Chappell Roan is Gay, for Realsies | Queer Dating Show | We’re Having Gay Sex Podcast

[@ashgavs]

Hi everyone. Thanks for writing so many comments these past two weeks. They really help. I thought I might find a way to chat with you in here to let you know how grateful I am for your involvement in my big crazy dream.

[@ashgavs]

oh and get on my damn text alert: beacons.ai/ashgavs

[@blorgenwurst508]

Hi ashley! i was at your show last night, youre so funny and i thought your new jokes were great even if the crowd was weird i think people see your awesome crowdwork finessing hecklers and they are attention whores and want to do it too lol

[@andieheim]

Thank you for being here Ashley! I just turned this episode on and am really looking forward to it. My celibacy journey feels so seen right now 😄

[@Ferreneh]

I'm SO thankful that you've created a safe space for bi/pan & ace community on this podcast too, without toxicity & biphobia that is going rampant on tiktok 🙏🙏 and please bring in more ace guests, they've been wonderful so far 💜

[@SpaceyD]

Thank you so much for engaging with your fans, Ashley! I am sad that I missed you in Irvine (I'm in a wheelchair and I need a companion), but my autistic sister (IYKYK) agreed to take me the next time you're in our area (Orange or Riverside County, CA) ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 Keep doing what you're doing! 🌈🌟

[@LaNoireDetruit]

"I like being sexy, but I am not very sexual" - Wow, the way Chapel just put this really resonated with me and kind of dispelled sth I unconsciously perceived as an inconsistency in myself.

[@floristfindspeace]

i truly think that she’s going to change the music industry in so many ways. i’m so excited.

[@emilyyy3]

omg crazy how big she's gotten in a year! would love an updated episode!!!

[@min_nad]

NEED!!

[@samfarren7503]

PLEASE

[@SadCupcake-d5v]

YOU'RE SO RIGHT

[@1i1di1]

I am so glad they got Chappell for this episode. Seeing her grow in popularity lately and seeing how the media has been treating her as of late, regarding her prioritizing her mental health and addressing fan behaviors. It is really helpful to be reminded in an episode like this that these people are real and have lives of their own that audiences have to respect. Ashley and Chappell are very similar in the sense that they will stand up for themselves and try to deconstruct the common tendency of social media forgetting that relationships are parasocial. Hope to see her back some day, love this episode!!

[@ashgavs]

@@1i1di1 this is a very sweet comment. Thank you!

[@circleofleaves2676]

I've never experienced the "I don't have anyone to go with" thing. If I want to go see something, whether that's a movie, concert, comedy show, author event, play, circus show or whatever, I just go. It actually feels more intimate that way. Sometimes when someone I know is sitting next to me it's like having someone read over my shoulder, or seeing things partially through their eyes. I love being alone and complete within myself in those experiences; the connection between me and the artist/show feels less interrupted somehow.

[@bitchboymghee]

I really feel this! Personally for me it's probably a mix of overempathy and anxiety. Like I can't stop half my brain from, as you put it, seeing it through their eyes, and then also I'm worried about whether they're having a good time and if our experiences are congruent, if one of us is having more fun than the other or something? Entirely too much to think about imo

[@shubhneetkaur6252]

also if im watching a movie alone, i pause it a lot, to really take in everything and process and feel. but if there's someone watching it with me, i wouldn't do that cuz i wouldn't want to disturb them.

[@auraliecherise]

@@shubhneetkaur6252yessss this, sometimes I right things down that I think are really thought provoking or could apply to my real life, helps me really take in a movie as someone who’s ADHD and has trouble with focusing or remembering little things

[@shubhneetkaur6252]

@@auraliecherise i do that too! writing everything down... otherwise i am just always feeling like i am forgetting to do something, like something is amiss... i hate that feeling

[@Foofoolaroo]

Chappell seems bored.

[@JuMixBoox]

My condolences to Bree. It's never easy losing a grandparent, especially when you don't have the space to grief.

