Charity Can't Take Xavier to the Fantasy Suite - The Bachelorette

[@goflolo]

You can tell Charity put her therapist skills on display here. She navigated through those hard questions flawlessly and didn’t let Xavier get away with it. She’s grace personified but sharp as a tack. I love her ❤️ she’s been an amazing bachelorette this season!

[@tmbrad1288]

Then why is she telling more than one man she’s in love with them a week before proposals???

[@azizz5178]

@@tmbrad1288this is the point of the show honey

[@jenniferhansen3622]

​@@tmbrad1288In this show, it's not unusual.

[@iseerightthrucapandbullcra1134]

@@tmbrad1288 first time watching hun?

[@qusan]

They used to wait until the final rosé ceremony to tell the “winner” they loved them. It’s okay to say “I’m falling …” but It’s just gonna to be sad when one of the person she “loves”gets sent home. I don’t like it.

[@jwsm2]

I love how strong, assertive, to the point Charity was.Xavier can give an answer only after going to the fantasy suite is a big red flag.Good for Charity saying its not happening bye.

[@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343]

And I also appreciate she didn’t shame him for the honesty and that she didn’t want to force him to get there if he wasn’t there while also being like I’m not settling. You have to go.

[@jackiebenjamin8772]

​@@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343 I get the impression, him coming to the show was for one thing. Play the game see if it takes him to the final four and get to go to bed with her. He had a plan but the Lord had a máster plan, that he had to show himself.

[@zumbawitharachelchel5078]

​@@jackiebenjamin8772agree .

[@tjh4115]

I felt his response was disrespectful. like, he can only say for sure if she performs sexually the way he likes it? I mean, very coersive. not cool.

[@nellywanjiku6290]

Assumptions, assumptions, assumptions.

[@momoats]

Charity is so emotionally intelligent and mature it's going to take someone on her level of maturity. She won't take bs.. 👏👏

[@Nikzcyn]

Xavier is not ready to commit 100%!! Charity was right all along. Trust your instinct ladies!

[@laremabella]

He showed his true colours. I knew eventually they'd come out. You can spot a player miles off when you've been played by one. He was even giving her warnings of who he is which means he has no plans of changing! What a toxic guy. He could never appreciate charities beauty, internal or external. And the fact he had the audacity to demand from her that "I need to see more" shows what he's about and how little he thinks of her. He's clearly just use to sexing women. Avoid this kind of man always!

[@Patriot_Lady1776]

What does Xavier need to see??? How sad. He feels he's going to miss out on his boy's trips.

[@zumbawitharachelchel5078]

Charity is so eloquent, mature and emotionally intelligent. All the words she said were perfect that Xavier just had to agree too, in the end. What a POS in her mind but her words were all not berating him still. Just emphasized the loyalty she deserved. Bravo Charity 👏👏

[@HollandHouseTravels]

She’s the best!! All people in this role going forward need to be like her! Her character is impeccable and her awareness of self and others is next level. I’m a regular watcher but this has been my favorite season no doubt!

[@machodgdon]

I genuinely couldn’t believe what I was witnessing. While we have had over the top villains before what Xavier did was subtle but genuinely insane

[@sharleenmagetto5051]

The look on his face says it all. He is not into her

[@iseerightthrucapandbullcra1134]

Oh he’s into her! he’s just not into a commitment

[@momoats]

Wow... so you're saying I don't trust myself to not cheat on you and put in the work to make this relationship work? How will spending a night together change that? Dude bye..

[@nellywanjiku6290]

It's not 'spending the night' 😢. The show is fashioned that way. Probably all he wanted to do was talk it out.

[@joycechikelue4274]

BYE!

[@joycechikelue4274]

BYE dude

[@precooked-bacon]

@@nellywanjiku6290 LOL so sad, you would have fell for it. You would have gotten dumped the next day and left with nothing but a wet behind.

