Retired in the Philippines for 2 years but can't find the right Filipina, here's why...

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[@DoD_DD214]

Paradox of choice 👍🏾

[@Kadaitchi]

She has to tick A LOT of boxes for me to even consider settling. She would have to endure approval from my family. Choice all the way!

[@jessesmith6977]

I searched for about a year with a lot of the same problems. Keep searching and you will find eventually. Filiipinas make great partners and you will find one

[@damncars2618]

If you're like a butterfly, the good girls will label you as a chickboy and won't seriously consider you.

[@alessandrotheo6518]

I want to settle with a Filpina . Is it going to be harder for me to find and land my lady there in the Philippines as i am young. 28.

[@VENEMPASTOR]

Why the hell, at retirement age, should I... 1) get married 2) cohabitate 3) impregnate 4) raise some other fool's kids 5) tie myself down inconveniently 6) throw away all the peace, quite, rest, adventure and fun.. that I had been working my whole life for 7) make myself more valuable dead than alive 8) support an entire clan of strangers that weren't there for me when my a$$ was in pain working with ailments all those years 9) give into a self defeating trend of stu_pid decision making 10) make myself more miserable with drama 11) leave one stressful life for another 12) put myself at a disadvantage 13) subject myself to people's bullsh$t 14) do anything other than enjoying my life in my retirement? WHY??? To each their own! ✌️

[@Dan-qm7ho]

Great points.... stay free and just enjoy life... always live on your terms... If the woman doesn't follow... Just look for another. Don't be in a hurry.. Stay happy go lucky.

[@TLovevsLife]

I completely agree 100%

[@roxannemiller44]

Finally!! A man who has common sense! I'm an older female but these vlogs from men in Phillipines started popping up. I keep asking why? Some of these men had their Financials I order and lost everything hooking up with someone 30-40 years younger. So what I'm seeing is older men moving to the Philippines to get lucky but end up to have a financial need to do a KZbin channel. One KZbinr is hooking up with an 18 year old and he's at least 50 or older. I mean...that's a P****

[@bruceb9515]

I agree. I'm 57 and have been married 3 times. No affairs just full on narcissism experienced from those 3 women. I had my part to play as well, I made mistakes. Never again will I get married. After my first marriage I lost everything and had to rebuild my life at 40. I live in Alaska and own my home and land that I built and improved over the years. I have to much to loose . I have peace now, no mind games or verbal and physical abuse goes on (3rd wife was an alcoholic and she'd get drunk and loose her mind, Next thing I knew she thought it was a good idea to use my head as a punching bag). I can travel when I want now. Go hunting and fishing all the time, do my hobbies etc...etc without the drama and fear of being abused and used.

[@sallyfromcali9190]

so many me, my and myselves. To each their own alright. Enjoy your peace 💕

[@commonsenseisntcommon1776]

The older I get, the happier I am with my complete freedom and being alone! I used to want another GF, but lately it's just not worth it to me. I love my peace and complete freedom 24/7

[@petermontez9686]

Spot On Brother!!!

[@ivanguban7143]

It is good to date them, but to marry and lose my freedom, NO.

[@marcoexplores4175]

I am an extremely independent person and I certainly would agree and understand what you’re saying here… But at least for me, 35 years of marriage that was mostly happy is something I really liked. Especially as I get older and think about someone to care for me when I need to change my adult diapers.

[@AnthonyShaw-ty9pi]

Think I agree with you as well. I'm 66, partially retired, still living in the states, divorced. Considering at some point, moving to the phillipines. But, I don't know. I'm exhausted with the masculine/feminist women, in the states.....🤔 P.s. Yeah, peace and complete freedom 24/7, sounds more appealing. I'm tired of trying to please a women. Maybe it would be different in the phillipines.

[@Mike-m7f8s]

@@AnthonyShaw-ty9pi in the Philippines you are expected to take care of the whole family not just your girlfriend

[@dennisdesmarais3778]

It's simple here. No money no honey.

[@Jorg-po6oi]

agree. you have to Pay Big to have girl here...all are Prostitutes.

[@ariefraiser140]

Isn't it that way all around the world? In the US at least aren't there a bunch of women looking for the 3 6s? 6 ft tall, 6 (pack abs or as some have said at least 6 inch package)......

[@treybie1]

Just like in the US. And everywhere else in the world. People talk as though these Filipinas 'just want your money'. And? LOL! It's the same all around the rock, with the only variable being how much you'll have to pay. Straight talk.

[@theglobalvagabond3074]

Maybe its just me, but it seems like a lot of these guys searching for love don't seem to understand that they are an ATM. A stable man means ATM, a mature man means ATM, an older bucktooth hairlip man with a pension is an ATM. Thinking that it is anything else is delusional. Just my .02 cents.

[@MrBatteryChanger1]

When you take on a wife and have a family, it's our job to finance that family. Sure, you feel like an ATM ( actually my family call me BDO - I have to find ways to pay for everything that a family needs, you cannot avoid it, thats why we are here.

[@Re3iRtH]

One of the few honest comments here.

[@bayareatanders]

You don’t travel halfway around the world with no money to spend. Life is short enjoy it but spend money wisely. Money was created to be spent. You don’t want to die with plenty of money left, your relatives or the state will spend it for you.

[@youngandfree93]

​@@MrBatteryChanger1wow if anyone referred to me like BDO or any bank I'd show them the door and move on. Such insulting. I am a bit younger than many of the guys here and so far no one has ever asked me for money. Although maybe because I state that on my Tinder dating profile lol

[@MrBatteryChanger1]

@@youngandfree93 after being here for 30 years, I been insulted by my wife's family so often I have become immune to it. You need a thick skin to live here, the natives do not follow English graces and customs too easily.

[@chunderground9880]

20 years ago I got loads of stares and giggles from the cute girls. But I was only 50 and looked good back then. Now I am 70 older and lost my looks. I would not expect interest from any girl over 40 years younger than me. it would be wrong on so many levels. I am pleased the young ladies are not that desperate. I hope they can achieve a better life without that. Poverty should not go hand in hand with exploitation

[@davida.4933]

The antecedent to all this angst almost invariably is some religious dogma that sex and affection have to be grounded in 1) marriage 2) so called everlasting love or 3) reproduction. Here's an idea, it's just a higher order of massage.

[@puppyupper4565]

Tampo is easy. The first time she goes tampo, tell her you are going for a walk on the beach and may go snorkeling and then maybe out to dinner. Tell her to text you when she is ready to talk but remind her that you won't have your phone with you when you are snorkeling. They would rather end tampo then wonder where you are and who you are with. Women do tampo to control you. You need to demonstrate that every time they do tampo, it will lead to a loss of control. No way does a Filipina want her boyfriend to be out for dinner somewhere without her. Yes, some Filipinas say they do tampo so they won't say something they regret. But remind them that they can carefully vet their texts before sending them. So Tampo should last 5 minutes not hours or days. Those are just about control.

[@FirePattaya]

I had a 3 day tampo once so I went about my life for 3 days. When she snuggled up to me at the start of day 4, I told her "No", tampo not over for me. See you on Day 7 - 3 for her and 3 for me. No more tampo.

[@puppyupper4565]

@@FirePattaya awesome

[@stevesilver7437]

@@FirePattayanot for me!

[@Re-certified_jlb]

Or you could say fuck you get your shit and get out. Toxic is toxic. I would not accept yelling and being mean so get over it and grow up.

[@marktill8820]

@@FirePattaya fascinating. Behavioral modification. But, if it helped resolve the issue...great. I would struggle with that but I am a softy....hmmmmm....

[@KVMerry]

Don't look for right person, be the right person

[@rosslevitates]

Damn good advice! Be creative and adaptable to lift her up to be the best she can be……

[@JJ38255]

Great interview. Wise and articulate guy. Wouldn't mind hearing more from him

[@ChadFosterExplores]

@@JJ38255 yes he really is

[@marcoexplores4175]

Salamat

[@marcoexplores4175]

@@ChadFosterExplores🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@allanf6047]

Unfortunately, that’s the challenge for him, finding someone that can reciprocate at the same level.

