6 Hidden Habits Making You Less Likable

[@Psych2go]

Hey Sprouts! 💭 We’ve been noticing that KZbin’s algorithm isn’t favoring our channel as much lately, especially with important topics like 'toxic online behaviors.' Link to the video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/m5OsmHerdqeJrtksi=9zp6Kocqk533vuLy But we believe these discussions are crucial to bring more awareness to some harmful behaviors we may unknowingly participate in. By sharing this video, you’re helping spread awareness of these toxic patterns, and together we might even override the KZbin algorithm to get this content in front of more people. Let’s create a positive change online! Also, we have a lot of video ideas waiting to be made, if you are interested in being a part of that process, you can email us. You can add the contribution you do to your resume as well.

[@RTYT7777]

Love your videos❤️

[@Psych2go]

@@RTYT7777 Thanks so much! You’re the real MVP! 🏆❤ What's your favorite video so far? 😄

[@RTYT7777]

Im not sure, but i watch a lot of your videos, im subscribed for over a year now and i really love the way how you explain things with the cute animations, i watch your videos whenever im bored, cause they are helping me and they are really interesting, In my opinion the best mental health support channel ever, thx for supporting us through hard times, puberty gotta be one of the hardest things ever and this channel makes me feel happy because i can relate to a lot of things LOVE YOU TEAM PSYCH2GO❤️‍🔥 Keep up the good work

[@I-am-guest666-]

@Psych2go the title says 66 ways when its 6 i think its a mistake?

[@Sebastian-pi5ro]

@@Psych2go hello, I find your voice very comforting and I think that makes u attractive. But I wonder how u know so much about what makes us attractive I wonder if u have experience getting rejected to?

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

Don't bother trying to be or appear "likeable". Be authentic. Don't be a liar. And don't be afraid of making enemies who despise you simply due to their insecurities or their jealous tendency

[@Psych2go]

Absolutely! Being authentic is so much more powerful than trying to fit into someone else's idea of "likeable." When you stay true to yourself, the right people will appreciate you for who you really are. And as for those who dislike you because of their own insecurities-that says more about them than it does about you. Keep shining, unapologetically! 🌟💪

[@KristiBoulton-t2t]

​@@Psych2go for some reason no one likes talking to me or something and idk why? They leave me out alot, end conversations fast and sometimes cut me off but I also have a big nose, big ears, dry lips, chubby cheeks, long and messy hair without a hairstyle and I'm fat😔. I feel like people don't want to talk to me cuz I'm ugly, too nerdy cuz I try very hard on my schoolwork and I'm unique and don't follow the crowd.

[@_Alex_129]

@@KristiBoulton-t2t aww don't say that your perfect they just dont see it be yourself someone will come around trust me keep up just be stay!😘

[@orlionsatin2796]

​@@KristiBoulton-t2twell I don't recomend people as friends, who are quick to judge solely because of appearance. I'm kind of left out too, anastasia 's Song left out alone helps me to stay true to myself. I only gained weight after I battled my psyc. Trauma with emdr. Got I more included? Nope. Love yourself first and Blessed be! ❤

[@John-epicest]

@@KristiBoulton-t2twell even so I bet you’ll always find someone that’s just like you just try to believe in yourself think about all the great things in your life and your accomplishments

[@MorgueInTheVoid]

Fun fact, theres a lot of things that will scare people away including things like, setting boundaries, being honest and being overly confident. Dont think too hard about being likeable or unlikeable. "You're a flower. There's people that are allergic to flowers but that doesn't stop flowers from blooming. Theres people who aren't gonna like you and that's okay. Share your pollen with the world and you'll attract bees, butterflies and hummingbirds. Stop worrying about ol' sneezy mcgee. Bloom." -Me like 2 years ago

[@corruptederror1952]

Has it gone well soo far?

[@Velvetune]

I don’t really get how setting boundaries will scare people away. It’s your boundaries and what’s make you comfortable or uncomfortable.

[@AloeTheAlien]

​@@VelvetuneIdk I think he/she means don't stay in your comfort zone but that's just me tho

[@Pauratraits]

​@@VelvetuneSome people really don't like being around people who know their worth and will set boundaries. Mostly because they realize they can't get away with behavior they're used to getting away with. So if you scare someone away by setting boundaries, that's a good thing. Don't worry about being likeable, worry about being yourself. Because so many people disregard their own boundaries or fall into people pleasing tendencies to make others like them. Which in the long run, is toxic for yourself.

