Clarifying Goals: Obstacle or Stepping Stone ║ Clarity & Motivation #2 │ January 2018

In this video I talk a little about the difference between physical perfection and true perfection (maturity), how we often set goals that are obstacles to what we want rather than stepping stones and how we need to learn to live our own priorities.
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[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

Someone mentioned on another video today that she no longer felt like she knew what she liked or what was important to her anymore. My biggest piece of advice would be to spend some time thinking about times in your day, or in your life in general, when you feel genuinely happy and at peace. What were you doing then or what contributes to making those times fulfilling? One of those things for me is being in nature with my family. That's why we celebrate my birthday each year by taking the whole family on a nature outing. For Tom, it's very fulfilling to him to share his hobbies with the people he cares about. That's why we have Magic Monday each month and why he and some of the boys go play Magic the Gathering with other guys each week. There are some things that aren't so obvious, but still important. How do you feel when your closet is filled with clean clothes instead of empty hangers? How do you feel when you hear someone pull up in the driveway? How do you feel about cooking dinner? For some of us, those things bring us joy, for others, they're not particularly relevant to our happiness. There's no "right" way to live life. It's all about understanding your own self and your family and focusing your energy toward the things that _you and your family_ care about.

[@carolynt3184]

Andrea Mills You are inspirational! Thanks for being you:)

[@victoriahigginbotham5210]

Andrea Mills love the way you worded that. our energy and our family. Family is definitely number 1 :) for me I enjoy spending time talking or playing a board game .

[@mimir3070]

Andrea Mills Praise God for you.

[@Marzeonthego]

You are amazing and truly inspirational. I wish I were your neighbor!! LOL...you make me feel so much better about my self, my Faith and my life in general. Thank You Mrs. Mills!

[@essiemohr6156]

God bless you Andrea, you were so enlightened and pure. We will miss you lovely lady!!!

[@GRACE_PRAYER_COFFEE]

God wanted me to watch this today! Oh how I needed it. I’m in that spot of being grumpy all the time but yet having everything I wanted. Tom, even though she’s not here, she is still helping people! I sure will miss these kind of videos from her but I am so thankful for all of these older ones on the channel! Hugs to you guys!

[@KristynLorraine]

I agree ♡

[@melanieboyle606]

I agree too. I hope it brings some comfort and joy to know that there are those of us who are gaining so much from knowing Andrea through her legacy in these videos. Not only are you all so blessed to have these videos, there is a world of people out here who desperately need Andrea’s wisdom!!!!!

[@acozysimplehaven]

While I’m cooking for my family, 3 small children and 26 weeks pregnant I love to hear your thoughts and advise me through life, from heaven now; but I’ll keep rewatching these through my busy days and remember your reminders of what being a God fearing and loving mother and wife is. ♥️

[@AnnaSelka]

I'm not even a Christian but I really needed to hear what you said in this video... So wise and true. I get misled and take on all these expectations from society and it makes me miserable. It's not me. Thank you for your perspective, you have such a reassuring presence.

[@KristynLorraine]

Dearest Andrea, through these videos you continue to SPEAK LIFE. This is such a timely word. You were and are a gift to the world. I can imagine as your girls grow that they will have Mom's wisdom helping them along into adulthood. Some girls have their mothers, but no one is sharing the wisdom. Listening to Andrea speak on the "someday" when she will reflect back on her life and priorities is so bittersweet. What a beautiful life well lived. ♡

[@KatytheNightOwl]

I love it when you speak of deep things :) It took me losing my health to realise just how much we, as people of the western world, are being pushed into thinking that physical perfection really is the only goal of life. But, in losing my health, I discovered that it's my inner me that means so much more than the outer. I look back on my childhood, which was one of 7 children, to parents that were considered poor, but my Mum gave me the most wonderful gifts she could have done - the urge to learn about the world about me. The love of reading. The love of Nature. The love of family and friends. We lived such simple lives, really, and were always happy with whatever we had, whether it was something really simple, or in the achievement of personal goals and, although I lost that for a while as I grew up and left home, it's such a joy now to be able to cherish those little things again :) When I came across your channel for the first time, watching you and your wonderful family brought that joy of childhood back to me, and I'm just so very glad I came across your vlog :)

[@vcarrollhome]

So sorry for everyones loss. This messaged brought so much clarity to what I have been experiencing for the last 8 months, and I am so blessed that God had me come across this. Thank you for having been so open to share your experiences and showing us what walking through life with Christ means, even in the difficult times!

