OCD & Sexual Intrusive Thoughts

[@nancyburkhart1070]

“Thoughts make us feel like we’re losing our identity....”. So much this. This theme is such an isolating one (sexual intrusive thoughts). It makes you feel so separate from “normal people”. Your videos are so validating. It’s like having such a huge burden lifted. At the same time I am so sad for losing so much of my life to this disorder, well over thirty years....Your videos give me so much hope. You have no idea how much you have helped me by putting yourself out there and providing not only facts/information but also making me feel less isolated. You just get it. 💗

[@woozworldloer123]

How did you get help for these thoughts? CBT therapy?

[@rach2.2]

I always finish your videos in tears. Thank you. ❤️ I honestly don’t know what I’d do without your channel.

[@julianaramirez7669]

The same for me🥺

[@christina2768]

I agree... finally someone on KZbin who I trust and want to listen on ocd

[@yomaster25]

I just found this video and it made me tear up because almost all my life I thought I was weird but I realized I think this must be what I’m struggling with. I have so much anxiety around sexual intrusive thoughts and think I can finally get some help.

[@amywhitney246]

I know this is an older video but I just wanted to thank you for making it. It hit so close to home on what I have been struggling with for the past 30+ years. The part where you talk about how this specific theme has a different layer of shame and how it is so violating really hit home. What I’m still trying to process is that it’s my own brain doing this and I can’t completely get rid of them. 😢

[@manon4705]

I am so moved, you're depicting so rightly what I feel... the anger, the sensation of losing myself, of being violated and the fatality, helplessness that goes with it Thank you so much Chrissie for what you do and for you authenticity, benevolence that are dear to us.. much love ♡

[@lauraska95]

I definitely had sexual orientation OCD about being asexual a few years back and that's something I never heard anyone talk about, thanks for mentioning it in the video Chrissie! ☺️ Also you hit the nail in the head when you said that some people may have had OCD their whole life but don't know until they get a theme that's completely taboo and messed up. The irony in that is that this is the moment when we realize something is wrong and maybe start looking into it and finally find out it's OCD. OCD is such a weird mental illness that is unfortunately so good at disguising itself.

[@iliaskrikis8789]

That's so true.I knew that i had something but i just thought it was just obsessions and anxiety that came and go and it wasn't until sexual orientation ocd started that i knew.

[@itziaramos5964]

Thank you for this video. The free will part hits so, so close to home. The people who love me around me show up, but there's just things they will never understand. I don't blame them, but it gets lonely. And hearing you always feels like fuel to keep going ❤️

[@julianaramirez7669]

Chrissie thank you and thank God for your existence!!! You have been such an angel for people who suffer this terrible ocd theme... 🥺🥺🙏🏻

[@omegasiarnaq]

Thank you for this video. All of your videos have been so helpful. I've been suffering from pOCD for about 8 months. And I keep flip-flopping between I am a terrible person and deserve the worst, and I'm not a terrible person and it's just ocd. I can definitely relate to the idea of "feeling like you're losing your identity", I feel like I don't know who I am anymore. And I've read articles about pocd and one of them says, "Many with this subtype consider it to be the ultimate loss of identity." Thank you, so much for your videos.

[@khunbhak6198]

I've been struggling with sexual intrusive thoughts for a long time now. It started with POCD, which I've successfully dealt with. However, recently, I started getting obsessions about my boyfriend (I'm @ straight girl) sleeping with his guy friends. I didn't know this could be an obsession and when the OCD kicked in, I was left mentally paralyzed for at least a week. I was so exhausted. I'm so fed up of this disease.

[@DogMommy.]

How did you get over you're POCD thoughts

[@FanVidder72]

Thank you, Chrissie. Thank you for being online. I've said this before, but I feel that it's worth saying it again, I am so glad that people like yourself speak out about the evil underbelly of OCD. I have never hidden the fact that I have OCD. However, when I get into a conversation about it, I freeze, as I cannot talk about the sexual intrusive thoughts. Instead, I say to anyone who wants to know about intrusive thoughts, "go and watch Chrissie's videos". You really do rip the lid off OCD and lay it bare. Thanks again. God bless you and stay safe.

[@tonisharpe4841]

I have followed your videos for some time now and I honestly believe YOU are the reason for my recovery! I had previously sent you a message via IG and I cannot thank you enough! I still watch your videos and I am still very much in awe of the person you are and how much strength & courage you give to many including myself! I am from the UK and it seems that not many people know about pure o sadly so I personally want to say thankyou from the bottom of my heart for making these videos!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@akashdevaprabu3638]

Thoughts making feel like loosing identity was so true thanks for coming up with this . I wish you to be happy

[@cstewart042]

Such a perfect description and a deep understanding. Every word made personal sense.

