Nick Cave opens up about how he dealt with grief and the loss of his son Arthur who died aged 15.

Nick Cave opens up about how he dealt with grief and the loss of his son Arthur who died aged 15.
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[@natalierozean5989]

Jesus Nick. “If I did not talk about it, I would turn inward on myself. I would harden.” All these years of therapy trying to understand why nothing phases me. Wondering why I can’t cry. Why I’m “dead inside”. All these years being told by one therapist to another that “I had to harden, so I could do my job. (EMS and the hospital trauma team) Years of feeling soulless. Years of feeling hollow. Years of feeling like a monster. Not a single shrink or medical doc could help me w the emptiness.,Then here comes Nick. Within 20 seconds has made me understand why I feel like I do. Within 20 seconds allowed me to feel like a human being again. And within 20 seconds has allowed me to cry again. Bless you Nick. I hope you know just how much you mean to your fans. You are not only brilliant in the creative sense. Your words off stage have undoubtedly rescued many people’s soul. Bless you.,

[@kimmurphy8297]

Lying attention seeker

[@mikebasketball11]

Your actions have undoubtedly rescued many people's souls too. Bless you too mate. Hope you're feeling better - I used to struggle with extremely acute anxiety, and it's completely gone now for me. Never give up.

[@brianjury4508]

Thank God for Nick . You do matter. Welcome home.

[@maffel9397]

All the love to you and huge respect and adoration for all that you do. I'm so pleased you found some relief here. Nick certainly has a way to express and reform the chaotic thoughts of many of us ❤

[@FrithonaHrududu02127]

Poor guy lost Two kids. My wife died and it ROCKED me. I can't imagine.

[@dmitritelvanni4068]

Ive met very few people who know of the raw talent that is nick cave. But those who have, love you dearly sir. Cant imagine what that kind of pain would be like. Thank you for surviving it. Idk if id be able to.

[@mistydevillier2197]

Ooohh, I've been a fan for over 30 years. Avalanche.!!

[@joseantoniogalante897]

You think so? I guess you're right, but it seems unbelievable, how this consumate Artist has been working for decades at a level of Artistry and Honesty otherwise unheard of, how much is this Man, admired by other Musicians, whenever i talk about him, i refer to him as: The Supreme Pontiff... I've seen him perform live, "many" times, and it never seems to be enough, just outstanding, ever since, The Birthday Party... This Man does not know how to fail, one is awestruck by his performance, and obvious Talent, for me it's like a Religious experience...

[@FrithonaHrududu02127]

Losing not just one son, but TWO?!? My heart goes out to him.

[@FrithonaHrududu02127]

Im a fan of the Birthday Party, never so much the Bad Seeds but my wife died right between the deaths of his two sons like it's like dead center and it kind of opened me back up to his music the guy really is a fucking genius I can't imagine what the guy has gone through and his entire family is going through losing my wife rocks me to my core but losing two children I cannot imagine

[@cwise09]

im only 14 and nick caves music has been a big impact on my life, my favourite song of all time is into my arms and ive loved that song since before i can remember so seeing this bought tears to my eyes i love nick ❤

[@michelemarie180]

❤❤❤ I love it when the youth has good taste because most do not

[@CraftyXan]

I'm 14 too

[@boiledelephant]

This is a great thing about going to Bad Seeds gigs, you see like four generations of people there. I'm 30s, discovered them in my teens, via people 30 years my elders.

[@TiberiusWallace]

Nick is such a beautiful soul.

[@TiberiusWallace]

@@Matthias_Fischer You seem nice.

[@TiberiusWallace]

@@Matthias_Fischer So to be clear you're trawling through videos of musicians and likely people you don't like to tell everyone you don't like them for...... why?

[@Argenbiz]

We keep our candles burning, Nick. Be at peace!

[@joycesky5041]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I myself have lost 2 children so I know your pain.🌹

[@robertwalsh5754]

I'm so sorry for your losses. I have myself lost a son.

[@yohanaruiz8567]

He is a poet of pain and a superhero! His eyes, his eyes!!!

