Masculina No More: The Seven Toxic Ways That Block Your Feminine Potential!

[@realistmindy4265]

Unforgiving, passive aggressive and resentment are my top three. I’ve already started Journaling. I’ve now realized that if I don’t tell people how I feel, I will always be resentful. Since I’m introverted this is challenging and scary. I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t like to assert myself because I’m fearful of the backlash. Funny thing is while I’m seething in a corner, the people who hurt me are free because I didn’t tell them how much they hurt me.

[@tamarastone141]

Yasss👏👏👏this right here hit home for me. I'm the same way. It a journey...

[@zaharralb]

Very well said!

[@onevenus6040]

And that's what they are counting on you to continue doing! Find your voice!

[@rdaniel4810]

owed by past hurts and ingratitude , that's me. I'm working on it.

[@SunandSunflowers]

Been there now I am here. Now I am true to myself. Unapologetically

[@callalilly4743]

My mom and sister. They live together recycling that stale negative air. when I visit it's for short periods and when I get home I sage like my life depended on it.

[@vvinahooper4157]

I feel you on this it starts at home from mom or siblings

[@Arizona_lilly]

Lol

[@XxCOOKEExxMONSTARxX]

@@lmusima3275 but if a man was giving off that energy it would be called feminine which it is not, that energy just negative and straight from hell foh

[@marianichole3599]

I understand where your coming from, my Mom is a big time negative complainer, and I live with her. Everyday when she wakes up she always starts her day with complaining and negativity. I love her but I can’t wait to be separate from her.

[@marianichole3599]

@@lmusima3275 Thank you for responding, and yes she does have some underlying issues that needs to be resolved but idk if she’ll ever go to a therapist about it. She did raise me and my other siblings by her lonesome but I just started seeing these negative traits in her when I got older. As I said before I love her but idc if I want to be around her anymore because of it.

[@kayp9318]

I definitely have some resentment towards my parents that I need to continue to work on. When you’re grown, your past family dynamics are no longer an excuse. Gotta move forward and upward.

[@b_b_b5146]

Mee too.

[@PineapplesCoconut]

Me too and going to therapy. I still have crying spells at night or in the morning, but I can do it.

[@kayp9318]

@@PineapplesCoconut You most certainly can! Best wishes for you ❤️

[@876Tiffany]

Congrats on a 100k, I remember you being at Just 24k

[@876Tiffany]

That KZbin plaque coming in 😛

[@Beautybyiasia]

Unforgivingness is my top. I just really feel like most people know what that are doing. So I just cut them off and move on. Working on it.

[@tinotendamashanda6686]

Hey Chloe....I rarely comment but I honestly wanted to wholeheartedly thank you for all that you have done for me. You have changed my life completely with your wise words. Congratulations to you for reaching 100k subscribers. You truly deserve it and more❤❤❤❤❤

[@AquaPinkGreen]

I concur!

[@missbeajae551]

Myself as well thanks 😊

[@TheNewFeminine]

Thank you!❤️

[@thembimogala9704]

Giving in to toxic emotions such as anger, uncontrolled outbursts emerge from lack of self-awareness, leading to regret when the dust settles. Internal work is hard, but worth it in the end. For a long time, I believed and nursed the enenergy of self-doubt, internalizing other people's negative opinions about my life that blocked my feminine energy and wellbeing. But not anymore, I'm leveling up in pursuit of living the best version of myself on high vibrations frequency.

[@ClaireHaire]

When you have internal peace it changes your whole aura. Wearing the correct clothing, conversing properly are good qualities but, it's the peace that will always attract people to you. I never understood why us ladies that didn't want to fight were called "soft" when it takes great strength to not act out on our anger.

