The Art of Softness | How To Be a Soft, Feminine Woman

#feminineenergy
Hello everyone! Today, we're going over The Art of Softness. Softness in women has developed a bad reputation as of late since people often mistake power with aggression and violence. But, as women, when we allow ourselves to be softer physically and mentally, we can be incredibly strong. We can enact so much positive change through our softness. And femininity is strength through softness. Softness is effortlessly disarming. Softness enchants and invites people to let their guard down because you don’t have to be defensive in the presence of what is soft.
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Chapters/timestamps:
Intro - 0:00-1:14
What is softness? - 1:15-2:27
Disclaimer - 2:28-6:21
I. Gentleness - 6:22-7:23
II. "May I?" - 7:24-9:13
III. Authenticity & vulnerability - 9:14-12:14
IV. Flexibility & cooperativeness - 12:15-14:04
V. Overthinking - 14:05-16:36
VI. Address your negative emotions - 16:37-19:38
VII. Handle conflict calmly & gracefully - 19:39-21:00
VIII. Speak softly - 21:01-22:55
IX. Ask for & accept help - 22:56-25:29
X. Avoid judging others - 25:30-26:15
XI. Cultivate a safe environment - 26:16-27:03
XII. Cultivate inner security - 27:04-27:47
XIII. Say "I'm sorry" - 27:48-28:49
Outro - 28:50-29:24
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Hello everyone, welcome to my channel! I'm Jasmyne Theodora, I'm an Orthodox Christian and I make content about the art of femininity (from a virtuous, Godly perspective), lost female education, and traditionalism. Please do subscribe if you enjoy my content and thank you so much for watching.
FAQ:
Height - 5'9"
Race - Biracial (black & white)
Religion - Orthodox Christian
Background - Bachelor's degree in psychology
Relationship status - Married
Location - Pacific Northwest
Favorite book about femininity - "Eve in Exile"
Some favorite Bible verses - Proverbs 31, 1 Peter 3:3-4, 1 Timothy 3:11
Business inquiries: please email me at [e-mail].
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(if you see this, please comment an unpopular opinion of yours!)

[@rebeccajarrett5130]

As a child I was naturally very sensitive and nurturing. Instead of these traits being cultivated, I was told I'm weak because of my sensitive traits. I feel like a lot of my softness was beat out of me.

[@sruthiranga312]

Same here

[@harpo627]

I’m sorry. I hope you take this beautiful gift you were born with back with pride and joy.

[@marim5620]

Me to!

[@rob0674]

Thats what feminism does... This kind of judgement should apply to men not women

[@diffyyninie6286]

Being sensitive also means being compassionate. You care about what you and other people feel so you're likely a person who doesn't like to hurt others. It's your strength, not everyone can possess such characteristic.

[@Rher_the_Moon]

I’m a guy that found this video looking for examples of positive masculinity. Just commenting to say that it seems like both men and women are trying to ‘find our way back’ and become more in tune with our gender roles. Femininity is beautiful; thanks for sharing it.

[@gerritbeech8279]

As to masculinity my Grandfather always said a man has to be strong and decent. Many of the values and morals from the 60s and 70s were very good.. not all of course. Im a traditional man. Its good your looking at both sides.. The ying and the yang... woman and men...

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I totally agree.

[@gerritbeech8279]

@@JasmyneTheodora Thank you for your kind words.

[@TakaraoftheElves]

It feels like the proverbial pendulum has swung quite hard in favour of abandoning traditional gender roles...it would be so nice to see a return to more of a balanced society in the future, where women can be respected and celebrated as both motivated CEOs and supportive mothers, and vice-versa/similar for men too. I've lived as both a tough, androgynous tomboy, and now as a feminine woman, and honestly I find it more natural and relaxing to lean into the softer aspects of womanhood. 🌷

[@JoyFay]

Find way back to what?

[@palesamampa]

“Prioritising the appearance of something and not the essence always leads to a disaster” So profound 🌷 so necessary

[@JasmyneTheodora]

So happy to hear that it resonates!

[@ellacarter9863]

Yesss

[@TeKeyaKrystal]

!!!!! listen my girl reads books or writes or something

[@boyanaa5788]

That's true ! Well said ,I like that too 👏🥰 bc if you come from that perspective then you aren't coming from the inside. It's like trying to cover a wound with make up to make it look pretty but deep down the wound hasn't been addressed. The core issue ;)

[@aye927]

Profound but you run asap to the gram

[@TayyyLovvve]

She’s so sweet. She sounds like she gets a lot of sleep. And it’s rested and she speaks so clearly. Loved this video.

[@sheliztety7972]

Yes...lots of sleep and sunshine she truly radiates beauty and gentleness.

