that being said, (pushing that aside), as a sex-Positive aromatic, what about Friends with benefits…? There’s still risk there too yes- but. As someone who feels lust and desire, but not “romance” (as much I so desperately want to experience the feeling of falling in love, unfortunately that part for me doesn’t go deeper than feeling a strong sense of care and compassion towards someone as a friend,) ? I’m sorry to ramble. 😓

[@emerald-splashhhh]

i just cried to one of your mental help pep talk videos and this gets recommended to me minutes later i feel oddly better now (i'm alone forever)

[@chaleikaesterroseedwards3052]

I'm 24 & plus I have never had any experience like such as by having any casual sex with an actual guy partner with any kind. Because it seems that some guys aren't very attractive to me. Just until when I do find the right person to actually be with. Who I could fully trust like such as by not secretly by cheating on me behind my back. Which also does include by a male partner who would constantly by bringing up like other female partners who I don't approve of or agree with. I'm so glad that this video has really truly helped me 😊 at lot. For sure 👍🏽 indeed.

[@Your_Guy166]

WOAH WOAH WOAH WOAH, I didn't ask for nsfw thumbnail in my therapist channel 😭

[@Psych2go]

Oh no, definitely not what we’re going for! 😅 We promise it’s all about the psychology behind it! Let’s keep it safe for the mind and soul. 🙏🧠 Thanks for sticking with us!

[@DasHeino2010]

Looks pretty SFW to me! :3

[@Boypogikami132]

@@Psych2go”not what we’re going for” by guy you’ve been at this section of health for YEARS

[@madster01]

@@Psych2goyeah… how we gonna explain it to 15 year olds watching this educational video

[@Your_Guy166]

@@madster01 I'm 14 😭

[@lacie5522]

4:50 "We want to represent each topic fairly" So you spent 5 minutes listing negatives then tell US to share any positives? Really?!

[@PrinceDigital1]

Wow the channel turned 10 years old today What a milestone 🎉

[@PutingPinoy]

The only reasons it would be harmful is not practicing safer sex-also societal norms.

[@Hypothetical-Being]

I’m pretty sure it’s harmful beyond that, it trains you to view an intimate and special act as the opposite of what it is

[@stretopovermind9680]

@@Hypothetical-Being And why do you think that it is "an intimate and special act" in the first place?

[@Hypothetical-Being]

@@stretopovermind9680 because its purpose is the creation of children, and those require a lot of care from 2 parents ideally. So sex is an act which bonds two people so they can stay together and take care of their children.

[@stretopovermind9680]

@@Hypothetical-Being First of all: in biology there is *_no such thing_* as "purpose". Abandon this teleological language. Second, if the *_only_*_ function_ of human sex process was, as you say, "creation of children" - it would've work entirely differently. Like that of fish, for example: female releases roe, male releases sperm, they combine. No pleasure, no emotion, no anything extraneous involved. But in mammals sex has many more processes involved that aren't directly connected to this naive "creation of children" of yours. And no, biologically children get care not from "two parents": they get their care either from mother, or from the whole herd. "Two parents" clause is part of a "nuclear family" idea, and this idea is invented in 19th century. It has nothing to do with human biology and everything to do with capitalism. Study actual biology, do not just regurgitate this conservative nonsense.

[@LilyWhitesLK]

Im aromatic but to compensate that, im hyper-sexual, ive never actually tried anything since im still a teen yk but i think when i grow up, casual sex is what im gonna use to at least keep my hyper-sexuality down but making clear to the other person that im not interested, and never will form a relationship with them, that this is not something i will develop feeling for is a very important step to have.

[@eezaak21]

Oh A-romantic....thought you meant "aromatic" which is a type of plant lol.

[@dag23_subbers]

I think as a community people may want to use anti instead of a to suggest negation of a tendency. anti romantic sounds so much clearer and better. Just the way anti vegetarian does. Non doesnt make sense to me. No sure but non? Anti is the best. If you are anti romantic you may want to watch few movies that can make you see a side of you, you never knew you had. Like Khuda Ke Liye (In the name of God - Pakistani movie). Septembers of Shiraz. 36 Chowringee Lane. If you saw some extreme torture based movies, romance will bubble in you to offset the tragic effects of things you just saw. Dont miss the Khuda Ke Liye Pakistani movie. And Septembers of Shiraz. Even a boy in a striped pyajamas. Such movies will make you love yourself and get romantic.