[@Onlyrideforeign]

“Because there will come a time in your life when life ask you for permission to heal”------I felt this in my soul #facts! Love Chloe❤️

[@OGJaquarPrincess]

Yeah I felt that too

[@jenniferwade7861]

It's resentment and unforgiveness of myself for me. The reasons are that I've wasted too much time trying to be a "daddy's girl" and chased my father's affection, which led me to chase men😩. I also didn't forgive myself for furthering my education. After seeking a therapist, these things have changed. I'm currently working on a Bachelor's Degree for Accounting or Human Resources ( I'll decide after this semester 😁), working on my weight, forgiving myself, and protecting my energy. I no longer chase after ANYONE!!! Of course, I've been interested in someone, but I decide to rest in my feminine, do my homework, lose weight, and mind my business 😎

[@pianotnt]

Me too I don't chase any man haven't since I was 18 just gotta have chloe_ voice over in my head telling me men dont like to be controlled

[@okstephanie8552]

I struggle with passive aggressiveness and being unforgiving. It has cost me a few relationships where I assume my mind is being read. This a note to take to my therapy appt. Thankyou for your insight Chloe. I always look forward to your videos.

[@vvinahooper4157]

Thank you for being a feminine channel that does not just talk about the exterior but also work that is needed for the internal work It’s hard work but it’s needed for many women In my journey forgiveness of myself and other is truly the hardest because I hold on to hurt and in turn it invites more hurt

[@jaira_7193]

@@helenatube so great to hear that!! :)

[@vvinahooper4157]

@@helenatube yes I agree ☝️ you can look great on the outside but the inside can be the opposite

[@LexaLite]

Resentment is one I struggle with the most, especially over the years. I was completely unaware of my own resentments until my therapist pointed it out to me years ago. Now I'm often aware of not only the resentment but the patterns of overgiving and feeling I needed to prove my value and how out of balance that was with who I truly am. I appreciate your channel and insights. Thank you.

[@teniseuna]

My energy blockers are definitely resentment and forgiveness... I live by myself and it causes my to overthink like a mf, I beat myself up about things that have happened in the past.. forgetting is even harder than letting go.. I try to keep myself busy but it’s like there goes another memory.. there has been times in my life I swore that I’m over past hurt and traumas.. I’ve come to the realisation that healing is a lifelong process.. only I can save myself

[@rdaniel4810]

I have a condo built on the shore of Lake Resentment and the mortgage is with Bank of Unforgiveness

[@celestialinfinite9017]

I really love how you talk about soul surgery and the fact that femininity is an energy more than it is an outward appearance. Thank you 💗☺️

[@andrealambert1753]

I admit breaking all these curses have been quite the Journey! I suffer from these traits especially being passive aggressive 😒 Its Ugly, I wanna change tho🥺

[@3oo949]

This lady is always on point. She gotta be a virgo

[@munarellatv]

yes virgos😂

[@buffybanks9853]

Just say from the earth signs🤣😂🤣😂

[@lifegetsbetterafter4069]

I'm a Virgo ♍ also!💙💙💙

[@brttnyddb18]

Yes my sign lol

[@prettylyricsmarie]

Virgo love

[@maya6173]

Thank you for this video!!! I've gone through all these emotion and feelings and I KNOW I am healing!! I want to get to know my feminine self. I was raised by very masculine women....(no make up, no dresses, no hair and they even worked masculine jobs, no girls outings, just men without penises) and I have to learn that side of me...your videos are definitely helping...I'm getting there and I like the journey...Thank you for your expertise Chloe!!❤❤❤❤

[@frimunya]

Our Sunday sermon.

[@anitasworld7007]

I stopped Journaling when Family members read my Journal ,discussed me to everyone and ridiculed me.To this day, i still fear speaking my mind in whichever Form.

[@sonagold9145]

Peobably ur family is just toxic move ahead dont give them even a second of thought try to maintain a online journal like a locked diary on your phn there are many such apps

[@Ben256MB]

I'm guy but this channel will help a lot of ladies that is if women are self aware that they actually need help !