[@evelyngrima1458]

Andrea was definitely an educator. If it was something she wanted, she could have had a very successful career in the education field. It is wonderful that she continues to impart her wisdom through these videos.

[@aprilwifeandmamalife7835]

It amazes me how when I miss her and I come to your channel for wisdom that I always find something new that God wants me to hear. This video is so pertinent to me in what I am trying to internalize and this is so helpful to me. She was/is such and inspiring woman I really hope someday to be at least some of the amazing woman she was.

[@lynnf9219]

What a blessing you still are! Even though you are no longer here on this earth, your words of wisdom have touched my heart this day. I'm so thankful for these videos. God bless the Mills family.😍

[@lumpyspace9073]

I know you don't monetize and you've explained before...but your very versatile and hit many points in many lives. We couldn't be more different, but I love your perspectives and I think you deserve compensating 😊😊that's all! And your one of few I would watch a commercial for🤣

[@happyhandcraftstudio]

You are a born philosopher! So interesting to hear your take on things.

[@grateful1929]

Do you know that the Lord told you to tell ME this??? I needed this so badly! I'm 61 and God just spoke to me through you! I do so many of these things you named. In fact most all of them. Thank you sweet young lady! 😊

[@snickersm.5893]

Everytime I watch this I am amazed at her simple wisdom.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@shannon1350]

Andrea, I so enjoy ALL of your different types of videos. It is so nice when, even as busy as you are, you sit down with us and talk. :) Your channel brings so much joy and comfort to so many of us! 💛

[@beam8250]

TRUTH Andrea! You lived a simple, meaningful life, and you made perfect sense here. Your wisdom is golden! RIP 💖 beautiful.

[@snickersm.5893]

I am really interested in what this video has to say. Have tried to watch it several times and everytime I fall asleep.lol. Andrea's voice is so calming and pleasant❤️

[@anitaakin4865]

You are a very sweet soul! I began watching your channel because my daughter has six kiddos 👶. You gave me great ideas on a big family, I only have two children. I am a huge fan of substance over appearance !!! But, everyone has a big but, right hahaha, I am sixty-three now with health issues. I will never be a health nut but I am now health conscious. I spend more time managing my health so that I can do the things of life that make me happy, like being with my grandkids. Not every day is a good day but I can read to the kids, or watch a movie or play a board game when my energy is not there. But, there’s that but again, I want to take walks with my kiddos and go to pumpkin patches and cook a big meal and have energy for the day. My daughter is so busy with her family, I encourage her to take a little time for herself, to eat a healthy meal or two, get a little exercise not to look good but to feel good. I find at sixty-three balance is key it is beneficial. I lost my mom when I was thirty-one and it was devastating for many years. I guess today I just wanted to give you some motherly advice in a tender and hopefully sweet way. Ive been taking your advice for years!😊. Oh and I homeschooled my kids and my daughter homeschools hers also! God bless you and your family!!!

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

Oh, yes, we definitely need to take care of ourselves! I'd like to point out that everything you recommend is taking a healthy action. (Eating well, walking, etc.) Tom and I have spent a lot of time making observations about our different grandparents and the ones who still engage in life (getting out and walking, helping others, etc.) clearly have better health. (Ironically, excluding a set of grandparents that died 30 years ago, the most physically active, service-oriented grandparent we've had was the first one to die, so you never know...) I think we see eye to eye one this; get out there and start living! Don't put obstacles in your way (like achieving a number on a scale) before you can get out there with the grandkids. I also think it's _much_ easier to eat well when you stop worrying about that same number on the scale. I think many of us moms abstain from eating solid, nutritious meals because we want to lose weight, but then succumb to hunger eventually and reach for whatever is closest. (I was 31 when my mom passed away, too. Next to Tom, she was my best friend. It's hard losing your mom. I'm so thankful for children and the ability to have that relationship with the next generation!)

