10 Things I Wish I Knew in my 20's so far (Relationships, Money, Career)

[@bre9612]

DEVELOPING DISCIPLINE!!!! As someone who is in my mid-twenties, I’ve acknowledged that motivation is a fluctuating feeling , and I can’t rely on that alone in order to accomplish all that I want. Too often we hear so many opinions and advice on how to stay motivated, when in reality we need more discipline! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@buildwithsayo5886]

I agree! Discipline is so key!

[@corynyas2413]

Yesss! Working on that right now. My main priority

[@ti4833]

I think the most important life lesson is placing God as your number 1 priority- everything else will fa into place, it's a blessing to love God but also be transformed by Him and live according to His standards and will.

[@MrsEagles..]

So right

[@miriussant6019]

Amen

[@sheena.m7802]

Amen

[@naturalcooking525]

Yes! Because God is in control of your life anyway, so put tour trust in him with whatever you do. ❤

[@kgolaganopodile3505]

Amen and Amen

[@simplenaturalhaircare]

Whatever you've learned in your 20's can serve you tremendously going into your 30's. Self care and self preservation is key too. You never want to get caught up carrying everyone else's loads. Congratulations 🎊 on your personal growth and prosperity!

[@patricehrabowskie9855]

These points are HITTING. I’m turning 24 in a month and I relate already.

[@therealimlikewoa]

same!!! here’s to 24!

[@oluebubeokpaluba9130]

Omg, when is your birthday?

[@simbabs5049]

When you said smiling could lead to marriage, I made a mental note, I’ll start smiling now. I relate with the body image. In high school, I was skinny, not extremely but I was slim. I wanted a butt and wanted to be curvier. First time I came back from college I was 18 and I gained weight. I’m 21 now, lost a little weight, got a little more butt and I’m just now learning to love my body. It is a journey.

[@dayshaunraymond7096]

“Let go and let God” is definitely a really hard lesson. Especially when you just want to put everything together yourself on your own time. But yesss this advice is great❤️

[@chamham6734]

I’m only 22 and depressed as hell. Father wasn’t there so I’ve been through three of my moms marriages. Now she’s married to someone emotionally abusive to me and frankly doesn’t seem like he cares and my mom doesn’t care about my well being to divorce and that’s her choice. I’m just typing here because I’ve extremely depressed and suicidal. I tried drugs, connecting with people, and therapists. Working full time and I was even more depressed and anxious. I don’t know what to do besides bite the bullet get another job and fall back into that hole. If the grammar was bad sorry, I’m overwhelmed.

[@umayaswellcallmejesus1489]

I sure hope things get better for you . You are more important than you think. I wish I had a simple fix for you, I’ve been there, you can’t see it now, but things do get better once you get away from the toxicity!

[@ti4833]

Read the Bible and pray. Even if you read one verse a day, it will help you and bless you. When God is Your priority, EVERYTHING else will fall into place (trust me).

[@lydiaagyemang1395]

I don’t know if you believe in God. But I’ve been there where I wanted to throw it all away and give up on this thing called life but I always saw light at the end of that dark tunnel because of Christ. He is close to the broken hearted and hears your cry just open yourself up for Him to come intervene in your situation like He did mine. Let go and Let God. You have a God given purpose and destiny and were never meant to deal with this alone. Trust God to pull you through. I will pray for you I know you’ll make it through these storms.

[@simulationpawn3566]

Hey I’m sending strength and encouragement your way. I encourage you to continue in therapy and keep those you know care about you close. Healing takes time and strength but I believe it’s a worthwhile journey. You have to believe that life will get better and that starts from within.

[@veniestagourdine3881]

Sending prayers your way.

[@melvinagdavis6870]

You are so right!!!. I didn't start bring true to myself until my 40s. Married too young, then married because I was single and raising boys (all of this was parental advice). Now I've been married twice and still haven't had a husband. I'm back in school and getting my Masters degree a day following a Wellness, spiritual and fitness path and I'm so happy. The men are there but right now it's about me! Do your thing!!! By the way, you look fabulous in pink!