[@annicks7385]

Oh wow , first time being first here 😁 these past few months have been tough being a stay at home mom. I do miss having my gig work and being outdoors and I’m definitely going to balance that out . And yes some women are so busy just chasing a mans bag and talking about it all day , they don’t see their own danger ! You know if you don’t work you can’t even invest into an IRa , your husband has to do it for you . If he’s abusive , and controlling , what is he going to do for you ? Smh prepare for your future ladies including your retirement even if you chose not to work ! Have emotional intelligence with these men ! It’s not all about looks and money 💰 have a plan , you’ll get the money kids life and dreams you aspired to with emotional intelligence ! I have learned all of these emotions and I avoid women who are like this while other women look at me funny for doing so! They later learn what I already knew 😅 Be careful with other women as well.

[@fabulousmdb7927]

"Emotional Intelligence can and will give you incredible sex appeal." I've listened to this video I don't know how many times and just now hearing Chloe say this. How profound! Thank you Chloe for helping me with my feminine education. You are a blessing!

[@thereshegrows113]

Mastering emotional intelligence! I am a black girl who is ready to break generational courses i learnt in childhood.Thank you Chloe_. Wishing every lady here the best.

[@goddessofpeace4133]

I love how Chloe speaks

[@leahlatrice7227]

I’m learning to forgive myself for my past mistakes. I worked so hard to forgive others and left me hanging. It’s a task but I work at it everyday❤️

[@idoyes1400]

Congratulations on 100K!!!!🎈

[@andrealambert1753]

GM LADIES🥰

[@Diamond-wg5ss]

Thank you for the insight. I have hostility, resentment and passive aggression mostly. I am working on it but on the inside i dont want to let go of it because before I used to be too forgiving and got hurt over and over again. I am more of the type that will just never speak to someone after they hurt me, and not really explain myself because I feel like people know what they’re doing. I struggle with this with some of my family because i cant exactly just cut them off. But this pain bleeds into my other relationships and I don’t want to walk around defensive all the time. Therapy will to be my first step.

[@danielledefreitas2021]

Happy Sunday Ladies and Lurkers!!!

[@danajoseph868]

Listen, I'm playing this video again THREE YEARS after listening to it the first time and let me tell youuuu. Everything here is the TRUTH! Now that I'm healed happy and feminine, I am replaying allll of your videos and I am in AWE of how much I have changed. The part where you said that femininity is not a cerebral game...sis! Just yesterday I became aware of how my body was responding to overthinking a dating situation I'm in right now. It was making me tense and sucking my feminine juiciness😂. Thank God I caught it. Guess who's resetting today with Chloe_ on repeat ❤

[@leeleewilliams3758]

Hey Chloe. Congratulations on 100k. I've been here since 5k 🥰🙂

[@OKshay]

I constantly find myself checking people in my life from work to relatives. My sister whom has dark skin told me it is because I have light skin and there's a stigma that lighter skin black women are quiet weak push overs. I've also noticed that once i direct my rage at whom ever is bullying me they get scard. So I 100 percent agree with this video but it can't help me any 💪

[@user1952-e4g]

Fascinated older professional WM viewer here who stumbled across these informative videos. I have four granddaughters: Lulu, Loni, Lolo, and Layla. I am going to insist that they watch these videos before they get serious about opposite sex relationships. Chloe is a sophisticated combination of practicing psychologist, best-friend, "wise woman" mentor and sociologist.

[@Speakyourmindgirly]

Your feminine message is exponentially growing! I am so happy for you, Continue changing lives, thank you!

[@nashonharris7805]

Chloe is reaching the ears and hearts of many women who are tired of being sick and tired .

[@jasneet6569]

Chloe.. thank you for comming in my life!! You speak and connect to my heart.. you are not just a great orator but a healer , a GURU!! love from india❤️

[@mistamew6642]

I think my main emotion would be anxiety which is a blanket term for so many other feels... guilt/shame/regret/fear

[@palmamingozzi5736]

Chloe, I’m sharing your videos with my daughters and my son because the things I didn’t know I’m learning from you and I hope my kids do too. You are inspiring. Thank you for so much.