[@anitaakin4865]

Wow!!! Thank you so much for your heartfelt reply, you are a person of character 😊. We love Jesus and people and are still going pretty strong, there’s that but again (lol) we have slowed down. And yes we don’t look at the scale much cause it’s a task master!!!! Thank you again!

[@Amenhomeschoolers]

I really enjoyed this video and all of your videos but this one is really helpful to me because January is always a difficult month to get through. Sleepiness, lack of motivation, laziness, grumpiness, low self esteem, being indoors too much all make me depressed and I start obsessing over things about myself that I don't like. Thanks for the encouragement!

[@jackieklumper9498]

You are my FAVORITE vlogger!!! Thanks for your time in making these great videos.

[@MK-yp3ls]

Although we do not share the same religious beliefs , I truly value your words. I've never been amazed by any other youtuber as I am with you. You touch something deep in my soul. I feel you would be a great motivational speaker. Please NEVER stop sharing your ideas, they are so remarkable. You are a great inspiration in my life :)

[@JVHarberden]

Thanks so much for this video Andrea! I admire you in your role as a mother, wife and just a good person in general. You are a truly beautiful person and I appreciate the time/thoughts/everything you put into your videos.

[@sallywendzik7339]

Your channel brings so much joy and comfort. Hugs from Michigan

[@MegaMommaUlman]

Litterally i prayed that someone would share the getting up early thing.... i have struggled for years with hating myself because i usually cannot rise before my kids (when i do it is amazing!!) But it is extremly difficult all my children are wanderers an wake up many times at night.... and i never get more than an hour of sleep ( like sleep apnea on steriods haha) and just this am i prayed and God said i was focusing on the wrong thing! So i decided i needed some uplifting so i said i will watch an andrea video:) and this is the one the Lord brought up and amazingly you just made it! Anywhoo!!! Thanks for sharing your heart it is hard to be real on youtube with all the judges:) but i would just like you to know.... that i struggle with outside influences too! Praise be to God that you made this video! Blesaing and prayers to keep you strong and for teaching us to focus on the Joy of the Lord

[@ItsAWonderfulLife]

This is a beautiful message Andrea. Thank you for making us think and for continuing to put yourself out there. Your videos have truly been a blessing in my life. *hugs*

[@michellec8560]

Andrea I enjoy these kinds of videos so much! You have so much wisdom to share.

[@bradybrowning8274]

I always love your wisdom and am so thankful for these videos Andrea. This hit home on so many points for me as a mom and wife, even just as a woman. I can relate to the physical imperfections taking over because I have a chronic joint disorder that has always caused me immense pain. I spent years going to all sorts of doctors and therapies only to realize that when I finally stopped allowing it to consume my life, it stopped feeling so severe and debilitating. That is such an eye opener. Thank you for sharing your heart in such a vulnerable and real way. You remove boundaries and just share your life and thoughts with us and that is a much bigger blessing to others than you could ever imagine.

[@normamiller1676]

Andrea, I enjoy all of your videos, but this one resonates with me. Accept who you are.

[@breathlessinbedvlogs]

Your kids are very lucky to have you as their mom. I sure needed this chat today ❤

[@vivacristorey3852]

I wish your my neighbor!!! You have a great gift, and you are inspiring lots of people and the most important you're inspiring me!! Thanks and God bless you!!

[@familyrootsfarm2215]

Thank you so much for your perspective. I have never had it broken down like this and it makes so much sense! You are truly amazing and such a blessing. Thank you for taking your valuable time to share with all of us!

[@ozazure]

Andrea, I really enjoyed this video today and needed to hear it. I have undergone a similar maturing process in my thinking about things but the temptation, or habit, to think the other way never truly disappears. Partially because we are so steeped in it, and partially because some of my life's little pleasures are along the lines of outward stuff, like prettying my home and having my organisation how I want it etc. It is vanity as well. But when those things aren't serving the purpose of making me enjoy what I'm doing, it means I am overdue to focus on what is actually important. I am in a time of transformation at the moment and keeping my focus on 3 things is good advice. I will mull this over today as I do the work I need to do. Thanks.