[@v-town1980]

You can see a ton of pain in those eyes. God bless him.❤

[@KH-rt3ef]

A real unrehearsed and reachable soul is so present in him - I love that so much about this man. Neither of us can articulate what he manages to render with his art, but we meet each other so clearly in perfect ways that transcend words. I sense the immensity of pressure he feels, in rendering that. But he navigates it like an artisan. He is a tremendous human being, and I love him. And I hope he sees this, and knows he is truly loved.

[@gravityfreaksmusic]

Beautifully put!

[@S_J_banana]

So sad that he lost 2 of his sons 😢

[@ML6103]

He lost his father in a car accident around the age of 20, I think. A lot of tragedy in his life.

[@baabaabaa-yp2jh]

Father, son.. talented bandmates & mates, it comes with the package l spose!?! I still listen to Boys Next Door & the Birthday Party... they were kids (as was l).. But talented flowed from them all.. Rowland wrote Shivers at 16!!! That's be enough for some bands...some!

[@ko0974]

And now his close friend Shane

[@fmcm7715]

@@ko0974yes but in fairness Shane was lucky to make it to the age he did.

[@ML6103]

@@ko0974 I'm sad for Nick that he lost a friend in Shane. But it's really quite amazing that Shane made it so far. I thought he'd be dead 20 years ago, the way he lived. RIP.

[@veganwinter]

Nick cave got me through life as a teen. I'm 44 now and I'm forever thankful for his music. I'm so sorry for his loss but he is so inspiring about how to move forward in life but never forgetting. Talking is so important. Thank you Mr Cave.

[@BassMatt1972]

This man means SO MUCH to so many people, for so many things.. We keep our candles burning..

[@wayasaunooke3424]

I truly love this man. What a gift he is to us all, even when he carries such pain ❤

[@rosac805]

I played into my arms on my drive to my baby sisters funeral .. it's so beautiful.. it makes me cry every time I hear it.. she was only 36yrs.. I hate cancer.. 😭

[@nicolekryniski6117]

there is nothing more tragic than when a parent has to bury their child, of any age. you have an incredible voice, Nick. Thank you for sharing your talent 💕

[@sourxtimes]

Love him. Been reading his Red Hand Files newsletters for years now. His words have gotten through some hard times 🖤

[@janetbrown8828]

Please know how much all of us felt your loss. When I lost my husband, I knew my grief wasn't normal. He had a mental illness that I've only come to understand after the fact & everything was so wrapped up in it before he died, I was numb. Your music saved me & continues to save me again & again. Thank you & God bless you and your family.

[@86crud]

My girl died at 35. It’s a struggle but I’m doing it. Had she died as a teenager, it would have killed me. I don’t think I would have stayed here.

[@ericbruyn]

Very intelligent man 👍

[@dapunk5598]

How's that ? He's just a wanker who adds biblical references to his songs to make himself look profound.

[@tylerduke7657]

Just a lowly American southerner here… you are an artist sir!! Here we think a man can’t tell a story in song unless he’s lost something, my friend you tell a thousand stories thank you

[@ML6103]

Wow that is quite profound. You can't tell a story in song unless you've lost something. I think that will stick in my mind for some time

[@jevgenijskolpakovs6027]

Can't hold myself not to cry

[@user-xr6mh4ut3q]

I owe so much to this man and his art, and I'm so thankful for him surviving and living through this terrible loss. His music has helped me save myself in many ways, it helped me find beauty in the darkest of days

[@captaintrips8651]

I (fortunately) haven’t had too much drama in my life, but listening to Nick and Warren always brings tears to my eyes. Such powerful music with zero vocals.

[@friendlykiwi384]

Great that he can articulate this. A genius on so many levels, but a human still…..

[@jeroendesterke9739]

Soon after the death of his son, I saw Nick at Ebbsfleet train station in the UK checking in with his manager. I walked up to him and thanked him for his beautiful music. 'Thanks, mate!" was his reply. :-D

[@pookachu64]

The pizza scene in his film just kill’s me now. Him so happy with his baby boys.

[@milosvillem6438]

An amazing person and singer. I'm sorry

[@angge4261]

Life can be so very cruel. Due to where my life is, and at 55 with a 9yo, if he died, I would kill myself. He is my hope. I am thankful for people like Nick Cave.

[@86crud]

I think I would too, if my daughter had died at a young age. She died at 35, and I’ve managed to have gratitude for those 35 years.

