entitled bridezillas that ruined their own wedding - REACTION

[@FlagCutie]

Nah girl, the chocolateer and her photographer BF were used, plain and simple. Bridezilla only wants to stay friends to get you again for her baby shower.

[@barbarabonnette2705]

Yup! The bride just wanted something for nothing. She used them. Not a good person. I would had left with my chocolate. It can always be melted down. Lol

[@AskMiko]

Agree

[@KansasNotTheBand]

i kinda hope the BF kept the video for his portfolio but did not give a copy to the bride and groom. it's not like they paid for it anyway. there was an "understanding" between the bride and the chocolatier friend that she could bring her BF and he would film the wedding, and in return, the two of them would be seated in the same room as the guests since they themselves were supposed to be guests. chocolatier and videographer did not get guest seating, therefore the bride and groom should not get their video (or the table full of sweets but i assume the friend still brought that out in an effort to uphold her side of the deal).

[@annejia5382]

that's why they should run away from her 🤣

[@aralornwolf3140]

@@barbarabonnette2705, Or sold at a reduced price (but still high enough to make a profit)...

[@erinmalone2669]

I’m personally so angry for the girl who made the chocolate and dessert table. How horrible. That pain and embarrassment must have been incredible.

[@belindarocky961]

Yeaaa. There is no amount of wedding day stress that would make me leave my friend in ANOTHER ROOM, that is bonkers. Can't imagine how hurtful that must have been.

[@mnaylor81]

Yes they should offer to pay for the video!

[@anonymousone9699]

And pay the desserts full price since they treated her like a stranger/business only

[@chrystalteal4171]

The bride shouldn't get a copy at all of the video! She doesn't deserve it!

[@gbenz4174]

That girl & her boyfriend were used, taken advantage of, by the bride, because they offered something she could get for free from them.

[@ktm5130]

Originally, bride said the bf couldn't come because of budget. All of a sudden the bf is invited and is conveniently a videographer/photographer. He gives his services for free to increase his portfolio. The friend puts together a dessert table for a discounted friend price. The bride knew what she was doing. Sounds like she used her friend and her friend's bf to get free and discounted services, and the fact that she didn't remedy her being seated in the reception shows how much she cares about the friend.

[@lindapatton4478]

As a widow, that last one hit hard. She went to see her late husband's grave. If it hadn't been that long, seeing it again would have made the grief fresh. Bride had NO RIGHT to tell a grieving widow that she was wrong in being late. A good friend would have said, "That's okay, I understand, don't worry about it. Need a shoulder?"

[@japspeedgirl6216]

Yeah, if it was my friend, I’d be there with her at this graveside, holding her and bawling my eyes out too

[@stephanieann6622]

100% it being about her wedding is no excuse. That's supposed to be a best friend but she's treating her like shit

[@lemont8694]

The bride definitely shouldn’t have snarkily told her that she didn’t want her running off again, that was uncalled for, but I do agree that it wasn’t the appropriate time to visit the cemetery. I think the better option would have been to stay an extra day and mourn. It just feels weird to visit in the middle of activities. As much as the bride should’ve been empathetic to the bridesmaid, the bridesmaid should’ve thought of how everyone else would feel. My issue is with visiting in the middle of activities knowing how you’re probably going to feel afterwards and still making that choice.

[@tarastratton3]

Wasn't even her friend, it was family. She should've already known how hard it was to have lost him in the first place. What a bitch

[@KwispyZ]

She also should've been absolutely worried that she didn't answer her phone. I've been the stressed out bride (kudos to those who keep it under wraps) but my stress level would've hit the roof if I didn't know where my best friend was.

[@JY-vh3be]

2nd story: OP, you were used. She got free or reduced services out of you. That's the only reason she reached out to you after so many years.

[@Mama_Bear524]

Bingo. Happened to me but in a different way and at that wedding she used others even worse. Awful

[@martqbd]

If she has done the chocolatier thing very long she should be prepared for it. It is amazing how close of friends people who have a talent that can be used were with people in need.

[@christinebutler7630]

How hard is it to just be kind? I just told my friend's daughter I'm proud of her for calling off her wedding. Her fiance told her not to invite her grandparents and great grandma because he "didn't want an old people's home vibe" at the wedding or in the pictures. She said it wasn't about the wedding, it was about finding out he's cruel and has shallow values.

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

She dodged a bullet for sure

[@zivagoldman2001]

Story #2: The "friend" straight up used her! I would have found a couple of extra chairs and made room! There is no way I would have stayed in another room and cried while waiting to finish my job as her dessert caterer. I would have gone up to the bride and said "We need to fix something fast or I leave now with my boyfriend!" I guarantee seats would have been found! Story #3: Groom needs to run! Notice she mentions that she is estranged from her family. Now she's saying members of his family don't like her. Who is the common denominator? Instead of trying to make amends on a special day, she wants to deepen the divide! She is the problem!!!

[@cristela4034]

Yeah, the friend treated her as an employee, that's why she put her with the vendors and didn't even remember to count her to the reception. It's not a mistake of the day, all the seats are counted and paid, if she didn't have a seat then the bride didn't pay for it. Edit to correct a tiny grammar error cause some youtube users get really upset by those for some reason, and yet I keep seeing "you're" and "your" being used wrong (now that is a annoying mistake).

[@lisamelroy2855]

Agree 100%! The chocolatier and her videographer boyfriend were far kinder than the bride deserved. I would send her bills for the FULL costs of the services. When she asks why, I would explain that, since she obviously didn't think of you as real friends, she no longer qualifies for the friend discount.

[@availanila]

​@@lisamelroy2855 I'd have toppled over my "party favour" and left.

[@wrestlerchick05]

Story #2: The bride would have gotten a invoice from me! My time is money.

[@ginapruett5401]

I would have left when told it wasn’t being fixed and charged full price.

[@elderford989]

When my sister was getting married I asked her what colour she wanted my hair - I always have weird colours but she is very traditional and likes a certain aesthetic. Bless her heart she told me "you could shave half of it off and dye the other half rainbow sparkles. So long as you're there I don't care" - I went for red as I knew that was always her favourite on me.

[@raven4090]

Awe, that's sweet.

[@lomoliving5528]

I think you should have gone for the half shaved rainbow sparkles lol

[@doggolovescheese1310]

Awww you have a sweetheart for a sister ❤

[@morganablackwater2017]

You both were so sweet ❤️

[@elderford989]

Thank you all. Its going rainbow again this weekend lol! Gotta have it looking cool for those Christmas pics xx

[@Dragonsinger71]

The story about the bridesmaid, "Hayley" being late because she went to see her late husband's grave hits home deeply for me. I lost my wife in January 2021. It's been 2.5+ years since I lost her, but you may trust me when I tell you that grief is a taskmaster. Even after this long, I have moments and even days when grief strikes like a fist in the mouth. You cry, whether you want to or not. The pain is visceral and very real. It tempers how you look at every part of your life, sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.

[@CheeZe208]

Im sorry for your loss

[@talyahr3302]

I'm really sorry to hear that. That kind of pain is one my biggest fears, losing a loved one. I hope you can find some joy in the fact that you found true love, something that many people don't get to experience for a single day of their lives. Stay focused on the gratitude over grief as best you can. The super sad reality is that we all will lose our loved ones or they will lose us first, depending on the order of death that no one ever knows is coming. That's why we must give extreme thanks for each day and the lovely experiences we get to collect along the way.

[@luanngordon8639]

I'm so sorry for your loss! It will be 15 years November 20th since I lost my husband to suicide. I still have my bad days, even though I am in another relationship. The Tuesday before Thanksgiving was our wedding day; Nov.24 was our anniversary. He died on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, and his funeral was on our 26th anniversary.

[@Dragonsinger71]

@@luanngordon8639 Thanks for the condolences. I'm so very, deeply sorry for your loss as well. For both of us, the 24th of the month will always be hard one. For me, Oct. 29th was our anniversary. It's also the birthday of one of my daughter from whom I'm estranged. So the entire end of this path month turned into a hot mess. Thing was, I was thinking I was getting a handle on things. Man! was I ever wrong. Now I'm back to feeling like all I'm trying to do is keep my head on straight and not let it explode. Anyway, my heart goes out to you. It's easier for me to feel able to send strength than to muster it for myself. Kind of weird, huh?

[@luanngordon8639]

@@Dragonsinger71Thank you it is not at all weird. Sometimes it is easier trying to mask our own grief Don't ever apologize for your feelings. They are valid I think that everyone struggles more during the important days (anniversary, holidays, etc) Praying for you and your family during the upcoming months

[@yuggieed1789]

I'm getting married in 5 months, and during my WHOLE ENGAGEMENT your videos have been a good mean to keep myself in check - I do not want to be a bridezilla !! My bridesmaids and bridesmen have even been calling me "Bridechilla" 😂 I love you Charlotte !

[@Shinukuro]

I’m imagining a cute lil chinchilla in a bride’s dress now. Thank you for this happy image!