[@garrydye2394]

Ive lived here for 9 years. This guy has the typical foreigner delusion. Why dont young Filipinas date Filipino men in their 50s and 60s. Never forget the answer to that and you will do just fine. Start believing everything else you tell yourself because it helps your ego and you are in a world of hurt here.

[@Macjohn1419]

He is still into himself. When I found my Filipina, I was looking to elevate her life and to watch her grow. My wife wanted to come to the states and find employment because she was the breadwinner and it just wasn’t happening in her country. She was honest upfront and I accepted her life mission. We got married and I brought her over. I found her employment and we were living very happily for 36 years until Covid took her from me. I was totally committed to make her realize her goals and dreams. I put myself behind her. She was very devoted to me, as well. I am honest to say we were soulmates because we understood each other’s needs and wants.

[@jeffrt3893]

I am sorry for your loss, John ❤

[@Macjohn1419]

@@jeffrt3893, before she left me, she said that she always felt safe and comfortable around me and that she doesn’t know how to repay me for all I’ve done for her. Those words will resonate in my heart forever.

[@MrBatteryChanger1]

Been here 30 and while there are many foreigners who have been together 10, 15, 20, 30 years but your story is the first to understand the commitment is to your wife and not about the man all the time. I have to say, wow you blew me away.

[@MrBatteryChanger1]

Also, sorry for your loss but you still have the memories.

[@marcoexplores4175]

I am really sorry about your loss. It does sound like you had a wonderful relationship with her and I applaud everything that you did for her and how you were with each other. I always take exception with your opening statement that feels a little judgmental. Did you mean it that way?

[@jonross8925]

I'm 60 Asian American living in Cebu City, had a GF for 3 years and we broke up. Was a bachelor for 9 months then found a province girl online and she travel to come to Cebu to meet me and things are good now. We video chat prior of her coming to meet me. She appreciates everything I do, so far it's the best thing for me.

[@marktill8820]

Whaaahoooo!

[@I_Need_Travel-mw3st]

It sucks that people change. However, a province girl is more likely to stick it out, assuming you maintain your financial provision for her and her family.

[@jonross8925]

@@I_Need_Travel-mw3st ,.,., I've been coming to The Philippines off and on for over 40 years, and while having a lived-in GF and giving her an allowance is a win-win for both party, knowing that there's no social safety net in The Philippines (and most of Asian countries) and traditionally the children will help and provide their parents once they have a job. I'm too old to wine and dine the traditional ways and being upfront and telling her that I'm willing to give allowance to ease her burden is the solution to have a happy relationship, ( especially an age gap relationship). She use to work as a maid for a year in 2019 in Cebu City for only 6k a month and in 2020-2022 she worked as a sale lady in a hardware store earning about 9k per month. I'm giving her 14K per month now and she is very happy and makes me feel appreciated everyday without saying it. I'm living on my military pension of 3K USD per month now. So it's very affordable for a 60YO dating a 23YO., You can't do that in Thailand.

[@marktill8820]

@@I_Need_Travel-mw3st It is just so hard to tell considering all the variables in each human being. I lean into the process as part of the great mystery of life...right? There is risk every time we open up our heart....and wallet.

[@isabellaschopper8988]

Living in the trahs Cebu city wow god idee Beter go Manila to the supertrahs haaaaaaaaaaaaaa this land f of sooooon

[@dave_in_florida]

This guy has his $hit together. He is very analytical and articulate and answers the questions we have all been wondering about. Great interview. I would like to hear from him periodically.

[@Eric-qm5xw]

Still cannot a women ..in the phil’s ..that practically impossible, so like he stated he’s the common denominator.

[@daliaford9118]

Great interview, he loves his freedom and not quite ready to settle down.

[@marcoexplores4175]

Thank you for all the supportive comments. I think the older I get the more realistic and objective I try to be. That includes looking in the mirror.

[@samuelmendoza8585]

It might be time to look in another country and comprise with a language barrier. 2 years is plenty of time to find a Filipina woman who you’re drawn to and checks the most boxes. If “conflict” and jealousy is the most critical and paramount when choosing a girl to proceed, then try another Asian country and gauge the difference between them?

[@Eric-qm5xw]

@@samuelmendoza8585 Well as the guys American I believe..the Americans take comfort like most westerners with the language plus. The extra added bonus especially is the Americanisation of the Philippines. The guy talks about self reflection etc..as we observe chad also, realising that it’s harder to find the women they appear to aspire too. As the true quality Filipina with options are going to want a high value man, so for example if she’s a professional university etc..attractive 8 plus ..she’s going to want a more high value man than say chad who was a therapist. As she would be higher level than he in his country. You will not most KZbinrs that desire more than the provincial lifestyle always return to the allure of the bigger cities.

[@karenmaleon9232]

Please don't delete my comments I'm Karen from Quezon City 8 years I have a good relationship with 63 year old Canadian single man he didn't marry or have kids with me we just stay together for 8 years but he passed away last year I just want to say is the secret for lasting relationship is respect,honesty,trust without that it will not work I'm not the type to control my partner be like CC tv camera any action he do, I respect privacy for him and his things tampo have many intentions here example to control, manipulate, or just jealousy and insecurity and can't express there feeling's in English..

[@marcoexplores4175]

Thank you for sharing. And I am sorry for your loss.

[@gowithin9451]

Sorry for your loss Karen. I totally agree, it's all about trust, respect and never try to control your mate. True LOVE is meant to be simple and pure of heart

[@cammontreuil7509]

Fornicating ? Go to church ? Have a good conscious ?

[@bjreacher6402]

you sound like a good woman. I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad for your 8 years. I think Quezon City is on the U.S. don't visit list?

[@johnv5156]

Sure guys, these girls love 60 year olds for their personality. :)

[@platoon1081]

Believe it or not but some really do.

[@mitch1161]

@john5156 - How about telling us a little about your experiences with women while actually in the Philippines. 😂🤣

[@AnthonyShaw-ty9pi]

Lol🤔😂🤣😂

[@JamesCamacho-r7b]

Thats unfair to a young 24 year old.

[@marktill8820]

I have talked with lots of Filipinas about this topic. I promise you that even though all these other variables are involved including money… because of the cultural conditioning over the past 100+ years, they actually find us very handsome. Guapo. (I still look in the mirror and am flabbergasted by this!) I try never to underestimate the power of cultural conditioning. It can make human beings think and do anything. Far-reaching examples include incredibly good and caring human beings in 1930-40s Germany being convinced that one group of people are the complete problem of the country and world...and need to be eradicated completely.. If humans can be convinced to believe this, I think changing the perception of beauty is also possible. By the way, I'm not equating the two because one has such evil intentions, and what we're talking about here in the Philippines it's just a more natural evolutionary process...a temporary process. Do people take advantage of the situation? Absolutely. Some do. Us humans....just so....human-esque.

[@henryreinders3031]

In some ways, if a guy is over 60, arrangements with more educated young women might be so much easier. Gifts in exchange for company. Stay single and enjoy it.

[@tommyalexander2089]

I like what he said: beauty is temporary and doesn't last.

[@jsully4064]

@collincutler4992 My Filipina just turned 47 and is still beautiful. Tried to talk her into not coloring her hair (like the grey myself) but she says no she will look old...lol

[@marcoexplores4175]

@@jsully4064 I am with you on that one. I told my second wife that I really enjoyed the silver that she was gaining in her hair. For me, it spoke to wisdom, and I did find it attractive.

[@Gregory-Masovutch]

We're married to a Filipina and I don't support anyone's family. If someone wants money, we get a the original certificate of title to their house or land, annotate a mortgage with Register of Deeds and if they don't pay, we foreclose. Bye Bye.

