Battle Of The Cat Moms | Chosen Family Episode

[@danandphilbrainrot]

I am not at all surprised that Alayna is amazing at keeping plants alive

[@carterpeele4913]

Shocker, the most caring, nurturing person alive can take care of her plants! 🤣💖

[@shamelush]

Right?! It's so on brand for her

[@autumnguthrie3177]

Also she would probably be to anxious about them dying haha.

[@addie1080]

I'm 28 and went to a very progressive school in Australia, sex ed was a part of our health class. There was an anonymous question box I filled with questions about gay sex for women. The teacher was super kind and didn't have much information but came in next lesson with a bunch of materials and resources about queer sex, I really appreciate her for that. It's a class we had at different ages but I don't think boys and girls were separated for it, I think we were in primary school but its hard to remember. I remember there was a lot around acceptable and unacceptable behaviours for adults/ kids and consent

[@justynapianka5441]

your school brought me faith in humanity back ❤

[@christietheys2329]

An anonymous question box, what a brilliant tool!

[@HeyAmandaR]

Alayna being so excited about her plants....and both Mak and Ashley just letting her take over the podcast to talk about them. Y'all are cute.

[@zoestrong3972]

Get a moss pole Alayna! Like you, monsteras love to climb 😄 It gives them support as they grow

[@MochaBloke]

👏 A+ joke, well done

[@queerlyvictorian]

I’m from by far one of the most progressive parts of Wisconsin (US), but I think partly because of how conservative the state is overall (esp. our legislature), our sex ed was a unit wrapped into a class called Health Education. Thankfully, we had it three times across K-12, but the last time was disappointing because it strongly emphasized abstinence as the only way to guarantee you don’t get pregnant, and we spent like one day on all other actual contraception. We spent a little longer on STIs, but then that was that. One of the gym teachers was my teacher, and he did acknowledge non-straight sexuality existed before saying that we wouldn’t be talking about it because the curriculum had been constructed around preventing pregnancy. It was possibly the maddest I’ve ever been in a classroom. You hear us, you see us, and yet you will not teach us? I ended up doing a final project in that class where I looked up all the queer sex ed the school wasn’t teaching us and made a presentation that I gave to my friends. 😂

[@coversbycierra6557]

Clothes shopping anxiety is SO REAL!! Thank you for bringing this up, Ashley. I thought I was alone!! I always enter anxious, and leave even more anxious with a tinge of sadness. It can be overwhelming!

[@tinytebs]

“i actually hate my cats and i dont want them to have help” im dying rn

[@janelle2569]

I'm French and we had sex Ed in biology class and it was very nice! We talked about the clitoris, oral sex, gay sex, consent, pretty much everything. Hearing your experience, I feel sooo glad I had a great sex ed haha.

[@alexharrison2743]

That's incredible - can I ask roughly how old you are/when you had this sex ed? I'm really curious as to how it's changed over time, and curious whether that's somewhat the standard these days, or if you just went to an exceptionally progressive school?

[@alexharrison2743]

@@janelle2569 I'm happy for you that you had such a good teacher! I'm 25, and had sex education at age 10 (which was just a video on going through puberty and how a man and woman have sex to make a baby), age 12 (which went into periods, contraception, and touched on oral & STIs), and then at age 13 there was a more detailed lesson about the hormones of the menstrual cycle and fertilisation. I went to a fairly chill Catholic school, and the sex ed classes were given by the biology teacher in her class. While it was a much better sex ed than most schools around the world (especially in the US), it still didn't touch on consent, pleasure, or queer relationships at all, and more on STIs would have been good. I'm really curious as to what sex ed at that school is like now, 12-15 years later

[@Hippogirle]

Im frech too we had nothing, im 28... happy for you though ❤

[@janelle2569]

Well, it was just a good teacher then 😅

[@kerizella]

Putain t'as eu de la chance mdr nous c'etait pas ça

[@christinapiccioni]

As a plant lover I am so happy that Alayna is propagating her monstera!!! I’ve been watching that dude every episode and I love seeing the progress!! Now I can’t wait to see how the cutting does cause the new leaves have really nice fenestrations!!

[@xSilverxshadowx]

My spouse is like Jen, can sleep anywhere, anytime. Meanwhile, I have chronic insomnia lol. Perfect couple! You got someone well-rested who can make rational decisions and someone on high alert in case the house catches fire in the night lmao.