[@janaesmith1725]

I have to learn to forgive.... so important.

[@mahoganydebills3922]

Chleo_ drops so much knowledge and passion. I have rewatch the video a few times.

[@ifeellikeastar9052]

Wow, this video was everything I needed to hear right now. I’ve got the femininity down when it comes to personality and outward appearance but I’ve been struggling with keeping my negative emotions under wraps. I know I need to grow emotionally to reach my highest form but it’s so tough.

[@eniolaawe2417]

Chloe, Wow. The way you broke this down is out of this world. Amazing. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.You are a blessing indeed.

[@aminasule575]

Been following this channel since the beginning, please keep the positivity coming in 2021 ❤🙏🏾❤

[@tiffanys4767]

I always read your articles on your website and watch these KZbin videos for reinforcement. Another great lesson from Hypergamy University. Thank you Chloe!❤️

[@japatriots8616]

I think I have given myself the permission to heal why would I wanna carry this weight my whole life. NOPE

[@DONT4GET_SUNSCREEN]

Ladies ( especially in the blk community ) It's nothing wrong with seeking therapy. 😘

[@psstpsstheyyou3517]

I was feminine until I got married and divorced with children, now I don't know what I am but I too tired to do home or woumb work.😩😩🤤

[@Kabarile31]

You have reached 100,000 subscribers! Congratulations!🎉

[@TheNewFeminine]

Thank you! 😃

[@Denailacole]

I’ll have to come back and watch this weekly. I’ve been beating myself up for the past two years. Simply because I don’t have any help, not from my mother, not from my father, not from anyone. However, I have yet to take in all of the accomplishments that I’ve done without them. & because of that I’ve suffered in ways I’ll never be able to go back and change. Some people have gone through way worse, and still somehow saw brighter days. So I’ll stay positive & keep chasing my dreams. I know better days are coming.

[@feliciafelicia6965]

I'm just to the point where I just need to take 1 on 1 classes.

[@kimjones9006]

Preach Chloe! Preach, Congratulations on reaching 100K!!☺👍🏽 -Longtime Lurker❤

[@shanitamalvin790]

So many women NEED TO HEAR THIS! Thank you for sharing! 🙌🏽

[@JozieMaXine]

I think Chloe is a psychic, because this message is so timely! 😂 It's not what I wanted to hear, but it's definitely what I needed to hear. Thank you, Chloe! 😘

[@nyaholorunda7167]

I totally agree with you. I had a conversation with my brother complaining about a colleague at work. He listened, helped me figure out a way to deal with this, and we agreed I should go back to therapy, then Chloe drops a video on this. It is what I needed to hear: I struggle with resentment, inability to forgive myself and passive aggressiveness.

[@JozieMaXine]

@@nyaholorunda7167 Same here, girl. I wish you success! ❤

[@nyaholorunda7167]

@@JozieMaXine Thank you so much. I wish you all the best on your journey xx

[@JozieMaXine]

@@nyaholorunda7167 💖

[@cicelyc7732]

Resentment is my biggest one, I just got out of an emotionally abusive household and live on my own, I journal do affirmations, mediate. But there still so much of me that wants to hold on to the anger and the pain

[@La-Toya0488]

Thank you for another valuable, feminine lesson 🙏🏿❤

[@jessicagrant9748]

Chloe I need to send you an offering ! You took us to church this morning luv😩🙌🏾👏🏾 so glad I found this page ..my life was in shambles before this page🤣🤣🤣🤣 (I enjoy your way with words 😅😭)

[@chanballer]

I heard the word emotional intelligence but haven't look deep into the subject. But now you mention the work it sounds like term I heard called "shadow work". Sounds a bit scary but it's not. It's being self aware of your negative/shadow ways and uncovering the reason and roots behind the negative action or reaction. They might be two different things I could be wrong. Thank you highly Chole for pointing this out. I too suffer from these forms of emotions. Which will be more digging of self work. Thank you Chole for this feminine information.