[@dom7345]

​@@nellywanjiku6290you're joking right lol

[@lornaleelyn4431]

PROUD OF YOU CHARITY LAWSON!! Don't SETTLE!

[@CreativeGaze_]

Xavier only told Charity about the cheating to get out of an engagement if he ends up winning. I don't think he's ever been serious about her.

[@nicoleyulan3790]

I BELIEVE YOURE RIGHT. He was never mature enough for her. We all saw it.

[@mizzum478]

"I want to see more"... like her body? How will that help him see longevity and loyalty???

[@lilbrowngirlwithlocs4038]

🙄RIGHT. BOY BYE!

[@holly_wood26]

Charity is fair. Lot of women saying cheating is a deal breaker and say bye! She's asking how has he changed, what has he learned and how does he deal with temptation and so on. That's a very mature and adult reaction. Charity communicative and you can see her counseling skills in this. Charity is a great Bachelorette. She reminds me of Trista, the OG! I hope whoever she picks, they're in love and happy and for who she doesn't pick (Dotun or Joey), I wish them the best too.

[@mizzum478]

Sorry, cheating is a dealbreaker. It's a character flaw. You lack respect for yourself and others

[@themysticwarriorgal9465]

The women that say cheating is a deal breaker and say bye is just as if not more emotionally intelligent for respecting their boundary and not going against their personal belief. As charity said shes no factory for how to build a man. No woman is and women that play the "i can fix him" card are women i personally dont want to be around. His response to wanting to see more is a testiment to my intense respect for women that dont tolerate cheating.

[@denisecox3125]

You forget..she slept with another guy the night before…so self righteous be damned🩷

[@antoinejohnson1628]

Why did he wait so long all the way up till now to tell her he cheated in the pass you should’ve told her that when y’all went on y’all first 1 on 1 date clearly he’s not ready for marriage I’m glad she saw past him & sent him home she seem so hurt & shock that that even came out of his mouth he could’ve even told her on last week episode when she went visited his family in his hometown my advice is this if you not ready for Marriage & to be fully committed to one person then don’t go on the show

[@karibu1361]

Exactly! It's was clear to me, early on that Xavier was running game...He was my least favorite of final 4. I noticed he received a bad edit this season...From what I observed, he was never really interested in Charity & was along for the ride! ... His true colors came out in Fiji... Luckily for Charity, they did... Can you believe he actually wanted to go to the fantasy suite to see more!! ... Really??? ... How dare he?

[@thefleming7950]

Exactly

[@michellearzu]

“ who Charity Lawson is in 2023” ….. I was like you go girl…. I’m going to start using that line

[@sbusisiweshaba1715]

Me too.

[@ChesterBwifey]

Me three

[@mercyapolot7757]

She is so assertive, I LOVE HER.

[@jackiebenjamin8772]

Is he saying that he has to spend the night in a bed with her to see more. Is that why he came to the show???? Did he make a bet with his friends????

[@mgc1022]

Yeah I don't trust any guy who emphasizes the importance of sex in a relationship, especially when starting out. Like for me the emotional foundation has to be there first. Plus what if the sex is bad? She was right to call him out

[@meredithparkins4379]

I was dumbfounded😮. I knew Xavier had voiced some doubts, but what we saw last night was the 2 faces of him: Xavier, the highly intelligent professional working on a PHd with a sensitive side juxtaposed with a player who could not be sure he count on himself not to cheat without spending the night with her in the Fantasy Suite and what that means.

[@tjh4115]

Right answer, CHarity. Right answer. I think this is the healthiest bachelorette I've ever seen. YOU GO GIRL>

[@chrishenry7303]

She knows what she's about and will not settle for anything less. She also used her therapist training to figure him out. He was just talking in circles. Most intelligent bachelorette I have seen in a long while.

[@tjh4115]

@@chrishenry7303 i forgot she is a therapist. makes a lot of sense.

[@francinefrancine381]

She's the smartest BACHELORETTE ! No offense to Rachel Lindsey Abasolo.