[@theembersinside1420]

😝 My husband & I were EXACTLY like that before he passed. I was always laying there wide awake being sooo jealous of him in deep sleep. 😵‍💫 But, there's something to be said for that kinda balance.. lol

[@rosyfinch]

It's so validating to see Alayna hyped up about her plant propgation growth, like I'm not the only one going around showing off new leaves or roots.

[@lexiisgay]

This podcast has helped me so much! I have a tough time going to the grocery store because of my disability, but this podcast motivates me to go every week. I don’t let myself watch it until I go grocery shopping and because I’m always so excited to watch it every Wednesday, it makes going to the grocery store exciting! Thank you!!

[@Krispypeppers]

Mississippian here. Everyone will be so shocked to hear that it was abstinence only. Little to no anatomy covered. If anyone said the word clitoris I'm pretty sure they'd be sent to the principals office. 😂😢 Totally worked too!... wait no... close to a third of my original graduating class dropped out... because they had babies or got someone pregnant. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@matotry]

As someone who has never kissed anyone or had sex and am now 25; This whole episode made me laugh and internally cry. I can’t imagine growing up without the shame of sex, great to know it can happen though.

[@karinagutierrez7134]

I feel for you. I’m 25 and have only had sex with one person, when I was almost 21, and then never again after we broke up. I recently realized how much my fear of an unwanted pregnancy paralyzes me from seeking straight passing sex and how much my shame around my lack of experience paralyzes me from seeking out gay sex. I technically have more experience in kissing, but even that has only been 4 people.

[@dododans]

Alayna I'm very interested in hearing more about the disconnect you're talking about at the end of the episode. Have you talked about this before on yt or on a podcast or something? If not, would love to hear more about it! What it meant for you, how you realised what was happening, how you connected more to that feeling of desire, etc. If there's any like term I can look up that'll give more information about this would also be great!

[@proplepeople3631]

i’ve been trying not to fall asleep waiting for this episode to drop, it’s 1:06 am, back again for another week ❤

[@strangest_angel]

Same 😭 it’s 2am here and I almost forgot what day it was so I’m a lil late

[@rozha2791]

I'm frome The middle East and I grow up in a very religious country, we didn't had any kind of sex ed at all! like 0 sex ed. NOTHING. we just have one subject in 9th grades biology about how creatures get pregnant and that's it! and I personally learnd everything on the internet and I'm so grateful podcasts like this and WHGS exist and that I found them because it helped me learn so much.

[@codywilliams8985]

2:53

[@Blinkbmj27683]

Yeah same

[@ThatGirlShelbyy]

I love that Alayna is also a plant mom 🪴❤️🪴 I would love to see a plant related video from Alayna! I’m curious to know what plants she has, any wish list plants that she wants, etc! I’m a huge plant lover and have almost 100 plants 😅❤️🪴

[@mesannahhh]

I am from Sweden and soo thankful for my sex ed in school. We had a little bit of sex ed every year starting from when we were 10, the first years it was mostly abput puberty and our bodyparts. Then when we were around 12 sex ed was a part of the biology course so we were graded on it too, I remember learning alot about both the vagina and the penis and we had tests about the different parts and what they were for - including the klitoris! And alot on pregnacy and all that of course! But the best part was when we were like 14/15 our biology teacher also talked alot about pleasure, different ways to have sex and lgbt+ stuff. We talked about what the term sex really means - that it is not only penetration and I also remember talking about virginity as a social construct. I dont remember being sepereted by gender except for when we first talked about periods and us girls had like an extra session at the school nurse were she showed us different pads and tampoons. When we were 15 we went together to a youth clinic that we have all over sweden where youths can get free help from midwifes, nurses and therapists. They talked about the clinic and how they could help and we had a chance to anonymously write down questions for the midwifes and nurses that they answered when we were there. What I also loved was how much we talked about consent, everything that was talked about always had a follow up on the importance of consent. Veery long text haha sorry

[@coolsenjoyer]

Pretty similar in Finland but I don't think there was really any emphasis on consent and very little about LGBT+ stuff, but that was almost 20 years ago so that has probably changed

[@ktkrogstad]

I love this! Wonderful to hear!