[@sunnymuniz6040]

You had Chappell Roan on here???? Wtf how come I’m just finding this out! And wtf? How come I didn’t know she was queer 😭😭😭 I knew there was something I loved about her 😂

[@Badusername2000]

i had no idea who she was when i watched this, completely forgot about this episode and now im a big fan of hers and just remembered this exists

[@maf.eats2024]

Maybe Chapelle can perform here in Manila, Philippines to experience a different type of hyped fans. 😂 We Filipino fans are notorious for being so energetic to the point that we will sing the whole song, for every single song, for the whole concert and still have the energy to scream so loud, our ancestors will hear us calling. 🇵🇭😂🔥

[@hausofjulian]

FUCK YES PLEASE

[@emjayink4505]

So cool having Chappell/Kayleigh on the pod! I just started getting into her music and to hear her thoughts with her feelings on demisexuality and how it contrasts to how she portrays herself on stage. Really enjoyed this one as usual~

[@SavaUSA]

I cannot believe you got Chappell Roan! This is awesome. Please get Ethel Cain (Hayden Anhedönia) on the show! (trans woman musician, no idea if lesbian, but very queer)

[@hurricanecatrina9548]

omg I’ve been OBSESSED with “Casual” since it came out! Chappell is so cool and I can’t wait for her to blow up even more when her tour starts!!🎉💕

[@SpaceyD]

It's really happening!

[@luxurypetscz]

YOU OG GUYS KNEW IT WAS GONNA HAPPEN?!

[@juliettevanderwalt1517]

"Not a regular woman" is the mature version of "not like other girls"

[@MsAaannaaa]

not necessarily. the sentence alone can also just be an accurate description of someone. it's pick me behavior when you think you're better than others because of it. being different & talking about it is fine.

[@singingwithbecca]

I FOUND CHAPPELL'S MUSIC LIKE A WEEK OR TWO AGO AND I'M OBSESSED WITH HER AND NOW I'M FINDING OUT SHE WAS ON ASHLEY'S PODCAST??? THAT'S INSANE

[@junipersprites2167]

I SCREAMED when I saw the thumbnail for Chappell !!! Literally my FAVORITE artist, this is the collab of the century 😤

[@JT-xh1ih]

The intro with "SHUT THE FUCK UP" and the cut to the "I

[@Gagoum17]

OMG I love the story of the guest, having recently ended a period of celibacy, and feeling the 'oh it might be for real gay', so happy to hear this story on this platform, and the wide angle to sexuality!

[@min_nad]

Demisexual representation makes me genuinely so happy 🥺❤️

[@Ferreneh]

Me too, about time this podcast had representation for us! 💜

[@quinndawsonosgood5261]

Same

[@rachelwinchester9840]

Same

[@sheregenerated13]

It means so much to me to hear Chappel talk about being demisexual as a gay sapphic ace person like myself

[@moony788]

Omg I didn’t know you had Chappell on the pod! I‘ve become a big fan of hers lately and I‘m so excited to see this

[@heavenmiracle8715]

watched this after it was mentioned in the last episode on chosen family HAD NO IDEA THIS EXISTED WE NEED AN UPDATED ONE!!!! this was so good and u could see kayleigh getting comfier by the end

[@victoriadiviesti8887]

Ashley's skin is fking GLOWING in this episode and I can't handle it

[@maikengradomying447]

Love how deep this episode is. So vulnerable and supportive at the same time💖

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

This episode was a little different, and I was very impressed with the carrying way everything flowed. As always, Bre was awesome, and it was very funny. Ashley, your loving heart and beautiful soul was showing again. I know you try to hide it, but you are a wonderful human, and I love you.

[@ashgavs]

appreciate this comment very much :)

[@floristfindspeace]

i am literally so happy to have found chappell because i am a stripper, and i struggle with mentally keeping that separate from myself. i don’t get very involved with anyone outside of work, but i am so sensitive, calm, and down to earth outside of work, but at work, i am so much more sensual, outgoing, “dream girl-ish.” understanding it as like a “project” is really interesting, and so helpful. i relate to her in a few ways, especially about the “i like being sexy, but im not sexual” bit. so cool! it’s also so so obvious that she’s a drag queen!!! her alter ego is so interesting and entertaining, and i can’t wait to see where she goes in her career!

[@Gizmosnitto13]

If you don’t mind me asking what made you choose the job filed ? I am glad you have found someone to help you feel seen and understood ! Chappell has inspired me in so many ways.