[@marktill8820]

@@jsully4064 I agree with the coloring hair thought...but...ultimately, it's her choice and I try to be supportive.

[@marktill8820]

@@Gregory-Masovutch Yikes. With family members? Hmmmmmm....my reaction is commensurate with my uncanny skills to make money disappear! LOL$$$$

[@ksmithpmp]

No such thing as a soul mate. Don’t make women your top priority. No wonder you two guys are so conflicted.

[@marcoexplores4175]

I agree that the term soulmate can be overused in a new age kind of way as if there’s only one person out there that the gods have selected for you. But I do believe you can hook up with somebody in a way that is magical. I can say that about both of my marriages… Which is a little ironic for me to say that… Right? if you have figured out how to refocus on other things then more power to you, brother. I do spend a lot of time and energy and other worthwhile endeavors, but certainly the pool and the desire to have a life partner is still strong.

[@michaelhuling9040]

I stopped believing in soulmates 35 years ago! There is no such thing! It’s about what level of crazy, drama and BS you’re willing to tolerate from your partner!

[@JamesHickman-g5c]

@@marcoexplores4175 Marriages plural. Yes, in the beginning it's always magical, but then comes the 'practical,' and there's the rub...

[@rocketman1828]

I agree that "soulmate" thing is so idiotic.

[@marktill8820]

@@rocketman1828 I would not go that far with that description. It is a a term that comes out of the whole New Age movement. The idea there is only one "fit" out there is far fetched for me, but I also somehow like the reference to "soul" even though I am an atheist. Maybe I resonate with it because it evokes something beyond the norm...spiritual if you like. I was overall happy in 35 years of marriage and those relationships just had an indescribable soulful nature. I keep telling myself I want that again...pero...maybe I should join the "bachelor till rapture" enclave???

[@kjc728]

My advice from experience with filipinas is don't go with a woman who spends her life on her mobile phone. Go with a province girl and teach her how life works if she is inexperienced. Western culture is toxic and focuses too much on material things, people in the Philippines are generally happy so embrace their world. You will be a better person and will enjoy life better than you may have done before.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Plenty of province girls are glued to their phones.

[@rickb7225]

Filipinas are not focused on material things???, most of them are, not all, same as West.

[@kjc728]

@@rickb7225 Have you been to the Philippines? Chatted with lots of Fiipinas? What makes you think that most are focussed on material things? If you have only chatted with them online then maybe as lots are scammers.

[@rickb7225]

@@kjc728 I've been six times, visited different islands, cities and province areas, I would agree more in province less focused on material things, but once they move to cities , they learn from others. I wouldn't judge based on online .

[@marcoexplores4175]

I would say it’s a case by case scenario. But certainly one of my red flags is if we sit down for the first coffee and she has the phone on the table face up and she keeps looking at it. I do gently ask her to turn it over or put it away because mine is never out. of course I didn’t grow up with cell phones right? But it is a problem. It’s a problem everywhere. I have been in the most remote provinces in Southeast Asia and have seen four-year-olds on cell phones. It is out of control. But quickly realize what a great babysitter it is, I don’t know what the solution is. I was a teacher for 30 years and I saw it trickle into the classroom and the learning experience. Now I am seeing American schools taking a strong stance and requiring students to not have cell phones at all at school or at least part of the day.

[@suffa07]

Obviously, he hasn't figured it out yet. Women from the province can be more cunning, more diabolical, more sheisty. Oftentimes, their economic situations are more dire. So, they are more willing to win in life (in their minds) "by any means necessary!" Fellows: be careful with city and province women. Approach them all the same: with extreme caution! There are plenty of genuinely good women in the Philippines.... But they must be thoroughly vetted. Also know: like anywhere else in the world people are people: good, bad, and indifferent. Don't be overcome with feelings of giddiness by everyone smiling at you in the Phils. Trust me, it's a mask! You have to spend a lot of time with Filipinos for genuine acceptance. But once you do, and if you're accepted, you become like a blood relative!

[@JTW3159]

Please what they find attractive is your money.stay single

[@Undre99]

Facts

[@marktill8820]

There's a lot more to the equation, but yes, oftentimes, finances are part of the equation. From the scientific perspective...I call it entropy.

[@bobbruce4135]

@@marktill8820 Wow.... first time I've heard anyone interested in the Philippines use a scientific word. The moment a female there knows I'm a scientist (or most expats there), there's immediate rejection. Of course, I'm also anti-natalist and agnostic so they will find nothing in common with me. Zero personality compatibility despite lacking dark triad traits. I also don't like $ugar relationships which is all it is unless very "family" oriented.

[@elvantonucci695]

No different in the. West

[@oilairnalo]

That is correct. Stay single. Yet many fall into matrimony. But once you bring her to your western country and you are not wiling nor has the capacity to provide the money she hopes to possess, she is very willing to scrub toilet bowls day and night to have an independent income. Sooner or later, the poor family back home would move out from their shack in the hills to a bungalow in a city subdivision. That's the rule. "Paregner" seeker's path out of poverty. Btw, every rule has exceptions.

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

For most of my adult life I wanted a female partner who could talk about the many things that interested me. And I had that several times with female partners. It doesn't work. They lose interest in those things. People get jaded. Discussion gets replaced with eye rolls. So now I'm 5 years a hermit. Love it. No more watching the news and social media. My goal is to not even know President of the US. I've seen in movies a married couple who spoke different languages, no shared words. But they were happy. They were creating a family and wife handled the house and husband worked. They understood their roles. They didn't need each other to make them happy.

[@stevenr1354]

This is the traditional Asian way. No "soul mate" expectations. Men socialize with men. Women socialize with women.

[@I_Need_Travel-mw3st]

I'm glad you're happy. Yeah, movies definitely great but sadly very few couples will ever experience that utopia haha. I'm becoming more of a recluse as well.

[@cammontreuil7509]

You just don't have any appeal.

[@stevenhull5025]

How about talking about things which interest her instead of what interests you???

[@thadtuiol1717]

@@stevenhull5025 Simp harder, Steven

[@ksmithpmp]

Why would any man with options want to go back on the plantation?

[@dave_in_florida]

You mean USA? Or marriage?

[@ksmithpmp]

@@dave_in_florida marriage

[@CraigKerwood-001]

I have to agree with him on tampo. I went through the "silent treatment" with my ex-wife and for me, I think it's disrespectful. The "conversation-gap" is also a serious dilemma.

[@Eric-qm5xw]

She was not the right one.

[@Eric-qm5xw]

@@Rwj378 My Filipina did it at the start it’s a inherent trait ..just said nope, a few back and forth ..no Tampo. 5 years in and still,no Tampo.I will premise she’s a ex corporate banker for cit and wells.

[@AnthonyShaw-ty9pi]

​@@Rwj378 I agree!! 👍👍

[@JamesHickman-g5c]

Same here, sometimes she would go for a week at a time or longer. fruck that!

[@Maria..Carina-y6x]

actually, in modern psychology, silent treatment is oficially considered abusive behaviour. and it is only recommended to be tolerated for children, with the condition that parents should work on it, and teach them how to gradually develop their emotional control and grow out of it.

[@DManGrand]

Dont over think it just enjoy the journey...It took me 8 years living here to find the right one......

[@ChadFosterExplores]

@@DManGrand wise words... cheers

[@marcoexplores4175]

I really appreciate you sharing that. I have a good friend here named John Smulo that some of you may know and he and I often tell each other to have patience and not rush things.

[@HD-bq8pw]

Good point about over thinking. Also, everyone is different. For some, being single forever it's right for them. For others, having a girlfriend or wife is the way to go. In these forums, so many are quick to offer advice to others that may or may not be right for others. My unsolicited advice ... use both your brain and also follow your heart

[@JamesHickman-g5c]

Depending on your age, it gets tiring playing the field after awhile, and you seek a deeper connection. Sex for sake of sex is an empty existence. You have to find a balance.