[@MorgueInTheVoid]

@@Pauratraits Sorry this is my second account but I meant to respond on this one lol but yeah, I hope that clears things up a little for you @Velvetune

[@kokoskaninchen9059]

Im such a people pleaser and i dont like it myself. When i was young, i just learned that being nice to everyone and not speaking my mind would make the people around me less angry about me. It ist difficult to change that and it needs time

[@Tara-ci3lt]

Ikr

[@CXS.M1C]

I know, and my friend group is really loud and faced paced, so it’s really hard to even catch five seconds of their attention, and it feels like the only way to even get them to look at me for more than two seconds is to always be giving my stuff and happiness for them

[@lfifil]

​@@CXS.M1C fr 😭😊

[@poopie387]

so real

[@mariaa-raar101]

Sames :,)

[@jackss40]

0:33 pseudo humility 1:31 being too agreeable 2:34 too eager to fit in 3:55 I'm not like other guys/girls 5:00 they'll only like me if I'm perfect 6:05 having a zero sum game mindset

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

Even if some avoid those points, other individuals will still find multiple reasons to dislike them due to the following: 1. Plain jealousy 2. Feeling threatened by your confident personality, assuming that you're taking away their limelight etc. and wanting all the attention for themselves. 3. You simply have very different goals and values - if your goals and values differ from certain people, of course we won't expect to be liked by them and that's absolutely okay. The more unique you are, the more you stand out and the more some individuals may find you intimidating or unwelcoming which is in a good way peace inducing if you're a true introvert

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

Most people are insecure and easily prone to feeling envious. The moment they view you as a threat, they'll do what they can to avoid looking at your awesomeness because your confident vibes remind them of their insecurities or defects they can't accept etc

[@healthfitnessworkouts7198]

Thank you

[@dipakkakotidipakkakoti4420]

I am all of those accidentally

[@EmbraceTheStruggle24]

​@@MariamZawjatNomayri 💯 🙏

[@XxI-Am-C4LYPS0xX]

0:55 as an artist 99% of the time we mean it when we say those things bc we stare at it to long so it looks TERRIBLE for us 😭😭

[@Mooshy-xc6md]

exactly 🥲🥲🥲🥲

[@YG21.03]

As a artist I’ve grilled and trained myself to really break out of that habit as I’ve realised the only thing that was holding me back was myself with that mindset to reach my own goals and full potential. Instead of saying “I hate this painting” I say to myself “hey I now know what I don’t like n I’ll just learn from it n know what not to do in my next painting” and if it’s a group/friend situation instead of being harshly critical of myself like “I’m so bad ahaha this looks so bad the more I look at it” I’ll say “I don’t like this part but this part I’m really proud of how it came out, what do u think?” And slowly slowly I’ve noticed my mental health and stance on art has gotten better and slowly even my friends have changed for the better and talk less negatively about themselves and their work!!! Ik it’s hard at first but pls try to take a conscious step towards betterment for urself n ur friends :)

[@cloudycookie_1236]

Ikr like the longer I look at it, the more mistakes I see so whenever I say that it looks bad and others disagree with me saying that it looks pretty good isn’t actually because I want attention it’s just because I stared at it longer than them and noticed more flaws. Ik that some people do this for attention but that’s not really the case for me I was just genuinely sharing my thoughts about my artwork

[@MeowMeow-he2yk]

I decided to give myself some confidence since i have gotten tired of saying my art looks ass and then someone compliments it so now i look like im fishing for compliments. Well on the good side it really did push my confidence which also made my mistakes more noticable and i will notice it then i improve mwekekeke. Im still insecure but me proud that ive gotten here since i have 8yrs of experience mwekekeke. It does disturb me a lot when beginner artist say they "envy" my skills even though i got it bcs ive trained a lot... I just say that its bcs i have experience and talk about how great they are even if they dont have much experience than me(wish is true mwekekeke) when i give compliments i dont lie.

[@7Seven_L7]

Omg yess! Some people say my drawings look fine but.. when I look at it something is always off or just wrong.

[@darkshadow-og2ss]

For those who think of themselves as bad because they have some of these traits, Congrats. You are self-aware. We are all humans and have flaws, and the best among us are those who recognize their flaws and fix them.❤

[@Psych2go]

Beautifully said! ❤ Self-awareness is the first step toward growth, and recognizing your flaws is a sign of strength, not weakness. We all have things to work on, and the fact that you're mindful of them shows you're already on the right path. Keep going! 😊

[@aaronsandoval7684]

Is it really good to celebrate someone thinking they're bad because of this? I mean, the point is to identify and improve these traits, but that doesn't necessarily make the person a bad person

[@darkshadow-og2ss]

@@Psych2go Thanks❤️

[@darkshadow-og2ss]

@@aaronsandoval7684 It's ignorance bud. When you choose to ignore your flaws intentionally, it means you don't want to accept them and change them. That works as the snowball effect. It starts simple then grow big to form mental issues.

[@Kurisu90]

Unless youre surrounded by people that criticize and remember you of every Single mistake you made.

[@theheartbeatseries]

In my early 20s, I was the ultimate people pleaser. I said yes to every request, agreed with every opinion, and went along with plans even when I didn’t enjoy them. I thought that being agreeable would make people like me more, but what I found was that it actually made me invisible. People didn’t respect me because I didn’t stand up for myself. I was just “there,” blending into the background. The truth is, people respect those who respect themselves enough to say no when necessary.

