Wedding Petty Revenge - REACTION

[@alishasimms2846]

The 1st one was priceless. Way to make your son feel as though he's not as important as his sister. Keep up the video. Make them feel as bad as they make you feel.

[@NikkiSmithTheonlynikki]

Imma need to see that video.

[@teddyhayes2]

Going to be real fun if the sister needs a kidney

[@CatOfSchroedinger]

The wedding WAS the make-up event. They said "pass". They have lost all rights here because the fact they want the video to be removed means they acknowledge the fact that they were wrong in the first place. Their only honest and honorable move would have been to post a heartfelt "sorry" video in response. As long as they don't the video has to stay on (and I need a link !!! ... asking for a friend) as a Menetekel that attests to their ill behaviour.

[@itrasheditgood]

Golden child syndrome is real

[@lizajane2971]

Not even not as important as his sister... not as important as his sister's DOG!!! Sorry, I don't care if the dog died that day-they all should have been at that wedding!

[@saratell]

I made a wedding cake for my significant others sister and her now husband for their wedding with 175 guests. Paid for all the ingredients and spent sooo many hours making the sugar flowers for it. During the reception I was asked by a few of her friends what we had gotten the bride and groom. Proudly explaining “the wedding cake” I got “only the cake?” And a couple of side eyes. Just the ingredients for the cake was over 400 dollars and the friends gifts were all below 100 dollars 😂 Always amazed by the sheer ignorance of some people 🎉

[@sashadoom]

Ugh, some people just suck - providing the cake was a great gift that you invested a lot in. At first I was thinking it would have been nice for the OP to make the cake for free as their wedding gift but then thought, no these are the type of people who wouldn't be satisfied with "just" a cake, & your experience makes me think that's exactly what would have happened.

[@kimsoer5750]

That's a beautiful and stunning gift 🎁 the hours it must have took you 😍 I would be happy as can be. So glad that they enjoyed it! People can be very very ignorant 🙄

[@tealablu3759]

Did she love it?? Oh, I hope she did!

[@saratell]

@@tealablu3759 The Bride and Groom and our family were all very grateful and everyone loved the cake 🎂 so this video gave me PTSD 🤣😉

[@rhondaflesher8313]

I went through a similar situation. A friend of my (now ex) husband's son and his girlfriend wanted to get married before their expected baby came. But they didn't have hardly any money to plan this with. I decided to be nice and offered a nice formal dress I had for the wedding dress and to make the cake. I did one of those where it was mostly decorated cupcakes on a multi tired display with a small, decorated cake for the top layer. I also did a few dozen extra decorated cupcakes as well. After all of that I heard that the bride was upset because we "didn't bring a gift." Oh well, their marriage didn't last long anyway.

[@Just_Me...820]

I used to bake and decorate cakes years ago. My aunt asked me to make her wedding cake. I never charged her for it, I considered it a gift for her wedding. Not only did they never thank me for it, they also didn't even invite me to the wedding! That was about 20 years ago, I'm still bitter about it.

[@The_Bean]

As you should be! Why do you owe them a gift to a wedding you didn't attend? Answer is that you don't

[@candiejo3869]

Wow that's effed up

[@FabulousCucumber-ip9hu]

You lost out short-term but they've lost out long term. You only get to screw someone over once.

[@CBooks543]

WHAT!?! Oh hellll nawwww

[@FreedomofSpeech865]

That is awful!!!!

[@clemi2601]

It’s disgusting how in the 1st story the parents only feels shame because of the image it gaves of them, instead of being devastated to have let their son down like this !

[@claravignaud8119]

^ This. They didn't feel bad about missing hs wedding, they felt bad about people discovering that they missed their son's wedding. I would go no contact with them and the sister.

[@annt7384]

@@claravignaud8119 …and didn’t feel bad about all the other ways they didn’t show up for him.

[@samieD22]

They’re P O S parents😟And I bet they keep using the sister against their other child. Ridi culous!!!! Both children are being u sed. Just so aw ful💔

[@JaneMagdalena]

Narcissistic parents are real and it seems delusional to people who have empathy towards others and are able to self-reflect. As I read somewhere above, OP confirmed sister has not any mental or health problem. Narcissistic families would create their golden child and scapegoat in the family. It is really sad.

[@BlueValleyTS]

EXACTLY! Moral of the story: if their parents didn’t want to be embarrassed, they shouldn’t have been embarrassingly bad parents.

[@taustin6524]

That first story just broke my 💔. Somethings in life don’t get do-overs. The parents didn’t care enough to attend….they only care about looking bad. That best man truly IS the best man!

[@fourlittlebirds6166]

I agree. Let’s remember, the groom had no idea what his friend was doing. He didn’t ask him to post what he did. Best man only showed the truth in highlighting that the parents were not there for their sons wedding.

[@shania991]

It’s clear they have a favorite and drop everything when they daughter is throwing a fit so sad I couldn’t imagine growing up like that he probably always feels second best

[@PandaMonium92827]

He's up there with the bridesmaids who dump red whine on the mother in laws who wear white. The GOAT!

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

The sister obviously has to always be center attention. She's the golden child. Unless maybe if her dog had died, the parents should have gone to his wedding. Bad parents. Kiddos to Best Man👍

[@colleens1107]

For real. They are upset that FOR ONCE EVER there were consequences for their favoritism

[@Estranged180]

I'm happy you read the one about the wedding cake. Brought up memories of my own wedding. Five (5) people in the room at the time. Myself, my now-wife, and both of her parents. Who is the 5th person? The Justice of the Peace. It's what you do when you have absolutely nothing. The wedding cake... I'll always laugh at this, until the day I die... Leftover cake from Thanksgiving, in the shape of a turkey... sort of. It had pieces missing. It's kind of what you do when you have nothing. The cake served two distinct functions, and cost a whopping $14. We've been married for more than 25 years.

[@roquelaire-ej6fn]

It’s not ‘what’ you have, but ‘who’ you have.

[@jomomma1512]

I used to make cakes for family and friends in my free time. One of my friends asked me to make her 250 cupcakes for her wedding, different flavors. I told her I would. The next day, a brand new kitchen aid mixer showed up at the door from her!!! She knew my passion for baking & loves my cakes. We both felt appreciated! The lil brother is a D-bag!

[@aubreycarter7624]

Dang! I know anything KitchenAid is high quality and very expensive. I'm glad your friend showed appreciation for your baking. Truly a good friend.

[@ichigokage]

I can see what you're saying but in that story payment was agreed upon. If payment was suddenly brought up those six or so days before, I'd agree. But not in this case.

[@carolinemarchand4743]

@@ichigokage no clearly you completely missed the point... or responded to the wrong comment

[@solarisjade2292]

That’s amazing that she sent you that!! This is kinda how me and my friends operate. We may not pay with money specifically but often times we pay each other back for favors by doing a favor for them or a little gift or just by taking them out and handling food and/or gas!

[@jomomma1512]

@@solarisjade2292 Yes!!! That’s how we all should handle our business!!!

[@erikarussell1142]

My mom has 15 children and still makes time for every single one of us, even while running a battered women’s shelter and always being on call. There is no excuse for the first stories parents to be that way. Not ok.

[@parkscc]

🥲 your mom sounds amazing

[@erikarussell1142]

@@parkscc she really is.

[@kayleighandhercat1351]

That's a lot of kids. But your mom sounds amazing!!!

[@user-guigui01]

Wow, I'm terrified of having only the one I'm planning, but damn, I don't even know what to say.

[@dodgyyeti532]

That's incredible. I'm jealous. My mum had 11 kids and made it clear that all of her daughters (nine) were unwanted.

[@47185330]

The revenge was “passive aggressive”, the “EXTRA NICE” case killed me 😂❤

[@vaishnavishah3325]

The first one was straight up about parents being biased and they know that they did wrong but wont even apologise... The parents are the real a-holes in this situation.

[@Surftouka]

I question if they know they were wrong. I mean it wasn't one occasion they did this...his lifetime.

[@ceejay8545]

They just don't want the rest of their family and friends to know what crappy parents they are to their son.

[@kaylahall1219]

@@Surftouka well, hopefully they know now 😂

[@SingingSealRiana]

Yeah, enabling the sister since forever in that behavior prevents her for ever growing out of it and it's plain neglect to make it so clear one of your kids just does not matter to you

[@laurac3154]

They honestly probably don’t see it. Unfortunately I have someone close to me in that situation and the parents are completely oblivious and get super upset if anyone even remotely tries to call them out. Like they will cut you off for saying they are playing favorites. It’s sad and gross.

[@ashleysimon3607]

For the first story OP has confirmed that the sister does NOT have any mental disabilities and is just spoiled.

[@lindapatton4478]

Yep, I saw that one when it popped up in my feed. That sister is in for a VERY rude awakening when (if) she ever gets out on her own. Parents that play favorites usually end up with the other kids going no contact with them and seriously have no clue why - even when they are up to their eyeballs in debt catering to the one very spoiled child.

[@erikarussell1142]

Icky icky gross gross yuck. That just means she can’t stand anyone else having ANY attention.

[@it.comes.around]

Thank you, I was really concerned he might be very ableist in this post. I still think his sister need to seek psychological help because it feels slightly narcissistic to not insist your parents still attend your brothers despite you not attending. And his parents have no right to ask anything of him. It feels like they use her as an excuse to not have to support their own son.