[@ammonite400]

Never realized how bad I want to be seen as someone who “gets enough sleep” haha what a specific and great compliment

[@onceinawhile7]

Lol that’s specific

[@eliteitself3235]

​@@ammonite400 IKR but it makes sense

[@tiffanyhickszz]

Yes she definitely seems well rested 😂

[@gerritbeech8279]

A feminine Woman is in no way weak. She is beautiful fragile like a flower.. a rose. Do we therefore consider a rose as weak ? No, but as truely valuable and honour, cherish, protect and love it for its true beauty. Femininty is the true power Woman have over men.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Beautifully said. Pinning! ♡

[@Notawesomeatall7]

Roses also have thorns.

[@marinavasquez8813]

🎯

[@gerritbeech8279]

@@richasf3533 What do you mean with setting you back ?

[@jiliciar.1423]

@@Notawesomeatall7 Yass. I never understood why people said life isn't like a bed of roses, I always ask myself "doesn't roses have thorns?" Life can be beautiful but there are some thorns we gotta face.

[@palesamampa]

I’ve grown so much because I used to pride myself on being very rude, outspoken and independent. I thought it made me powerful, although it was detrimental to my well-being, I’m learning that being gentle and kind is powerful too. Thank you 🌷💌

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Yes! I hope more women come to have that realization, as well. May God bless you 💕

[@Notawesomeatall7]

It's the same with me. My mother is a very loud, hostile, masculine woman as are my sister's. My mother and sisters are so masculine that they are frequently mistaken for men. I had a really bad example but I've grown into my femininity.

[@gerritbeech8279]

@@richasf3533 Why should being dependant mean the relationship should turn abusive ? We all cant stem the World and need one another. Effetively there are hardly any really true independent people, as we all rely on other people in society. A partner is there to support, not to abuse.

[@gerritbeech8279]

@@richasf3533 Dear Sasa, I think its normal in life and in a relationship a give and take. The person you are describing should also give, not only take. For example when having children one person has to stay at home and look after the kids. In the old days or in nature the nurturing person would be vunerable and reliant on the provider in that moment and could not be independent.. one needed each other. Today life has become much easier. In a relationship I see it more as teamwork, but reliant on each other. When you can trust someone you can rely on them. A good relationship works like that. You are right any form of abuse is terrible and should not be tolerated. Love and Respect.

[@TitiTAH]

I had a friend like that. She pushed so many men away but she pushed me away as well. No longer friends. I love a soft and feminine friend. It’s rare. I want a good bff one day.

[@JustYueiko]

When she said “gentleness is how young girls play with their dolls” : I was reminded of 6 year old me breaking my dolls limbs in an effort to make it confess that it’s real like in Toy story 😭

[@lajuodatuwa-omagbemi1465]

OMG😂😂

[@sashacollins1031]

🤣🤣🤣

[@ganjalgalore]

😂😂😭i was so triggered when she said that bc i literally use to smack my dolls around

[@kitkat-em5hp]

😂😂😂😂fr

[@ichiban6004]

Femininity is strength through softness. Love that

[@boyanaa5788]

🥰🥰🤗👏 YES!

[@kitkat-em5hp]

Thats so sweet

[@yamyool4328]

Your comment about kindness disarming people while in conflict is so true. I used to work at a restaurant where the cook was just hostile to everyone. One day it was just him and I and he YELLED at me when I made a mistake and gestured to me and was just speaking very aggressively to me and I just calmly apologized for my mistake and that I'd be more careful next time and he shut up for the rest of the shift. At the end of the night he PRAISED me for how I handled his anger. He said that he struggles with anger issues and that all the other waitresses just yell back at him and work becomes very hostile and unpleasant. He said I was graceful and so mature and he felt so sorry for talking to me that way. We were great friends after that up until I left town.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!!

[@farahalsabbagh9740]

I mean I totally get what you did and I think you reacted well. BUT if he has anger issues that doesn’t mean everyone around him should walk on eggshells so they don’t make him angry. What I’m trying to say if you have an issue with dealing with people you go and try to solve it and better yourself not ask everyone to act a certain way around you because you have an “issue” Everyone deserves respect, he was blaming the rest of the waitresses for yelling back at him while HE started yelling and disrespecting them! I will never just accept being disrespected for such a stupid mistake I made, I don’t agree with yelling in any situation and i agree with the point about kindness, but that doesn’t mean letting people treat me with disrespect!

[@ray9047]

I’ve tried this technique with my father. All the calm apologizing may of calmed him down temporarily but it never led to an apology. The last time I tried this, I said “I’m sorry that I forgot, it was a genuine mistake. I had no intention of trying to ruin your vacation” He slapped me and said he was tired of the B.S apologizing. He accused me of lying and secretly hating him. In that moment what he said became true. The closest thing to an apology I ever got from him was “I’m sorry, but…” What you did may work the first time, but if you have to do it repeatedly it’s probably not worth it

[@kpsalm]

@@farahalsabbagh9740 THIS!!! this is why I struggle so freaking hard. Because I am feminine and soft unless I’m dealing with someone who is consistently toxic and hurtful to me. And it so hard to be gaslit and told you’re argumentative when I’m reality the person really needs to work on themselves. Have no idea how to handle these situations

[@morganwhite2176]

I have the same situation, when someone says something hurtful and stupid to me, criticising my every move and then when I say something back it is always ‘you always moan and make arguements’. My usual reply now is: ‘Before you call me difficult, look at the way you treat me first and what you do to cause it’ then I just walk away. Some people will never get it. Don’t let them ruin your day, just write them off as lower IQ.

