Christian Marriage Bedroom Rules: What's Off-Limits?

What is off-limits in the bedroom? In this episode, we're emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries, not bringing other people into the marriage bed, and when toys cross the line.
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Takeaways
- Couples should set boundaries and NEVER bring other people into the bedroom.
- Polyamory and open relationships are not acceptable.
- Extramarital relationships should be avoided to maintain a healthy marriage.
- Communication, consent, and respect are essential when exploring in the bedroom.
- God gives us tremendous freedom with our spouse.
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00:00 Intro
01:14 No Polyamory or Open Relationships
03:09 Avoiding Extramarital Relationships
05:03 Sexual Sin in the Bible
06:23 No Threesomes or Sex Toys
08:14 BDSM and Pain
09:36 Communication and Respect
10:00 Conclusion
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Dave and Ashley Willis spent thirteen years in full-time church ministry before devoting their work entirely toward the global mission of building stronger, Christ-centered marriages. Their marriage-related books, blogs, podcast, speaking events and media resources have reached millions of couples around the world making Dave and Ashley one of the most recognized and trusted couples in marriage ministry.
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Dave and Ashley partnered with XO Marriage in 2018. XO Marriage is the nation's largest marriage-focused ministry. As part of the XO Team, Dave and Ashley speak at all XO events, host The Naked Marriage Podcast, and create new resources to help you thrive in your marriage.
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The Willis family includes four sons and a rescue dog named "Chi Chi." When Dave and Ashley aren't writing and speaking, they love hanging out with their family, watching movies and going on long walks which is also where they develop many of their marriage ministry content ideas.

[@tiago3106]

Thank you for being so relatable and honest..... some people don't even have a safe space in their churches to get this info so thank you for offering it for free..... good job may you guys be blessed always in your ministry and marriage also......

[@TheHornet1fan]

I just happened to catch your segment, thank you for the encouraging talk and the positive energy you bring. All I see and hear nowadays on youtube etc is about the skyrocketing divorce rate, how " Modern Women" have no use for any man except 6 ft tall billionaire's how men are avoiding women altogether to not be branded a creep, or not get accused of something it goes on and on and on. then I see and hear a christian couple that actually like and even love and respect each other. its like 2 completely different worlds on the same planet. In regards' to sex in marriage , I believe to my very core ( as mentioned in the bible) that it is a wonderful loving gift from a wonderful Loving God and Savior for the express purpose of bringing 2 soles into a incredibly intimate, bonding like no other ,and a all be it deem reflection of the spiritual intimacy a loving awesome God desires with his people. I lost my wife of not quite 25 years in 2019, and pray Lord willing I will have a chance to love and be loved by a sister in Christ again before I leave this life. Lord bless your ministry.

[@agentorange153]

I'm not religious and I don't follow the bible, but even so, I have certain things which are off-limits in the bedroom: as a man, no sexuality with other men (only with a woman); no polygamy of any kind (that means no cheating, no swinging, no threesomes, nothing of that sort); no rape or sexual coercion; no deliberate infliction of pain or injury; no insertion of any object which is likely to cause injury; no urination or defecation onto or into each other (ejaculation is OK anywhere the woman is comfortable with, because it's different); no anal contact of any kind, because it's both inherently injurious to the receiving partner AND involves contact with fecal matter; no fisting (also likely to cause injury to the receiving partner); and no choking (same reason)!

[@haighton]

your sex life looks very boring to me. Where is the spice to spice things up or are you limited only to the missionary position ?

[@RC-hs1gh]

I will caution from experience. Role play is not wise. My wife and I would role play and I believed it was safe and would stay in our bedroom. It's NOT safe. I later found that she was having an affair with her friends husband, who was also a coworker of hers. She was playing the same role play with him. We're Christians!!!😢. God was mocked by this sick thing, my heart was shattered and my kids were thrown into a pit of lies and insecurity. A year later, working to rebuild a marriage that once honored God. Ultimately, keep Jesus on the throne of your heart and honor Him.

[@marcushibdon2415]

NO TOYS AT ALL DEFFINTY. INY PAIN STUFF..

[@longsnapper5381]

So here we have the one dude in America that doesn't look at porn. What are the chances?

[@tommac21]

There is absolutely nothing off limits between 2 consenting adults.

[@kozstandsya1494]

legally yes, morally no

[@longsnapper5381]

@@kozstandsya1494 Yeah, you don't make the rules

[@cardboardcapeii4286]

Incest is illegal

[@supernaught1963]

Lamech: Lamech, a descendant of Cain, is mentioned in Genesis 4:19 as having two wives, Adah and Zillah. Abraham: Abraham, the father of the Israelite nation, had two wives, Sarah and Hagar. Sarah was his first wife, and Hagar was her maidservant whom Sarah gave to Abraham to bear a child when Sarah was unable to conceive (Genesis 16). Jacob: Jacob, the grandson of Abraham, had two wives, Leah and Rachel, and later married their maidservants Bilhah and Zilpah (Genesis 29-30). Esau: Esau, Jacob's brother, had three wives according to Genesis 26:34 and 28:9. Gideon: Gideon, a judge of Israel, had many wives, and is specifically mentioned to have had seventy sons (Judges 8:30-31). David: King David had multiple wives, including Michal, Abigail, Bathsheba, Ahinoam, and others (2 Samuel 3:2-5; 5:13-16). Solomon: King Solomon, known for his wisdom, had an extensive number of wives and concubines, numbering in the hundreds (1 Kings 11:1-3).

[@jarsofclay7]

How did it turn out for all of these guys? 😂 Did you learn the lesson?

[@mzimmerman12]

The Bible is full of sin, don't use it as excuse to do the wrong thing

[@supernaught1963]

@@mzimmerman12 But polygamy isn't a sin in the bible.

[@supernaught1963]

@@jarsofclay7 They were never punished for their polygamy. It was their corruption that earned Gods scorn.

[@MidiboyGregg]

@@supernaught1963it most certainly is. Paul mentions it many times…

[@Veritas3737]

False. All acts that violate natural law are forbidden. With all due respect, if you don't understand natural law you shouldn't be making these kinds of videos.

[@donho7857]

More Rubbish encouraging Sexual lewdness and lasciviousness. Be sure consequences of sexual sin within marriage will also follow.