Challenges & Distractions will not STOP MY CIRCUMNAVIGATION!! 🌎(Sailing Brick House #90)

[@marykok7616]

I’m sorry for your sadness. It’s normal what you are going through, and it takes so long to accept a dear loved ones loss. We are lucky to experience one good love in our lifetime. Sending you the best. Patrick would be so proud of you and your undertaking.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks so much. Yeah he would be damn impressed I must say

[@hrhplease9119]

@@RVLifeNOW Yes he would indeed. 🌈

[@lukecelt9000]

Lovely video, Rebecca! Honest and from the heart. Keep on keepin’ on… the joy will find you again, maybe when you’re least expecting it…

[@RVLifeNOW]

I hope so! There are times… many times that the joy does find me but other times it doesn’t at all!!!

[@larsnordberg5328]

You are still mourning Patrick and that is normal. It takes some years to get over the loss of a partner and you can not replace him. Until you are at peace with your loss you can not really se someone else for what they are worth. Finish youre tour around the world and continue with your life. Keep the boat and do shorter sailings now and then with friends and remember Patrick. God luck to you!

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thank you… probably so. Not sure I can ever be at peace with what my life is or isn’t anymore… but hope to find a way to be happy with something else.

[@larsnordberg5328]

That's life for all of us. Take it day by day and make the best of every day that you have. Patrick will always live in your hearth and I'm sure he'd want you to be happy. Love will come to you again when you are not looking for it and when you least expect it.

[@Kathleensailorgirl]

Beautiful sailing and scenery, I was a widow for 11 years before I had a date and he was my biggest regret. I foolishly stuck with him for 4 years on again and off again. I realize that I would rather be alone and that no man could ever fill my heart like my husband. Sometimes loneliness can cause us to make wrong choices. I wish you peace and joy and perhaps eventually love. 🙏🙏⛵️⛵️⛵️🥰

[@RVLifeNOW]

Ah a sad story really. I date a bit but nobody is really right.

[@sibylburke4112]

Welcome to Brunswick!! Looking forward to meeting you! Thanks for sharing your life!

[@RVLifeNOW]

Ah thanks for wanting to watch ;) And yes so happy to be here… finally!

[@neilstewart1277]

It’s been over seven years since my wife passed away. This is my life life is definitely not fair! There’s no point in comparing as life is now. I “get” the looking back be close with your pain and embrace yourself as though you were a dear child. It does get better but as I am sure you realize two become one in so many ways. He will always be with you as sure as your ancestors will always will always be with you. Warm regards and always know that 100% Patrick and your ancestors enjoy your happiness and suffer your grief. 🙏

[@RVLifeNOW]

Ah so sweet… thank you for your compassion and for reminding me to take care of myself . Yea two become one in so many ways. Yes

[@maryetdave]

Nice seeing you and Ike getting along and smiling. We first met Ike in Oriental, NC. Really nice and knowledgeable guy, hope your paths will cross again, Mary & Dave from SV Lusca

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yes Ike is a great guy! And so knowledgeable!

[@jasonmcintosh2632]

I suspect that you got very lucky to have found Patrick. You're lucky to find someone like that once in your life. His spirit has left his body and now resides in you. Carry it forward with you. Live, not only for yourself, but for him as well. Try to cherish your time. Be open for possibilities, but don't force them.

[@RVLifeNOW]

That sounds like very sound advice. I know that he does reside in me at least in some way. I feel his guidance every day. I also feel myself resisting his guidance at times too… I can be too rebellious at times ;)

[@jasonmcintosh2632]

@@RVLifeNOW Be true to yourself.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thank you… trying hard to do exactly that..

[@davidc6510]

Hi Rebecca! It's been awhile but finally getting a chance to catch up on my backlog of videos. Looking forward to getting through the videos to see you complete your circumnavigation. Thanks for sharing. Cheers!

[@RVLifeNOW]

Ah thanks so much for watching and caring ;)

[@philgray3443]

Thanks for video Rebecca. We all have a short time, so lets go saiiling. It helps.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yes let’s go sailing! Now ya talking!

[@reloadncharge9907]

Fun video….hope you are enjoying your South Florida stopover…..thx, Andrew

[@RVLifeNOW]

I am! Thanks!

[@icarumba5]

Live, Laugh, Love. Let the wind be at your back. Cheers

[@RVLifeNOW]

Sailing Downwind is always better!

