Change Your Child's Attitude 2/5 - Kevin Leman

Kevin Leman is a family expert and author, who's latest book, "Have a New Kid by Friday: How to Change Your Child's Attitude, Behavior and Character in 5 Days," gives practical advice to parents struggling to raise children in today's society.
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[@nelks1284]

My husband wants to be his friend, and that makes me more of a disciplinarian. We have more arguments over his raising, than anything.

[@1broncos7]

It's the same thing with my wife. We have separated over this, as my daughters would run to their mother when Dad said no. I had to tell them 20 times in a day to do what was told before I left to work in the morning but, because of their mother being friends with our daughters, the girls found themselves in control of every situation and knew if they told Mom, that they would get away with whatever it was that I had told them to do because Mom would snap at Dad, so I became the bad guy and now to this day, my youngest daughter was told that she didn't have to come over to Dad's house, which gave my youngest daughter the right to do whatever it is that she wants to. Our oldest daughter moved out of our home at midnight on her 18th birthday as my wife had plead with her not to leave and move in with a guy who is ten tested older than she is, so it backfired on my wife, as she did not want to stand united. My youngest daughter took this day believes, she is allowed to speak to me whichever way she chooses. She found out earlier this week that I was done with the why she spoke to me when I locked them up to take them to school. I stopped the van, opened the side door, went to deal with my daughter, she got out of the van and I told her that your mother can run you to school, she said now I'm going to be late, so I told her, that's not my fault. So I jumped back in the van and left her. I looked back and she was throwing her bookbag and school project. I had finally had it that day but this is all my fault because I did not stand up for my family as I ran away from the Lord little by little each day. My daughters were never like this when we were going to church and they were in church programs. These are the consequences of not honoring God. I don't put the blame on my wife anymore as have ran back to the Lord. It does start with the husband because children are more likely to stay in church or they'll come back to church when they are older if the Father is a church goer. I think the percentage is 75 to 90%, somewhere in that range compared to if the mother is the only church goer which is like 35 to 40%. Being the head of the home and a man of God means you must completely surrender to the Lord and allow Him to guide to your mind, body and soul as He knows best but the change that it has had on my son's, is astonishing, my daughter in the other hand is a work in progress but I must trust in the Lord that one day my daughters will forgive be as I went at being the godly head of the home and wrong in the beginning. We're not perfect but, through the blood of Jesus, we can do all things through Jesus for He who strengthens us. My daughters will be back one day, so will my wife and all I need to do if trust and serve the Lord with so my might and all my strength and all these things will be added unto me. We must discipline our children but we must do it without hatred and bitterness towards our spouse and children. People may not believe in Jesus but one day they'll find the truth out for themselves and our heavenly Father will separate Himself from us for being disobedient ourselves as he is our heavenly Father. It worked both ways as we are considered children to God. See, my son's are respectful because I still take them to church and I'm able to minister to them because they still come over my house but my daughters are getting worse as their mother doesn't go to church or minister to the girls. My oldest daughter actually asked last week about going back to church. It's all in God's timing, so we must trust in the Lord and all His righteousness and my wife and daughters will finally seek Jesus out to where it's not about them but yet, how can they serve the Lord. My wife is listening to teachings now, we speak tomorrow on a regular basis which we didn't before because she our right hated me. God's moving in my family but it's in His timing which will cause us to grow spiritually. God bless you and your family.

[@jfranco3842]

@ Kevin,do some videos on dealing with 47&49 year old kids help🤔🤔🤔💡

[@nonnonbutlove1642]

Great advice. Honest question, why not give the child the cookie once he has apologized? The point is for him to see the error of his ways.

[@juliannevankley6635]

If the child gets the cookie at the end all the child learns is to say the right kind of words, or act in a certain manner and then they will get their way. By withholding the cookie or the thing the child wants, the lesson actually stays longer and lasts in the child’s mind. The lesson is not just that apologizing is important, it’s that parental authority is in control. Giving the child the cookie(in this instance) just makes the adult feel better, but ultimately ruins the child.

[@lisyau-hunzeker9860]

@@juliannevankley6635 I agree with you on that Julianne. Who's in control of the household here? I truly believe that in this scenario, Dr. Kevin Leman does well in making that point clear. Also, as a parent, one has to guard oneself from manipulation of a little one. 😉

[@misspinkpunkykat]

Where's part 3?

[@thelonewolf848]

This won’t work with my 16 yr old

[@mcneillmama50]

God is not authoritarian. He's authoritative

[@Mattieberry85]

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[@mcneillmama50]

kids are unionized. Who is in authority over the kids? Kids throw tantrums. Give them Vitamin N for no. Attitude Behavior Character. Authoritarian vs Permissive. What's a shalaly=a walking stick. You come to God through failure, you need to humble yourself. An unhappy child is a healthy child.

[@nivinesmat]

Watching this was sad! You’re still in your journey and you’re still confused.And while there you’re spreading your confusion :/ promoting unconscious parenting the encourages controlling kids for the parents comfort. Disappointing!