[@tjh4115]

@@francinefrancine381 Yes, no offense to anyone else. just facts.

[@atomictiger4]

Are you kidding? Bro, she was way too nice

[@80sports20]

So odd. He's getting a PhD but yet can't let go of this "playa" mentality. You have a great woman in front of you, so how is it that he can't commit to being faithful? I just don't understand this "playa" mentality. Why join a show to find marriage if that's your mindset?

[@precooked-bacon]

Lol him getting a PHD means nothing depending on the community he's from. Just overgrown boys.

[@sydneygray2713]

Honestly there were a lot of guys I went to college with that Xavier reminded me of - super decorated academically but deep down they were an entire menace when it came to women/relationships lmao

[@wsidegurl6631]

She made the right decision

[@אביגיללויץ]

When until now they seem perfect and then it all makes sense why they are single.. aka him

[@marysketch4772]

He will literally do that his whole life. Until or unless he finds some mean girl who keeps him in line.

[@_ladiosanegra]

no girl is going to keep him in line he will keep trying to exploit women sexually and blame them for him cheating on them

[@amandax2298]

“I need to see more”?!?!?!? Wtf does he mean by that? I interpreted it as basically him wanting to see if they have sexual compatibility when I’m like bitch after you said all that you really think Charity wants to spend the night with you?!?!? He’s delulu

[@ninasamone87]

“He’s delulu”…🤣🤣😂🤣

[@mybeloveth825]

He can't handle her she way to mature for him...

[@shawbrothersgirl2740]

It's so sad how she chose him over Aaron thank God Aaron came back

[@nicoleyulan3790]

I’ve been saying this for SOOOO LONG. He’s NOT mature enough!!!

[@nicoleyulan3790]

@@shawbrothersgirl2740that was A BIG MISTAKE. Choosing Xavier over Aaron.

[@kasiakrzoska1647]

Charity is straight up THE BEST Bachelorette. FIYAHHH

[@exnihilonihilfit6316]

Either short memory, or you've just watched the last few seasons. Go watch the first few seasons... better people all around, not just the B-ette. Like a different reality.

[@jking-]

😂

[@RubyRedRobot]

That guy isn’t it. He doesn’t even look excited to be with her lol 😂

[@judithmais4643]

Xavier, l am so disappointed 😞 in you, you really let me down. I had high hopes for you! I can only imagine how Charity felt!!!😮😢😢

[@mariettaking]

Me too, I believe she had true feelings for him.

[@kimberlychristmas-lee3868]

She was falling for him and willing to fight for him but he wasn’t

[@patriciagrisoni3827]

Good for you Charity! Don’t settle! I admire you girl! You’ve up the ante of not putting up with nonsense like this! Rule the world beautiful! You got this! ♥️♥️♥️

[@nicoleyulan3790]

This guy Xavier was a walking RED FLAG from the moment I saw him! 👀🙄😑 why couldn’t Charity see that for herself??? She wasted SO MUCH time on this low life excuse of a dude!!

[@oromtitiwbo5078]

Charity wasted her entire season focussing on F boys, then not having time to know the good guys and letting them go. How many times did men like Xavier and Brayden tell her they "can't committ"..."can't see a proposal"..."can't promise her anything"... Yet she heard that and translated it to "I love you I will marry you instantly and spend forever together"... The actual men who took her serious like Aaron, Sean, Tanner...she paid zero attention to. There are many women like this and they are orchestrating their own pain by liking bad men. Charity needs to heal to understand why she is attracted to men who don't want her and will treat her poorly, while men who do like her and will treat her well are right infront of her.

[@JoelleChaney]

Was he suggesting that she would have to sleep with him before he could decide if she was good enough???

[@oromtitiwbo5078]

Yes

[@mizzhelloo]

Yes. He needed to see if they were “sexually compatible”.

