Catholic Spiritual Direction - How to Survivie a Difficult Marriage

As a priest for over 50 years, Father Stephen Valenta offers Spiritual Direction on a variety of the most often asked questions in spiritual direction. He speaks on the topic: "How to Survivie a Difficult Marriage".

[@juliepires1069]

Our Lord is truly reflected through you Father! This is absolutely beautiful and much needed to be heard in a world where the easy way “out” is selfishly taken more often then not. I will continue to forgive (forgiveness is key) and love my husband and pray for his conversion and when I sense my love growing cold I always ask Jesus to love through me and I ask Him how I may serve Him because love and service go hand in hand. May God reward you Father!

[@lori4847]

Amen. Marriage is sacred, till death do us part. Never give up. Thank you 🙏

[@allienepinedo9816]

Thank you so much. I really needed guidance from a representative of God like you. I will keep loving my husband regardless of the hurt I am going through. I will keep praying for him and myself. Thank you.

[@lovelylucas9483]

Thankyou😢 Father just exactly what I needed to hear today , Godbless you father🙏

[@CocotheNut]

Thank you, I needed to hear this 🙏🏻 I will continue to pray and love my husband

[@marycervantes228]

I would love to translate this into Spanish, there are lots of people hurting and in need hearing this comforting words

[@debbiebishop8459]

I will stay married until I die. I just wish it was with someone I love.

[@E.C.2]

Likewise. People who aren't in miserable terrible marriages have no idea,male or female.

[@simonrankin9177]

God will forgive you for leaving , he made you to be loved , not to be treated unkindly, the Bible is a guide but God understands we are human ..

[@louiseyvette2261]

The difference is most likely adultery and not the fault of the inocent party.

[@E.C.2]

What if you married the wrong person and its utterly hopeless & misreable?

[@ginnyr8946]

Just stuck!

[@E.C.2]

@@ginnyr8946 Yes that's correct but how do we properly deal with it without losing our Faith and Salvation?

[@ginnyr8946]

@E.C.2 prayer and focus on the positive, can only move forward- many not happy, life is not anyway-nothing lasts forever, I consider it my cross, my choice to marry-

[@E.C.2]

@@ginnyr8946 Agree and have acknowledged all of this before. There is no answer. I will always hate the Novus Ordo anti-Church. Pre-marriage counseling consisted of 20 yes or no questions and Church rental money.

[@ginnyr8946]

@E.C.2 Agree, pre cana is a joke at least 28 years ago-

[@lukeozade69]

Amazing. Thank you Father.

[@wanda18221]

You are so wise. God bless you.

[@elizabethchristine357]

Thank u father..

[@EmbraceTradition316]

Thank you Fr.

[@leenasmitacounsellor161]

Beautiful...

[@medhaniesimon2597]

Thank you father

[@joannepigliavento7930]

And, if your Catholic spouse of 39 years is emotionally unavailable and NEVER apologizes?

[@Marc-fg1mn]

Just ask a good God for a patient. Pray and fast for your husband.

[@DailyDoseOfGood]

Also - part of marriage is acceptance. Focus on the positive aspects of your spouse and ask God for strength to accept and forgive the negatives. In some areas we learn and conform and compromise and change and grow and in some areas, we accept and ask God to help US grow.

[@E.C.2]

There are no answers,it sucks and is hopeless. No one has an answer other than "enjoy your suffering!"😊 Meanwhile the people who say such things have happy loving successful marriages,they have zero idea nor clue what hopeless loveless "marriages" are like to live in.

[@ljkoh20052000able]

What if I place God first but she puts her interest first. Now what?

[@Ngoziscreativity]

Communicate with your spouse, pray about it. Unfortunately we have to carry our crosses if is God’s will.But don’t forget to take care of yourself.

[@DailyDoseOfGood]

Pray for her. Sincerely. Go to adoration once a week or turn to the rosary and offer petitions for her growth in faith. Ask her to join you in daily prayer. Teach her. You are her biggest supporter and warrior in her spiritual growth.

[@E.C.2]

It sucks and there are no answers. Ive talked w multiple traditional Catholic Priests Bishops and they have no answers nor what its like to be in misteable hopeless terrible "marriage."

[@anitaukagbor6124]

Thank you Father

[@tharealasylum]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@HanaaFahmy]

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