[@vallentinac9513]

wow that sounds very awesome! may i ask how old are you?

[@mesannahhh]

@@vallentinac9513 I am 25!

[@vallentinac9513]

@@mesannahhh aw cool! I've always loved Sweden

[@Metamorfae]

In Australia in the 90s my sex Ed in year 7 was mostly STI talk. We had to make posters in groups about a different STI that we drew out of a hat. We had a class a week for a semester and I think the first lesson was the only one that went into anything else, where we went through basic definitions. The teacher asked something about “does everyone know what a lesbian is?”, but from what I remember it only came up because the boys were making stupid jokes. When we said yes she said “ok good, we don’t have to talk about that then” and moved on. We weren’t separated into boy/girl groups. We also learnt about puberty separately in primary school in an incursion program called the “life ed van”. We all squashed into a van and was given a presentation on puberty by a giraffe puppet. Seriously. Life Ed vans are an Australian institution to this day 😂

[@swiftie4856]

I love how Alaina is so excited about the plant while Ashley and mak are sitting there like okayyyyyyy glad you’re happy abt this

[@bethandickenson5801]

Alayna please keep updating on the plant I legit loved it 😂❤

[@angeladavidson2350]

This episode came at the perfect time! I'm going to buy some nice pants, shirts, and blazers today and Ashley's story helped me feel better about it. Wish me luck!

[@xXPixXx]

Good luck!

[@Bear-ol5gs]

For cat's yelling at you in the morning, with ours i found they are just super excited to see us awake.

[@deej6795]

Agree with Alayna, sizing consistant and then take a step further and make all pants with pockets.

[@daijay9084]

My school in the UK was extremely progressive and the was in the days of the Beatles and Rolling Stones. We had Social Education on a Friday afternoon. One time we were visited by cured(?) lepers from South America, another by international emergency relief doctors. We were taught decorating (wall paper hanging) and rock climbing. Of course we had sex education. The classes were mixed and the lessons graphic. We had people come in, teenage parents, former (?) STD sufferers ect. The contraception lessons were given by a lady doctor who seemed to be a natural stand-up comedian. My parents encouraged me to read further on every subject including sex. We would discuss everything from home decor and fashion to sex and relationships. Most of all they would listen and respect my views. I remember to this day, as a twelve year old, there had been an incident at school for a very embarrassed female class-mate. I mentioned it to my shy, retiring and sweet mother, we then went on a long country walk and she explained to me about her periods including her first time. Her sex education had been limited so afterwards I went to our local library and educated myself further. I was so lucky with my parents.

[@smaragdapapadopoulou7807]

The way that Alina said that they used to say the Lord’s Prayer every day when she was in elementary school and she immediately followed it by “yeah, it was bad” and I hadn’t even thought that there are people who AREN’T forced to do that - I’m a lil queer atheist (prob) from Greece btw, and yes, Mak, I did have the fear of being the next Virgin Mary growing up, you’re not alone haha Hugs and kisses ❤

[@justbobbinalong_3284]

i live in england and the general consensus from people i know is the sex ed they had was very minimal. that being said, when we got to sixth from (american grade 11 and 12) the sex ed at my school focused more on consent, how to recognise coercive relationships and how to have sex that is enjoyable (focusing on trust and comfort rather than the clit etc) - it helped that we had a really cool teacher who was very down to earth and honest, and i had a pretty good time of it!! :)

[@gunselshaly537]

We had an elective, afterschool course called, "Skills for Adolescence" where we "learned'' the difference between sex for reproductive vs recreational purposes, and the repercussions of unplanned pregnancies and disease transmission, as well as avoiding drug abuse. Out of the 88 students in my graduating class, only 12 students took the course through all 4 years of HS.

[@gracelarmee]

Alayna's reaction to her plant propagating is the exact feeling I get with the absolute jungle of plants I have created in my room

[@angel-ry9mb]

i went to an art highschool with A LOT of lgbt ppl and our sex ed was actually super inclusive and extensive. we learned about sex safe in queer relationships and the people that taught it came from planned parenthood (it was still during gym class though lol) so things are definitely improving in some places!

