Change your mindset, change your life

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[@MG-47223]

“We do not see things as they are. We see things as we are.”

[@deutschmitpurple2918]

True, I have really loved this comment 🥰❤️🥰❤️🥰❤️

[@adamyagupta9756]

If we start seeing things as they are then we will be really depressed 💀

[@simpdefendmlady6579]

Going to tell this to tradcons, feminists and femceIs

[@MuwuRS]

"It doesn't matter what we're looking at, it matters what we see" wow.

[@theodora3141]

Can someone explain to me what does she mean with affirmations ?

[@Weaponator18]

​@@theodora3141 saying things to yourself over and over again until it becomes your default mindset. Hope that helps :)

[@theodora3141]

@@Weaponator18 it does , thank you ❤️

[@deutschmitpurple2918]

True 😊😊😊

[@YourMomXD1337]

Inshallah

[@kyle1732]

I used to be stuck in victim mindset but with work I realized it was because as a kid my parents could always save the day. As humans we miss the feeling as a kid of being saved or coddled by someone. When a parent would hold you and tell you everything will be ok and all you had to do was sit there and everything did become ok. Now we have to empower ourselves to be the parent to our inner child. Tell them it is ok but also take steps to make it that way

[@simpdefendmlady6579]

'Victim mindset' May I ask what is your gender?

[@Natalieeee365]

Well said…

[@traveler-a113]

Really love today’s message, and such a great one to wake up to on my birthday, really glad I’ve stuck by for all this time.

[@trinaq]

Happy Birthday, glad that Anna was able to inspire and uplift you today! 🥰

[@missreia]

Happy birthday 🎊 make it a beautiful one for your world!

[@jessicasharma4836]

Happy Birthday!

[@LuanEevee]

Happy birthday beautiful soul!

[@coffeestain8147]

🎂🎉

[@WelfareChrist]

I’ve been saying some version of this to people for a while now, which usually went “well you can’t really do much about what happened, but you can control how you respond to it”. I can honestly tell you that timing this message and softening it as much as you can is key to it being heard. When someone is spinning out that usually is t the time to challenge them. I’ve made this mistake so so many times.

[@GeeEmOh]

I take this perspective with a grain of salt. I think it takes discernment of your circumstances to determine how much you can take on to alter your mindset to ultimately change your circumstances for yourself. It places a lot of responsibility on the individual to change, when there can be plenty that is outside your locus of control. I hear a lot of contrast of “victim mindset” vs “empowered mindset” not allowing for the gray area in between. I think it’s a privilege to have power and mental capacity to simply change your mindset for positive results. And the pressure to change your mindset when contrasted with things like depression, trauma and societal disenfranchisement can place blame on individuals.

[@xcristinat]

THIS!!! It's hard enough to just "change your mindset" when you're a first world citizen living with debilitating health issues.....now imagine saying this message to a survivor of war or someone living in a third world country....it would come off as extremely tone deaf. You are absolutely right that it is a privilege to hold this perspective.

[@xcristinat]

Also, I hate the term "victim-mindset" - it has such a negative connotation...why can't we admit that sometimes people are victims, whether it's of someone else, a culture, society, etc?? Just because someone is a victim doesn't make them a horrible, helpless person. It's simply acknowledging the way that that person was/is treated unfairly.

[@latteknowsbest6365]

@@xcristinattrue true

[@catmeister6460]

@@xcristinattotally agree. Our modern, hyper-individualistic society has way too much focus on ‘winners vs losers’ and the idea that happiness and succes is a feasible concept. Sure, partly this is true, but it totally ignores important aspects such as genetic predisposition, societal and cultural influences and one’s cognitive ability to see things in a different perspective. Therefore if you are not successful or happy it’s probably ‘your own fault’.

[@pallaviiii3]

A problem I have is blaming myself for circumstances outside of my control and also blaming myself for my own choices. Being both the victim and the villain is hard and not sure how to get out of that…

[@JennLinsi]

❤ Our MINDSET is everything. It’s the filter we put over everything we see, think and experience. It’s the key to taking difficult experiences in life and turning them into opportunities to grow and increase our self-love and confidence. As a Mindset Coach, I regularly talk about strategies for how we can learn how to LOVE OUR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs we’re experiencing on my YT channel.