[@maryangelica5319]

An observation: that rock you were holding in the beginning of this video looked rather smooth. In the natural world, rocks get like that not because of other rocks, but because of water. Softness really is powerful!

[@butterflyygyrlsworld5106]

Jesus help me😭😭😭 I am trying. I don’t even know if my voice can be this sweet and soft.

[@babybbunnyisaac9886]

This is the kind of femininity that needs to be talked about in modern society, and not trying to turn women into men. You don't have to be a man or act like one to be powerful.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

I absolutely agree. Thank you!!

[@zamamadikizela8025]

Dats exactly where we go wrong as a society

[@boyanaa5788]

Yess; embody who you are at your essence ,be authentic and real you that will get to better places than you could imagine. 👏

[@marinavasquez8813]

Agree🙌💗🥺🤗

[@zaddysm]

YESS, THIS IS ALWAYS IN MY MIND, LIKE IS IT REALLY NECESSARY TO SACRIFICE YOUR FEMININITY IN ORDER TO FEEL POWERFUL? When you're truly powerful (feel) you don't need to change yourself because you know who you are, where you come from. If you as a women need others to validate your strength by acting manly, then that's really sad, and I think recently a lot of women have been forced to do this in order to protect themselves physically and emotionally, I hope we all can learn to embrace our femininity and be able to recognise that our vulnerability and tenderness is what makes us the strongest, because we are not hiding, we are not afraid to be ourselves, and we are ready to give and to love.

[@siriusputsch1842]

“Softness enchants, and invites people to let their guard down, because you don’t have to be defensive in the presence of what is soft.” Beautiful presentation! Thank you so much for articulating in such lucid detail, "The Art of Softness" :-) (minor concern that the background music may be a little too loud)

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Ugh it is too loud in this video! You’re right! I’ve gotten better with sound mixing since then. Glad you were able to enjoy the video regardless 💕

[@siriusputsch1842]

@@JasmyneTheodora I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos. You have a very pleasant demeanor and clear, organized information. You're a bright light in the world and we're lucky to have you 💕

[@biblestudy4803]

I love your videos bc as a 15 yrs old girl becoming a women, I needed this, please if you have time please pray for me.

[@marinetter.8423]

it's great youre doing what you want to do, just remeber to not push urself, u have a lot of time

[@OMA.YESHUA]

The Lord will guide you through life in Jesus name

[@soprogtv3009]

I pray for you today that the SOVEREIGN LORD in HIS mercy will guide you through the Paths of life and make you a blessing. I pray above all that you may know HIM intimately and the power of HIS Resurrection. And that you may be made conformable unto HIM.

[@kelliezee]

Prayers and faith out to you mama 💕 share with your friends too and grow with love and strength

[@ASKQUESTIONS-ei8bv]

In Jesus' name, I pray that God guides your path and that you dwell in the Word of God always. Amen !

[@lyubomirakarapancheva9016]

Happy Women's Day, ladies! 🌸🌸

[@SimplyBeautiful516]

Channels like this are an incredible gift for women of all ages. I’m 57 and just now truly discovering how to return to femininity. Thank you so very much. 🌺

[@JasmyneTheodora]

I’m so glad you like it! 💕 Thank you so much for watching

[@loveyforlaughs]

Same here. Life got mean for a bit so did I. I’m finding me again at 54. I’ve actually missed me. Thank you sweet girl for sharing your wisdom with us. 💕

[@prairie_rose]

Me too, 57, retired from a very masculine driven career. Just returning to my feminine energy! Love it!

[@megmckeon1854]

Me too ! 66 and been on feminine journey for last few years.....so happy

[@JF-NYC-NJ-Girl]

@@loveyforlaughs me too. 58 and loving a return to femininity.

[@smrb73]

A women of natural angelic beauty. And by that I mean inside and out. Its like love itself. They move you instantly. A day without beauty is like a life without love. You have to be in the light to receive the light. Love your spiritual empowerment. You shine so bright

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Wow, thank you so much! Such kind words

[@smrb73]

You really are one of kind

[@palo.c]

i’ve always been feminine but was told i was too weak for being kind, nice and welcoming to other people. another factor is my skin tone, as a darker person i don’t get to fully be as feminine as i want. i’m hyperfeminine but so many people have told me that i’m masculine and have tried to force me to fit this strong, heavy hearted, independent black women when that’s not who i am at all. part of me has started conforming but i’m gonna stop listening to them and finally be comfortable in what i am, focus on the ones who see and admire my personality and aura.