[@hc9582]

This might sound corny but he’s with you in your heart, mind and in spirit. Maybe it’s time to celebrate him and your love as you continue on. A different chapter. One you get to show him/his memory through your eyes (the window of your soul to his) Grief is never easy! ❤

[@hc9582]

PS I’m happy for your better fitting crew. It’s good to see

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yea the crew I had from this point on were 100% great and stayed til the end! So Greatful!

[@leilanihimmelmann9190]

Really nice video. Thanks for sharing.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks for watching! It’s good to be sailing…

[@stevenplancich6449]

Wow, Rebecca, This Ike Guy looks like a keeper…Hoping ya didn’t make a mistake by taking off😜…Continue to Stay Safe and Enjoy😎

[@RVLifeNOW]

Haha . It was the right decision ;) I had to finish my circumnavigation and get too distracted

[@petermay3054]

Give yourself time to get over your loss, easy to say as time seems to pass so slowly, I experienced many of the same feelings as you, but trust me you will find the joy in life again! I also feel that Patrick wouldn’t wish you to be sad, he’d just want you to remember him fondly.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yep. It’s been nearly 3 years… can only stand by giving it time for so long ;) Oh well… it’s not an every day thing just once in a while… Most of the time I’m pretty happy.

[@georgemouliere8151]

God bless u go forward think positive ❤

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks…. Will do

[@oldmadandkiwi]

As always pretty raw ,well done .🎉

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thank you for watching. It’s just me

[@colleendaloisio4900]

YES, You go girl

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks…. Zia m ;) Happy to be sailing!

[@wendyb5489]

Nice video. Like your honesty.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thank you Wendy… it’s just the way it is

[@diepeterpan]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ you are so level headed, articulate emotions so well, thank you for sharing. May tomorrow be a ray of sunshine and peace to you.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Oh thanks so much… it’s taking everything I’ve got but it’s going!!!

[@bnln1939]

Lost my sweetheart of 40 years in 2011. I still talk to her just not as much. If there is ever another it would be wonderful but different. You don't know what have till you don't. Hang in there!❤

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks yeah that’s the truth.

[@GrinsInc]

Thanks for posting! Cheers, SV Good Karma I learned awareness of how my sweet potato/ my bride is alive and well after she died... spent every day for a year at her graveside reading The Prophet aloud with her. Whoooo weee yeah. I suspect my bride is always with me. when the energy of my bride passed to another form, communication with her called for different techniques... Describing subjects of interest in spiritual ways helps me connect with her... Yes I believe she's always with me. Feel free to discuss/ inquire... Also, just keep swinging, like a baseball player, a boxer. Blessing for me to have had the experiences with her. Also find an effective way to move forward with my life... "Make new History." Maybe somewhere sometime, we'll visit in person. Thanks again. 😊

[@RVLifeNOW]

Ah very sweet… thanks

[@johnmeldrum4717]

Hi Rebecca, Patrick is still with you , still by your side , deep in your heart always and forever , I've had several nde s And this physical life is temporary ye shall be together again. Enjoy brick house safe sailing and fair winds.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks so much…

[@stephenpwilson1930]

Much love to Rebecca. I lost my beautiful Pam 8 years ago, and I still have trouble enjoying holidays on my own. No one will ever replace Pam, or Patrick for you. What helps me however is Matthew 6. Our Lords prayer." No morning or out cry" says to me that Patrick and My Pam will be resurrected just like Lazarus, that Jesus woke up from four days of death. Be patient, enjoy what you can, and wait for that promised resurrection. X

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks so much. I will enjoy my life on earth as long as I can because I really don’t know what comes next… to be honest

[@jiefflerenard1228]

Nice to see you bobbing around Rebecca, also nice to hear you call yourself a strong woman, life seems to be going in the right direction. Thank you for sharing. PS:How anybody could have sailed with the old rigging of Ike's boat is beyond comprehension.The definition of imminent danger !!!

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yes … he’s done nothing besides fix it and fix it since he bought it last year…

[@tammy6992]

That was great

[@RVLifeNOW]

It’s getting better ;) happy to be sailing!

[@hrhplease9119]

The best way to honor Patrick’s Legacy, is to live a good fulfilled happy life. You have to forgive yourself Rebecca. You are a strong beautiful woman that deserves happiness. Hugs ♥️

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks. I’m living a good life and will co to use to do so. I only have bad days once in a while…

[@simonjones7785]

Live the life you now have your path has taken a different route to his it is difficult to let go of the memories we have had with a partner never forget them but allways remember you are seing things for them good luck wit the crew rebeca fair winds and good sailing with my very best wishes to you

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks so much. It does help when I think of it that way… seeing it for him…

[@johnmcmahon9515]

If you think of him, he will be with you!

