How To Make Women Want You If You’re Quiet

[@CosmicLeche]

"By acknowledging he feels awkward, he's able to move past feeling awkward." _I will face my awkwardness. I will permit it to pass over me and through me._

[@luqmanski]

a fellow man of culture i see

[@CosmicLeche]

@@luqmanski Afraid not, I am a woman. ;)

[@Leitis_Fella]

The perfect Muad'dib.

[@akilamperouge960]

inshort the actor himself is genuine

[@alejandroserrano7755]

Not gonna lie, I said something similar back in 2016. Coincidentally that was the year I had a lot of success in dating and whatnot.

[@crisj7704]

it's called being authentic, I think he just comes off being authentic.

[@imenefleurbleue4461]

Je has an infp personality.... Infps are authentic you are right

[@everythingisawesome2903]

It's called having an attractive face. I mean, we all are thinking it. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@lurnfry]

@@imenefleurbleue4461 how do you know ? :)

[@leesteal4458]

Yes.

[@littleforfeited]

I am an Infp and I'm not as attractive as him and some people hate how I talk :(((

[@msandreyevskikh]

Not just charisma, but manners. Timothee is an intelligent kid brought up by educated, cultured, nurturing and loving parents. Hence impeccable manners.

[@aamishazeem3770]

Very true, something not everyone noticed

[@charliedovlander1269]

Its the french in him

[@cococcom3llow402]

he didn't always have manners

[@seaglass7375]

Yes and it comes out very effortless and natural, because he was raised this way his whole life. It was his upbringing and environment that infused his charisma and charm. 👍

[@cococcom3llow402]

@@seaglass7375 goddam shut up

[@hannahisrael159]

pov u look through the comments to find a list of everything he said and u see none so u make it urself: 1. Radiate Positivity 2. Appear unfazed and intentional when smiling through a tease 3. Don't assume negative intent when in an ambiguous situation (unless ur actually being bullied lol) 4. Call out the awkwardness and embrace the awkwardness when doing so 5. Pass the conversational spotlight into the other person or someone else 6. Share your higher purposes 7. If things don't go well, move on with the rest of ur life ur welcome

[@lizarozen6303]

thanks!

[@colescalisthenics]

Thank you

[@thatweirdchick5837]

Thank you!!

[@lochness7952]

The world needs more of your kind!

[@timaglam9140]

No matter how many times u practice these lines, as long as u're not attractive no one really cares

[@YokoshimaSTAR]

Assuming that everyone is your friend not an enemy makes life beautiful for everybody and it makes you likable.

[@evam3415]

Thats very true!!

[@loristnorton3723]

And probably makes you "dead".

[@C00ri]

Also makes you vulnerable to more backstabbing and letdowns.

[@heysatan8]

@@C00ri Yeah but letting that fear hold you back is even worse imo.

[@Matt-pq4tq]

Yeah I recently realized that I go through life assuming everyone is my enemy until proven otherwise; I really need to flip this mindset

[@sumwhere08]

Ngl I wasn't on the Timothee train until I started watching interviews and his charisma is just "chefs kiss" he just seems like someone you'd want to be around

[@berlynwall1956]

Or under or on top of....

[@carlatumino6743]

@@berlynwall1956 more likely 😛

[@kiafromthemoon]

People say it’s his looks but honestly it’s his personality and talent that made me find him attractive

[@MrEvldreamr]

@@berlynwall1956 DEFINITELY wanna be under him...

[@MrEvldreamr]

@@kiafromthemoon yea its his personality.... he reminds me of adam driver actually. Dark hair, tall lanky, awkward... but funny personalities. Very down to earth... even if theyre acting awkward on purpose it its a very authentic fake.

[@reichull]

i know that there are a lot of women who genuinely find the typical muscular alpha male types attractive, but i exclusively am attracted to men like timothee. they are so much more fun to be around. being relatively confident, silly, and kind are very good qualities to have. i hope men realize they do not have to be one specific type of man to be found attractive by women.

[@Azarath_Metrion_Zinthos]

Most women are like that ..it's only a few percent of women who r into Rugged muscular type of men...maybe some of them will date them or have one night stand with such alpha types...but only settle for a family for the softie types cuz of their relatable personalities.

[@sonyag.coaching]

I agree. I love it!

[@jolly7728]

@@Azarath_Metrion_Zinthos He has this androgynous look about him. Women admire him because of his dominant feminine characteristics: he's "beautiful" like a girl, not attractive like a man; he's giddy like a lass, not reasonable like a young guy; and he's thin like a female fashion model, not buff like a manly body builder. Bisexual girls could be the ones who are most interested in someone like him.

[@MrKrusten]

@@Azarath_Metrion_Zinthos Entirely dependent on the age of the woman and how confident she is. The more mature (older) she more she'll be into masculine men and applies to her confidence too. One of the reasons why women are not attracted by those kind of guys is because they are scared of them. You cant be attracted to someone you want to run away from.

[@amila_]

Same lol i like guys like timothée

[@Matt_Nor]

I love how Timothée Chalamet is the exact opposite of musclar, yet celebrities find him very attractive and charismatic. Someone's village is missing their greatly talented Chalamet.