[@ivantsarevitch337]

I felt so ashamed looking up POCD even when I always was incognito and deleted my browser history it was so scary.

[@carter7937]

Hi Chrissie, I'm fortunately *knock on wood* in a relapse phase where I've been able to overcome my anxiety since the end of last summer. I stumbled across your video on KZbin and wanted to thank you for continuing to make videos for people even when your symptoms aren't acting up. It's hard to think about OCD symptoms when you're in a good spot!

[@josephmontoya6815]

oh my god, I needed this video. this is such a lifesaver, I thought I was losing my mind. my whole life was being taken over by these thoughts, and now I know to go get help thank you Chrissie I felt like I was dying THANK YOU

[@jacieleonard4332]

been dealing with these forms of pure ocd for the past 3 months. i got a therapist but she still hasn’t diagnosed me with ocd. I feel hopeless and like nothing is helping. like you said i miss how it used to be and i feel guilty when I think about it.

[@lauraska95]

You need to see a therapist specialized in OCD!

[@jacieleonard4332]

@@lauraska95 i think i need one too and i told my mom that, she said that we’re starting off with a regular therapist to see if i need an ocd therapist. i definitely do.

[@lauraska95]

@@jacieleonard4332 that's not how it works. I was at a regular therapist and was misdiagnosed for 9 years! Regular therapists often don't know enough about OCD to diagnose it. If you're in the states or UK you can try NOCD, they provide teletherapy for less money than it therapy usually costs. Good luck :)

[@jacieleonard4332]

@@lauraska95 ohh thank you so much🥺 i didn’t know that. i would much rather be with an ocd therapist then. i’ll definitely let my mom know

[@lauraska95]

@@jacieleonard4332 yeah it's important to find an OCD specialist who does ERP. Good luck and feel free to reach out if you need any more information :)

[@stephenheyes1487]

I have been going through a rut recently with my OCD your videos really help me, I know I shouldn't try to reassure myself it goes against acceptance but my anxiety has built up over the last few weeks I could feel my thoughts becoming clouded, I don't want to let my OCD win, thank you Chrissy for your support 👍

[@evanmcdonald8346]

Video came right on time. I have had intrusive thoughts flying around for so long I became somewhat desensitized to them. Over time just learned to do the maybe, maybe not thinking. BUT THIS? This has been so random and so horrible. I've been doing the "Maybe, Maybe not" exercises and truly I felt better, but then the lack of anxiety and attachment to these thoughts, has kind of freaked me out. Hoping to get myself in a position to seek professional therapy.

[@kaitlinvazquez1565]

I recently had the revelation that I have OCD, and in that I also was able to identify and understand that my husband does as well, though we deal with very different themes. I'm incredibly grateful for your videos.

[@marine_life1747]

I can't begin to describe how much this video means to me. Just thank you.

[@scorgi0]

Does anybody else obsess with like whatever thought they have, they get scared as if anything can happen right now?? I know I won’t act out on my thoughts but I still get bothered by how it could happen at the moment, just want to make sure this is part of Ocd as well and that I can eventually just get over that and not pay attention to it.

[@Marcos-ko5vg]

That’s me. For me I haven’t been diagnosed to it. When I do anything I get a sexual intrusive thought mostly is about having sex with someone, I don’t do it, but it feels like it could happen. I was suggest seeing a psychiatrist

[@MrMull84]

Such a great video. It feels like someone has hijacked your body and mind. You have feelings telling you you want the thoughts, but inside trapped in a little box your soul is saying this isn’t you. Please make it stop

[@Robert-bj1ee]

I don't know if I actually have OCD, I have never been diagnosed, but this video resonated with me whether I have it or not. I knew that I wasn't straight for the past few years, but I was kind of in denial. This year, during quarantine, I have been focusing on that a lot. My big struggle is whether I am bi, or my attraction towards women is just societal pressure manifesting itself in my thoughts. I don't want to come out until I can answer that, but I don't know how to. I thought this was just a common experience that all queer people face(I was making this assumption based on lgbtq tiktok, so who knows how accurate that is) but I don't know anyone I can ask so I don't know how true this is. However, I have spent weeks on end non stop trying to figure it out. Some days it was all I could think about. I'm beginning to think that maybe this isn't common to queer people, but those with OCD based on a number of videos from Chrissie (but this one especially). I don't want to use a false label because if I am not that label, then I am just watering down the term and hurting a community of people. I have heard some advice from people (on the internet) to just explore and try to figure it out through experience, but how do I know if it is attraction or admiration or society. I also don't know how to start experiencing things if I am going to be constantly questioning my feelings. I know no one can counsel based on this limited information, but I think sharing this will help me. I don't know of anyone else can relate, but I also wanted to share my experience in case it helps anyone.