[@lieanazebinraza]

You have found the opposite of "Bridezilla"

[@BrianAndresScott]

❤️

[@zivagoldman2001]

Best way to be! Just remember, things can and will go wrong. It's how you react to them that can make or break the day. Take a deep breath, soak in all that is going on around you. It will go by so fast, and half the stuff you won't even remember! Congrats on your engagement!

[@CharlotteDobre]

U such a bridechilla!!!

[@JHyde-tv3if]

I was a professional baker/cake decorator. I did my friend's cake at a discounted rate (two tier for 80-100 people with a small grooms) for 170. I made a small profit, but I was also a bridesmaid and she was so grateful and excited. I was seated at the head table (with the other important wedding party) and thanked the whole night. If I had made something had a discounted rate and then didn't even have a fucking seat??? Then that wasn't a gift. You owe me more money. This was basically an exchange of I attend, you get discount. But she didn't even get to attend. Get. That. Money, your boyfriend too

[@DawnKellyMedia]

Yes! Very well said!

[@nicholewojtanowski43]

DAMN STRAIGHT! I don’t know why I didn’t even think about it from that perspective but, yeah. Technically speaking she was “in breach” of a verbal agreement. The girl was invited and (just like someone attending) she offered a gift that was equivalent (or more in this case MUCH MORE) than the cost the couple incurs for your seat. Considering her work would have likely covered the cost of two seats(her & bf’s) and then some…I’d do up 2 Standard Bills…1 for the sweets table, etc. and then 1 for the standard rate for a wedding photographer (with similar skills to the bf’s). Send them to the couple (or if someone else paid for the wedding then send it to them) certified mail along with a letter stating the services were offered ONLY because you were an invited guest and the same applied for the photographer. Since once the services were completed, it became clear that you were NOT, in fact, an invited guest. That you were listed and identified to the Event Coordinator as a vender, and that you COMPLETED your part of the deal. Even after the debacle, the sweets table was a success and the wedding video was completed. Point out the standard rate for services rendered and request for payment upon receipt as it has been ___months since the wedding. I also would specify that the, proofs and wedding album that was agreed on will be delivered AFTER Full payment. Document it all and take that sneaky b..ch to court if she don’t pay.

[@astartevalentine8883]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾EXACTLY

[@CHloE748]

Want your wedding video? PAY UP!

[@MonsterPrincessLala]

Exactly! Every part of this screams intentional.

[@teeka7474]

Being a widow myself, I literally would have slapped her, left the restaurant, got an early flight home and never spoke to her again. Absolutely heartless.

[@amykiswriting]

Widow here too. Literally same!

[@robinsweet1827]

Ditto

[@Makeup4ever5]

I’m sorry, the friend knew she didn’t have a table for vendors. She wasn’t having any of them sit and be fed. She knew. Don’t let her use the fake “I was too stressed” excuse. She just didn’t want you to pull out and not give her the desserts or the free video.

[@kristinw2600]

Why do I suspect boyfriend was only invited *after* Bride discovered he's a videographer, and she thought she could get a free or low-cost video by folding them into the scam?

[@gloriaalex11]

@@kristinw2600 Why? Because you're correct!

[@praeeo]

@@kristinw2600 I believe this to be true, but I also feel part of it was because she knew her friend wouldn't have a seat in the main room... Horrible, what she did to her friend and yet, she benefited greatly. Had the boyfriend not needed to build is business, he would have convinced her to leave, if he cared about her. Seems they felt stuck to the situation, which was most unfortunate. I'm wondering if he dis build the video and just not given it to her?! That would have been my suggestion in how they were treated!

[@jenthebubble1914]

I hope the boyfriend kept the video for his portfolio but did not give it to the bride. Her treatment of a supposed friend was awful. If I had been OP I would have left and taken the desserts with me.

[@savinggraace]

I would have taken the chocolate with me! Yeah I’m petty.

[@ldwernychuk]

The girl sitting in the other room. The bride totally knew what she was doing. She took advantage of your kindness. Probably also had her photographer cancel (or she saw they actually cost money) so she changed her mind about inviting your boyfriend. Even the wedding coordinator was a friend. This was just one cheap ass bride.

[@margaritacordova7893]

Yes, the bride was definitely taking advantage of her generous friend. Hopefully it didn't jade her because the friend seems like a really good person.

[@Iflie]

Totally, the boyfriend was doing his job and totally visible all the time, the desert table was the talk of the party, the bride didn't forget, this was on purpose. Maybe she thought the sweets table should have been free and was offended she charged.

[@DawnKellyMedia]

That is definitely what happened.

[@Bonde7280]

That couple allowed them selfs to be completely used as doormats. I would have walked the instance i was put in a seperate room. The gall!

[@starlette7820]

@@Bonde7280 Themselves** Instant** If you're going to shame the people who were taken advantage of instead of being mad at the cunt bride for taking advantage of others, at least have the decency to check your grammar before clicking the reply button.

[@suestewart6590]

The only proper response to the cousin/bridesmaid late for dinner would have been: "Are you okay? I'm so glad you are able to be here."

[@jaydensabins4993]

You know, for the dessert table one, it's strange how the bride remembered her childhood best friend and her best friends boyfriend as workers, but not as wedding guests. Plus it sounded like, when confronted at the wedding, she was trying to throw the wedding coordinator under the bus without taking responsibility, like she was taking fault without taking blame.

[@TheHedgehogGiraffe]

Exactly. At that point, OP and her boyfriend were at the wedding providing a SERVICE, which they should be compensated for. The compensation was originally that they would get to, Yknow, actually attend the wedding. But since that didn’t happen, yeah, they should be reimbursed. If the bride TRULY feels guilty about it, she should have no problem with that.

[@Beehappy76637]

It’s sad this girl didn’t say well if I have no where to sit my and my man are rolling out so let your coordinator know the dessert table is back there. You’re welcome for all the free stuff chow !!

[@angeldee7287]

@@TheHedgehogGiraffethey got played, how do you not see that? An evil mean girl from school (obviously very jealous, she can remember how talented this girl is) yet conveniently FORGETS a seat for you and your generous boyfriend at dinner. No no no, you were taken advantage of by a beech that has hated you since she met you and this was her time to hurt you, because you haven’t caught on to her yet. She is a monster dear. ❤ I’m not editing, hopefully you understand I’m not directing it at you. No, not my intention, I’m directing it at the topic at hand. The entitlement has reached high levels apparently

[@Dpetri777]

.λ 0 Λ9 000😊

[@Dpetri777]

.λ 0 Λ9 000😊

[@whitneyr.846]

Also, I am a wedding coordinator, fixing issues like seating for unaccounted for guests and things like that is our job!

[@joelowery7300]

On that last one. I couldn't help but notice she quickly brushed over "she gave some excuse". You just know that whatever it is makes her look like a monster and she knows it. This was written to show her in the best possible light and she still came off looking like an AH. She could have been robbed or stuck on a broken subway for all we know. Also very young for a widow that indicates a significant tragedy and we don't know how long ago it was. I hope her husband to be hears about this so he can see who he's about to marry. If this is how she treats family it's exactly how she will treat him.

[@jasonellis4330]

"My middle stepdaughter doesn't like me, so I'm going to cut her out of the wedding without my fiance knowing." Gee I wonder why she doesn't like you

[@JY-vh3be]

Wonder why her family cut her off too. 🤔

[@cathipalmer8217]

If you're marrying someone whose daughter you hate so much you don't want her picture taken at your wedding - don't marry them.

[@kategoley9601]

Good way to cause trouble in the new marriage for cutting out new hubby's daughter, doesn't matter if you don't like the daughter, be civil,don't come between a parent and their children, you'll loose.

[@rolandhansen812]

@@cathipalmer8217 I predict this marriage won't last 2 years. If hubby finds out it may not make it through the reception.

[@downhomesunset]

@@rolandhansen812 You are generous. I predict divorce proceedings start after one year!

[@stinks7065]

There is no doubt in my mind that the bride from the chocolatier story only asked her to be there as a vendor. Straight from the beginning it sounds like she knew her friend would give her a discount or she wouldn't have to spend time finding someone to do the dessert table and that is the only reason why the OP from that story was invited.

[@heartsmyfaceforever8140]

Imagine criticizing your friend for visiting her dead husband on an occasion where you’re getting a husband.

[@sakeenahmustafa5739]

Hear me out. Why did she choose that trip to go see him? Knowing it can sour her mood? She could have gone on a different time.

[@shayla106]

@@sakeenahmustafa5739Because the wedding probably brought up a lot of emotions. But she was trying to be strong for her friend. She’s not a robot

[@shayla106]

@@sakeenahmustafa5739🤡🚨

[@Lenka18s]

@@sakeenahmustafa5739 Maybe she doesn't have money to just fly off to NY whether she wishes so of course once she is there, she would go to his grave.

