Classic Divorce Court- Jacobs Vs. Alsup: Control Freak

[@faithsexhubby7422]

He left when she's four months pregnant, the relationship should stop there.. 🤷🤷

[@alexwk9830]

Wrong! She was doing everything to avoid, and belittle the man. Maybe she was disappointed he didn't join the NFL.

[@tmston2]

exactly! no matter wut she did, a mature person would jus say “hey this ain’t working, im leaving & not coming back, here is were im going and here is my contact infi for child support, takecare”

[@cesardingle1567]

tmston2 Why should the woman always seek child support? How about 50/50 custody and no child support involved? Gold diggers always seeking child support. Nothing wrong with splitting custody.

[@divineapology818]

Nope. The relationship should've ended when she realized he had no job and no place to stay.

[@andradavis7201]

agreed he left without a trace i would have went on without him and get him for child support

[@HaightTheGreat]

He thought she was a responsible person who had their life together. That has nothing to do with her stuff. I believe she was pissed he didn't make it to the NFL.

[@DW-ml2es]

Totally agree....judge got it wrong here.

[@charlesanderson1422]

Dirk Whatley AGREE

[@alexwk9830]

Agreed

[@HaightTheGreat]

@Htotha Hizzie who leaves someone? Ever been in a bad relationship? He's the only one working but he's a bad influence. And taking the kids against their father is a disgusting thing to do when the man isn't abusive to them.

[@creamekay]

I’m be mad too 😂

[@Mrsbook19]

How many of you know that if he wasn't training for the NFL, that her parents would not have let him stay there for 3 months....with no job, or even with one for that matter!!!!!!!!!!!

[@charlesanderson1422]

Gerome Wright 100%

[@frederickfitzwilliam5909]

They wanted that golden ticket

[@cordiff]

She thought she was gonna get lucky ..trophy athlete wife.

[@user-ww8bw1qc9f]

Okay... Agreed looking for the come up

[@mauricesutton1906]

Yeah, even for a player that rides the bench- that’s good money!!! 💰

[@ANGEL-sm1hw]

We love Judge Lynn Toler.

[@yayafatty7627]

I love you to from Africa judge faith

[@spimentel562]

She's my long lost mum😘

[@swavyfn7046]

WE LOVE JUDGE JUDY 👩‍⚖️🥰🔥

[@risingsun82]

Yes we do🇿🇦

[@andaviabirch7460]

I love your shows judge lynn ❤️💯

[@rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324]

I am not convinced they ever loved each other.

[@wordplay1415]

Poor babies

[@reyfin4922]

He was a dear in head lights coming from the hood and she was depressed and desperate for love and took it in any way shape or form.

[@lattybrown7056]

In the relationship for the wrong reasons

[@jaynecampbell4396]

My vibe, too!

[@alleyahe1]

I get what he’s saying I want someone who’s head is on straight and has there stuff together, not to live off them but so I don’t have to build him up while I’m reaching my goals. Someone being on there stuff is definitely a nice detail

[@c.l.e.1943]

I feel like that's exactly what he was saying! And being from a place where you don't see it often it can leave you awestruck... Besides that he was literally 18 years old.

[@mmmm-tr1qo]

People definitely just need to learn how to communicate

[@toginfinity8418]

@@c.l.e.1943 It seems that the judge didn't quite understand what he was saying.

[@c.l.e.1943]

@@toginfinity8418 you're right. She didn't get it. Which is too bad cause it painted him immediately as a user.

[@toginfinity8418]

@@c.l.e.1943 Well that's life.🤷‍♂️

[@sharongantt1848]

This is what you get when you choose a person for the wrong reasons.

[@marierevis1351]

Both are the same

[@jazmine16675]

same thing I was thinking. thats what they both get.

[@trfaison]

I think he was trying to say he was attracted to her because he was respected what she had established for herself, or how it appeared initially from the outside.

[@PiscesPrincess87]

That’s exactly what he’s saying, it was false Advertisement. She looked like a independent woman that knew where her life was going. However, when he pulled back the layers she had nothing going on.