[@HD-bq8pw]

@user-zu5tv7zt6v yes, great point. balance is key. Many are scarred from getting absolutely burned. Deeper connection is worth it. Just be wise to protect yourself, too.

[@RealGaryGibson]

Filipinas like a man with a plan. I didn't hear a cohesive plan that includes a good Filipina.

[@marcoexplores4175]

I did have a plan at one .5 years ago, but I definitely don’t have a coherent plan now. You are absolutely correct. But certainly one thing I have learned from 63 trips around the sun is that even the best laid plans get changed very quickly in this modern life.

[@kaiserpuppydog7174]

They like a man with a retirement plan.

[@JamesHickman-g5c]

And the plan of many (most?) is to cleverly part an unwary foreigner from his money. Very rare to find a Filipino who saves and respects a budget; they are mostly spendthrifts that spend every peso given to them, saving little or nothing. If she is willing and adapt to your plan, without an agenda, she MAY be a good catch. Hard to find a filipina like that.

[@stevesilver7437]

@@kaiserpuppydog7174yes! They all know about pensions and social security 😮 Even province girls know this! Don’t let these guys blow smoke up your Arse 😮😅

[@ColonelHoganStalag13]

@@JamesHickman-g5c Well that's why you have to be the leader and establish the boundaries right from the beginning. If you don't lead, she will - right off the cliff. You cannot rely on women to lead you around and have your best intentions in mind. This guy was in fact wishy-washy and lacking a vision. As such, he's wasting their time as much as they're wasting his remaining time.

[@kennethedwards1677]

I respect this guy and understand his point of view. For those who love to travel, it's perfectly understandable that you don't want to 'tie yourself down.' For others, who find traveling, except for an occasional vacation, tiring, we have different goals. Probably, we're not socialites, and like keeping to ourselves more. Maybe not exactly introverts, but need more quiet time away from strangers to recharge. That being said, no man should make finding a woman his primary purpose in life. That leads to dependency and even co-dependency. If/when you meet a gal that fully complements you and willing to be a true partner, then you've found a rare jewel, indeed.

[@oilairnalo]

Rare jewels certainly cost much, so prepare the necessary amount.

[@kennethedwards1677]

@@oilairnalo Ah, yes, the key word is 'partner,' not you pay and she spends. That's not complementary at all. That's just being a woman's 'pay piggy.' Besides, unicorns don't exist. Also, you have to accept that you may never find that rare jewel. In the meantime, just enjoy your life; there is no single 'right one,' and that 'rare jewel' is not so rare if she is a burden. It's really about achieving a balance, not perfection. If you 'balance' each other out, it's win-win.

[@samuelmendoza8585]

A lot here is self-inflicted look in the mirror. No one is perfect, compromise is the key 🔑

[@Recon6]

Guys he is right the english is important. Being able to communicate. If you want a woman from another country make sure you speak there launguage and she speaks english.

[@Jason787]

I am married to a educational Filipina whose English is perfect. She is from a middle class family and before her I didn't date middle class Filipina but it is a huge difference and in many ways much better. Of course their are always pro and cons. To me he seems to need a educated professional Filipina in her 40s.

[@Gmantrini]

35-45 educated middle class woman is the best fit for a gent in his mid 50s plus.

[@marktill8820]

Thanks...probably right. But this crazy Universe continues to surprise me. I am trying to stay open to all possible options...including the single life.

[@RONALD......]

Im 56 my lady is 43 with a PhD in psychology, but shes been a elementary school teacher for 10 years in the Phi but now teach here in Virginia USA 🇺🇸, her uncle is a professional ball room dancer.. her brother is a police officer in the Phi, they are a lovely middle class family.. no funds needed, I am treated to outings and dinner from them often.. it's been a year since we moved back to the US ,.never experienced tampo and she is still just as humble, funny and caring as the first time we met on the Dating in Asia site..👍🏾🇺🇲🇵🇭

[@peter-pg5yc]

I totally agree. my asawas family was strict, ones a doctor other banker the other an accountant all educated. It makes a hugh difference. You got an equal a partnership. Not a child adult. Plus they are employed make good living

[@marktill8820]

@@RONALD...... Congratulations. It sounds like you have the ideal situation in so many ways. I am sitting here wondering about how you find that woman. If I'm on the dating sites, what percentage of Filipinas fall into this category? I have met women like this but the percentage is very very small. And even with the relation ship attempts I have had with these women, some of the same Filipino trades are coming up. Again and again, I will admit and constantly have to take a look in the mirror about what my expectations are. I really appreciate you sharing.

[@louisbee7923]

Tampo is a power play on her part. She wants to know how much control she has over you. Any guy who gives in is doomed. Once she knows she's got the upper hand it's over. Tampo should mean you show her the door.

[@samuelmendoza8585]

Absolutely, if you entertain it, you are an enabler, stop 🛑 it right away, or move on.

[@tomyum6163]

Exactly. It's just extremely immature behavior. I would put up with that nonsense for about one millisecond.

[@airameel]

It’s called Shit-test that women do all over the world and not just Filipina women 😝

[@marktill8820]

I would point out that this is part of the culture. To us it feels like the strategy of a young child. For them, it may have the same purpose but I think some leniency should be given because it is so ingrained in the culture. That being said, I could not endure this type of behavior for a long period of time. When this has come up in the relationships I have been in, I do try to model more productive conflict resolution skills. And then I just make my request that she try another way to express her frustration or anger that will produce better results and actually what she is looking for. But it all starts with recognition and awareness of the cultural norms she has used to. But being perfectly honest, nothing has worked thus far when it comes to this issue. This only reminds me of the power of cultural conditioning and I certainly have my own. Example: pontification. My sermon is done. LOL

[@marcoexplores4175]

@@Felix.Hunger I am sorry to hear that. These cultural hurdles are very difficult to work through. So much relies on communication skills. Common communication skills. I hope you find a way to make it work.

[@bdh1979ta]

As a 55 yo here in the US, this is a very good video. Honest and realistic. There's a lot of wisdom and self reflection portrayed. Thanks for your content.

[@marcoexplores4175]

Salamat

[@marcoexplores4175]

Thank you

[@mikelandry6397]

I’m 55 , good to see these options

[@amorevirgil2849]

Lots talk But nothing to do with ready to commit n love, cause afraid to lose of self freedom...l so not serious guys, foolish americans... dont understand love reality...

[@ColonelHoganStalag13]

I heard this guy said he wasn't giving up his friends. If you're intention is to get into a long term, committed relationship, then you have to forgo the female friends. You're old enough not to be so naive and think that's entirely innocent. The same would apply for her and male friends. If neither of you are serious enough to make a commitment and be exclusive, then it just appears you're keeping all options on the table. Like you still _need_ female attention other than her. If you're getting messaged routinely by female friends, then you're the problem here, not her. I'm betting he's also combative about letting his girlfriend see the messages because he knows what it looks like. The sexual market place value isn't an equal playing field here and that's why he moved there. Just date casually, you're not mature enough at 63 to have a serious relationship. You grew older but you didn't grow up. What a wasted opportunity you have being there and you can't make up your mind and commit to it. You use the word perfect Filipina and there's at the heart of your misconception. They're human and have feelings, needs and wants just like you.

[@elihawaii5509]

Have you ever considered silencing your phone notifications in an effort to help your Filipina’s PTSD from her past experiences?

[@richardknodel2829]

😂😂😂

[@gowellnow]

hey man, no wonder you been through 2 marriages, best friend, that one who has your back? (too high of expectation) ive done 20 yrs so far in the incarceration of marriage and i dont kid myself!!!