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks… yep think of him often like it or not ;)

[@kenfromkansas7885]

Thank you for continuing to share your adventures by giving us a peak into the realities of cruising and your willingness to be open and honest. Hang in there! It appears your bad days are still better than a good day here.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Isn’t that the truth!!!

[@captaindrew3061]

Great Vid!

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks so much for watching!

[@empret7704]

Save traveling I'm also missing Patrick and ja life isn't fair. Glad your sail isn't burning 🎉fireworks cook 😊

[@RVLifeNOW]

Haha ! Good one!

[@mfhairstream6812]

love your videos!

[@RVLifeNOW]

Ah thank you

[@rnupnorthbrrrsm6123]

Grief is vicious journey !

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yep it does hang around for a bit!

[@svbarryduckworth628]

We have a similar float switch on our bilge pump. It has a timer relay built into it so it runs 15 seconds or so after the water is gone to help clear the hose of a little bit more water.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yep the more the better… less water on a sailboat is good ;)

[@svbarryduckworth628]

Yup! Our bilge pump is quite large and uses a 1-1/4" hose -the same size as a septic hose so there can be a lot of backwash once the pump stops. We have a tiny vacuum pump with a foam sponge "dry-bilge" pickup and a 1/4" vacuum tube that is what we use to really empty the bilge of all incidental water down to a couple of teaspoons left. The main bilge pump only runs if there is an emergency or we are hosing out the engine room to clean it out. I hope you are planning on leaving WPB before the summer storm season comes and moving Brick House up to at least the Carolinas or the Chesapeake or even further north this year. We are back to Velcro Beach ourselves and readying BD to do the same leaving next week if everything goes as planned...written in sand ;) Florida is no place to spend a summer. We spent last summer in Oriental NC last summer because of "reasons" but that really was a bit too warm and exposed to hurricanes for our comfort. We spent a summer in Montreal back before COVID and that was the perfect climate for living on a sailboat for the summer. It's just a long ways back to Florida and the Caribbean for the winters.

[@reneeharrison1698]

You had a great love. It's not fair. He does see it and a whole lot more.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks yes…

[@jodyssey9921]

I'd love to sail with you but I'm not in the right place to just drop everything yet and I have never set foot on a sailboat so you would have to boss me around all the time. I would be okay with that though, I'm not one of those kind of guys.😂 I'm a fast learner and highly motivated to learn, I plan to get my own boat in a few years. I'm not a complete novice, I have no experience but I've been watching KZbin videos for years now and know what most of the parts are and what they do by this point. Maybe next summer or fall I might be looking to crew with people for a while. I joined one of those Facebook groups just to keep an eye on what's available and dream in the meantime.

[@RVLifeNOW]

That’s a great way to start out in the sailing life!

[@ToddDouglasFox]

Was Patrick an Aries? Hmmm, I am an Aries. We are natural adventurers. Patrick would be a couple years older than me. Losing the love of one’s life is one of the top losses in anyone’s life. No one “gets over” true love Rebecca. When you take him with you everywhere and you can feel him enjoying himself, that is when you know you’ve healed that spot that knows it’s not quite the truth that we lose a true love (other than sometimes physically). I’m cheering his b’day and your next bit of healing, it will be tremendous Rebecca. You’ll know it when you feel it. Thanks for telling the truth about loss of a partner, it helps so many people - you don’t even know how much it helps and who it helps and you will never know! Good on you. 👍 PS small distraction okay, big distraction - big interference with your process and your plan. Stay safe.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Haha small distractions are OK then ? No…Patrick was a Sagittarius… but the ultimate in adventurers that’s for sure!

[@ToddDouglasFox]

Sagittarius is end of November, December. In this video you said it was his birthday! I guess this was a video from last year? YES, small, teeny, tiny ones are okay. LOL

[@RVLifeNOW]

Oh the. Maybe he was… he’s end of December…

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yes I’m 2 or 3 months behind in videos… always struggling to get it up to date ;)

[@ToddDouglasFox]

@@RVLifeNOW almost 4 months! Anyhow happy belated b’day to Patrick and Happy healing to you.

[@bobredley5915]

So sad, so sad Rebecca. I miss Debbie big time sailing. It really is not the same!