[@lianamatengu1445]

Yeah same here am 26 not married yet and not ready for marriage cause i believe it's better to wait long then to mary wrong cause God's time is simply the best. Being single is okay nothing wrong with that 💃

[@LadyMul]

The friendships advice is very important. A lot of people hold onto meaningless friendships because of how long they’ve known them. Don’t be available for people who don’t align with who you are now. All my acquaintances believe am a very busy person, yes my alone time is very important that’s why am never available ✊🏾

[@francesmbewe8457]

The most important thing I've learned in my 20s is letting go of the idea of what my life is supposed to look like by a certain age, it's quite freeing.

[@krystalwhite638]

I absolutely love this video and it's so timely. I'm going 28 and haven't attained all of my major goals and I was entering panic mode. But I'll go reinvent myself !

[@ChiziDuru]

Yes queen!!!

[@krystalwhite638]

@@ChiziDuruThank you so much! sending love from 🇧🇧

[@sarastolfus8242]

I turned 28 in November, and I'm right there with you on the panic! I feel like with Covid, I was for the first time in years, "allowed" to spend some time on self care. I started to try to take care of my 2a/2b/2c waves/curls for the first time in my life! For the first time ever, I actually enjoy my hair! I also decided that now was the time to go to grad school and change my career to the path I originally wanted to go on! (Masters of Social Work, here I come!) Reinventing myself this year, and destroying my preconceived "timelines"! I wish you all the best in reinventing yourself too!!

[@dashelledisna6239]

I remember Middle school and High school chizi.I love your growth, and it's great to see your success🙏🏾 Cant wait for our reunion

[@ChiziDuru]

Omg that's insane! Thanks for being a subscriber for so long! I genuinely appreciate you!!!

[@dashelledisna6239]

@@ChiziDuru ❤️❤️❤️

[@chinweaniche-hall3895]

Congratulations on your self growth. Went through those growing pains as well, trying to fit a relationship in my life and learning to stand up to my Nigerian mother. I felt that pressure too but made my own decision when it came to my life partner. I am much older now and more comfortable in my own skin. As for friends, I can say I only have a couple from high school I keep in contact with in different states. As you said life responsibilities and work keeps me so busy that I don't really have time for my friends from college. I have been doing taebo for a very long time so exercise has been a part of my life. I started using black soap for clearer skin as well as sheabutter for dryness. I can say I am proud of who I am now at 38yrs old. The rest I leave it up to the lord. Being comfortable in your own skin and living for God is most important to me. What everyone thinks, doesn't really matter anymore.

[@alexisranay]

As a 22 year old trying to figure out life this was so helpful, thank you so much! 💗

[@yishayf8951]

Very mature advices for "20s". To me those are accurate life advices! You are inspiring. Thank you for this moment.

[@maliamalis6389]

I agree the advice is just too good lol

[@therealimlikewoa]

I can’t believe you called 26 a ripe age lol, you’re so young with so much more to experience. Loved your advice and happy belated!

[@mareek2007]

I just turned 28 and feel old as hell 😂with not too much life experience. Please tell me there's more to experience and 30s are better😣

[@Flourish_today]

@@mareek2007 Your still young. 28 is so young you can arill achieve you goals. Please don't stress yourself. Do things arw your pace.

[@mareek2007]

@@Flourish_today Thank you😥

[@LilianNobela]

😂😂😂 “I cannot date random people that will just come and scatta my life 😂😂😂 that’s so true

[@seyio4325]

I can’t stress how much you being a KZbinr is actually a blessing to a lot of people(me in particular) like I really look up to you A lot of the points you made is actually things I worry and think about sometimes and you saying it’s okay to want to reinvent, restart and so on is just so reassuring and relieving because you don’t really here that a lot from people Love you❤️❤️

[@lifeman2k22]

Preach! I just turned 21 and I been feeling depressed and lost man. Imma get through it tho gotta keep pushing 💪🏾 Thanks for your video big sis ❤🤗☀️

[@maliamalis6389]

Just turned 22 and I feel like I’m urself that’s also a different turning point in life. 20&21 felt like a trial and ur still a teen. 22 is fr starting ur 20’s I’m so nervous but excited

[@anissa2361]

Yeah when I turned 22 I felt like a real adult. I'll be 23 in January and I feel like the rest of my 20s are going to come so quickly and I'm not ready 😭

[@sonilejere4316]

@@anissa2361 I'm turning 23 too next year and it feels like my 20s are flying😂

[@ImaniMonay]

I just turned 24 & I feel like time is moving so fast! I don’t look 24 & I don’t feel 24 either lol.