[@Catherine.Dorian.]

@@it.comes.aroundNot everything is a mental disorder. Some people can’t stand not being the center of attention and it’s usually due to upbringing. You can be autistic or not and end up this way cause the parents catered to every whim and never said no

[@natureboygolfer]

@@lindapatton4478 Trust me. I've explained this to my wife several times.

[@breevans5219]

The OP who hosts the Christmas parties is literally the one who brought the couple together through her party! If there wasn't any falling outs prior to the current one there really wasn't a reason not to invite her to the wedding especially because she's such an integral part to their love story between first meeting and the engagement announcement. OP's well within her rights to invite whoever the hell she wants to HER Christmas party. Not the a-hole for this one.

[@Queen-Blue]

💯💯💯

[@abbynormal4740]

EXACTLY! The couple is so upset about not being invited to OP's Christmas party and calls her petty. They also claim that they consider the Christmas party "special". Right.... So, apparently OP's annual Christmas party is "special" enough to accept her hospitality every year and even use the occasion to announce their engagement - but NOT "special" enough to reciprocate OP's *yearly* hospitality by inviting her to their wedding (which wouldn't even have happened if it hadn't been for OP's parties)? 🤔🤨🙄😒 Got it.

[@wildersystem]

Yeah…weird that OP’s Christmas Party is more important to them than OP. I also get the sense that these are older, career couples. And I get the sense that OP is in a same-sex relationship. And…I get the sense that OP knows that has something to do with the lack of invitation. But I think they excluded that info in the post because they wanted less biased feedback on the situation.

[@Neddyhk]

I mean, I had a bunch of people we couldn’t invite to our wedding due to the venue size, and we made a mass post listing everyone involved and explaining the issues and offering them pictures and videos from the wedding. That they didn’t even have the good grace to say “hey, your parties are special to us, but unfortunately due to X we can’t invite you to our wedding.” Indicates they’re just entitled jerks.

[@jenellenelson4447]

​@@wildersystemyeah when I heard "partner", I'm aware it's not just for same sex couples but I unfortunately thought, well that's probably why they didn't get invited to the wedding.. Yet they didn't mind when they introduced the now married couple 🤦‍♀️

[@jo-annbastings]

Honestly, slow clappings for the best man and his awesome idea. I love a person who takes seriously the interests of his friends. DEFINITELY NOT THE A**HOLE! The parents are enablers and the sister is entitled! Please OP, do not remove the video as it’s a wedding gift for you by karma.

[@Sorchia56]

Last story has an update that the couple decided to throw their own Christmas Eve, whatever, party ON THE SAME DAY! They invited all the guests who go to OP’s party every year. The couple then was furious that only a few showed up to their party after OP’s. Tara and Tony are perfect for each other!

[@daria-517]

omg these people are ridiculous. yep, really glad they found each other lmao

[@erikarussell1142]

Lmao I love this. Thank you.

[@AliCatGtz]

Thank you so much, that’s amazing 🤣

[@ireneangelucci3733]

On Jesus 🤡

[@imweakfordeaky]

Even more info (edit: If I remember correctly) : Turns out the “reason” OP and their partner weren’t invited to the wedding was because , while bride, groom and the friends they DID invite were all in their 20s… OP and partner were in their (early) 30s and were therefore deemed “too old” for their super-fun-and-cool reception. The other friends who were actually invited were very puzzled at OPs/ Partners absence , and the bride at first lied that they’d RSVP’d No. These friends found out the truth later when Bride’s story didn’t match up with OP expressing hurt at not being invited. Those friends got pretty pissed off - so when Bride and Groom tried to host a competing Xmas party, nearly everyone ghosted them , and OPs usual party was a resounding success.

[@addie-eileenpaige6460]

The wedding cake one reminds me of a situation I was in. My sister got engaged last year. My family knows I do photography. When I said I would not have taken free engagement photos, my brother got on me saying she's my sister & when starting out, I need to do free stuff. He landscapes & said when he started out, he did jobs for little pay & I should, too. Even my own parents got involved saying I need to take free gigs & how they (musicians) do some stuff for free. Maybe that works/worked for them, but I am not going to be treated like a slave. We live on opposite sides of the country from each other, so I couldn't do it. She did hire someone else to take them.

[@galinda91]

That first story was very triggering for me because my parents missed my wedding because, and I quote “the dog is getting older and we don’t want to leave her with anyone else.” I am their only and adopted kid. But the dog came first and always had. I’d even get in trouble for things the dog had obviously done. I can only imagine how awful it would have been if I’d had a sibling.

[@denieraadams4924]

Definitely would let the dog be there for them 🤣😂🤣

[@shelleyg1836]

make sure to let them know when they ask for help in declining health, or if they break a hip, have a medical issue etc. that u can't do it but you are sure the dog will be willing and able to lend a hand because of how they were always there for the dog before u. this disgusts me. i had 4 kids and am always there for them no matter what and while i love my 4 dogs as more kids i would never miss my child's wedding because my dog. that's a once in a lifetime event. shame on them.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Why did they adopt you when they already had their beloved child? Was one of those PR stunts?

[@laurabooth6752]

I'm so sorry

[@corsair1]

That's heartbreaking. Kids just want their parents to love them. It's really not asking for much. Yet they made you feel left out and favoured the pet. They were lucky to have you, and still they acted like they and their dog were too good for you. I hope that now you are surrounded by people who shower you with all the love you deserve ❤

[@annmoore321]

First story: Those parents deserved the negative exposure, and so did OP’s sister. Two of my siblings made excuses and didn’t show up to my wedding, so I know what that pain feels like. There is absolutely no way to make up for that. It’s been more than ten years and it still hurts to see the gaps in the wedding photos where they should have been.

[@estarramanderley8172]

My sister-in-law and her family didn't come to our wedding ceremony because they had not wanted to end their holiday on a Friday. They left Saturday morning and arrived later, sometime during the reception. They never even bothered to tell us. They just weren't there. Then they took a family portrait with our wedding photographer and changed into leisure wear. Feel you.

[@tealablu3759]

I don’t get how any of that is OK. I’d be pretty offended if I wasn’t my sisters maid/matron of honor. Sure, we argue and bicker, even as adults, but we still love and would do anything for each other

[@JudyHart1]

My parents didn’t come to my wedding, 49 years ago, my feelings are still hurt even though they’re both passed. No way to make it up.

[@debbysouthworth5606]

I know what you mean. Same thing happened to me.

[@tommoore2012]

Lucky them. I have four siblings and didn’t want to go to any of their weddings. My mom literally dragged me to the wedding of the first one of them to get married. And then later on during the reception she had the audacity to wonder and be concerned why I wasn’t having a grand old time. My brothers and sisters knew I have zero interest in weddings but those selfish dicks couldn’t have cared less and invited me to go anyway. “Because it was a very special moment in my life and I wanted to share it with you” -my sister. Well I didn’t want to share it with you. So glad to know that what I wanted meant nothing to them.

[@Farmer_El]

I can understand how that first guy felt. Literally no one in my family came to my high school graduation. I understood when no one showed up when I graduated from army basic training since I was hundreds of miles away. However, they didn't bother to show when I graduated from from another military course where they were about 70 miles away. The big one, though, was my wedding that not a single one of them bothered to attend and it was only about 10 miles from where they all lived.

[@jamisojo]

They sound like you are better off without them. I am proud of you for the successes you made the effort to achieve. I hope you don't waste much time wishing for a relationship with those pathetic people.

[@rebecca12345_]

That must be hurtful. I hope you are proud of yourself and find people who appreciate you. Unfortunately, we dont choose our birth family.

[@DragonWitch86]

Before my wedding 9 years ago, I asked my dad if he would walk me down the aisle. He said no because he probably won't be there. My stepmom made him come but it still hurt because it felt like he didn't want to be there. And my mom came even though she was sick. Hell nor high water would keep me away from my child's wedding. Not the AH. Good parents would be there on their kid's important days. There is no making this up.

[@erikarussell1142]

No ifs and’s or buts about it. You couldn’t keep me from my step daughters wedding this October coming up. I don’t care if I have to walk (I have Broken spine so it’s hard), but I’ll be there.

[@DragonWitch86]

@@erikarussell1142 Exactly! I'm sorry about your spine. I know that has to be rough.

[@erikarussell1142]

@@DragonWitch86 it’s better than being dead, it was an emergency spinal fusion as mine had collapsed. Thank you so much my friend, but I’m loving my life and living my best life. No worries here.

[@moonhunter9993]

Really sorry this happened to you. There is no excuse. I also think it's passive aggressive. A way to tear you down. I remember my mom telling me she didn't know whether she could come to my graduation ceremony and later the same about my wedding. She said she wasn't sure if she would have to work that shift. I was devastated. My sister-in-law was in absolute shock when she heard what my mom said. The worst part is, I'm their only child AND my mom was the boss, so she was actually responsible for making the schedule and could obviously give herself time off whenever she wanted.

[@DragonWitch86]

@@erikarussell1142 that's amazing :)

[@Lestaticate]

1st Story: I would be extra petty and post pictures I had of myself at different events. “Can’t wait for March madness! Here’s a pic of me at my first championship game with my fam- oh nvm, that’s me with my friend’s family. My sister stubbed her toe that day so no one came.” … “Summer break’s almost here, here’s Me at my High School Graduation with the f- nope, just me. Sis broke a nail and parents stayed home for emotional support.”