[@mgc1022]

I cannot trust guys that think like that. My first ex was willing to give me a one-year deadline (even the idea of a deadline makes me squirm) but otherwise couldn't wait much longer. Like excuse me, you think it will take exactly one year of dating for me to have trust for you??

[@CBrown-cn3bs]

Good for you Ms. Charity! 🥰

[@HyunlixHearts]

Charity is so smart and navigated through that well. I’m proud of her. It’s sad that a man took advantage of her sweet nature for 6 whole years.

[@carlene3773]

This is the best season I ever watched this girl is off the charts and I have watched this show for years and years she knows what she wont

[@JuLayLeeBee]

You go Charity!

[@missgemini1853]

That hair flip and stare down 😍 yeeeesssss queen!

[@BitterSweetCoffee3]

"How to seduce with knitting and cheat on them 101"

[@sageblue8155]

🤣🤣🤣

[@GeraldineTherese-k7j]

Charity girl u make me proud of your strength. Standing your ground. No ne be it woman r man should have to spend time in a bedroom to know how the other person feels about him or her. Your values is gm awesome. Xavier have his system and that’s his right but at the end of the day it’s Charity’s choice and I did great. Best luck girl😊😊😊

[@chocolatemami3956]

Xavier jus wasted this woman’s time😒

[@milwaukeemotor5995]

"that has to happen tonight, i need to see more"... in order to have no doubt but 100% certainty, and then

[@laurenweigle9459]

This is what a boy looks like! He wheeled and dealed her to get to this point. Wanted to get to the fantasy suite to sleep with her and then say he wasn’t ready for an engagement! Dude bye

[@herauthenticself7749]

Xavier really made knitting look like a red flag i hate it here.

[@oc2538]

She's crying, he's sitting there cold as ice. In his heart he doesn't have doubt follower by BUT in my mind. Your mind has to be set before your heart. You need to know who you are, your values, morals and integrity. He has none from what he has said. She wanted reassurance from a man who is morally not concerned with being faithful. To him marriage qnd commitment is a trap. It isn't an answer doesn't need a whole lot of thought.

[@peapodsaunt]

Soooo he just said in order to be fully committed, he needs to sleep with her first? Is that I’m reading out of that?? Ugh bye boy! ✌🏼

[@atomictiger4]

I think Joey is the best..also the fact she brought the other guy back for the final three is ridiculous…and also Xavier is an utterly horrible asshole. Like the “I need to see more” made me so mad…like bro…wtf

[@brownsugarglamour]

She had tooooooo much PATIENCE!

[@jenniferhansen3622]

She's a therapist so I think that helped her stay patient.

[@oromtitiwbo5078]

She was practically begging him to say he wont cheat and will try to stay faithful. That is a terrible thing to do. Another type of player would completely lie to her and get the fantasy suit just to sleep together. Then cheat and dump her later. She needs to focus on putting herself first rather than begging for love and respect from the wrong type of men.

[@_ladiosanegra]

@@oromtitiwbo5078 she didnt beg she held her own and sent him in the trash 🧿

[@brownsugarglamour]

@@oromtitiwbo5078 I can certainly appreciate you sharing your opinion

[@oromtitiwbo5078]

@@_ladiosanegra She asked him about 20 ways to say he wont cheat on her. He still couldn't say it. You don't beg a man to tell you he wont cheat on you.

[@kasiakrzoska1647]

I swear if she doesn't end up with Dotun I will be HEARTBROKEN

[@jking-]

She don't deserve dotun

[@geri1089]

No matter who she ends up with, it won’t last !!

[@jking-]

@@geri1089 👍

[@francinefrancine381]

​@@jking- Can you explain PLEASE ⁉️

[@jking-]

@@francinefrancine381 she for the streets

[@CharTownes]

She is An amazing young woman!!

[@tmbrad1288]

The people on this show fall wayyy too fast for people they barely even know. This is codependency at its finest.