[@marcello7781]

Thanks Anna for reminding us the importance of the choices we make and how they define us!

[@deutschmitpurple2918]

When I watch her videos, I feel myself so happy and confident

[@kun_kue]

This is so true, I wrote down what I wanted to believe every morning and evening for a month now even when I'm crying my brain replays the positive thoughts instead of digging me deeper into the hole

[@opendo2]

Thank you for this content. I feel like it hit on something I have been struggling with for the past few months and gave me a starting point for what I hope can be a meaningful change. I had been feeling like a lot of bad things had been just "happening to me" without considering my agency in those things or how I can CHOOSE to respond rather than just responding emotionally with my first instinct.

[@KristiContemplates]

Can't control your reaction, but you do control your Response. Practice your Response. Practice makes Progress. Eventually, your Response will Progress into something that feels like Reaction YOU CAN DO THE THING!!!

[@rolldecode]

I needed to hear this today. I failed a lot this morning, and it felt a lot like i was useless, and that my study group didn't think i was enough to include me. I journalled. And now I am going to appreciate all my efforts and that I gave good answers in my lecture today and that I am smart. Onwards.

[@abeautifullittlefool1758]

Oh my gosh GIRL! Yes. This is how I have chosen to see my life for what feels like a decade now. It's the only way to do it. I've learned so much. And honestly like after the summer I just had (breakup with partner of 7 years, ending friendship of 9 yrs), I cannot tell you have beneficial it has been for me to take time to focus on myself and learn how I can grow from these experiences. I am now a few months past that stuff and things are already looking incredibly better. I, like anyone else, have my hard days but in the grand scheme of things I am doing so much better and a huge part of that is the committed mindset I have cultivated.

[@nadineburford4977]

You're amazing 👏

[@olivabuckhanon1228]

Some things in life never stay the same, it changes everything

[@missreia]

It changes everything...which is also changing

[@maxink1809]

Our reaction holds more power than our tragedies

[@NadMartineau]

mindset is something I work on everyday and can't wait until it takes me to where I desire to be

[@chebbaelyes]

You're honestly one of the best people I follow on KZbin. Thanks for your inspiring videos and positive attitude !

[@XXmidget]

Love the mention of stoic principles. The soul is dyed the color of its thoughts.

[@gavinrive160]

Thank you for all your help over the last few years.

[@sheenkeithpaqueo238]

Never been this early in a vlog! Anna serving us another empowering message!

[@jerrardheard2140]

Charles R. Swindoll is a great preacher and theologian who was based in Fullerton for many years. Thanks for quoting him. I've been a fan of his for a long time.

[@joshuao7947]

Thanks for the advice, Anna! Powerful stuff. People really can change their lives through re-framing how they react to things, good and bad.

[@Kanu03]

i love your videos anna, and find myself sharing them often. i think i needed to hear this, and i think i know a couple other who could stand to hear it too. thank you. also, i've been watching your videos for years and you've found a way to make sponsor portions funny or interesting lol. thanks for that too

[@bryanaguilar84]

Garrain Jones said it best! Much love to everyone trying to create that change in their lives, blessings to everyone 💙

[@bonnieisms]

YES YES YES and I feel SO FREE ever since I changed my mindset

[@lonilocoesque]

thanks for being a big sister for me (virtually) and reminding me to take a good care of my mental health..

[@cupojoll]

We are looking at you Anna and we love what we see. Inside and outside too. Thanks for showing up for us. It means a lot!

[@7girl]

Anna has been practicing and teaching key aspects of Stoicism. She's the GOAT

[@trinhtee]

I didn’t know that I’ve needed this mindset until this very minute. Thank you Anna!

[@jessicasharma4836]

Thank you Anna for your time and effort

[@AmericPet]

Thank you so much for this. I'm going to restart my mirror affirmations. I can do this!

[@OrdenJust]

Every moment of one's life is a performance that someday will be seen by your future self.

[@clairemabutol651]

Always, right on time. I am wondering how Ana knows what I needed to hear. Thank you for making me feel so much better with the situatuon I am right now.