[@TJ-kj9ki]

Man has the physique of Phoenix’s joker yet still pulls.

[@Matt_Nor]

@@TJ-kj9ki There is more to it than meets the eye

[@naninuna7440]

I'm not surprised since he looks like anyone on a runway, but we get to see his personality which is rare for models.

[@Justpassingby204]

@@TJ-kj9ki Dude has a great face, hair, and has a slender body. Skinny dudes are quite popular

[@christianaguilar7435]

@@naninuna7440 u iuii iiíiiijuihoiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiíiiiiii h

[@Ziggle-ky9kv]

There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

[@greenflame8770]

I see u on every charisma video, so it makes me think if you are an advertiser, but I’ll still check the book out at a library

[@piedepew]

Bot

[@blurrypistachio8992]

Timothee is not socially awkward. While Hollywood interviews have admittedly made him nervous (especially as a new star), his high school days and old Instagram tell a VERY different story. IRL it’s evident that he oozes charisma and he’s very alluring. People with social anxiety are not the popular class clown who performs a nicki minaj song in front of a whole school, those two data points simply do not correlate. That’s all.

[@cathylangdon9473]

I agree. He is not awkward. He plays awkward, which is fine. We all have personas that are a part of ourselves. I haven’t seen his prior social media content but I have seen people that “knew him when” .

[@vanwagon]

He's definitely socially anxious, hence the title of the video. I know a lot of confident and popular people that struggle with social anxiety. It's hard to believe at times but social anxiety presents itself in different ways for different people. My friend that is one of the most popular kids in my school has had panic attacks from social situations where he had a breakdown and started crying. His friends had to physically carry him to somewhere where he could calm down. He's still popular and is charismatic, the statement that confident and charismatic people can't have social anxiety just isn't true.

[@myrthevisman560]

@@vanwagon Thank you for commenting this (:

[@DarthPoyner]

So he not only looks like an eternal child, he dresses as over sexualized females? Why would pedophilia hollywood NOT love him?

[@themattparks]

Even introverted socially awkward people can perform on a stage I feel. In fact sometimes it’s a safe space.

[@noha3875]

I mean, if you have Timothee Chalamet's face, everything you do is bound to be attractive

[@hadeskay6091]

:D

[@nanaa.frimpong7485]

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[@adroitws1367]

real title: why attractive people attractive

[@hadeskay6091]

@@megantvenstrup7687 it's the other way around. You'd want a Timothy 2 who speaks and acts like Chalamet but has the looks that give him the highest swipes left on to swiped right on ratio.

[@davidquintanilla9330]

His body still looks sickly

[@verasabir]

His personality is so unique, it’s refreshing. I’m glad that he and his talent are getting the recognition it deserves

[@Existentiallynotincrisis]

I know a.lot of people just like. He is talented though.

[@РафаэльРагимов-э8э]

Жду Джихад Муад Диба во всленной Дюны. Жду когда покажут масштаб произошедшего и его сын один из тех что обретает сознание взрослого еще в утробе примет решение стать червем что бы 3500 лет селективно выводить новый тип людей которые будут умнее быстрее сильнее и лучше как люди, человечнее. Которые не будут похожи на наших предков по действиям как похожи мы на тех кто эил десятки а то и сотни тысяч лет назад. Все теже войны за ресурсы и земли в 21 веке. Нам нехватает сына Муад Диба, бога - императора.

[@NickNotas]

Being awkward, quirky, unique, goofy, weird - whatever you may call it - has an endearing and charming quality that tends to appeal to the "cutesy" side of women. Such qualities that make other men scoff can lead to women going "awww!" because it's often sweet, genuine, and unassuming. Women don't want someone putting on a front to impress them. Being your authentic and unfiltered self IS attractive. -Emma

[@sgt_tyguy5930]

Hasn’t gotten me anywhere lmao that’s a lie

[@mendesm9963]

@@sgt_tyguy5930 if you're expecting something from it you're doing it wrong.

[@Anidoesstuff]

@@mendesm9963 facts, when I stopped pursuing woman is when I actually got woman 💯

[@poopyboi7188]

@@sgt_tyguy5930 ikr, it's good to read it online but in reality it all works 99% if you're good looking. Yeah let me be goofy and get all the attention like Timothy 😂 mahn stfu honestly

[@MaitreSpader]

Most of this girls are attracted to this kind of men so they can treat them as their child. Such deep matters of maternal instinct and voids to fill.

[@jackgering1034]

My brothers roommate when I was 18 literally told me "no one cares if you're awkward, it doesn't matter to anyone no one's gonna remember it." After that I startef to go with it and it changed my life.

[@silverv3266]

He Is the same personality type I look for in guys, emotionally connected and doesn't have hyper masculine issues. Not to mention acknowledging negative aspects and turning them positive.