[@pinkplatypusprincess]

Chrissie. Thank you so much. I mean it from the bottom of my heart.

[@geogithomas2473]

u r such an inspiration and motivation for me ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,whenever i feel ashamed and lost i see ur video to understand that its not my fault and heal myself

[@nicholasmarshall8430]

God bless you and i hope you and everyone else has the best day they can.

[@g2000chat]

Dude you're my fucking hero. You're really piecing this shit together for me.

[@ravenhillrestoration213]

Crissie thankyou so much I have suffered so badly with OCD all my life im now 41 and its getting worse, everything you speak about in this video I suffer with on an extreme level I'm so broken I feel like my brokenness feels normal I now have feelings, urges that are attached to my ocd and it feels real and I beat myself up after I self harmed badly growing up and suffered with addiction due to self medication My parents abused me badly, psychological abuse and physical, my ocd was terrible as a child and my family made fun of me instead of helping I've had enough of feeling this way It's horrible Thanks Paul

[@MsRainbowbowz]

Chrissie, what if we’ve been diagnosed multiple times with OCD and we logically know we aren’t attracted to these intrusive thoughts, but we feel like “dropping it” or acknowledging it as OCD would be somehow justifying or giving proof that these thoughts are okay? Ugh

[@kaitlinvazquez1565]

Those thoughts are the OCD, not your real feelings ❤️ It wants to stay in the driver seat, and the way it does that is trying to convince you of its validity in any way possible.

[@mariegerges1989]

Hello Chrissie, i have just discovered you and i just want to tell you thank you for this video and all your work about ocd, it makes me feel so much less alone now...i hope you will developp all this in France too... Have a very good day :). Marie

[@rhiannaroberts722]

Thank you for another great and informative video..just knowing I am not alone with ocd intrusive thoughts helps me a lot, so thank you

[@anweshabardhan1579]

Ocd makes me tell myself... May be I want it or may b i like it but i dont want to like it. Does that happen with anyone else? Like you think you like pizza but you don't wanna like pizza but everytg makes u feel that u definitely like pizza.

[@niveria.]

Yes ! I feel so disgusted abt myself bcs i think i probably like what im thinking rn but i also know that i don't and dont want to but then i question if i just say i dont like it so i wont be seen as a bad or disgusting person(idk if this made sense and english isnt my first language so sorry for mistakes:/)

[@anweshabardhan1579]

@@niveria. made absolute sense.

[@versatilehumanbeing6013]

@@anweshabardhan1579 are u taking meds for recovery my life is in ruins have had tons of meds but nothing is working please guide me i am almost at deads end please help me 😔

[@anweshabardhan1579]

@@versatilehumanbeing6013 no not taking any meds but actively into ERP therapy that too without a doctor but with proper research, a lot better now. This needs a hell lot of acceptance n ignorance n by acceptance I mean not agreeing to the thoughts but to the fact that these are just ocd n allowing yourself to relax n be ok with having these thoughts since others have them too. Understand that you are not your thoughts, you are your morals n values and the choices you make when you are calm.

[@versatilehumanbeing6013]

@@anweshabardhan1579 can u guide me suggestions in my case how to apply erp the thoughts that i have is there any platform i can reach out to u like instagram or snapchat

[@amitkerurkar8685]

How are you doing Chrissie? Thank you for making these videos.

[@Dub_97]

It’s not hard to separate a sexual fantasy from intrusive sexual thoughts, the thoughts are not chosen, they come from literally no where you do not get to chose what comes in your mind. Learn to separate your intrusive thoughts from a fantasy a fantasy is chosen, those are related to your sexual desires, And intrusive thoughts go against what you desire. They wouldn’t be intrusive if you desired them, they wouldn’t even bother you just. It would just be normal thought you enjoy and would actually want more of it. But the simple fact that you don’t want them at all. And can’t make them stop should tell you right there that for one it’s not chosen and they do not mean anything about your identity at all or what you desire. Sexual orientation is hella multifaceted. You don’t just decide your orientation based off “thoughts” Remember that.