[@sakeenahmustafa5739]

@@shayla106 true that bit if she knew location/wedding will likely bring up such emotions, she could have declined. I am not saying her friend cpuld bot have been more understanding, but she's essentially souring the experience for others in a way.

[@ProblemTurtle]

As someone who used to dye their hair bright colours and was a bridesmaid, I checked in with the bride about what she wanted for the wedding months in advance. She didn't care what colour it was, she was really cool, but I was also cool with having a natural colour for a few weeks. I would never just dye my hair firetruck red right before the wedding...

[@missingbobsburgers]

I was wondering the same thing. Does she mean candy apple or fire truck red? Probably also wondering if friend did it just to try and get some added attention. It’s odd to make drastic changes right before someone else’s big event.

[@redb.5533]

Exactly!!

[@sunnydoom2726]

Same here, like was it Ronald McDonald hair or just like Charlotte's hair?

[@zubsies]

This is how I thought of it, we aren't sure the shade of red and there is absolutely a difference between Charlotte's beautiful red and bright, fire engine red.

[@YoshuaMidas]

Not even a bridesmaid, just a regular guest and still didn't go with bright colored hair to a wedding. The second I knew I was invited, I let my color fade and went blonde for a bit. Bright colors just ain't it, especially for bridesmaid, unless the couple specifically sais they don't mind. We don't know for sure, but the way the story sounds they were probably talking bright bright red and not a natural ginger like Charlotte. If it was just ginger it's pretty dumb, but firetruck red I absolutely understand not wanting to have for pictures.

[@robertschwartz4810]

I think, that when the bride mentioned bright red hair, she was not referring to any natural looking colors, but that bleached and then stained stoplight red you get with Manic Panic and other similar staining products. Also, I loved what you said about being more compassionate. "Everyone is fighting their secret battles that you know nothing about. "

[@ttthecat]

That's what I was thinking too! When I was a teenage brunette, I dyed my hair bright magenta. And I can imagine that if I was supposed to be in a bridal party in some form or another, that would have been quite a shock. I can kind of understand if it was a very unusual color why it would upset the bride. I think the friend could have waited until after the wedding? I mean it's hair dye not surgery. But of course, it wasn't very classy on the bride's part to post this to Facebook either🤷🏽‍♀️

[@dumaroadire]

My thoughts exactly, I would not be happy about that either. She dyed it bright red, not just red and knowing you had an important event coming up you could at least have waited a week for your friend. Such a bright red hair would draw to much attention to yourself and I group it into the same category as wearing white to a wedding, especially when you'll be so close to the bride.

[@melchiorlise2466]

That's what I thought too, and personally so wouldn't have appreciated that either. I would have wondered what it meant that this person choose to dye her hair bright hair just before my wedding, because it doesn't feel random.

[@WeAllLiveInTheTwilightZone]

I made a comment an hour ago and I just got to this one. I'm glad I'm not the only one who caught that. Not once was ginger mentioned, just bright red. Definitely not the same!!!!

[@apocalypstic]

I came to the comments to say this. I hope Charlotte sees it!

[@elainagilbert7663]

Honestly, a true friend would've asked if she wanted company to the grave or an ear afterward if she needed to talk. She had other things on her mind and was probably swept up in all kinds of emotions that made her lose track of time. I can't even say it's understandable that the bride would be upset because it isn't. She's clearly not a good person and I hope nothing ever happens to her husband because she's such an unfeeling kind of person she probably did it.

[@flitsertheo]

If I plan a special event and one of the people invited hijacks it for whatever purposes I would be upset too.

[@moonstrukk126]

​@@flitsertheoHijacks it? She did no such thing, her husband died...let that sink in...he died and she was mourning. Anyone who doesn't feel compassion for her is a narcissist. Ofc the bride could feel upset, but with compassion, she would have set that SELFISH impulse aside, hugged her friend and left it at that.

[@flitsertheo]

@@moonstrukk126She was mourning and the whole world had to mourn with her. Sorry but you can't mourn every person that dies on this planet.

[@moonstrukk126]

​@@flitsertheo You dound like a very wise hooman

[@Darkfyyre]

@@flitsertheo yeah that's true, we can't... which is why we usually only pick a manageable few, namely those super close to us like - oh, i don't know? a spouse? but what do i know, i'm not married, maybe widows and widowers prioritize other lost loved ones instead...

[@KimmietheAunt]

What really gets to me about the last story is that the widow is only 33 years old! That's really so young to be widowed; they probably had barely begun what they imagined would be 50+ years together and instead she's visiting his grave! Bride is insensitive, rude, thoughtless, self-centered witch, who should consider herself blessed if she gets a long married life

[@bringezk]

thank you yes! I cannot believe the people on here defending the bride! What selfish, angry people we have become. If she'd disappeared & was late to the wedding then maybe be a little peeved but a stupid DINNER after the bachelorette weekend? Bride is a self-absorbed a-hole who doesn't deserve her friend. ALSO - it was a destination party so bride had to have known her friend's husband was buried there & made no accommodation to support her friend? GTFOH

[@alexiswilliamsinc]

Exactly. OP owes her friend a huge apology and better hope she never comes to really understand what her friend experienced.

[@theellie1836]

What do witches have to do with all that though? 😳😒

[@christiekilley8051]

My mum’s cousin was widowed on her wedding day. They finished the ceremony and before the priest could introduce them and Mr. and Mrs. Whoever, he fell over, dead of a sudden heart attack. (Undetected birth defect.) She was 19. I’m not sure how old he was, but probably around 20ish. So yeah. It happens sometimes.

[@laura121684]

@@alexiswilliamsinc It's not even her friend, it's her cousin. She did this to someone who is literally family. I'd hate to see how she treats her friends.

[@PJ-sh3nh]

My cousin was a total bridezilla-to-be...she was super chill until she became engaged and then all hell broke loose. Costs started ratcheting up, her attitude started ratcheting up, the drama ratcheted up. And then everything became me me me, this is MY day. To even unreasonable bridezilla lengths. Her fiance is this amazing dude, we all love him and he's perfect for her in the sense that he knows how to squash the drama-queen in her quickly. He sat her down and told her that she'd become intolerable, gave her all of the examples and proof and said he still loved her and wanted to spend his life with her and have kids with her. But, she'd blown her shot at a wedding. She could keep the rings, they'd go on the honeymoon, but there would be no actual ceremony/dinner/reception. (This was all prior to invites going out, so not a catastrophe). She blew up like the she-hulk! He stood his ground and refused, there would be no wedding and it was 100% because of her behaviour. She pulled every crying-tantrum trick she could and he would not have it. He said the alternative is, he leaves her and breaks his own heart but that he wouldn't reward her horrible actions by giving into what she wants. They've been together 11 years now and are so happy and such a "goals" couple. I think she just needed to be checked maybe? Either way, he offered to have a massive ceremony on their 10 year anniversary....she asked if they could take a kick ass expensive vacation instead and invite a few friends just to party. Everything worked out, but her friends are still saying she should've left him. I'm guessing he gave their boyfriends ideas they didn't like maybe.

[@carolineben-ari2798]

Wow, good for him!

[@carolineben-ari2798]

Wow, good for him!

[@Some_guy_passing_by]

Did they get married without a ceremony?

[@meisjeViv]

Ha, gold!

[@gravyz2cute4u]

Good on him! I'm glad she eventually came around. Honestly need someone like this in my life to keep me on track :p

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

"We have to get over this idea that the world revolves around our wedding." Statement of the Century 👏 😅🤣

[@cezarblack13]

🤣🤣🤣

[@charlottelamping829]

As someone who didn’t hire a wedding planner and can sometimes be quite scatterbrained herself, let me tell you I let no one forget we had vendors that needed to be taken care of during the celebration. My mom didn’t seem to catch initially that vendor meals are common if they’re there all night. This first bride didn’t forget, she just didn’t care.

[@NotPCandnotadelusionalenabler]

I need to meet this friend. The depth of her loyalty and dedication to her friend and her job (adding value to her word and keeping her name untarnished); I'll appreciate you as a friend! I'll also keep you in business; ooooh, chocolatiers are THE BEST to have in your life!

[@NativeNYerChicHK]

Oh…. She didn’t forget to assign you a seat... Honey, she saw you and your boyfriend as the help and so you weren’t prioritized 🙄

[@kiarar.1219]

Bright red hair is not “strawberry blonde” or “ginger” I imagine a bright cherry (unnatural) color 😂 but I agree with the comment Charlotte read 👌🏻

[@Loeloelemon]

THANK YOU

[@vernss3092]

I also assumed the bride was upset because it was primary crayon red and not a natural color.

[@karenkenney6021]

me too I'm thinking flame red or clown orange, not a beautiful natural red, no one would complain about that.

[@catzie17]

Same. I was picking up Ariel Barbie hair vibes, not our beautiful Charlotte’s red. So I’d say both the bride and bride’s maid may be at fault here.

