Alayna's Big News | Chosen Family Podcast

[@krystalmarie2719]

Ashley you should send the poster to Mak as a house warming gift 😂

[@2nd3rd1st]

Or a burglar warning gift for the front yard "BEWARE of the ANGRY LESBIAN"

[@BanszaBunnny]

@@2nd3rd1st are we talking about the same poster? :D

[@2nd3rd1st]

@@BanszaBunnny She may not look it on the poster but she's not to be trifled with! 😅

[@Screw126]

I think Ashely should bring the poster to Alayna’s wedding 😂

[@unstableratdog4179]

absolutely insane how alayna respects her fiancées privacy more than most parents respect their kid’s

[@niinlotantapaista]

Seeing Ashley's and Mak's joy for Alayna made me so happy I had to watch the reveal a few times over! Congratulations Alayna! 😍❤

[@seasonal.plants]

When Alayna was talking about still being burnt out even after a break from school,,,,, I feel that so hard right now

[@Grounded_Gravity]

Yesss, two weeks after graduation + holidays, and I *still* feel like my body is recovering. It's no joke!

[@FlaminTubbyToast]

I will always appreciate when Alayna is saying she actually had a break and then they pan to Ashley’s shit eating grin. 9:57 😂

[@VinettaVenture]

Right!😂

[@Mialotic]

The “ah she’s 23” feels so real. I wasn’t a late bloomer or anything, but I definitely had a change between 22 and 23 that was noticeable. Maybe a little life experience and then confidence helping a lot

[@J17891]

I felt a big change between 21 and 22 and I’m sensing another change is coming soon cause I’ll be 23 in a month 😂

[@22kelseydillabaugh]

Alayna is so adorable with that ring. She looks so happy ✨

[@barbaradiaper2448]

Re falling in love a number of times. I've never been in love. Might have something to do with the fact I only came out 15 months ago at the age of 68. So very shy me just enjoying the feeling of being part of the community and trying to embrace what's left of my life. I have joined a Lesbian Social and I look forward to your podcast every week which has helped give me a sense of belonging. Barbara x Congratulations to Alayna 🎉

[@helen2710]

Oh Barbara, I wish you the best with your queer journey! ❤️ I hope you will find fulfillment and joy.

[@caseymay123]

that is incredible, it just shows it’s never too late to live an authentic life. welcome barbara to the alphabet family ! ❤️ we’re a hoot

[@missknisely]

Welcome to the family, Barbara! You've always been a part of it, but now we get to welcome you out loud!! Proud of you.

[@krissicarsonart]

I came out at 39 (42 now). And I've only been in love once. Hoping you find that if that's what you want! But feeling you on the not in love 48 times thing.

[@sarabear3]

My wife's proposal to me wasn't at all planned. We were hanging out in her room after work just talking. We started getting a little cheesy & she turned to her bookshelf & grabbed her grandma's ring (like one of her favorite & most important memories of her favorite woman), and sat it down in front of me. I always thought I wanted a planned/sentimental/memorable thing, but I wouldn't have changed a thing! 😍😍😍

[@emmi3785]

I also had very unplanned proposal. I (f) proposed my partner (m). I did not kneel down. I sat with him on a couch. I spoke about symbolism of it. We are equal, so I will not kneel. (I also still use term "partner" a lot as we both are somewhat in gender spectrum. Also, up-coming marrige is not such a big deal for us, that I would want to highlight it to _others_ by using term fiance.) I did not have a ring. I gave him shitly folded paper ring. (I folded it when he was in toilet, so I did not have much time.) The paper strip used to make a ring had been teared from envelope, which came with some bill. 🤣He kept it for months and months. When we moved, he finally let go of it. It was partly unfolded and we had had actual rings already for a many months.

[@sienagallo199]

the retro ashley poster has me on the floor

[@jaceiselsewhere]

I love what Ashley said about wanting future you to tell you everything’s gonna be okay. When I’m particularly anxious I like to imagine 80 year old me talking to me about the situation, giving me advice and putting things in perspective. I find it really helpful for reconnecting with my core values, looking at the bigger picture, and trusting future me/that I will create the life I want.