[@Livinginoz]

Wow. This is a powerful video. You literally brought tears to my eyes when you shared about your intimate issues with Tom, and how your weight was an obstacle keeping you from sharing intimate relations with your husband. That is EXACTLY where I am! Thank you for sharing. You have no idea how much this helps me.

[@SacredMommyhood9]

This was SO good! It's so easy to lose focus and get caught up in things that don't matter. I'm heading to a homeschool conference tomorrow, and I think I'll set some time aside to specifically revisit goals and priorities! Much love to you!

[@tammygibson7246]

Seriously you would make a great life coach and college professor. You are easy to listen to and so insightful. I really enjoy these videos. I'm excited to meet your new baby via youtube. Never have I wanted to homeschool my kids until I found your channel. Unfortunately, I'm the provider in the expensive BAY area of CA. I am a teacher, just not to my own children... maybe one day. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@daisyjane221]

The irony is that most watching your talk believe your home is amazing and would love to live in it. Because you have filled it with such joy, a cozy atmosphere and such great kids.

[@kgrean8587]

Thanks Andea. You hit the nail on the head. Had downer day. Really down on myself. You picked me up and made me feel better.

[@hannahberndt4509]

I really enjoyed this video Mrs. Mills. This opened my eyes to what I needed to see right in front of me. It touched my heart when you continued to make point after point of what I have needed to hear for so long! Do not think that what you said is not good, because it has truly helped me.

[@lizlane6490]

You are awesome, Andrea! So wise and I just love when your share your thoughts on things.

[@embecca4]

So thankful for you and you sharing your wisdom! I so needed to hear this today. Just being reminded that through Christ, I have received a greater grace. That grace is something I have to extend to myself (rather than frustration at the lack of "perfection" in a goal I don't even care about) and I'm called to extend that to others. What a sweet reminder of the grace we have been extended.

[@homesteadschooled4587]

Really love this video! For the last 4 years I have suffered with TMJ after my jaw popped out of place while I was eating a carrot. I have often found myself feeling regret over eating that carrot and then I worry about what the future holds and what will be the next thing to fall apart that I don't appreciate enough right now. Anyways, it's great to hear your perspective on health and just learning to be content with your circumstances, whatever they may be. I also sometimes ask myself why I am so often feeling so cranky when I really truly have a life that I love.

[@wachol3]

Just....wow. You’ve given me so much to think about, especially as a mom. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@dianelinch6280]

I don't know how you do it! I have a lot of respect for you and your family. Truly amazing....

[@jasminer7804]

I love your chats. I am an older mom of many and really appreciate these.

[@jenwipf729]

I can't even begin to describe how much sense you make to me! I have OCD and can easily get bogged down in details that don't really matter. Thanks for your videos...they help me alot.

[@glee_me]

Such a great video & filled with so much wisdom. Really enjoyed this one, Andrea.

[@dees6129]

Thank you for this Andrea, the message was one I needed to hear and it ties in so well with my own thoughts on society pressures and expectations. I always enjoy visiting with you, I feel I take so much good away after listening to you speak so openly and honestly.

[@reclaimedtreasures5749]

This was beautiful! I believe many women need to hear this. I think CLARITY needs to be one of my words this year. May God richly bless you, Andrea! Thank you for sharing.

[@rosey4exclaim]

There's so much wisdom in this video. I truly appreciated every word you said.

[@MayflowerHomeschool]

Andrea, this video helped me so much! Thank you for sharing your heart with us all. This is something I really struggle with, and this video really made me sit and reflect what my goals are! Thank you!!

[@rose281396]

Andrea, first off thank you for sharing your insights and ideas with us. Second, you can’t spend any of your energy worrying about the negativity that will come from the small minded people who don’t realize, it is OK to be different. We all don’t have to agree on our thoughts and ideas, but we do have to respect each other. So please don’t even stop sharing your insights with us, because I truly appreciate you and your knowledge you share with us.