[@CharlotteDobre]

Imma need to see photos of this persons hair to make an accurate assessment 😂

[@kenzies5827]

13:09 the realization that she had to fly to see her dead husbands grave meaning it would likely be a really long time since she’s gone to see it. Seeing a neglected grave of a loved one can make you feel guilty…

[@arianebolt1575]

On the flip side, she still could have managed her time better.

[@RG.9970]

@@arianebolt1575It said she still made it before 6pm. Which was the time to meet for dinner. She made it right on time.

[@zoeb3573]

​@@arianebolt1575Some people really expect others to behave like robots. You don't know how you would feel in that situation, if the grief and guilt would hit you so hard you couldn't function until you're out of tears. Sometimes people can't act "rationally" because they need a moment to act "emotionally". It's healthy. And she still managed not to be late.

[@Tlynn1980]

Seems the bride conveniently forgot every single thing to include the “friend” to the actual wedding at all. Seems she got her wedding filmed and dessert for cheap or free and decided her “friend” was best kept excluded from everything except working for close to free. How sad.

[@carolr7333]

PLUS extra help doing setting up the room, etc. SOOO used

[@aaaapgp7192]

I will never understand why some brides feel so strongly about their friends changing their appearance around their wedding (hair cuts/hair dying, gaining or losing weight, tattoos or pircings, and others). It's a wedding, not a runway, they aren't models for your pictures and you aren't their agent or contractor (despite some of yall insisting on writing contracts for your SPeCiAl dAy!), so they don't need your permission or approval!!

[@not_you_i_dont_even_know_you]

There is such a weird culture of "this is the brides one and only special day and everything has to be just her way cuz she is a princess".... The whole point is meant to be that you love your new spouse and want to celebrate that with other people you love...? And like, life doesn't stop after a wedding, save some energy for the rest of your marriage?!

[@cbpd89]

Yeah, this is so weird to me. Wedding photos aren't about being perfect in every conceivable way, it's about remembering a day that is important and remembering the friends who were there for you. I don't choose my friends based on how they'd look in wedding pictures and I want them in the pictures because they are special people to me, not because they look like stepford wives. These people have clearly lost the point of having a wedding celebration.

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

I both agree and disagree. I'm old fashioned, and was taught about common courtesy to ask ahead of time if they'd be ok with drastic changes to your look (if you're in the wedding party). You're in their pictures forever, and they are paying for them and hanging them in their home, so in my opinion it's only fair to do the best you can to look the way they visioned (respectfully. There are extremes that are not acceptable).

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

@@not_you_i_dont_even_know_you Totally agree. It's my wedding later this year and everyone's like: "What should I wear?" and I'm like idk, pyjamas if you want - I just want you all here. If it all looked perfect, it wouldn't be my friends and family in those pics, that's for sure lmao

[@Phoenixgogo-qr2sz]

Amen 👏 say it louder for the people in the back!

[@alyciaevans7295]

These videos remind me how lucky I was to be a part of my besties wedding. All of us bridesmaids were different heights and sizes, I even had unnatural red hair and a tattoo that was visible in my dress. She didn't care about any of it, just wanted those closest to her to share her day 🖤

[@martinarodriguez9004]

For the second story I would’ve took the whole dessert table and left. I would’ve asked my bf to delete the video or charge her for it.

[@puredemon5926]

I just thought of that idea too lol. I'd be like: Okay, no dessert for you. All for me if you're not feeding me.

[@lw3269]

Story 2. I would have packed up the chocolates and left, while my boyfriend would have "lost" the video. This was not a mistake. It was a deliberate attempt to abuse the friendship. If it was a mistake, bride would have fixed it right away.

[@victory6924]

Exactly my thoughts!

[@patrickbuick5459]

Agreed. I would have been saying "Oh, we are just vendors? Then I guess we shouldn't be providing gifts. Make up your mind!"

[@ruthmeow4262]

@@patrickbuick5459 If they were just vendors, I would have given her a bill for everything.

[@rannynguyen557]

100% agreed. Hell, if I'm an invited guest with a table spot I would MOVE chairs and tables to be somewhere else - it cannot be that hard to squeeze in only two people. No one sits at their seat 100% of the time any way.

[@chrystalteal4171]

The video should not be given to the bride at all, she doesn't deserve it!

[@Leleche]

I've been the step-daughter in the "step-mother" story. It is horrible and has caused me a lot of pain in my adult years and makes our family very strained.

[@jeanvignes]

I'm reminded of the time a woman in my group of friends who loved to go swing dancing complained to everyone else that I needed to LIGHTEN UP or STAY HOME when I was on crutches after surgery to remove melanoma from my foot. I enjoyed the music, sat off to one side at the club, had my eyes on the band most of the time, chatted with the occasional dancer friend who joined me for a drink & a break, and didn't (could not) dance for at least 12 months due to how the surgery impacted my foot. Apparently the fact that I was at the club but not dancing was making her feel bad and she thought I should just stay home so she wouldn't feel bummed out by my crutches and lack of participation. Some people are just narcissists who cannot allow other people to just BE REAL. My condolences to anyone who discovers that they have a "friend" like that!

[@thamertanner5448]

Ah the old how dare disabled people exist in public where I have to look at them. That's always fun. I'll never understand how a disabled person simply existing is so distressing to some people. If their psyche is that fragile then they are the ones who shouldn't be leaving the house.

[@patrickbuick5459]

I married one, lol. Since divorced.

[@jenniferggreer457]

bless you i hope all is well now. that was absolutely a horrid thing for that woman to have said. i really hope it wasnt told to you by someone else, because they instigated that if so.

[@trayolphia5756]

It’s precisely why I stay off Twitter…the toxicity there from people who feel so offended and put out by the mere existence of someone who has a brain that can form their own opinions…combined with the ego to think that it’s all about how THEY feel… Ugh…I too empathise with those people who discover those they consider friends are that way. And the only feeling I have to those people who treat their friends that way and are either ignorant/oblivious, or worse wilfully manipulative - is NOT hate or anger…just PITY

[@cecinestpaschiara7155]

That last one hits somewhat close to home. I lost my parents at 23 years old and had a kid one month later. They are buried in the state where I grew up and my sister still lives there. About two years later I asked her to take care of my kid so I could properly spend time at our parents' graves and actually mourn, which took me long to start. She was like: well how long is it going to be? And: can you like hurry? It's not like I have more time to spend there on average. I will always resent her for this.

[@jenniferggreer457]

so sorry to hear. this. I would hesitate to even do a favor for her. I'd honestly write her a letter, hand written, not emailed. and explain why you think that was wrong. you can tell her others agree with you (i, gor one!) that was very cold hearted!

[@midnightmoon3550]

Um u can mourn and grieve anywhere. After 2 yrs i understand spending time at cemetary. Your 2yr old could go w you. Take toys and playpen or stroller and when baby naps u have personal time. U dont need a sitter

[@tylaquiljones]

It never fails to floor me how uncomfortable and weird people get around someone who is grieving...I'm so sorry your sister reacted that way! I think your request was completely understandable.

[@tylaquiljones]

@Midnight Moon you realize two year olds tend to get pretty distressed when they see their moms cry, right?

[@kleeblatt06]

1122e😂

[@Ciela531]

Vendor story - can highly recommend what my husband and I did so that you don’t forget to feed your vendors (side note ALWAYS make sure to tell your vendors they have food too!). When my husband and I got to the reception venue, we did the entrance and went around the room to greet guests as food was being brought out - it was a couple different buffet style tables in different areas of the room (so there wasn’t just one giant long line) My husband and I eventually made our plates and went to a separate, closed off room to enjoy our dinners on our own and get a chance to breathe. Our photographer and wedding coordinator also joined as well once they got their plates. It was honestly a ton of fun to just have 20-30 minutes to talk with my new husband about what his side of the day was like and vice versa as well as just casually talk with our vendors (who were also family friends) 😊 Whatever the case though - HIGHLY recommend taking time to go off and eat dinner on your own. It was so helpful for us mentally (and also made sure we actually ate without being interrupted by a bunch of people) 😂

[@jacquedenise86]

That last story really pissed me off! My dad died when I was 17 and I was a bridesmaid at a wedding 2 years later. It literally didn't hit me until I was sitting at the main table during the reception that I would never have a father/daughter dance. I am sure that girl didn't realize at the time that visiting her husband's grave would effect her, and at least she still showed up. I immediately wanted to leave the room and be anywhere else, but I stuck it out because obviously that was not my moment, but I know the bride would have been completely understanding if I had left. (Also it would have been one of the least dramatic things that happened, as another bridesmaid fainted halfway through the ceremony.) Long story short, some of these brides need a reality check.

[@thamertanner5448]

My middle cousin was the first to get married in my generation of the family. While I have never wanted a wedding myself I still felt that sense of loss during the wedding and took time to myself here and there to just feel and process everything. My dad had died a few years before but he was never the one I wanted to walk me down the aisle, I wanted my grandpa who died when I was 13 to walk me down the aisle. Death and disability are similar in the fact that it is an ongoing grieving process and sometimes we are caught off guard by the realization that we will never be able to do or experience certain things.