[@janellepilgrim3046]

Spot on!!!! the judge was wrong on this one- she had a white is rich moment🤣😂🤣😂 and thought he was using her for her money

[@DrTLKillens]

He thought her head was on straight

[@RebeccaVirgo]

💯💯💯 I was saying nooo judge that’s not what he means lol

[@sharnelleturner5481]

No she got it right. You are not supposed to get with someone solely because they look stable. He got stuck on stable and was disappointed to find out that wasn't the case. It's still gold digging and it's still wrong. The same way she thought he was going to the NFL was the same reason she held on and had babies. They both are hurt about him not making it. He is trying to prove he can still take care of her, but he is frustrated that she is not pulling her weight. He thought he had a stable individual and he is angry he doesn't. And she thought she was going to have a better life financially and she doesn't so she depressed.

[@MellowAmbiance]

This relationship was probably a failure from the beginning. He was almost 10 yrs her junior and in his late teens so what does a woman who’s almost 30 and with a child expect from him??? She knew he was chasing an NFL dream and was probably trying to ride it out and see if he popped. Being that he’s a regular guy now there’s a lot of resentment bc she’s almost 40 and not where she wanted to be. I would’ve not stopped working 100% and made sure I was able to pull some pocket change in and on birth control everyday. Time and patience is key. Get to really know someone inside and out.

[@user-ww8bw1qc9f]

Yes she thought "if I keep him and he makes it I'll be set and taking care of and she doesn't have to do anything else if she got them kids even if he leave she gonna still be getting a check

[@kcelenemkrishnan7778]

I'm sure the judge knew that, but didn't want to expose it on air.

[@Commentraider3]

Spot on 🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@misslauren6798]

Judge called it!! She's lazy and he's got an attitude issue!!

[@Unkunc]

Your significant other must abuse you too. God bless u hope u can get help, you watch this & your comment is she’s lazy w/ an attitude geeezzz

[@misslauren6798]

@@Unkunc You might need to learn how to read...Read it again...it says *HE'S* got an attitude issue...But I guess your too busy trying to read what's not there based on that baseless comment about somebody supposedly abusing me...🙄

[@Unkunc]

Good morning lol

[@groovyli4502]

@@misslauren6798 you said "she" so lol

[@bla8545]

His attitude is because she is lazy and nasty.

[@DayDesiree]

I think he was saying her STABILITY intrigued him the fact that she looked like she had everything handled and together.

[@1980tiffani]

She missed the point completely.

[@GenX975]

She reacted without trying to understand him ...

[@bla8545]

I agree. So right.

[@jaynecampbell4396]

Good point! I think that is probably exactly right

[@PiscesPrincess87]

Judge Toler over reacted when he say “she had her stuff together”. He meant she looked like she had things in order. He was talking about her life not her material things. I’m not sure why that went over her head.

[@mauricesenior7860]

I think because he kept saying stuff, and when he tried to explain himself she cut him off. But he went on to say she didn't have stiff together her parents did. I kinda read into both ways. So I do understand your point. Judge Toler did gave good reasoning in end. They both or disappointed in each other for whatever reasons.

[@thebalance871]

He needs to control his emotions. Cloths left in the washer isn't good. She is lazy. Yeah, she thought he was a financial ticket because he was going to be a football star.

[@jaliyahmonique7350]

He didn’t want her for her material possessions, he wanted her because from the outside looking in it appeared that she had stability.

[@veebee4566]

I think the judge didn’t get his point clearly but he could’ve worded it better

[@ShannonSOS]

I agree I think he meant to express he admired her ambitions and saw she was a go getter this caused him to be attracted to her.

[@PiscesPrincess87]

Exactly I’m not sure why his point went over the judge head.

[@PiscesPrincess87]

Behind the Veil No it’s not the same as a come up.

[@mauricesutton1906]

I got it from the jump. He said, “she seemed to have her stuff together “- I think he meant she had a level head & priorities together. He wasn’t talking about her possessions! She jumped on him & beat him like he stole something!🥴

[@thejourneywithin7894]

The judge not getting what he’s saying I understand him completely he was attracted to the fact she had it all together taking care of things on her own... but yea I also feel she saw a golden ticket with the NFL 🙄

[@randomperson7721]

Yeah that’s what I was thinking.