[@thesetruths1404]

Hi. Can you explain how you felt that, or what tipped you off to it? What's odd is that I think back to my 20s and it seemed like I was not involved enough. I didn't go out of my way to let people know I was dependable and wanted to be trustworthy. I feel like that caused me to feel unseen and unappreciated for what I did contribute. I look at myself like I was selfish. And just now, 20 years later, are uncovering that I've been too selfish for a good long while. Not a j@ck@zz, but just average.

[@minashinenourex1718]

how is your voice so comforting?😭 I could literally fall asleep to these videos they are so nice

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the kind words! Have you seen Amanda's face reveal?

[@semmanuellinus6339]

​@@Psych2goneed a 8 hour video on her voice...soo soothing🛐🫠💙

[@minashinenourex1718]

@Psych2go to be honest no😣 but I will look at it eventually:>

[@ABigFanOfEthobot]

I used to watch these during my 1 hour break time for my work, but I can't anymore because they changed my break time...but yeah I agree with the voice bit. So....relaxing 🫠

[@irkovi]

frrrr

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

Even if some avoid those points, other individuals will still find multiple reasons to dislike them due to the following: 1. Plain jealousy 2. Feeling threatened by your confident personality, assuming that you're taking away their limelight etc. and wanting all the attention for themselves. 3. You simply have very different goals and values - if your goals and values differ from certain people, of course we won't expect to be liked by them and that's absolutely okay. The more unique you are, the more you stand out and the more some individuals may find you intimidating or unwelcoming which is in a good way peace inducing if you're a true introvert

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

This is me.

[@KiwiiLoka]

ngl, i feel kinda bad those first 2 pointed at my older sister very clearly, when i got my first job with art, and got payed a lot more money than what she earns, she felt jealous cause i actually never went to college to get to that point :/ but i wish she didn't see it like that, and also, i don't have that job anymore LOL

[@meepruns4636]

ok sure but the video is about how you should change yourself not why other people might not like you

[@bruh_moment5653]

I was such a huge people pleaser as a child. But now that im more grown up i started caring less about what people think. And surprisingly that actually helped me getting friends.

[@dumblenutz5561]

People pleasers are boring, so good on ya. Doormats are not likeable.

[@mlr_06]

This is so true

[@MomAndBabyCareHazel24]

02:43 I love the part about staying true to yourself instead of just trying to fit in. It's so easy to get swept up in trends and lose sight of who you really are. The analogy of the 'unique handmade pot' versus the 'factory-made pot' was such a clever way to put it. Being yourself is so much more appealing than just blending in!

[@Tibbles-h4m]

3:57 That voice was so comforting for some reason

[@streetako]

How could an amazing mental health channel not be algorithm-blessed? This is some really helpful stuff.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for your kind words! It seems this video is slowly reaching more people, and it's all thanks to your support!

[@Karuminu2]

Pseudo humility is understandable depending on your perspective of it. When I deflected a compliment, it's because I felt underseving of praise. Maybe it's because I'm an introvert and don't like drawing attention to myself, or it could be due to depressive irrational thinking telling me that I'm not worth wasting energy on. I've come a long way in mentally healing and learning to humbly accepting praise, but I'll still feel that way sometimes.

[@Hahshdhbcbcyoutube]

2 words. "Thank you"

[@CheeseWarford]

Just saying “thank you” like a normal person ❌ Tangent to KZbin commenters who couldn’t care less (seriously, only people in real life actually care) ✅

[@Nabxxi]

​Literally cant come to say that when you genuinly have a skewed image of yourself 😂 . I stuggle a lot with my image and when i do get cimpliments it feels like i dont deserve them because im worth none . Maybe step out of your bubble and get to know people more ??? Sounds good no ? ​@@Hahshdhbcbcyoutube

[@Ok-fm5gx]

@@Hahshdhbcbcyoutubedid you read the comment? did your eyes pop out of your sockets?

[@Ok-fm5gx]

⁠@@CheeseWarfordmost YT commenters are real people, maybe if you were smart enough you’d know that.

[@Nixque_.]

I myself is a people pleaser and it backfired on me so much that I started to feel depressed. Some friends were warning me and after 2 years, I finally stopped and it helped me a lot. If you want everyone to like you, it's impossible. It's alright to not please everyone.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s amazing that you recognized the toll it was taking and made a change. Learning to let go of needing everyone’s approval is tough, but it brings so much freedom. You’re right-protecting your own peace is way more important than making everyone happy. Keep going; you're doing great!