[@twelveightyone]

Respect to Mr. Cave and his family X

[@baabaabaa-yp2jh]

KING INK strolls into town... He sniffs around!! 1982...15 yo @ the Stage Door pub...still one of the best gigs lve been to!! You can never guess what life dishes up mate...lost a son mself, stay strong Nick!

[@HappyBirthday0707]

An unspeakable tragedy. It speaks volumes to his emotional intelligence and character that he was able to continue with his life in any form after what happened. A deeply principled and intelligent man, and a hugely gifted artist. We’re lucky to have him and I wish him the best in the face of the tragedies he’s had to deal with in his life.

[@michelehemlokhexwhite4310]

We loves ya, Nick. I'll never forget being double booked at Metropolis studio with you for a few days, and we shared the studio and hung out. I have a tattoo on my ankle you doodled on me one night after a gig, which i treasure ❤

[@norajaneg]

Great job moving THROUGH it. It’s the only way. God bless you ❤

[@arsonravengarcia8370]

I love you Nick..I lost my nephew just recently..he was like a son to me..your music keeps me from pulling the trigger

[@davidmuirhead9703]

Poor nick ,let’s just hope he can one day recover,I’ve been through this experience and am still on edge with it

[@angge4261]

It crushes me that Nick is managing to work through this, because there is no way I could survive losing my only child. In such an unexpected, truly tragic way. Love, all the way. x

[@jeffdishong4853]

I had no idea, and ive been a fan for twenty or so years. I am feeling absolutely horrible about your loss.my condolences and sincere sympathy goes out to you and your family. Your are such an inspiration to me, and im sure millions more. It’s easy to relate to soulful sound and the real life grit in your music. We get to live in it because of your hard work and talent!! Thank you!

[@bobthebear1246]

It sounds like he dealt with his pain in a very healthy way. I really feel for him because of course that is every parent's worst nightmare.

[@Toonces666]

I just cannot imagine. Nick Cave is such an amazing human being and artist. I have so much admiration and respect for him.

[@NilvioAFBraga]

There's nothing so sad as it..

[@TSayfullin]

For me as a person who speaks another language on a daily basis, the lyrics and Nick Cave puts in his songs makes English at its utmost of the dependence of this language

[@redcoat4ever323]

Heartbreaking

[@emilywalker3352]

So heartbreaking.

[@omygod9062]

He is so talented

[@maynardjohnson3313]

Thanx for sharing, Nick

[@TTS398]

God bless him....❤❤❤

[@zlrobbo9643]

Into my arms, O Lord, into my arms

[@bampabampa]

Heart breaking

[@odanx]

Heart breaking.

[@irenetassie7528]

All the love to you Nick. I can't imagine that loss. Thank you for all you've done for me in dark times

[@davidrichardson9146]

This is life Nick, you're not alone

[@irenesmeyers2762]

You are courageous Mr. Cave, I admire Your attitude, 🎉❤🎉

[@misterinterfuel]

Gripping - I share a number of curious facts with Nick including our birth dates, father deaths, twin fatherhoods, and twin son names, all random coincidences. We nearly lost our son our son Aaron at birth, and since Nick and Susie’s loss of Arthur I keep close watch over our son Aaron more than ever. I cannot explain the parallels.

[@amylewellyn3515]

Big hugs, as I can not imagine! I understand his truth!

[@kgothatsomaine3002]

You've gotta just keep on pushing. Keep on pushing. Push the sky away ❤️

[@jessicah4412]

We love you, and thank you sharing your journey and your heart with us ❤️

[@DanielSmith-gv4kl]

I can't imagine that kind of loss.

[@MS-de7bb]

Im so sorry

[@gandolin66]

Even his answer on that heartbreaking topic reveals the melody of a melancholic song.

[@beale.8049]

Love you so Mister Nick Cave ❤

[@FarKingFunny]

We love you Nick...❤ your Stagger Lee will remain my favourite song always, thank you for this song and ALL your music Nick. Good luck in going forward

[@djquinn11]

How sad, Nick is much loved by music fans all over the world, and nobody should have to bury their child.