[@dag23_subbers]

​@@eezaak21Not just a plant, it is anything that has a nice frangrance. Aroma is smell. Like I havent smelt anything so beautiful as Lavender's aroma. It is one of the top smells out there.

[@LilyWhitesLK]

@@dag23_subbers ah.. I mean I already seen most of those movies (as part of my school program) and I’ve always felt the same. Thanks for the suggestion toh!

[@LilyWhitesLK]

@@eezaak21 ah sorry my English is kinda bad, so I confuse some words with others lol (it’s my third language)

[@Kenshiro_Miyazawa03]

I had a hookup once…I think Contracted an STI. It made me so anxious that I bowling my eyes out. Thankfully, it was just a strep throat. To quote my dad “Never do that shit again!”. That quote is unrelated by the way lol

[@mikasa4212]

Personally, i believe casual sex is one of the best options for women. Ofc if they played the "game" right and didnt get attached to any1. You wont need to be in a serious committed relationship with a guy, you wont need to get married to who you hookup with, and you can still date and sort your options if you later want a serious relationship or marriage. We women know the drain of energy and life we can go through just to be with a man, so at the time you want fun but no commitment, casual hookups are the best. An advice id give is not to give the hookups much of your time during the day, you can totally have fun with a guy and not talk to him much (you wont be very attached that way).

[@azaria7528]

As an aromantic person i dont want serious long term relationships, i dont have one night stands but i do have casual sex but i make sure to talk to the person for at least a couple days and hanging out before, i get that its not for everyone but im happy being a side piece because im not interested in taking it farther and i make sure that both of us are on the same page

[@vijaykumar-gr5pb]

I have been following your channel for almost 2 years nows and almost every time your guys have posted content it's almost relevant......like I have this anxiety in my mind about something andyou guys posted the answer.❤ Like the timing is too perfect 😅

[@Void-Dreaming]

I knew it..

[@RedHotUzumaki]

Never had a casual encounter before, not missing much honestly, been with the same guy since 2016 now my husband Honestly it’s better to wait and find someone then open yourself up to health risks and mental/emotional health risk too

[@PerceptionVsReality333]

I used to when I was younger (wrapped up of course) but not anymore.

[@silentnight448]

i need the timestamps, this is stimuli is not enough for my adhd

[@Clutsyclips]

This immediately made my memory recall what an open relationship is and why I hate it😞

[@Angie-wt8pg]

Why does nobody talk about the fact women bleed after s3x? I’m so scared now

[@Izzy-cp8yt]

You're not supposed to. If you're bleeding after consistently and it's not menstruation, the person inserting something into you has done a spectacularly terrible job, or you have an untreated health concern that requires a doctor.

[@darthmolester]

the answer is yes it dangerous. the moment we said yes or saying anything to justified it, were doomed

[@Avalonkenton]

I used to have 5 boyfriends a week the day I woke up with sick and vomit everywhere blood hand prints on the walls was a real wake up call I am lucky I am still alive

[@MaryD79]

That's a helluva story! Glad you survived that and no more of multiple boyfriends a week.

[@HabibiDubaiAbdulKitty]

DAMNN ever modern women are having polygamous boyfriends

[@Ктоя-ь1м]

Woah, you vomited blood??? I hope you're feeling much better now

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. That sounds like a really intense and scary experience, but it also sounds like it was an important wake-up call for you. It’s amazing that you’re here to reflect on it now. I’m sure your story can help others who may be going through something similar. 💖 If you feel comfortable, what helped you make the changes afterward? Your journey could inspire more people in this community.

[@MeidoInHebun]

Disgusting behavior.

[@Val-qr4ir]

Psych2go ❌️Freak2go✔️

[@TheSaneHatter]

I can hardly manage casual *conversation*, much less casual sex, and I've turned down seemingly sure things because I simply didn't like the circumstances. FORGET IT.

[@Number_5]

Each time you engage in casual sex your subconscious is likely to understand and learn that you're only good for sex but nothing else. If each serious relationship ending is likely to traumatize us at least a bit, then the casual sex is like the "fast food" of trauma

[@mayukich.1379]

Man, I wish it was the girl narrator again for this video. Dang it!

[@Psych2go]

The video posted yesterday is :)

[@俵凛]

this format really suits me

[@thunderblossom8114]

I think you guys taught me that with doing the deed, you also bond to that person a bit, hurting yourself in the long run. I kinda get it with having a bucket list and or seeing what is liked, but can still hurt imo

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Consistency is key 0:26 2). What did you put in your body 1:46 3). Putting fate on hold 3:05 4). Codependency 3:58 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@VarjoPira]

"I might want somethkng more, y'know. " "Nah, I'm good. " _Ghosted._ Every time.