[@floristfindspeace]

@@Gizmosnitto13 ahh hi, thank you for asking! well, at the time, i was living in a motel. i left my hometown and job on impulse after my grandma died, and my family aren’t very good to rely on for support. when i left, i didn’t have anywhere to live, and i couch hopped with my partner at the time until we couldn’t anymore. i’m dancing now because of my own poor financial decisions, lack of vision for my future, and poor mental health as a whole have lead me here. also because it’s genuinely difficult trying to not only survive, but thrive in our economy, especially if you do it independently majority of the time. i also dance because it’s creative, freeing, and fun, especially if you don’t take it seriously. it’s a lovely place to explore your sexuality -in the sense of like, owning it and defining it for yourself- and a lovely way to be expressive with your makeup, clothing, etc. it can be a helpful tool for that, for your gender identity, and identity overall, though obviously, it can be just as harmful at times too. it helped me to learn how to face rejection, and connect with people in a way that’s not personal, but still honest in its own way. i have learned to just talk to them bc i struggled with that a lot growing up, and i’ve learned that EVERYONE is weird, different, struggling etc because i have met and worked with SOOO many different kinds of people over the past 7 years. it helps me also to maintain personal boundaries, which i don’t know if i would have struggled more or less with maintaining if i didn’t have this job, but i have slowly learned to respect my being and boundaries through dancing.

[@onyxjade999]

i did it ashley i finally signed up for the text list

[@YasiLegacy]

Chappell is so beautiful, really enjoyed her presence on the pod

[@sternchenEtoile]

waiiiit I must've listenend to this back in the day and I didn't realize it was CHAPPELL ROAN at the time. Now I'm obsessed with her music and just made the connection because the mighty youtube algo recommended this video to me :D

[@marianaberg9863]

The co hosts retelling of her experience is cool. That was mine. I had no idea who chappel roan was but I saw her as an opening act (fletcher or olivia obrien, idr who) a few years back and I remember being like "seriously?! Who the fuck is this??!" And going home and before even taking my make up off, I was online googling one liners from a couple songs and I've been following her ever since. I hope ppl respect her privacy and let her keep sharing her art.

[@marianaberg9863]

Also ps I've been a fan of ashleys since she was on snow tha product's podcast. I Love SNOW and I Love CHAPPELL. And I love ASHLEY!

[@nightjetts]

If you can, see her in concert!!! I saw her at Pride at the Shore, and I don't think anything but a Lady Gaga/Beyonce show could rival it!!! It was electric with the whole crowd singing along with her, but you could still hear her voice. The band was amazing too!!!

[@user-kopopkop]

Maybe i was scared to lose energetic Ashley but today's intro made me SO happy I swear 😭❤❤ thank you for not listening to those los_rs. Also thank you for bringing such a good artist today!! Love her and Please please for a future epi bring Snow Tha Product please 🙏🏽🙏🏽 I would love to see that collaboration and I know she would say yes, she's so fun and cool

[@kimberlydidia39]

Bre is back!! Yay!! And congrats to her on the funding for her film! Another great episode, thank you!!

[@biscuitanne6770]

Man I've missed Bree and her just absolute roasting of Ashley 🤣🤣 that energy and banter was so great. Also, I hope we hear from clit girl sometime, I need answers .. 🤣

[@meganyoung3040]

Right?! We need answers lol

[@alexorpin9893]

Can’t believe it took 35 minutes for the Jesus hat to be mentioned 😂

[@quinndawsonosgood5261]

Kayleigh is such an endearing person, really lovely. Great episode Ashley, you and Bre are such good co-hosts. 🌈💜🏳️‍🌈💜🌈

[@helmxt03]

okay i'm a little late to this but this is my multiverse of madness i'm such a big fan of you ashley and kayleigh too!!! also you both are doing so much for the queers so thank you for that

[@simongarland5789]

HELLO BOTTOM NATION This is the kind of intros that we need. Keep going with your genius intros. Great episode. I felt it took some time for Chappel to open up, then she was away , and was so interesting. Get her back soon, please. Bree was stoned, she was on fire. Ashley, thank you for making Mondays so Brilliant 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿🏳️‍🌈🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿🏳️‍🌈🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿🏳️‍🌈🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@slauthordraws3363]

ashley got on the chappell roan train early! i'm jealous!

[@hanquokkasan]

I found Chappell through this episode when it dropped, I can’t believe how big she has gotten since she was on the pod!!

[@axiom2472]

Beautiful gay thought this week! The male gaze doesn't understand what isnt made specifically for it.

[@bellegraves]

Oh we need an updated episode. NEEEEEED.

[@SadCupcake-d5v]

Yesss!!!

