Charli D'Amelio: Hard Truths

Things look a bit different around here! We’re super excited to show you our rebrand that we’ve been working on! From a studio revamp to getting Taylor (fully) on the cover art and more, The Squeeze is growing up! To help show off the new look, your hosts are joined by TikTok queen Charli D’Amelio. To have someone with her level of visibility (she rocks a casual 151.2 million followers on TikTok alone) speak about her mental health is going to impact the next generation in incredible ways. She joins the Lautners to discuss her anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, and trichotillomania, which causes her to pull out her hair. She shares the tools she has in place to manage her mental health, how she keeps a sense of normalcy in her life despite her level of fame, and what you can expect from this challenging season of The D’Amelio Show.
00:00 Intro + rebrand!
06:55 Welcome Charli
08:05 History of anxiety, panic attacks, OCD, and trichotillomania
13:00 Cutting out caffeine
15:13 Dixie’s non-epileptic seizures
20:13 Tools in place to help her anxiety
27:05 Managing instant fame
29:08 Winning DWTS
34:00 How she keeps a sense of normalcy in her life
36:05 Something she misses from before the fame
38:18 Finding quality friendships
45:25 Constant cameras following her for The D’Amelio Show
50:58 Season 3 of The D’Amelio Show
52:30 Lemon 11
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[@coletteking45]

i can’t believe just 2 years ago i barely knew much about charli but just assumed she was a brat because that’s what everyone in social media thought. after watching DWTS and this episode i am 100% fully a charli fan. she is an incredible intellectual and so well spoken, not just for her age but as a human in general. i hope more people get to see this true representation of her because she is honestly a beautiful human.

[@coqttdiaries]

@@Kigoz4Lifeur weird!!!you obviously don’t want your contact

[@izzy_bell_0_0]

​@@Kigoz4Lifemaybe of the great dancer she is? Or what a kind human she is? Haters gonna hate babe, but try to hate for yourself alone, cuz nobody really needs that energy

[@daniellerose1114]

​@h34rtsforlivie if you don't like her then unfollow this podcast. We have enough negative people like you in the world

[@Raven90lovegood]

Me too I thought of another Kardashian family. Man was I sooooo wrong. Thank you DWTS for helping me find this amazing person ❤

[@Starbuxlvr1313]

Her struggles are so so relatable! We never ever know what people are dealing with! Being a kind person costs nothing!! 💜💜

[@theloudhouse122]

Agreed

[@nopenopenopenopenopers]

Not relatable at all. I'm not a multimillionaire who can stay home in bed when I'm sad. I have to work every day.

[@kehem.me123]

Don't invalidate her feelings for ur sake. Yes that she is rich and has money but doesn't take away from the fact that she's still a human with feelings that goes through things. I'm sorry u have to go thru that but don't compare ur situation with someone else cuz everyone has their own problems.

[@Starbuxlvr1313]

@@nopenopenopenopenopers wow!! I’m so glad I’m not close minded like you are! All the money in the world doesn’t make anxiety or depression disappear!! If you have never struggled with it then I’m so happy for you but putting someone down like this is sickening! Being sad is far different than living with thoughts of not wanting to be on this earth anymore!

[@DogMomKT]

@@nopenopenopenopenopersdid u have to do it when you were 15? Cuz that’s when she started

[@tiamarrow6366]