[@CierraJohnson-bh4mc]

As a black woman it annoys me that people try to force-feed stereotypes and think they have the monopoly on how we should act forgetting that only WE are the ones in control of OURSELVES.

[@griseldasandoval6134]

I’ve been independent for so long… when it comes to my relationship, it’s tricky because he is very in tune with his masculinity and there’s an imbalance. I’m still learning to be more in my feminine energy. I notice that when I am, it’s amazing how we interact with each other. It flows so nicely. This video is super helpful, thank you.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

I'm so glad it's helpful!

[@danilaroche1156]

God will show you how to be more feminine. It's precious to the Lord.

[@polpol1005]

@@danilaroche1156 how do u know

[@danilaroche1156]

@@polpol1005 Because the Lord is able to help us in every way. The Lord can do it, if we ask.

[@polpol1005]

@@danilaroche1156 how can u be so sure?

[@belledraws1331]

I've been fragile, sensitive, and overly kind as a kid but when I was sent to the city to study high school, my parents always told me that I should change my personality because the city is not like the peaceful countryside. People won't go easy on me there and they would most likely prey on me because I'm too vulnerable. I was told to toughen up so I did. I still have a caring and nurturing side of me but I concealed them with being reserved and vigilant

[@wanjawandia1786]

You are doing God’s work with your femininity videos. Growing up and being a young teenage girl in this modern day time is not easy. Us girls are constantly being encouraged to be promiscuous, masculine, and unpleasant. Thank you for making videos like this for girls that would rather take the alternative route of embracing femininity. There are not many role models nowadays and I’m glad I’ve found your channel. Thank you!!

[@thestraightroad305]

“People are aware that they don’t ‘need’ to show up for you…they simply want to give you some goodness.” That is a beautiful thought. Allowing someone to express goodness is a gift I can give to them…and an act of humility on my part. Like accepting a tiny flower from my little granddaughter. Even if she just pulled off the blossom, even if she bent it, she is still showing her goodness to me.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Yes, absolutely! 💕

[@spreadpositivity3000]

I use to be a very "feminine" and gentle person, very soft spoken and always Polite, I still am but unfortunately I am stuck in an abusive household and if has taken away some of my gentleness because in order for me to survive in this environment until I can get out, I need to be rougher... This video is very helpful, and I cannot wait until I am out of here to go back to the person I truly am inside ♥️

[@TheWombWhispererPodcast]

🌻 being fierce doesn’t make you less feminine for any fierce ladies, you don’t hide that side to be in your feminine energy.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

“Fierce” can have positive or negative connotations depending on the context. Here, I meant it in the more traditional sense meaning “ferociousness” or “aggression”. But people also use the term positively to mean “passionate”, “enthusiastic”, etc 💕

[@Sobermama927]

Immediately subscribed! As a stay at home mom of grade school kids I feel very judged for my traditional lifestyle but I am so so happy catering to my PHENOMENAL husband and kids. I love my life

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Thank you so much for subscribing! And so happy to hear another woman loving her traditional lifestyle 🙌

[@nyesacano7890]

It’s crazy bc the softer you are the stronger you get bc it brings endless opportunities to grow, (in other words brings endless opportunities for people to hurt you) which could make it hard to adapt the softness but ultimately once mastered, you could live in peace in a world that’s always at war.

[@jenniferd1476]

Wow that’s so powerful thank you for sharing. Food for thought

[@zara-xn4ov]

Yess❤ Softness is definitely not a weakness, softness ≠ accept everything. You are ought to be soft yet firm, know when it times to be soft and know when it times to be firm. People now are way stranded from the actual meaning of softness, they see it as a weakness rather than a strenght. Truly, it takes a LOT of one's strength and wisdom to be soft and gentle 💕

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Absolutely!!

[@cmjensen]

This content is so quality. I can’t believe I have free access to it! Thank you for this advice. Reparenting myself right now and this is so helpful.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Wow, thank you so much!! That is so inspiring to hear.

[@SallyMarion]

Totally agree, her video is brilliant! :)

[@elizandrabiag]

For real

[@denisen.893]

I can be rude at times when I am stressed out. I am also impatient with the people around me. It definitely affects me in a bad way. I also head that this attitude does not suit me at all. Thanks for your video and the message you spread.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Thank you so much for watching. I'm glad you liked it! （╹◡╹）

[@corneliusisagoodname]

this is something i really struggle with:(

[@OddGirlsOut]

I love this ! I was raised by a strong black Woman and she is amazing ! That part of my life taught me survival skills but this !!!!! This is vulnerable, beautiful, and it pushes me ! I’m excited to embody these character traits.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

🥹❤️

[@katherinereyes8707]

As a woman with full femenine energy, I love this video. The divine feminine is beautiful; we are not weak, we have inner strengh that the masculine can´t tap in. We are the queens and the high priestesses of the world. But, the masculine is our partner in crime, the person that can do what we can´t. Both energies deserve to exist and be praised.