[@josephinasharp9202]

I watch your videos all the time:) love your spirit . Felt like you were talking to me personally. I appreciate your willingness to talk about these things because a lot of people including myself need to have real humble talks especially living in such a vain world. I feel like we are SO similar. Wish we lived closer! I’m a homeschooling mom of 9. And hope you continue your efforts. Your an AWESOME mom and wife and person!

[@anasky00]

Thank you so much for sharing this!! I've had these thoughts before but could never put them into words and "organise" them on my mind!! You are such a thoughfull, caring and spiritually deep person! As a Christian I always love your insights, thank you!

[@AK-xp1uo]

Thank you for this message four months post partum with my first born and this video really resonated with my current head space. I enjoyed listening to your fresh perspective.

[@debrahanson-garcia8043]

Andrea, I started watching as your organization skills spoke to my similar skills so was watching initially was to gain ideas from you, however ONLY God knew how you and your videos would speak volumes to me and my spirit and this video specifically as you touched on so many things that are SO real - everyday life and people. You ROCK! I would agree with one of your viewers about your writing a book and even becoming a Life Coach! Virtual even!!! I would "feel" safe sharing my heart, burdens with you as I believe you'd minister to me and so many others - you have such a sweet spirit. Thank you very much Debra

[@lynnwilson665]

Excellent, thank you for reminding me what perfection is in the eyes of the Lord. Thank you for reminding me of the priorities that are my family! You have no idea how much I needed this as a shot in the arm to get back on track with what I need to be doing as the woman of my home!💕

[@pinkfloydluna]

You have such a beautiful heart and a good outlook on life. Society places so much pressure on us and it feels so good to just let it go. Thank you for sharing your heart Andrea!

[@poppycopper1]

This video is exactly what I need, thank you it’s so helpful xxx

[@theqtippingmom]

Let the needs determine the priority! Thank you so much for this! This entire video was much needed, but those words of wisdom, I will be repeating to myself and trying hard to live it!

[@tb85963]

Loved this so much!! Whenever you do the sit down chats I’m always thinking yes, Yes, YES! Lol. You really have a way of speaking that I think many of us connect with. You are obviously a very intelligent woman. Thank you so much for sharing so much with us!

[@Blessedbears]

God love you Andrea, I just love hearing your heart. If anyone is unkind, know that you truly are doing the right thing. You are changing hearts and the ideas of some. By seeing others lives, my ideas I used to have are 180 different now and I got that way by seeing other views. I went from thinking homeschool was odd and same with large families now to (as you know) having a large Family and also homeschooling and my priorities are also very different. I know God is using you. But at the same time, do what you need to do for you as well. God has boundaries and we all need good healthy ones! (Tiffany Bayer)

[@victoriahigginbotham5210]

Very inspirational video . I will definitely have a lot to think over . And we are human we are of flesh we are not perfect. Loved the way you explained that . We focus so much of our time trying to be perfect in the wrong eyes/way . Love your videos. Hope to hear about baby hannah soon :)

[@antoniasmith2958]

This video was a hug!! Thank you!

[@cassandra5516]

I needed this today, so thankyou! I'm in need of some guidance or maybe just reassurance lately. When this video popped up it felt like a sigh of relief! - Cass Simm

[@Anne-gn6is]

Andrea, there is so much wisdom I'm what you are saying! I need to go back and take some notes and really think things through. There's just something about the way you presented the difference between inward and outward perfection that really resonated with me, and I think will help me get ahead straight about some things ;). Thank you!

[@oliviawakelin]

Absolutely love your channel!

[@omasthoughts47]

You have definitely shown that you and your hubby are raising a loving caring family. It is very refreshing to see this. I am older but my daughters are trying to do the same. Good points on weight loss and not objectifying yourself.

[@christinecortese9973]

My husband passed away in 2016 and the only and overriding concern he expressed at the end was had he hurt anyone, had he done his best and been a loving and kind person. I take these as my top priorities now. Am trying to drop some weight but for health reasons & am not obsessing about it.

[@dragonflyneb]

You are a wonderful mother and your videos show your honesty and love. God Bless you for sharing.