[@celinel9750]

I'm not you and I'm not 80 yet, but surerly older then you and can give you that ''pep talk'' You will be fine, you will cross many river and bumpy road but you will always manage to get true cuz you are alive, cuz you are beautyfull and you are strongue. Belive in you lady, you'll make it. Life is sh*t and will always trow sh*t at you, but life is also beautyfull and as sure as the sun rise every morning you will find your way to go tru life. Now decide every morning what you want to take out of it: the sh*t part or the beautyfull part? Take your time to smell the flower, take the time to tell ppl that you love them, take the time to enjoye the beauty, cuz for sure some sh*t will happend, but also beautyfull things will happend, you have to be open to the beauty to recognise it when it's their. Have a beautyfull day 🙂

[@datghettoazn127]

Roflll the engagement realization 😂😂and the bathtub dress talk was such a good lead up to this

[@celinel9750]

At the second she showed the ring in the bathtube I knew, so today wasn't a surprise ;-)

[@livbrooks4194]

oof Alayna talking about taking back something that has hurt her made me tear up. Been a fan of Alayna for over a decade and just so happy to see her bloom like this ❤

[@JuMixBoox]

I've been thinking about wedding traditions and how to queer them a lot lately because I got certified as a wedding planner last month and queer weddings were my chosen specialty and therefore I read all the lists and articles and wedding stories about whether more lesbians go for a separate first look photo shoot or get ready together, how the walking down the aisle is organised (my personal favourites are walking down together, which is also culturally and religiously what would be the default for me, or going completely off the book and walking towards each other on two aisles because that just feels very special), how the wedding party and speeches and pre-wedding events can work and be inclusive and fun and queer and rediscovering old traditions and starting new ones and what cool things to wear are (I've fallen in love with capes, btw) and how to include symbols subtly but openly (like white knots for same sex marriage if you don't want all rainbows) and it's just such a fun and great and creative and magical topic and I'm so happy for you guys having found your people. Of course, this topic also comes with a lot of additional stressors that straight weddings, which are already very stressful, don't have. But I'm confident that Alayna will have an amazing time. It sounds like it might be soon, if it's a smaller ceremony and the wife-title sounds so good. Congratulations!

[@monicajoanna98]

OMG ALAYNA THAT'S HUGE!!!! i wish you both nothing but happiness, love, success and absolutely everything you wish for yourself. you deserve it so so much 😭😭

[@187942]

I am actually crying lmao I’m so happy for you Alayna

[@ninreck5121]

we need Jen on the pod more often, she has a wonderful very pod worthy voice

[@Domisdom]

Ashley stroking her own face on the poster was so loving and caring. Why did I like that so much? 😂

[@kalifischer412]

my wife and I didn’t set out to queer our wedding, we just wanted to plan something that felt right for us, but it ended up being very queer lol. It was LOTR themed, I dressed like Sam and my wife like Rosie and we wore pointed ears, we had a handfasting ceremony in front of 15 select friends and family and part of the ceremony included telling each of our guests how much we love and appreciate them in personalized “toasts.” We also ate dinner with our guests before the ceremony because I was not going to be hungry for my own wedding. Being queer is such a blessing because at no point did my wife and I ever feel like we had to do things traditionally, because there’s nothing traditional about our relationship. God I love love. Congrats Alayna!

[@ignorance_is_not_bliss]

CONGRATS ALAYNA!!

[@laurasto]

The number of times mak said “guys this is crazy” in a mix of joy and shock is so real 😂

[@marziadelevo]

I'm so happy for you and your fiancé, Alayna❤️

[@heyishitagg]

omg congratulations alayna! The parasocial is so strong that I'm weeping with joy. Ashley's & mak's reaction was so heartwarming, I had to watch this ep a couple extra times to take it all in ❤

[@stephtaylor6292]

OMG Congratulations Alayna! SO overwhelmed with joy for you! You deserve this so much. 🥰Thankyou for sharing the story with us! Congratulations to your Fiancée too! 🎉💖🎉

[@victorias.bremmenkamp509]

The way I JUMPED out of my bed to run to my tv to see the ring up close 😂 So happy for Alayna!!!! Also l love the word fiancée I think it’s so melodic lol

[@buuuuuuuuuu]

CONGRATS TO THE COUPLE 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@vampods]

OMG CONGRATULATIONS ALAYNA!!!

[@Miss.sassycassy]

The way I gasped at the coffee holding ring wearing that happened! Seeing this journey for mom from well idk like 6-7 years ago to see her so happy and authentically herself is just wonderful. Congrats Alayna! You deserve to feel the queer joy you are feeling ❤❤❤

[@Amarande_R]

THIS NEWS IS CRAZY! CONGRATULATIONS ALAYNA!!!! I GASP SO HARD ON THE TRAIN PEOPLE AROUND ME LOOKED AT ME

[@itslildil]

listener writing in: - FIRST OF ALL CONGRATS ALAYNA. it feels so sweet to see all of you guys making big accomplishments. you guys all moving in with your partners, alayna getting married. none of us knew this would happen back at the first episode. the family has grown so much. :’) also… - i would not hook up with my clone - personally i would like my partner to get down on one knee. but my wedding won’t be traditional for sure! - i LOVE the word fiancee holy shit

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

My favorite episode big congrats Alayna so happy for you love u guys ❤ 😊

[@XBloodwork1]

Mak is on Fire this episode 😂

[@Meghan.E18]

CONGRATULATIONS, ALAYNA, THAT'S HUGE NEWS! I LOVED watching everyone's faces when you raised your hand. That was such a sweet moment.