[@fuzzyspirals]

Yea!!! 100k strong. Let’s go ladies

[@theblackpoorsouthafrican9967]

This was directed straight to me. I had a suitor who did his best and treated me well. He told me how great I was and what a breath of fresh air I was. Until I opened my mouth in anger, he stated that I disrespected him and he just can't forgive that. Yes, I did. And now I'm learning to hold my tongue and watch what I say.. Also be more vulnerable and express myself from the heart not from anger

[@nomkhithas7752]

Keyboard thugs and gangsters😂😂😂😂

[@np2679]

Holdup 100k congrats

[@c.p2994]

Such a great video. I’m usually very unforgiving with myself and have some intense waves of guilt from past mistakes which I feel are holding my femininity back. But hopefully I’ll learn to be gentle with myself🤞🏾

[@inannaerikakalki1004]

Your videos are packed with wisdom.

[@queenlovelee]

Happy Sunday! Congratulations on hitting 100k Chloe. You were truly the first person who introduced me to HYPERGAMY and the concept of femininity for black women from a physical stand point. As a fellow New Yorker (thick accent 😂😂😂) I connected and resonated with your content from day one and you also inspired me as well. Continue to do the work you’re doing and keep rising above the madness. Thank you, you’re truly treasured amongst black women here on KZbin.

[@TheNewFeminine]

Awwww. Thank You dearest.❤️

[@ariellevnelson]

Congrats on 100k Chloe, I love your content so much! You changed my life literally, Thank you!!!

[@ychanan36]

Isaiah 4:1 Kjv And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.”

[@CANWETALKPLZZ]

Hey choleeee!!!!! I really love this channel...when can we get and hour of your precious time again. I love the live chats.

[@lexielovingu206]

SHE MADE IT TO 100K !!!!!

[@leyamwanza338]

bitterness and being in my head too much not so forgiving to myself

[@Melissakay09]

Congrats on the 100k🥳🥳🥳 Your Channel has strongly opened my eyes I can be my own worst enemy at times and be very damaging and dangerous around my loved ones I suffered with aggressive Rage I mean I blow up on anyone I got a gun pulled out on me twice from road rage I was walking around a ticking time bomb 💣 I’m soo thankful that God sent me to your channel I have a lot of work to do I’m talking accountability for my actions so I can move forward and Be the best version of myself ✅✅✅✅✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨

[@SheenaMarie05]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Chloe, per usual I’ve gained so much knowledge! I’ve definitely suffered from self sabotaging & had troubles forgiving myself as well from poor dating decisions too. I’m trying my ABSOLUTE hardest to be more in tuned/touch with my femininity. Keep up the great work! ♥️

[@blackscreen4033]

5:45

[@mandyg5106]

💢💢💢Bitter Betty and macho masculina🤣🤣🤣 you are definitely a master of words!!! I love the way you convey your message❤️

[@questionresearch8721]

CONGRATS Chole on your 100k subbies ❤️

[@ceemac304]

Good morning you all. Happy Sunday

[@jaydenelson686]

Finally reached 100k subs Chloe, congrats!

[@MsNalder1]

Congratulations Chloe on 100k 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I want to say Thank You! Thanks so much for all that you do. Your wisdom, guidance and encouragement are much appreciated. You are one of the you tubers that has helped elevate me so much. Specifically in regards to mental health. I’ve been doing the work and have definitely come a long way. Much love and continued success to you ❤️

[@madelineasmr926]

This is one of my biggest flaws. Thank you so much for talking about it at this much needed time in my life.