[@kaiya33123]

I had a very similar education to Mak and Alayna (a mix, but more like Mak's) and lots of shame that im still unlearning, so finding Ashley's other podcast a couple years ago now was such a breath of fresh air, along with each of your platforms and especially this podcast and everything that's openly talked about!! I just couldn't be more grateful for all the work and time each of you put into making content for the community, and just know it's helped me beyond words!!!❤❤❤ Truly life changing🥰🥰🥰

[@karmicxkoala]

I went to school in the middle of the rural part of Pennsylvania (and was taught with the boys, almost 20 years before I came out as a trans woman) but our sex ed was surprisingly good, at least for rural America. It mostly focused on understanding the physical changes of puberty, and pregnancy and STI prevention - through actual protection rather than abstinence. Sadly, there was no discussion of consent or any sort of "how-to", and most of my class only loosely knew what a clitoris was because of porn or the South Park movie. We never had the whole "put a condom on a banana" thing that pop culture says happens, but it was explained well enough. One final fun point: the male sex ed teachers' names were Mr Hand and Mr Johnson, which has never ceased to make me giggle.

[@kaiya33123]

The beginning part about the eggs being made made me laugh so much!😂❤ As well as the rest of the episode❤ Thank you all for being who you are and all the work that goes into this podcast!❤❤❤

[@comfy-pajamas]

3 am dinner with my lesbian family!!

[@um6098]

omgg yess

[@yeehaw2568]

Frrr stayed up js for this

[@ashfair3913]

Literally me rn lmao

[@Brooke_Corbyn]

Lmao that opening punctuated with a smug mak crunch is everything

[@ErucaRose]

Love linen pants! That's what I've been buying lately too 😸🙌🏼

[@tambob82]

We need weekly updates on AUNT MONSTERA!!!

[@Blue-pb7kz]

My solution for my cat was an autofeeder that's flat and round (the top spins around to reveal pre-portioned servings, my specific one is the Trixie TX6), so there's no way it can be tipped over or anything. And my cat goes nuts over food, she's opened cupboards and doors for it, and she's yet to manage to open it. It works for wet food too! And if your cat is both smarter and stronger than mine, I think it could be attached to a square of plywood to make it extra stable, too. I believe there's even ones for dogs, that might be even sturdier. They don't work like dry food dispensers that work until they're empty, though, mine has to be refilled every six meals, some every meal, but it's worth it for extra sleep in the morning!

[@byebyeoldusername]

y’all i gotta say this. today has been THE day. i wake up, 1989 TV announcement. i don’t do much bc i woke up late and am off work today, because, GOING TO MY FAVORITE BANDS CONCERT WITH MY BSF (they r actually so awesome plus i got new merch and met some awesome people and was one away from the stage) (like i didn’t know it was possible to love a band so much they’re actually so awesome) and now closing my day with this pod. today has been pretty fantastic

[@lillyruby227]

I'm from Florida and in 5th grade we learned about periods, pretty good detail. 6th grade we had a video talking about not giving into sexual urges and said abstinence is the only sure way to prevent pregnancy and STDs. In middle school we learned about different STDs but never did we learn about contraception, or the opposite gender's anatomy.

[@kyshaneal151]

as someone whos a student athlete who is just as much of a student as i am an athlete I completely understand Alayna. during the school year (im still in highschool) i make up for missing time by removing my hours for myself to rest. I really think you sharing your journey on how you are able to balance your life more when you are doing your program.

[@samjamz02]

alayna's laugh @6:21 🥺🥺💞

[@MsMegLily]

I 'm from the uk and whilst we had sex ed classes regularly by a nurse where we put condoms on d***o's, learnt all about the biology, saw images of private areas with really nasty infections, this was during the anti propaganda years. We had a law referred to as section 28 which meant we weren't even allowed to say the word gay in school (it was still used as an insult of course). If a teacher referenced to homosexuality they could have been fired.

[@melissaeastridge7402]

I got the same talk as Mak🤦‍♀️ - I did have a whole thing about stds and they had us stand on a blanket and it was basically a whole story about how someone was partners with these people and then those people were partners with other people and so on until everyone was standing on the blanket. They also showed us pictures of STDs but that was the most that we got😂

[@funkypigeondotcom7917]

Thanks for a birthday podcast! Love you guys

[@mia-]

idk if it’s bcuz i’ve been binge watching the vampire diaries but this episode it felt like ashley was damon, alayna was elena, and mak was stefan

[@SarahMaeofMaeGal]

I am so very thankful that my mom was open with me about sex. The education I got in my small, pretty conservation town was very limited and VERY abstinence heavy. 9th grade health taught me a lot (though nothing about pleasure or consent or anything like that), but about 50% of my 8th grade health class was stuff my mom already told me about.