[@RVLifeNOW]

I know exactly what you are talking about. Sailing with a partner is so different than sailing with crew. Crew just there to have a good time for a short while.

[@normansearle7682]

Do you know the kink in the discharge hose will restrict discharge flow.

[@RVLifeNOW]

It’s been replaced now. It was all we had on this remote island. We were quite lucky to find a bike pump… they have fishing boats there so it was the right things to break in that location :)

[@normansearle7682]

Glad to hear. I don't have the opportunity to watch often, offered my input some time back on your attempt to remove oil from a windlass. Too bad the gremlins that monitor stopped my comment, I'm assuming I broke the "law" of suggesting a solution and where you could see and possibly purchase one. It was an electric drill driven pump that you purchase, very inexpensive, which would easily pull the oil out when powered by the drill. This is often used for draining oil from an engine via the dip stick.

[@alison__16]

It's like a revolving door

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yep that’s what singlehanders rounding up of crew is like for 80% of us out here! About a 50% success rate of finding good crew which is just about what it came out to for me too…

[@micheletetley6142]

Nothin's easy Girlfriend ;) At least you have a good view :)

[@RVLifeNOW]

Haha that’s the truth!!

[@robertcarkeek8391]

I had to count my chickens I should have counted fast. So slow and fickled twas I, the the first one came in last. I put my best wish in because I wanted her so , but time sped by I have to sigh an Alzheimer's wave we rowed. a young man of just 78, I think of you and all you've absorbed so honestly contradicted. Like me a bit I'm throwing my fit into a timber frame shop. But I have to stop here my minds blank I fear' cause I can't think of a thing that rhymes with BrickHouse. Cheers, Blessings , and fair winds to you.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Haha ya got my head spinning with that one!

[@melee401]

Oh good lord fine lass. Nobody will ever be Sir Patrick. Crew comes and goes and if it is not your life and feelings getting in the way of developing higher end relationships it is their issues. Build the memories still left that you can dear. Do not be sad of losing Patrick, be happy for the time you had with him and the newcomers to your life as well,,,, to a very firm line. You did not sell Brickhouse as Patrick advised you to do upon his demise and are continuing on and getting life accomplished. I think it safe to say to date that even Patrick may have underestimated you a wee bit. I think once the circumnavigation is done you will feel uplifted for all of perhaps 20-30 minutes and then start looking at what to do and where to go from there. No, the accolades of your journey in the yacht clubs perhaps will never suffice for happiness beyond that 20-30 minute stream of feelings you will have at the end of it. You will never be happy in 4 walls collecting up a bunch of junk. Patrick ushered you well beyond that I do believe. At the end of this circumnavigation you will feel an immense pride in yourself for a bit though I do believe. I have 300,000+ plus miles under my own keel but no circumnavigations to boast of. I do not worry of such things. The only thing that is of any ultimate interest to me is how I will look back on my own life in my last 5 minutes of life (given I get that) and feel about my own contributions to this world.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Well said. I didn’t even know I had it in me to really finish this… always thought I’d get distracted and come just shy of it… but here I am…

[@tommygunz8692]

I no it’s not the same but I have lived with my father for his last 10 yrs, I sadly lost my Best friend on mar.3 of this year…I don’t think I’ll every be the same..Family mourns for a day and moves on, I sit and wonder how my life is going to move forward….I feel everything your feeling….😃

[@RVLifeNOW]

So so sorry for your loss …sounds very similar really. Hope you have good days too

[@joshuamccarthy3493]

You poor girl I bet u miss him. And yes you will see him again.the thing about living on a boat your immune system probably gets a bit weaker to bugs as you not around them all the time. Out there.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Tha ks

[@brucekuijpers7754]

Only the Bible can give you the answers and peace you are looking for.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Only the Bible. I think my answers would not be in there

[@61sunset]

​@@RVLifeNOW You won't know until you read and understand it. Therein lies all the answers and hope.

[@dudeleboski2692]

It must be difficult to travel with complete strangers in such close quarters

[@RVLifeNOW]

Yep. I mean they become sort of friends but not really friends that you picked. Forces friends. Yeah a bit difficult…

[@rogerprout5574]

👍

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks for watching :)

[@Salzbuckel]

Oh i have to say i clearly can see, that the rust has done is work in weakening the metallurgic structure. In your video at 8.20"" you can see two issues: One , there is a c-shaped crack in the bottom part, and two the originally cylindrical bolt at the end of the stay seems to be gone out f shape, lost its roundness due to chafing on the two "hooks", that keep tit down, and they seeming lost its inner shape too, both seem to be "un"rounded. I would not trust it that way, as it is the backstay and there is no redundancy. I would secure it with a strong dyneema, if i could find two anchoring points. One on the mast and one ( with a pulley 1:4 or 1:6) at the bottom end.