[@ioannaloukou2970]

I'm currently trying to reconnect with my feminine side after embracing masculine energy for so long, I've been ashamed of my womanhood for the longest time and I'm finding great value and information from your videos, thank you so much! Growing up in a male dominated society is hard, but I'm realising I don't have to be or act a certain way to be respected and noticed. Having balance is key 🥰

[@danilaroche1156]

I used to hate being a woman. Now I love it.

[@FernandoTorres-bd7im]

😊

[@dekavitac2274]

I had a traumatic experience as a child that made me defensive and very angry at a young age. I used harsh words and vicious actions to protect myself. I used to be a gentle kind kid with a mischievous streak, and I want to be that again. I’m really trying to heal the side of me that was excited and comfortable in feminine dresses and soft things.

[@Worldarts978]

I pray that you’ll reach yours goals

[@sashua4]

Girl girl girl girl!! At 1:59 when you started describing softness I literally got chills. The words you used, the softness of your voice, your smile and just your aura. Makes me want to be just like that. 🤍🤍😊 thank you for this video!

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Awww!! 🥹 Thank you so much for watching!!

[@Emily-nk9gz]

Remember...We need to become the woman we were created to be. :)

[@Angelika-ko2ru]

She is so intelligent. I feel like this woman stands out from the rest because she is providing so much valuable information and which makes this video so significant! Immediately subscribed

[@victoriadevall]

love how you emphasized authenticity and not performance which is what so many people are doing nowadays !

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Thank you!!

[@LA6UeRa]

I’m tired of being overly masculine ! Real beauty lies in being authentically in my femininity and appreciation of what I am. Being Hispanic a lot of times you hear older women saying how they wish they were men, and how men have it easy etc because of my cultures male chauvinistic ways. Men always get away with everything and can do anything. I believe subconsciously I wanted to be free forgetting that freedom lies in me being authentic and appreciating and loving being a women no matter how the bad side of my culture sees it. I am no longer ashamed and I am working hard to balance out my energies! Thank you for this video ! I am a women and I am proud!

[@geogirl2404]

Gentleness- soothing and vulnerability “May I” Peaceful Vulnerability- authenticity and being unguarded - acknowledging what things they are Flexibility and cooperation- peace, safety and patience Bends instead of breaks Dealing with overthinking- pain and anxiety is inevitable so embrace it

[@biancaisidk]

Honestly, since I was a child I was always emotional. So emotional I got bullied ( without exactly knowing because I am too trusting ) and called a ‘crybaby’. I don’t know, I guess because of that my softness dropped significantly. My mama told me to grow a hard shell because the world will never be kind to me with the way I am. And she’s right. But I need to learn to flex the softness I still have. Thank you for showing me that through this ! ♥️

[@samiyaferguson9177]

Lately I have become very hard and tired, from needing to tend to three children and my home. This video was an amazing reminder to recapture that delicate and soft manner that attracted my husband seven years ago 💜 thank you

[@mzjayalwayz]

My spirit has been calling for this lesson. Thank you

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Thank you for watching!!

[@triplehearts914]

Ive been quite sensitive and caring for most of my life. (Both of my parents made a big deal about teaching me this stuff.) I'm also quite shy and quiet. In my community these traits in a women are usually seen as negative. Ive been called weak and even stupid multiple times :( so It's really nice to see ladies from everywhere coming together to celebrate them! You're very pretty and smart. ♡

[@LaBonnieBelle]

This is the first channel I’ve found that discusses femininity in such a virtuous way. Most often, dating coaches teach how to act feminine in order to get a man. Nothing wrong with that necessarily, but I’d rather the dating aspect was part of a broader teaching! And you are doing it with so much grace and thoughtfulness. Thank you ♥️

[@harvey2596]

im a man who found your channel. literally brought tears to my eyes when i saw your channel. such a wholesome and beautiful message you preach hear. hope your message reaches more people, i wish you good luck and god bless

[@deadsoon]

me watching this because my new skincare routine has made my skin soft and bright and i feel some type of way about it:

[@JasmyneTheodora]

👏

[@paulettelaine2405]

This is off topic but can we just admire the beauty of this woman and her natural hair!

[@christinevanpatten1278]

Such a wonderfully enlightened perspective on femininity. Thank you for being in the world and celebrating women's strength. I'd love more content specifically about communicating effectively and productively.