[@cyriuslycyrius7948]

Got dumped not too long ago, i tried to cope with casual sex but at some point I just felt grossed out because the intimacy that I was craving was just not there. I felt miserable for days and did not know where to start working on myself just to get rid of that feeling

[@PsychologyOfUnplugged]

Thank you for sharing such precious knowledge! Your channel has changed the way I view the world.

[@k.t.7507]

Where's my #Earlygang? 😊😊

[@sylveonumbreon6090]

Hello

[@Akuno_Da_Goat]

No #lategang ?

[@Wincent-16]

I don't give a *button.wav*

[@uanime1]

Always remember the things that Psy2Go doesn't like have no upsides, only downsides. This is nothing but moralistic propaganda.

[@Scugzerker]

The new voice over sounds exactly like the guy from Rufus stories...

[@emchan7468]

KOMI AND TADANOOOOOO 😭❤️

[@SurvivorOfChildhoodTrauma]

I don't understand casual sex... Honestly, I've been with my soulmate for 30 years now this month, happily married 25 years next month. We have an amazing, connection, and still all these years later, a wonderful sex life together. We've talked about if either of us have any regrets for being together for so long, and not experiencing others/styles etc. Honestly, we both have said multiple times that there would not be the amazing connection, and wonderful togetherness, if we were to try hooking up with another, even if just to experience it. Our passion for each other is as hot and bright, as it was when we first met, and started dating. I mean, to each their own, but you'll never fully experience the ultimate satisfaction of knowing you are truly loved, and desired from the person you are with, while having casual sex. I mean, sure ... In the moment, anything can be said/done, but then when it's over... Honestly, what good do you have left to show? Nah, I'll stay with my husband, because he knows all the right things, as I do also for him, and a stranger would be exhausting to feel anything but disgust with. Be blessed! ❤️

[@Wichnam]

All these videos do merely one thing these days... Bash onto singles. Honestly, it is tiring. Yes I am single, does that mean I shouldn't be allowed to quench one of nature's most normal desires untill I find 'the one'?... Or perhaps settle with someone else who after a few months (years) leaves you and thus make you feel even worse than before? Sorry that this sounds so... down... and dark. But some of these videos (of other channels also) have actually been making me feel worse, rather than helping.

[@dougsheldon5560]

BRING BACK THE PLEASANT VOICED WOMAN. THIS GUY'S EVERYWHERE.

[@nerygarcia6942]

It like this videos come at the right time, if your doing it to get over someone, loneliness or just trying to get it on, don't there is no purpose what's so ever expecially as a woman you have to be mentally in it to enjoy it or else you will feel used, dont recommend at all.

[@bgikuya]

i think this video is a bit disingenuous, biased, and lacking nuance. there can definitely be correlation and not causation when it comes to those engaging in casual sex having poor mental health. i feel like a lot of the observations made in this video operate on the assumption that there is not clear communication and boundaries set in these casual relationships. what about the benefits of having an active sex life? what about those that are simply not built for a typical monogamous relationship? there are definitely strong risks and negative impacts due to hookup culture which probably outweigh the benefits, but i don’t believe this video did a good job of doing a fair analysis

[@kourosh234]

bring that other narrator back

[@Psych2go]

You mean Amanda? She's here in our video posted yesterday.

[@Asuperbaconator]

That thumbnail is crazy You guys starting turn into freaky2go

[@doctordl7757]

Oh shut up, this is an adult mature conversation if you are too sheltered to handle this discussion then bounce!

[@Darkyryus_]

Harmful (First of all how is this even a discussion it's literally common sense).

[@Milfycoco]

i've seen monika more often on your thumbnail than my father

[@Psych2go]

Monika?

[@G.F.SF55]

Thank you for the info, but, also, dude you've got a really nice voice

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the kind words. Did you get a chance to meet our team yet?

[@facuuu2809]

I could have had casual sex some months ago but I thought about it and I didn't know the person enough (like first time we saw each other there was chemistry and we kissed and all but I didn't feel I had enough trust for smth like that), although I was contacted again by this person last week (we haven't spoken in almost a year).

[@Pixalborgsbabygirl]

Man some people just like sex. Nothing wrong with that. Stop shaming them in the comments ffs 😭

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him

[@Yukajoseph]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?