I loved how they discussed that Charli did not have anything simply handed to her. One of the common things that people say about her, is that she’s a “pretty, privileged spoiled white girl who got famous from making videos” and I find that to be disrespectful towards Charli because she never asked for the life that she currently lives, and for the life she was living before all of this fame. She never forced or demanded for anyone to watch her, she was just having fun with making videos and so many people found her TikToks and started watching them. So many people love to hate on her for all of that, when we’re the ones who choose to watch her, and give her a platform….she’s also not a cocky person and she is very humble to. She definitely did her thing on DWTS, because although most people especially her haters already knew that she was gonna win…..DWTS isn’t a show that’s just so easy to win, you actually have to be in the dance room all day and rehearse which can take hours and most people don’t even realize that Charli has always been a dancer. When she was much younger, she did dance competitions and there’s still a few videos of her dancing like that on KZbin but of course every dancer is different and has different flexibility and technique levels. I truly believe that most of the hate comes from jealousy and envy, of people who want Charli’s life but who don’t realize that this level of fame….comes at a cost, a cost of not a lot of privacy and so much bullying and criticism. Yes Charli isn’t perfect and she’s obviously made some mistakes in the past…..but so have all of us, none of us are perfect we’re only human. It’s okay to make mistakes, as well as you’re learning from them and bettering yourself because hating on someone and bullying someone for it…..not okay.

[@karenradach7551]

I didn’t understand why she became so popular on tiktok, other than people objectifying her. She’s a beautiful girl and a talented dancer. I love hearing her talk intellectually like this. I think so much of it just comes from growing up. She did amazing on dancing with the stars and I hope she keeps pursuing her craft and not what she thinks people want to see. Authenticity is the best and it’s so hard to own when you have a world telling you what you should and shouldn’t be.. good for her

[@miamore965]

@@Kigoz4Life you know nothing about how this works. they boost everyone's profile on every platform if they think they have potential thats how it works they didn't admit that we know it from the start.

[@miamore965]

@@Kigoz4Life this is a lie. its called algorithm. if you didn't know it thats on you. that is quite literally how it works tho so its always been known

[@guadalupejararodriguez1295]

Her story is exactly like mine (minus the tiktok stuff), I also have ADHD and just found out I'm also autistic. As a woman, it is hard to be diagnosed, and It pains me that we all had to go thru hard times. Send everyone a huge hug 🫂

[@jeffreybaker724]

Im proud of you for being so honest charli. I know that takes alot courage but just remember that your story can help other people struggling and its ok to talk about it.

[@RudeOptics]

Sounds like AUTISM and / or ADHD. It's way more common than people realize, and women tend to get misdiagnosed. I was diagnosed at 40 even though I was tested since kindergarten. Once I had the explanation, it helped put all those years of anxiety and panic into perspective, and now I'm thriving.

[@kasm1712]

It's terrifying at first but like all the pieces start to fall into place and you can clearly see what was missed all those years. Great to hear you are doing better😊

[@leeannekilgore9477]

Charli, is an absolute gorgeous soul and such a blessing to have on this earth.

[@kylieraynor7152]

She’s so well spoken for her age! Such a great episode!

[@kehem.me123]

I had no idea she had trichotillomania, that such an eye opener cuz I would have never expected that. Wow I'm glad she spoke on it cuz many others could relate to her.

[@valeryxhs]

something about charlie voice is so comforting and the things she said was sooo relatable . she’s so sweet and well spoken. may God bless her and you both 🫶🏼

[@rileynewton7196]

That Rebrand is EVERYTHING ✨

[@jeniferfrabetti1941]

This episode was so eye opening for me, to relate to the sames struggles of anxiety, Taylor your own struggle with the eyelashes hit me because i do go through with that but with nails, and i blame myself so much, it definitely made me look with a more gentle view. Ahh you guys are perfect doing all that, loving it!

[@denisegreene8441]

My mum taught us about seizures as children. I remember walking downtown with my family and this man in front of us fell to the ground had proceeded to have a grand Mal seizure. My mum was the only one who ran to help him. She instructed my dad how to roll him to his side and placement of arms and legs to help keep him on his side. A crowd grew around us and finally he came to just after the ambulance / paramedics arrived. He had smacked his head when he hit the sidewalk so he needed stitches etc. I was 9 years old and it has never left me and I remember being so proud of my mum. It's so important to know how to react if something happens around you. It is just as important as learning how to use an AED. Everyone should have at least basic first aid knowledge.