[@abdieljimenez6129]

Make sure to watch the whole video! 1. 00:31 Pseudo humility 😔 - Making self-deprecating jokes or comments as a way to get compliments. 2. 01:30 Being too agreeable 🙃 - Always saying yes or pleasing others at the cost of personal beliefs or independency. 3. 02:35 Too eager to fit in 🥺- Abandoning your true self and adopting others' opinions or trends just to belong. 4. 03:55 "I'm not like other guys/girls" mentality 😏😌- It's great to be unique, but don't use your differences as a way to boast or to put others down. 5. 04:57 Perfectionism ("They'll only like me if I'm perfect") 😃👌- Striving to appear perfect all the time. 6. 06:05 Zero-sum game mindset - 😒😭Viewing life as a competition where someone’s success is your loss.

[@Psych2go]

Awesome summary! 🙌 You really nailed the key points! But there's so much more in the video that dives deeper into these behaviors and how they impact our relationships. We’d love for everyone to check it out-our team put in a lot of hard work to bring it to life! 😊💖

[@TheBadBuffalo]

The fact that I’m guilty of all of these except one 😭

[@abdieljimenez6129]

@@Psych2go Totally right, I will leave a note to encourage watching the full video 😊

[@RandomEditz-xv6gy]

I love the fact that the solution to every habit just breaks down to "be yourself" or "be humble"

[@dumblenutz5561]

That tends to not fly, sadly.

[@RandomEditz-xv6gy]

@@dumblenutz5561 ?

[@slackerofhell]

I self deprecate A LOT due to something my dad said to me years ago that I took to heart. "Calling somebody else a loser isn't cool, but calling yourself one is fair game." My pops definitely has the fake humility thing. In my case, I genuinely think I just suck. I'm heavily guilty of 2, 5, and 6. I go with whatever because I don't want to push buttons or be thrown away, yet again.

[@Psych2go]

I hear you, and it’s completely understandable why those words would stick with you, especially coming from someone so close. It’s hard when we internalize those messages and start believing them over time. Just know that your feelings are valid, and even though you might feel that way now, it doesn’t mean it’s the truth about who you are. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to give yourself the same compassion you’d offer to someone else. You deserve it. 💖

[@bertog1217]

It's so refreshing to hear you narrate this clip. You have a way of connecting. Those others don't cut it.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the kind words. Amanda is amazing isn't she?

[@EpsilonBlue-c7b]

One harsh lesson that took me a minute or two to learn was that there's a fine line between acts of service and just plain trying to babysit your loved ones. I have been on both sides of the table, and I can say that it's very intrusive and most people will feel suffocated because of it. It's not up to us to force our love on someone. I know this now, but it caused many problems in the past for me.

[@HaesungKim8291]

Thank you psych2go. I always learn more about myself when watching your videos :)

[@Psych2go]

We're so glad our videos help you on your journey of self-discovery! 💖 That's exactly why we do what we do. Thank *you* for being part of the Psych2Go community! 😊 Keep learning and growing with us! 🌱

[@brazil123]

6:20 LAUFEY MENTIONED ⁉️⁉️🗣️🗣️💌🐇🎶 EVERYBODY'S FALLING IN LOVE AND IM FALLING BEHIND🎶🗣️💔

[@LOVER-u4b]

FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT

[@xiaosloverr]

AAAAH YESSS

[@John-epicest]

I don’t really try to be “likeable” I just do what I feel like I still find friends if you try to simply wear what YOU like and do what YOU like to do

[@John-epicest]

Replying to my own comment

[@John-epicest]

Replying to my own reply be like

[@John-epicest]

Replying to my replying of replying to my reply be like

[@ryn571]

3:35 sooooo correct i agree so much with that, I used to be super insecure and trying to fit in, then I resorted to trying to stand out too much, which helped me learn that balance is the key to so many things (true intentions r also ver important), it just felt very satisfying to hear someone else explain something that I strongly agree with but didn’t exactly know how to explain (until now) :), keep up the good work guys :)

[@N_bhd]

4:19 I agree, there were three people I met that were overly on the top boasting about how they’re unique, but thing is that they look exactly like other people who plead to be the most unique. It makes their company instantly boring and not fun because they turned it into their entire personality. Not a single person who says this is actually ever unique because there will always be someone out there that will do the same.

[@Rolanocirual]

"im not like other guys, because I... Hate my life to the point i just wanna be left alone in solitude and i feel pathetic and does not impact the world even if i didnt do anything someone bullies me for sooo being unattractive and nice i jist want peace man 😢"

[@huongmai-i5d]

There was this girl that I hate a lot because she constantly boast about her results while mine was clearly higher as I do well in literature and she took my reward claiming to be the 1st making a whole show . I got angered and stood up for myself and having nothing else to hold herself up she went crying to the boys that simp for and I basically gave up 🫥

[@mr.enderman1993]

I always tend to assume the worst if I ever say anything mean or not nice to someone. That's why I always pretend like everyone else is more important. I've been working on self-care, but only so I can learn how to care for others. I constantly worry about seeming selfish when I talk to others, even though I'm the most selfless person I know. Maybe I shouldn't worry about how I act, because I know that I would always want to make others feel good around me. Thanks Psych2Go! ❤❤

[@ulfurkjalkur5165]

I’m trying to look for things to do to improve myself but this is making me realize there’s an extreme in both directions for almost everything you do (or don’t do) and I might be better off trying not to dig too deep or overthink about it

[@dumblenutz5561]

Nothing bad can come from thinking deeply about yourself. Why do you fear insight so?