[@brianjones3274]

Thank you. I'm refreshed to watch this I'm normal to me

[@marialiedel7971]

Loved your video, your hair is incredible!!🙀

[@arisparks7740]

Hi, i suffer from this and what gives me more anxiety if I feel attracted to woman genitals and not men genitals i have never been disgusted by men genitals and I have never have thoughts i never like men sexually and romantically before OCD, everything just started 3 days ago while i was watching porn and I thought a woman private part looked pretty and I immediately had panick attacks and awful feelings, I'm trying to overcome it but i feel so scared because my OCD doesn't even let me remember if I really liked men or his private parts but I'm trying to keep going

[@theflokis2786]

How are you feeling now?

[@starrynight669]

I'm suffering from p ocd and it keeps me up at night. I'm afraid I'm going to hell for having these thoughts and it horrifies me.

[@DogMommy.]

Hey how are u feeling ?

[@mrunixman1579]

I am closely been kept an eye on by my community health team due to refusing to eat for 4 days as result of very high anxiety. They have read the document, which does include OCD problems of this kind.

[@reelinreggie6757]

She is really good. Thank you!

[@Dusky-Bunn1e]

I agree with this, i have TOCD and it’s so fucking debhilitating.

[@Catty_Wampus4610]

What if one of your compulsions is wrong, like I've been so afraid too think any sexual thoughts about my family or pets or kids that i'd push those sexual feelings or intrusive thoughts on any person I could see or imagine that wasn't underage or related too me and im trying too stop doing that and I don't know how I'm so scared and lost

[@lilliessbeess]

Damnn, that happens to me exactly!!!

[@lilliessbeess]

I don't want to think about family or other people I've never feel romantic and/or sexual attraction in my fkin life, all I have for them is platonic love. so I feel the sexual thought hounding me, then I think about it with other people so it won't come to me with people I don't want to think about it, sorry for my English not my native language

[@katherinepoltoratzky6068]

I have lost over a year my life due to ocd. I'm facing eviction possibly due to it. Lost my car and never get anything done. The thoughts are so real.

[@gursimrankaur4839]

Whenever I am having sex my mind just gives me urge to say another person name whom I hate..i just feel so guilty and don't want to have sex after that because I feel I might say the name out loud because of the urge.. It gives me immense anxiety

[@60ssuperman12]

Can't even be around my friends that are women now cause of this problem :( Its got so bad..Probably am not thinking of marriage for long time I don't trust myself

[@Dub_97]

I been Dealing with hocd for 2 months. I’ve cried nearly everyday. This came out of no where. Never questioned my sexuality. Never feared of going out in public because of the same sex. I’ve missed so much work I’ve avoided so many places that I used to love going too. I’ve cried so many times to my GIRLFRIEND! That I love so much and cared about so much! Literally crying telling her I don’t know what’s happening to me, I’m loosing myself. I literally feel so isolated😔 I try and try and try to stay positive.. but then here comes OCD 😔 I truly want my life back before this attack 😔 For anybody going through this, like she mentioned in the video we haven’t lost our identity it still there. Good luck everybody stay strong.

[@Dub_97]

Care*

[@DogMommy.]

I'm really ashamed of my OCD . And I feel like I'm losing my mind . I hope it goes away 😫 I just started feeling like this 3 days ago . I'm driving my boyfriend crazy smh .

[@Dub_97]

How are you now ?

[@jozeframos7823]

Hi Chrissie! Do you have any ideas about the Jungian shadow and if it somehow related with Pure O?

[@ajnaajnica3376]

You are wonderful. Thank you ❤️

[@championshironacynthia2621]

I often imagine sex scenes with family or religious figures, it's a shame I have a physiological reaction to those images, last night I checked my underwear and there were marks on my body I secrete. I'm really depressed now, I don't understand why my body betrays me too, I'm afraid I'll go to hell 😞

[@lilliessbeess]

There's something called arousal non concordance, our bodies react what is sexually relevant, doesn't asks your values or preferences, if it's something sexual in nature you can have a reaction to it. And this doesn't happen just with people with ocd! People without ocd experience this too. I can give an example. A person that is vegan, they don't eat anything that comes from animals. But they start to think about meat, a juicy delicious meat, maybe their mouth will produce saliva, their stomach may produce sounds hahah. A vegan person with ocd will start feeling so guilty!! That isn't what he or she is. It goes against their values. That is the same with us. Hunger is natural, you see food, you get hungry. Sex is natural, you see something sexual, you can get aroused, these are natural responses, we are programmed to feel those things, its our nature. Our body doesn't ask us about our values or preferences haha. Hope this helps! I'm not the best explaining but hope you can get it, don't give up!

[@roeltingzon758]

Does anyone here know about a peculiar sexual OCD invoĺving girl's use of always leaving open the toilet door whenever they pee or poop? Because it seems my sister in law suffers from such an ocd and doesnt seems to know it.