[@MarvFitBikesKicks]

That’s the misconception with a guy like Timothee, That’s just his personality. He’s just charming in that way, it’s not like he lacks confidence and his personality is not a learned trait. His awkwardness is what charms people, he’s self aware and I don’t think he tries to change who he is. I’ve met many kids like him where they are not “alpha males” but everyone they come across respects their charm (male or female). I’m awkward in a bad way, I can’t talk freely as nothing ever comes to mind, there’s always a angry look on my face, I’m not talkative, not approachable, not sociable, dismissive… yea it’s pretty much as bad as it gets on my side

[@twobluestripes]

“It’s not like he lacks confidence and his personality is not a learned trait”. Most of our personalities are learned traits. We just start learning them from the beginning of of our lives and when we are very young, unconsciously. Our personalities often change as we age due to previous experiences that shape us. Confidence (or lack of) is absolutely a learned trait. It’s taught to you by people who raised you, as well as by yourself as you grow, so those who started learning and reinforcing confidence young find it feels natural. But those who learned the opposite, to not be confident in themselves, can retrain themselves to feel more confident over time, with lots of practice, at any age. The more aware you are of how your past experiences and the people in your life shaped you, and what you could be doing to practice feeling better, the more control you will have in how you grow and improve as a person. This is for everyone in life, not just social situations like this channel covers!

[@davidquintanilla9330]

It's very clear to me that's he's intensely trained his charisma. Didn't you see how quick he was to share the lesson about the recovery. From his tone u could tell that was his favorite by far, he even went out of his way to give himself recovery opportunities. That being said anyone can do small things to strengthen their charisma. I am on the spectrum. I need a lot of processing time, take things too literally, and have been called things like "psychopath, future school shooter, creepy" and far worse due mostly to my poor eye contact and body language. I get along with people so well now that I kindof feel like a fraud and don't want to keep up with my friends/women. I need to take regular breaks. U say that you are the bad type of awkward and can't keep a conversation going. I can relate to that and I think it is important to hone in on the charisma hacks that will do the most for your specific scenario. My favorite solution to keeping a convo going was by far just slowing down. I speak slowly and pause in the middle of my sentences and got comfortable with not answering a girl's questions for 2-5 seconds. Just so that I could process it and reply with something actually valuable. Eventually people feel you out and give you what u need when ur able to ask for it consciously or not. U should be able to at least ask simple questions comfortably if u master that tip alone. Then I think working on the positivity and weaving jokes into casual conversation becomes world's easier. To me it's a snowball effect. Slow and right is good training, fast and wrong is terrible practice.

[@Mastadon101]

You're not alone brother 👋

[@dysmissme7343]

You can learn those skills and habits friend 🙂 If you’d like

[@psicopati4581]

You know, if this is something that bothers you maybe you can try just a little part of it. I have hardcore social anxiety, so I don't talk at all but I'm always smiling and paying attention to the conversation, so it shows other people that I'm shy but also a "warm" person. Sometimes the smile does a lot for charisma I guess.

[@tayzonday]

My charisma on command is like a cat: I give it commands and it does what it wants.

[@chalachala6]

CHOCOLATE RAIN

[@jadoc3767]

It's the man the myth the legend!!!

[@CerUz100]

Nice recovery

[@hanino6453]

Wait you’re here???

[@ExplainedThroughRap]

TAY IN THE HOUSE!

[@Caroo1313]

He really won that falling off the chair bit with the "How am I going to recover from this?", so relatable, funny and just charming.

[@DiamondWhite91]

He’s just super honest… He says everything on his mind as is

[@MoistDelta.]

I've noticed that I've always done that. Basically whenever I get nervous I speak my mind about how I'm feeling, it releases tension for me and provides comedic relief for others. If I'm doing a presentation in front of a class I'll admit that I'm nervous and the class gets a laugh and I continue without getting picked on.

[@Andreyabish]

I have a lot of social anxiety because I feel I need to be this confident person. But ironically as soon as I viewed myself as being someone who struggles with social anxiety I felt a huge weight off my shoulders and it allowed me to be so much more confident. Such an interesting but TRUE concept

[@elliehigginbotham6900]

I feel this! As soon as I accepted that I don’t need to be ‘fixed’, I’m just socially anxious, I was able to actually relax and be myself.

[@bradleypeiffer841]

Fr accepting that I do have anxiety and ignoring society's pressure to do things perfectly is really helping me break away from social anxiety.

[@jmeistur2879]

@@elliehigginbotham6900 Good! the more we stop catering to what people Believe we should be, and be more who we really are. learning to accept the way we are improves your mentality so much more. I have accepted the way I am a long time ago. I am the way I am, I wont change.

[@akshy471]

bro, this video is jackshit, and youre done.

[@Andreyabish]

@@akshy471 this ain’t it chief

[@ICEcoldJT]

When you start taking care of yourself you start feeling better, you start looking better, and you start to attract better. It starts within you.

[@stalinkryuff7039]

My g how u doing

[@ΔΟΣΟ1111]

@@stalinkryuff7039 Lol

[@Vijaypall_96]

AaaaaaEeeeeeeeeeeeee

[@itsmianotmya]

I admit that I never really thought Timothee was too attractive but something about his personality just kept bringing me back

[@purpleflows5680]

Me too. Even though he’s 28 or so, he always looked too youngish. But I watched his work and have seen a few interviews… and found myself finding him attractive. Attractiveness isn’t just about looks.