[@TheJJettgirl]

Love Chappell! Pink Pony Club is such a queer anthem

[@andieheim]

Yes!!! I decided to take a year of celibacy after coming out too! For pretty much the exact same reason. Thank you for this episode today!!

[@taylorkills4711]

Omg I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU GOT CHAPPELL!! i love everyone in this episode

[@ecs8837]

WE ARE CLIT GIRL NATION

[@penel25]

I found out who Chappell is by this podcast. Thank you for introducing us to this star Ashley, now I can brag that I knew of Chappell before she blew up 😄

[@erinv.4284]

I started listening to Chappell's music after seeing her open for Fletcher and I loved hearing her as Kayleigh here, she feels so relatable!

[@dianedoherty3118]

I’m so glad you said that people should come alone to your shows and they’ll be fine. I want to come see you in VT but don’t have a “date” so now I’m leaning towards going. Wish you’d come closer to Maine but I might make it a lil vacation for myself!

[@emmadolan4090]

If only she would come to Maine!! Or NH

[@dianedoherty3118]

I’d gladly drive and pick you up!

[@virginiabryson6290]

Me sitting down to watch this knowing full well I've already listened to this episode on spotift already

[@sadgecat588]

You are so right Ashley I'm a recovering people pleaser, I would love to be as confident as you to just say what you think.

[@ColdDaveball]

If you're getting more queer musicians on the pod: King Princess would be really cool. The way she looks kinda reminds me of a Mini-Ashley.

[@quinndawsonosgood5261]

King Princess is so good 💜

[@NotAnotherAUDHDCrafter]

The celibacy thing is REAL! take care of yourself and you'll never be dependent on others .. putting your happiness on someone's shoulders is a lot of stress.

[@amandacordeiro3343]

How did I ust find out about this? 😮 Can't believe you ot Chappell! ❤ Love you guys

[@ribonichigo]

idk how i missed this episode a whole ass YEAR ago

[@isobelb]

From the thumbnail I thought that you have Sophie Turner this week. Chappell Roan was a lovely guest. I was pleased to be introduced to her.

[@saraxadam3659]

you have such good cohosts hahah like vibes have been so immaculate lately

[@fific37stream73]

Let's get a tour in the UK! 🇬🇧

[@lancesanvers]

Im so happy seeing Bre again!

[@luxurypetscz]

WHY DID I HAVE TO FIND OUT WHGS HAD CHAPPELL ROAN FROM THE CHOSEN FAMILY PODCAST?!?! I would expect Ashley to absolutely milk the shit out of being part of CHAPPELL ROAN DISCOVERING SHE'S GAY edit: nevermind, I get it

[@jamiemount2561]

Had to come back to listen to this a second time 😊

[@jazzywillis2038]

I'm screaming with excitement over this guest!!!!

[@saturn746]

SHE WAS HERE BEFORE SHE GOT POPULAR ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@smaragdapapadopoulou7807]

If you ever get Chappell back I will die happy 🙌

[@goneagain2997]

congrats on 300k!!

[@Emmaverabrown]

Met Ash when I was in GWC ten years ago. Spoke to my class about not burning any bridges and whatnot, stuck with me to this day. Absolutely wild that I’m sitting here as a gay adult a full decade later learning uh… much different things from her 😂

[@ashgavs]

Hey!

[@Emmaverabrown]

@@ashgavs hello thank you for your well versed advice 🫡

[@LilThreat88]

Loved this guest and your interactions/conservations with her, Ashley! Thanks for the upbeat opening too~

[@russgaulke1364]

Moving up on that 300K subscribers real quick.

[@BigDogLover02]

the gay thoughts are always my favorite

[@ML-uu5ik]

I loved Chappell’s segment! She had some very interesting takes on the public/private persona and I appreciated hearing her takes on being gay

[@IglooDweller]

Need a 2024 podcast with her!

[@Favoritefruitisblackberries]

I thought this interview was the most hilarious,relatable,interesting and humorous shit I’ve watched in a while😂 Chappell being speechless for the first half of the interview was really funny 😂

[@ashgavs]

Thanks for checking us out!

[@charitymonzon5373]

Love love love Chappell being open about being demisexual!! 🖤🩶🤍💜Represent girl!!🥰🏳️‍🌈🔥

[@ginagomez2191]

Around what minute does she say this??? 👀

[@rox2001]

@@ginagomez219137:10

[@lum1tystan]

@@someimesIplaygamesuhm WHAT

[@queerlybeloved257]

​@@ginagomez2191Around 36-38 minutes in! (I think she specifically says the word around 37 minutes and 10 seconds in but the lead-up is relevant context)

[@daneckabargas6690]

"I'm not a regular woman" new merch

[@StephieNeedsAdventure]

Ashley, your hair and skin look amazing!