[@gabe_itch24]

My father died when I was six and occasionally I get that thought too, especially when I’m invited to weddings. I do have an almost stepfather though (me and my mum are engaged but not married) but I feel like I want to have the father/daughter dance with my uncle (my dads twin brother). Since I was so young I wasn’t allowed to go to the funeral and I’ve only been to my dad’s grave a couple of times cuz each time I get super depressed and am just out of it for the next couple of hours to a day. In short, completely on the widows sight and I’m sorry for both reddit OP’s loss and KZbin OP’s loss.

[@Kiina312]

I completely get this. My grandfather died when I was about 10, we were very close. I was too young to understand at the time though. It wasn’t until I was 15 my other grandfather (who I wasn’t close with) passed away, I was unbelievably distraught. My mum was worried because it was an odd reaction given I had no relationship with him.. thankfully she realised quite quickly what was going on. That wrecking ball moment of grief really does hit you out of no where and most people don’t understand.

[@landmarkpizza31]

Same here with never having a father daughter dance. That's one of my reasons I eloped with my now husband

[@BabetteDaniels]

Re: The boyfriend being the videographer and the bride not giving them a table: I was a wedding photographer and I was properly given a table with my friends, but the food vendor also made a whole table for me in the dessert room (which was separate because things were on display) so I could eat and decompress in silence before taking more photos. I'm always amazed at how there are some brides of vendors who aren't nearly this kind.

[@Sparky164]

2:01 for this first story, all i can say is the bridesmaid may have dyed her hair BRIGHT red as in crayola red. Firetruck red. It may not look as awful as the bride is making it out to be but i do understand her disdain. I agree that i wouldve waited till after the wedding to dye my hair, or even run it past the bride because you are part of the bridal party now. Now, if she DID dye it more of a ginger red then theres no issue at all. Hair is hair

[@justSymiah]

I agree ; if it was a natural red - that’s different … Fire engine red is a bit out there !

[@slinkywhippet]

I took "bright red hair" as in red (the primary colour) not ginger. I personally went blonde for my best friends wedding (I used to be lilac back then) and whilst she told me she wouldn't have cared, I thought it was the right thing to do and am happy i did it - but to each their own ❤

[@McLeanAmy]

Glad I wasn't the only one who thought this. I don't think it's "ginger red" but "pillarbox red," which, when freshly dyed, stands out SO much! Sure, she can do what she wants with her hair, but if you know the bright red is going to stand out in every single photo (and, yes, probably clashes with the dress the bride chose and maybe even bought for you), it's at least polite to ask.

[@HinderGirl1221]

This. “Bright red hair” isn’t a pretty ginger, auburn, or strawberry blond. It is RED red. It’s THE red. Red sharpie. Which I do think is also quite pretty, but not a color you spontaneously dye your hair right before you stand up in someone’s wedding.

[@imshinycaptain]

Yeah I'm thinking are we talking Manic Panic cherry red or L'Oreal Auburn Sunrise because. Those are two very different kinds of red.

[@channel69gorlworldnews66]

I was imagining fire truck red

[@wildflower1397]

"Everyone is fighting a secret battle that you know nothing about." Profoundly true. ❤️

[@TSJF-q5j]

1:00 I think she meant that the friend dyed her hair a fire engine red hair color, not a natural ginger red head color. Big diff in my opinion.

[@One_Rebellious_Reader]

That's what I thought too!!

[@maryamgyet9435]

The last story about the cousin that went to see her late husband's grave... Empathy is a lost human trait in our day... People no longer have the ability to truly empathize with others.. we are so consumed with "ourselves" and what we want to care about others.. what a sad way to go through life

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

They are in their 30's, can't they act like adults?! So selfish and self center people have become. I constantly have to remind my kids/grandkids they are not the center of my universe and the world does Not revolve around them when they get pissy or demanding of me.

[@MarieAntoinetteandherlittlesis]

I agree. I wonder if it has to do with social media, the world we grow up in where everyone is so focused on themselves and their own comfort and their own feelings, completely forgetting that the world doesn’t revolve around them. I’ve noticed even driving and interacting, people have kind of lost their care and consideration of others. Every day we go somewhere, and my young sons hold the door open for strangers. They’re like 7, 9. So many grown adults walk right through, don’t say thank you or acknowledge that someone did them a kindness. It’s sad. But it makes me appreciate my kids they’re awesome.

[@chugs6817]

Also ironic how op said she’s the one who wasn’t think about everyone else, when she’s the one who isn’t being considerate of her cousins problems

[@stellah1643]

The fact the Bride can't feel empathy for the Widow is mind-blowing! Her vows sick & in health.... This is part of your vows, crazy she didn't appreciate the love the widow had for her husband.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I knowww. I'm surprised the cousin is going to the wedding at all. I just can't imagine how heartbreaking that would be to lose your husband so young and be forced to sit through wedding after wedding as all your friends and family get married around you. Every single time it would remind you of your wedding day and how it was a happiest day of your life and how much you miss him. My heart really does break for her. That bride is literally acting so selfishly. I just can't imagine being that un-empathetic. If I was the bride and in this situation I just can't imagine being that heartless.

[@girrizzuto66]

RED looks great in pictures! I personally want as much colors popping as I can have in my wedding photos

[@LunaLightbringer]

In the gypsy traveller community, it's normal to visit the graves of close family to put flowers etc over the days before the wedding, the bride often even goes to pay her respects and put flowers (sometimes even her bouquet) at the graves of her mother, grandmother (whoever she was closest and dearest with) on the wedding day itself, it's very important

[@thamertanner5448]

That is such a beautiful tradition! Just wanted to say that I'm pretty sure the G word is widely viewed as a slur these days and I often see people asking for it not to be used. Roma is a more politically correct term but not all Romani people identify as Roma.

[@LunaLightbringer]

@@thamertanner5448 In Eastern Europe they are Roma, they are a different people really. Their culture is very different. In the UK we are quite happy with gypsy traveller, we're of Irish descent. There are terms we have for non-gypsies which I'd probably best not get into! Terms like 'gyppoes' and 'travellers' are used as insults by other people, they're very offensive I could tell you some great stories about my family! But I'd be rambling on for hours 😄

[@EterPuralis]

​@@LunaLightbringertechnically just the word "gypsy" is a slur, because... well.. none of us are from Egypt 😅 which is what the term comes from. Europeans being idiots.

[@sarah-my1xp]

“The bride informed me that my boyfriend could come as my plus one, but if he did, I would be moved from the head table” She was originally supposed to be on the HEAD TABLE, how could the bride/coordinator have forgotten her??

[@emilygreene6779]

Right?! That really makes the situation so much worse, as how would the coordinator not have known about her? And if she was a good enough friend to originally have planned to be sitting at the head table, how could you not find a spot for her in the main room?

[@msmiseree1981]

I have a feeling bride just said that to make the friend feel like she was important to her, but she ws never really going to have her at the head table at all regardless of what was decided.

[@seeya205]

@@msmiseree1981 Ya, usually its the wedding party at the head table and this girl wasn't in the wedding party so it would make no sense to have her there. I think she invited her because she knew she was a chocolatier, and her husband does videos. I bet if she didn't offer her services, she would have gotten uninvited.

[@GMAMEC]

Oh…. You’re right. I was giving the bride the benefit of the doubt, but this was intentional. I forgot about the head table comment. That was very cruel.

[@danipellegrino3]

@charlottedobre-big THANK YOU for saying everybody's facing things that we know nothing about and to be more understanding. (Paraphrased). I am supposed to be at a friends bachelorette night out but got overwhelmed with personal battles associated w/DV stirred by weddings and such. Your comment eased my mind for not going and most assured my friend will say I am NOTTAO.

[@natasscca]

Leading up to my brother's wedding we went through guest list several times. We had a chart, we had a custom made board with table numbers assigned to all the guests. And we still forgot to include two guests on the board. Thankfully we are adequate people and bride and groom took charge of the situation and we just put two more chairs to one table. I guess some people are just assh*

[@Mama_Bear524]

Well also they had a wedding planner right? So how didn’t they notice? It’s messed up.

[@elizabethbaker9745]

@@Mama_Bear524 Been reading enough of these now to know bride probably just wanted the chocolate table and the wedding video - not the actual people at her wedding.

[@Fiona2254]

My husbands 5 friends, not invited because everyone in his family rsvp (they all showed up) went to the reception. They were all in uniform, formal, an it was on base so they just walked in. We found them all an extra table and food. That’s how you treat friends.

[@gravyz2cute4u]

Ikr, would it have killed them to find 2 extra chairs? >_

[@suchstrangecandy]

​@@Fiona2254 Yes! Beautiful.