[@haileygalbraith6260]

I was so lucky, I grew up in an area similar to Alaina’s but was able to participate in a duel enrollment program which slowly replaced all my classes until my senior year I took no high school classes at all. Anyway, this resulted in freshmen me taking a college level health class, in which we discussed STIs and orgasms and consent and sexuality and I am so grateful that I was able to have that.

[@letmehaunt]

i just started propagating part of my monstera plant i've had since 2020 so i TOTALLY understand alayna's pride here!!!

[@hi-yo1kq]

Im 19, went to an English school in Germany that was just starting out so there were about 180 students from 3 to 18, so a very very small school. So we never really had like formal sex ed. We had reproductive sciences units throughout middle school and we learned a bit I guess, but mostly our education came from the open environment where conversations about sex were welcomed. My younger sister ended up having health classes at the same school throughout the whole time she was there. And it’s great now. They answer any questions and cover everything

[@c333th]

God I love when yall are just talkin and chillin and youre all just like yupwedidnotdotheintro haha your friendship is so so sweet.

[@natalieclausel6334]

I did most of my primary school education in Mississippi, and we were abstinence-only sex-ed. We had to sign a pledge to stay virgins until marriage when we finished it and everything. It was a week long unit in our health and child development classes, and our parents could easily opt us out of it. Like with Mak, we were fully segregated the whole week and the girls focused on abstinence being the only guaranteed way to not get STI’s or get pregnant. I believe condoms were mentioned, but abstinence was the point. They showed us what I remember as graphic images of what different STI’s can look like in/on the female body. It was crazy and only fed into my religious understanding of “no sex before marriage” because I was attending a Southern Baptist church at the time.

[@niareb]

All-girls Catholic school here. We had an external company come in when we were 14 and do a whole week of fun down-with-the-kids performances about waiting till marriage lol. Then, when we were in the final year of school (17-18), we had a different company come in and do a lecture on abstinance and family planning after consistant requests for actual sex-ed from the students. That blew up and was in the local news because of how many of us complained. Two of our teachers took it upon themselves to host their own session which was very open/honest which was fantastic - unfortunately they were refused permission to do it officially so only my form group benefited from it on the dl :(

[@themorales6]

I went to public school in Virginia. They separated us and talked about periods and anatomy of both sexes and the DANGERS (mainly to females) of sex. I wish we’d learned more about pleasure and the clitoris and sexuality and consent. And YES, the boys needed to learn about female pleasure!

[@hannahhowden8980]

Omg I’m realizing how good Toronto/GTA public school sex ed was from gr 5 to 12! We did SO MUCH physiology and touched on consent and I graduated in 2014. My mom and sister work for the same school board and now sex ed starts with very basic anatomy DIFFERENT FAMILY STRUCTURES (!) as well as non-sex based, consent/bodily autonomy

[@sparkle2414]

I keep my door cat cracked (cat sized openning).. they still wake me.. it's just by climbing on me purring instead of howling and I can sometimes cuddle us back to sleep - and when I can't it's at least a nice way to wake up.

[@emmaakamemma]

I'm from Italy and we had three stages of sex ed. In elementary school we learnt how babies are made; in middle school we talked to professionals, I think they were probably gynecologists, about various things even foreplay but not super in detail and we also studied how periods work. In high school, a couple of older pupils did research on STDs and gave us a talk about that and finally we talked to another gynecologist who mostly talked about contraception. During all of these phases boys and girls were always together, never separated, but separating boys and girls is generally unusual in Italy, we always do everything together, even PE

[@anapalacinka]

Also thank you for confirming both my anxiety and depression lmao, I do wake up with every alarm I set I just can't get out of my bed so I have to add more and more and it's an endless cycle 🥲

[@187942]

When Alayna talks into the camera, it almost feels like she’s talking to you in person

[@selars23]

Omg I literally had to watch the EXACT SAME VIDEO mak was talking about with guys and girls separated for all of it, too lmao😂😂😂

[@yohitmanbang8516]

i go to a boarding school in michigan and my school literally brings in professional sex educators. they give us sex ed thats conscious of queer and trans people. they show us forms of protection for all sexualities, kinds of birth control, ways to access birth control, and what to do if you get a std/sti. they very throughly explain consent and break down myths about sex. i also like that the people who come in don't pretend like no one can or will have sex during high school and instead say that its not allowed by the school to have sex on campus but continue to explain how to have sex safely anyways. its not separated by gender but the freshmen have their own meeting, sophomores and juniors have theirs together, and then seniors have a separate meeting.