[@renatangaiza7775]

😂😂😂😂

[@nogobelieve]

I watch this when I need a good laugh.

[@mamashabana1732]

Not the knitting guy!😢

[@Delilah25]

I love Charity ..she is so wise ...

[@Chanelnumber7394]

Charity tried to be his therapist here so glad he is gone the guy literally had 🚩 all over from day one

[@truthfullytiggy5860]

Chile……

[@Joediann]

Send him home.

[@ahmadturner-el7id]

He sure screwed this up bad!

[@miriamcraig5142]

Darn girl u the best ❤I admire you

[@CarlaNichols-s3q]

She did the right thing

[@zahirah200]

He sounded like a low dirty dog and he wants to see more in the bedroom that is disgusting and it is making my stomach turn that she kept that player around for so long. Very difficult understand that 🤢

[@jacquelinefickis1734]

I don’t think Charity and Xavier are good for each other and yes it is a red flag 😮

[@mythoughts6229]

Well said Charity! You go girl! This man has no respect for her nor he has any clue what he wants. He is just a mess!

[@judithmais4643]

How did we get here Xavier? Why didn't this come up before?

[@exnihilonihilfit6316]

What do you mean?

[@jessiemosiyoa4808]

He was supposed to tell her right in the beginning. He showed his true color he was not there for Charity

[@thefleming7950]

Way before now. He made it all the way to Fiji 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️.

[@judithmais4643]

@@exnihilonihilfit6316 So who is the True Villain here??? Brayden or Xavier?

[@judithmais4643]

@@exnihilonihilfit6316 I hope you understand that a man who has a cheating history should have brought this up earlier in the relationship 😕😔😕 Give the other party a choice to continues the relationship or more on!!! He took a spot from another man, who had good intentions when he was still wrestling with morals, communication and social skills!!!

[@valeriejohnson8771]

You know when a man is seriously devoted to you. It all depends on a man’s values, how he has been socialized by his environment. I never had to ask my husband that question. Knowing that this is a reality show, and the process is very fast, I can see why this question would crop up. His answer was so cringey. Ugh!!

[@JessAnonymous]

He tried to pull a Brayden & it backfired eeek oh no baby

[@HyunlixHearts]

That was so scummy of him. Really disappointed in Xavier- i totally fell for the knitting and the career choice story. Charity did great

[@cherrydreams777]

someone please tell me what the name of the instrumental in the background is 😩😭

[@Angelo20262]

Ladies beware.. the traits in this man is one of needing to be “won over” lol it’s kind of funny. It appears he believes himself to be the prize to be sought after and won, when Charity is obviously the prize. Women let’s behave in a way that demonstrates we are the prize! No one gets you unless proven their worthiness having fought for a place in your heart.

[@LauraLParr]

That’s selfishness that’s showing up for yourself

[@valeriesantos8178]

Early-on he appeared as not yet having grown up, as a boy w/play still in him, not maturity. Why is he even on the show?

[@shawbrothersgirl2740]

To get on Bachelor in Paradise because he will be on there that's the reason most of them come on there including Brayden

[@valeriesantos8178]

Bachelor in Paradise makes sense but he’s not even ready for that bc the women there are looking for exclusive love. It was sad to see him get picked over the 2 mature guys

[@luckyfair5174]

Has he do he has too many doubts you need to let him go because if he was to get with him you wouldn't make it

[@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343]

I don’t think Xavier is a bad person. He’s definitely willing to admit his mistakes and hold himself accountable. But again, it’s very clear they’re not on the same page here. If you’re not like Bryan from Rachel’s season and you’re not absolutely certain in what you want and what you have, then you have to do the honorable thing and now out. At least he’s gone now and Dotun is still there.

[@faitaccompli3350]

Sorry but how is he not a bad guy? He needs to sleep with her to make up his mind? As if 95% of men don’t orgasm and only 33% of women do? What does he need to test out the goods for? He just wants to soil and claim her and then dispose of her like all the other bad guys of the world.. he’s a disgrace for wasting her time. I’m just shocked he told her; his only redeeming quality.