[@luffyzzz8022]

@@purpleflows5680 he is 26 not 28,

[@mohammed8108]

Well said. Even if someone have a good personality but has very bad social skill ,people will not get attracted to him many times.

[@Olivetree80]

He looks like a model to me, he's beautiful

[@angeli7539]

he's so charismatic and friendly, nothing timothée does feels "calculated". he's so genuine, humble and everyone who works with him have nothing but kind things to say about him, because he's an actual good person.

[@Goldenskies98]

When I started working more in customer service I realised that it's easy to make awkwardness charming if you just lean into it - most of the time people actually like a small amount of vulnerability, you just have to be unapologetic about it

[@soundbeverage3964]

Having dealt with bullies a lot in my life, I can never tell whether it's a moment to stand up for myself and get defensive or to smile and wave

[@kiaradenese1272]

Same, I remember being bullied all my life I would just hide it by smiling and laughing. So when someone actually teases me I don’t know if their actually trying to make fun of me or be playful with me😭

[@DiamondWhite91]

That’s the problem… Their teasing hurt you… So trying to laugh and smile while you are upset is counterintuitive… It only works if you genuinely don’t care about their comments.. That way your smile will make you more likable and look confident

[@soundbeverage3964]

@@DiamondWhite91 not always. Sometimes it's best to stand up for yourself

[@pilly3815]

@@soundbeverage3964 yea that's right. Because if you don't it just shows that you allow people to do that to you

[@nasherbuenafe253]

His action and feelings is filtered through his intentions. I think his intention comes from love positivity and despite the actions he take it’s filtered from that. His beingness is radiating good energy. Changed your beingness not the surface level techniques.

[@alexandrataylor1989]

Agree

[@spaceowl5957]

This is so true, people sense your base energy and intentions and that’s the most important factor to whether they like you

[@nasherbuenafe253]

@@spaceowl5957 for example example A, his intention is to take advantage of tou he will say hey good morning? Right away it will feel off Example b his intention is out of love and positivity, he’ll say hey good morning? Right away tou feel that positivity. Even tho they say the same word or same “technique” still very different. It’s because of the underlying motivation or intention of the person.

[@drea-i2y]

His character appeals more to the female gaze and this is why men have a hard time understanding why he's so attractive Edit: If you’re going to comment saying he’s attractive because he’s handsome, don’t. I’m saying that in my opinion the reason he stands out more than other handsome actors (or handsome men in general) is because he appeals to the female gaze.

[@bukolaalale8260]

True and the gays. You win the ladies, you can add the boyfriends/ husbands

[@danseb6415]

Timothée was written by a woman

[@viharsarok]

I'm a man and I don't have a hard time understanding why he's attractive. It's because he's handsome. Simple as that.

[@drea-i2y]

@@viharsarok His physical appearance doesn’t play that big of a role in his attractiveness though, that’s the whole point

[@jackcolson4745]

@@drea-i2y I think it does.

[@MrGaboPR]

timothee looks like a princess.. that pretty much does it for him tbh

[@kindboy3140]

How to turn awkwardness into confidence 1. You can radiate positivity, even when you are nervous 2. Appear unfazed by smiling through a tease 3. Do not assume negative intent in ambiguous situations 4. Call out the awkwardness 5. Pass the conversational spotlight to other person 6. Share your higher purpose 7. If this does not go well,on with the rest of life

[@tegoshiyu]

I like how people leave comments considering Timothee's attractive awkwardness only because he has one of the most beautiful faces in the world. Strangely I used to think his face looks weird and he is so skinny, like a child. But after I saw the movie Dune, and starting to go over his interviews. Now I think he's the most beautiful human being I'd ever seen. So I assume that his talent to bring out all the roles he plays, and his passion and commitment towards his acting career do change how we see his apperance a little bit.

[@sanazb6116]

Yes, that happened to me as well. Actually, each person have their own conception of “beauty” and “attractiveness”. Personally, I find him handsome but I don’t find him attractive/sexy. And I believe that all the smile and him being nice is like fake positivity and he’s playing role in his interviews. I believe that his true personality is more serious and introverted. (typical Capricorns *same as myself)

[@Moomoo000]

Literally same! I always new who he was but I didn’t find him that attractive but after watching dune I’m literally in love like my god his acting is amazing and now I find him vary attractive

[@jackcolson4745]

@@sanazb6116 Lol you do that astrology nonsense. Try MBTI.

[@akshy471]

@@sanazb6116 I bet 90% of women commenting "men are all wrong, we like feminine men" are looking for a 6 ft tall, big man with all three 6s. Lol. The hypocrisy.

[@MrEpic6996]

@@sanazb6116 ah yes all the capricorns are same

[@CaseyBurnsInvesting]

Confidence is key.

[@rafreyes1190]

🐈 when you choose to fully accept your flaws nobody can use it against you laughing at your own mistakes helps too idk someone told me that's cute 🐾

[@crisj7704]

he's unassumingly confident, aka he doesn't threaten others and I think that's why people like him... he makes others feel good in his presence.