[@meaganfletcher1796]

hello guys this is my favorite podcast i patiently wait for every wednesday thank you for the content :)

[@meaganfletcher1796]

also i have a crush on alayna

[@Louis--]

I think the changing room with a lock is clearly intended to be locked for privacy. However when there are multiple tables I'd probably leave it unlocked because sometimes changes are urgent. Exactly once I have knocked on a bathroom door to ask to enter for a changing table.

[@alexharrison2743]

I'm 25, and had sex education at age 10 (which was just a video on going through puberty and how a man and woman have sex to make a baby), age 12 (which went into periods, contraception, and touched on oral & STIs), and then at age 13 there was a more detailed lesson about the hormones of the menstrual cycle and fertilisation. I went to a fairly chill Catholic school, and the sex ed classes were given by the biology teacher in her class. While it was a much better sex ed than most schools around the world (especially in the US), it still didn't touch on consent, pleasure, or queer relationships at all, and more on STIs would have been good. I'm really curious as to what sex ed at that school is like now, 12-15 years later

[@nicolebacon2747]

It sounds like your sex education classes were a lot like the ones I got a little more recently (at a public school). Although, when I was around 13, the curriculum changed to include consent, sexuality, and gender identity. Then the new government changed it back the next year. I think I was fortunate that I took the co-ed personal fitness class instead of gym in grade 9 since our sex ed class that year was more general for everyone, rather than just about periods and preventing pregnancies. I wish that our lessons covered more about consent, healthy relationships, STIs, protection, sexuality, and gender. I also wish that our lessons about other sexual acts (i.e., other than vaginal penetration) were a little more in depth than just "it exists" (like more on how to protect yourself from STIs).

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

My favourite part about Wednesday this podcast always makes me laugh love u guys ❤️

[@sarah_stirlen]

My favorite day of the week is Wednesday love you guys so much 😭🫶🏻❤️

[@keshaleavell3380]

I need to do this. My monsters is outta control. I’m torn because I don’t want to cut it from the top.

[@emmab.6566]

Propagating a baby monstera right about now too, waiting for the roots. I have so many plants I dont know where the hell im going to put it😅

[@rossholditch8235]

Formal sex education in Canada was mostly similar to Alayna's, focus on the biology, and prevention of STI's. But the real education of what sex is, and frank discussion about sexuality probably came from outside the public school system, by tv host Sue Johanson (Sex with Sue). Her call-in show which aired on both radio and on the Roger's community channel, and then followed by the Sunday Night Sex Show on the W Network, was truly groundbreaking.

[@mariahfurman2623]

I WATCHED THE EXACT SAME VIDEO MAK! SHE MADE A UTERUS PANCAKE!

[@m4rthvader]

hearing about you guys's sex ed makes me feel very lucky for what i got lol. im spanish and it's not the same for every region of spain but where i went to school in primary school (ages 8-12) we only ever slightly studied about the reproductive system in biology class when we were 11-12 and got a bad fear-mongering warning to girls that we erre going to get our periods. i was so so scared to get it. then in high school (ages 13-18) we only ever got one big sex ed talk when we were in year 4 (16 yo) but it was great. it was only one day, lasted like 2 hours and even though it was like too much info for only a day it was pretty good. it was taught by a math teacher who was the president of an LGBT organization in town. we weren't separated by gender. we watched a video on reproduction, we were told about different contraceptive methods (condoms, pills and more), we were told about orgasms and specially female orgasms!! this teacher was a gay man so we were told about gay stuff, even gender!!! i remember there was a trans guy a year older than our grade that came in and talked about the difference between sex and gender and how he discovered himself, it was so interesting, it was the first time i got to hear a trans experience (im nb btw). honestly the only thing they missed was probably talking about nb experiences but it was 10 years ago so really good overall. looking back i was very very lucky but it's not the same eveywhere in spain. i went to a public high school so that was probably why it was so good but i have friends from other parts of spain who didnt get such a thorough talk

[@v.t.3064]

From Louisiana, our sex ed was nothing. We were supposed to get the period talk from the gym teacher but they never wanted to, so they just didn’t. Then, in high school, we had a mandatory online health class where the only mention of sex was that alcohol increased the risk of teenage pregnancy.