[@kehem.me123]

Knowing charli and watching her since she was 15 yr old who first blew up on tiktok, she's genuinely SO strong. I remember when she hit 100mil and everyone turned on her for a mistake a normal 16 yr old would make. That live literally broke me, how ppl treated this poor girl and still do makes me so upset for her. And I also wanna say how proud I am of her for getting herself thru that and still going today with a smile on her face is not easy. I hope she realises how inspiring and strong she is. I love her she's such a sweet, cute girl

[@Lidiapozo98]

I'm so happy to see this channel grow. Thank you for giving visibility to mental health issues and taking your time to educate your viewers! As a psychologist, I wish there were more shows in this platform like this one. Good job girl Tay!

[@liliphdr]

I am obsessed with this new set up!! Those green chairs omg😍 and the wood in the back!! Looks amazing!!! Love the intro+cover art too! Also the episode was great! I really wish Charli the best, she seems such a sweet, genuine person, she deserves all the love!

[@katieeckler7543]

Off topic but I just love that you guys say “girl tay” since you’re both Taylor. My best friend is Cam and she dates a guy named cam. We call him “man cam”. Love you guys and love Charli! Great video with great perspective.

[@tommib3934]

I suffer with the same hair pulling disorder and it’s frustrating. I’m so happy to hear that I’m not the only one who deals with it! I would love to know how you guys lessened your habit! Thanks for sharing with us!

[@lenalenabobena]

Girl Tay, I'm a bit older than you and was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 12. Growing up, there was so much stigma and misinformation about ADHD in girls/women and taking medication. I hope you will share some of your journey of learning about your own symptoms. The fact that you achieved academic success and completed nursing school unmedicated is something I'm so interested to hear about. I think my life would have turned out much differently without "early" diagnosis, due to test anxiety being a really big issue for me. Edit: This was a great interview. Didn't know much about Charli before this but I have huge respect for opening up about mental health! Very cool.

[@paritoshhazra1974]

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[@kianakipp5816]

I am so happy that there is more and more conversation happening about different forms of Trichotillomania. I struggle/d with plucking my eyelashes and eyebrows too! ❤

[@aphen3648]

Oooo I'm LOVING the new videos/picture rebrands

[@kaitlynsmith4162]

Love the rebrand!! This episode was so very sweet 💛

[@nicoleprocopio9104]

omg you guys NAILED the rebrand! Congrats. Also, GREAT interview. Love you!

[@elenarowe3642]

What a great convo!! I could relate to Charli's struggles with finding quality friends and opening up.

[@urgirladdy.]

thank you for this! i love her so much and the new season of damelio show is so great ❤

[@imjustanasshlesometimes3488]

I've had horrible anxiety for as long as I can remember. I was finally diagnosed with ADHD less than 2:yrs ago... In my 30s. Being medicated for my ADHD really helped my anxiety. I was in a constant state of overwhelm. I recently lost my mom who was my everything. I have a 2 yr old and 3 yr old.... They kick my ass daily.... But without my mom, I feel so much more overwhelmed, exhausted and just sad. Recently got into therapy and praying that it'll help. Because of my boys, I force myself to do my makeup every day, force myself to get out of the house daily even if it's a quick errand. I don't want my boys to suffer because of my issues.

[@rissaari]

The rebrand looks AMAZING! I love the intro and the wall and chairs. So good 🍋

[@abbywenger2328]

I have never related SO MUCH to a podcast!!! I also have severe anxiety and adhd and I am trying to work on not saying I dont know all the time because its something I do all the time...

[@user-qj3qg1th4z]

I’m so excited to be able to watch this grow from its early stages to now! Great podcast by both Tays, love the rebrand and can’t wait to see where the pod continues to grow ❤

[@breyanawheeler861]

i love her so much i’ve always looked up to her and i relate to the things that she goes through with anxiety i’m glad that she is able to share all that with us and help other people that go through the same thing❤️

[@renee8906]

omg the rebrand is gorgeous !! i love it its perfect !!!!