[@rlopez2626]

Casey the Spammer! Found your on this channel! Watch your likes crumbling down!

[@minigol91]

I never knew who he was until now, he seems fun and cute and honest, he isn’t the typical dude with an ego.

[@flea2play]

If you think most of the men are typical with ego wonder what you will call most of the women

[@heatherbukowski2102]

@@flea2play this is just what a man with an ego would say

[@flea2play]

@@heatherbukowski2102 glad to find a person with no ego just innocent🤗

[@TheGrossDemon]

I can see why hes so loved. His awkwardness is precious, his ability to recover from accidents and jests are so charismatic. He seems like a pure gem

[@addisa5826]

I personally think his personality plays the largest part in what makes him attractive. I never thought he was cute.But then I watched Beautiful Boy and his interviews. I grew fond of him because of the way he portrays himself (sweet, ackward, pationate) and his character (great acting- I relatef to his character even though i have never actully been in his position). So I checked out his other films and grew even more fond of him due to his great ability to portray a wide range of emotions and characters while making it all seem so natural. Now i think he's goodlooking, but it took alot for me to get to that point. (Not saying I thought he was ugly before, just wasnt my type)

[@rubyy2828]

LITERALLY ME

[@mandy1999x]

You wrote it down perfectly, thank you for that! 👏🏼 i couldnt agree more!

[@blackroseindigo]

You’re blind if you don’t see how physically beautiful he is

[@SweeterThanSummer8]

timmys so wholesome im glad hes not trying to be anyone but himself in the spotlight. good on him

[@helenalderson6608]

I discovered this (calling out the awkwardness) about 20 years ago. I found that I felt so much more relaxed when I did. That's always the advice I give when one of my kids when they are worrying about an upcoming interaction. I just tell them to bring that point up first.

[@picturebreakdown]

I’d like to personally give an award to the people who commented “first” to commemorate their stupendous achievement

[@LockhartDan]

Dude, ur WHAT IF and Spider-Man trailer Breakdowns are really well done! Keep it up 👍🏻

[@matthewnegre8736]

A truly remarkable feat.

[@carlatumino6743]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Arry007]

So no one is gonna say that all this is because he has good looks💀

[@lomel1366]

He literally made a ton of good points and analyzed how he acted

[@goblin2713]

pretty privilege is a thing for sure but personally I actually find him a bit unattractive but still very charismatic

[@AlystrZelland]

I must not be awkward Awkwardness is the mind killer Awkwardness is the little death that brings total obliteration I will face my awkwardness I will permit it to pass over me and through me And when it has gone past I will turn the inner twitching eye to see its path Where the awkward has gone there will be nothing Only I will remain.

[@user-vp1ql4hv5b]

That mindset of "if this doesn't work, on to the rest of life" is helping me so much with college exams now, I don't go there to pass everything right away, but to try, and if it doesn't work, on to the next exam.

[@NicolleRoesner]

Calling out the awkwardness is so true! A few years ago, I was running around this very large place and tripped on my feet falling face down on the floor. I got mildly hurt but the embarrassment of falling the way I did was even worse. So I did the only thing I could think of: I turned on my back and started laughing so much because of my clumsiness that people started laughing because I was laughing. None of my friends who were there that day remember what happened, but we all remember a friend who fell down when trying to sit on a chair because she just didn’t call out the awkwardness.

[@sayakchoudhury9711]

Two things, perfect face and talent as an actor. Plus he seems down to earth.

[@Slade69]

Face is 90% of it. If he was a short Indian guy. People would find him creepy or weird

[@andreeab2948]

I dont get why people keep saying that. I remember seeing photos of him before I knew Who he was. I didnt think he was atractive really. In my eys he was skinny, pale and with the face of a baby. Not bad looking necesarly but not atractive either. Then I saw little woman and a few other interviws with him. Now I love him! That was only after I saw him acting, and talking, his attitude and how he carrie himself. He isnt charismatic because he is atractive, became atractive because he îs charismatic.

[@nataliam9764]

His face is nerdy and weird. It isn’t that. He has a presence that is hard to see nowadays.

[@evangelion8793]

I already figured out how to do this from years of complete social shunning and daily panic attacks, I’m insanely proud of it. Still have trouble sometimes but I figured out how to turn it into a charismatic quirk and it’s truly my greatest achievement

[@honeysuckle888]

I think men want alpha males more than we women do. 😂❤️

[@LifeDiaryGedi]

%110!!!

[@lpsfankanr1]

Exactly. Male gaze wants "alpha" males. Female gaze wants authenticity (which can be both in buff, skinny, androgynous etc. dudes).

[@guillermogouldburn763]

Until you need to be protected from some a-hole.

[@maeve4680]

@@guillermogouldburn763 a holes are usually the alphas tho

[@Nikora.Biddle]

It's true tho, men like muscles women usually don't find them as attractive. I think an "Alpha" male is what we men think the perfect man is, so he's gotta have all the sterotypical traits. On the other hand, what women find attractive is completely different to what men find attractive. Good times 😅

[@DemetriPanici]

In college I completely 180'd on my social awkwardness. This challenge honestly helped with that

[@sole__doubt]

Social skills like any skill is something a person learns and the more you challenge yourself, the better you get at it. :)

[@JADNCK]

What challenge?