[@kiraeckard7625]

Agree. OP should've doubled down and showed any documentation they had of important times the parents didn't show up for bc his sister butt itched that morning or something.

[@user-guigui01]

Damn, that's petty. My partner would love to make friends with you. My partner's family never lifted a finger to help them, and I'm seeing my partner is wanting to rub their happiness in their family face. Obviously I'll help. It's the love of my life, and I love drama!!

[@bringezk]

Oh yes indeed! Petty Queen! I am so petty/passive-aggressive when people are disrespectful & I LOVE this idea!

[@fourlittlebirds6166]

😂😂😂😂 laughed so hard at the “excuses”. Just awesome.

[@AudraT]

All this wedding talk reminds me of a time my sister and I were invited to a bridal shower for someone we weren't that close with. We were surprised and honored that she thought so much of us to receive an actual invite to her shower. We of course showed up, with bridal shower gifts in hand, and had a very lovely time. Afterwards we waited for the wedding invitation to arrive. The wedding came and went, and we never got an invite, but I'm sure this bride was very happy that her wedding registry was fulfilled.

[@naboos4432]

re: wedding cake A close family friend made our wedding cake (150 guests) as our wedding gift. The cake was absolutely gorgeous and everyone complimented the friend who made it. After the service we reimbursed our friend for all the supplies without even giving them a chance to ask. We felt it was the least we could do for their generous gift.

[@Fragmented_Mask]

I have baked two friends' cakes now as gifts because they were doing small, do your own type of affairs. One wedding was three individual cakes (normal, gf and vegan) and the other was two cakes (gf and vegan). One set of friends bought me several gifts as a thank you and the other reimbursed me for the cost of my ingredients. That didn't of course cover the time spent but for me, the time spent was my gift to them. It's only fair and these families were ridiculous. If they didn't want to pay her fees, they should have looked elsewhere and been honest from the beginning.

[@BeeWhistler]

@@Fragmented_Mask That's what I say. If they had a problem, they should have discussed it, not avoided the OP. A wedding cake is one of the most essential wedding features. I can't imagine being willing to gamble with that right up to the day before.

[@babylor1]

​@@Fragmented_Mask I've made 2 wedding cakes as gifts for friends, both times I offered to do it as my wedding gift...never again 😒😊

[@starkimage_jrs7710]

I think it's the thoughtful gesture and that you appreciate what they did more. My own wedding in 2000. Got a call 3 weeks before the date, my baker acquaintance (who's making our cake) was rushed to the hospital. I went right away to visit her. When she saw me, she cried, apologized profusely and tried to give me the money for my cake that I paid right then and there. I just laughed and told her she didn't pencil in her calendar "get sick before the wedding", and wait until she's home to worry about the money. Went to work the next day and told my co-workers what happened. I thought, Oh well I'll just order from the grocery store. A simple cake or 10 dozens of cupcakes. I didn't want to stress about it. We have everything lined up, and if the cake is the only glitch, I'll take it. 3 days later, I got a call from my work kitchen asking me to visit after my shift. When I got there, they offered to make my cake. They said it will be simple as it's only 2 weeks away, then asked about my wedding information (Like colour, flavour, number of guest, etc.). I was so shocked. They told me that unfortunately if it's ok, to charge me $200 for it (ingredients). I was SO HAPPY and since I had the cash, handed it to them right then and there. My sister volunteered to get the cake before the wedding. No expectations. Just happy that we have one. The time came & they rolled in the cake : It was 3 tier round cake. 6" Vanilla top. Then 12" and 18" respectively. Half Vanilla & Chocolate, White Chocolate fondant icing. White and Blue fresh roses on one side from top to bottom. Sugar flowers on one side. 2 weeks after when I came back to work. I each made the Chef and Baker, small gift baskets with cheese, crackers and fruits. Then made Vegetable, Cheese and Meat platters for the kitchen. I found out that one of my office co-worker is the daughter of 1 of the baker. Got 2 dozen doughnuts for the office and secretly gave her a small gift basket as a thank you. They just want to take advantage of your good nature. It's not a big loss to you if you don't speak to them anymore. Think of it this way: LESS WORK and LESS Expenses. Stay safe

[@kellyfazekas7831]

Regarding the wedding cake story. A. There's a difference in volunteering to bring cakes or cookies to a gathering because you just want to and making a cake because you were asked (i.e. hired) to do so. B. There's a big difference between a sheet cake and a 3 tiered wedding cake to feed 75 people! Her brother and sister are obviously from another planet and have lost their minds.

[@GmonkeyJ777]

Welp, now they had no cake so ha! ha! ha!

[@khiemduong379]

I can relate to that first story- my sister is 5 years older than me. It was my high school graduation. We only get 5 tickets for family/friends to sit in and watch. My sister was upset that her boyfriend wasn’t invited (it was my parents, grandma, sister, and my cousin who has been more of a sister to me than my sister). My sister made a big deal about how my cousin was going and how her boyfriend wasn’t. After the graduation and everyone was walking to their families my family was gone and my cousin was the only one to greet me. She helped take some photos of me and my friends and then I get a call from my parents rushing me to come to a restaurant- my sister was hungry so they left mid way through the ceremony. My cousin said they left before I walked. So I wasn’t able to take a lot of photos because I had to go to the restaurant. When I got there my family was done eating. My dad clearly saw I was quiet so he had all of us drive back to the high school (it deserted) and made me put the cap and gown back on to take photos by myself around the high school. Through tears he yelled at me to smile and that it was a good day.

[@karaiko]

Your family sucks hope you moved out and never invite them to anything. A boyfriend can change at a drop of a hat but to treat you like that...honey theyre not worth your tears.

[@Mariewolf_94]

thats horrible, i'm so sorry that happened... 🫂

[@nonai7897]

Thats awful. Sorry that happened.

[@Skyler-yw3od]

That's fucking horrible, and I hope you don't have any contact with them except for your cousin. (Maybe grandma too, if she isn't a POS either.)

[@maryharvey6909]

Wow. Why would you even want to look back on those pictures?

[@lauraabdullah8144]

Freaking LOVE the friend put HER voicemail in the back so she couldn’t deny it 😊

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

That was absolutely PERFECT! They obviously know what they did was super shitty, because they are mortified. But...only because it's been made public. Should have thought of that before pulling out over the selfish brat sister's sick dog.

[@inamelzvoice]

Makes me think about my own wedding cake. Me and the husband didn’t had a lot of money, so it was a very small reception (20 persons in total) in the restaurant we had our very first date. My brother's girlfriend have a father who have his own bakery in the big city (3hrs travel from where we live) and said he would be delighted to make us our wedding cake, and she would bring it to the reception when coming with my brother. We were so happy about it because it was one less thing to think about, and I made sure the task wouldn't be too difficult so it wouldn't be a burden for her dad. So we just mentioned it was a winter theme wedding (white/blue colors), that we liked blueberries flavor, and to simply not make it too sweet because of the health of some older people at the ceremony. The rest was at his creative discretion since he was the professional, not us, and since my parents had accepted to pay for the restaurant, we were ready to pay the cake full price since we had money left. We were sincerely just expecting a small cute cake with little decorative snowflakes on it, and it would have made our sincere joy. The man not only made a two stories cake, but put an elaborate sugar sculpture on it, and it was beautiful and SO very delicious. My favorite picture of the wedding is me and the husband cutting the cake : we were smiling so much because it was just perfect. And when I asked for the price and insisted to pay (because my brother's girlfriend had until now only say "oh dont bother about that, it's your wedding, we will discuss it after your happy day") she said that her father had expressed he didn't wanted to be paid and that it was his gift for us. The thing is, we had never even met the guy because of the travel distance, and right after the wedding, covid happened and the entire world got in lockdown. I swear, the moment I'll finally be able to meet that incredible man, I'll start to cry and kiss him on both cheeks for his incredible generosity. So moral of the story : the less you're entitled to something, the more people can surprise you by how kind and great they are.

[@Moerighan]

What an amazing man, he clearly passed that on to his daughter as well. I hope your brother cherishes her.

[@inamelzvoice]

He better be cherish her, or else me and my parents will put some sense into his skull xD But yeah, they've been together for more than five years now, and are talking about having a baby once my brother finish his studies (he's in medicine so it can take a lil while). So I think it's a good guess to say that they are very happy together ^^

[@Rose-hh7mk]

That is so beautiful!! I hope you get to meet him some day!

[@cherylcorbin-gillespie5656]

Oh a Nice Story.. Thank you I teared up❤️🙏 That is the most amazing thing Ever!? I kept trying to guess what -could be Happening next!? Nope.. I was wrong and I'm Soo delighted to have read your story Thank you So Much for sharing❤️💯 My heart feels twice as Big.. that is Food for Thought Right There❣️❤️🥲 Bless him and his daughter and you for sharing your story it's The Most Beautiful I've heard in a Long Time.. Your So Precious🤍🕊️🌼

[@donstclair4619]

powerful lesson! thank you!