[@chaosspy6723]

See, the thing that one bride doesn't understand about her cousin is that while she's happy partying, her cousin is thinking about how close she is to the grave. While she's happy and smiling, her cousin is thinking about how she'll never see her husband smile again or laugh or be able to do anything. Hayley can't just put those memories and feelings aside because it's overwhelming. I couldn't imagine being selfish enough to not understand that.

[@Julienna]

She could have stayed one day longer and spend it visiting her husband´s grave though... not doing it during OP´s special event. I would do it that way. Then instead of explaining OP, why she did it and being late, she GHOSTED HER. This looks even more selfish on her side. Cause OP did not mind her to visit the grave, just asked her to be back on time. To which she agreed, but ended up not doing. Grieving is painful, but if you have empathy, you know that you can put your grief aside for a moment, for somebody you care, for somebody who is alive there and who thinks that you are worthy to be part of important life events.

[@chaosspy6723]

@Julienna SK Ghosted? She showed up just a little late. Also, if you're already in the city, why wait to go see the grave? That doesn't make sense.

[@demosteneswiggin5122]

@@Julienna Do you know her personal circumstances? The grave was far enough to need to fly over there. That alone implies money for the flight home and the hotel room. What if she doesn't have the money for that? What if she had to work next day? People have a life, other things to do, and sometimes, those things cannot be posponed. How many people do you know whose boss would leave them take a day? What if she has children and the person looking for them can't do it a day more? Think. People have a life to do more things than just partying. The bride should have been empathetic. Not only was her friend, but her cousin. And she didn't "ghosted" her. She went to the dinner, a little late, but went. She texted her she would be late and composed herself to not be crying at dinner. If she would have been on time but being a wreck, I'm sure BRIDEZILLA would have a meltdown because "HOW DARE YOU TO HAVE FEELINGS ON MY BACHELORETTE PARTY!" If BRIDEZILLA was a little empathetic, just a little, then she wouldn't be offended that her bridesmaid, bestfriend and cousin couldn't make it on time giving the circumstances. It was a dinner, not the actual weeding.

[@TC-ku4vv]

@@Julienna This wasn't one event, this was a bachelorette trip that took days. That was already a lot to ask for. You can't micromanage someone's life for multiple days just because you're on a bachelorette trip. The cousin wanted a few hours alone to grieve in private, and arrived late to one dinner. It wasn't some huge important event like the reception. Maybe she couldn't afford to stay one more day or couldn't get more days off. We don't know, but it's too late for that. The bride should've just let it go after the fact. The way she titled it "Did her own thing" says a lot. It not like the cousin broke down over a break up or went to see an ex. She was crying over the death of her late husband. "Put grief aside" is not how that works. I encourage you to do some research on how loss affects the brain. Guests are going through life events of their own, not only experiencing the bride's life events. So maybe some people have the privilege of pausing their lives and setting aside their human needs for an few hours. But the more events you squeeze into a wedding, the more you have to lower your expectations. Guests aren't paid background actors in a production. I'd agree more if the cousin had made a scene at the actual ceremony.

[@freakymeff]

@@Julienna she was a few hours late, not like she skipped the entire trip. Since it definitely wasn't just the two of them there, what the hell even is that big of a deal? her friend shows up from the cemetery and the bride starts lecturing her on "time management"? I would've kindly told her to fck off with her entitlement and her damn party.

[@lilith763]

Me and my brother weren't invited to my father's second wedding, I actually found out they got married due to a picture at my grandparents' house. It was painful because she was not a good step mother. And this was years ago, I'm an adult now, and I just have a "decent" relationship with her because I don't want drama and I now know that my dad didn't do anything about it back then, won't do anything about it now. But still, I was around 10 y/o when it happened. Now 33.

[@zoeb3573]

I won't lie, when you said you never knew until you saw a picture, I assumed you were an adult with a distant relationship with your dad at that point, not an actual child. Not telling your 10 yo you're getting married is crazy. Even your grandparents didn't tell you??

[@kimberlytuttle779]

I found out that my father got married from my aunt, on Facebook. My dad's wife, decided it wasnt important for him to tell his own kids, that he was getting married. She also through a father's day party and didnt invite my fathers own kids. For some reason, she had something against my fathers kids, since day 1. I gave up on trying to be in my father's life.

[@BeczaBot]

That is very sad

[@jennyennydot]

Yes same happened to me. I found out my dad was married from my brother a week after the ceremony. His wife wanted it kept from me.

[@kat-92]

The visiting grave story. She was late, but she came. Move on. She flew to a place were her husband was buried. She probably couldn't deal emotionally knowing she was in town without saying hi. Not to mention the stress of wedding knowing how her dream day turned to becoming a widow 😭 The sister said to post this so the o.p would get ripped a new one. 🍻❤✌ legend

[@gloriaalex11]

And the bride should've known damn well that her friend was a widow and her husband was buried in the NY area. I wonder if she purposely planned the trip to NY just to rub salt.

[@kat-92]

@@gloriaalex11 I think the bride was 100% only thinking of herself and how things effect her.

[@wout4yt]

You know, I felt like if the bride would have just accepted the excuses, it would have been fine. You air your grievance, the other makes an excuse, and water under the bridge. Or is the bride that desperate to have the last word.

[@vick9895]

And who has dinner at 5 pm in New York, anyway??? I don`t think most restaurants even serve dinner at this time...

[@kamiamarievaldez8441]

I understand that the bride was upset about her being late but she still shouldn't have said that. Sad thing is friend was probably thinking about her and her bachelorette too, she was probably so distraught that she didn't pick up the phone so they don't have to worry about her and focus on the dinner instead, besides she let her know that she was gonna be late it wasn't like she went straight up no show on her. Bride is definitely the A hole in this situation. Also, personal opinion but I wouldn't have made my friend who was widowed my bridesmaid. I would still want her in my wedding but not as my bridesmaid because I don't want to open old wounds that probably hasn't truly healed yet by making her walk down the aisle and watch me get married front row. She doesn't need me drudging up old memories by having her be there for the preparations, but that's just me.

[@lataniafenn6073]

For the chocolatier I’ve worked a lot of weddings for catering. There is almost always extra chairs in the venue and could be added to a table. On too of that most event coordinators don’t eat or sit with the guest. They monitor and keep track of the receptions time and activities happening. They will usually be running back and forward through majority of the reception keeping everything on time. Also tables and seating are triple checked by not only event staff but the catering staff too, so that’s super hard to miss. Nah, the purposefully left her out.

[@McFizzie_67]

Bridezilla stories - cautionary tales for everyone if someone acts super entitled run, run away and never return!

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Best advice ever!

[@FrankWolenczak]

About Haley: Here's another spin: Maybe when she got to the gravesite to put down flowers, talk to her late husband, the memories of thier lives together washed over her like a flick at the movie theater and she got upset wanting to see him again, hear his voice again, wanting to have him back in her life. If I'm being told that someone in my group is coming but went to a graveyard, First thing I'd do is put my hand up and say "Say no more! Take all the time you need, just let me know when I need to get the carton of Heavenly Hash/Rocky Road/Mint Chocolate Chip/Cookies and Cream ice cream in the gallon size, OR go to Ben and Jerry's and get a Vermonster: Thirty scoops of ice cream plus addins."

[@gabby-248]

"It's not like she was going to meet some dude. Well, actually she was, but he's dead" 😂🤣 this broke me laughing

[@CieraMychele]

Oh babe the bride used you for your dessert table. I woulda left with everything I made so dang fast

[@itismetotori]

Same, no freebies for ungrateful people

[@__doaflip]

I would've taken the food first then left

[@AskMiko]

Yep, would have packed my shit up and left… I would also tell BF she doesn’t get the video

[@amykh7647]

The only thing that my best friend cared about for her wedding (regarding me specifically) was that I was standing next to her as her maid-of-honor. Thought that was supposed to be the point...

[@itismetotori]

So sweet!

[@not_you_i_dont_even_know_you]

Same! I offered to cover tattoos and the bride said, but they're part of you?! Why would I care? 😭😍

[@pandapies6703]

My friend had me as a bridesmaid. I do bright coloured hair all the time. 😂 She asked me to redye it a few days before the wedding.... SO ITD BE BRIGHT AF! She was having a "colour burst" themed wedding(everything and everyone was in bright colors and the deco looked like color explosions!) And wanted me to do my hair touch ups i had planned after the wedding before! We sat down, chose the color, and she loved my neon hair!

[@Some_guy_passing_by]

Story 2 is making my blood boil . The friend should have left with a bill , and the bf should have left good pics out of the package. ( It's a mix up !) We know how well the marriage will be going .

[@Kayenne54]

I'm not sure "red" is actually the issue, but changing the hair colour to something vivid and unexpected is the real issue, right before the wedding. Bride had this vision of bridesmaids, and one of them actively and knowingly stepped out of line, so to speak, to STAND OUT. So there is the real issue. Bridesmaid trying to one up the bride.

[@RealJacior]

Or maybe it was firetruck red and she didn't want that at the wedding if her friend seemed to wait to do it until then.