[@trilobite-knight7746]

CHAPPEL ROAN NO WAY

[@SpaceyD]

The number of times Ashley starts a story with, "I don't often do this..." ❤😁

[@Jenny_796]

Ashley every time: so I don’t do this often but woman in the crowd…..

[@faceyl]

I SWEARR thought I was going crazy like.... Mmmh 🤔 think I've heard this before LOL

[@Aarigaa.-.]

As a vegan since I was 14 I’ve only had the best reviews it’s works yall yo shit be clean clean 😉🤣😂

[@etnarocha2003]

Well, it's been a year. Hit her up again so we can know how did her celibate year went lol

[@spyretto]

It went well then she turned into a lesbian as she said.

[@salamanderallender9876]

Ashley's got boundaries!

[@bripk9598]

Also damn I just wanna like... be friends with all these people. Like these women are so chill. I wish I had friends like this, like I could invite them over for tea and just vibe. I don't know a lot of famous people I feel like that about. Maybe it's just a lesbian thing.

[@ashgavs]

That’s really kind! That’s also what the podcast is for :)

[@bripk9598]

@@ashgavs I love that! If that’s what the podcast is supposed to be then you win podcasting! If you ever come to San Antonio (I know Texas is bad scary and gross) I’ll go to your show and I promise I will wear underwear… or at least pants to hide it if I don’t lol keep up the good vibes 😎

[@allisonhauser]

@chappellroan the stage persona is super real! as an artist and also a therapist in depth psychology... that part of self or collective or fantasy or dream that comes out (#comesout) is to be celebrated. & I definitely get the sexualisation thing. and ashley, I get that weight of it all bit too. love this session 🐾

[@allisonhauser]

plus being a therapist can feel like a project too lol

[@mansi2103]

21:25 Chappel saying "Wow" like that reminds me of this meme where a woman says "Waow" and she's going "BASED BASED BASED BASED" in her head as someone is describing supposedly preposterous to them

[@kateo5846]

So happy to see you feeling yourself doing the intro today!!! 😀❤️

[@zoegilbert5816]

Omg I was at the Dallas show where she flashed Ashley

[@fluterem8866]

What an interesting conversation about art and sexuality and expressing sexuality!

[@3wbasie]

now that was an intro lolol

[@meganyoung3040]

Did you ever hear from “ clit girl “ I feel like we have to know at this point lol …

[@SarahMaeofMaeGal]

Aw shucks! You'll be in WA before I move back. But I saw you in VA while I'm temporarily here. The Richmond show was great! I should have moved there instead of where I am, if I learned anything from attending that show! :)

[@notmyrealname550]

Dont know how or why i didn't start listening to her when this episode dropped 1 YEAR AGO! now im obsessed w her just like everyone else ! ❤❤

[@taylortimeless]

I relate to the wanting to see if you can be happy when you are alone. I’ve been going through the same thing. Only thing is, I like being alone too much now and am struggling to want to start dating again.

[@Bobcat-sq1eg]

OH MY GOSH I love it went ash already had pods of my now favourite artist!!!!!

[@VioletTheGeek]

Fenugreek is the herb that makes your pits smell like maple syrup. But they also still smell like pits, so...do with that what you will.

[@kaiya33123]

AHHHHHH!!! School Nights is MY FAVORITE SONG! LOVE LOVE LOVE her music! and ON MY FAVORITE PODCAST!! (Along with Chosen Family!)!!!😍😍😍😍😍😍😍❤❤❤ AHHHHHH!

[@MysticMinis-ol3co]

I just found this cuz you just mentioned it on CFP. Dunno how I never saw this one

[@twildabuckingham]

I've taken a vow of celibacy accidentally for the past couple of years

[@darew1101]

sometimes i wish i had the privilege to forget that I was black and be like oh right I forgot this was a problem for people

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

Awesome episode thanks for all you're hard work Ashley and rip to bre grandmother ❤️🙏

[@kellygxoxo]

I’m seeing Chappell on the 15th and I’m SO EXCITED!!!!!!

[@Christina-Claire]

Bre is here!!!!