[@JoeJoe-ri4bv]

@@JADNCK to make a connection with people

[@MelissaNgai]

He just has such a great smile tbh. He got it from his momma and it really makes everything attractive.

[@MrDemodeamo]

admit it guys... the charming face and him realizing that about himself in his acting career and being able to play around , develop it with skills gets the job hundred times easier and done...

[@taylor11111]

huh?

[@foodidecorifashionlfun2104]

Not being afraid to express your genuine emotions is attractive. Timothy does it well. His beautiful face helps as well. Also, being kind and thoughtful.

[@someoneyoumayormaynotknow3924]

1. Be good looking 2. Be number one

[@Lastofhiskind-00]

Be white semen skinned

[@tarabooartarmy3654]

So many of these videos focus on charisma as it relates to dating, but as a very happily married woman, I watch them for help with my career life. I have trouble interviewing and getting heard in my professional life because I’m shy and awkward and I feel my appearance is holding me back.

[@1saleha1]

he also seems so sensitive and smart and that's so attractive he's always so aware of his surroundings

[@citylove47]

he smiles and stares into your soul....that's how he does it

[@evgenivasileuski559]

I'm a male and straight, but I got lil crush on him, he is the first male who can get In my face attractiveness assessment system, 9-9.5/10. I have never seen such an attractive man

[@xoxovallllllllll]

this is true. i remember i once saw a picture of him for the first time and was like" is this really the person ppl are going for?" but when i started watching his films and interviews i understood. he does have a pretty face, but his personality is the main trait that makes him attractive. he always has a smile on his face and the way he is doesnt feel forced. its real, its the real him. since then, everytime i look at a celebrity that acts "cold" and "unapproachable" on purpose, i just cant find them attractive...

[@Al3jajandra]

He’s incredibly genuine

[@1toshi32]

12:15 That has to be the best advice about not feeling embarrassed to talk to a new person I have ever heard. I actually use that bit of common sense when I go out and I don't look or feel my best. I sort of think, no one cares what I look like. I'm never going to see that person or those people ever again so who cares what I look like.

[@z.samari3831]

Bottom line: be yourself and make jokes when you're nervous! That's why our man Chandler was so popular🤣

[@abagaba3723]

his personality is like the smell of a clean car. He’s just fresh and free with sharing his life and feelings. And not to mention but being open minding and humble like him is SO attractive.

[@nadiashafarahmadiena6404]

this helps me so much recovering from my awkward phase. i will try this tip and probably come back later to see if this works or not. thank you so much.

[@mikejh6298]

"if this doesn't go well, on with the rest of my life" can be used in so many situations

[@WeAreAllOneNature]

Be open, positive, genuine and confident.

[@jwernig78]

it amazes me how the most charismatic person currently in existence (matthew mcconaughey) has never been broken down on this channel……. alright alright alright

[@Matt_Nor]

Damn it! You made me say the famous line, haha 😆

[@hitishasharma9854]

what's up with all guys loving MM. Gotta look into that >_>

[@Azarath_Metrion_Zinthos]

I Love Matthew but he's not exactly a pretty boy like Timmy..he still has this macho thingy despite him being slender & having charismatic personality.

[@calebsystem3]

He sounds like a used car salesman to me.

[@svb6594]

😂😂😂😂😂 I see what you did right there!

[@StonedNoob]

0:08 bro that’s a wild thing to say.

[@aiden-zl4iw]

I was anticipating that eight second mark and I wasn’t disappointed

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*Embracing a calm demeanor can create an air of mystery that many find attractive. It's all about finding ways to engage without feeling pressured to fill every silence - subtle gestures and genuine interest can speak volumes!*

[@khalidnoor7735]

"How to turn Awkwardness into attraction" uses Timothy Chalamet as an example 😂😂😂

[@mathikumar491]

haha, yes,

[@cl3x18999]

Lmao...too true

[@Callebravo]

Are you implying there could have been a better example?

[@citlalliojedaflores9277]

🤣❤️

[@mel818]

I'm just wondering when will you make a video about Keke Palmer. She's hilarious, lovely and everyone who knows her in person (including Timothee) just seems to fall in love with her.

[@bree7969]

Yessssss!!!

[@mel818]

@@bree7969 we need it!!

[@bree7969]

@@mel818 We certainly do @Mel! I completely agree lol

[@FangirlJournal]

Charisma On Command should analyze the attraction of Jack Harlow since people are talking about how this doesn't count because Timmy is conventionally attractive. With Jack everyone will admit its his personality and charm that attracts people instead of just looks.

[@matrixug341]

I think they did talk about him

[@Jgarthebeast]

Its called money. If Jack or this guy didnt have it, the chips would not be in their favor.