[@DisneyPoppinsDisney]

thank you for your thoughtful comments, experiences and suggestions. I agree balance and how to set real and meaningful goals!

[@HeatherNations]

This was really good. Thank you for sharing. I am going to need to re-watch this again when I have time to sit down and take notes! You spoke on many things that has been mulling around in my mind, but I couldn't quite bring it all in to more ordered thoughts. Your talk helped me bring it all together.

[@rueivy]

Thank you Andrea. This has come at a true time of need for me. I have just spent 6 days in hospital after havibg a breakdown. So many points you made resonated with me.

[@addienic1]

Jasmine CR Hang in there Jasmine. We all have hard times.My prayer are with you!

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

Oh, Jasmine, I'm sorry you're going through that... I'm praying for you.

[@jasminer7804]

Praying!

[@poodledaddles1091]

This video made a wonderful start to my day!

[@pjl2963]

Dear Andrea...this little chat was truly profound, and could be life changing for many! Your wisdom (for your age) is astounding. I am 56, and it has taken me much longer to come to the same conclusions in my life. I love what you said: "If it doesn't really matter, why should I care so much?" And your thoughts on waiting for happiness, when it is already right under your nose...such wisdom...such insight...God has truly gifted you. On the subject of obstacles getting in the way of our happiness, may I ask you a question? My personal obstacle to happiness is not material in nature, but my heartache over watching my adult children suffer from poor choices they have made in life. I am trying to be happy, but whenever my thoughts turn toward them, my joy fades to sorrow. I know that your precious babies are all still safely underneath your wings, but would you have any thoughts to share for the grief parents feel over lost children? The pain is like no other. I am a Christian, and will always have that joy that no one can ever take away, but sadly, I am not happy. Anything you might have to share on this subject would be greatly appreciated. My prayers are always with you for a healthy pregnancy and baby girl. I love you all, Pam

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

I haven't reached that stage of life, but I'm close with others who have and I think it's true... there isn't much greater heartache. It reminds me of Jesus when he said, "Oh, Jerusalem, Jerusalem, how I've longed to gather you together like a hen gathers her chicks, but you were unwilling." He knows the pain you feel. One of the things I meant to touch on is how easy it is to put an impossible ideal as an obstacle in our lives. My dad has struggled for years with feeling like he can’t be happy without my mom. The trouble is, she’s never coming back. Death is death. The day comes when we have to accept that this pain is always going to be there, but we can still have joy. I have moments when I miss my mom. I sometimes have a cry about it. But then I turn around and look forward to all God has for me to do. I’m not sure if that’s helpful or not; I guess the point is that sorrow and joy can co-exist. Don’t let sorrow have more than its share of your attention. Like most things in life, the only thing to do is acknowledge that we have no control and to put it in God's hands. There's a parent I know who was so adamant about turning his child around that eventually his son decided to terminate their relationship. I was very inspired by a story once of a woman who, while she didn't in any way express approval of her son's life choices, she still showed him a great deal of love. Her actions of loving him even though he knew how she felt about what he was doing eventually brought him to repentance. As long as someone is alive, there is hope. He cares for your children even more than you do and speaks to them in ways you’ll never be able to and calls to them in His time. You can trust that His will always wins out. Either God is sovereign or He is not.

[@lisamalone5988]

Thank you for this insight Andrea. This response is exactly what I needed to read today.

[@pjl2963]

With eight children "being kids," home schooling, YouTubing, cooking, cleaning...and the list goes on and on; it is a WONDER that you can think on such a deep level, Andrea! I want to add you to the great philosophers hall of fame...can we call you, "Andr-astotle?" I have never known anyone with a gift like yours! And to be using it for God's glory is even more wonderful. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to my question so graciously and sensitively, Andrea. I sought out help from a Christian counselor (one visit) a few years ago, but they were not able to offer any advice, sadly. And yet, your answer to me was so diplomatic, comprehensive and Faith based; and touched my heart on so many levels. Amazing...just amazing. As so many of your viewers have expressed in the past, I, too, wish we were neighbors, and could fellowship together in person over coffee and those famous cinnamon rolls! But God bless you for sharing so much of yourself via this channel...I can feel your love all the way out here in NH, and I send mine back to you in WY. So on those days when uploading another video is such a struggle, with everything else you need to tend to, and yet you do it; please always know that this viewer's heart always jumps for joy to see you again, and truly appreciates all the hard work and discipline it takes to film and edit, etc. May God bless you above all you could ask or think, dear friend