[@shagun_9735]

@@dumblenutz5561 if their is something bad ...change it in your type of perfection

[@marethea]

1:03 Sometimes I have a really bad feeling about my grades. When I say this out loud, all are like "shut up, you always get good grades" and most of the time I get a good grade but there is still this feeling. Should I avoid saying this even though I REALLY think my grade is bad because I know that I make mistakes. I think it's very annoying for them but I hate it that nobody can understand me. I don't want to be annoying.

[@dumblenutz5561]

Envy, i'm guessing. They're taking it as gloating when you're merely expressing concern. They are not worth your time.

[@Unknown_srry]

I get what you mean, and them too, it's probably because they see you got a high grade but you still see the mistakes you made, so you'd feel like you did bad when in reality you did well. If you do feel like this sometimes, it's probably best to look at it from farther away, like instead of only seeing the mistakes you did, look at both what you got right or wrong. Compare the questions (like if they were hard or easy) and if you find that you answered a lot of hard questions correctly, then congrats!, you were probably just looking at the mistakes without seeing what you did well ^^, if not then atleast you know what you can improve on! Making a mistake might make you feel bad but at the very least you know it and can fix it :>

[@marethea]

​@@Unknown_srry ty for your answer! ^^

[@marethea]

​@@dumblenutz5561you're probably right. Thanks for your answer!

[@vviin.]

I do have a friend like this. I love them with my entire heart, but sometimes, they can be quite overwhelming. I feel stuck whenever i'm with them, but i still think they're precious

[@djkzrocksta]

Appreciate all the videos you guys put out, it really helps us and help us stay aware❤

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much! ❤ We're so happy to hear that our videos are helping you. Your support means the world to us and keeps us motivated to create more content that spreads awareness! 😊 Stay tuned, there’s more to come!

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Pseudo humility 0:32 2). Being too agreeable 1:29 3). Too eager to fit in 2:33 4). I'm not like other guys/girls 3:56 5). They will only like me if I'm perfect 4:54 6). Having a zero sum game mindset 6:03 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@MYARBYSISXPLODING]

THANK YOU 🙏

[@atticusestopellan8229]

This actually kind of helped me. I realized how I was thinking by being so competitive with my academic achievements and I think this will help me improve

[@Yummyapplechips]

People pleasing will always be the worst. Be yourself guys!!!!

[@jillianiscool]

Y'all crazy for that thumbnail-

[@Psych2go]

We like to keep things *eye-catching*! 😅 If the thumbnail made you click, then mission accomplished! 🎯

[@INFP-Turd]

???

[@RTYT7777]

@@Psych2go AHHAA

[@samuelmelendez7566]

They changed it

[@Ктоя-ь1м]

Pls tell me what was it

[@maxmark9099]

The voice was absolutely amazing! I loved the emotion and expression it conveyed.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you!

[@user-tl4ze2vq9i]

I'm definitely faulty of boasting too much. The truth is, I use it as coping mechanism for my insecurities. I never thought people could dislike this trait. I'll definitely try to stand out less in the future

[@TishSimish]

I'm guilty of 2,5, and 6. It stems from being very insecure. Thank you for opening my mind to these. I pray i can move away frome these and be confident in my thoughts, abilities, and opinions.

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

Most people are insecure and easily prone to feeling envious. The moment they view you as a threat, they'll do what they can to avoid looking at your awesomeness because your confident vibes remind them of their insecurities or defects they can't accept etc.

[@heatherfeather7199]

That cat at 1:20 😂

[@5Psychology-Facts]

2:34 I really enjoy your presentation style! I always feel motivated and encouraged when watching your videos.

[@Dumbnickname]

I never really had friends before, but since I started playing bass, I made a few musicians friends. They're better than me so I learn from them. My karate teacher once told me, there's always a guy stronger than you out there. I cannot really have the fun I have with musicians with non musicians. I rather being less good then them than not being with them. Dont flex too much, guys.

[@valdistevanus2222]

Love how each and every Psych2Go videos could be taken in bite size and be used to tweak someone's life slightly for massive results

[@Potatochipdinonugget]

One interesting thing that always came up when I was younger was that I usually tend to adopt humor of some of the people around me… it wasn’t for an effort to fit in, it was honestly just that I found most things funny. I still will never understand what was going on with me then.

[@CheeseWarford]

Nothing was going on?

[@joasheijboer4809]

I know i am an people pleaser, but sometimes i dont have the spine i want. But i will change overtime i promise❤

[@clareoreilly7187]

Thank you for making people aware of these habits

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for watching and supporting the work we do.