[@Tropophobia]

I agree I think he rubbed the judge the wrong way by bringing up her dad. But didn’t bat an eye at the girl trying to bag an “NFL” player and the man said he was into her stability.

[@mimosa.pw2ij]

Exactly, she misunderstood him

[@barbaraking313]

They go after these men's looking for a meal ticket then when the guy don't make it they don't want them she thought he was going to the NFL.

[@samoyamiller8558]

Exactly my point

[@yolanivyolani7201]

I love how judge Lynn put boundaries on talking about her family 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@troy028]

Doesn't everyone even if they wrong to defend it?

[@rawlsbaptiste3255]

He wasn't talking about her family,he was giving an example.

[@spieldose]

I watch you every single day. You give my husband and I therapy every time you tell these couples what’s what! 💕

[@jccanteen]

You have to question if some of his frustration and aggression came from not making it in the NFL. He thought he was latching on to the White dream plus going pro, and neither turned out to be true 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@lesliejohnson-nelson4003]

White dream?

[@dannymollison6901]

White dream! What about the Hilly Billy's. She was grabbing on to an NFL hopeful. She's mad he didn't make. Her dream of being a NFL player wife got messed up. Groupie dream! He made a mistake. She's lazy & messy.

[@ladeammamcmoore7148]

Agree

[@kimberlyrussell3111]

@Jaye Cann You nailed it!!

[@angelinajenkins2853]

He's too aggressive for her. Maybe she has some underlying issues that he is too aggressive to help her with.

[@hd86star]

I think what he was trying to say was that she gave the aura of independence when they first got together, only to find out that the parent were footing her bills

[@BrokeTruckerGyal]

These are literally old hurts and issues resurfacing but homeboy does have anger issues. Judge Toler handled this masterfully.

[@crystalkimble7018]

He angry because he feels like he was tricked and bamboozled...I've been there before and it really pisses you off to the point of anger

[@Nolypr_Gaming]

If a man talked to me like that everyday after asking me to be a stay home mom, I pack my bags and leave with my kids. Idc where but he aint seen us again. He is very intimidating.

[@ZhenMitch]

That you. But she agreed with it and most women only wants to be a stay at home mom...

[@vickyandersen8660]

The way he talks to her is disrespectful but I myself love being a stay at home mom. The only time I can’t keep up is when I’m pregnant. I’m on my 4th & my husband is very understanding and helpful

[@maesams6212]

Live in that household, then speak! She wasnt pulling her weight. At home, and NOT doing her part......not good!

[@destinylong6134]

monk sir most women, especially in this day and age do not want to be stay at home wives lol

[@Nolypr_Gaming]

@@vickyandersen8660 I am a mom of 4 and is very chaotic sometimes and I never gotten a complain or request about starting to do chores. And I had gone a full week just resting. She probably is scare of him too.

[@dianewilliams3740]

They both had hidden agendas for the relationship . He thought she had money 💴 and she was looking for a meal ticket if he would’ve gone pro football 🏈

[@TheIntrovert83]

They both played each other lmao

[@eigna8914]

😂😂😂😂That makes no sense. She was a meal ticket but he brought her to his city to be an at home mom? He wasnt going to be a football nothing. Please stop

[@1441oabbate]

He missed the birth of his child? Really? Put her aside for a minute, THATS YOUR SON! Wow....

[@queshebalittle6023]

He didn't missed the birth he missed 4 months of the pregnancy.

[@ZhenMitch]

U missed the whole point....

[@dannistarr2178]

Quesheba Little They said he was gone from when she was 4 months pregnant and he didn’t show back up until the day after the baby was born-so he missed the birth.

[@queshebalittle6023]

@@dannistarr2178 O 👌

[@davidsoncharles2085]

I don't think the judge understood what he said when he mentioned he was intrigued my her having things together. It's like an attraction to some men but it does not mean he is coming to take away what you have. It motivates him to be with her and be better.