[@JennLinsi]

Hi Claire. I hope you’re doing ok. If you’re interested in checking out more mindset coaching content, my YT channel has that focus with the goal of helping young adults learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. All the best to you! 😃

[@NicolineNDahl]

OMG never have I ever been so early! Love you, your knowledge and awesomeness

[@believeurhappy4410]

Thanks Anna love your positive self help videos 👏 you always look gorgeous too!

[@MagisterialVoyager]

I really need to hear this today, Anna! Thank you!

[@codyx8273]

Just watched ant-man for the first time today and i saw you! didn't realize you had made it that high. good for you! i wish you luck in your future endeavors

[@anamikamahanta5641]

We love you Anna!❤️

[@Hotpielooking]

Gurl this is what I needeeeeed!

[@beatpirate8]

I used to do mirror work when I was the only child. I felt I had to coach myself. It feels weird now but will try it!

[@barenfresh]

I needed to hear this today. Thanks as always Anna

[@kateinparadise]

One of my favorite videos! I love this message Anna ❤

[@oldkayakdude]

Never was taught to be the victim, but was taught to fix or protect or take care of everyone else, which has a completely different challenge associated with it. I have met plenty of "victims" though. Anna is right about the first step in change, awareness. Lots of good resources out there on the full process of how to change including amazing tools that you can use everyday. I highly recommended Hoffman Institute.

[@PkmnMasterHolly]

Yassss Anna!!! ❤️💯✨️

[@victoriaquetel2822]

More of these! Jolly good work!🥰

[@timounesays]

So timely.

[@AgataKay]

Yup! This is basically a happiness science 101: Things are never good or bad. Because it all depends on what you compare them to. Is breaking a leg bad? Not necessarily, because you could've broken your spine. The quickest way to feel better is to think how it could've been worst (negative visualization technique) and the biggest mistake we make (to feel down) is we think how things could have been better..

[@cmarieleonard]

You are such a wonderful person, love this message Anna ❤

[@user-ml3ms1hd4u]

So true. Great speech

[@madara.n]

Your videos are more than enough empowerment 😌

[@KristiContemplates]

Thanks Anna's Production Team 🤩👍🇦🇺🖤💛❤️

[@louievisone4101]

Please keep making videos that come at the right place and time ❤

[@ivycooper7224]

I’ve been having a lot of bad situations thot has happened to me and failures and I have to truly work on myself because your dealing with people they will hate and judge you for no reason 🤦🏽‍♀️🙏🏾

[@badmanshamantarot1368]

Thanks Anna, your voice is soothing helped me to understand!

[@galactictumbleweed]

Needed these reminders today, Thanks 😊

[@WolfTalkings]

You say everything I usually say. It is amazing your growth and intelligence and I appreciate you for it 🌹🌹😁❤

[@JohnScigulinsky]

This is one of the basic tenets of stoicism and it helped me A LOT in my life (everybody should read "The Practicing Stoic" if they haven't, btw).

[@paulrivera8423]

Thanks I really needed that today

[@barshabaliarsingh8513]

Thank you so much anna... You are my therapist... ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ababyrat3576]

That was beautiful , thank you

[@valentinbusuioc4054]

it only took me 40 years to be empowered ... but I've never actively trained to get rid of the victim mentality, I've simply hit wall after wall and then I found the door. but the realization was painful as f... when I looked back and saw how much of me I've wasted because of not feeling in charge, blaming everything else instead.

[@catmeister6460]

“Unlearning previous behaviours, beliefs and mindsets will take a lot of conscious and intentional reprogramming. But that work makes the difference between making the most out of your life and living your highest and truest potential.. OR .. allowing things that happen to you to dictate who you are and how far you’ll go and how fulfilled you’ll be.” Great stuff, keep it up!

[@breh9243]

Great message. I'm glad I'm seeing more youtubers talk about the importance of mindset

[@JennLinsi]

Hi Breh. If you’re interested in checking out more mindset coaching content, my YT channel has that focus with the goal of helping young adults learn how to LOVE THEIR LIVES no matter what kind of ups & downs they’re experiencing. All the best to you! 😃

[@thrisbt1]

exactly - we are going to react by creating a system that producing freedom for all - no more exploitation - no more victims

[@willyct207]

Thanks for all the good advise pretty lady!!!