[@margueritemazzeo2904]

Amazing how much he looks like my past love..also named Nick .sorry that Nick Cave lived a tragic personal life.😢❤

[@mary-anne7]

💔

[@mantwat16]

I am so sorry for arther

[@matthiaskuhnl3817]

Nick is an outstanding person..❤

[@shodopoet]

Respect ✊🏼 Maestro 🙏🏼 been listening to Faith Hope and Carnage you’re an inspiration

[@thechaostrials1964]

He's an inspiration.

[@chadstokes6532]

I lost my 5yr old to a drunk driver.. we were walking on the sidewalk and a drunk driver jumped the curb and ran us over.. it killed Jayden instantly... I cannot even BEGIN to describe the pain... the emptiness you deal with every moment of everyday....

[@watch-Dominion-2018]

No parent should have to bury their child - Theoden

[@soniabirthwright]

Love ❤️❤️❤️ him people just ain't no good ❤❤❤my favorite song from him❤

[@EsrayMassik]

All the feels ❤ for you, and your families

[@Darkstar3022]

God bless you Nick

[@user-zw8vr1vt8o]

Aw god bless ypu nick ❤

[@MarjorieCISTAC]

I send you light, just as you do with us when you Comme and sing with your band, I send you love

[@Dambister]

Ник , ты сделал меня человеком . Спасибо , родной! Соболезную .

[@user-mp1gv6tf9n]

I love you dear mate. Brave warrior, Earth angel of mine❤ Angel's are riding by your side. Your my hero , if you stop, then so will I... ❤

[@CarmenLorenLaivar]

que fuerte

[@seanquigley8041]

💔💔😢😢💜

[@cubeekel]

Love you ❤ take care

[@juliaandgiulie74pati72]

We lover you for the extraordinary Essence that lives from your (excuse for my english orribile)

[@juliaandgiulie74pati72]

@@Maryjane-rr6yo sorry for my terrible english but the question Is " why and while Nick cave Is a extraordinary Person? I learn the message with fan ....and the rest..

[@Theresa-lu2gl]

it's great that you try English instead of not trying🖤🖤🖤

[@juliaandgiulie74pati72]

@@Theresa-lu2gl grazie ❤️

[@darranwilkins4648]

mr cave you are awsome

[@davep2075]

I love you Nick.

[@davidjacobs5853]

So brave,but true

[@alzhookh470]

Дайте кто-нибудь ссылку на полное видео, пожалуйста!

[@patjryan8716]

Well done Nick

[@TData-dq8gm]

🙏

[@bethiaegeler9877]

❤️

[@fathersonbrotherunclefrien4238]

I’m new to your music and fell in love with your gift very quickly brother. I’m so sorry for your loss and admire your strength with dealing with something so indescribably painful……my granddaughter has just turned 2 and has a condition which gives a mortality expectancy between age 2-4/5yrs old - I battle manic depression, an ex prison officer with ptsd and sober 8/9yrs, spiritually strengthening and trying my best to get through each day at a time and pray for my granddaughter, prepare for the inevitable and know talking therapy works as you’ve so bravely described - you’re an inspiration and I was meant to see this. Eternal love from me and mine to you and yours (extended to all here)……we will all be reunited one day. Peace be unto you all x

[@luanesilva3521]

Im so sorry that you're going through that, hope thinga are doing better for you, God bless and may His peace and love be with you! ❤️

[@fathersonbrotherunclefrien4238]

@@luanesilva3521 God bless you in Christ Yahusha’s name. Your kind words mean a lot, thank you. And may God also bless and be with you and your family too. ☺️🙏🏻⚖️

[@YessBlack]

And that's why Arthur Shelby is called Arthur in Peaky Blinders.

[@sirduke7636]

No parent should have to outlive their children

[@EniBass999]

❤❤❤

[@ellaspage9783]

Lord rest his soul 🙏

[@JamesALodge]

💜🙏

[@rooktheradical1]

Musical genius. I'm willing to bet, a parenting genius as well....

[@brianjury4508]

If we don't stand tall we will falter. God does stuff to strengthen us, we just can't truly fathom. That's fantastic. Thanks Nick, now I know why I have been a deep listener since the Birthday Party. Be and remain well. That goes for All.

[@carmelagiuffrida2826]

Ti voglio bene Nik ❤❤

[@Garm6176]

🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@bloyndie8616]

I concur 😢

[@lisesansuan]

❤❤