[@redih6247]

Wow I'm short, skinny with an hourglass figure and that makes me feel feminine therefore exuding a lot of feminine energy. Guys who're around me feel obligated to protect me... I feel very girlish with my baby face and childlike body. Thanks for this. I've always been soft,nice, kindhearted and playful which gets me to places I never imagined. I just turned 21 by the way. On the flip side I'm very ambitious and goal-oriented. I'm taking an engineering course and code a lot of time. So it's all about balancing your feminine energy when interacting with people and being aggressive with your goals behind the curtains. All the best ladies

[@nw0913]

I love the way she speaks. It’s very intellectual and clear. It’s refreshing to hear a woman speak in such a way

[@usmaneniola5565]

This is also like therapy for those dealing with anxiety and negative emotions. Nice one !

[@user-vf9fd4gn2c]

You literally glow. The way you present yourself and speak so smoothly and softly, you are the epitome of femininity, thank you so much for the video

[@trecyyyyy3691]

As soon as you start speaking I felt the softness in your voice and instantly subscribed

[@beepbeeblebrox3972]

I can't get over how right you are in the disclaimer. I'm going to *softly* excel in college🌻

[@varshamitra21]

When I was watching your video, in every sentence I was able to relate to my mother. She is the one who showers softness & affection every time. I feel so lucky to have her in my life. Thank you Ms. Theodora for this lovely video. ❤️🫂

[@sanyakalaluka7988]

I love your video and you address the very thing that I'm suffering through, anger and knowing how to handle it in a productive manner and allowing my feminine self to be without hardening myself. I feel I have suppressed myself so much because I've had to constantly defend myself. And that's not me. So glad to be able to find someone who explains it well

[@emmade-allie2630]

I’ve been on this journey for a while trying to reconnect with my feminine and I find it so hard to balance ‘pretending’ to be feminine and actually finding the root. My pride gets hurt and I get discouraged when I get bad reactions from people when I am ‘putting it on’ and when I’m fully in tune it feels like the world is my oyster! It was so profound for you to mention this!!!! Maybe you could do a video about what tools you use to encourage, feed, nurture and connect to your femininity? I love your content 💐💐

[@Lulu2u]

I love how well you articulated your points and made them crystal clear for me! Great video 😊

[@a.s.m.3246]

You will never know how much I appreciate your videos in my effort to reawaken what was lost after years of the feminist attack on what I was instinctually born with , many thanks to you 🙏🏻 💖

[@JasmyneTheodora]

I am so happy to hear this. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment!

[@a.s.m.3246]

@@JasmyneTheodora Thank you for responding & you are so welcome 🌷 P. S. had to replace that thumbs up with a flower , YT really should get hand symbols that resemble the size of us women .

[@FamilyValuesTV]

Wow this is an amazing video. I'm going to rewatch and write notes. You're a blessing thankyou. I've always been pretty feminine but I've been taken advantage of and traumatized a lot and it has caused me to harden. I sometimes feel like a princess trapped in a tower I built for myself to protect myself. I've been fighting to get out bc my protection has turned into my prison.

[@lavarisc]

Your voice, hair, and personality 👸🏽

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Thank you so much!!

[@yalldumbasf2506]

when u said soft i didnt expect your voice to be literally so soft i had to turn my volume all the way up …..

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Yeah, the audio isn’t great on this video, sorry about that! I’ve gotten better with it thankfully

[@lionrugissant]

NEW SUBBIE!!!🫶🏾i mean this wholeheartedly when i say pleaseeeee never stop making these videos… i desperately needed this because i too have been attacked and corrupted by the aggressive feminist culture and i became such a defensive, smart/quick mouthed, bossy/sassy female to the point where i thought women who acted soft were cringey lol and i’m still to this day unlearning some of those negative traits… it wasn’t until i decided to stop following my bad influence friends and truly strengthened my relationship with God that i started realizing what it really means to be a woman and to be feminine and to find these videos in my recommended it’s like God placed these videos in plain sight for me to see!!😭 thank you sooo soooo much for these videos girl you don’t understand how helpful they’ve been in helping me embrace my feminine side and how grateful i am to watch them!!💗💗💗💗🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@FemininePhenom]

Thank you so much for this! I’ve been on my feminine journey for about 3 years now and every now and then I feel myself slipping back into my old ways. This was very much needed ❤

[@missready88]

This video made me cry. I feel at home, i feel seen. My softness, my views aren't well received. I've been called a pick me many times. I used to feel like I'm an introvert but I'm really just surrounded by people that refer to themselves as "boss b****es", by masculine women who think I'm weak for being gentle. Definitely going to subscribe after this video. Thank you for what you are doing.

[@missready88]

And I made the comment too early. I've always said that independence is a fallacy. Nobody in a society is independent. Have a job or even your own business? You depend on others. Buying products? You depend on others. No matter what you do, you are never independent. Unless you live by yourself and off the land alone.