[@olgar.6604]

Is it possible to one up the bride with just the hair color tho? Like how plain would the bride have to look to be upstaged by a gal with red hair

[@RealJacior]

@@olgar.6604 hey if everyone has mellow hair and you're bright firetruck red hair? Yeah that stands out

[@viridia1526]

@@RealJaciorbut do we know if its bright BRIGHT firetruck red? The bride is unreliable as a narrator. I’m gonna have to see it to believe it. And friends at your wedding should matter more than the aesthetic to me. It’s your big day, why does that matter? A wedding is about marrying someone you love. She’s gonna shine anyway with her dress, the aisle etc. With the way shes acting its like her bridesmaid brought a white dress to wear.

[@NinaFeely]

We don’t know if the bright red is a fashion color red like a fire truck, in which case it is very rude to do that with out checking with the bride first, or r if it is a more natural color of red like the ginger Charlotte seems to be referring to. If that is the color, the bride needs to relax. The blush pink dress may not be very complimentary with the ginger, but that’s the bridesmaid’s problem. The photos will look fine.

[@ElinRaden]

Last one is really disturbing! How unempathetic can people be to have absolutely no compassion with other people who most likely were hurting yet still composed themselves and showed up (even if late)! FFS how horrible a person can some AHs be?!

[@marytermini1381]

The bride in the 2nd story sounds like the type of person that manipulates and uses people to get exactly what she wants. Forgive her, but do NOT maintain a relationship with her. She's obviously putting her wants and needs before other people's feelings, and will continue to do so.

[@carolineann5518]

You don’t make mistakes like that at a wedding. I would of took the desserts home with me and told my bf to send a invoice for the wedding video. As I was scatterbrained about cost and forgot to mention it. The bride wanted free stuff as she was over budget and wanted to make sure she had everything and not pay for it. The first story was hinkey

[@SonjaElizabethTeal]

I said the same thing, Love! There would not have been a crumb of desserts left on that table!! Not ONE!!

[@guest4635]

The chocolatier and her photographer boyfriend are trying to get work in the event space, so they didn't want to create a public drama out of it. It wasn't just a favor for a friend. The bride really put them into a bind they couldn't get out of.

[@heartsmyfaceforever8140]

Reminder- you go to a wedding to support the couple. That’s it. You’re there to be a friend. There is no expectation to look good. People dress up to show respect.

[@aniraz90s]

That last story is really sad. Her friend is obviously still grieving the lost of her husband and this AH bridezilla friend is so self-centered. She's late but she still attend despite her pain and sadness. I would have just left and never be friends with such a horrible person. I'm 33 and I couldn't imagine losing my husband. I feel so sorry for the widowed friend. 😭💔

[@kendallstephens9470]

Right!!! Imaging being at the BACHELORETTE for someone else after losing your husband and having to pretend to be happy for them the whole time?? Sounds like hell on earth

[@bigbearkat2010]

The kicker was calling it a "time management" issue. Her attitude screams of someone that tells people "stop being depressed you big baby"

[@orgoik]

If one of my friends was going through this, it would be hard for me to keep partying the whole time. I would've asked her if she needed someone to go with her and comfort her and THEN go get food. Or just let them be. Clearly this woman was still in mourning. Plus, she's there celebrating someone's marriage while mourning the loss of her own.

[@flitsertheo]

If the grieving widow was in no mood to party she should have declined participating in the bachelorette party.

[@shayla106]

@@flitsertheoWe get that you lack empathy and believe that humans are a bunch of machine. She probably wanted to be strong for her cousin and try to make her happy but grief can be like a wave. However , I understand selfish people like you wouldn’t understand.

[@tamarak9393]

When I got married one of my bridesmaids wanted to lighten her hair. The hair stylist bleached it and it was white. It almost glowed. She was horrified. I never thought twice about having her in my wedding party.

[@audiofanfics2135]

Event Coordinator This is extremely common. My in laws drove trucks. They hauled extremely fancy expensive chocolates across the country for a very high end event. The creator of the chocolates rode in the truck. Tickets to the event were offered for free to any vendors who wished to attend. When they went to the Coordinator to ask about the tickets, she only requested 2 tickets for her and her husband. Said she didn't think anyone else would want to attend. 50+ vendors were left outside waiting in 90 degree weather for the event to end.

[@daughterofchatblanc]

I'll never understand how these bridezillas had friends to begin with, I truly don't believe that weddings bring out the worst in people because they're stressful but rather because shitty people feel like they have justification to be even more shitty because it's "their special day"😒

[@applekrumbles]

I dyed my hair right before a wedding. I was in a lot of photos because I was dating the best man. I didn’t think about it and I ended up apologizing because I stood out in photos and I was embarrassed I did that without thinking. She was okay with it but still. I won’t do that again.

[@dhaliablack2804]

Tbf, I wouldn't apologize or be embarrassed because of my hair color and how I dye it. Everyone knows I change colors often and they don't have any problem with it. And I've never met a bride that is a bridezilla and wants guests, maid of honor and best man do and look how she wants. If anyone thinks that I would stand out because of my hair color, say it and I'll gladly not take professional pics. 😅

[@seeya205]

@@dhaliablack2804 That would be fine but if you are someone that doesn't dye your hair bright red then suddenly you do right before their wedding then it seems to be done on purpose to get attention.

[@dhaliablack2804]

@@seeya205 nope. I wouldn't do it for attention, i would do it because i want to and nobody needs to care. Don't see a big deal here. Someone dyes hair or gets a new haicut, we compliment it and that's all. If someone makes a big deal because of it at a wedding, then they are too much. I dyed my hair bright pink from black years ago when i went with my ex to his cousins wedding and nobody knew me because we were dating just for a few months and nobody made a fuss about HAIR. That is plain stupid if you do. Only the bride and the groom were the center of attention, no matter how anyone else looked. That's how it goes with normal people who don't detail every single little thing at a wedding.

[@seeya205]

@@dhaliablack2804 Just because you do it, doesn't mean it's right! Most people wouldn't say anything to you but they are thinking how rude and disrespectful you are. LOL

[@dhaliablack2804]

@@seeya205 LOL, sorry to surprise you, but it's a different mentality and we don't care about those little stuff and those type of stuff are not rude or disrespectful here. The only thing we consider rude and unacceptable is wearing white if a bride has a white wedding dress. It's hair, deal with it.

[@debbieward3261]

I am insanely jealous of your hair colour! It's a gorgeous colour don't understand why ANYONE would have a problem with it!

[@Ken-s6v]

Yes Charlotte's hair is gorgeous but I don't think that's the color she dyed it to. It is probably a red like a strawberry because she said bright red. It probably a dye like the pink blue purple dyes so it will definitely stick out.

[@dinasilva9263]

I can't imagine Charlotte being a bridezilla. She's so sweet, funny and seems to be a great person. She's our petty queen, i only imagine her being a beautiful and amazing bride!😂♥️

[@lotstodo]

I can't wait to see her get engaged... no rush.

[@mbourque]

I think that after seeing sooooo many bridezilla posts that she would be more tempered to handle most of the issues that would come up and be more likely to laugh about it than freak out about them...

[@emnorfolk5559]

@Dina Silva, Charlotte has MANY petty bones but none of them are bridezilla bones... I think she would say what she wants, MONTHS in advance! Just can't wait for the diamond ring to be flashing!!! ❤😁

[@Mtnred738]

And if she even thought about getting Bridezilla, Mike would tease her out of it.

[@Y3w3lz]

She may not have a bridezilla bone but she plays the character really well 😂🤔 You should check the short she and mike made on Marc and Austen's channel... it was hilarious. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sufiheart]

That last one actually made me cry. Too many of us are out of touch with our humanity. Lost in the superficial.

[@debrahouse46]

I love your red hair. It's really beautiful with your skin tone so it depends on what color she considers bright red

[@lindab.716]

We traveled from CA to Alabama for my daughter’s BFF’s wedding. They let two 10 yo boys put the seat assignment cards out alphabetically. My boyfriend and I had different last names (duh) so the boys just dumped our card. Toooo confusing. 🙄 The wedding coordinator informed us it was not her problem as she was now a guest 😡 I can not tell how embarrassed, hurt, and angry I was (still am).

[@melissafields3376]

I had a situation at my brother's wedding (step for clarification only , we grew up together and always considered each other as real siblings) when it came time for family photos; my aunt (his biological aunt; which knew me since I was 1 year old) told me to step aside so that "they " could have a group picture of our(deceased) Daddy's REAL children!! I was stunned and then embarrassed because as I looked around, no one spoke up for my right to be there. Instead, they just looked uncomfortable. I didn't want to cause a scene and make an awkward situation worse; so I just plastered a smile on my face, step away, sat down (Instead of leaving in tears like I felt like doing!) And calmly waited until the photographer was done. Again, not wanting to make a scene; I waited a while. Then excused myself to the bathroom where I could cry!! Wasn't the worst day of my life; far from it. But it hurt!