[@Yukajoseph]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Yukajoseph]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

[@TheNonameHousehold]

If someone is not planning to have kids anyway, I don't see how the impact in fertility can be a bad thing.

[@steveguti6452]

Urgent emergency please join me in prayer for all those affected families children animals massive devastation hurricane in Florida Georgia North Carolina South Carolina Tennessee continue suffering many people missing power outages homeless hungry they desperately need your prayers please pray for them God bless you all....

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for reminding us to keep those affected in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. My heart goes out to everyone impacted by the hurricane-families, children, animals-who are suffering and facing such devastation. 🙏 Sending strength and hope to all those in need. May they find safety, comfort, and support. God bless them all. 💖

[@jessemarquez951]

Wait not a lizard? Darn thats all i wanted. A lizard man darn.

[@handyhacker11]

I believe casual sex with friends is great as an expression of love. I'm personally very much not into not knowing the person. Maybe eventually i'll be super horny and be able to instantly hookup and feel enough. So far, no sex at all thanks to depression. I know i definitely wanna have some fun & wild years once i'm better.

[@UrFavSukuna]

Now all I need to know is about ADD because I don’t think a lot of people understand it too well..which I don’t run into ppl with it sadly..I just run into the ones who have ADHD..and oh boy..the hyperness of it makes me nervous.

[@amirbahalegharn365]

sometimes less of sex is better as you will make it a judgement base point to choose one or not. lots of time i heard women have compared doing it with someone before that has tasted or felt better and crave it as current partner can't produce the same experience for them, so they fall into cheating or keeping casual sex door open to relive those moments. that's why sometime old school not having any experience or just one or two ones are much better & healthier for mind & body than having multiple reference comparison points . relationship isn't about all boxes checked but rather the important vitals ones checked & build meaningful peaceful stable ever-growing things out of it so that you see fruition to your efforts on both partners in honest mutual romantic assessment

[@kmk2746]

I just want to get married and have sex with the woman I married. But whenever I choose a woman that I want to marry, I always found out that she is dating or flirting with another man at the same time she is having an affair with me. One girl even had sex with her friend after I proposeed her to marry me. I'm really fed up with having a relationship

[@__________________________971]

OMGG WHO'S THIS NEW NARRATOR AND WHY IS HIS VOICE SO ATTRACTIVE 😩

[@churchillogbonna9010]

Hooking up is a very negative thing 😒...sex with complete strangers shouldn't be treated as casual at all... imagine sleeping with multiple people, sharing urself like a public toilet and thinking every thing is fine..well it's not, it's far from it

[@Sneakmon]

Is the infographics narrator moonlighting in Psych2Go? 👀

[@Psych2go]

Do you mean the female voice actress?

[@gehteuchnixan3052]

I think if I'd actually be able to hook up once in a while that would rather improve my self-esteem and overall life satisfaction. Being unableto is one of the major reasons (though not the only) I lack both.

[@just_edits69-420]

WAS THAT MONIKA ON THE THUMBNAIL???

[@cookingwitharek9099]

U are doing too much videos about sex, do something classic and psychological like u used to do

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! We’ve definitely been exploring different topics, but we’ve still been releasing our classic psychological content too. Have you had a chance to check out some of the recent ones? Just curious if they showed up in your notifications-KZbin can be tricky with that sometimes! 😊

[@cookingwitharek9099]

@@Psych2go oh then youtube is tricky and every youtube notification from ur channel is about sex XDDDD

[@joekrenz]

Imagine a 1yr old watch this and says to her mom mom whats casual sex mom be like.......

[@carajean80]

Why are they babies and kid characters. Creepy. Ruins the video and I'm hesitant to share. Please make with adult characters

[@stretopovermind9680]

- STDs - Dopamining - Codependency Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's all very good and well, but this all has *_nothing_*_ to do_ with casual sex: STDs are about whether sex is *_safe_* or not. It has nothing to do with whether it is casual or not. Dopamining and Codependency are neither caused nor exacerbated by casual sex: they exist independently of it, there is no causal link. So you have not shown any *_effect_* of casual sex. Only _some_ of its _possible _*_reasons_* . This is a complete miss, do your research better next time.

[@Noctuaem]

This is exactly what I’m going thru rn especially with the damn dopamining. I have Bpd

[@sylvianne374]

Getting in a stable relationship is impossible our days unfortunately, so casual sex is inevitable