[@Mhaga81]

For our wedding we were gifted this pretty three tiered cake stand as an engagement present. I like to host parties. But it was gorgeous, really elegant. So we decided instead of doing a traditional wedding cake we would do three separate cakes. Was the best idea, we got a flavor or filling that everyone liked, but variety. We also had fun getting a couple extra toppers. The cakes only cost $60 since they were single cakes vs a wedding cake

[@cheekybella123]

Story 1 is simply demonstrating that his best man had his back, and had a sense of humour (plus that he was respectful to ask the bride if it was ok and she could've easily said no).

[@wanderer7956]

That first one with the parents who always have to help OP's sister is nuts. I remember reading this one on Reddit. My first thought then was, unless OP's parents are incapable of existing outside of each other's presence for more than a few minutes, why can't they divide and conquer? My sister had some significant mental health issues when we were young, but my parents never forgot I existed. During times she was hospitalized and I had an event, it was usually just one of them who was there for me, and the other was with my sister. Even if sister's dog needed to be rushed to the vet and she was too hysterical to driver herself, one of OP's parents couldn't still come to at least part of the wedding? I am a devoted fur mama, but this is just stupid. Leave that video up!

[@jbshiva865]

There was an update on this story, apparently the sister is not mentally ill, she's just VERY spoiled.

[@Tasha9315]

Exactly what I said. Why couldn't one of them at least attend the wedding. Surely she didn't them "both" there.

[@linus4d1]

My father-in-law totally ghosted my wife on our wedding. Her mother had passed away several years ago, which made his presence even more important. No one to walk her down the aisle. She was obviously upset about this and was near tears. A bride should have only tears of joy at her wedding. Idk if father-in-law just didn't like me or what. He's never said anything to my face. I'm working on forgiving him, but it's difficult to forgive someone who shows no remorse.

[@FranziskaMLeibe]

Maybe it was too hard for him reminding him of his loss? It still would be important to at least show up and talk to you. But maybe he tries to avoid it, cause he tries to avoid also his feelings

[@sparrowwilson4514]

@@FranziskaMLeibehe needs to suck it up. It’s his daughter’s wedding. It was the daughter’s mum who died too. He’s just a selfish asshole.

[@taleandclawrock2606]

You dont have to forgive arsehole behavior that people arent even sorry for. He deserves to be ignored the way he ignored your wifes very special day.

[@kristaholman3592]

The last story got me. It always surprises me when a "friend" refuses to invest in their friendship with others but is genuinely upset when others stop investing in the friendship in return. People get tired of giving when they aren't getting even respect back. This is also what kills marriages.

[@switzer_no_switzing]

Absolutely 💯

[@michaelccozens]

Narcissists are like that. "Friends are people who do things for *me*, not the other way around!" - Troy Barnes.

[@ashlynadventures912]

Yeah, that story was irksome. How do you expect someone to invite you to their annual party again (where you met and announced your engagement) when you didn't invite them to the wedding? You can't tell someone their personal party is so special to you and not invite them to your 200 person wedding. Make your bed and lie in it.

[@GmonkeyJ777]

Screenshot, put it on a t-shirt!!

[@81laurenjean]

That last AITA about the wedding and Christmas party, I remember reading that one when it was newer and the couple actually had the audacity to tell OP that her party was very special to them because that’s where they met… and STILL no wedding invite. I like that OP just quietly didn’t invite them just like they didn’t her.

[@michellewatters4004]

Especially a 3 tier cake. I made my son’s wedding cakes for free but both my daughter in law’s helped with each other’s cakes and their own. A normal cake of that caliber is around $800-$1,500 depending on decoration and design.

[@DasSpaceAce]

The ex who showed up to the wedding dressed like a full on club hoochie apparently thought there were going to be a lot more people & she'd find single guys to hit on - hence the panic after finding out it was a small, family only ceremony LOL

[@DasSpaceAce]

​@@missmayflower I thought this too! Depending on the kid's age, they were potentially facepalming the whoooole time going "MOOOOM!"

[@erikarussell1142]

I really feel for her on that one. I almost felt the second hand embarrassment

[@marinadeburgos8666]

I thought the same, but one thing is to wear a strapless dress (some can be nice for a proper wedding ) and another different to wear a clubbing dress

[@Gamer_Mama_0611]

Yep how hilarious that it ended up being small. But I would have asked her to leave because with weddings there are a certain amount of chairs, glasses, plates, food. The headcount is important & uninvited guests don't realize how much of inconvenience they are being.

[@jengsci8268]

Kitty Bucher - That's what I was thinking! What better place to find a hook-up to try and stay in the same family as her ex.

[@MyLifeMyWay]

I make cupcakes for family events. My sister asked me to make 10 dozen for her wedding. I asked for $400 to cover costs and she paid without issue even though I usually do it for free. There is a big difference between one double batch and 5 double batches and she understood that. They turned out amazing and she still talks about them sometimes.

[@MonsterPrincessLala]

You charge more than famous bakeries. Ingredients don't cost $400. Not only are you a massive liar, I don't think this even happened. - long line of bakers and bakery staff. I also only paid $300 for a famous bakery to make a cake for 100 people. Smh. Y'all don't know how much a loaf of bread costs Jesus Christ

[@ananimal2350]

@@MonsterPrincessLala Sounds like you might have gotten a bargain more then anything. I did some quick research, and it looks like the average for wedding cakes is $4/$5 per slice, so OP charging $400 for what is essentially 120 slices of a wedding cake sounds like actually a good deal (for example, you go with $4 per slice, 120 slices would be $480).

[@beckyreyes3080]

Would you have not made them if she couldn't/wouldn't pay? I do thing so for family all the time, for free.

[@MonsterPrincessLala]

@@ananimal2350 i didn't. It's standard. You're either being ripped off or doing it to others

[@MyLifeMyWay]

Part of the context you may be missing is that I’m Canadian and this is CAD. Also, I had to make all of the flavors twice, once a few months before the wedding, and then again the night before. This is because I’m not a baker, I just do it for a hobby, so we picked out flavors and then I had to make sure the recipe I found actually tasted good. She didn’t pay me before the wedding, she paid me after by a few months just so they had time to save up again. I always knew she would pay me back as her and I have always been good together for money. When I just make a dozen or two for family gatherings, I never charge. When I make sangria cupcakes for my mom though as they are her favorites, she has to bring me the bottle of wine she wants used.

[@therealdachshunddjangosmom]

Having a sister like the first one hits home. Our parents defended (and feared) her their whole life. Took care of both of them, when they were dying, my sister barely came to visit. After both of them passed it was a matter of weeks to drop any contact with her, it was just too much. I still love her, she is my sister, but this constant fighting and even physical attacks had to stop! Peace out❤

[@fourlittlebirds6166]

For the last story it sounds as though the couple had been trying to upstage the party giver for several years. They probably would have used her house and Christmas party to announce their pregnancy, and once they weren’t invited, got really pissed that their plans were foiled.

[@FaithMcCaffrey]

The wedding cake one, I totally agree. As soon as I started setting boundaries with my family I was treated like shit. Now I don't bother myself with them anymore

[@kimgoldsberry4088]

Yeah, I wouldn't be, at all, surprised if she just stopped making cakes for family...

[@gorillaau]

​@@kimgoldsberry4088 if coerced into it again, make it cupcake. No, not a typo, just one. When they ask, just say that the rest of the batch went to the local food can for the needy or the volunteers if way insufficient in numbers.

[@MMGhost123]

Parents missing the wedding over his sister's drama...🤦‍♀.... If it were me, the video would stay up forever. That's a true friend he has👍👍

[@jayklee88]

We paid $350 for a 2 layer cake and 2 sheet cakes from HyVee (grocery store). As delicious as it was and we are still super happy with our choice, there is absolutely no way that I would expect a baker making a custom cake to accept only $400 especially for a cake of that scale. If they wanted to go cheap they had options but they don’t get to take advantage of a family member to save money.

[@TheBaumcm]

Especially when you consider that if OP had never made a cake of this scale before, there would be pans to purchase, specialty cake tips, consumables, etc.

[@heathermurphy2047]

Heyoooo! Hy-Vee makes some tasty cakes!!

[@PinkieJoJo]

Been married since 1998 and our 5 tier cake from a home professional wedding cake maker was only 185. Crazy to think how much it would cost now days.

[@KANNIXING]

@@PinkieJoJoThe US dollar has lost 48% of its value since then. $1 in 1998 is about $1.94 in 2024.

[@yetiyarnworks6578]

@@PinkieJoJo Wow, I got married in 2007 and our 3 tier cake from a professional baker was $350.