[@gravyz2cute4u]

If she ever asks for any favours from you, tell her to go off and ask the "real" children 🙃I feel bad that nobody stood up for you 😒

[@sharim]

Your brother said nothing?

[@melissafields3376]

@@sharim no, he was dealing with his new wife's drama. I just wished my other siblings had . I didn't expect my mother to, so I wasn't disappointed about her. Afterwards, when I asked him not send me any pictures of that moment; he was shocked that it even happened. He was so distracted by his wife's drama (antics) that he didn't notice.

[@melissafields3376]

@@gravyz2cute4u thank you. My aunt and I had ; I thought a good relationship. But after that I'd only go to her house to see my grandma.

[@sharim]

@@melissafields3376 So sorry that none of your family backed you up. That was really crappy of them, especially your wicked aunt-who said only stepmothers could be wicked? If I’d been there I would have used my Taekwondo on your vicious aunt and made sure you were in the pix, not her.♥️

[@juliafortune423]

I got the idea it wasn't Ginger, but red. RED!

[@issecret1]

Again, and? What if it's RED? If someone with RED hair is enough to destroy your wedding, you should have worked more on it.

[@handmaidmd]

13:54 As a widow as well…being alone with your thoughts can lead to a huge outpouring of emotions. It takes time to get yourself back together sometimes. I’m offended for this poor woman. Be careful because, you know, karma…

[@19Fenja89]

For the longest time I thought Charlotte dyed her hair red. I LOVE her haircolour and she just get's it natural?! It's not fair!! 😭 Love you, Charlotte!

[@yasaminwhy8212]

as a fellow redhead, i legit spent my entire life avoiding pink because my grandmother told me it looked terrible with my hair. pretty sure now as an adult that she was jealous/competing with me... so afraid of bridezillas after all these videos. worst i've experienced yet was a father of the bride-zilla who forced my dad (a guest at my cousin's wedding) to cook for everyone on the BBQ after the reception (my dad did it because they were cooking lobster, INCLUDING FOR SMALL CHILDREN, and everyone, including father-zilla, was drunk)

[@emilystandridge1962]

Your dad is a good man

[@a.kenneth3521]

My Mom told me the same thing about wearing pink as a redhead (and she was a redhead, too!). Must’ve gotten it from Grandma. Sheesh.

[@heidikickhouse-]

"Pretty sure now as an adult she [grandmother] was jealous/competing with me". WOW!!! Guess what honey? You WON! She is your GRANDMOTHER. Youth has a glow, a beauty that grandmothers don't even try to compete with. And your evidence is.... she forcibly kept you from wearing one of 19 colors clothing? No pink socks even? That is downright abusive! It could not possibly be that this woman, who was probably about my age, grew up hearing and believing and reading in contemporaneous novels that wearing pink made redheads look ugly. Waiting an hour after eating before swimming also turns out NOT to be necessary, but we all DID it because we were told it was a FACT or we would cramp up and drown. You also don't have to shampoo-rinse-and-repeat all over, again but we did, because we were told it was necessary,. Your grandmother was looking out for you, not sabotaging you, with the facts we were given at the time. That poor "jealous", "competing" grandmother, just loving you and trying to help with the information we were all told, only to be judged through a prism of small-minded egotism. Let's pretend for a sec that back in her and my day, the "pink makes redheads ugly" wasn't a thing - was she was insane enough to try and compete with a person at least 40 years her junior? And do you seriously think advising you to not wear just one color is giving her a great competitive edge over her lovely young granddaughter? I apologize if she had non-disclosed mental health issues that would explain your comment that she was jealous and competitive with you, otherwise it just seems bonkers.

[@LazyIRanch]

I think everyone looks good in pink! But then redheads look great in just about any color. I bet Charlotte would look stunning in a vintage pink Chanel suit similar to what Jackie Kennedy wore. Sad that such an elegant, iconic outfit is a reminder of great tragedy. I sew, and made a similar suit in the 80s, but made it of turquoise linen with pink satin trim just so it was different My dad was a handsome, dark haired man who resembled Gregory Peck, and he often wore pale pink shirts because Momma basically told him he looked sexy in that color. No one told him it was feminine, but he wouldn't have cared anyway. Momma said it was sexy, so there! About the only colors I don't wear are yellow and orange because they don't look good on me. However, most black and middle Eastern women look gorgeous in those colors.

[@lokicooper4690]

My mom thinks the same thing (she is a redhead herself), and hated herself in pink. Not sure where she got the idea from though. My thought is that red and pink are literally the colours of Valentine's Day. If it was such a bad combination, why associate them with a holiday that is known throughout the world? Doesn't make sense.

[@steviemichelle7271]

The second one! OMG! Absolutely not. That “mistake” would’ve sent me, as a bride in my gown, searching the building for two chairs. Why didn’t they just take the chairs out of the broom closet they were being made to eat alone in??

[@MrDoenyon]

Love how the 6:00 was scatterbrained for the wedding arrangement, but apparently quite there when it came to benefit from her friend's job.

[@harleybubbles4107]

For the first one, I really think it depends on the 'bright red'. There's 'every natural shade of red that a redhead can have' and then there's 'I dumped a bottle of maraschino cherries on my head' or that bright almost neon red that definitely isn't natural. Anything from manic panic would apply. It's the 'bright red' that makes me think it's more punky/neon red than just 'she decided to be a redhead'. That changes it.

[@itssteph263]

The only reason I would have an issue with the dyed hair is if it's bad box dye that stains everything it touches when slightly damp, and it's an outdoor wedding in a humid climate. Even then I wouldn't make a fuss instead have a plan B just in case the dress and her skin get stained.

[@AtomicFerret]

I have been on a marathon on these for so long I cannot see straight anymore lol. I just discovered you and I love your content + personality. Thank you for existing, and sharing other peoples dramas for me to indulge in. 👀

[@AmyThelovelyelf]

I will say about one of the stories, I paid for all the vendor meals at my wedding. They sat separately at the reception (a separate set of tables around the corner from the main party so they can rest away from the crowd) and vendor meals were discounted but with the exception of the make up artist who left before the ceremony even started, there was no way to NOT account for their meals and accommodations. wth. Some of the vendors were family friends but that meant we took especially good care of them. tsktsktsk

[@Chrissievt]

As a widow I never know what will just put me in a bad place in my continuous grief. I totally agree the wedding and visiting her late husband she needed some alone time. It's something that people don't always understand because grief is so personal to everyone. I tend to pull away and want to be alone until I collect myself a friend who is also a widow will go out to be with people to just take her mind off her feelings. The bride was the asshole.

[@Haybear_92]

When the first story said bright red I thought they meant like actual red, not ginger, then I could see why it might clash with pink. But it could look cool imo.

[@TK-ge2gh]

This obsession with wedding photos really makes me wonder who looks at more than a few pictures years later.

[@gravyz2cute4u]

These must be the people who have their bridal party photo as their permanent profile pic and continuously repost wedding pics years later like it's their greatest accomplishment in life. (I have a former bridezilla friend who did this after her first wedding, and again after her second wedding).

[@NiceyP0123]

I literally haven’t looked at ours since the album came in; we got married in 2020 😂

[@thamertanner5448]

My cousins both go through their wedding photos pretty regularly, the younger one reposts them every year on the anniversary. There are also several photos from my parents wedding around the house.

[@connercampbell1295]

I’m a red head and I get where the bride is coming from. She said “bright red” so when I read that, it’s like McDonalds red not a more natural red. And because it’s a week out the bride has been visualizing in her head how everything is going to go/look etc and now there’s a sudden unexpected change and she probably is just stressing which resulted in this reaction.

[@crystalrspencer]

When my best friend since first grade got married, she was convinced I was not coming down even though I was only two hours away. Shes more like a sister to me. Anyway, I was asked to be in the wedding. I was so excited to share this day with her. To be honest I thought I was going to be the Maid of Honor as I had already decided that she would be mine if I ever got Married. When I and our other friend that has been friends for a long time got here were in the wedding however it was not as I thought it would be. Someone else that she had known for way less was the Maid of Honor. Now I get it that the MOH and the Best Man were there because they were the couple that introduced them, but I have to say that really hurt. I have been friends with her since kindergarten. I have never brought this up and maybe I should, but I feel like it's so long ago now that I really can't. I don't know.

[@IrieRogue]

I can't imagine getting married and expecting anyone but myself and my husband to take it so seriously that it becomes the center of the universe. People are so self absorbed it's disgusting.

[@davidhansen2748]

There's "redhead" or "ginger" red hair, which I wouldn't think anyone would object to. And then there's "fire engine red" which I could see as a problem for some people, particularly as a style statement a week before taking part in someone's wedding. It's not clear to me which situation we're in here, but I'm leaning toward the latter.

[@BeautifulByNature3369]

I’ve literally watched like 30 of your videos back to back, stoned and playing Toy Blast. You entertain the shit out of me