[@alydiajean]

thank you

[@ston3931]

Thx I still struggle if u can make another vid on it where is the end tho

[@gigilange8239]

Can you do a video on suppressing thoughts

[@meameaplok1321]

Hello ! I am Muslim and convinced and I am straight but I have sexual intrusive thoughts about ending up being lesbian ( nothing against lgbtq+ but it's just not me and not my values ) or being zoophile and all this with images such make it even more powerful and hard to avoid or beat or smth and I don't think I can talk about it with mom even tho I told it to my sister's that helped me a lot but can't understand what I exactly feel for information I live in morroco . But right now I don't know what I can do about it ( I relate to all the feelings that you've talked about ) please can u give me advices about how i can get through it ( I'm 14 years old ) . It does not let me study or enjoy what I usually enjoy . It had been 1 month since it started but I'm afraid that it lasts too long and that it affects my performance at school . And Thank u for all those videos that helped me a lot in the process of understanding what happens to me .

[@hollyhugh1910]

Hey I'm 14 too and suffer with these type of obsessions. It nice to fine someone my age with a similar experience :) I want you to know that it will be ok - the best way to not let it get in the way it to just 'accept' the thoughts when they come, just say mentally 'hmm, that was a weird thought but it doesn't mean anything'. I hope you feel better soon but sometimes these things take a while 🙂

[@meameaplok1321]

@@hollyhugh1910 what u said is so kind and gives me some hope , I've progressed in my recovery since I wrote this comment ( thanks to ali greymond) but it's still sometimes very hard so thank u for this cheerful response ^^.

[@i2kallday415]

@@meameaplok1321 same im 14 i told my sister it helped but they always say its maybe just a signed that yojr growing up and stuff but i want her to understand that I really feel the symptoms like I really know i have it

[@Charlotte-ye1vb]

You're amazing*.*

[@HikiOmo]

Sexually Intrusive Thoughts are um. Something for uh, damn sure.

[@lister11811]

Hi feel I know I am Gay and don’t know what do? I was told it was just OCD and I am not but I am positive I am.. have I been misled about what Ocd means

[@kylehill9121]

Hi, sorry to hear you're struggling. Does the thought of you being gay bring you distress or discomfort or even feel in any sort of way like it doesn't exactly fit right with your identity? I don't mean to reassure you but if you feel those things, it's very likely that it's OCD. I am gay and have OCD btw.

[@lister11811]

@@kylehill9121 yes it does Kyle but the morei jave thought about it i can see myself doing it 24/7 every thought of kissing a man to oral, to anything anything else doesnt disgust me in the slightest, i kiss walls, bend over analyse gay porn an feel i am liking it. this has destroyed my 10 year relationship with my girlfriend and now feel no desire for women at all because all i think abiut it mens and anal sex 24/7 and kissing my friends. all my therpaists have said this is oCD and i am not so is that what it means bud because then people reply back saying it can be denial once you go through therapy

[@lister11811]

so does ocd mean we are not these things as my therapist and parents and exsay its means i am not

[@toekneelorenzo2942]

Can u have thoughts of a girl who used to b a friebd n u slept w that u get sad n like a tear rolls down but u don't like her but ull see like a post or sonethibg she posts and feel like sad. But u dibt like her in tgat wat u like soneobe else. But ur thought gets stuck on thinking y did I think that if u dont like her in that way

[@toekneelorenzo2942]

@@aqebrax like having thoughts that u like a friend u use to see, but u dint like her like that anymore, or never did. But now u see her posts stuff anything on fb n u get like tgat thought as if u like her. Niw that ur seeing someone else those thoughts cone around, no matter wat. Like thoughts that ur sad etc

[@aqebrax]

@@toekneelorenzo2942 what do u mean with "like her" do u mean being in love or just as a friend

[@toekneelorenzo2942]

@@aqebrax liking her as more than a friend.

[@aqebrax]

@@toekneelorenzo2942 do u think this is ocd related? Like do u ruminate make complusions etc

[@toekneelorenzo2942]

@@aqebrax yes o xan get any thought n think about utvover n over . I feel like anxious n keep thinking about it. Like why dud I thinknthst. Sonetines can't even lay down or sleep cause of tgat thought ir otgervthoughts

[@nicholecooperonline]

What's that banana represent to you??

[@douglasd327]

Thanks for telling me this. It makes me realize I'm done holding back and from now on im tellin a gal how I really feel. Even if I get slapped for it 100 times for it eventually I'll find the right one that into the same type of freaky stuff as I am. At the end of the day I like what I like and she needs to as well

[@k.f.9875]

❤️ ❤️ ❤️