[@shannonscrazyhouse877]

The best thing I can tell u is God needs his workers (your kid) somewhere else your kid did what God needed them to do here I know it hurts that they are gone but they really are with u all the time a piece of them are in everyone they help or everyone they knew and loved most of all they are in your 💗 I hope this helped you so sorry for your lost

[@evem4876]

Andrea ty for all ur chats with us u are truly inspirational n wise . I feel that our life on Earth is a journey through up' s and down's having God to guide us is truly a blessing. Ty for sharing all this with us ...

[@jcbmama5016]

Thank you Andrea for this discussion! Sometimes it just takes hearing what really matters in life , to start believing it again. It's so easy to get wrapped up in the inconsequential "goals" we set for ourselves, until something happens in life that reminds us what really is of true importance. For myself, it's more relevant, that I spend quality time with my children, than having everything around us be " perfect". Because in the end we can't take perfection with us, it's the memories we leave behind that matter most.

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

Well said!

[@Tangomare]

Thank you SO MUCH for this ministry! I needed these words and they went right along with making big decisions in life right now. Subscribing. :)

[@LivingEclectic]

Another excellent video!!!! Thank you

[@kaylamoraru5793]

I appreciate you and your videos so much! I am so thankful of you and how you open your heart and home to your viewers. My husband and I recently joined a new church after leaving a heavily legalistic church. We were completely excommunicated from everyone we knew because we stood up for salvation through Christ alone instead of through works. This places me in a season of life where I'm building new relationships, but do not yet know any women personally enough to have conversations like in this video.

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

Leaving your church is _so_ difficult. Tom and I left our church right before Judah was born. It was very stressful. Many members of the church were also members of our family. In addition to being a church family, Tom and I ran the Christian school in the church so we were there 6 our of 7 days a week. It was a huge loss, but we couldn't abide any more with teachings in the church that were getting to be more and more of the focus. I cried every day for two months after we left. I totally get what you're feeling! It's so hard starting over, but I think when we do what we know is right, God blesses us and the day comes when we can't imagine ever having made a different decision. This is a new beginning!

[@kellihammond4956]

A beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing.

[@theabundantlife8541]

Loved this! Thank you Andrea 💗

[@sweetkentuckymama7710]

Needed this today.

[@lorioconnor1577]

You are such a wise and beautiful woman. Thank you for all you share with us. God Bless.

[@auntlizzy1308]

Thank you for sharing your heart. You spoke some profound words today.

[@mandivia3735]

I just love you. Like genuinely, with the Love of Christ... LOVE you. You are such a sweet, kind, human being. Every single time I watch you, I'm inspired to be a better mommy, Christian, wife ect. I can't help but feel that if more people (including myself) were like you this world would be such a better & more enjoyable place to be!!!

[@elizabethvallely4044]

Enjoy your chat or should I say words and voice of Wisdom! was thinking on the same things today! God Bless You and Your lovely family, Thank you for sharing! Hugs Liz..

[@hannahberndt4509]

I absolutely love the point you made at 3:00!

[@kathleenintex8989]

I am always inspired by your talks. I agree that your thoughts would inspire and help people. You never fail to amaze me with your insight. Please never feel shy about sharing. I often wonder how you were raised to become the you you are. I wanted to thank you for the clarity and simple peace you often bring into my life by sharing yours.....The outside is not who we are it is a vessel like a seashell. The only time I am concerned about weight ect. is if it makes me feel unhealthy. We each know our bodies. A elderly woman once told me a gentleman she knew kept marrying model type women only to find himself dismayed and alone. One day he told her I always went for the shiny bright candy box then realized it was empty. lol You my dear glow with beauty. Blessing to you as you continue to teach Gods love.