[@FienDeLaere]

for me it was ingratitude towards others and at the moment I'm working on unforgiveness towards myself. thank you for raising our awareness Chloe_ , it's hard to heal your wounds when you keep scratching at them, your channel has helped me improve my life emotionally, physically and logistically :)

[@Lifewithtuts]

Thank you for this lovely video Chloe and congratulations on 100k! Iv been with you since 10k but this video hits different, Iv struggled with many femininity teachings on KZbin and as a woman who grew up watching my mother mule for my father and being told never to accept things from men cos men give only to get something for you, I grew up having a problem with receiving.. I still struggle with it and with the many voices of femininity on KZbin it’s very easy for a woman like me to tip all the way off the edge and find myself only trying to chase a mans bag and becoming more scheming and strategically driven than emotionally intelligent and soft... This video is so timely cos recently I found myself in one of those crossroads again, to scheme or not to scheme cos I was like why can’t I get all the things I see other women getting.. so this really was like a voice from the heavens calling me to understand that the power lies in connecting to my true essence cos that is where the salvation really begins, not in playing cerebral games, schemes or manipulation... Thank you Chloe, I will keep working on myself and we will all be here to celebrate you at 1m! Cheers

[@phpanda2408]

I struggle with passive aggressive/ pettiness 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@maristahuddleston6213]

Thanks for another awesome video Chloe. Happy Sunday everyone the moment you realize masculinity does not serve femininity. ❤️

[@twalhaabdulkadir9754]

Chloe, I adore you! Your videos are so helpful to me. Muah!

[@loveinajar8299]

Yes! Major keys I enjoyed this videos and definitely took notes. I suffer with Hostility, Passive Aggressiveness and Unforgiveness especially when it come to dealing with the father of my children. I strive to become the best version of myself it's important to me because I have 2 girls who I know look up to me and a son who adores me. Im the first example of what it is to be a woman. Im ready to do the work so I can be the woman I dream of.

[@rhulani934]

Keyboard thugs and gangsters is having me in stitches😂😂😂

[@Ladyfaithke]

Congratulations 🍾 100k .winning in silence indeed!

[@chisengamutale4225]

I think I need to work through everything you mentioned, am triggered by my own issues and its affecting my relationships. Thanks for this

[@nessawithsmiles]

It’s the 100k subscribers for me! Congratulations Chloe!!!

[@cherrycrawford8342]

THANK YOU CHLOE !! FOR ANOTHER SUNDAY SERMON !!

[@stevethecat9934]

Seems like less big public relationships are the most able

[@DevelopingHer]

Congratulations!!!! 100k 🥳

[@omarionwifey1989]

I feel all of this in some shape or form. Like i wanna cry and its so crazy cause I recognize it which is why I'm deleting my social medias as soon as I get all my pictures I want lol but I see it and I know what's wrong I just need help fixing it. Like I realized I wasn't feeling very feminine and I thought it was because I cut my hair but it's deeper than my looks. I think in the last 4 years my soul has been desperately trying to heal.....thats probably why I up and moved to Vegas lol. I got a lot of work to do

[@anikaelizabeth]

Congratulations on 100k subscribers. 😊

[@bread079]

Why is my notifications not coming In ?!? I literally been waiting since I saw you post this on Instagram 😁❤️ “What is emotional intelligence? I’m glad you asked” 😂😂 INNER WORK IS 🔑 LADIES!!

[@clauradenemarumo9343]

putting in the work to be my best self for me is i am still learning to be more vulnerable then the rest of the other things will fall into place...this is a journey that i am definitely committed to; flourishing and thriving in my femininity.

[@keiajones5278]

Thank you Chloe 😊 💓

[@Wabanhur]

Congrats on 100k subs😘 .. love you Queen

[@zoetheyogateacher9593]

Congrats on 100K Chloe! xx

[@AquaPinkGreen]

Most beneficial & informative video I've viewed in 2021 so far! Thank You Chloe for sharing your wisdom💞

[@sweetestcandy083109]

I love how insightful and well put your commentaries are. You're so well spoken. Congrats on 100k! Love your channel, Chloe❤

[@TheNewFeminine]

❤️