[@anissa2361]

I'll be 23 in January and I don't look like I'm 22. 😂 I agree time is moving way too fast!

[@kalindampondamasaka7768]

It’s crazy cause I’m 23 right now and I can relate to everything Chizi talked about.

[@Daughter.of.Yahweh.]

I feel like in our twenties we don’t give enough credit to building an intimate relationship with God, it seriously centers you redirects you and brings so much peace.

[@shionajoseph3248]

Enjoy your time being single and child free. As great as being a mom & wife is I can never get that carefree time back. I remember when I used to think I was busy…man did I lie to myself lol. Throw money at your student loans, you’ll have a lot more freedom in the future if you don’t have that debt weighing you down!

[@maliamalis6389]

I just turned 22 and ppl are already asking me when I’ll get married and have kids and I’m so nervous for all of that. It’s embarrassing to say I don’t even feel mature. I know some of my peers are at that level and idk how they do it cause I want to wait. But ppl really do be making u feel guilt for wanting to wait

[@Flourish_today]

@@maliamalis6389 Please please follow your heart and do what you want to do. Marriage is not an achievement. You can do so much in your 20s so that when you get to your 30s you don't look back and feel bad.

[@anissa2361]

@@maliamalis6389 People always say I'm next now that my 2 older sisters have kids. And I'm like I'm not in a rush ✋🏽

[@maliamalis6389]

@@Flourish_today aww thank u this is really sweet

[@maliamalis6389]

@@anissa2361 I’m the oldest so maybe that’s why it’s worse if I wasn’t I’ll probably not be bothered that much cause there’s already kids. But I just don’t want any until like 25 :(

[@chimwemwenyirenda7583]

I can totally relate to most of the things. I'm turning 24 in 3 months and I have been having pressure especially about my timeline and reinvention. I needed to hear this.

[@wazza1380]

Loving the consistency. Loving the turn your life and channel is going. More tips on lifing sis. Lord knows we need it.

[@sandiin6885]

Chizi! Great video. You shared a lot of wisdom in your video. You are right that date yourself first. Lots of people get into situations that they later regret. Most women who are married and have children by your age are dying to enjoy their life in their 40s...feeling that they missed out.

[@MZZStarlet]

About to turn 26 this coming week and lemme tell you I needed this! I also feel we shouldn't let cultural values dictate the decision we make.

[@merleneking4549]

Very very true taking care of your skin is absolutely important. Your hair is jamming!

[@twill1999]

My girl said "I can't just be half hazardly dating people ". I know that's right. That's the way of the world today.

[@bajanbreezy]

How you feel about turning 26 and being like I am older and feeling like an adult again is how I feel about turning 25 because I am like I can rent a car now for a better insurance price which means I can't do anything now as an adult and me and my brother are 7 years apart which means I can now be in different bracket. I feel you about both skincare and therapy I started heavy into both during pandemic and I am so much better now. I agree about being single in my 20s I had alot of situationships and not relationship since I was 17 so I am enjoying my freedom and learning myself.

[@tiachante]

I just turned 21 last month so I know I’m still pretty young, but I really appreciated everything in this video. The points about the timeline and reinventing yourself are the ones I think i relate to the most. It’s very hard not to compare myself seeing everyone around me doing different things and feeling like I’m not doing enough. I’m really trying to remember that I’m running my own race. Whatever is for me will come at the right time.

[@tabithathewholistic]

Yes! Your network is your net worth!!