[@gemmaleandado]

I agree to that beauty don't last but beautiful heart and genuine love remains

[@darkroast66]

Dating younger Filipinas is awesome, but there are also a lot of options dating older 40ish woman. If they are not OFW workers it’s very difficult to find good work in the Philippines. They make great partners and can travel, giving you good opportunities to learn their personality and if they are a good fit for you.

[@marcoexplores4175]

I agree with you on all of that.

[@user-vm8ot3vg8m]

They can travel on your dime

[@JamesHickman-g5c]

They have less options than their younger counterparts and are more adaptable to a modest lifestyle. Not all though.

[@imrunninazoo1115]

@@user-vm8ot3vg8m😂😂 These old fools are in for a rude awakening 😂😂

[@wesgraham2262]

Even if you’ve made it clear that you are in an exclusive relationship with your filipina and you will never cheat on her, it does NOT mean jealosy can’t happen where she goes full-on Tampo on you! It happened to me. A pretty cashier smiled at me and I smiled back. I got the “silent treatment” for 24 hours.

[@myendlesslove5120]

😂

[@mikga45]

My girl is jealous always. I'm not a normal 65 soon to be 66 next month. I have muscle. Work out with gymnastic rings and weights. She wish I did not workout. I told her I'm old and no one waiting in line to be with me I'm not a cheater but she's always jealous.

[@myendlesslove5120]

@@mikga45 hahaha

[@pete98146]

I met my wife online 20 years ago and I have helped quite a few guys meet the right Filipina. When looking for my Filipina, I struggled a lot until I started using the advanced search engine. I only pursued girls with a 4 year degree, under the age of 30, never married and no kids. The big one is the 4 year degree. I figured if I'm tying to find a Filipina, I want a quality one. Best to look for a nurse, teacher, call center girl, etc. The 4 year degree shows maturity, smarts, comes from a better than average family etc. Thought I'd share with all the guys struggling to find the right one.

[@Richard.Cabeza]

I agree, especially if you can meet a good nurse.

[@janesuarez8843]

Thats an important filter.

[@Gaza-vu6gl]

Found someone all good last 18 months. I’m 64 she’s 40 felt things not right red flags of late with her. Money entered the relationship from her. Last week had it out with her. She wants marriage and a baby. Cannot do that just like that. End result leaving me to look for a foreigner who will give her that. It’s about her and not me. I’m off bye bye then

[@kaiserpuppydog7174]

Are you saying a woman is out only for herself?!! NO WAY!!! 🤣😂😁

[@unclecharles3617]

I've been married to my awesome Filipina for 11 years and couldn't be happier. There are only 4 years between us and we never run out of things to talk about. We texted each other every day for over two years. One day we both agreed we could be more than just pen pals. I knew I wanted to marry her even before we met face to face. I saved up and bought a plane ticket to come to meet her. I asked her what sort of gift I should bring her from the US. She said she wanted a Bible written in English. I bought an engagement ring and her Bible. I went on a translator program and wrote my marriage proposal in Tagalog on the back page of the Bible. I'm one of the lucky ones. I had friends telling me I was crazy and could be being scammed. I knew better. She never asked me for money in the over 2 years we knew each other and I sent her money once for medication when she had an injury and she would not accept it and immediately returned it to me ❤

[@darwel007]

Good for you!

[@davidlaws1438]

Amen brother, when we find a good philipina wife ain't nothing better 😊 I been married to my philipina wife 2 years now.

[@williegilligan2661]

Good for you man, I wish I heard more stories of good relationships where the women are not looking for a walking ATM and are really in it for stability.

[@lindapeppel9388]

Good choice! This is my advice to every American looking for a Filipino woman. Find someone who loves God . Not those who show their sexiness. They are fake.

[@davidlaws1438]

@@lindapeppel9388 exactly right on!!

[@robertreynard2916]

Never, ever, ever tolerate this childish/immature ‘Tampo’…

[@ColonelHoganStalag13]

If he were more assertive and set boundaries up front, he wouldn't be in this situation. If he possessed some firmness and was a leader, then the women wouldn't be able to lead him around. But at 63, he doesn't see it and he's just going to waste time messing with girls who are going to spend his remaining years giving him grief.

[@AndrewSheldon]

My Filipino partner is 12yo younger. She's educated with MBA. I don't think that's a drawback, unless you're not educated. I found her on Japan Penfriend years ago. I was living in Japan.

[@patrickconroy8729]

Hire a caretaker to cook, clean, and keep you company during the day, and she goes home at night and you have your private time. Much easier to get out of those relationships if it does not work out.

[@MrBatteryChanger1]

​@@Rwj378z Not if he was smart.

[@patrickconroy8729]

@@Rwj378 Who knows? But most relationships, especially senior men, are more about companionship and not romance. As someone else said, the term soulmate is a fantasy.

[@davidkaiser810]

I think that any single foreigners that come to the Philippines should spend at least 1 year learning about the people and the culture before dating, I know it would be hard since there are so many beautiful Filipinas, but, you will make a better choice when picking out a life partner

[@commonsenseisntcommon1776]

makes sense

[@marcoexplores4175]

I agree. I also agree that it is completely unrealistic. It really is overwhelming when you first get here.

[@Kosty19]

And learn some of the language(s) so You can get an idea what they are talking behind Your back!

[@ST-TV]

The only people who can realilsticly do that are retirees.

[@JamesHickman-g5c]

No dating, no nookie, nookie? You'd have be either be celibate or impotent. Maybe just not committing, but no one's gonna fly halfway around the world to a 3rd world country with a crippled infrastructure, and spend a year there for nothing.

[@sugoidessho]

There's nothing wrong with being single: you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, and with whoever you want without the need to compromise or get agreement from anyone. For many people, marriage is not nirvana and it can be a financial trap for men with loss of personal freedom and even loss of assets. As for the much-vaunted 'beauty ' of Filipinas, this is a subjective judgment but for me (I've been to 80 countries and all Asian countries) only a minority of Filipinas are what I would describe as really pretty. The majority are very short and tend to look pretty much like the others. The best-looking ones are in the entertainment business or working as models, flight attendants etc. As for their character and personality (or lack thereof) most Filipinas that you meet online describe themselves as "simple." Which basically means they aren't particularly interesting and they have little knowledge about or interest in Western culture apart from what they see in movies or if they have travellled there. Unless they are highly educated and have top-tier professional jobs like doctors, lawyers, flight attendants, TV presenters, models etc (in which case they're not going to be interested in Western pensioners; you'll get the low-hanging fruit) most of them can only talk about their family (their number one priority, not you), job (or lack thereof), money (or lack thereof) and what they can see in front of their nose. As you will find out, many are poor communicators and cannot carry a meaningful, deep conversation. If that's what you're looking for. It's worse in the provinces with poor and uneducated "village chickens" as they're called. Your interviewee appears to be tired of dating Filipinas and in particular trying to find someone compatible as a communicator. It can be like a dog chasing its tail forever looking for the right one and realizing what you're looking for may not exist in the Philippines, or you statistical chance of meeting "the one" is probably very low and just a matter of random luck who you meet/encounter. Outside of those areas their general knowledge and experience is very limited. If that's okay for you, you'll find plenty who'll fit the bill. They're all looking for financial security including single moms and if you can provide that, including lifelong support to her family and children if she has any (and most of them do whether admitted or not), everything else about you (your education, age, intelligence, knowledge, hobbies, your witty sense of humor and communication skills etc) is secondary or of little to no importance. You are a subsitute for an employer and their number one interest in you as an older foreigner is your wallet/bank account and what the contents of that wallet and bank a/c can do for her and her family 😀 Finally, can you handle their 'tampos' i.e. silent treatment and petty jealousy? Yes it is juvenile and childish behavior but it just about sums up their level of maturity. The majority simply don't have the emotional maturity and intelligence to deal with conflict, misunderstandings or disagreements in a calm, mature manner working it out through discussion and logic as we do in the West - like adults. That is alien to them because their culture is so different to Western culture. If you're in your 60s or more and dating a young Filipina in her 20s you will find yourself in a relationship with an adult child. The novelty of receiving attention from a young woman can soon wear off when you find yourself sitting opposite each other in a restaurant mostly in silence yet again because you have no common interests to talk about. All that okay for you?