[@juanalegrand8651]

Jajaja I love the fact that Alayna was taking duck pictures.

[@mariannetfinches]

Congratulations Alayna🎉🎉🎉 How beautiful was that engagement story! In my language we can call our partner/spouse "fy nghariad" which means "my love". Like in everyday conversation "my love is an engineer". Totally normal thing to say. And I love it 💗

[@kapowjam3462]

There is no way Alayna had wedding cake for dinner unless there was a savory cake 😂

[@jasflint]

Congratulations Alayna, what lovely news! ❤ I loved your commitment to keeping your hand hidden for so much of the podcast 😂

[@someonesomehow379]

12:04 guys RESPECTFULLY mattea has definitely had a glow up dude

[@Do.Your.Best.345]

Congratulations, Alayna! 💜 I'm so happy for you 🌈

[@gemblu7745]

This episode was so wholesome 😍😍 it made me so happy seeing you all so happy Congratulations Alayna 🎉

[@TashaRansomArt]

Just Ashley doing casual inner child work😂❤

[@jaecanfly]

Congratulations Alayna! The ring is amazing and I love that we got the story even if you choose to keep the photos/video private. So happy for you! 🎉

[@lc360]

Good morning and a blessed plunge to you all

[@LordPandos]

I never thought I could be so happy for a stranger engagement ❤ CONGRATULATIONS ALAYNA!! I wish you so much happiness and love!

[@themorales6]

Btw, I agree with Mak on the clone question. 🙋🏻‍♀️ Mak, be confident!!!!

[@claudiacarmona264]

Since we were talking about past self, 2020 Alayna would be impressed on everything in your life.

[@biancasmith308]

I actually love this podcast so much

[@philhatch483]

That "sort of" answer to the bathtub question vid gave it away to me. CONGRATULATIONS ALAYNA❤❤❤!!!

[@bingbongalong]

I'm so happy for you Alayna! Congrats! ❤

[@rosebudscott]

I didn’t like using the word fiancée because it meant I had to come out more, just saying “my girlfriend” or “my wife” made the constant coming out easier…also congratulations Alayna!

[@mariannetfinches]

I hear that. I was in a really safe place socially & professionally, plus I'm an extrovert, so for me it was great fun to subvert people's expectations by saying "my fiancé", & then "she". Especially as we didn't have full marriage rights at the time. But yeah, it was sometimes uncomfortable 😅

[@leoanne06]

I have an unpopular opinion day: I agreed with Mak on the clone thing and agreed with Alayna about the word fiancé... Also, I'm SO RELIEVED that I'm not the only one asking the clone question to people around me 😂 Congrats on the engagement! 🎉

[@berniesenske994]

Congratulations Alayna, I'm so very happy for you. Bernie ❤

[@madi32]

So glad I'm watching this on KZbin.

[@milianesa]

ashley and mak's reactions were so 🥺🥺🥺

[@gryranfelt5473]

Gay time travel: a novella about a modern day lesbian going back in time to meet cave women, queens, courtiers, etc and opening their hearts while she herself sees all the ways to be historically gay ❤

[@Emmathelady]

As a long time fan of Alayna’s content, I am so happy for her!!!!

[@WAMilyFamily]

I felt that future me topic so hard. I feel like I've wanted that since I was a kid.

[@theopinionatedwoman]

I have the biggest smile on my face! Congratulations Alayna!

[@naty58pr]

Congrats Alayna!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@onemoresongs]

Amazing! Congrats, Alayna!! Happy for your happiness! :)

[@arualstarr]

Hahaha. I never got to go to an SAB carnival (damn!) but I was my college's variety chair for a year, and in that time I hired a comedian (who later went on AGT), a balloon animal making mime, an emo band, and some Swing Dance instructors. None of my other events required creating a contract, they were lazy on-campus events because deadlines. Also I co-founded my school's improv club so I could make the guys do openers for me 😆

[@margarett406]

I proposed to my wife in our own kitchen after a magical day. I knew I was going to propose, but didn't have a plan for when/how. It felt very organic and perfect and I wasn't on a knee and I never thought about it but also don't love the power dynamic of genuflection (as a recovering Catholic especially).

[@honeybri7061]

Truly loved Ashley doing the math face meme to figure out Alayna's news.

[@themorales6]

Alayna, “Am I?” 👀 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 Congratulations, Alayna!!!❤

[@Jayden.A.M]

Congrats Alayna!