[@lovinglife7317]

That what I took from what he said. I always tell my girls date someone that have a lot to lose, plain and simple. And nothing wrong with him wanting someone that have their stuff together.

[@bnchangd7793]

Who wants someone that don't have it together. He thought she was some stability and was going to be a good partner. I dont think he was trying to use her, that's not what I took from him. He said she didn't have money but the partnership. I love love love judge Toler but I think she handled him wrong. And the daddy thing was too much from her.

[@queshebalittle6023]

I live in Ohio and i understand wat he's saying cause alot of older ppl don't have their selves together and wen u think u found that person and they really not it's a disaster.

[@ANGEL-sm1hw]

Dating a single parent isn't right for everyone and it isn't something to enter into lightly. No matter how much chemistry you share or how much you value your relationship, there will be times when the kids interrupt, take precedence over your relationship, and require the devoted attention of their parents.

[@mskandee2165]

That is why I refuse to date anyone who has kids......

[@SparDanger]

My son will always come before any partner, and I'm not sorry.

[@lavernmoses5022]

I love me some Lynn Toler not only beautiful but very intelligent

[@lesliejohnson-nelson4003]

@@SparDanger okay so don't go out expecting men to want you

[@SparDanger]

@@lesliejohnson-nelson4003 That's fine. I don't want anyone else either. :)

[@preciouswoodard]

So am I the only one that understood what he was trying to say??I mean I agree...maybe it was his wording🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Rah2005]

The last 3 minutes is the type of affirmation EVERYONE needs daily. It's such a beautiful skill to see beyond the surface and Judge Lynn does it with such ease.

[@maesams6212]

Lyn Toler dont get so personal/offended about the "father" comment. Why'd U have to throw that "Harvard" comment in there- nobody cares about about that! What the guy is saying is that he thought she had her ducks in a row: meaning organized, independent, ambitious etc. He wasnt using her for $. Don't change his wordings around!!

[@jozannejoseph7491]

It's sad that he wasn't able to explain himself better on this point to convey what he meant...I'm also surprised that Judge Lynn didn't understand that he meant more organized & that it wasn't about money when he kept saying "he thought she had her stuff together"...oh well, hope they made it through. Hope y'all married ppl making it through too...praying for y'all!!!

[@microsnail2761]

Yeah. I got what he was saying. I felt like his words were twisted around there. I thought he explained it well enough. That point that is.

[@llel1416]

Yes his word were a bit twisted but he is the one who brought up her father in the first place so she has the right to get personal and offended about it imo. Also she's always a bit upset when it cames to him so it didn't surprise me. The Harvard comment didn't bother me either , she said her father told her to go there and that's it. I also got the feeling he was talking about the fact that she had money but tried to talk around it but I'm not sure either way.

[@shannonreed3596]

@@jozannejoseph7491 Right. He mentioned that his upbringing was in a community where ownership was difficult. His lack of exposure likely caused him to easily believe that material wealth implies certain habits and character traits since he was young, naive, and uncritical in his understanding of people, money, and structural issues in society. Judge Toler was so triggered by his reference to her father that she failed to overlook his imprecise use of language in conveying his perception. She usually does far better than this, but her privilege got in her way, making her arrogant and insensitive in that instance.

[@deeg6883]

I understood exactly what he was saying and I don’t think it had anything to do with gold digging. What I got from the father reference was to date someone who is established and brings something to the table it had nothing to do with gold digging. The privileged will never understand certain things.

[@purepsyc]

@15:53 he went after her for her stability. He is using the wrong words to describe the situation. I don’t think he was gold digging or looking for a break. The judge got that assumption incorrect based on how he was explaining the initial attraction.

[@omardatheyusfyusf3686]

Yusuf Yusuf Yusu fYUSF

[@buffymuffintopz8994]

This is toxic they can both do better.

[@fo7743]

When two people enter a relationship for the wrong reasons, such as what they can get from the other person, this is what happens...

[@nhiocazafar7870]

He would not put up with that if she were black !!!!! PERIOD!!!!!!!