[@santosknives6278]

Glad to see the estoics are still alive!

[@mariaportnoy2019]

those little videos each week are one of my few moments of my "me time" , so thanks anna for them 😻

[@thomasmitchell2514]

I like the idea “Who you are; is the sum of your reactions to what’s happened around you” or “you are the sum of your reactions”. Also is there any community like a discord server for Anna’s viewers? I’ve been watching for years and think it’d be awesome to be able to jump on a server and talk with other people interested in the same topics, seems like it’d be a positive and helpful community to engage with.

[@EiriniG]

Thank your for this 💙🤍

[@KevinBReynolds]

Anna Akana is not only lovely but she is also right: what happens to you is not as important as how you respond to it. You tell 'em sister.

[@leobol6866]

Recently I had a bad experience and I’m kinda flashed by myself how positive I go trough it. Yeah sometimes I’m sad but then I think of it as a good event. Like now i know that I want more love, and I will give it to myself. It’s motivating time to pull myself to the good side of life. :)

[@ozeryldz3398]

When the bad events happens to me I always think okey dude its temporary it will over just be patience about it and as always it finish like happiness and other good feelings..

[@theodora3141]

Can someone explain to me what does she mean with affirmations ?

[@lunar686]

I’ve found the best key is to not beat yourself up for negative emotions, it’s all part of the experience of being here, and not every event will have a silver lining. But there truly is something to be said for how, without the bad, we couldn’t truly appreciate the good. All experiences are temporary and it’s best to be kind to yourself throughout all of them. Happiness won’t stay, but neither will misery.

[@vedantmishra5745]

i've started to think that no matter how fucked your circumstances are, you can always do something to make things 1% better

[@franciscoferraz6788]

I'm just now grasping the depth of this concept... It's not just "change your mindset, change your life", it's "Your life IS your mindset". For anyone interested, the fields of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and even Self-hypnosis are good accellerators to this process.

[@frogchair]

Oh this episode was great!!!!

[@mariamberidze2052]

thank you anna ily

[@Thissandthat]

Love this!!

[@beatriztamayogutierrez7646]

thank you a lot!!

[@smith2010]

It's a good message, maybe only applies to how to react to some things tho. If something truely awful happens to you, I'm not sure just changing your mindset will allow you to get over it

[@jareerareerarr5053]

yeah. I'm know a girl who is a syrian refugee. the stories she tells man......

[@maddiem333]

so relevant!

[@AS-cc8mp]

This is actually helpful. Thank you

[@babanana1]

its sad that i just discovered this channel now and not sooner. subscribed

[@itsnotyou_itsp]

Preachhh!

[@greyareaRK1]

That's The Core Of Stoic Philosophy.

[@Iamraretalent]

My favorite thing to do is fall asleep to affirmations

[@faerieofstars]

FACTS.

[@mrfunkedude]

The fourth noble truth of Buddhism is to be mindful of our thoughts and how they influence ours and others actions.

[@cptzoom1155]

For anyone on this path. Eckhart Tolle has some amazing books.

[@jamiecee4960]

Good message ty.

[@brendonlantz5972]

Change your ACTIONS, change your life. Changing your mindset only goes so far. Your mindset can affect your actions though.

[@15.johnsonangel]

Be empowered af! 👏🏿🔥👏🏿🔥👏🏿💖💖💖 HECK YEA

[@jimmyxflare7347]

you and your background look great. also well said on your points

[@JamesDittoOG]

@AnnaAkana - Sent you msg on Patreon before I watched this and this is, in fact, based in science. Quantum Physics has a couple of theories that support this way of thinking. 1. If it's not observed and recorded in some way, it isn't reality. 2. Your thoughts can change things at the quantum lvl. Meaning, you can think things into happening. "The power of positive thinking" is basically a real thing.

[@coppersense999]

Money is an excellent example.

[@AmAViewerDuh]

i dont know why but i listen to you

[@hausofholly5426]

I adore that top on you. Please wear it in more videos 💗

[@AppliedMathematician]

That is a fundamental technique of stoicism as well.

[@simplycara]

Stoicism baby! 💯👌

[@Vgenv]

I really liked that $100 different POV example 👍

[@missreia]

Factors of the length of one's road to empowerment also include generational culture.