[@Evalynn]

Congratulations, Alayna!!! 🎉❤ This comment may be longer than I intended, but: I am with Alayna, I couldn't get myself to say fiancé much & I did not like the word very much. I have always called my partner, partner. I am a bisexual woman who proposed to my cis-het male partner, on one knee, where we hugged on our first date. Once we were engaged, for some reason I started resorting to immediately calling him my husband before we were married to explain to people what we were, probably easier for my brain & mouth because we knew we'd have such a short engagement (also had a very small, private ceremony before moving across the country to California). There is also a safety to it, both in the feeling it gives me from my connection to him, & also, unfortunately, the lack of signaling to the straights/conservatives back home what/who I really am. So! All this to say, marriage never felt good to me either, it was not something I dreamed of & seemed like only bad news for women always. Plus, it seemed impossible because for a long time I struggled with thinking I was just a lesbian, having been raised very Catholic, and not realizing there is the option of not liking just the binary of women or men. (Alayna, you actually helped a lot with that.) & when I was a hopeful single searching for a wife, I found the angel of a man that is now my lawfully wedded partner.

[@junevertucci3420]

Congrats to Alayna. Wishing you joy on your journey,

[@marleykotylak1194]

I went to those as part of student activities in 2012 and 2013. Have a funny story about one of the comedians who came to our college all the years I was there

[@lexil8212]

CONGRATS, Alayna!!! You deserve all the love ❤

[@oakokapi]

Mak closing out with "RATS" like Charlie Brown 😆

[@MiguelSantos-vf5yn]

Congratulations Alayna! 😍❤ Much love to you all.

[@JulesLern]

Such a great episode! Congratulations Alayna!! 🎉❤

[@teaganbialobrzeski2806]

WE NEED A WEDDING VLOG!

[@ribon-ichigo]

as a nonbinary person i love the term fiance. My partner and I aren't engaged but we call each other fiance sometimes and it just fits so much better than partner or "spouse" for us. We've been together for over 10 years at this point (disability/financial reasons keep us from tying the knot) so calling him my "boyfriend" makes our relationship feel so trivial in my mind.

[@reasonkaa]

CONGRATULATIONS ALAYNA!!! I am so so happy for you! I’ve been watching this pod as soon as the first episode came out and it made my Wednesday’s so special.

[@milou_1241]

Congratulations Alayna !!🎉💍🎉

[@Meghan.E18]

I must say of you have the most flawless, lovely, smooth skin. Ashley, I think you won the Perfection Skin Award. Jealous of your skins. Love you ppl. Love from Manitoba

[@palaksinghal]

Congratulations Alayna!! Wohoo!!

[@alisontippett2618]

Ashley - can’t wait to see you in Boston!!!

[@seasonal.plants]

Ahhhhh CONGRATS ALAYNA!!

[@rorolilred]

Congratulations Alayna!!!!! ❤

[@keelyatlover739]

Lol the Ozempic Ad playing during this.

[@themorales6]

All the convo about Poster Ashley makes me think of the Barbie song by Billie Eilish.😢😅😊😊🥰

[@hannahhowden8980]

Congratulations Alayna!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@stephben8042]

Insecure Clone is a great bit

[@eileahsims8092]

Omigosh! Omigosh! Omigosh!!! Congratulations Alayna!!! 🎉🎉🎉 I'm so happy for you and your future wife!!! ❤❤❤ This is also an official request for a post of your engagement and wedding photos if your future wife is okay with that. 😉

[@Billie-s8w]

Mak " babe alyna got engaged" 😂❤

[@loupelizzo2399]

Absolutely great podcast and Alayna congratulations and I just couldn’t stop laughing it’s very funny funny thank you so much for making my day so great.

[@deloresd7500]

Congratulations Alayna!!! OMG so exciting

[@krystalmarie2719]

Omg congratulations Alayna!!!

[@buuuuuuuuuu]

my dumbass really thought omg the ring is a FUCKING fizz bom,,,,, this mlm rotted my brain

[@margueritelarson2573]

Ashley wanting future her to come say everything will be ok is so so relatable

[@julzamidala2865]

OMG congratulations Alayna!! So happy for you!!! 🎉🎉🎉💯💯💯💕💕💕

[@taylorkills4711]

Congratulations Alayna!!!

[@sarahallegra6239]

Congratulations Alayna!!! You are the best wife already!

[@brynworden6108]

Congratulations, Alayna and partner!!!! 🩷🩷🩷

[@ericadecopas]

When Ashley talked about wanting future her to come say that everything is gonna be ok I literally just went "oh shit" and started crying. And then Alayna said "that makes me want to ask if you're ok" ahhahahahahaa. I feel ya Ashley, I want that too

[@ragreen2]

O.K. I'm a patron .... You can say that I left the clone question and I will totally say to anyone who asked that I did 😉 ... I love you guys! ❤❤❤🌈🌈🌈

[@ninreck5121]

Mak, I'm with you on the clone thing, I definitely would

[@kami_flowerfox]

CONGRATULATIONS ALAYNA!!!!!!!! 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