[@almenajamband9206]

​@@JgarthebeastI disagree. There are plenty of guys that do nothing at all and women are attracted to them. Not sure why. Apparent value isn't always dictated by money, it just kinda helps.

[@MLongPhotography]

I will say one thing that helped me that I imagine has helped Timothee is being involved in theatre. I don’t know how to explain it but you learn these traits from being in live shows. If you mess up, keep going, if you’re doing media for a show, you get practice talking in a professional way, you’re likely around a lot of adults so you end up maturing a lot faster than you normally would being around your own aged peers.

[@amandabarry5315]

During a live cast interview in front of a crowd Dylan O'Brian's chair broke so he made some random noises, then moved the chair and sat down on the ground then joked that he's fine and to keep going. Everyone thought it was hilarious. Confidenfe and charisma is definitely the way to go.

[@Marcus616]

When I fell down a bowling lane at a work Christmas party, I laughed at myself to appear less awkward. I wasn’t charismatic or attractive like Timothy to pull it off. Everyone was embarrassed by me. So the lesson is: be attractive and your awkwardness will be endearing.

[@Octoschizare]

It's like with Aubrey Plaza. If she wasn't attractive nobody would find her awkwardness anywhere near as cute. It the key to her being able to get away with being socially inept.

[@Marcus616]

@@megantvenstrup7687 isn’t the point to appear less awkward by laughing at yourself, how would that come off as less genuine when I’m literally laughing at myself? So, I have to say a funny quip to make it work? My fall was very similar to Timothy’s and when I got up I did say, “Well, I think I’ve had way too much to drink.” There’s my quip. If it was Timothy, I’m sure the crowd would go wild, but I’m sure you’re going to tell me what was wrong on what I did or said with my attempt to deal with my awkwardness.

[@SatieSatie]

It's not just laughing at yourself. That isn't enough. People can immediately sense whether the laugh was laughed by a person with genuine self-confidence who doesn't take himself seriously or by someone who is extremely embarrassed by the whole situation and tries to laugh it off with a red face and nervous eyes.

[@Marcus616]

@@SatieSatie But I’m an awkward person, so please tell me how I’m doing my awkwardness wrong. Of course I’m not confident, I’m awkward, therefore I laughed at myself. So, should I had not even laughed and gotten up embarrassed because I’m not a confident person and my laugh would instantly not be genuine? Help me here! How should I have handled this experience to make me just as endearing as Timothy?

[@23Bandz_]

I would need a video remake of this to judge properly

[@DemetriPanici]

*“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius*

[@JdotCarver]

We read history to not repeat the mistakes of the past.

[@E.W.C.1993]

I don’t know the exact context of that quote but I got a question. I know there’s a difference between a toxic argument and a healthy discussion. How can we settle what “good” is when “good” can be so subjective especially in today’s culture if we just be “good” and never discuss what that implements?

[@dariobarboni9276]

@@E.W.C.1993 Trust your guts. It usually helps.

[@LevelUpYourLife]

This is so interesting! I have always felt somewhat awkward in my life and I really like the tips here. It's important to just embrace yourself and even if you feel awkward just OWN IT and then you suddenly will be able to pass through it and accept yourself, and as you accept yourself then other people will also be more willing to accept you. ❤

[@mixalarhs]

the fact that i got this as a youtube reccomendation says alot.

[@dalenjurgens6751]

I have been stuck in my head over the recent breakup of a friendship. I was so awkward with her that my emotions got the best of me. This video shows me so many ways things could have gone better. Thanks for the video!

[@adventurepantsmcgee]

I laugh and smile a lot when I'm nervous already, but I definitely agree that it's also the awareness and acknowledging that you're being awkward to move past it. Also, when he said that no one cares... 💯💯💯 I need to make the my daily mantra. 😂

[@matrixug341]

Yh, cz you'd think many people would be looking at you or something if anything happens, maybe a shirt stain or something. But honestly not much if not nobody cares really

[@picturebreakdown]

Mad respect for the truly loyal CHARISMA fans who got here early enough to see this

[@Bible_Theory]

Man, you do MARVEL and Star Wars Breakdowns?!😱 so cool

[@AnkitKumar-kk3iw]

"Everyone feels Attracted towards you when you're Famous" - Ankit Kumar

[@JdotCarver]

Wow. Quoting yourself.

[@MrPeryfin]

Who is this guy, he's a genius :O

[@TheSultan1470]

Aaaahahahhahahahhaha

[@g.j]

And when you're good looking .

[@extrashotofespresso_]

I still would’ve found Timothee attractive if he was a random stranger walking down the street. As a matter of fact, I went to college with an Italian dude who looked similar to Tim and I had a crush on him for like 2 years. 😂😂

[@ingridsmith3737]

I didn't like Timothée at first, but after watching some interviews, I felt in love with him! He's so charming and nice, someone who is really nice and eventhought he is awkward, he's so confident. I really love this guy sm!!!!

[@sebeast1]

My broski his smile is magnificent, he isnt just charismatic, hes also a really good looking bloke.

[@Nocomment552]

I’m personally not attracted to him, but he seems like such a positive and fun guy.