[@Just1Nora]

I'm 35 and my sister is 37. My mom has been making excuses for my sister's bad behavior as long as I can remember. Most recently, the past 5 yrs or so my sister has just straight up stopped inviting our dad and I to any holiday events she hosts, her sil hosts, and even my nieces birthday parties! My niece absolutely adores the two of us too. But it gets better! For background, our dad and I are both physically disabled with different chronic pain conditions and I have chronic migraines that are totally unpredictable. We sometimes have to cancel last minute or leave earlier than the rest due to pain. Dad and I have lived together since the divorce. My mom basically decided to keep my sister and cast me aside. Yes, that's accurate and she has confirmed it. I burned out in my 5th yr of college and became disabled at that time. I moved back in with Dad and we've been supporting each other since. A year and a half ago, before the holidays, I messaged my sister and asked her if she would please include Dad and myself in the festivities that year because our dad has been diagnosed with non-alcoholic cirrhosis, on top of having Parkinson's, and we don't know how much longer he's got. I wanted him to make some nice memories with the family, especially his granddaughter, before his mental and physical decline. I asked her why she had been excluding us and she said she didn't bother since we couldn't always come anyway. Our mom still invites us to everything she hosts (divorced parents) even if it's something my sister and her family aren't attending. So I called out my sister for her bad behavior. I told her that she was being an abilist a-hole for excluding disabled people specifically because they're disabled, and that's a really shitty thing to do. Oh boy did she get MAD. She started going off saying that I was in the wrong and finally said that I, "burned the bridge too many times," and now I'm, "dead to [her]." She hasn't talked to me since. My mom said it was because she was having a really hard time at her job, and now she's having problems with her husband and daughter...Yeah Mom? I'm dealing with a man with advanced Parkinson's. That doesn't just mean shaking and memory loss but anger, depression, childlike defiance episodes...none of which he remembers and I have to keep my temper during because you can't argue or correct a Parkinson's episode. Their brain gets set and nothing will change it. She still talks to our dad, was in our house once and treated me like I was invisible. So, AITA for pointing out her bad behavior and not tolerating it? My counselor was proud and said I was setting healthy boundaries.

[@fanngurl164]

Absolutely NTA! If she couldnt make an exception because its his last days then tbh... fuck her! She shouldve called and IMO cussed out!

[@susiemollett5419]

You're definitely not an A-hole but your sister is

[@bringezk]

Yes to healthy boundaries - NOT the ahole at all. I am sorry your Mom & sister don't appreciate you. It must be so hard to be dealing with your own health issues while also caring for your father & his. You are amazing 💝

[@sngray11]

Your sister is the a-hole, not you! 💗 And kudos for sharing your thoughts, feelings, and speaking the truth to your sister! 💞 And setting healthy boundaries is always a positive, regardless of how the other person reacts. I am sending strength, prayers, and positive vibes your way.

[@missMediaChick]

I'm also disabled, with a severe neuroimmune disease, and all of my friends have abandoned me. Ableists love to gaslight when they're called out. It's exhausting.

[@graceskyephoto]

My heart goes out to the first bride dealing with Ahole parents favoring the sister and missing out on important events and moments. I’ve been dealing with the same for years

[@maddyjoy7858]

A lesson I learned after my wedding: everyone wants to be invited to your wedding, but that doesn't mean they want to invite you to their big events. We had a small wedding, less than 200 guests. I say "small" because over 150 of the guests were close family. My husband and I have big families and only got to invite a few of our friends. So many people were angry at me or talked bad about me when they found out our venue capacity and that they weren't invited, no one believed me when I reiterated that we were almost at capacity with family alone. So many people who hadn't invited me to their birthdays, weddings, or other big events in years expected an invitation. Moral of the story, a bunch of people want to be important in your life, but don't consider you be important in theirs.

[@greeneyedgirl2168]

Similar situation happened with me. My husband and I paid for our own wedding. We had it at a local park, only costed us $50. We only invited immediate family and a few friends. Well.... My aunt ended up telling the rest of my family they weren't invited. They were furious. Mind you, they were never involved in anything other than annual family gatherings (Thanksgiving, Christmas) so, I only saw them twice a year. If that... My aunt ended up bringing a "plus one" without asking me. My husband and I didn't have money to pay for a reception, at the time, so I let everyone know we'd invite others when we planned it. (A year later) So, after our wedding we decided to go to IHOP. I talked with my family about it and they said they were going to Applebee's. My husband's family was perfectly okay with IHOP and actually went ahead of us and reserved an area for us. So, my family completely disrespected me and my new husband. They also talked during the whole ceremony. My mother even tried to invite my ex to "crash" the wedding. He never showed, thankfully. Mind you, we'd been broken up for three years, at this point. (Yes....my mother was keeping in contact with my ex...the reason why is a mystery. ) Despite all that, it was still the best day of my life! I got to marry my best friend! I barely remember any of this as it was happening, because I was so focused on him! ❤

[@k-cs]

My parents insisted the guest list was theirs (I'm older now, but my family is very traditional in a lot of ways). I was crushed over folks I couldn't invite right off the bat, but got told by my whole family that I needed to respect my parents in their wishes, even family members who often sided with me on different topics. My grandparents, who meant the world to me, were already dealing with a lot of other family issues they shouldn't have had to even consider and became distraught. I caved for them and because I was in grad school (which I paid for myself, to be clear) and was already overwhelmed with all the decisions my mom was "laying down". Luckily(?), we had a lot of cancelations from their folks, and I tried to invite my friends as the "B-List". My friends who came from wealthier families didn't seem to understand my dilemma at the time and were hurt. Some didn't speak to me for a while. The guest list can be a battle, and as a young adult, you can lose that battle.

[@AutumnStormB]

My guess would be the stripper dressed ex was being petty herself, and then found out it was a small, exclusive event and realized her invitation was a sign of respect and a way of saying that the couple valued a peaceful and friendly relationship with her. There is nothing that takes the hot air out of a person’s petty than seeing their target standing on the high road. How embarrassing for her.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Exactly. Serves her right. Idiot.

[@monroerobbins7551]

Yeah… I hope they work things out, but at the same time, I hope the ex felt REALLY guilty about it, lol.

[@Jellybeansatdusk]

Honestly I think she really was just insecure at the idea of going to the ex’s wedding and I don’t think it was necessarily petty or malicious intent but rather, well if I am going to his wedding I have to look as absolutely good as possible (for some reason she thought sexy) so that nobody would be like, aw honey you missed out. I think it’s awkward enough to go to an ex’s wedding, she probably didn’t want to invite comparisons so instead was like ok I’ll just go all out and be stunning so that I don’t feel insecure about my ex getting with someone else. When she realized it was just like 10 people and all related to her ex it probably made her feel even more awkward to be invited in the first place.

[@kayx3998]

The "sick dog" one.. I can 100% sympathize with this guy. My son is almost a year old and my dad has only seen him once, didn't come to my baby shower or the hospital the 3 days I was there because his wife, my step mom, was having a bad day and he got busy because of it. If I had a video like op I would post it, no shame. Me and my partner haven't gotten married yet but stuff like this is exactly why we want to have a intimate, private ceremony.

[@giggle_snort]

I was a little concerned when OP said she doesn't normally charge family for her cakes, but then listened/read again, and she made it clear she just does small cakes for a birthday or other minor special occasion. A wedding cake is a whole different animal. And the cake she describes is MASSIVE, and just like she said, would take a lot of time, work, and money to complete. And here's the thing: she told them her terms and her price up front, and *they agreed to it!* The fact that they then ghosted her when she asked for her payment, and then called HER the asshole for charging is extremely fucked up. Hard NTA.

[@Claudia-lq3ns]

Absolutely NTA. At all. Especially after the engaged couple agreed with the terms in the first place. So incredibly fucked up and she was well within her right to not bake the cake. What, was she supposed to buy the ingredients for a 75 person wedding cake? They are the AH's.

[@missyidontgiveacrap9939]

What’s NTA?

[@jbshiva865]

@@missyidontgiveacrap9939 It means Not the A-hole.

[@giggle_snort]

@@missyidontgiveacrap9939 It stands for "Not The Asshole." Similarly, if you see "YTA," that stands for "You're The Asshole."

[@thearkof-noah]

​@@missyidontgiveacrap9939 NTA means not the a-hole

[@FifthHorsemanofApocalypse]

For anyone wondering, the first story sounds like the classic golden child vs scapegoat dynamic in toxic households with narcissistic parents and family.

[@switzer_no_switzing]

Yep!

[@JaneMagdalena]

Exacly my thoughts, crystal clear

[@fayzaniha352]

I absolutely love it when Charlotte asks us if she could do one more; Like GIRL! You could do one hour videos and I'd still sit through the entirety of it! But she's sooo cute when she does that!

[@mkk2424]

I remember reading the last one. It got more and more petty. They ended up trying to hold a bigger and better party than OP, but because OP's parties are epic and renowned no one went to theirs. From memory they also were hoping to announce that they're pregnant, so a real sad effort from them

[@Moerighan]

I think the pregnancy thing was just speculation, but it honestly would not have been surprising.

[@ashlynadventures912]

I want to hear how the petty escalated. Though you told the ending, still want to hear the lead up

[@thecoolgrandma7208]

Well, if they felt the party was a special thing to them, why didn't they get an invite?

[@leila13dnd]

Ok the first is already a banger. The best man really went "OK he's never going to do this himself, so I will." Absolutely love that. Second one is also pretty clear. 400 for that big of a custom cake?? That's a steal ngl. No one would do that for free. Third one I was skeptical at first until they bright up how big the wedding was. If these guys have space for 200 people but not you, fuck them.

[@lindapatton4478]

Had she offered to make them the wedding cake as a gift that would have been one thing. But she told them up front when they ASKED if she could do it, that they would have to pay for it, as it would cost money for all the things she would need to get to do it right. Her other baking for family was as a gift to them, so she didn't expect to get any payment. They still showed their appreciation by getting gift cards and baked goods afterwards as a thank you. And $400 for a wedding cake really isn't that much.

[@rhondaflesher8313]

I will admit, my three-tiered wedding cake was free. My aunt made cakes for a living and that was her gift to us.