[@philhatch483]

In high school my sex education was almost too painful to remember because of there seemed to be an unspoken code as to ingroups and outgroups, peer humiliation and zero mention of anything other than hetero attraction. And to top it off our written test scores were made public by the teacher. In 1976 DuBois, PA.

[@mossy.forest.fae.]

I went to a regular non-religious public school in the US. However our sex ed also focused heavily on "don't get pregnant, don't get an STI". I was lucky enough to go to a conference in high school as part of my GSA that was for every GSA in my state. One of the talks they were giving was called "queer sex ed" and it filled up INSTANTLY for both sessions if that tells you anything. It filled up so fast I wasn't able to get in, even though I signed up relatively early. There are a lot of kids that would benefit from some basic education on what their bodies do and they aren't getting it, even at so called "progressive" schools like mine.

[@jc6034]

In our public school in our small town on the east coast the only thing even close to sex Ed was in 4th grade. After recess the teachers would have all the girls go inside while the boys got extra recess. I remember the only thing we discussed were how to use pads but my core memory is when the teacher pulled up pictures of boobs in different sizes with number corresponding to each picture (as numbers went up, size did too) and we wrote on a sticky note what “number” we thought we resembled. Then we would have to share the number with girls around us… It was so embarrassing and really messed up and that was the only thing we learned as well as vague stuff about how to use pads and tampons😭

[@elfschild]

The propagated Monstera is BEAUTIFUL 🥹

[@GrapefruitCat2]

Y’all being all soft validates my relationship so much love soft

[@fambi1271]

My SE had a lady come in who was like a specialist but there was still a list of things she couldn't talk about and the lessons had to be screened before coming to the school. She would give us extra info and say but I'm not allowed to tell you that. We learned about contraceptive, mostly abstinence, where to get birth control and plan b (not allowed), you don't need a parent to get it, stds vs stis, where planned Parenthood is (not allowed), what being sexually active is(not allowed), alternatives to sex (not allowed), and most importantly talk to someone if you start being sexually active and that it doesn't have to be your parents.

[@leorojas1572]

I went to a few public schools in Toledo, Ohio, which is a pretty big city, but I never had a single sex-ed class. Not once. I had to go and find things out myself, aka I got a job at planned parenthood, to learn about anything relating to.

[@GarbageIsland101]

I went to a public school in Texas and we got the exact same video that Mak did. Later in 8th grade we also got a slideshow of pictures of STDs

[@lauraluciavargas5046]

I don’t even remember if I had sex ed at school. But, I do remember that my dad had a little talk about it and explained to me that sex is not always related with love and that’s okey. That helped me a lot to explore sexuality with not so much pressure of being in love.

[@alliethecrone]

new pants girlies unite! mens pants have SO MANY POCKETS. TRY THEM!

[@schrys2005]

This is random but I just remembered, once my stupid older cis str8 brother overheard 2 min of this podcast and he said "so from what I understand they make fun of str8 people". 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@carimedueck4082]

I'm from Steinbach as well, went to a Christian private school.... our sex education was, don't have sex before marriage, if you get pregnant you will be kicked out of school. That was grade 9. I don't recall anything else being taught for the remainder of high school.