[@maxjohnson1758]

I'm gonna go with yes! 😅

[@mariacielosoberano3294]

there are a lot of countries not just the Philippines that a lot of these expats can look for a wife why sticking your ass here in the Philippines there are thailanders , vietnamese, koreans , japanese , chinese you have lots of choices we are tired of this old desperate guys in the PI go somewhere else please

[@MichaelDothoso]

A good comment. Let me reply with a not so good one: Most women are adult children regardless of where they are from. Most women are either unwilling or incapable of rational argumentation in conflict, and often don't even have an interest in problem solving. Which is something men have to accept and deal with virtually always. Someone told me only after menopause do women grow up, and while I won't find out for decades yet, he was rather convincing.

[@scottgillespie3655]

Have only watched a couple of your videos, but I must say this was excellence. Marco is full of reflective wisdom mixed with optimism and truth to oneself and to others. You asked great questions and kept the conversation flowing. Great job, guys.

[@PizzaLord]

The jealousy and phone monitoring stuff is easily dealt with.

[@MikeHoncho884]

How?

[@PizzaLord]

@@MikeHoncho884 Sex 3.0 relationships - in either fenced or unfenced it should not be a problem

[@marcoexplores4175]

I also would love to hear this easy formula.

[@louisbee7923]

How? Like anywhere in the world. Make sure she knows you won't tolerate it and she can walk if she doesn't like it. Simple.

[@sonny8746]

Great interview! I have been in the Philippines 1.5yrs and very similar experiences..spot on!

[@ChrissieSM]

Why do women in the Philippines go after Americans, Europeans, etc, rather than their fellow countrymen? Surely, there must be some local men capable to give them the life they wish for.

[@platoon1081]

It is difficult to find a financially secure man that is not a "player" and willing to be an exclusive parrner to them. This is a role that retired, foreign males may fill for them.

[@kaiserpuppydog7174]

They would have to share local men because there aren't enough to go around. Better to snag a walking ATM from another country, the life they wish for is easy money.

[@jtns2845]

money.

[@bobbruce4135]

@@platoon1081 Usually, after they have already experienced the local f-boys and are knocked up. Hard to find one that doesn't have kids and is looking for love; not babies as her 401k plan and a green card to send money home.

[@Re3iRtH]

​@@kaiserpuppydog7174if you're young handsome and don't spend money on women then you can avoid being a walking ATM. And the women treat you even better and go the extra mile. Unfortunately these old guys have no concept of that and they will just throw money at a woman because i guess they feel thats all they can offer?

[@timjensen6968]

I'm married in Japan to a Japanese. I totally understand the communication issues. TAMPO every day.

[@ronc4146]

Same with Vietnamese (and we met here, in the U.S.). 7 out of 8 year marriage was full of the silent treatment. Power play all day, every day. They know all you want is some peace at home, and that is the very last thing you will ever get. Things will only cool for a few days, or a week or two at most, when they want something from you (besides you already paying all the overhead bills). Always trying to keep you guessing and "on edge". Never letting you "get comfortable".

[@old-soul]

😅

[@larifari4371]

OMG

[@Jonathan-L]

@@ronc4146 Thanks for sharing your experience. Same with Chinese. And the 'on edge' feeling applies equally. Defintely no comfortable feeling as you pointed out. Very cunning, very controlling, very maniuplative, in a subtle way, it's always there.

[@thepragmatist]

OMG. He literally said, "Even if they choose SOMETHING..." referring to a Filipina woman. A Filipina woman is a thing in this guy's mind. Objectify much? I'm about to puke.

[@ChrissieSM]

I once said on YT that I don't understand people who hook up with someone with whom they cannot communicate because of the language barrier. I got such a backlash. Love is all you need, who cares about talking politics, art, music, etc. You don't need to speak the same language to understand each other, blah blah blah.

[@marcoexplores4175]

I think it depends on both of the people involved. I have seen incredibly happy foreigners with a Filipino wife and they just don’t need to communicate a whole lot. Maybe they are just really simple folk and they just enjoy each other’s presence and appreciate one another. I kind of envy that. But it definitely would not work for me.

[@luv2sail66]

Let’s talk about the elephant in the room here. You’re a 50-60 something retiree trying to find a younger and attractive partner in a 3rd world country. I’m lucky in that when I found myself single again at 42, I found someone 9 years younger and we just celebrated our 14 year anniversary. God forbid something happens to her, but if it did I don’t think Imma look for love in a 3rd world country.

[@erichschinzel6486]

IMO in the long run, filipinas prefer Filipino men...their culture is completely different You need to speak the lingo..that helps. Stop chasing..

[@Airraidcd]

So very true. Same culture similar value sense.

[@davida.4933]

@@Airraidcd Often true, often NOT.

[@desertcats1496]

@ 11:02 I have a question. Why is the Philippines vibe and energy difficult to navigate? I can understand that being true initially but you've been there for years.

[@shweefranglais7900]

This guy is sincere and self reflective. He would be a good bet for a sensible educated Philippina lady who happens to prefer a white American over a fellow Philipino guy. I think if he were prepared to accept average looks with an educated lady of around 45, maybe someone who missed marriage first time around. Philipinas have naturally sweet and harmonious personalities but they seem to lose the qualities which attract us to them if they live in America for a long period so he may find the ideal living in the Phillipines; and she him. I think if and when he decides to commit he would make a reliable and caring husband to the right woman, unlike the many.

[@TheScottEF]

I agree with all that you say except that you're accepting American female notions of equivalence. He could find an extremely good looking woman if she's as old as 45.

[@tadstar]

There's still something weird about old white dudes hanging out in Asia looking the hook up with young women... I'm not sure it's not taking advantage tbh

[@altonarm]

The way he avoided the question and started saying he wasn't sure he wanted to have someone and then remembered "liking it before" but TWO divorces suggest that he doesn't want to go down that road. He doesn't want to be alone either. It sounds like he is conflicted and THAT is going to keep him from settling down with anyone.

[@metislamestiza3708]

i'm a 62 year old woman. i can't imagine a woman my daughter's age being attracted to a man her father's age on a permanent basis, money or not. it feels like many of these men are beating a dead horse. if something happened to my husband, i'd stay single as there is nothing to chase, to find, to hassle myself about. each to their own there, yet it seems like a really drama filled life living like this. if you're really doing this *self reflection* maybe see that nobody will complete you, you are complete already.

[@terencem723]

Most men want to live out their fantasy of getting a young or much younger woman. I get it. But, it is truly delusional to think that these young women actually find old guys attractive. It is pure rubbish. It's all about %$$$ and getting to America. A lot of these men are going thousands of miles away from America to get ripped off. They can find the same crap right here.

[@billyjohnson9166]

When you find your soulmate embrace it. If after two years you haven’t found your special someone where are you looking? Maybe start looking inward. They’re out there.

[@Eric-qm5xw]

What does he want lol..how can ya now find a Filipina ..impossible.

[@marktill8820]

Right on brother! Ultimately, inward continually seems to be the treasure trove. Thanks for the reminder.

[@Re3iRtH]

​@@Eric-qm5xwi've said this before. It bears repeating. If you can't find a good woman in the Philippines, you can't find a woman anywhere. Because my experience is within weeks i find several quality humble women, great family, who take care of me, and never ask for any money or to buy them things. The Philippines is the country with by far the least picky, highest quality women.

[@TheOrientalistReport]

It's not hard to meet someone in the PH. If this guy has seriously been here for 2 years and he's never met the 'right' Filipina. He's either; 1. Not actually looking to settle down. 2. Completely insufferable behind closed doors.