[@nimm9077]

Fragile like a flower? No I'm fragile like a bomb.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

😆❤️

[@thesuccessfulfamily8178]

😂😂😂like it

[@anastasiaz7784]

🤣💖

[@kitkat-em5hp]

Fr me too 😂😂😂❤

[@tentosix0919]

Wow. Thank you for the reminder to submit our insecurities to Christ. I enjoyed this video. I am smiling with gratitude.

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@AniyaLewis-zo9zm]

This is the best video Ive seen on femininity thus far because you actually help us understand how femininity works instead of giving us cliche ideas. Love it

[@eye.candy.productions]

I'm so glad there is someone like yourself sharing this wisdom, because I feel like women have gotten so limited by society as only having value in their looks, when feminine energy and warmth is so powerful, and we all could use more of it as a whole

[@jeannettehall668]

When women are pregnant and the dad is not their to protect and help when her body is in vulnerable state make women hard core 😤😤😤😤😤💪💪💪💪💪

[@_ladiosanegra]

So sad

[@bcoffman8306]

@@_ladiosanegra agree, it hurts to live in the current state of society.

[@ShalondaWright]

I agree

[@JasmyneTheodora]

You are so right

[@deedarling354]

I deeply appreciate you from the bottom of my heart! Thank you so much for sharing! I really needed to find you. I've been in a constant mental battle, always wondered if my 4B/C natural hair was 'feminine' enough. I've seen so many women refer to straight/long hair as the 'real feminine' hairstyle to have on, and it has always left me conflicted because I want to be extra comfortable wearing my natural hair. So seeing a beautiful, gorgeous, feminine woman like you wear yours is inspiring. Thank you so much! And your voice is soo soothing and Refreshing to listen to❤️❤️❤️

[@scheilaferreira7899]

This video is a breath of fresh air. Thank you Jasmyne!

[@lindsaypeek63]

I’m happy to have stumbled upon this truly beautiful community of ladies on this journey of opening our hearts again and coming back to the feminine. 💕

[@kaykay6626]

I absolutely love your channel. I’ve watched so many channels that focus on the “appearance” of feminity and not the essence of feminity. You’re an excellent example of true feminity.

[@Offthebeatenpath.]

May be off topic, but I love your hair!

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Thank you so much! Used a tonnnnn of gel haha

[@Emxo333]

Love how you describe femininity in a way that can apply to women in any culture, any religion, anywhere 🥰.

[@TheProjectBoss]

This is so calming.. just watching her and listening to her alone feels so calming

[@nalarose0506]

I discovered that I'm feminine and I think that's why people describe me with kindness

[@edignaeebb]

I actually consume a lot of feminine energy content, beacause I feel so lost in this world where I'm around of men all the time. This is the first video that actually spoke about a femininity my body and heart is able to understand. Thank you for taking the time to explain every aspect and even pointing that we should not be "femenine" all the time.

[@afkaleigh6541]

I love love love your videos, they have changed my entire view on femininity as a whole. I feel so much more at peace, and confident. I was in my masculine, and a very nagging, insecure and overly independent woman and I wasn’t even sure what I was doing wrong until I watched your videos and after that self reflection I finally realized what I needed to change to be the woman I’ve always wanted to be! (I’m 20, and a mother and I’m finally at the stage where I want to truly feel like a woman.) 🫶🏻 your content helps me tremendously

[@yaix5807]

I love the way you talk. Your voice is so sweet. I love how you broke it all down and described things. Thank you for this.

[@constancedgordon4]

Thank you for presenting the essence of femininity and distinguishing that from the appearance of it. This information is very necessary. The smallest adjustments can make the most significant difference

[@cattynancy]

I find your videos an extension of my therapy. I thoroughly enjoy them, sometimes I feel like femininity is something I’m struggling to practice…and I just want to say to any woman who feels like I do. It’s ok that you don’t get it off the bat keep learning about yourself and why you default to your masculine because it’s most likely rooted in trauma. I feel like me learning about femininity has started to set me free xx

[@kristynasechterova5524]

in exactly 10 seconds of starting the video I knew you will speak FACTS. You radiate so much love I'm here for it. Thank you for sharing! 🫶

[@marinamt4421]

I feel you talk like my best friend. Great energy from you, a peaceful soul, secure of herself, thanks for this

[@klam9932]

I love how your videos show how to fully embody femininity, beyond just liking pink. I also started my Christian journey recently and am finding natural makeup, hairstyles and clothing for my body, so I really resonate with your channel and am learning a lot of amazing information from you! 💗 What type of music do you use for your video backgrounds? So relaxing and classic, yet fun 💗 Btw, you’re gorgeous!

[@JasmyneTheodora]

Oh thank you so much for such a wonderful comment!! You are so kind. The music I get from a royalty-free website - by Million Voices (songs are called Lily's Dance, There Will Be Rain, Mercy of the Wind and In Your Dreams), Franz Gordon (Altostratus, Two Weeks in July & Following a Dark Boat) & Gavin Luke (Haze). I mainly use those songs but am looking for more versatility. Anything soothing & cute with piano. ♡

[@gretheledwards6380]

Makeup is never natural you are hiding your true face and insulting the creator telling him you are not satisfied with your true self. How would you feel if someone pierced your child's ears without permission or paints your house with color you didn't want?