[@Iiserkli]

You guys help me to get through my school works

[@JuMixBoox]

In Germany, at least where I lived, sex ed is just part of the normal biology curriculum. It's a topic in primary school, where you learn about bodies, body parts and puberty, then a couple years later all the menstruation and puberty more in depth and laws around consent and harassment, then a couple years later more about pregnancy, different specific stis and contraception methods, and then there was a project day at some point about relationships, friendships and sexuality where we started by saying "bad words" (I remember someone said bukkake) and getting them explained. No one ever thought to separate us by gender for any of this education. I don't remember if there was gay and trans stuff in these specifically, but I think it was at least mentioned as an option for love and relationships. Also there was a part about living with HIV and how that isn't hopeless that might have included a gay man. The reason that I don't particularly remember is that it was already very normal to talk about queer topics with the teachers anyway. I remember that one teacher in a language lesson once graphically explained lower surgery to us to tell us about trans people and how it's not a big deal and you can do something to "be in the right body". I always had access to the internet and I didn't talk about these topics at home at all (the most I got about periods was being handed a flyer and tampons with an instruction manual), so having that was really important. It certainly wasn't perfect either. And Ashley: WHGS definitely taught me so much about people's specific experiences and what possibilities are out there with zero shame. Alayna is right, I'd count that towards it (although I know you set out to do comedy and not education).

[@kaylam12346]

I went to a public school in Colorado and remember that it was purely the anatomy of the reproductive systems. Nothing about sex or pleasure just what is scientifically happening during a period, pregnancy, and just SOOOO much about wet dreams. Never learned about STIs or contraception or anything. They did have a little question box but I don't remember ever getting any questions answered privately or publicly

[@samjamz02]

alayna 🥺 you seem so happy.

[@one1oneisme]

I love how all three of them have different mics 😂

[@mallorymeeks2453]

grew up in missouri and I think we watched the same video as Mak lol

[@fannydoucet6750]

My cat is a morning yeller but I put earplugs on and ignore him, and sometimes it's a real pain in the ass and I can't get back to sleep but no matter what I don't let him in or don't give him any kind of attention until I'm up for more than ten minutes, so he can't link his yelling and my getting up. And it works, he yells less

[@michellehumphrey1177]

the way I was reacting quite similarly to Mac this whole episode is so real

[@giselleegbejiogu1648]

I am from Hong King and i can say that our school was really progressive and it is also a girls school. We didn't have sex ed instead when we were in 5th grade we learned abt consent pregnancy and how it affects both sides and their responsibilities and all of the basic things we should learn . And each year after the 4th grade our school gives us a talk abt periods and stuff cuz we were an all girls school.

[@samjamz02]

MY CAT FROM HELL. ALAYNA. I start with that same sentence!!! people think cats are easy bc they're common like dogs but I learned SO much from watching my cat from hell even after having a cat my whole life. it helped me raise my kitten!

[@Miyad444]

36:06 same Mak we only got a period video 😂

[@maryanned1994]

My sex ed teacher was also my gym teacher, who was on mat leave once a year all through high school so we had frequent subs and didn't learn anything

[@hannahstewart197]

mak giving that one Pedro pascal meme

[@harleyshanks]

I grew up in Alberta, Canada which is very conservative and religious, at least my hometown is. I went to a Catholic school for my entire schooling and my sex ed was really hit or miss. When I was in middle school and we got the "sex education", it was segregated by sex and it was just about saving yourself for marriage and we had the apple metaphor. We got the same period talk that Mak got where they just show you a pad and I've probably seen that exact video. There were absolutely no tampons because they told us tampons would break our hymens. While we did get a demonstration on condoms (banana and all), it was very much drilled into our heads that if you had sex, you would get pregnant or get someone else pregnant or you would get an STI (STDs at the time) and overall, you could ruin your life. There was also a lot of anti-abortion talk. So they told us that if we had sex, we would definitely get pregnant and then there was no way out, you HAD to have the baby. There was a lot of talk of turning to God and praying. No mention of gay/queer sex or even consent. In high school, this was the mid-2010s for me, and it was slightly more progressive. Less about being abstinent but it was still there. Nothing about consent. They talked a bit more about periods but by that age, we all knew already. My high school was KNOWN for teen pregnancies so they doubled down on contraception and condoms. They did talk about dental dams but not in the context of gay/lesbian/queer sex. Everything I know about sex I learned from fanfiction, porn, and unfortunately, being assaulted. My friends and I didn't really talk about sex ever. We talked about puberty but we rarely spoke about sex. Until I was like 13 and I experimented with a friend and figured out I was kinda queer lmao.

[@nathaliamaria5494]

I went to a very catholic school in Brazil, my middle years was between 2008 and 2012, where we just didn't have any sex education. I was sex educated by anime and fanfic. And then at high chool we had a day in the biology class that the teacher talked about reproduction, contraception and stds, but didn't separate voys and girls