[@meaganmccarthy3001]

Love hearing about Trichotillomania, it is not talked about it a lot. Much love

[@stephbeth8228]

My doctor put me on Xanax around the time my Dad was dying. I only took a half of one before bed for maybe a week?? The first night I didn’t take it I had a grand mal seizure in my sleep. He said it was from withdrawal from the Xanax. I said what do u mean?? I took half of 5 max?? He said it’s definitely possible, Xanax is either something u take routinely or u don’t. I said well that would have been helpful to be told before I started. I threw them out after that and never took it again bc that’s scary.

[@Marielizbit]

Great episode! Didn’t think I’d relate to this episode as much as I did and am grateful that I took the time to watch it. Not to sound condescending as that is not my intent at all, I’m really proud of Charli and her family for staying so grounded and keeping who they are while realizing mental health struggles and addressing them and not ignoring them. I am so far from the spotlight but I see how even a dim spotlight changes people so to have such a large platform at that age and be as insightful as she is, is a really wonderful thing. Not that Charli will read this but just in case, you aren’t alone, we ALL look back and our younger selves and just want to give them a hug bc everything seems SO big of a deal in our younger years that it’s not until those times have passed that we can self reflect on actual importance of them in a much different way. I wish only the best for Charli and her family. Keep your voice, your thoughts and feelings matter. And lastly on a lighthearted side note, YES criminal minds is a fantastic show! Honestly so sad it couldn’t continue. Some episodes are a bit much to handle I’ll admit but the cast is amazing and the character relationships are some of my favorite of all time; even when individuals change they leave and brought in so well, just a great show and wish it could have continued!

[@ralletjohnson9212]

I can totally relate!!! I started pulling out my eyelashes in my early 20’s after I was married! I worked as a cosmetologist so I was very into fashion and makeup which made it more stressful! I would many times pull them all out. I would have to were false eyelashes so that I wouldn’t look weird. As you pull them out they start hurting like one more needs to come out and just keeps repeating 😢. I am now almost 63 and haven’t done it since I was about 40. I only found out recently that it was related to anxiety. When you do it it is so embarrassing and you think it is only you who does something stupid like that. I was also diagnosed with ADD. It also has presented itself in picking sores on my face or neck, ears and nose. This part is still active to this day.

[@Munji-fussar]

I had to travel for work a ton and hated it - utterly. I was also mostly traveling alone. Insomnia became an issue. I started traveling with my own bed sheets, and it really helped to ground me when I was trying to sleep away from home. I recommend trying it if you’re in a similar situation. Sending everyone love ❤

[@alisonsmith6748]

Set up looks amazing! Love the (new) intro as well! I have been away for a bit so I don't know how long the intro has been there lol

[@gemmagibson7647]

I pull my eyelashes out as well and I have been really struggling with it lately so hearing u talk about makes me feel so much less ashamed of it so thank you.

[@whispersonthestreet]

I relate to so much of the things yall are talking about. I have recently figured out that I am autistic. It might be something helpful to look into. For me all of the internal struggles were rooted in the fact that my brain works differently.

[@juali222]

Ever since the d'amelio show I've been a huge fan of Charli and Dixie! I have adhd myself, got diagnosed last year so it's nice hearing different perspectives on it

[@jamie8095]

I cut caffeine and switched to decaf and it helped a lot. I'll occasionally have a coffee for the boost when working and it will instantly give me anxiety. I even took Excedrin one day for a headache and it almost brought on a anxiety attack due to the caffeine.