[@icewater4725]

That first story .....EPIC. I applaud you. Live your life sir!!!! That was awesome

[@marieclapdorp1417]

For the cake one, she should have said "don't worry, your cake will be there". Then bought a Duncan Hines box cake (strawberry flavoured of course) and canned frosting and made that for the wedding. Maybe throw some sprinkles on top, to make it festive.

[@erikarussell1142]

I would have delivered it in a bowl with all the stuff for them to make themselves. Am IKEA cake, if you will. You want it, fine, but you do all the work. And I’m only supplying enough for one box.

[@fdm2155]

So weird that they assumed she would 'just do it' anyway when they were clearly dodging her on payment AND she had been clear about requiring payment up front. If they had a problem with the cost, they should have said that MUCH sooner. Not tried to steal her money and labor by simply refusing to pay.

[@Meanne77]

@@erikarussell1142 way too expensive!

[@erikarussell1142]

@@Meanne77 right!? Lol

[@ireneangelucci3733]

Guys just so you know...I'm loving all of your ideas so much 💖 let's all be petty together

[@shaunacorrigan9372]

The first story is a perfect example of "you can't control how other people act, you can only control how you react." Good for OP for enjoying his time with his new wife and laying down a firm boundary with his parents. Their neglect hurts, but it's good for him to understand that it isn't his fault and he isn't the one that needs to adjust his behavior. Hopefully his new in laws are everything his family isn't

[@arlenesmith7883]

I used to make wedding cakes and loved it! For close friends or family I would offer to do their cake for them as their gift…each one happily jumped at the offer! Anyone that would “side eye” you for -only -giving a wedding cake as a gift - doesn’t have a clue at the time and effort it takes to make one! I baked in my home and including shopping, baking, making icing and the roses 🌹, it was a full two days work!! Sometimes more! However, to see the couples faces light up when seeing it,made all the time and effort worth it!!

[@missunderstoodmal1700]

The Christmas party story had an update and it was awesome. The newlyweds tried to throw a party on the same night, but OP said all her expected guests were at her party, so it had no effect on her.

[@LeOhio817]

Karma working overtime ❤

[@jw42uk]

The first one; I can totally relate to that one.. I'm the youngest of 12 and when I got married, I remember one of my sisters (the week before) decided she was going to announce that she was trying for another baby and couldn't make the wedding due to her commitments (????)... I didn't bite and I accepted it... On my wedding day, my other brothers and sisters turned up with my mum and as soon as the ceremony had finished they got a phone call and had to leave as it was so important! It turned out my sister wanted to let them know she wasn't pregnant and she was extremely depressed and needed her family around.... its safe to say I haven't made any effort with them since then apart from my mum who has actually apologised... its been 6 years in July and my marriage is going great 👍

[@tealablu3759]

That’s pitiful. I’m sorry 😔

[@kamiamarievaldez8441]

That definitely sucks. I'm so sorry you had to go through that on your wedding day.

[@gingercake274]

that song by harry chapman "cats in the craddle." comes to mind to op. its sad ass song about a father missing out in life events for his kid. the lyrics just hit. good on him and his ride n die bestie for that-!

[@Dingobabee]

The wedding cake one was so deliberate by the couple They waited until the last minute to withdraw an agreement to pay, despite being asked numerous times, specifically to try and trap her and make it seem like if she refused she was screwing them over When in reality they strung her along in a way that a professional could sue them for

[@Moerighan]

They were probably hoping she would make it knowing with how big it would have been she'd have to start a few days before and they'd be able to 'screw her over' with the payment by avoiding up until the day. She was smart not to even start on it.

[@fourlittlebirds6166]

I agree. Sounds to me like she knew something like that would happen with them, so she purposely did not start on their cake ahead of time.

[@aether_feathers]

Fortunately she didn't make it beforehand that would have been a huge waste :/ I probably would have smashed it or eat it on my own if It had been made already 😂

[@kaylapounds1359]

If she had made it and they didn't pay, she'd have every right to sue them.

[@makenzieschmidt7577]

@@aether_feathers i wouldve taken it to the nearest homeless shelter or womens shelter and handed out slices for free

[@TheOGPokemonGirl]

My aunt is the same as the op in the cake story. She bakes these amazing cakes and sweets in her spare time just as a hobby, she's been doing cake decorating courses for years but doesn't want to work as a baker. She has very kindly done all of the wedding cakes for my dad's side of the family (I've got a LOT of cousins, so we've had a lot of weddings. She also refuses to accept payment, no matter how many times we try to pay her for them.) She made an amazing cake for my brother and sister-in-laws wedding, and when she showed some photos of the cake to the instructor of her cake decorating course, he said that he would have easily paid $2000 for it if she had done it as a professional job for a wedding. $400 is a massive bargain for a wedding cake of that size, so the bride and groom should be extremely grateful to op for offering to make an amazing cake at such a low price.

[@javierrubio6398]

It is so comforting how Charlotte describes the difference between entitled and petty❤

[@lkayh]

So OP3 introduced them, and they announced their engagement at OP’s home, but OP wasn’t important enough to them to be invited to the wedding. That tells them where they stand. If the Christmas party is for close friends and family, they’ve noped themselves off the list. Not even petty. Just accepting their perspective on the friendship.

[@FenTastic18]

It also demonstrates that they basically saw OP’s home as a venue, like a fancy restaurant, so why would they bother to invite someone they basically see as the glorified “manager” to their wedding? These people are incredibly self centered and deserve each other

[@tealablu3759]

Apparently, with OP and spouse in their 30s, they were deemed to be too old for the trendy 20 year olds 🙄 and everyone else was super surprised that they weren’t there, but were told that they had RSVPed no. When they found out the truth, they refused to go to the bitch’s Christmas party that she was throwing on Christmas Eve, and only went to OP’s party.

[@alendraceleste3327]

With one of my friends, I was the one that had pushed him and his now wife together. He and I were also decently close in high school. I was one of the people who he had reached out to when they got engaged, and they also invited me and my fiance to their wedding. When my fiance and I got engaged, they invited us to swing by their place and were one of our first friends to celebrate our engagement with. They are for sure invited to our wedding next year. This story saddened me, and I hope OP sticks to their guns and doesn't invite them into their home ever again.

[@anakaliaeastwood]

$400 for a three tiered wedding cake is a freakin' bargain.

[@tamarak9393]

I paid $400 for my wedding cake…… in 1990.

[@AlaskanCookie]

Right?! $400 is a freaking steal! Mine was way more than that and I got married 8 years ago.

[@jemma927]

That's an absolute bargain for a cake of that calibre!

[@moniquewinbush1527]

Barely covering supplies I would think 😭

[@elfenlied_girl1238]

It’s a steal compared to how much, I remember when it was my quince, my mom spend almost 3,000 on just the cake, $400 is literally nothing, and the only reason it costed 3,000 was because my mom was friends with the person who made it, for the size that the cake was and how it looked it surely would’ve costed 5-6,000 and it was for 150 guests

[@arianalaiche-oriez9733]

Story 2, she was trying to do something to spoil it... She was gonna try and dance with him (flirt, try to kiss him show off how she was soooo much better than OP, something), spill something on the dress, ruin the cake, something to make it about her and the fact she didn't "approve" or her idea og a joke to embarrass the couple, she was there to make trouble and OP headed it off excellently. The other thing was the "getting nervous" when she found the size or the fact that the reception was set apart from the ceremony. She planned something vindictive and got busted.

[@juliebiggerbear7300]

14:35 I would have been of the same opinion as the OP. One of my friends met their spouse only because they were both FB friends with me. When they got engaged and were setting up their wedding plans, they contacted me directly to ask if I would like to be a part of their wedding since I was the reason that it was happening at all. I was so honored to attend! This is what should’ve happened with the OP.

[@ramachandra776]

Cutting somebody off from your Christmas party if they have not invited you to their wedding is more than justified . It is neither petty nor revenge but just desserts , pure and simple . The first story OP's friend seems like a male version of Charlotte . Charlie dobre perhaps 😁 .

[@Trammiliin_nr2]

Exactly. It sometimes happen in life that you value a friendship more than they are. It is what it is, you can't make them to appreciate you as much as you appreciate them. And you do not have to invite someone just because you have invited them previously. Not inviting is more like accepting the truth that you are not as important to them as they were for you.

[@kaylahall1219]

Chaz Dobre? Charles Dobre? Chuck Dobre?

[@cc1526]

Right? How is not inviting someone to your party when they didn’t invite you to theirs petty? Why should she pay for food and drinks for her “friend” when she didn’t do the same? That’s just karma or cutting out people who don’t treat you well. No pettiness detected.