[@holgermessner851]

Hello from Panama. I have to chip on my 2 cents. I was 12 years together with a Filipina in Canada. I did meet her in Canada. She lived their many years. The TAMPO shit isn't going out of their head! Controll freaks to 100%. It got worse when I had a work related accident. Didn't work anymore. She came home from office and it started: "What did you do all day? And on. Taking my phone. Checking the computer. It got that far that she threatened to kill me. That's when I had finally enough of this shit. I'm cured for the rest of my life. No Filipina is coming into my house anymore. And I am not on Tinder or what ever APP is out there. I just want my peace!

[@stevenhull5025]

It is NOT just ladies from the Philippines who act this way. I have been married for 41 years. Since my CHINESE wife retired she is not the same person I married. She is now 74 and I am 72. 1) Complains every time I have a cigarette even though I smoke outside the house. 2) Complains I am an alcoholic even though it takes me THREE months to drink a litre of Vodka. 3) Covers the kitchen tiles with pieces of cardboard so they don't get wet. 4) Urinates in a bucket so she can "water" the garden. 5) Argues about stupid things every time I drive somewhere. 6) I cannot empty the dirty bath water as she "wants" to use it to flush the toilet. 7) Always complains about what I buy when I do the grocery shopping. 8) Hoards everything and anything so now I cannot even access the inside of the shed. 9) Spends hours in the garden but hardly does any housework. 10) Have to cover the walls of the cooking area with cardboard in case I splash cooking oil or food 11) Countless times saying I am stupid or useless. 12) Verbally aggressive and argumentative. I feel at the end of my tether and even though I am getting on in years I think maybe it is better to die alone than live a continual life of stress and strive. If I divorce and travel overseas would I ever want female companionship again?? The answer to that is a resounding NO.

[@holgermessner851]

@stevenhull5025 Sorry to hear that I am not alone. I think I mentioned it. I was 12 years married. When I got the news that my wife does sleep with around 80 men in the village, I just asked her if this is correct. Her answer? "That is not your business! " So I got a divorce. Lost everything. In Canada I thought like you. No woman in my house. It worked 2 years. Again. She got crazy. And I mean crazy. Filipina who lived over 20 years already in Canada. I had to call a couple times the police. And I stupid guy thought always of couples like you and your wife. I just thought every day: How can they be 40 years married and I can't get it right. I didn't drink, no gambling, no drugs. Worked my ass off again to provide. When she threatened to kill me with a big kitchen knife, that was the turning point for me. She threatened even my son,27 at the time, who was visiting us from Germany! "Dad! What are you doing? Get rid of her or just move on!" So I called police and explained that I would leave Canada in November 2019. The officer looked her name up and suddenly said: "Sir. I personally will call you 3 times a day until you leave, to make sure that nothing happens to you!" One evening. My girlfriend was arguing again with me. Phone rings and she got the call. "Police service. I like to talk to Holger. You are under surveillance, ma'am!" She looked at me with big eyes. I took the call. One week later I was at the airport. Another 12 years wasted. Now in Panama, the story is different. Older women are mostly single because Latinos like young women! My girlfriend is from Colombia. She is my age. Nothing young. I don't need to raise another kid. When my girlfriend has her crazy 2 minutes, I say to her that she can hit the road if she does not like it! I honestly should have done that 40 years ago! - Hopefully you get your head free and peace from your wife. I couldn't stand her behavior 14 days!

[@kmilton1593]

Thanks for that excellent content; wonder if too many expats don't realize that they themselves look older after fifty, just like the PH girls look older after fifty. But isn't it about living out sort of a dream, a last gasp of youth, to find a youthful female? I will bet that only about 10% of expats are "successful" in such a venture. Maybe older men should be hoping for "freedom from relationship stress and conflict" ? So, stay single and free! (Or, get a loyal dog if you feel lonely).

[@Midwest10]

I found mine before I arrived here. I didn’t listen to KZbin bloggers and limit myself to whoever I pass on the street now I have the prettiest Filipina that no Expat has matched.

[@melmagallon6233]

I truly don't understand men trying to find women with "ambition". Amibtion to be what? A corporate slave? If a qualification for finding a Filipino woman is that she has a job, you need to get your head on straight. At TOPS, the average salary there will equal 20% of your salary, and that's optimistic. Also, in order for her to achieve even just that level of money, she'll have to spend more than 8 hours a day at the office and a few hours of daily communte through the brutal city traffic. So yeah... she'll be quite unavailable. No matter what her situation is, if you're looking to have a meaninful relationship with a woman in the Philippines, she WILL be a financial burden and that is a fact that you must except as a Westerner. Unless of course, you're lucky enough to find someone from a rich family, but ironically, they often scoff at foreigners because they often see them as someone who the "poorer" folk chase after,.

[@LADETROIT]

That's the problem, men and women cant truly be friends. Old female associates communications should be very very limited.

[@LADETROIT]

No one is perfect.. it's all about commitment!!

[@frankcentofanti9317]

When your 60 + better infrastructure, Hospitals, great food cheap to live... Thailand & even Vietnam are much better options over a 3rd world country.

[@Arthur-i1q6d]

With Filipinas throwing themselves at him yet can't find a partner in 2 years? Anyone else think this is odd?

[@HD-bq8pw]

Not really. He's just being very patient and particular about getting a partner. A lot of self reflection, too

[@marcoexplores4175]

Odd? I guess I couldn’t take that a couple different ways. Odd can be just different. But I can certainly tell you that many here have experienced the same thing. But maybe you mean this descriptive odd as a negative? As in somethings wrong with me? Praytell… what might that be?

[@maxjohnson1758]

​@marcoexplores4175 Could be a lot of things, but we'd have to know more. Do you like getting peed on? Getting your salad tossed? Some girls ain't into that. Do you have a weird looking willie or big honking hemorrhoids, mebbe? These and other things are important to know.

[@lyndenmanning]

He's too old, it's that simple. He doesn't want to date anyone his own age. Sorry buddy, they have tinder in the province to. She can find someone her own age...How dare you try to paint younger guys as 'just wanting to have fun'. Ya that's right, educated women don't want your pension

[@offhamsterwheel2789]

good luck finding a Filipina with no tampo and jealousy, liking finding unicorn.

[@neutechnica]

This guy is a 63 year old broken directionless adolescent. No mission in life, minimal boundaries, and values are solely focused on what others bring into his life. His final conclusions are vague nonsense. There is nothing to learn here as he hasn’t figured out anything.

[@TheBlackManInTheVillage]

I love living in the province area.

[@frankcentofanti9317]

why you like 3rd world

[@TheBlackManInTheVillage]

@@frankcentofanti9317 don't look at it as 3rd because I can live the same as I did when I was in USA but now I can do more. The cost of living allows me to enjoy the rest of my life and not worry about my finances. I can choose any day I won't to be a holiday and leave and go do something. I couldn't do that in USA because Bills where much higher.

[@thebigcheese6606]

He likes to rent.

[@Eric-qm5xw]

How boring to go from poor girl to poor girl at his age ..just so boring.

[@antoniochevalier797]

Boo Hoo I can't find a girl.

[@peter-pg5yc]

Its like window shopping. As boogie my friend From Hong Kong stated there is always a new crop.

[@steveburke7675]

Sorry...but this all sounds like way too much work and drama. Get some hobbies other than endlessly chasing tail.

[@bw2442]

When your older/retired you’ve been thru a lifetime of difficulties and challenges and now are looking for peace. Not trying to reinvent the wheel or experience drama , just find someone who communicates , wants intimacy and can work thru problems . A really hard thing to find nowadays. The culture here is really different and understanding and patience is paramount.

[@peter-pg5yc]

Depends where you look. Bar girls provence are not educated, degreed, there are doctors bankers accountants who speak very well, educated smart frugal, and are looking for you. but you need an introduction.