[@anissaholness2170]

No matter how old you are charli can definitely be inspiring and you can learn a lot about her for sure

[@Itspavi98]

Love the cover art and the new set up! Love it ❤

[@sarshaburt7032]

Genuinely didn't know who Charli was as I don't do social media or tiktok. But found her to be one of your most interesting guests so far.😊

[@grandelovess]

watching this makes me want to cry. as I am typing this I'm literally about to cry. charli means so much to me we are so similar in so many ways, and she is just the sweetest person alive. her smile makes me smile, I love seeing her smile. it weird because I feel like I know more about charli than I think I do. when there is talks like this I feel like I am there with her. especially being a fanpage of charli knowing everything people have to say about her is so messed up. what did a 16 year old girl do to you? she is just trying to find herself and live her life. the public muted her that hurts me so much. being someone who looks up to charli especially as an idol, someone I wish I could talk to about my problems, etc. i also have the self harm thing charli was describing with the pulling out hair thing. i am currently going through it now, but this makes me want to push through it just for charli. i want to do this for her. i love you charli I wish you could help me right now i really need it. I'm scared for my future, my mental health, etc.

[@jenn_81]

What a great podcast (new subscriber here)! I don’t even know how I came across this bc I don’t know much about Charlie either. With that said; I wish I could hug this girl! How could anyone hate on her?! I’ll never understand it. I wish I could hug her. She literally could be my daughter age wise, but I see a lot of myself in her.

[@energywellness8834]

I do not have TikTok however, I do know who Charli D’Amelio is and I think she is a great human being. I voted for her on Dancing with the Stars, and I was so happy she won, because she was the best dancer of that season.. As a. Mom and someone who is much older than her, I really wish she would not read the comments on the Internet, and just do what she does, and trust that the universe will take care of her, most haters, bullies and negative energy hide behind keyboards, and all you need to do is just tune them out!

[@energywellness8834]

This is my first time tuning in and I have to say I really enjoy your podcast and I will continue watching in the future.❤

[@chloefinnigan3331]

There is a book called Still Waiting by Ann Swindell that talks about her struggle with trichotillomania, and she parallels it with the story of the bleeding woman

[@melioxall]

i love her she’s too strong she saved me

[@Sailormoon1122]

I have anxiety too and it’s the worse enemy ever. When Taylor talked about caffeine my doctor told me to cut out coffee cause of how it increases my anxiety and heart rate. So I do notice when I do intake lots of coffee it increases my anxiety.. when she talked about decaf coffee and how it helped, probably will work for others and Me. I’m so happy charli is talking about her mental health because it’s important. I overthink a lot and it’s hard to cope with it tbh, but been pushing through.

[@relieverblue8988]

awesome work you guys! Taylor and Taylor dome are literally couple goals!

[@emilydavis1700]

The set is beautiful!!

[@malaikeebabi07]

That was so awesome. Charli has always read to me as a sweet young woman and happy to hear her use her voice. Hope you all get together and dance! It seems like you met someone cut from your same cloth :))

[@Alans_Archive]

that was such a genuine conversation, a really great episode

[@Stephanie-zr5eb]

one of my favorite episodes so far!!

[@maddydavidson]

I feel so seen with Tay!!! I also pull my eyelashes out and do the same exact thing especially when im focused or stressed

[@norajane07]

wow. i think she is the most down to earth human being not to mention celebrity. this was so healing to watch

[@krystal_marlana]

Oh my gosh, thank you for sharing abt ur trichotillomania, I have ocd and I pick out my lashes I feel seeen😭😭😮‍💨

[@gooddays6924]

The rebrand looks gorgeous

[@Lalayolo]

What a brilliant intuitive and heartwarming lady. God bless you Charli💕

[@warrior9694]

Honestly, this interview just shows how insightful Charli is. Good for her!

[@izyserin7010]

Just found this ^-^ Love it already! :D

[@serenadevito9204]

so we’ll spoken!! love this episode!!!

[@kelianeataides]

You guys are amazing! Great episode! And what a nice rebrand, the set looks gorgeous. Love you! 💚

[@livingwithclarissa]

I LOVEEE the new branding and intro 🥹

[@theloudhouse122]

Thank you for another wonderful video

[@leterobison5706]

Love this!