[@MrBaconFlavor]

5:19 I wish "being a 10" wasn't such a pressure in the dating world. You really don't have much chances unless you are. I'm a 3-4 on a good day so It's nearly impossible to find a partner, especially being a part of a community that only values muscles and nothing else...

[@briademuth4559]

For those struggling with some of these things, as am I, please don't feel like you have to change yourself so others like you. You don't need to be perfect. No one is, no one will be. Most people have an obsession with needing to be perfect and that is coming from someone who used to try too hard, please don't feel like you have to make yourself someone you're not. ❤❤❤

[@k_krabco9562]

3:55 I have a friend like this and it's SO frustrating. I actually get why she have no friends at all because oh my god. I always have to deal with her when she's on a bad mood but when I tell my stories she instead COMPARE me to someone I really hate and thinks the other person is BETTER and she continues BOAST about herself. ALL of our conversation is just about her, her, her and her!!! When I talk about me just for once she just said oh and continue talking about HERSELF. And it's literally like the same stories OVER AND OVER AGAIN. God I'm waiting for the right time to cut her off she's getting on my nerves. She just use me to project her own insecurities. She even thinks that the head of the student council,kindest, smartest, girl in school(who friended her out of pity)was her MAID. MAID?? OMG. I literally don't understand WHERE she have such a big ego from..

[@dumblenutz5561]

Now, having a big ego is ultimately good, but this is an example on how to NOT do it. This person you speak of has no restraint or social tact. One can have a gigantic ego and still understand how to talk to people and not just boast constantly, especially when you've little basis for said boasting. It is pointless to throw your weight around when your house is made of glass. I theorize this person was coddled as a child and developed into the type that cannot fathom something not being about them. It is a very common occurance. Best to cut the line. These people do nothing but bring disaster to any who associate with them.

[@puddinggang]

Another video that I need, thanks Psych2go

[@Psych2go]

So glad it came at the right time for you! 😊 We're always here for you-thanks for watching! 💖

[@lily-hh3je]

00:04 Certain habits and tendencies may be putting others off. 01:05 Being too agreeable can be destructive 02:06 True support doesn't always come from pure agreeableness 03:02 Balancing individuality with social norms 04:04 Embrace unique traits, but avoid boastfulness 05:01 Belief in perfection can make you less attractive 05:58 Avoid zero-sum game mindset for better relationships. 07:03 Good virtues like kindness and fidelity are impactful on others' impression

[@red-eyedatlas9119]

I have noted that I have had a few of these kinds of mindsets in the past up to now, but I deffinetly hadn't noticed that I had these mindsets in the way of noticing that having them was not great to have. This has shed some light on them and made them more visible to me, so thanks.

[@Pault3788]

I've never been in a relationship ,the bubble is the best, and more people should try it

[@Elen_kyo23]

This is actually so helpful as this WHOLE video explains my struggles and most of the time im being used other than being too agreeable and stuff i dont be eager to fit in or say stuff like "arent i the greatest" instead i say it to the person to make them feel better and i either come of as a too shy person who deosnt have self-confidence or a too nice caring nauve person who can get tricked easily but it helps out alot thank you!

[@Psych2go]

I’m so glad this video resonated with you! It sounds like you’re incredibly thoughtful and genuinely want to uplift others, even if it sometimes leads people to misinterpret you. Remember, showing kindness is a strength, but it’s okay to set boundaries too-your worth doesn’t come from pleasing others. Stay true to yourself!

[@sunnilly_flowerry2424]

this girl litterally teaches me how to live. ur my fav !!

[@angel_spirit074]

1:31 its not that I am too agreeable, instead I am just too lazy to argue. I say whatever and move on😂

[@desrainis123]

So u dont care enough. That wont make a good ship

[@angel_spirit074]

@@desrainis123 Hmm.

[@emiizback5194]

It still shows that you seemingly don't care about people around you and people will see you as stubborn, too relaxed and as well as annoying and its best to sure that being too agreeable and being lazy to argue are not the same BUT have the same big turn off and bad reputation (depends on situation)

[@BriBoop]

Actually sometimes I find that “imperfections” can be attractive. For example, some people hate there birth marks or scars but I think they just make a person more unique. Also this video is very inspiring, thanks Phych2Go

[@DaTrainMan]

Your videos are always so relaxing ☺️

[@Amgo.doestuff]

Fr bro

[@MongkolSengVirak]

This basically describes my friend. I told him it’s bad and annoying, but he doesn’t care.

[@pigpug12]

Love your vids dude! Haven’t been feeling great with my relationship and have been watching your videos to try and make it better. Your more recent videos have helped a lot. Ty, Psych2Go!!