[@adwoatumtum]

*Chizi, how did you go about ending that friendship? Was it a conversation? Or did you slowly pull away?*

[@beatricedillon8381]

Take your time!!!! 🤯😳🥺 when God is ready for you to have a partner...it will happen. You blessed 😇😇🥰

[@Coco_Plears]

These tips will DEFINITELY help you enjoy your 30’s 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I’m learning that now!

[@zothamhlongo770]

This whole video was the truth! Thank you for this. So timely 👌🏾

[@Prosperousakua]

PLEASE make a separate video about credit card benefits and how you get into the researching them

[@ChiziDuru]

I definitely want to start talking about things like this too!! Be on the look out! :)

[@nikkithesim1518]

Your energy is infectious! We are similar ages and this was fun to relate to.

[@bfeltonwilson1]

Someone asked me if I was to say something to my younger self, what would I say? Take a chill pill, please. Don't let everybody else impose their timeline on you. Enjoy your life. Take advantage of all the opportunities that God places before you. When God places the person He has for you in your life, all the other stuff (marriage and babies) will happen. Your assessment of your life so far is very mature. I wish I had your maturity when I was your age, I was a mess!!

[@chantaprince583]

Thank you so much! I just turned 20 on the first of this month and I really needed some advice.

[@FureyaEruda]

This video is great. Yes to all of those! Next month I'll be 30 (yikes! :D) and all these resonated with me. Thank you Chizi!!

[@onyinyeobi-obasi9658]

Girrrlllll I just turned 26 yesterday so yes mam definitely relate to the feeling of feeling older but yet still feeling like I’m. It ok 😂 ya know ?

[@chidychyk]

All Great Tips Chizi! Keep It Up. YOU'RE DOING WELL.

[@roslynjones5886]

These are such important life lessonsthat you’ve learned, Chizi. I’m happy you passed this along to your subbies. I have to share this video.

[@shekerran]

Hey👑 I'm so glad I came across this video. Thank you for sharing this wisdom... I just subscribed to your channel stay truth to yourself ♥️

[@AgozIfebi]

I understand what you mean by not dating for dating sake. I never understood it. I will only date if we totally care for each other and are thinking towards maybe "marriage" 😁

[@chavl597]

This is so inspiring and educational at the same time. Great video, thank you for this!

[@naturalnella430]

This video definitely covered a lot. I love this ❤️

[@FaithIfesinachi]

Timeline don't exist, that really hit👌🏾, much love sis🤎🤎

[@crazyrugby97]

I loved this video ! Thank you Chizi for sharing that with us :*

[@nurseb430gorham8]

Advice from a 45 year old. Please make regular dental appointments and keep up with the treatment plan . Brushing and flossing twice daily is free. Fillings average $35, root canal and crown over 1k, replacing a missing tooth can cost $300 for partials to 4k for one dental implant.

[@sosinawalelign8720]

Everything you said is valid ❤

[@maria_sitkovets_tech]

Your advice was so amazing and honest! Thank you so much for making this. I really needed to hear these things right now

[@lovenakesner242]

I rebuke it ! 🤣 why are you so funny! Love the videos ,thank you for sharing .I'm heading towards my mid 20's 🙌 trusting God and Embracing where he has me ."everything is supposed to happen the way that they're supposed to ".💯

[@munarellatv]

enjoyed watching this gurl😍😍😍

[@zothamhlongo770]

Everyone's timeline is going to be different! Cmon girl🙌🏾🙌🏾👌🏾

[@rachel12127]

"Is it OK to pivot"! Yup yup yup!

[@arleshaj]

I just turned 44. Oh the things I would change if I could go back to 26. Happy Belated Birthday!

[@chichigirl214]

The new friend thing is real.. I used to be team no new friends but I definitely see I need a few new ones right now.

[@ashleyjaff24]

10:45 same. no time o waste and i'm too serious about myself and my relationships to just jump into nonsense

[@charityosoro4179]

Take notes. A journal. Something to help you visualize the growth or change.

[@ChiomaJuliette]

i loveee your energyyyyy

[@kendrick8749]

You are wise beyond your years. U have a good support system.