[@RVLifeNOW]

I will have to take a look… riggers have looked and say it’s good. Rigging pretty new… but thanks… now ya got me worried again. I assume you talking Brick House rigging as opposed to Florence Clara rigging… (2 boats) … let me know which one to worry about ;)

[@Salzbuckel]

@@RVLifeNOW Its about, what i saw in your video at 8 minutes 20, and assumed to be your backstay?? Much much better than the other boat, but soma questionable for the future or very heavy loads, . That will not break tomorrow, but i wouldn't wait for years or very heavy storms. 😘

[@brucemccheyne4699]

Do your circumnavigation North to South and become the first woman in HISTORY to complete the voyage. Many have made the circumnavigation EAST to WEST but no one North to South .

[@RVLifeNOW]

Geez wonder why that is ;)

[@brucemccheyne4699]

@@RVLifeNOW LOL 😂

[@georgeroach7499]

Depressing......

[@RVLifeNOW]

Why?

[@1SeanBond]

@@My_Fair_Lady a great comment Cheers!🍻

[@tartansailor]

I think you are wrong when you say that Patrick is not here to see what you see. He is with you wherever you go. He sees you, he feels you, he is with you. You only have to let go with the promise you will meet again. In the meantime you have a life to live, let your heart free to love again. You are a nice and smart woman, you will find love if you let it. Cheers.

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks so much… hope you are right in so many ways…

[@dudeleboski2692]

Rebecca, how about some photos of you as a younger Sailer? Were you a Model?

[@RVLifeNOW]

Haha you are funny ;)

[@brucemccheyne4699]

Dealing with loneliness, loss of partner sucks. If I remember your husband died of Covid unexpectedly, you'll bump into someone unexpectedly and a new partnership will start and hopefully love will blossom for you I hope. Love your videos take care

[@RVLifeNOW]

That would be very nice. But for now… I’m staying single!!!

[@nolanmailhos1470]

Oh you got issues! Maybe you should just sold the boat. Got your little one-room shack in the woods. And Played with the raccoons and possums.

[@RVLifeNOW]

No don’t think that would work for me… but thanks for your compassionate way of saying things

[@WallaceRoseVincent]

Old boyfriend? Who's the old boyfriend?

[@RVLifeNOW]

Michael of course…

[@jsvno]

Dick head's are OK, i have one, don't want to get rid of it - think it would be a lot of pain...

[@RVLifeNOW]

Haha yea you must be a guy ;) haha

[@brucemckelvy9920]

Just " a thought... if none of these crew work out... maybe you are the problem? Just something to think about.

[@RVLifeNOW]

I’m DEFINITELY part of the problem. But like most solo captains only about 50% of crew work out which is exactly the average I’ve had so far. So I guess I’m no different. But then… solo captains… we ALL got issues!!!

[@brucemckelvy9920]

@@RVLifeNOW I guess so. I have never sailed as crew and have always been captain of my boat, so I don't have the experiences you have had. Romance with crew is probably a hard thing to manage. Probably just better to have a one night stand every now and then when the urge hits and move on. I do enjoy the videos though.

[@1SeanBond]

@@brucemckelvy9920 a interesting comment......

[@brucemckelvy9920]

@@1SeanBond I have followed Sailing Brickhouse for quite awhile including before Patrick passed. It comes across to me that Rebecca still wants to be active sexually which is perfectly normal yet, the complications of being the boat captain and owner with all those responsibilities has complicated romaitic relationships with crew. I just suggested that taking away all that complexity might be a solution for her. She really wants to complete her circumnavigation and I hope she is able to do it.

[@amandad7121]

🙄

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks!

[@panzergaming444]

my heart truly goes out to you........ i truly hope to one day have a woman love me as much as you love Patrick

[@RVLifeNOW]

Thanks. I hope to have something wonderful again too :)

[@iMatti00]

@10:36 ~ Does that kissing sound mean it has something to do with attempted sex/romance?

[@RVLifeNOW]

I don’t want to embarrass the guy too much… but yeah sort of!!!