[@ellacarter9863]

I’m so glad you became a Christian! It’ll be hard but SO worth it, so I encourage you to keep it up! 💜 I’ll be praying for you, too 🙏 Also yes! I love KZbin channels like this because part of Christianity is being feminine!

[@JasmyneTheodora]

(@ Grethel Edwards) All of the women I’ve met wear makeup to enhance their natural beauty, not cover it up. You can also look at it as a form of art and expression. It’s similar to wearing lovely clothing. 💕 I don’t think wearing makeup is inherently sinful at all - especially if it’s done tastefully and modestly

[@yanikeonpurpose]

I think an important point to discuss is the role of beauty in embodying & expressing femininity. I’ve realised that it is almost exclusively classically beautiful women that put out these kinds of videos. And there is a reason… It is easier for these women to sail through life being “soft” because they have high social currency, & that is beauty. If an unattractive, overweight, extremely tall woman were to apply these principles, the results would be very different for her. In fact I am yet to see a woman who doesn’t fit the beauty norm create videos on soft life & femininity. If beauty & attraction are removed from the equation, where does this modern take on “femininity” stand??

[@maria.1313]

Love everything you bring forward, your essence shines and it inspires me to deepen into my softness. It feels like homecoming. Thank you ☺️🌹

[@eveathome]

I know this video is a year old but I am so happy I found it. I had to pause when you talked about the neuroticism because that is totally me. I overthink basically everything and always go 50 steps ahead to whatever the worst thing is. I’m so grateful that you shared how this is something that happens with you as well because often I’m left feeling like I’m the only one. Thank you for this and all of your other videos. I just subscribed and am excited to dive into your catalog and catch up on all of the wisdom you have to offer.

[@The_Joyful_Homemaker]

This is the best video I have ever invested my time in. It truly drew my heart towards you and your wonderful advice. Thank you so much

[@whisperwillson]

I love this so much and i am trying to learn to be more softer for the sake of just being and feeling like a better person. I hope to see a lot more content out of you this is beautiful

[@vishnuramesh350]

Thank you Jasmyne to bring the femininity back. Massive respect for you, sister.

[@LifeOfKells]

Loved this video so much. It made me realize that I am very feminine (as I’ve thought), but put on a “masculine facade” when around others (otherwise I receive criticism of my voice being soft, or being perceived as shy even and I hate having to deal with explaining that I’m not and how I’m not smh). I even have this facade in my KZbin videos which I didn’t realize until watching this. This was so helpful. I hide my femininity in order to avoid criticism from others for being such, so this video helped me feel and that it’s okay to accept being this way.

[@saraperry9392]

I'm trying I feel growing up in the hood it made me hard to protect myself but I have a soft side that wants to blossom thanks for this video some of us just dont know and have to learn thanks for the help beautiful

[@Dutchess.Babyyyy]

This video was honestly beautiful. I like how you spoke against the stereotypes when it came to certain topics such as being gentle and how you spoke about how being gentle doesn’t mean being a push over which I think many people interpret that as. This video has made me realize I am more feminine than I perceive myself but it also showed me what areas I need to improve on, even things that weren’t the main topics. Thank you for this video and I will definitely continue to watch the others.

[@tamoseukhun1934]

Love how you speak so intellectually and intelligently, yet so elegantly. Beautiful.

[@sednonsatia]

I really enjoy the way you express yourself. There are so many videos on youtube on how to be a feminine woman that plays into "tricks to get the man" or doing behaviors that aren't authentic to your true self. I can see that you have really thought about this and are coming at it from a perspective of truly understanding what it is to be a woman and expressing yourself in ways that bring more joy into your life and connection with a strong sense of self, through a feminine lens. I subscribed and look forward to more of your content.

[@ellenscott4294]

Thank you so much. I thank God that he led me to this video, because you have concisely pointed out all my flaws in one go. I'm not too sure why I have such a masculine personality or just a personality that is so far far away from this feminine essesence that I do have inside of me. I crave for that and I hope I can let myself be vulnerable as I start to change myself.. Thank you

[@Song_about_a_girl]

Girl, i just wanted to say thank you! I needed this reminder. I would describe myself as having a more feminine shift the last couple years. I find myself not being as embracing of the change because of the lie of being a “powerful, combative, fierce, independent woman” being the ideal. Its now that im learning that is not mutually exclusive from femininity and being a soft woman!!!!

[@solfernandez436]

Wow. This changed a lot my mentality. I'm so grateful for everything you've shared. God bless you ❤

[@autumnrose1639]

YOU'RE SO PRETTY 😭😭😭🤍