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

I have a friend who would never admit that she wants to be thin but has always been a "health nut" (I say that very lovingly) and she's stayed thin just because she excludes so many foods from her diet. One day, she discovered she was gaining a little weight and it was very distressing to her. Her husband reassured her that he _liked_ it. He said, "What would you rather snuggle with- a board or a pillow?" Good point. :)

[@peggy1046]

Thank you Andrea.

[@tribalfamily5530]

Excellent!!! Very encouraging to hear a likeminded view of this area. We are free from manmade constraints/expectations in Jesus! :)

[@leslieiannottacronin2176]

I understand what you are saying about weight. My motivation for losing some weight, since I am in my 50’s, is to keep mobile. My goal is to stay in my home. If I lose my mobility or am a fall risk, it would be harder to stay home. Just something to think about.

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

Yes, it's not the goal... it's the reason behind it that it so important to evaluate.

[@leahhenshall7077]

I am also on a path of losing weight..the reason behind.. Is health..Fibromyalgia, High Blood pressure, Huge family history of heart disease (I am just on the border of developing heart disease myself), Huge family history of diabetes..And mobility.. I don't care about my actual weight just that the risks go way down.

[@jillygirl2024]

I talk about and think about my Path to Peace - I want a life that reflects my spirituality, my desire to learn and grow, my peace, my gratitude, my love for others and The Lord I want to be financially secure and teach others to do the same I find myself removing negative situations, people from my sphere Great philosophy on weight issues, and forgiving/ allowing yourself to not be an object

[@InHimAlone]

Even when you don't feel like you have all the right words to say to express what you are thinking you manage to be so inspirational. You spoke directly to many issues that I have been working on with myself. Thank you for opening up for us, I believe God is definitely using you to pass some wisdom on to others. On another note... I know I asked if I could message you. My brain is just on overload. When I was going to write something, I started to question if I even had anything worth saying that needed me to take your time. So, I don't know if you even remember, but just in case, hopefully I will get around to it! :)

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

Feel free! If you e-mail me through my blog (andreamills.tv) I'll reply by e-mail and then I've been using those Q & A's as blog posts. (I take out any personal messages to me so it's just the actual question in the blog post.) Or you can private message me here on KZbin or on Facebook. It sometimes takes me time to get to messages, but I do eventually!

[@tracyspadidi8574]

Loved this talk so true 😘

[@tinat702]

Another great video! I love all of your videos and would love to see a few Bible study videos. Jesus teaches us not to judge one another because it's not our job. So I think the majority of the comments are very positive, and maybe some of the negative ones are from their personal weaknesses. I love that you are still going forward with these videos!

[@freelandtr]

Thank you for sharing!

[@goode2shuz1]

I so understand what you are saying. My #1 goal for many years was to lose weight. I tried and tried and tried and always failed. I finally decided I was never going to look like that 20 year old again and to be happy with the way I am today. As long as I am healthy, the number on the scale is irrelevant. That was a big burden lifted from my shoulders and caused me to lose 10 lbs. without even trying. I think maybe that 10 lbs. was a lot of stress I put on myself lol. Another problem I had when I was younger was wanting to always wear the latest clothing style, jewelry style or hairdo style, but I didn't really have the money to do so. I finally realized I needed to be more concerned with my spiritual well-being than my physical. I enjoy this scripture at 1 Peter 3:3-4: "Do not let your adorning be external-the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear-but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious." God doesn't care what our physical appearance may be; he always looks at our inward appearance, and that is what I should be striving to achieve. Thank you for a most enjoyable chat today. Carla

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

So true! I Samuel 16:7, "Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart."

[@laceygriffith23]

Great video!

[@hettydejong9635]

Oh how i love KZbin. The way i can Connect with people around the world. To see how they live, there train of thought. I realy realy love your video’s. In such different world, i can feel connected. Thank you for making video’s i’m so sorry that my Englisch is not good enough, to say everything i want to say.

[@TheMillsFamilyVlog]

You said it just right!

[@shannonscrazyhouse877]

My goal is the same every year keep my kids happy healthy and loved