[@CaptainFracture]

Nah this ain’t it. He’s literally one of the most good looking actors of our generation. Anyone can do anything awkward and come away charming if they look like him.

[@matteocorti5090]

Yeah you’re right

[@taylan-2170]

But this video isn't about being as attractive as him. He is merely used as an example. The tips given in this video are still a great help to those who are worried about being too awkward in situations. All the points help.

[@RL-fr4hf]

I disagree with you. I'm not saying that appearance doesn't help, but that is NOT what is making these situations not awkward. He could easily have made it awkward if he didn't have the confidence to just roll with it. One of my best friends is very attractive, has an insane jawline, athletic, quite tall, but he's incredibly uncomfortable and awkward with himself. Meanwhile I know unattractive people who can capture the attention of an entire room merely by their words and expressions. I'm telling you, charisma is way more important than looks. However once more, that's not to say that being attractive doesn't help, it definitely does, attractive people are seen as less creepy, they are usually given more chances (which is probably why attractive people are generally more charismatic, along with the difference in confidence between someone attractive and unattractive) etc etc. This is something we can't deny, but charisma is still king.

[@foxsmith770]

Exactly if he wasn't so good looking people would not get over how awkward he is.

[@ryankuppan8863]

Also he’s white and young so the media love him

[@helloworld7818]

Because he has a really sensitive face, he expresses emotion really good, he's like a guy from an anime cartoon. And he is really handsome but not in a masculine way.

[@amosamwig8394]

its funny how I already did some of these things, like calling the awkwardness out, its a big help to carry you trough the convo

[@Hifirrrr]

The mindset "if this doesn't workout them on to the rest of life" is everything you need.

[@matthewnegre8736]

Step 1. Be attractive Edit: also he's also how I found out women are just as creepy over young celebrities lol

[@sanu7325]

Guys like you need to be stopped people are here insecure and anxious and they are trying to improve and they see a comment like yours bringing back there anexity and insecurity please stop

[@gregoris297]

@@sanu7325 It’s true though, sadly attractive people have a subconscious advantage in life.

[@matthewnegre8736]

@@sanu7325 literally the only person I've seen on the internet to not get that reference lmao

[@matthewnegre8736]

@@gregoris297 no no no, Sanu is right. clearly nobody has ever treated someone differently simply because they were attractive. that'd be absurd! (/s in case someone misses this one too 🤡)

[@sanu7325]

F people who who treat attractive people better ,think about the the people who are trying to improve ,this channel is about improving becoming your best you can be and your comment doesn't help with that it brings people down (sure this needs to be discussed but not where people are trying to improve )

[@IsraeliDino]

7:24 "By calling himself out, he let's the awkwardness move through him, so that he can go right back to looking her in the eye." "I must not fear awkwardness. Fear of awkwardness is the charisma-killer. Fear of awkwardness is the little-personality-death that brings total conversation obliteration. I will face my awkwardness. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past, I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear of awkwardness has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain."

[@erikdellson8939]

The Litany Against Awkwardness

[@IzayoiMeiHigu]

He is natural cute, because he irradiates humility and positivity (and he is awesomely hot )

[@jewelcopeland8440]

He has so many accomplishments that he can laugh and enjoy. He can be proud and confident of his career yet be shy.. good advice don't assume negative intent great advice

[@solei-solei6396]

This video makes me realize how attractive I am in awkward situations. Thanks buddy

[@Khadeejye]

I met timothee chalamet two days ago and I still can’t comprehend it ❤️

[@archivez101]

Where’d you meet him

[@cesarebachelli]

Dude is socially matured at such young age of 20s. I was still trying to figure out how to come off likeable/warm at that age

[@heatherbukowski2102]

hard same

[@tarimarvelfan2767]

bro timothée is also very phyically attractive. you gotta keep in mind that being physically beautiful is such an upgrade.

[@Grizzly_6623]

One of my favorite things about myself is being, looks wise, whatever the polar opposite of what ole Timmy looks like. I never have to deal with women wanting me it’s so freeing!

[@DanSung2021]

12:43 it’s similar with many things, like how someone who is open to being and feeling anxious will feel less anxious than someone who rejects and rejects feeling anxious just because they don’t like the challenges it brings

[@alexisgs8800]

The faces we make in reaction to awkwardness, fear, shame, etc. is programmed and automatic. Most people have no control over it unless they work hard to try to program a different reaction way in advance, and even then I'm unsure how much of it we can really change. When our mind thinks we're in danger, it turns to fight-flight-freeze, where it's all about survival. When that happens, our personnality becomes very basic and instinctual.

[@paulineanery]

#7 is the one I really need to work on.. I always find myself overthinking how conversations should be and stress about how it might turn out.

[@jessicascott6118]

These videos are so amazing and have helped me parent my kids better.

[@dexdzll6427]

I think his acting school background really made it so much easier for him to own up to his awkwardness and make it look cool.

[@HeedfulGibbon]

High asf talking too much i will talk myself into awkward moments thus making me talk more.. my trigger is when i get comfortable I go too deep or personal and the person either doesn’t feel confident and aware or doesn’t know how to reply.