[@niyah5299]

Stopp I started crying hearing about Cameron. I really miss him💜. Also love the podcast. First time here and loved hearing Charli’s voice and how calm everyone’s aura was.

[@leeannekilgore9477]

Tay, being medical myself. I get it. I have anxiety and depression and always put others before me. It’s hard.

[@anthonyenriquez249]

Lol I love her she’s so dope I had no idea 🤷🏻‍♂️ trying to get ideas for angles and what not for my pod, great episode

[@user-je7eo6pl8z]

Quite interesting hearing her say she’s not experienced pure “bliss” when her atmosphere and voice is pure bliss and calm.

[@andreajewell7381]

Excellent episode!!!

[@emmas_lover]

I always thought she was a brat but seeing her struggles. She relates to so many of us. I hace tricotellimania, and i pick my eyelashes too, and seeing how these people who i never think would have these, and how long ive struggled with it and hated it, i wish i could meet people who relate to this because i know literally no one

[@LIVIESWIFT]

I love this so much omg

[@madie3199]

Love the new profile pic!!! It looks awesome!!!

[@natxo8745]

I love your podcast i watch and listen on Spotify truly my favourite podcast, keep up the good work

[@atomlurch1]

LOVE YOU GUYS

[@MorganTyner]

Sending you so much love, Charli 🙏💙. You are seen and so appreciated. Xx, Morgan T✨

[@raecatlin5062]

Love your podcast very much I can't wait for. wendsdays to come

[@EXTRAoRDINARYoUbySusanMyers]

Just an FYI, I found a coffee that I could have from Purify Coffee-look it up. I no longer have the anxiety I had from coffee due to the ingredients and the organic way it is made. I do limit myself to 2 per day though, and the 2nd cup is decaf. I prefer the one that is for liver vitality or digestion.

[@hayleytaylor589]

I have anxiety and panic attacks. I am now 30 it is still work for sure. High school was rough for me.

[@meganchapman9741]

Wow this made me feel so validated for the first time

[@KierstenFaith101]

Skims can't even give a discount code! $75 is A LOT to spend just to get free shipping like damn lol. And also I don't do the whole tik Tok thing so I've never really watched any of Charlis content but I love her voice! She is so soft spoken. It's very soothing and calming to hear

[@TechOutAdam]

She was given a life she really didn't ask for. Her parents sold her out. It's like when parents would take their kids to those Disney auditions that were all popular on the radio. The kids don't know what they're getting into until it's too late.

[@brendanforeman7490]

I actually have PNES and its a big part of my anxiety about learning to drive

[@danielamazza1063]

Charli is so sweet

[@zininginzimande9479]

That was a good episode ❤

[@marlaaasanchez]

thank you both tay and charli for talking about the hair pulling disorder (idk how to spell it)😭🤍 I used to get bullied cause I started pulling my eyebrows to a point where I only had half, I’ve never heard anyone talk about it so it’s so good to hear i wasn’t the only one🥺🫶

[@lilacallister1179]

Love Charli's new look!

[@normaloza6933]

Love your show . And you both . Question or suggestion you should maybe have each of your parents on the show . Also have Carlos and Alexa Pena Vega.

[@MBMzbe]

Awww 😍

[@Smiley-yk7vw]

I wish they spoke a little louder. I can hardly hear them

[@FatimaKhan-pj3cx]

Love that she s wearing eras tour sweatshirt

[@marisolhernadez6255]

I really loved her ❤

[@davidlakhter]

great podcast!

[@Sarah-yi4hv]

I’d love to see an episode with Dixie!

[@ndcINC]

she is amazing and is going to go super far!! such a good inspiration for young girls

[@marshmallowk]

16:26 my brother passed from a seizure and he had epilepsy as well and it’s so hard because there isn’t a lot of information on it ❤😢 my heat goes out to anyone struggling with epilepsy