[@sheilae.9670]

So true

[@TheIntrovert83]

He was looking for a subservient snowbunny that cooked and cleaned and kept her mouth shut but he got something else..

[@hustle100]

Right, I dont feel sorry for this cat!

[@chrisbriscoe7138]

So tired of these comments.

[@derrikacruickshank5782]

Exactly she wanted a NFL player he wanted a white women trophy they thought it was a match made in heaven.

[@lindajohnson1774]

I watch faithfully, love her , she gets to the point and tell it like it is.. I've learned a lot from her myself.

[@haleywilliams7653]

I don't understand why people are acting like she's a gold digger she barely even talked about him going to the nfl like did I miss something...

[@markydan1232]

Because according to him 6 years into the relationship she started treating him like nothing.

[@afroatheist-isnowafroantit6154]

He thought his prize was gonna be perfect........😂🤣

[@hangtyme765]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@sweetlady3651]

Becky thought he was gonna be big time but now he he ain't she wanna bounce

[@tarap5618]

Petition to bring back Judge Toler!!! And to have DC back in a courtroom setting.

[@seunenny2392]

I have a three years old and a 2 months old , it feels like I don’t do a thing but I do it all from am to pm

[@watsonar70]

th1smomentisfate I think that her depression stems from the fact that he’s not wealthy enough for her and her family! She can’t live the life that she feels she’s entitled to due to White privilege! She and her parents were drooling over the prospect of him making it to the NFL. My brother played big time b-ball back in the 80’s and had a slew of women who thought he was going to the NBA. When that didn’t happen, them hoes fell by the wayside. He thought she was well off money wise but soon found out their were average working people!! Don’t feel sorry for her at all.

[@raygentravis3269]

Why do women use the excuse of kids for not getting the stuff done? I mean don't have kids but lil Suzi and Johnny take naps, clean then, or when their busy playing in a room clean the house.

[@feliciahepburn2854]

Idk who Suzi and Johnny are but my kids sure the hell did not take naps every day. Get you some kids for about 3 mos then come back and say that.

[@t.c.5456]

@@feliciahepburn2854 yesssss. Tell em honey

[@spimentel562]

yep yep

[@peachycalmable]

I’m really glad Becky took the L for black women

[@InLoveWithaPaladin]

Right!! I love these dysfunctional WW/BM relationships 😁

[@watsonar70]

Audri NaturallyMe 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I thought I was only one who felt that way! LOL That’s exactly what they get for believing the racist narrative about race and specific behavioral traits.

[@Mars4shortt]

Y’all so hateful lol crazy

[@yvonneb8736]

I am thankful to my parents and other family members for encouraging my siblings and i to focus on our education so we all canbe independent and that is what we did. Teachers, nurses, accountants, cook thats what our education turn us out to be

[@lovemii3kids]

This is why as women or men never leave a job. You need to make sure you have some sort of income. Sir those are you children take them to their sports practices. This women is sinking in depression bc of this man. I'm sorry but his demeanor is not nice. 10 yrs and children will not hold you together

[@maribethmillare208]

I love you Judge Toler. You are very wise logical person. ❤ thank you.

[@ernestinespady8739]

He's so angry at the end such that he won't even look in her direction. He's mean.

[@nurserocky6159]

This husband would drive me crazy! He's a hot mess and I can foresee him hitting her in the future. She may be depressed not working and I'm sure he doesn't help by putting it in her face that he the one making all the money. It takes a bit to get use to being a house wife to get that rhythm. However, don't complain that cloths are not washed when you want them done at 4 am! You want them done that early or late then help with the kids when your home or help do them. Somewhere she has to sleep, go to school AND be a full time parent. My parents worked it out where my mom worked part time and times she didn't work. It my dad worked two or three jobs and when he came home he did all the hard work with us kids and even came into the house to help clean on his time off. My mom technically worked 24/7 but so did my dad. You have to make sure it equals at the end. It's not who makes the income or the most I come.