[@a.jpurple6515]

@anthail I love that train of thought. I always felt guilty that I had this mentality but now I’ll think of your post, and remember to value my time and effort for people who actually care

[@cry432]

I was always the one who cooked/baked for people I love. I stopped cooking for my mom, after hearing "Finally you and your brother are paying off, after years of my hard ass work." I love my mom and I know she sacrificed so much partly being the only parent in our house (our dad had us half and half with her but he has our stepmom who did also came with my two step brothers) whenever I cooked/baked my dad would look at me, taste it and hug me, saying how proud he was that I started developing much needed survival skills and how he was glad that I was mindful enough to include the whole household and taking a time eating task off of their plates. I love both my parents equally but these small things my own mother refused to recognize, made me stop doing them, but then my mom would praise my cleaning skills I picked up after being a depressed messy child while my father would scream if I didn't and if I did he would say things like: "I didn't know you even knew what a broom is." or "You know that we almost divorced with **stepmom** because of how messy you are." Things you say to your children will make them scarred forever, I still remember crying on my brothers shoulder in these scenarios when I felt like I would never be good enough for my own parents even though I was apparently the "wanted child" (my mom always wanted a daughter as well as my dad and I was the last kid they could ever have). It makes me sad that I as a 14 year old, felt so depressed I didn't want to wake up the next morning but also knowing that if I didn't my brother would suffer in a world without his support system. The only family member I think never held anything against is and always will be my amazing brother. Please remember if you ever want/have kids, screaming, making jokes or putting them down because you don't see your actions as hurtful will/might make them doubt themselves. I have contemplated su!cide multiple time and after I vented to my step brother about it and he told my whole family made me not trust him with anything anymore and I've bottled up all of those things until the day I would burst, cry myself to sleep or just be angry at everything, it made me not trust therapists and become a liar about my life to alter things to my filtered through version that gave people an image of me I wanted them to have. I've been working for a few years on therapy and I have now made everybody understand why and what I was doing. Please make your children feel good enough even for the smallest bit of progress they make on their traits that you might see hurtful for their future lives.

[@BeansInThePark]

Is it just me or does anyone else want to see that wedding video 😂

[@meoyt23]

I can definitely relate to the Christmas story. I had a friend who I considered close with, asked if she and her fiance's family can stay at my family's homestay. I said yes and out of curiosity asked what are they are staying for. She said theyre having an engagement ceremony/party and needed to find a place to stay since her fiance's family came from a far place (a different state). She apologized saying that, since it was small ceremony, they couldn't invite alot of people there. I was like, 'Yea sure I understand'. Lo and behold, on the day of event, I saw our close friends (a group from highschool) and mutuals attending her engagement ceremony through her instagram stories. There was even someone who I think she met during her college days attending it (I think they're acquaintance as they're from a different major or maybe she was the makeup artist or smtg). Everyone was there except me and two of my friends who were in the same group. Oh imagined the fury I got in me during the time. This 'friend' also had the audacity to ask if they can stay at the homestay again for their wedding. HAHA I said nope and immediately cut her off after that and never heard from her since.

[@tealablu3759]

I would’ve sent her an invoice

[@mila6589]

The last story, I literally live by that rule... I've had so many people who consider me as family, as best friends, not inviting me to their weddings, or I was invited at last minute (indicading someone canceled and I was next in line, meaning I wasn't that important)... that now I blacklist people who didn't invite me to their stuff. And the blacklist keeps getting bigger by the day. And most absurd I've had these same people telling me my wedding will be awesome and they can't wait to be there... like are you insane or just stupid? I'm the one that can't wait to see their faces when the invitation never arrives.

[@angelasieg5099]

I was a cake decorator mostly as a hobby for friends coworkers nieces and nephews and my own kids. The wedding cakes I did do I charched very little mostly to cover the expenses like 20lbs of butter for all that icing. An intricate multi tier wedding cake takes 3 days to bake not to mention about 50 hours of hand piping or hand sculpting flowers leaves chocolate sea shells. A friend asked me to make a wedding cake for someone I barely know for 300 for free. At the time I told her it would be at least 200-300 for the ingredients. She was hurt I declined but I had kids in grade school and a husband who just had a transplant and was working full time at an office job. It's hard work time consuming and most people don't think about how much cake 300 guests need. That 3 full sheet cakes.

[@fdm2155]

Unfortunately people tend to discount the value of handcrafted items whether it's cake or woodworking or sewing especially if you do the thing primarily as a hobby.

[@ericwilliams1659]

I was just thinking of the amount and cost of butter in the frosting for a cake to feed 75 people. Specially if said person does not have the ability to bulk buy ingredients from a food supplier.

[@victorialovatt976]

My love you do not need to justify the upfront cost…. It’s huge amounts of ingredients, time, your energy bills to cover its time in the oven… I told my mum to work out the the true cost of her wedding cakes and it turns out she should have been charging at least twice as much and that’s years ago. People do downplay skills that are done in someone’s home- they wouldn’t if it was done at a “professional” retailer. ❤

[@renxin1493]

Peak pettiness always happens at or in relation to weddings. If my friends eventually get married, I expect to be a part of the drama, family rival, terror in-laws, delusional best friends, the whole shebang and end up in a Charlotte Dobre video

[@kaylahall1219]

#goals

[@danielleking262]

omg the cake one made me so mad! The sister literally laid everything out ahead of time about her stipulations and they had AGREED on it !!!!!!

[@saddlerrye6725]

Yeah, that's what got me mad as well. It's not like she was springing the whole payment thing on the couple a day before the wedding when it would be far too late to find another option. It was a MUTUAL AGREEMENT that they would pay her. Ugh!!

[@hayleyz1703]

She should have had them sign a contract! Can't trust anyone, even family 😭

[@kathyjarvis1745]

The cake sister knew somehow to make pre wedding payment an important part of the deal. True colors shown by brother and sister in law to be. It is never a gift if not given freely A lot of planning and time allotted for this assignment (assignment not gift) not to mention the Practice cake with time and planning. Gratitude was not demonstrated

[@gamingwithflower]

To be honest the she just said the rest of her family gave her gift so she can make a desserts for them and for the fact that she made her brother pay of course he was going to get mad for that it kind of was not fair that he had to pay and the rest of the family didn't to be honest she should have made a contract in the beginning for the desserts

[@Jellybeansatdusk]

@@gamingwithflowerit’s fair because making someone a small birthday cake for them of your own volition is different than spending hundreds of dollars and dozens of hours on a huge wedding cake for 75 people. Like cost wise alone that’s an insane difference, much less time and effort involved. And like you yourself said they gave her compensation like gift cards and money and homemade meals in exchange for her baking. The brother wanted her to drop hundreds of dollars and just make their cake no complaints and lied about agreeing to pay her they literal lied to her, and then said “just make the damn cake” not “oh I’m sorry for lying to you” lol

[@The_Nightsong]

"Entitled people drive petty people to be petty". That quote, and that detailed defense, is the best thing I've heard all year (I know it's only March, but still). You are wise beyond your years, Potato Queen 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@ireneangelucci3733]

I would have never been able to explain it that way, that sentence was gold

[@The_Nightsong]

@@ireneangelucci3733 yeah, it truly was!!

[@Star_R666]

The story of the sister with the sick puppy is a classic case of Golden Child. The sister was the golden child and gets all the attention leaving any other siblings to be neglected or abused. It's pretty sad and more times than not the other children go no contact with the parents and the golden child. The one thing you missed in the story of the ex-wife coming dressed for a nightclub was many people asked about the wedding pictures. It was said that she would run or hide everytime the photographer came around. There isn't one pic of her. Love it

[@jamisojo]

If she cannot take care of her own dog, she shouldn't own one. Those parents are giant losers.

[@nonai7897]

Lol thats awesome

[@Bri_6992]

I definitely feel it for the baker regarding the wedding cake. I’m a pastry chef and have a lot of family members who expect me to make things for free for all of the family events and birthdays. What’s crazy is that my friends all pay and value my work but when it comes to family it can be so frustrating…it’s the sense of entitlement that makes it so aggravating. Sometimes you want to attend an event without having to stress out about having to make the cake and show up as a guest. It’s a tough one and she’s definitely not the A hole! $400 is very good for a 3-tier cake.

[@litagoal]

The wedding cake story made me feel really sad cause it made me think of my brother's wife. So basically, My sister-in-law she likes doing the same thing, baking giving away her delicious desserts and cakes, she is always asking us to try her creations and all for free, she never lets us pay her, cause she likes treating us. A while back I asked her if she was thinking on making her hobby a business cause it would sell well, and I asked her to bake me a few desserts to share with my co-workers. I IMMEDIATELY without a second thought asked her how much it would cost cause I wanted to pay for them, and although she didn't want to charge me I was like no babe, I know we are family but this is a business transaction, she reluctantly said an amount which I immediately paid plus a little more to show my appreciation to her craft cause I realized she was still insisting on "giving me a family discount" which barely covered the costs of the materials without considering her time and effort. And now I hear this girl's other story and It saddens me to see how many people out there take advantage of their family and are unable to separate family from business.... that's so sad.

[@allye9865]

If the sister really had mental issues that needed supervision, one of the parents could have at least gone. Me and my sister in law had babies within a day of each other but 3 hours away from each other. My dad came to me and my mom went to my SIL and bro

[@kiraeckard7625]

Agree! I don't see any reason BOTH parents needed to be there over a sick dog that isn't even theres. I get the sister having to skip if its serious enough, but what can you really do for a sick animal other than every so often administer medicine? That's a one person job...maybe 2 if you're having difficulties. The parents clearly wanted to do anything other than being their for their other child and hate getting called out on their own neglectful behaviors.

[@SingingSealRiana]

Exactly!