[@teammaude]

I agree to everything you said. I have no morning routine cuz I work at night, which I need to work on lol. I wish I knew some of these when I was growing up. Definitetly had to learn it over the years. Self care, self love and self worth is very important. It's not selfish and should not feel guilty for working on it. . Im 27, so im getting closer to 30 and society and people are you does put pressure on you to have the right career, relationship and lifestyle.

[@ieshaholloway1530]

When I say right on time right on time this video was sent from God okuuuurrt needed this Iam 27 and it’s like wow you hit all the markers Iam learning now too

[@thobiemapoulo7920]

It's okay to reinvent yourself 👌🏾👌🏾

[@joannamelanie]

Hey girl I can relate to therapy sessions but it’s definitely needed 😩thank you for the video

[@tyeah4real]

Love these! Thanks for sharing this wisdom:)

[@jeanninegorden8142]

Happy Birthday Chuzi! 🥳🥳🥳

[@yawadithalyzahdawahda8978]

28 and i am doing exactly that making changes.

[@iam.vibian8534]

I was today old when I discovered that I am (almost) as old as my sister Chili. Thank you for the wise advice.

[@emilietine1]

Watching ya from senegaaaaaal🇸🇳🇸🇳🇸🇳🇸🇳🇸🇳love your vibes guurrrrrl😍😘

[@2hotcoko]

WOW!!! You're so pretty on the outside too!!! I've only watched the grandma video a zillion times. I love you girl! you crazy! Yeah! you're really ancient now *eye roll* ROCK ON LIL SIS!!!!

[@Emelinirene]

Being single is the best time to bring out the best in you and improve yourself. So it’s great to be single nothing wrong with it.

[@tarfuah]

Happy belated birthday beautiful!!!!💕

[@petronaawuor]

I needed this🙌🏾💯🖤

[@relationshiptidbits]

Nice video. Chizi can you please let me know your outro song? It's so short but I end up rewinding it over and over just for me to "savor" that tiny part of it. Thanks.

[@Elizabeth-mf3dn]

I didn’t start dating until 25 and it’s been 2 years now that I’ve dated probably over 20 men, some I saw multiple times. I want a real first bf who loves and protects me so I don’t mind being single until I find a proper bf And I’ve reinvented myself THREE times and BOY did it pay off literally! It’s a ton of work, just pray and do it.

[@DrVee_RPh]

8:36 I knew we were twins from different mothers... same here, sis! I'm 28 with a good career and been single (almost) my whole life. I feel so comfortable being by myself, my future Mr. gotta put in a lot of work to change that, lol. 😆

[@mercysosa689]

Very relatable video. Nigerian New York to another ❤️

[@MsLiberianLady]

I’m liking these these reflection videos

[@iamcoolalot]

lotta good advice here

[@CutiePie-nz4ec]

Girl I thought for a second, you were going to shake ur hair off. Your still young. To me you become grown until you hit your 30's

[@heyitsimme2335]

I do love this content! Also, I would love more info on a morning routine that includes loving your body and such! Maybe a video of it?

[@MsMAAHD]

You spoke nothing but truth here.

[@ThePatriciaPatrick]

You are so aware at 26. I had no clue about life at that age.

[@aliviablount]

I'm going to write a blog about these lessons because - dude!!!

[@DaneelOShae]

Come on with the TRUE facts! 😩❤️

[@MrSemaj46]

I have had strangers try to spend me into stalled traffic, like pedal to the medal into a wall of cars

[@lead8381]

Anyone else got a discover commerical in the middle of this video?😅 KZbin is on its stuff Loved the video!

[@aliviablount]

Trader Joe's sells $5 vitamin E - I live by this

[@deborahjean8246]

Girl I love your accent ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤣 I laughed so much

[@ashabi13]

She right

[@TheTania323]

I'm crossing the half way point next year 😭

[@brendajohnson1804]

i like.very good 🔥☺

[@LSweetie02]

Facts 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@tamarahenderson5241]

Love it

[@oreofeakintonwa6542]

Please can you share your hair extension link?