[@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343]

@@faitaccompli3350 The reason I say he's not is because he 1. admitted to his mistakes, 2. is upfront about his boundaries and 3. Isn't being an ass about not being on the same page like Luke P. That doesn't mean I agree with anything he's saying. I think it's very tacky overall to need to sleep with someone to know "more" as he says.

[@faitaccompli3350]

@@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343 good point!

[@jenniferhansen3622]

​@@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343It's very tacky for both women and men to think they need to sleep together before a commitment. I absolutely cringe when people say "you need to test drive the car before buying" when talking about intimacy. Whatever happened to marriage first and learning together? It's so much more special and beautiful that way.❤❤

[@sophieamandaleitontoomey9343]

@@jenniferhansen3622 Because it's not realistic. If that's what you believe in and want for yourself, fine. But it's unrealistic. And I never said it's tacky for Xavier to want physical intimacy before committing. It's tacky for him to imply that he "needs to see more" and that he doesn't want to try to be with Charity based on what she has given him and vice versa. THAT is tacky because it shows you just want physical intimacy rather than emotional and mental.

[@MJMonroe]

Xavier broke her heart.

[@_ladiosanegra]

not at all shes more in love with dotun and the white guy hes easily forgotten about

[@AbigaillOwusu]

I’ve been telling y’all he’s just not that into her. He likes her but not enough to wife her

[@patriciaelea9142]

Well he just wanted the trips then got to Fiji oh I gotta cut this relationship. Bow he comes off as a mmmm. Go Charity

[@adshar20000]

He needs to see more????

[@jking-]

He wants to see dat scoochie

[@yadirareal2984]

😂😂😂

[@_ladiosanegra]

exactly 😹

[@JessAnonymous]

Smh all that knitting and he STILL like this?! Just WOW!!!

[@feefs2139]

I dont watch these corny shows. I just clicked because she's absolutely beautiful lol.

[@JohnJohnson-hl4fv]

You know Xavier is a male not a man because a man would have made it to the Fantasy Suite.

[@animemangaluv13]

Period!!!!

[@butterfly11222]

He tried it! He just trying to do the nasty. 😒😒

[@animemangaluv13]

He needs a rocket home a ticket to therapy

[@Nadia.Edwards]

What did he expect???

[@dorothytaylor1852]

A real cheater confess.

[@atomictiger4]

Also, she keeps telling all of them she loves them…which they are specifically discouraged from doing…

[@mushtaaqahmed2466]

Bye men I was high hope this men

[@brendafaithful8267]

So, it's not okay for him to do what he did BUT it's okay for her to climb in bed with the other guys???

[@beverlynoelle6941]

Ughh… maybe because she’s on a TV show they all signed up for and all of the other guys KNOW she’s dating other people. Someone who cheats on their partner is being SNEAKY and doing it behind their partner’s backs. And the partner usually doesn’t know until AFTER.

[@rickybrown8552]

AHH it's all FAKE

[@ladykat16]

😳😳😳😳😳

[@atomictiger4]

I’m so confused, why is everyone acting like she wasn’t being a frustrating pushover this whole part of the date…?

[@rickybrown8552]

LOL

[@JohnJohnson-hl4fv]

What's with this "My person" ? Back in my day it was this is "My man" or "My woman" not this woke lingo.

[@jking-]

She always crying 😭 🥴 Xavier Dodge a bullet

[@denisecox3125]

Let’s be honest….who wants to marry anyone that just slept with two other men and hung all over 10 others? Male or female I don’t want the herpes and viruses. Thats why this scientist is running away, no,sharing future spouses. Ugh🖤

[@shelleycharlesworth5177]

I think several couples have spent the night in the fantasy suite and NOT had sex. They could have done that!

[@warrenmcfarlane5679]

She made the right decision