[@Mooshy-xc6md]

my issue with 1. (not like with the actual thing, but my issue) is i have very bad self confidence, so when i say: i hate this" and then show a drawing, I REALLY don't like it. i dont like it, but i'll show it bc i dont wanna be rude. then, people are like: no its good. and im just sitting there like: nope. its dog shit. now im worried i might come off as number 1

[@yudhikaiswara7839]

man i luv her voice, its so calming

[@neofulcrum5013]

If I had a fraction of the confidence some had, I’d feel invincible

[@Falloutgamer347]

Im definetily too agreeable, i have noticed that myself but i guess i just dont want to disappoint anyone. For example if someone actually asks me to hang out i agree, i dont really have anything going on usually so i always ask the person im meeting when it would be a good time for them. I have noticed some people dont like this and i have been confused about it sometimes. I suppose its just something i wont fully understand since most of my friends have much larger social circles than i do, im not that good at social things. Also the thing at 4:30, i usually avoid talking about my intrests unless im asked for this very reason, im very self aware of doing this

[@ItsHuskee]

Thank you this helps me alot. I now know i need to work on myself and not pretend to be someone else. ❤

[@jkgaming0565]

Pseudo humility can also be called compliment fishing

[@itz_firefoxgaming5532]

I myself m a social chameleon, and I don’t even mean to be one! It just happens when I’m around different people. But thanks this video is pretty helpful 🌟

[@ColtonDouglas-mg4kg]

I’m a fan, my mom is as well!

[@Psych2go]

That's amazing! 😄 Sending a big thank you to both you and your mom for the support! 💖

[@ItsToadTime_Wiiu]

7:11 That's so true, and it doesn't happen just in women, I have a crush on a girl and mainly at first it was bc she was super nice to everybody but still awkward lol

[@WyattSheehan]

i never say something i made is good because even if i was proud when i made it, so many others can make better

[@Dasadhamster]

I didn't realize that being too agreeable is less likable. I am a person who always does anything to make someone happy. Sometimes I felt uncomfortable doing these things which can make me tired, I always thought that if I agreed to help them with anything they needed, people would like me more. Turns out I was wrong! I always find it hard to disagree with people or decline their requests because I don't want them to be mad at me, there will always be someone who is using me or just doesn't care about me at all. I don't know if anyone can be related but if you do I would want some tips!

[@Aires_Eva]

Ya I don't want them to think I'm wired or anything like, that or I'm rude if I say no to something that I can say no

[@Luvinzz-w0rm]

Listening to this is interesting because I’m a big people pleaser, it’s like a part of my soul almost- which makes for some questionable circumstances and not to mention it really can affect your health. And yes, I also struggle with fitting in. 1:37

[@sarojsobti5542]

As a new teen i'm way too similar to this, but after knowing how it actually means , i feel relieved and good. Thank you so much for making me self aware 💗!

[@Itz_bella2011]

This is my 2nd time watching your videos and your voice is so angelic and comforting i was about to fall asleep next time i will wear headphones and listen to your videos like they are calming podcats YAYYYY

[@marialubiano9834]

I love your videos, they're ACTUALLY so helpful

[@Auggie_artist]

Less likable? Well if people dont like you for who you are, then you should strive to find people who will like you

[@dumblenutz5561]

Being likeable is overrated anyway. I'd know. Life became alot easier when i stopped conforming and accomodating for people who not worth my time.

[@mateuszabramek7015]

​@@dumblenutz5561however I feel like these tips are more for persons who struggle to find any friends at all. It might be exhausting on a long run being alone in everything and for example at job it's good to have someone who covers you up for some random f*ck ups.

[@dalaikulai2743]

I used to do nr2,3 and 5 four years ago, and it made me appear inauthentic and like a try hard to my then-friendgroup. Some of them eventually started excluding me, so yeah: it is always better to be yourself and find your people to fit in with, instead of trying to fit in toooo much in groups where it may just appear inauthentic

[@LesauvaeMckelton-t7h]

Hiiiiii I like your content it is really inspiring and helpful ❤ I hope more people will come to your channel and found it interesting 😊

[@Psych2go]

Hiiii! 😊 Thank you so much for your kind words and support! 💖 We’re so happy our content resonates with you, and we hope to reach more amazing people like you too! 🌟

[@bebika_0]

I seriously love this channel .☘️

[@arkoholicditto495]

I think for the first time in my life , I do not relate my current self with all the negative points in a video , except for the second last one . But recently (I might be looking to much into it) but I think there is someone who is reciprocating

[@ghukifymooth3827]

I have never had with friends. At 12, I made my first friends, but they did something. I don't remember, but as my counsellor said, my mind is coping by forgetting. 2 years ago, I made a friend, who saved me from killing myself. Since her, I thought I'll be fine. This year, I'm in a friend group. They always left me out. While walking, I was always the one who was alone at the back. While they always texted each other, none of them texted me. I always made texted, but they didn't respond. I was tired of that, so I opened up. Instead, they got angry and kicked me out. This year, I'd a friend, who told me she was uncomfortable with how touchy I am. I didn't know what to do, so I push her away, thinking it meant she hates me. She texted me and explained that she's fine with me, but she just needs space. Now, I'm thankful that she told me that she was uncomfortable, that I changed, and our friendship is strong as ever.