[@kri_cal]

OP from first story confirmed that nothing is mentally wrong with the sister. She has no disabilities and does not need to be taken care of by both parents

[@flamesgirlable9903]

Agreed! I have a 5 yo and 3 yo and they both are autistic with different needs and a lot of the time we have to divide and conquer and that is life

[@lazy_blipblop]

There is a difference between making something because you want to vs because someone ask you to. I do crochet as a hobby and I noticed I feel happier to do a project because I just want to. It's mainly because I get to decide everything and there's no pressure of someone approving it. But it becomes a little bit of a chore if someone requests something.

[@anikagutierrez2702]

That first one broke my heart a little. I have a brother, our parents are the type that would go to everything we were participating in, and on the rare occasions they couldn’t one of us would go to support each other in their place. I could NEVER….NEVER….

[@erikarussell1142]

Yeah my mom raised 15 of us as a single mother and still makes time for us while running a battered women’s shelter. She’s burnt out and always on call. But she is an absolute saint and a wonderful mother. I couldn’t imagine growing up and not feeling her love. How heartbreaking

[@lyndseystrait1513]

I love how passionate Charolette got about the second story. Very true how pettiness is bred from entitled people disrespecting nice people. Very spicy video and stories!

[@beverlyvantull8452]

I love how Charlotte tells these stories. Please consider doing an Bridal Etiquette 101 In your fabulous style

[@charissajohnson5174]

My mom and dad are like this with me and my brother. They choose him over me for everything. For my first wedding my parents were focused on my brother, his girl friend and their drama- they announced their teen pregnancy at my wedding. Super awesome. When I left my abusive husband and went to a women's shelter , my brother and his then wife pulled my parents attention to them by having marriage problems. They claimed my brother was cheating. Sus timing. So no one was around to help me and my kids get out of a shitty and scary situation. Thats just 2 examples lol its been like this for 30 years

[@gr33ngirlsea]

I'm so sorry. I hope you've found a few people in your life that do show up for you. I'll bet you show up as best you can for your kids!

[@AlexShiro]

Hope you got some new people around you who see you and value you and treat you like a human being.

[@tarastratton3]

Best man of the year award!! 🎉🎉 That's the energy I need for my wedding, funeral. My friends better COME 👏🏻 THRU 👏🏻

[@auroralakefire3684]

I just found your channel and I am IN LOVE with this tea drama! ❤😂 As far as asking for free services go, that's the AH move. If you really care about someone, you should be willing to support them, not drain them so you can get free stuff. Whether it was a business or a hobby, if it was gifted, that's fine, but when you ASK, then you need to pay.

[@Nikkimommyof4]

Omg! The best man in the first story deserves a crown he was so awesome! This is the kind of friend you keep for the rest of your life. Love this for OP.

[@NekoHanyouHanaru]

For the cake, I would have just sent them my list of ingredients: “my gift to you is the hours of hard work and skill it takes for me to make your wedding cake. Please purchase the ingredients and get them to me by at least [x days] before the wedding or you will not have a cake. If you decide you wouldn’t like my gift, I will buy you a box mix for your wedding present and you and your wife can make memories and your wedding cake together :>>” 🎉

[@eugeniaskelley5194]

That would have been great.

[@TheBaumcm]

I made a wedding cake for a friend for a wedding in August(not a professional but like to bake and learned all the tricks from my mom who grew up around her fathers bakery. He passed before I was born). It was gratis as I was really happy to not have to be a bridesmaid and do the rigamarole. Day of, venue’s air conditioning goes out, 90 degree day and I had used buttercream with marshmallow fondant (I mean what’s the point of a pretty cake that tastes terrible, right?). Within an hour, the cake started heaving and then eventually split down one side but it still tasted fantastic. Four years later, it popped up in my FB feed and one of her friends had commented about the “busted” cake. The bride immediately jumped to my defense with how lovely it was before the heat got it and that I had done it all for free and it tasted awesome. Those are friends.

[@alindsey1013]

That first one is perfection. The cake one? That family is ridiculous. Wedding things are expensive. The one where a close friend didn't invite me to their wedding? I'd be upset as well.

[@julievoiceover]

Re: The Last Story. I was friends with two women who are best friends. They were older than me(at the time of first meeting I was 18, they were both approaching 30). Nowadays, I only keep contact with one of them because of a falling out with the other. She claimed she didn’t have time or energy to invest in our friendship anymore. So now when I have parties, I only invite the one. Whenever holidays/birthdays roll around, I only get gifts for one. Is it kinda petty considering they’re both still best friends and live together? Yes, absolutely. Do I care? No, not really 😅 if they wanted your friendship and the benefits that comes with, they’d find the time and energy to put into it.

[@avepbellon]

Literallly called my mom to tell here the story about the shitty sister and the parents bailing. We had a good laugh, but she genuinely can’t understand how parents can be like that. She said “good, they deserve to be called out”

[@catherinegraham5170]

Re the Wedding cake. Many years ago I made a three tier wedding cake for my sister (100+ guests). She didn't ask, I offered as both she and her fiance owned their own homes and had no real need for the kind of gift I would have bought them. My sister was incredibly grateful and gave me free rein to make the cake in whatever style I chose. She also asked on several occasions if she could contribute to the ingredients as she felt making the cake was more than enough as a gift. I'm happy to say that even in our sixties we live in the same street and are best friends as well as sisters.

[@thea1rachiel]

That first one is the most fair and completely justified response I have ever heard of.

[@MMAACC2014]

That last story makes me see the benefit in having a small circle of friends like I do - as you get older, it gets harder to see people even one every 2 weeks. Not that it's bad having heaps of friends, but it does take a lot out of you.

[@natureboygolfer]

The first one was absolutely great. And the voicemail as the background? Brilliant. Also, the last one. They should have told them "Sorry I didn't invite you to the Christmas party. I only invited 200 people" 😀😀😀

[@davidguidry657]

Miss Charlotte asking the silliest of questions: “Do we have time for one more?” Uhm, I would watch a miniseries worth of videos from you ma’am.

[@erikarussell1142]

Like a 2 hour binge special. Even though I’ve binged every video at least twice in some cases 3x. So worth it.

[@chitowntexan]

I do customized novelties with resin, wood, & glass, as well as bake custom cakes. It's very frustrating sometimes when people don't understand just how much time & effort goes into the work. Sometimes you're up for 20 hour days, or projects that span over several days & most of the time, the pay doesn't compensate the labor. Just because we enjoy doing things for free, doesn't mean that can apply to everything. It literally is WORK! Please appreciate those people who put their hearts & hard work into their craft. It matters 💚

[@karebearjefferson5504]

Thank you, Charlotte, for being wonderful! My dad just had his 2nd successful cataract surgery. He was listening to you on the way to his celebration lunch. You helped him feel more comfortable and relaxed during the car ride. Thanks again!

[@erikarussell1142]

Awe! Fast healing papa!! I’m so glad, Charlotte does the same for us all. Love that he went in feeling better.

[@lotstodo]

His life is going to be so much better! The colors will jump out at him.

[@karebearjefferson5504]

@kiwiplug After his 1st cataract surgery, he had a detached retina that had to be repaired. Two surgeries on the same eye in less than a week. He has been looking forward to this surgery, but also worried about what ifs. His surgeon was wonderfully patient with him. He is already making plans for things he wants to do and see once he has recovered.

[@karebearjefferson5504]

@@erikarussell1142 Dad says thank you!

[@forest5658]

@@karebearjefferson5504 Congratulations and good luck!! to your Dad. Hope life is that little bit more colourful for him x

[@erikarussell1142]

Yeah, I got INVITED TO MY EX HUSBANDS wedding. I laughed and hung up. I refused to even entertain that drama.

[@ladymorrigan5950]

Ikr? Why the h is she even there?😂

[@ashleynagy3617]

I mean I get it she did say that her husband and his ex were trying to maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship for the kid. So they should be able to be adults and accept that they aren't together anymore he's now getting married to someone else. She should have been more grown up about it unfortunately she wasn't.

[@SingingSealRiana]

I probably would go out of morbid curiosity... My most wtf what are you thinking moment concerning a wedding was, the closest thing I got to an ex wanting to be invited to my best friend's wedding. We have not seen each other for more then 6 years, he ignored my messages for 4 years, only sought out contact for he wanted my help, he met her twice, he is in very low esteem with her for the whole almost my ex thing .... How and why does the think he had a place in her wedding? They met each other twice and she offered to castrate and murder him... His social skills are very low but I find him entertaining, but not entertaining enough for that ^^

[@erikarussell1142]

@@ashleynagy3617 agreed, if I had gone (we do share a child, but he was never even involved in her childhood), then I would’ve gone wearing something classy and made sure his bride felt loved and beautiful. It’s not her fault we didn’t work out. Well she was the other woman, but that’s more his fault than hers.

[@caseyc2497]

@@ladymorrigan5950 child wrangling. He should get to enjoy his wedding day without chasing a probably fairly bored child all day. This way kids mum can keep kid entertained and home when she's ready. Also makes the kid feel more at ease

[@zztey513]

I LOVE the wedding video guy!!!! That was perfect and true.... They're embarrassed the truth is out.

[@cmagee14]

I think she just assumed it would be a lot of people and wanted to be the "talk of the town" and have everyone wondering who she was instead of paying attention to the wedding but started to panic when she realized it was only family and close friends, hence people who already know EXACTLY who she is and would be judging😂😂😂 8:48