[@myshanamakisi6063]

When you think the grass is greener, on the other side....😂😂😂😂☠

[@guantanamara4879]

I have no comments, I don't side anyone.✌✌

[@omardatheyusfyusf3686]

Yusuf yusf Yusuf yusf Yusuf Yusuf Yusu fYUSF

[@nettc7957]

This is probably one episode that My judge lynn got wrong. He wasn't saying anything negative about her father he was speaking in general. And i believe she and her parents only allowed him there because they thought he was gone be professional ball. He was well mannered. I think we really have to listen to both. By the car incident she need to talk to someone

[@MellowAmbiance]

This woman to me comes off as being a bit entitled and possibly spoiled. He was expecting a mate who had her life together especially bc she was already a mom and way older than him. He admired her for that. However in reality her life was a cluster fuck and her parents helped her a lot. I don't think he was able to really articulate correctly his feelings and everything just came out as anger.

[@watsonar70]

Mellow Ambiance Exactly! He was blinded by the money and outside appearances because he grew up poor. In his mind, his only ticket out of the hood was football. He’s not formally educated and Becky and Judge Toler don’t speak hood! That’s why he’s frustrated trying to explain hisself and his thoughts. He needs to bounce and find his around the way girl!

[@neesieb6772]

So they've been together since 16 and 24. WOW! That was a no go to begin with.

[@SusieQ156]

Strongest Current in the Hebrew Seas - think it was 18 - but either way - that was not right a 24 year old with a teenager- inappropriate !

[@cjohns1005]

I get his point about her having her STUFF together.

[@ZhenMitch]

Facts

[@destinylong6134]

We all do just like women want men to have their STUFF in order but are called gold diggers. They both were using each other to an extent. I think it's time for them to separate but think they are both good people but not good for each other.

[@cjohns1005]

@@destinylong6134 naw...ur wrong

[@cjohns1005]

@@destinylong6134 at no point was he using her for what she CLAIMED to have. She was off-campus booty basically

[@destinylong6134]

@@cjohns1005 how so? Lol I get it he wanted her to have her stuff together because he was young with no job but going to school and wanted her to have her "stuff" together lol I ain't mad at it because women do it too so yeah. Not saying he is a bad guy but we got to call it for what it was lol

[@naudiamilan]

3:17 that was such a breath of fresh air i had to rewind it a few times 😩😭

[@guantanamara4879]

What's up Judge Lynn Toler..

[@darrellsadler2848]

Just like the rest of 'em, she thought she had hit the JACKPOT!

[@Iwish387]

16:48 the lady in the black blouse behind him when judge Lynn mentioned about the Football ride haahhh.😅😂😄

[@JazzyJeffRealTalk]

They both wrong. She making excuses and is lazy, and he thinks paying bills is the only thing he needs to do as a man. You got to be there emotionally and mentally for your woman. Make her feel good about herself. In return she would give him more.

[@Cheesecurljones]

Everyone knows , you better NOT talk about the judge daddy , don’t use him in no example 💁🏾‍♀️😂😂

[@marciabowers55]

No husbands or boyfriends should control their ladies wives... Move out befor it gets worse..

[@levelsuponlevels]

A man is a leader in the family, its not control.

[@willamaecunningham6593]

Judge Lynn you are awesome I am your fan from the Bahamas.

[@lorimcbrayer8431]

Women should be strong and independent with or without a man. They need to have their OWN money PERIOD!!!!

[@feliciahepburn2854]

He don’t even want her. And she knows it but doesn’t think she can do better.

[@ZhenMitch]

Then why would he invite her to move to his house....u trippin

[@susannecarolinehoff7847]

This Judge never judge anyone! Love her!!... she understand, she is mature and point on things but she never get irritadet or "angry"..

[@enigma2845]

She was looking for a meal ticket, he gave her promises he couldn't keep.

[@julika1984]

This guy is so angry i bet He probably beat her before damn toxic relationship

[@ashadesuza4237]

omg I thought the same thing....dude looks like he has a mad temper

[@bronxkid2348]

What he thought he saw in her is the very same thing that women "check boxes" for when they are looking for a man, so I TOTALLY understand where he is coming from.