[@oilairnalo]

@@peter-pg5yc Statistics: 99.9999% bar girls, barrio girls .0001% highly educated professionals Note: professionals where not screened for professional killers, professional scammers, professional thieves, professional whatever...

[@DavidWillims20]

You're putting out false meanings to the women for being exclusive. You need to be more upfront. You need to grow up. Come on, you know what you're doing.

[@KO-on3wj]

Dang that was the best Philippines interview I’ve seen yet. Good job, Chad. This guy‘s got a great ability to express verbally some usually unspoken nuance

[@ChadFosterExplores]

I agree... thanks 🙏

[@StanleyStuart-e3v]

Everybodys experiences are diffrent never the same so dont 100% go by what people tell you the world is there to be discoverd so go explore . I cant settle in one place theres so much to see and do

[@RowenaMendez-w9p]

You cannot find your right Filipina coz you are in a wrong place. You need to go to Cebu, Davao, Zamboanga and Dumaguete. You cannot find one in Manila area , BGC or Quezon City. Stay at least 3 months in one place or a year

[@platoon1081]

What? He is in Cebu.

[@Eric-qm5xw]

Well ..what’s he looking for, too much me thinks for the package he is.

[@toshcat42]

This is so cringy. But good to peek behind the curtain of a certain type of man.

[@havechannelwillyoutube]

This is a wonderful video - thank you for it. I'm constantly thinking about the topics covered in this video. I am always wondering if I really want to be a part of someone else's life. I have no problem with people being a part of my life, but things change when people want me to be a part of their lives. I've spent my life doing for others; but it's all about me now, and I don't know that it's fair to put someone else through that. [I'm talking about dating, not friendships]

[@BobbyMac-bv6ef]

I see you ditched Carefree Cris

[@raiderr3d]

Chicken chris ditched the plan, & chad. Chad went ahead and continue the roadtrip all by himself

[@BobbyMac-bv6ef]

@@raiderr3d or Cris wanted to stay and chase the H.S. girls

[@John-up7fq]

That's was a great interview, genuine perspective of a gentleman who definitely knows what he is talking about. Well done

[@JamesCamacho-r7b]

Why are you calling them flipinas. There woman get that stright. Age is just number, But 60 going out with a 22-24 year old is just wrong to me.

[@AZ_Bill]

I’m a 65 year old professor who is about to retire and move to the Philippines. After spending two months traveling through the Philippines with a beautiful and loving 44 year old Filipina, I’ve realized that love and caring is more important to me than scintillating conversation. I don’t need to be mentally stretched every day. I just want peace and love. Ready to chill and live a simple life.

[@OdopaFoods]

What about living a simple life in Afrika.

[@andre1987eph]

You need Jesus. Not another human being - especially after toiling in the USA for 60 years.

[@AZ_Bill]

@@OdopaFoods You’re talking about a very large continent.

[@OdopaFoods]

@@AZ_Bill Sorry, maybe Ghana,

[@AZ_Bill]

@@OdopaFoods I would give it a shot. Why not?

[@bobbruce4135]

Sugar Daddy. "Mentor". Better life. Support of the family or another man's kids. Fake passion. No matter how you say it, it's money for honey.

[@davida.4933]

All relationships are transactional one way or another.

[@TineLIFE]

There are a lot of potentials Filipina around but it's your choices to whom you choose with and your compatible with.Specially don't settle for less. I hope you find happiness in whatever it is you feel you want.

[@marcoexplores4175]

I really appreciate that kind sentiment

[@geraldarrington9620]

Older white men, lost with women in US and now losing in the Philippines. Interest in him?? 😂😂

[@regnorse]

you dont look like any womans cup of tea either 🤣🤣

[@hillbillyluxury2691]

Most men do not have female friends. What could you possibly share in common with them?

[@kathiemathias212]

Educated, financially independent and good looking Filipina seldom go for men that are more than 5 years older than them. That’s reality. Unless they have relatively nothing much to offer. Wake up retirees.

[@robocop581]

Yup. And most 60-year old divorced men are also over having kids while a younger, educated and professional Filipina would want to start a family with at least two kids. And if I'm a 35-year old Filipina, I'll only have maybe 15 quality years with that person and spend the remaining 10 years taking care of a senior while at the age of 50. That's a crappy looking future

[@yella_c2]

Im a local. I know better. what you said...IS ABSOLUTELY 💯 TRUE. these men are in denial There are even YOUNG foreign vloggers here in BGC who cannot find a gf, they're just being IGNORED.

[@Re3iRtH]

​@@yella_c2that's funny because i had and still have several girlfriends within a first month of being in the Philippines. High quality women who submit to me, and don't ask me for any money. (I'm late 30s, tall, and fit). Vloggers in BGCs are brokies lol they make like $2-3K/mo. at the most and work WAY too many hours to do so

[@yella_c2]

@@Re3iRtH bar girls, high class prostitutes would do that. keep convincing yourself that you are a high valued man. but do NOT cry when you get scammed!

[@yella_c2]

@@Re3iRtH bar girls, high class prostitutes would do that. keep convincing yourself that you are a high valued man. but do NOT cry when you get scammed!

[@sbw89]

I do pretty good with women in the Philippines and I'm 53. I do however take measures to look younger than my age. Lift weights, I shave my head (I'm thinning), dye the goatee, etc...

[@characterbuildingstories2244]

Marko seems cool as hell. Great interview.

[@marcoexplores4175]

Salamat

[@RGAMISenters]

Children Born out of Wedlock %. Japan 2%, South Korea 2%, Taiwan 3%, Malay 8%, Indo 8%, Thailand 10%, Argentina 10%, USA 39% White 29%, Philippines 58% of all Philippine children are born to a single MOM.

[@oilairnalo]

Cite sources, please. I am doing research in this area.

[@margiedenavarre7919]

Wow, that is a shocking indictment. Yikes.

[@OdopaFoods]

@@oilairnalo You can also do your won research using what is written.

[@thumtlnguyen3626]

Probably Filipinas think that having a child is a way to tie their partners. I heard that most Filipinas are sexual active. True or false?

[@vernaxxx8940]

And that's a Catholic country!

[@Paladin88]

Marco (?) speaks my truth. In my month in Cebu, i had much the same experience with women. Then I saw an article in Quora where a guy spoke of frustration about a lack of and need for 'intellectual curiousity' I'm the same way. It doesn't take long even if she's great looking, and I'm finding that I need a partner in learning about how things are and why. Many of the Filipinas and many Colombianas that I've met lack that curiousity even if they're really smart. One has to be patient to find the jewels. Great interview, Chad! This one's been the best.

[@birdbirdbird1565]

Too much scam !

[@johnv5156]

Level-up and attract higher quality girls.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Marco: turn off notifications for Messenger when you are with a woman. I'd be annoyed too and I'm a dude. Also, quit rushing exclusivity. That's weak. Finally, focus on women who've never dated a foreigner.

[@Dan-qm7ho]

Excellent and simple advice.

[@bobkelley8291]

Very different these days with the forced support her family laws. It took me about 13 years to find my wife. But must admit she had a great mother. So I had a great mother in law that did not want others to take advantage of this foreigner. About 40 years later we know what each other are thinking. I have always talked with female but I do not flirt. Life would be very lonely if I did not talk to people. And my wife does not have a flirting personality. We are best friends watching out for one another. For awhile there were people trying to break us up as they saw us happy together. We do sent balikbayan box's to some family members. The ones that are friends and helped us when we lived in the Philippines. It is easy to find a Filipina to marry but will she make a good wife for you? Trust each other is needed. My wife knows my pass words and I hers. At times we switch phones. You might consider just staying single until...

[@bobbruce4135]

The market place has changed a lot over 40 years. Today, worldwide with social media, both sides are realizing what they want and it may not be traditional gender roles.

[@lolitapadrigano6717]

Choose educated one and conservative not gold digger.