[@roastedturtlewings]

So had this crush las year, and a best friend. I became so obsessed with my crush, and so dependent on my friend, that I ended up like a mashed up clone of the two. When I switched schools, I realized I had no idea who I was anymore. I used the summer break and my time at my new school to find myself again. I feel pretty good about myself now!

[@nialihgtelpuaeb3590]

I completely understand that their is no "game to win in life" but I have been behind on my friends in my 30's. Their were all buying houses, finding stable jobs and all, and I was still a student living with very little. And they struggled to understand me, we didnt have that much in common and it created a gap between me and a lot of friends

[@marcodomingo3542]

Thank you very much, I have this mindset of needing to be perfect just to be attractive and I was surprised when it showed up on the video. And tbh I can preemptively feel bad traits developing within me like arrogance and social distanceness. I want to say thank you for opening my eyes!

[@l.c.1042]

Guilty on 1, 2 and 3. But it's more of conflict avoidance and not necessarily the want to belong. Idk, I feel like I don't belong anywhere, anyway, so I just try to keep my head down and blend with the crowd while keeping an eye out for anyone who may pose a threat to my existence. I try to keep a low profile and a smaller signature to avoid being targeted for any possible reason. Besides, I can rally up allies if I'm 'friends' with everyone in case I do get targeted, but I don't trust them either. I'm only connected with them for security purposes anyway. But it's getting more tiresome with each passing year. I've been doing this for half a decade and I am tired af. So I'm changing that and I'm starting to burn bridges. I'm convincing myself that I can protect myself even without any form of social support. Because at this point, it's better to be alone than to have people who'll make you feel lonely.

[@minhtantran4111]

3:56 Well, think about that, even I thought to myself "I'm not like others" then how could I love somebody... I don't know. Thinking deeper then I'm also not as different as others, but in some aspect, I do a lot. I do not follow social norms: while others thinking about having a job or having a marriage, I just follow my music, focus on my professional and didn't think about anything else. I kinda feel happy, but also lonely. Yeah... maybe I won't find another one. Especially, if I think like that. 6:05 and even sometimes I treat life as a battle which I have to fight every others to win. I don't do that often in relationship, but in normal life... I guess I couldn't learnt how to share yet.

[@Siennaaaaaa-y4y]

One thing I don’t like is when I’m being honest and telling someone about something hard to tell like about my anxiety they just never hear about it and the first time they hear about it from me go “well I have it to”

[@syahrulvengers720]

Thanks for uploading this videos.I now know what is my weaknesses and going to start to fixed it.This video help me a lot.

[@GabLaine_sm3]

I love her voice sm 😭❤❤

[@_rblxstrs_]

for the 1st one as a artist we have a love hate relationship to our art work but i agree, like when i draw something i tend to hate it and think i can draw better and show it to people so they could give me feed back on my art

[@Diisycornerr]

Thank you for this video Psych2go some of these tips are important to remember.

[@hanna18official_42]

4:43 Yeah, It's actually really great to have a interesting and different hobbies, and for me it is, better if people around you doesn't really know much about it, I mean like don't let them know about your hobby or talent that much, because it will look like your bragging, it's just about being humble to be honest and not talking too much about it 🤗🤗🤗🤗 (it's just my reflection about the it, I'm giving lessons to myself 😌)

[@SCHREECHSUCKS]

Yall savage for that message at 3:22

[@Amazing_Mehmet]

Thank you psych2go I used to have a crush on someone on my class but then I saw your videos and many things applied so when I confessed she had the same feeling for me❤

[@vikii5246]

always something new to learn and grow. i love this channel💗

[@Lsga_22]

In my case, I was heavily guilty of number one. But it wasn't because I wanted to boast about something, it was because I had low self-esteem and didn't think I was good enough. My confidence was so low that, even if I did something obviously good, I thought it just wasn't enough.

[@yala.ching95]

Don’t bombard people on social media. Sending too many memes, tagging, messaging constantly and wanting to know about my day is what made me grow cold towards an old friend

[@royalblue19bubbles]

This video was perfectly timed! I needed that so much thank you❤

[@Scugzerker]

I'm immune to the pressure of social circles. Without counting family, I have a social line. Basically just 2 people I have contact with on a regular basis (for me meaning at least once a month). One thing that I always try to keep in mind (as I'm a bit of a perfectionist and have a pretty bad case of impostor syndrome) is wabi-sabi; beauty of imperfection. I like making things with my own hands (crocheting, carving, forging, drawing, anything goes basically), so there will always be imperfections in whatever it is. I try to keep this in mind, but I can't help but only focus on every single flaw whether I can fix it or not (at least not without undoing everything). At least I'm aware of this, so I guess that's a step forward.

[@ThemanEnvy]

WE LOVE PSYCH2GO we all say in unison