[@akeembigshak1764]

A black man won't be like that with a black woman

[@ZhenMitch]

Then u never seen this show lbvs

[@tm1464]

"Some" Black Women......

[@thebalance871]

yes your wrong

[@Iwish387]

Okkkeeuuurrrr 🤦🏿‍♀️🙄🙄🙄

[@Daughter.of.TMH.YAH23]

Girl bye! My mom had 6 kids, her and my dad worked full time, she cooked almost every day, cleaned, (we all cleaned when older so she didn’t have to) took care of 3 dogs and still never left clothes in the washer for 2 days. I do think if she’s depressed tho it could make her more tired and just not have the energy to do it. He probably makes her feel like shit with the way he talks to her. Paying all the bills doesn’t automatically make you a good husband. You expected out of her what your mother did and she wasn’t raised like your mother. You have to be willing to accept her if you want her or move on and find someone with the characteristics you want in a wife and vice versa.

[@levelsuponlevels]

Excatly!!!

[@TheBeatyLife]

I wish they would bring judge Lynn back

[@theolamarshall-bernard]

This guy is loud, aggressive and low key abusive with the potential to be physically abusive.

[@audreycollins2676]

I'm annoyed with this couple already😵😵😵

[@emahniChannel]

I don’t like him. She needs to leave him alone. His voice ..,alone….is annoying

[@alexwk9830]

Judge Toler is the most brilliant, conscientious, and level headed judge I've ever heard. Miss Jacob's wanted to live a life of luxury, being the wife of a pro footballer. Alsup is a rationale person.

[@lajunecrockett2381]

I hate to hear people say the house not clean because of the small children...I had 2 boys my house was clean,I made my clothes and my boys clothes sometimes,, when my husband got home the food was cooked and I was looking like a movie Star...later I had a daughter and I stilled maintained a beautiful home ...and with more modern appliances I just don't understand today's wives and I worked

[@tasbar7743]

Judge hates when these women say it as well

[@gwenettethacker9533]

Her behaviour screams "Becky!!! I am a Becky, a gold digging Becky!!!"

[@Sena-qw4nh]

it makes sense..when you see someone who has a job, a career it is indeed appealing to the other person..

[@crystalkimble7018]

I agree...just like women want men to have their life in order....men want women to have theirs in order too...I ain't mad at dude at all

[@brittanyhawkins960]

He seems verbally abusive and seems like a gaslighter

[@salenachannel769]

I had no idea where she was going to go with these two. They just had everything wrong. She did great

[@Bebedollie]

Scrolling through the comments I see a few referring to the color of her skin. That's so wrong. It's got nothing to do with her being white. Stop being racist it's so rude and unattractive.

[@CarolineAnandSiddiqui]

yes

[@Bubbles-fw2ps]

Take out a life Insurance for your children ! so if you go they are taken care of. Make a will !

[@sandrarice2069]

He's a jerk! He's hot-headed! He doesn't appreciate his wife. If I were her, I wouldn't put up with his nonsense. She needs to bolt.

[@levelsuponlevels]

You sound like a single Sister 😂🤣

[@wendycaesar4949]

She's lazy ...don't know why some women see taking care of their children and home such a burden .

[@andrewdougherty179]

because each child and home is different

[@Ebizzill]

postpartum depression ?

[@Delton96]

Seriously, these women’s coping skills are simply weak.

[@yldzlargibi6960]

the father is also responsible about home and kids

[@SparDanger]

@@Ebizzill That's what it was for me. Some people are just too ignorant to even come to that conclusion. Which is sad as hell. I did get help though and am doing a lot better, in case anyone asks or even cares.

[@Bear4196]

He was showing just a little of how angry he could get. I think she was scared and intimidated by him. A real man does not leave a pregnant wife......just sayin'.

[@SparDanger]

"A real man does not leave a pregnant wife." THIS!

[@soulflowerpeace9236]

Dude has some valid points....no man doesn't want a woman that don't have her stuff together...just like a woman doesn't

[@jenesegarnett39]

Black men need to be with their own kind and stop from running down these Becky type to tell the true they don't really make you happy have you ever see the movie get out that's should be a lesson for all black men .

[@astrology4u]

She resents him turning out to be a regular guy and not in the NFL. He resents the fact that she resents him, for ending up being a regular guy. He wasn’t trying to use her, I understand exactly what he meant. He was attracted to, what he thought was ambition, for her to only turn out to be a woman that was looking for him to be her (as he said) golden ticket. Now she is angry and depressed all the time because her life with him ended not being what she was banking on and I literally mean banking. That’s the real reason why she won’t clean up or wash clothes during peak hours. She is resentful that they can’t afford to wash whenever they want to and she mad that they can’t hire a maid as she had banked on…. Sad there is children involved.

[@TheIntrovert83]

He was looking for a subservient snowbunny that cooked and cleaned and kept her mouth shut but he got something else..

[@Neenaross214]

Sounds like she was subservient but lazy as hell. He wasn’t willing to live dirty. I don’t blame him. Living dirty and messy is deal breaker !

[@feliciahepburn2854]

She has hidden hurts but I gotta question. He said he was in AZ because of her but he had her come to Phoenix... how?

[@ZhenMitch]

Bc he wanted her to move with him bc she had a weak job and he said in the beginning he would take care of her

[@keyeviondavis9647]

Arizona is a state that Phoenix is in so maybe her family lives within another city in Arizona

[@feliciahepburn2854]

A Paige Of A Shaolin monk but the weak job, was that because he said so or because she did? Because she said it wasn’t. And taking care of her isn’t just financial.

[@feliciahepburn2854]

Francoeur La thank you! Okay that’s the word I was looking for.

[@feliciahepburn2854]

Keyevion Davis yeah I didn’t hear her say that at all. I agree w passive aggressive. He wanted what he wanted but didn’t clarify what he wanted and then tore her down.

[@kobiegibson4406]

I'm glad they call her on football ticket she was going for the ride

[@Iwish387]

She looks good for 36... let’s give her that! She’s beautiful too!

[@afroatheist-isnowafroantit6154]

Where? She looks almost 50.

[@afroatheist-isnowafroantit6154]

@th1smomentisfate If it's true.....🤔

[@gripshownuff]

Wow she doesn’t have the typical white chick with a black guy hairstyle or even talk like some usually do, she has that I’m beaten down hair style

[@Mrsbook19]

Lol!!!!!!!!!! Right. Where is the bob!!??

[@MyGoodenessGracious]

He thght he might make it big & ddnt want sombdy who he thght was gonna use him because of his position. He doesnt express well but I knw wht he was tryna say. She & her family thght he was gone be a star PERIOD.

[@sya286]

Yikes, he's a jerk. She's lazy, but he is beating her UP with it. Just leave man.

[@ChasRiaStJohn]

I did school with house and kid. It’s INCREDIBLY hard. I was always tired. I didn’t work and still needed my husband’s help. Cleaning the house, laundry, groceries, caring for the animals, baby, and the school work 24-7!!! It doesn’t stop. No time off, no getting off and “going home”. Its nonstop. And what it seems like is that the men think just bc the woman doesn’t have an employment and they stay home they can do everything and getting tired or needing a break doesn’t exist. Like we sleep all day. I have NEVER had such a lack of sleep in my life as a homemaker.

[@toledia7]

This guy is a monster. Run girl

[@jbijouphoto9397]

Guy wants a chef and a maid..."1-800-Merry-Maids"

[@PaulanCollins7585]

Thank you judge..ToLer! You have given couples who is Listening to you great advice.. a counselor count have done a better.. .

[@yvonneb8736]

Never give up your job whether its dead end or not. U can be independent to some extent and dont have to be beholding to no one.

[@feliciahepburn2854]

She looks like a heavyset Reese Witherspoon

[@DanielCharlesNaijaenterNews]

I think he is misunderstood. He is saying she looks as if she has her life put together. That is not good digging. It a simple terms for Organized and knew what she wanted. That was his views.. that isnt gold digging. The guy is digging his own grave with his choice of words. I think he is probably the victim not the woman